Unfair child support laws
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Jul 29th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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Jul 29th, 2016Someone from Saint Louis, MO signed.
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Jul 28th, 2016Someone from Bethalto, IL signed.
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Jul 28th, 2016Someone from Saint Charles, MO signed.
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Jul 28th, 2016Someone from Fremont, OH writes:
I could go on and on about the unfair child support ways and laws. I am totally getting screwed over bad. If you want a full story ill be more then glad to tell it, just to much to type.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 28th, 2016Someone from East Saint Louis, IL signed.
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Jul 28th, 2016Someone from Saint Charles, MO writes:
Agreed if a man can go to jail for not supporting there children so should women. The laws should be equally distributed no matter what. I'm going through this now and I think if the other person (man or woman) can not support there kids and and at the least work 25 hours a week the parent that can should have legal custody of the child as long as that parent is also fit to raise the childrenREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 28th, 2016Someone from Plato, MO writes:
I stand with and support all men out there that want nothing more than to be Daddy. The laws and regs are unjust and unfair. The person receiving the support should held to the same level of resonsibility with visitation going uninterrupted per the court order. Children are not pawns to be used in the game of life. The system needs to be fixed. I know good men who all they want to is be the Daddy they dreamed to be to their children.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 28th, 2016Someone from Brownsville, TX signed.
Jul 28th, 2016Someone from Colorado Springs, CO writes:
My ex, who I was not married to, share one daughter. This individual makes almost just as much money as I do (~$60K per year). However, I am having to pay $650 per month plus $200 a month of daycare; for a total of $850 dollars. I do not think our 3-year old daughter goes through $650 in costs per month. There is no accountability in the current system that requires any parent to actually log the actual expenses for the child(ren).REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 28th, 2016Someone from Saint Charles, MO writes:
The system is unfair. If one parent chooses to better themself by getting and education and therefore being able to make more money, the parent that chooses to stay at home or work part time should not be "entitled" to more money. When parents don't pay copays, medical bills, etc, the other parent unknowingly gets sent to collections because they are listed as the insurance carrier. The other alternative is to try and go to court, which costs thousands. It's unfair.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 28th, 2016Someone from Napa, CA writes:
The system is broken and a fraud. How can the government enforce laws on one of the parents but not the other? How can the government enforce laws against the payer and then turn around and say that it's a civil matter when asked to enforce laws against the payee? CSS is a corrupt government agency and needs to be reformed.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 28th, 2016Someone from Oak Forest, IL writes:
I am a mother of a 9 year old boy. I agreed to a $300 a month child support payment with my ex. $300 is more than enough to feed my son, or buy him clothing if he needs it (kids don't need brand new clothes every month). My ex takes our son every other weekend and once during the week. It would not be morally right to ask for more $ from my ex. Yes, we made a baby togetger, but we aren't together. He doesn't owe me anything and vice versa. He has a house of his own and I have a home. We both have our own jobs that put a roof over our son's head. WE feel that the $300 a month payment is fair because our son is in my home for more meals. It makes the most sense. Why should my ex have to pay anything more? He provides just as much as I do. The system is so flawed and is the reason for so much hate in this country. These single mothers are having multiple children only to collect a check. It's not right. The Child support laws and Welfare are both so corrupt. When is a change going to be made?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 28th, 2016Someone from Cockeysville, MD signed.
Jul 27th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 27th, 2016Someone from Beaumont, TX writes:
Why is child support always on the woman's side.it not fair that us as fathers suffer.while the other x partner.living like a queen.ridiculous1500 a month.while the other has 2 more child support checks coming in.and to top it off with new man working.that makes good money,i've been paying child support for16 years and never missed a payment.so all that time my whole new family has to suffer.a woman has it made.!!!.what makes it worse is we got divorced because she got pregnant from someone else.while I was away pertecting our country.!!!.and what else is sad, is that why is it that when a woman doesn't show up for mediation 3 times.they always set back the appointment.but if the father misses one time.the attorney General gives them what there asking for.this is America, but the government is so messed up.same thing as the law,if a woman just says the man put his hands on her the man goes straight to jail with no proof, but when the man calls the law and tells the law she put her hands on me.the officer tells the man he's got to leave his own house.us as reall fathers,and men.have no rights!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 27th, 2016Someone from Visalia, CA signed.
Jul 27th, 2016Someone from Vallejo, CA writes:
I'm paying $1,100 a month for a child that lives in Indiana how is that fair? This system is extra broken Interstate child support is a scam it basically makes me a Slave.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 27th, 2016Someone from Henrico, VA writes:
Why not base child support of of a 40 hour work week? Overtime is not promising and depends on the work available. By basing pay off of overtime causes the non custodial parent to possibly miss payments and go to jail. Doesnt make sense! Just base it fairly..REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 27th, 2016Someone from Matthews, NC writes:
Its unfair to include overtime pay as income when overtime pay is not promising and changes daily which causes the non custodial parent to break there necks to avoid jail time. Why not base it off of a regular 40 hr work week...not fair.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 27th, 2016Someone from Omaha, NE writes:
I have to pay $500 monthly and haven''t been able to talk to my kids for almost 3 years. This has to stop. Its unfair.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 27th, 2016Someone from Moravia, NY writes:
I have one child and my ex-spouse has one child yet I have to pay her support until the child she has in her custody turns 21. That's fair!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 27th, 2016Someone from Centerton, AR writes:
I am high functioning, law abiding, rule following citizen. I have worked extremely hard for everything that I have. I entered the National Guard after my divorce (which was the reason the judge gave my ex full custody) and used that to put myself through college while working full-time and raising a family. My ex continued to have 3 more children all from different fathers. She now gets child support from 3 fathers and social security benefits from a deceased husband. She just bought a brand new truck and is now threatening to raise my child support. If she does it will ruin us financially. How is is gross income a basis for child support? I don't bring home nearly what my salary is. How does someone who never works get rewarded for my hard work? My ex also has a slew of other problems that I couldn't even begin to describe. Child support is draconian and punitive. It literally leads people to suicide. My Christian faith is the only thing that keeps me from falling off of the tiny ledge that I am currently on. This country is so broken and headed down an even darker path than we are currently on. My family lives very modestly. We have a 10 year old house that we got a great deal on. We have older used vehicles with fairly high mileage. We have no boats, campers, four-wheelers, or other toys. We have no credit card debt and are very frugal. We rarely splurge on anything. On top of that we don't make enough to even save for retirement. If we are hammered with child support we will most likely lose the little life that we have built. I will do everything in my power to make up for the income loss before I just give up. I will most likely get a night job until I can secure a promotion or move to a whole different job, but my current wife and children don't deserve a life like that. I barely get to see them as it is, but this would completely eradicate my home life. On top of that, I will have to maintain my physical standards for the Air Force to avoid being separated. I have never been more scared in my life of losing everything that I have worked for. I understand that my child is my obligation, but it should not be to the point that it makes me destitute. I can sympathize with people who give up and quit working (and eventually even commit suicide). There is no way to fight this problem. I can only sit back and watch as my life crumbles around me. Please help non-custodial parents. I realize that deadbeats do exist, but we aren't all the monsters that society portrays us to be. I have so much more to voice, but not enough time to get it all out. I will continue the good fight.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 27th, 2016Someone from Lincolnton, NC writes:
I get the idea of child support, but don't understand why the parent without the children has to suffer. It does not take $250/wk to raise a child! States should consider what the noncustodial parent makes AFTER taxes and all the costs it takes to just be able to live on a regular basis. We don't have cable, Internet, a car with less than 250,000 miles (yes! 250,00)0) or health insurance for starters. We both work and so does the custodial parent. Come on! We supported 2 kids for years without any support from the other parent, now the other parent has them due to a grave misjudging from our court! The kids are now 12 hours away from us after living here for 14 years. So how can we even afford to go see them?!? It takes 2 parents to raise kids, but the courts are keeping that from happening. Court systems do you have any idea how hard it is to not be able to buy a birthday gift for your child? Or to not see them for months on end after tucking them in bed every night? How can a judge go home at night and sleep knowing they played a part in destroying a relationship between a parent and child? So please court system make it reasonable for all parties involved. Our kids depend on it!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 27th, 2016Someone from Henderson, NV writes:
My husband has 2 kids with his ex wife. We have 50/50 joint custody . We now have a daughter together. She took him back to court for more child support even though we agreed on $1200 a month. For the first 4 years after the divorce we paid half of EVERYTHING!! His ex wife and her new husband and I were great friends. Boating, BBQ\'s, throwing boys birthday parties ... spent every holiday together even sleeping at each other\'s house for Christmas. We did this for their sons so they would be comfortable and not be affected by the divorce. The boys go to private school. Play sports, go to summer camps.. And we payed half. We payed half of Halloween costumes. We paid half of the elaborate birthday parties she had.. We paid half of the birthday cake. We would pay half of the boys Christmas presents.. On and on and on. Then her and I had a blow out 2 years ago and that was over. But we still continued paying half. None of that was ordered by the court.. That\'s just how we did it.. For t he boys. She just took him back to court.. LYING to the judge that we never did anything or payed for anything. We had proof of everything we have done. Well... The judge did not care nor looked at our proof that she was lying.. Her husband makes more than my husband and she makes half of what my husband makes. She don\'t need it. It is totally out of spite. Her and her husband have a son that is the same age as my daughter. He plays sports etc. She is also going to put him in private school. The judge ordered us to pay $1450.00 a month now. I do not work because I stay at home to take care of all 3 kids. Now, we can\'t pay all of our bills.. Don\'t have the money to put our daughter in any sports etc. There is no way that we can afford to put her in private school.. We have NEVER missed a child support payment .. The judge did not care about our situation nor our lifestyle . He increased our child support AND ordered us to pay half of sports still .. School uniforms supplies etc. An d he based child support on our monthly gross... Not net.. We had to take a 401k loan to pay for the first divorce that we have to pay back out of his check every 2 weeks.. What can I do??? We are in financial ruins because of this and need someone to listen and help not just us but do all good parents that are in these kind of situationsREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 27th, 2016Someone from Henderson, NV writes:
Toggle navigation Here's a preview of your letters to Congress. Review and send below. Edit letter July 27, 2016 Dear President Obama: Dear Representative Heck: Dear Senator Reid: Dear Senator Heller: I hereby petition the necessity of child support. We as Americans have the rights to be free and not burdened by debt and have the right to pursue happiness and free liberties as Americans. It is disgusting to know that a American court with no legal jurisdiction over a free man has any say in how much someone should pay for there children. Instead of basing it on income there should be a set standard the same way there is for any government assistances. Judges and lawyers want ridiculous fees and are to quick to pick men out and use there kids as leverage. I feel there is lack of respect and lack of accountability from the court in this matter and find it hard to believe a lawyer aka officer of the court has the best interest of anyone but themselves and there check books. To get any i R Renee Foley to me, brandon.foley 3 minutes agoDetails Toggle navigation Here's a preview of your letters to Congress. Review and send below. Edit letter July 27, 2016 Dear President Obama: Dear Representative Heck: Dear Senator Reid: Dear Senator Heller: I hereby petition the necessity of child support. We as Americans have the rights to be free and not burdened by debt and have the right to pursue happiness and free liberties as Americans. It is disgusting to know that a American court with no legal jurisdiction over a free man has any say in how much someone should pay for there children. Instead of basing it on income there should be a set standard the same way there is for any government assistances. Judges and lawyers want ridiculous fees and are to quick to pick men out and use there kids as leverage. I feel there is lack of respect and lack of accountability from the court in this matter and find it hard to believe a lawyer aka officer of the court has the best interest of anyone but themselves and there check books. To get any information on how child support figures are figured I am told to hire and attorney? I don't need an attorney to read for me and refuse to hire one to do so for me. I feel it is our civic duties as Amer icans to stand up for the wronged and make it right for everyone. Nowadays more and more women are getting better jobs and in my situation I have my child over 50 percent of the time and still pay child support. Where's the figure for that the state refuses to show. There is SO much more to this story that I could go on forever. Our daughter will not have the privilege that the boys have and her new son has. The increase is also affects the boys lifestyle at our house because we can't afford anything . We need help. We really don't want to file for bankruptcy .. We owe money to credit card companies.. Our own medical bills, the birth of our daughter etc and we will do not want to do that to these places. We owe themREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 26th, 2016Someone from Humble, TX writes:
Child Support is an extortion. My husband's X had, had a continous affair with my husband's childhood best friend. My husband's childhood best friend lives till this day in front of my husband's fathers house. And my husband's X lives in front of her parents house. The affair & continuous affair took place at the X's location. So, both families new she had this affair going. So, she kicked my now husband out and moved the the childhood best friend in. The child was a new born baby. The X committed adultery. Because she knew my now husband did not love her, did not want to marry her, and she was suppose to be on the pill or shot. So she became pregnant on purpose to entrap him. But when she kicked him out THE X made it seem as if the child was not his.The X has 2 girls whom she gets child support for at the time the adultery occurred from another man or men. Not sure per X has many sleeping partners. So, 15 years later she decides she is going to file for Child Support. Who does that? My husband did not sign anything. The court did not verify , nor the attorney general office. The X said in court that she was paying $200 in medical for this child. I had my husband call to the insurance company and they said there was no active insurance. My husband submitted to the attorney generals people his pay check amounts and from there to the judge hands it just seemed to disappear. They used my husband old salary. The X lied in court about the insurance to get more money and she lied that my husband told her that he was going to take care of the child. Why would he tell the X that when she was committing adultery and the X herself didn't even know who the father was. My husband has been going to court and she doesn't show up because she is afraid of going to jail for providing false information and the judge making a decision on false information. The X has also failed to let my husband pick up child. We called the police out multiple times and she would never be at her house at the dates and time scheduled by court order. The 1st time we were on the way to pick the child up my husband texted her to give the X a courtesy text just to let her know that we were on the way. We showed the text and voice recording to police officer. The X also failed to provide my husband with the child's information like the school. My husband was not able to pick up from school according to court order because the X would not give him anything. The X took a letter to the Child Support Office stating that my husband was aggressive. So, when the X did not show up to court the Attorney general thru that in. My husband said aggressive to who. I don't even know the child. I seen him when he was new born. The X literally throws her child to a man she don't know when she is signing the court order for money. My husband was ordered to pay $1100.00 a month. That's an average of a household income. My husbsnd has filed a motion. The X does not go to court because she is in deREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 26th, 2016Someone from Port Orange, FL writes:
I don't think it is fair for these men now days paying so much out in child support that they get a second job to try and make a living especially if they have another family to support so they can have money but then they get a second job and that is taking for child support to while the ex wife sit on her butt at home and gets child support from two different dudes so she ain't got to work these laws need to change for these men!!REPORT COMMENTS
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