Unfair child support laws
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Aug 13th, 2016Someone from Mount Holly, NJ writes:
I have been proven not to be the father of a girl which will be 19 on 9/11/16. Found out 14 years ago. Her 18 yr old brother is mine. But since u found out she wasn't mine I have been withheld from seeing my son. Yet the camden county new jersey child support unit don't wanna face the fact of reality that child is not mine. The mother gave her mom custody. Her mom was getting money through probation against me for my son and the biological father for my sons sister. Yet my bm was getting welfare for both children without rights and charging me for both kids. N.J court system is not fair at all. $588.00 a month for both children and $50.00 in arrears. I go to court to stop support due to my son turning 18 and his mom claims college. Courts denied my request. Yet he still hasn't enrolled for collage and courts don't care. Say pay till he is 21. Tell them his sister ain't mine and proved it 14 yes ago. 5here say well pay for her till she looks like you. So much for taxes that we pay for this corrupt system called child support. I agree 100% to having to provide for your child. But no court needsystem to make a judgement on those who care and try. Something has to give. Alls the system is about is money. They can care less if the child gets fed or not. If support money goes to child or for the parent to go pay for Thier wants instead of the child's needs. We have to fight the system. -
Aug 12th, 2016Someone from Las Cruces, NM signed.
Aug 12th, 2016Someone from Denison, TX signed.
Aug 12th, 2016Someone from Alhambra, CA writes:
I just started this nightmare of child support on my end, smh. nothing good has come out of it. I'm hoping that things will change, reading the stories on here just have me like wow! something needs to be done, cannot live like this it is not healthy all around, don't need the added stress, I get that a lot from baby mama.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 12th, 2016Someone from Pompano Beach, FL signed.
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Aug 12th, 2016Someone from Easthampton, MA writes:
I don't understand why men get so screwed over with Child support. They support their children when they see them they get them things they need yet court wants to take more then half their paychecks so they can barley live.? seriously! the system is a joke the court house is just ruled by women this is so horrible how things go. I am a women and i have two children and you know what I DON'T bring their father to court for child support because of the system and i know what they would say he would have to give me and then he would suffer and not be able to do anything with his kids. So i take what i can get when he hands me money. THIS SYSTEM IS A JOKE EVERYONE WHO WORKS FOR THE CHILD SUPPORT DEPARTMENT SHOULD BE VERY VERY ASHAMED OF THEMSELVES!! YOU PEOPLE MAKE ME SICK! giving women everything they want! Not all men a scums some work so hard and always have to work overtime just so they can pay bills and give the mother the RIDICULOUS AMOUNT OF MONEY THAT I SWEAR YOU JUST PULL A NUMBER OUT OF YOUR A**. "oh lets see your a guy so how can we screw you over today" MAKES ME SICK!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 12th, 2016Someone from Middletown, DE signed.
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Aug 12th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 12th, 2016Someone from Hudson, FL writes:
Been dealing with child support for the past 16 years, the mother left the children on our doorstep one wasn't even mine and I still took care of her like she was mine, the mother didn't call write, we didn't hear from her for months, then all of a sudden she shows up, say's can I take them to the park, I say sure have them home by dark! Next day BAM cops show up and issue me a child support order, she must have been planning it for a while! Took the kids and never let me see them again, I fought everyday to see my kids, NO HELP! 16 years later the kids are grown married and have there own children and husbands and guess who's still fighting to keep out of jail while taking care of my disabled wife of 16 years, ME!!! So not only does the ex- get my money, she also gets her Husbands money and has a double paycheck without having to lift a finger and guess who has to pay twice, Me one to the Druggy ex and one to my current wife. Child support is completely unfair! I work for my money and I have to take a drug test to get it, then maybe the crack head ex needs to take a drug test to get child support. Half the time they lived some where's else, I went to court so many times to get my kids and all they did was feel sorry for her, 4 times she had DSS called on her from her own family! Kids are 25 yrs old and now living with me and I'm still having to pay!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 12th, 2016Someone from Arlington, TX signed.
Aug 11th, 2016Someone from Eustis, FL writes:
My fiancƩ pays $1725 a month for child support and is left with $271.00 a week and works His butt off. How in the world are we supposed to live on that? The one ex wife doesn't even work. I think this needs to be reviewed to be more equal for both parents to take care of the kids so both parents can survive!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 11th, 2016Someone from Atlanta, NY writes:
The non custodial parent should not have to provide for both households. Paying so much for child support to ex. Then trying to afford a place for the kids when you have them along with clothes, food and things to do. And pay for medical insurance, half the co-pays and half the babysitters cost. Now what is it that the custodial parent pays for?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 11th, 2016Someone from Fort Lauderdale, FL signed.
Aug 11th, 2016Someone from Cary, NC writes:
My son is 13 and I have five years left. My ex left and moved back home after his first birthday. I did the right thing by going down and voluntary my information so she could have money to take care of my son. I was 26 yrs old at the time. They gave me a surprising $750 a month present. It caused me to move two hours away so I could find steady work, I've been homeless, and eat unhealthy trying to not spend to much money. Fast track to 8/2016. My son is now 13 and wants to join basketball and do school activities... I just wish there was a way that I could live closer so I could be involved in his life. The courts really do screw-up families. All of my vehicles are used. I can see why people murder their ex's and it's all because no one really is trying to help the dad. At one point I had a house that later went into foreclosure in 2010 from the economy and job loss. If #DonaldTrump really is about making #AmericaGreatAgain then he should do something about this #childSupport and help change the laws so men can be fathers and not be left behind. Just my two cents worth.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 11th, 2016Someone from Cary, NC writes:
My son is 13 and I have five years left. My ex left and moved back home after his first birthday. I did the right thing by going down and voluntary my information so she could have money to take care of my son. I was 26 yrs old at the time. They gave me a surprising $750 a month present. It caused me to move two hours away so I could find steady work, I've been homeless, and eat unhealthy trying to not spend to much money. Fast track to 8/2016. My son is now 13 and wants to join basketball and do school activities... I just wish there was a way that I could live closer so I could be involved in his life. The courts really do screw-up families. All of my vehicles are used. I can see why people murder their ex's and it's all because no one really is trying to help the dad. At one point I had a house that later went into foreclosure in 2010 from the economy and job loss. If #DonaldTrump really is about making #AmericaGreatAgain then he should do something about this #childSupport and help change the laws so men can be fathers and not be left behind. Just my two cents worth.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 11th, 2016Someone from Westminster, CO writes:
I pay my child support and they still took away my license then when I try to get ahold of child services they don't even answer their calls back all they tell me is that I need to wait 48 hours until they call me back it's kind of bull because I took all my paycheck stubs in that I have been paying my child support and they said they don't care if my license got taken away or if I have a job. I even showed them that I could've had another job and the still did not realise my licenseREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 11th, 2016Someone from Pleasantville, NJ writes:
Its unfair for good fathers out there doing their best to support their kids. We need to support our selfs as well and with my paycheck cut in half I'm don't make enough to support my needs. When I get my son.. Child support is still coming out my check when I could use that paycheck to support me and him when he's down with me. Its sad and needs to change!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 11th, 2016Someone from Pleasantville, NJ signed.
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Aug 11th, 2016Someone from Upper Darby, PA writes:
Why is it that the system takes so much money from the responsible but just let the irresponsible disappear and rack up a back fee that they will never even think about paying, why is it that the system allows the responsible fathers to be extorted legally by mothers just looking for money as an extorter does, why is it that the system only takes care of women as if men aren't human beings and have feelings also, why is it that the system is legally allowed to extort men in the name of women, why arent fathers cared about or taken care of like mothers, why is it that the system will see a father homeless just as long as child support is paid no matter what, why is it that fathers are punished by child support for a relationship that didnt work out, why is fathers rights nothing but a mere advocacy group but not an actual law that makes sure that the father is able to do more than pay child support, like pay rent pay bills and be able to save something for a rainy day which is everyday once youre in the system-REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Jermyn, PA writes:
Hi i am a fater of a two yr old boy who im always fighting to try and see me and the mother are not togeter and i pay child support for a kid that i hardly even get to see i do not think it is fair that i pay and still have to pay nor should any father half to im about to have another child but with my wife who loves my 2yr old has spent money on the first day to get him clouths and diapers and kid movies but my sons mother is always saying how great she is and how im the reason for my son freaking out when i hardly get to see him i do not feel that the child support laws are far we as faters need to take a stand and boycott infront of are court house of child support system til this issue is dealt with women get equal right why cant mean hard working father get the same fathers that value every momment with there child just to get told we cause everything it takes two to make a child not on yes the women carrys the child but we need to stop unfair child support they need to be ordered to let the father shee there child or no child support or atleast at the age of five find a job while fathers are working hard and the mother can sit and do nothing were is that fairREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Urbana, IL writes:
Child support should never have been allowed to ruin people credit report that's pay every week weekly monthREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Urbana, IL writes:
Child support should never have been allowed to ruin people credit report that's pay every week weekly monthREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Urbana, IL writes:
Child support should never have been allowed to ruin people credit report that's pay every week weekly monthREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Temple, TX writes:
The whole system needs a change. One parent has more then they need taking from one that can hardly get by. Seems very unfairREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Oberlin, KS signed.
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Aug 10th, 2016Someone from Chico, CA writes:
My husband pays $330 for 1 child! She's 15 years old. They were never married it was a high school accident. While the mother has never worked a day in her life because she was on drugs and lost the child, so my husband had full custody. When a child turns 13 they get to choose who they live with. The mother is psychotic. She guilt trips the child and has her do things to make it seem like we're unfit. Like taking pictures of our messy house. We have 3 boys under the age of 5. So yes it's messy. Anyone with kids can vouch for that. The mother sits on a $900 disability check every month plus she lives with her BF who is verbally abusive to the child. Calls her names and will smack her in the back of the head. We've asked her if she wants us to do something about it but she wants to live with her mother. Not to mention her mother is legally blind that's why she gets disability. But yet the mother drives. The mother is crazy. We have paid over $4k for the child's braces and we have paid for her phone (not just any old phone) since she was 12. We finally shut her phone off cuz we can't afford it. And it has caused the child to not come for her visits. So it's just a mess. The child support laws are old and out dated. It needs to change. Not all fathers are deadbeats.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Deming, NM writes:
My fiance pays $600 a month for one child that he gets every weekend, sometimes more. When he started making more they pumped him pay up and his back child support up to match his new wages. That is ridiculous. Punish him for making more by doubling his back pay and then suspending his license. Uhm hello how is he supposed to drive a hour to work to pay this support with no license. The system is screwed and needs to be looked at.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Coshocton, OH writes:
Hello, I'm the father of a 4 year old beautiful little girl. And words can't even begin to describe what she means to me. But I can tell you that she is the reason I open my eyes every morning, get up out of bed and push through the day. Busting my*****as I fight through the hurt and pain because such a big part of my heart is empty most of the time a void in my life. And I'm sure I speak for a lot of us loving parents that this is happening to. Mostly us fathers. And I'm not holding anything back because I will fight this fight and I'm never giving up until we have equal parenting rights 50/50 with our children. As a first choice of the courts when there is a divorce or separation. Because I don't believe that any man or woman should have the right or Authority to make the decision to take away our GOD GIVEN PARENTING RIGHTS. As long as the child/children are loved, safe, provided for, and not in any danger. You see we the parents know that the courts are to help and make it fair during the divorce and we all want what's best for our children. But over time it's became a numbers game and yes I mean it's all about money now. It's a sickness in the courts called greed. And the government is the main carrier of the sickness greed. And the courts need to know we see that they are no longer a solution to help us but are now a burden and an enabler to most of the mothers that don't work and live off of tax payers and drain the life out of us fathers. So now we are technically paying them twice when are on welfare living off our tax money and then we're paying them child support as well. And this is just the tip of the problems. But I want to speak out the main problem. The one that means the most to us. Now because of the greed. Our children have to suffer also. Because they now lose their father and we pretty much become a visitor to our children. Expecially when the mother is on a power trip and has animosity build up towards the father and thinks she is going to teach him a lesson or try to hurt him. And now She won't let the father come around or agree to see the children other than what's on the court ordered visitation plan. And that's if we are even lucky to get one of them. Well I have to tell you who ever wrote them plans up SUCK!! And must not of had children. Because they are ********. I want someone to tell me why in the hell a visitation for a parent in ohio would only be 4 days out of the month. Every other weekend and a few hours one day through the week. So let's start with my scenario. I live 10 minutes from my daughter. And she is 4 almost 5 in October. I have been Divorced almost 4 years from her mother. Our divorce was not a horrible one. It's we just drifted apart from each other and she left one day with our daughter. And moved to her grandmothers. And has been there every since she left and we got a divorce. Now I remind you they only live 10 minutes from me. So as we went through the divorce of course she got awarded custodialREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Gastonia, NC writes:
I have to fight to get one extra second with my child. My ex constantly breaks the court order yet I pay more in child support than I do for my mortgage. I don't mind paying for my child but I would also love to get more than every other weekend. The system is broken and terrible.REPORT COMMENTS
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Aug 10th, 2016Someone from Sanford, FL writes:
The system is rigged and my ex is defrauding the system with her mother. I work to pay child support and not pay my own bills. They won't lower my support payments and to get a lawyer I need money.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Sanford, FL writes:
The system is rigged and my ex is defrauding the system with her mother. I work to pay child support and not pay my own bills. They won't lower my support payments and to get a laser I need money.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Cleveland, OH writes:
I do not have children but I have been through and witness the unfair treatment for fathers with the child support system. They kept taking money from my ex husband and not punishing the mother for not letting us see the children. Me and my ex husband was married for 6 years been together 9 and we only got the children twice. Another crazy thing is my ex-husband was paying child support for a kid that he did not get a DNA test on. They child support system named him father by default!?!!?!!!! I can understand if they were married but they was never married. We went through hell. We let them know about this and they didn't help all they cared about was the money. Time and time again the child support system does not help fathers. They do not give them rights. This needs to stop. There should be mandatory DNA test for every child. And women should get punished for lying and keeping children away from the fathers out of spite. I don't see why that should be a problem when countless men go to jail for non payment.REPORT COMMENTS
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