Unfair child support laws
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Aug 10th, 2016Someone from Henderson, NV signed.
Aug 10th, 2016Someone from Richmond, VA signed.
Aug 10th, 2016Someone from Memphis, TN writes:
I feel that it should be more than that law being changed what about after the father gets confirmation that the child is his why are we not getting joint custody why are we only obligated to visitation rights if we wasn't married what about letting the child have our last name instead of giving the mother that choice what about stopping mother's from getting section 8 and making them get real jobs I feel like a mother should only get section 8 if she is going to school and working at least a part time job give them rules I understand that a long time ago men was just out here making children and not helping but this is a different time we got fathers out here that want to be involved and ever aspect of there child's life but we really don't have a choice because it's up to the mother discretion if we are involved and that an that's not right at all it's time for a changeAug 10th, 2016Someone from Wilton, AR writes:
I have pretty much the same opinion as everyone on here,the laws are unfair and unjust I understand if u have a child u must raise it,good lord I've heard that so many times it's sickening,I've paid child support for what seems like forever but just 20 years ,I've gave everything i had and every dime I've ever made to lawyers fees, child support fees ,probation fees that was after I got behind for over 2600 so they forced me to have to pay Medicaid back for my child being born ,after that the balance was 17000 and accruing interest ,I had no idea if I wanted to change anything I had to go to court,but here I am paying for school clothes off the record sending money thru money gram for a school trip ,baseball uniforms ,cleats fees fees fees I swear if u been thru this its a complete joke especially if it's you the payee,I tryed to go to college even passed a few semesters trying to better myself, of course I wasn't making regular payments to child support then I had to have gas money to go to school ,books fees fees fees etc.but I still made sure my child had food,clothes,making sure her bills kept getting paid 150 here 150 there all off the record considered gifts tothe court not actual child support haha all a joke huh haha after finishing my second semester 24 credits into a 48 hours bachelors degree, I get charged with felony non support b/c my arrears have grown from 17000 to 27000 in 2 years wow go to jail have to beg my brother for 2 grand to get out and have to start working instead of finishing school another lawyer 1000 guess what ? Hard to find a job with a felony on your record,ohh well I'll just take this 8 dollar an hour job instead of all along child arrears still adding up as if I made 10000 a week lol plus probation fees of 35 a month as long as I still owe a balance lol yeah all that on top going to see my child every other week and keeping him in the summer when he was out of school, never recorded expenses etc, whatever , as of right now I still owe 9000 in back child support and still on probation that I've had extended 4 years already ohh and still paying probation fees and if I don't get it paid in the time given they revoke my probation another 1000 to a lawyer and another 2 grand to get out just to keep oweing more and more ,u call this justice ,u call this fair ,u think it helps or hurts my child, it kills the American in me ,I absolutely hate the American justice system and it'll never change, u think I can tell my child to go and have fun and find a person he falls in love with and try and make a family with her, hell no I tell him if he don't wanna spend this life in hell he better go to school, make something out of yourself before u try and make a family,never ruin your credit,stay away from people that are constantly in trouble etc. in all honestly a woman can go have 5 different babies with 5 different fathers and make every one pay child support and have life just planned the way they want it ,they get food stampsREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 10th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 9th, 2016Someone from Mesa, AZ writes:
Can someone help me understand how a parent can just pick up and live almost instantly after having a child,file for child support deny visitation or communication with the child and also signs the child's custody over to an ex while still fighting to obtain child support. I have 9 or 10 different numbers between child support and family court just to get refferd yet again to another number to call. And in the end when you finally get the department that can assist you your required to pay $60+ to receive paper work that may or may not help modify yourREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 9th, 2016Someone from Bertram, TX signed.
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Aug 9th, 2016Someone from Lockport, NY writes:
A lot of women get a free ride and the father is left paying for everything. This is a huge injustice and inequality to the max. Both parents bring the child into this world and BOTH need to be responsible. When you have one parent that refuses to get a full time job even though they have a 4 yr degree just because they get enough money coming in from the ex to make a decent living....something is wrong with that picture.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 9th, 2016Someone from El Cajon, CA signed.
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Aug 9th, 2016Someone from Phoenix, AZ signed.
Aug 9th, 2016Someone from Richmond, TX writes:
I have my kids 50% of the time yet I still pay the full child support plus half of any expenses the children incur. Their mom works and makes plenty of money. I would even keep paying the support if it was going to a college fund or a trust that the kids would have equal share of when they became adults. I do believe that Dads should be responsible for their kids and I very much am but I feel like my ability (money in this case) to provide for them in the best way I know how are being stripped away from me simply because their mom and I could no longer live together amicably. It makes no sense.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 9th, 2016Someone from Cincinnati, OH writes:
Child support for Fathers is so unfair. My daughter's mother refused child support back when she was younger and we established a shared parenting agreement. She still choose to get help from the state so now they are coming after me and it shouldn't be that way. I didn't benefit from the states help because I still took care of my daughter. Also my son's mother makes way more than I do so I'm confused as to why I'm paying so muchREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 9th, 2016Someone from Trenton, SC signed.
Aug 9th, 2016Someone from Pasadena, CA writes:
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No, CancelAug 9th, 2016Someone from Spokane, WA writes:
I was never married to my ex, it?s a long story and I was really stupid for it but also I wasn?t on the birth certificates, but I was there and supported my kids from day one. A lot of this is my own fault, and I should have made much better choices. Anyway, our relationship was going sour. In part because I paid all the bills. She collected rent from a rental that was in her name(but that I fully helped to buy and also did major remodeling), and from her sister that lived with us. I made the $1700 mortgage payment and paid most of the utilities. She was supposed to pay the sewer bill(I would get a $500 bill later because she wasn?t paying after she knew we were going to split). I asked her to help more with the bills. She pointed out that I had enough money to buy a six pack of beer on Fridays?. Okay but I paid over $2100 in bills which was pretty much my take home. Okay so we split, not just over the bills but that was a huge factor. The new house was in my name. The rental in hers. The new home was a huge burden. The rental(old home) was more than half paid for and had a very low mortgage payment. I asked if she would let me buy the old home for the going market rate. This would allow her to roll that money over and buy the new home. It would give us both about an equal mortgage and allow the kids to stay in the new home while giving me a much better mortgage payment. She would benefit by having the nicer home with a similar mortgage. She refused. Because we were not married, I couldn?t do anything about it. She had thousands in the bank too. One account I knew of had $25k, but I know she had others. So right off the bat, she walked away with a ton of equity in the home and pile of cash because I paid all the bills for years. Again this is all my fault. I lived in a fantasy land thinking it was okay because we would be together forever, also she did tend fork out when we needed say a new Tv. Oh she also got the tax returns every year. Again my fault for being a dumbass. At first, we come up with a plan. I paid her cash for child support. It worked for maybe a month, then she would refuse to let me see the kids on a whim. Even letting me pick them up then calling as I was halfway home demanding I bring them back. About the fourth month in, I give her a check instead of cash. She rips it up and throws it at me. At about the sixth month I show up to give my daughter a birthday present. Another lady opens the door and states they don?t live there. I finally decide that she isn?t going to calm down, and that really need to get this all legal. I get a lawyer and spend even more money. I have to track her down. I have to do a DNA test. All and all it takes more than 9 months to get a temporary PPP. I finally see my kids. That was a great day. The mother had convinced them that I didn?t want to see them. My son cried when I took him home because he asked when he was going to see me again, and I explained that I will see him soon and eveREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 9th, 2016Someone from Mill Valley, CA signed.
Aug 9th, 2016Someone from Kansas City, MO signed.
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Aug 9th, 2016Someone from Saint Louis, MO writes:
Some women file for child support, and do not let the dads see their kids. This is not right for the good dads who are not doing anything wrong. A lot of the women also then use the child as a way to try and control the father. these women are just mad the dad does not want them anymore as a partner, so they are on this revenge kick.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 9th, 2016Someone from Kansas City, MO signed.
Aug 9th, 2016Someone from El Mirage, AZ writes:
I was divorced in Ohio in 1992. My ex moved to Arizona in 1993 with her new husband and my son. I moved to AZ in 1994 to be closer to him and involved in his life. Ohio told us in 1994 they could no longer collect child support payments since we both lived in AZ. I paid her directly from 1994 until 2005. A few months before my son turned 18 she contacted Ohio and they began collecting all the money (again) going back to 1994. I fought it for years but it's useless. It's not simply my word against hers. She and I sent a signed notarized letter to Ohio in 2000 explaining that I was paying her directly. In 2005 Ohio told me that notarized signed letter was "invalid" because a Judge didn't sign off on it. Since when does a Judge have to sign off to make a notarized signature valid? Ohio points to a clause in my divorce papers that states any money given directly to my ex that doesn't go through Cuyahoga CSEA is considered "a gift." Both Cuyahoga CSEA and the Ohio Attorney General's Office have acknowledged that there is more than enough evidence to show I paid her all those years - but because of that clause, unless she specifically tells them (again) that I already paid her, they continue to (re)collect more than $42k I already paid. As of today, Aug 2016, that balance is down to $6,900. I have written hundreds of letters to everyone I can think of since 2005. In the end I will pay this thief and her lying thief Phoenix Police Department cop husband, (who used to come and actually pick up the "Child Support" payments from me), more than $42,000. If it was simply a he said/she said issue I could almost understand. But the fact that Ohio, (the 5th most corrupt state in the Union), is purposefully ignoring evidence and legal documentation and knowingly taking money that they have admitted they know I already paid shows that the system is greatly flawed and corruptREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 9th, 2016Someone from Saint Paul, MN writes:
I have been paying almost 325 dollars a week for 2 years. I suffered an injury was out of work for 6 weeks then returned to work I received my check which child support took my entire remaining amount and there for I could not afford to go to work. Now that I lost my job due to there withholding income the mother has withheld my children and child support who wouldn't help me is now acting as my exwifes attorney. The whole system is a crock of ####. I lost my 50/50 due to communication biggest line of crap ever. when in reality she was broke and can't afford life on her own with a 4 year degree. mn judges in small communities are corrupt. More like protect woman's incomes here it's a joke and its unconstutional.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 9th, 2016Someone from Homosassa, FL signed.
Aug 9th, 2016Someone from Chino Valley, AZ writes:
NOW!!,How Long DO I HAVE TO KEEP PAYING CHILD SUPPORT???"ALL OF MY CHILDREN ARE GROWN!!,& MY EX-WIFE IS STILL GETTING THE CHILD SUPPORT EVERY MONTH!!! The State of ILLINOIS Clams That I am So IN THE REARS THAT THU ARE CHARGING ME INTEREST!!,"INTEREST ON CHILD SUPPORT"??? YOU WILL NEVER GET FINISHED PAYING!,"IT'S A RIP OFF!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 9th, 2016Someone from Chino Valley, AZ writes:
NOW!!,How Long DO I HAVE TO KEEP PAYING CHILD SUPPORT???"ALL OF MY CHILDREN ARE GROWN!!,& MY EX-WIFE IS STILL GETTING THE CHILD SUPPORT EVERY MONTH!!! The State of ILLINOIS Clams That I am So IN THE REARS THAT THU ARE CHARGING ME INTEREST!!,"INTEREST ON CHILD SUPPORT"??? YOU WILL NEVER GET FINISHED PAYING!,"IT'S A RIP OFF!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 9th, 2016Someone from Oakland, CA signed.
Aug 8th, 2016Someone from Eau Claire, WI signed.
Aug 8th, 2016Someone from Oakville, WA writes:
My story is for my husband. He has a son and we have a 16mo daughter together. He did not even know about his son till he was almost 2 and was slapped with almost 12k in BS. Fast forward to now. We can not afford a place to live so have to live with my parents. The only work he could find was through a security firm and he only gets 26.5 hours a week. SOMETIMES he may get more if people go on vacation. He has to commute 60+ miles each way every time he works. Since we moved I have applied everywhere I can with no callbacks. His CS is now $361 a month. After all the bills and everything including the amount we have to spend on gas.. we have less than $200 a month to support ourselves and our 16mo. It was recently time for his CS to be reviewed. They decided to lower it to $266 a month. They will not take into consideration that he cannot get FT work, or the amount in gas he has to spend to get to and from each day. His EX REFUSES to get a job and has in fact gotten their son and her daughter diagnosed with autism... I have spoken to many experts and each one says that the way the children behave does not in ANYWAY say autistic. She is now going for SSI for both children and (her words) is going to the courts to ask for more because she has no money. She spends almost $150-$200 on makeup each month. She has chinese delivered every week. Goes out for coffee 3x a week with friends. My husband is away from home 12-14 hours a day. We couldnt even have a bday party for our daughter because of the money we are paying. He lives off ramen and I live off of PB just to make sure our daughter has diapers and food. The CS laws as they stand now are totally unfair and need to be revised.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 8th, 2016Someone from Las Cruces, NM writes:
I was conned into the child support order. I had my daughter in Georgia and when she reached 3 me and her mother split up. She wouldn't let me see her be around her and admitted it was over the fact I didn't want to be in a relationship with her so keeping my daughter from me was out of spite. For two years if I was lucky to see her she couldn't spend the night, matter of fact she never could. I would have to pay cash to see her... hundreds went this way. I had enough. Went to the courts in Cobb country and asked advice on gaining a partial custody agreement. By there orders I got DNA, legal legitimacy and then one court day she was offered two speak on her allegations and she lied and said I never gave her a dime and she begged for money. Well I was warranted and charged on the spot for child abandoned and a order for support was made. Instantly my life got darker, the mother used that order to control my life with my daughter and me and my daughter sufferd over and over again. Many times her mother would ask me "Sever your parental rights and I'll cancel the order of support. ...but she never did. I even have a notarized letter saying if I paid her a certain amount she would have the FCS drop the arrears and I did and I have the proof in the payment legend when they deducted the amount agreed. Comon it's about the money.... I haven't seen my daughter or heard from her in ten years now she will be 16 soon... and I got a unaffordable amount to pay and I'm not a dead beat dad when I have been raising three other children with the same mother for over ten years, I didn't abandon my child she was taken. And for a long time I haven't seen or talked to her, nothing, they won't help find her no its how about the support.... I can bearly support my family now due to a child my kids are deprived to see themselves. I think mothers that don't abide a custody agreement of at least 40/60 then they should get nothing. And a father that hasn't seen a child due to similar or direct circumstances should be released of the order. The mother doesn't even comply to FCS services instructions or letters. She doesn't need it it's a way to dissappear and receive money from me unfairly.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 8th, 2016Someone from Chicago, IL signed.
Aug 8th, 2016Someone from Henderson, NV writes:
It's sad many of us of the same situation, however instead of the problem getting fixed, it appears to be getting worse. Why doesn't the IRS charge the person receiving the child support, taxes?. I have 2 children, I claim one and my ex claims the other. No surprise the judge awarded her the younger child to claim. I over payed my ex wife. She subpoenaed me to court stating I Never paid her. I saved all the receipts, bills, rent payments, insurance payment and grocery receipts. (for any naysayers, I was NOT on any of the bills, insurances or lease agreement at the time. I removed my name and lease I was on with her was up, she renewed in her name alone.) The judge said it was ALL a "Gift in kind" The judge even asked her if she thought it was support when she accepted me making the payments as support. She said "yes", she even thought it was, but because the way the legal system is worded in Nevada. After her lease was up, she moved in with her mother and the kids came to me for a year. She got remarried and I stated to her that the kids need both of their parents in their lives. So when I got the subpoena to go to court, I thought I was getting money back for over payment, No not the case, I had my wages garnished from my check. and owed more money than the original decree, which all parties said was worse decree ever seen because we went to the "do it yourself" section in family court when we initially got divorced. Every line said "we will verbally agree, " but decree was issued that way. I have the kids equal time now with her 50/50 and still have to pay. I had to go back to court a year later to see if I can get our days flip flopped since she put kids in her school zone with no notice and changed schools. Of course nothing happen to her, but the judge said he was upset with her. The judge did not flip flop days, I had to take 2 kids to 2 different schools across town from me. I got off work 3am had to wake up and be at High school at 6am, then comeback and get the 2nd child to middle school at 8am, and then same in the afternoon. My hours were from 2pm Monday-Until start of school Thursday. I think I speak for most of us when I say we believe in taking care of our children, but it is after all for the children! Alimony is for spousal support, so why are the ex spouses being punished? Also, if our income increases, why does child support increase? How does an increase in our lifestyle increase the bills in the other household? We are being punished for succeeding. The ex spouse never has to show what they are doing with the money, why? My ex still after receiving child support from me did not buy school supplies or school lunches. I still paid for all of it. If it is labeled support, then our payments should be a percent of the bills, for example a % of water, electric, gas, food, etc...not to exceed a percentage of the paying spouses income. However the problem I can see is the ex adding more bills to get more money. TheREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 8th, 2016Someone from Cleveland, OH signed.
Aug 8th, 2016Someone from Palestine, TX writes:
I have been stuck in this nightmare since June of 2000. My kids are all grown. My horror story is with Indiana! Putnam County! I'm being forced to pay child support for a 18 year old in the Indiana prison system and a 18 year old that has been living with me since he graduated High school. At the time Indiana forced non-custodial parents to pay support until they are 21. The law changed in July of 2012 to 19. I filed all the proper emancipation paperwork to have my support arrears retro active back to the dates in question where the mother had no custody! All was proven in court. I had to answer for a lot of frivolous alligations. I beat it every time by proving I was not around. I drove a 18 wheeler across country. My company vouched for me. Our trucks have satellite communications and they can track us anywhere in the US and Canada within 10 feet of the location. Judge never filed charges against her. I have been ordered to over pay child support by 30-40 thousand dollars. Now if she was collecting welfare from the state and the state found out that the kids were not living with her, welfare or not, she would be charged with welfare fraud. There is no justice for non-custodial parents! We are being robbed and plundered by the states, because of the Federal incentive programs! You want to know why this country is 19 Trillion in debt! Take a good look at the child support system! This insanity has got to be stopped!!!!!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 8th, 2016Someone from San Juan Capistrano, CA writes:
My husband pays $750 a month for one child and we live paycheck to paycheck while baby mama has had 3 luxury cars out of the dealership only working a part time job. This makes me so mad 😡REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 7th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 7th, 2016Someone from Gwynn Oak, MD signed.
Aug 7th, 2016Someone from Calhoun, GA writes:
Most here in Georgia have new homes while the dads are homeless and take your licences really ****in stupid.men here have no rightsREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 7th, 2016Someone from Pompano Beach, FL writes:
The money I pay for child support is not being used for my child. It is being used to support my ex-wife adult daughter. I have no way of proving this other than the conversations I have with my son. This money should be monitored by the state.REPORT COMMENTS
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