Unfair child support laws
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Aug 21st, 2016Someone from Tucson, AZ signed.
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Aug 20th, 2016Someone from Harker Heights, TX writes:
Paying 800$ (I'm just a soldier) I can not talk to my son and his mom make everything hard to see him because she want to.Aug 20th, 2016Someone from Harker Heights, TX writes:
Paying 800$ (almost my check) I can not talk to my son and his mom make everything hard to see him because she want to.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 20th, 2016Someone from Glen Rose, TX writes:
My grandson is in military and has lost a car and has been financially drained by his ex wife who has a father who was out to destroy him. Her father is a millionaire and she doesn't even need money but she pushes for more based off his previous pay in oilfield. She is even getting checks off his housing allowance and food allowance! Ridiculous! He has other friends who are in the same boat. She has a good income but leaves him with no money to hardly eat on or pay his own bills along with him having to pay extra for food , gas and ect when he gets his baby. They share joint custody She doesn't even meet him half way and she moved several miles away. This is an outrage!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 20th, 2016Someone from Glen Rose, TX writes:
My grandson is in military and has lost a car and has been financially drained by his ex wife who has a father who was out to destroy him. Her father is a millionaire and she doesn't even need money but she pushes for more based off his previous pay in oilfield. She is even getting checks off his housing allowance and food allowance! Ridiculous! He has other friends who are in the same boat. She has a good income but leaves him with no money to hardly eat on or pay his own bills along with him having to pay extra for food , gas and ect when he gets his baby. They share joint custody She doesn't even meet him half way and she moved several miles away. This is an outrage!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 20th, 2016Someone from Panama City, FL writes:
Stop child support without father's having visitation plan. No visitation equals no support. Support should be reasonable. No jail time. Debtors prison is unconstitutional. Stop stealing tax refunds. Stop retroactive support. Stop destroying males. Allow fathers to decide if they want to surrender rights therefore no support to mother. The father should not be on the hook if he does not want to be a parent. The mother steals all the visitation from the father and excepts him to pay. The father does not determine if a mother will have an abortion. Fine mothers for harrassment and withholding visitation. Person receiving support should assist with visitation and transportation to and from.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 20th, 2016Someone from Las Vegas, NV writes:
My ex wife is a prime example of abusing the system. She got knocked up by a foreigner who knows nothing about the laws and nearly spoke English. The kid is now 15 and she refuses to allow the father to see the daughter. I know personally as I was there for 4 years and watched her say oh we are busy or we are going out of town every trims the father wanted to see. Unfortunately she was already pregnant with my daughter. She worked full time as did I. Then due to a serious injury to my back I ended up with 15 spine surgeries,make permanently disabled. She told me she didn't want to be married to a disabled person, then filed for divorce and asked me to pay child support. The tables were quickly turned when the judge saw she worked full time and I was 100% disabled and take care of my daughter since day 1. We were set to go to trial in June of 2014, when she suddenly quit her job on June 2nd claiming she was laid off/fired. However she admitted to her attorney and mine and even to me that she doesn think its right that she would pay me child support. So she quit. During the divorce crap she worked her way out of child support temporarily till she got another job. It's now 2 years later and she still refuses to work, unemployment has been exhausted. How she got that is a whole story on its own. She has the IRS after her for fraud, and gambling problems. Police on her for bouncing checks and drugs. She works under the table for a Hispanic lady cleaning houses. She has told me all about it by slipping up saying oh I have to clean a house here and there. Then my daughter is going to be five and tells me that her mom had to work. She even takes my daughter with her to work. Now. My daughter is with menmonday through Thursday goes to her moms Thursday night comes back Friday morning and stays till Sunday with me on week 1. Then the next week she is with me Monday through Friday, goes to her moms house Friday and comes back most of the time Saturday or Sunday at the latest. She has her kid 1 day a week on one week then 2 days the next. I'm absorbing all the costs.mincluding medical and clothing. She says well I will pay for what she needs here for clothing and you buy what you need. Oh so I buy for 96% of the time and she pays for her 4%. She has lied to the judge on the financial statement and lives in a house her mom is paying for literally they bought it and Amy was supposed to pay rent but never has. I found that out from her mom just before we split. She was caught testing positive for my pain medication too and had the dea on her. Yet, she works under the table and has a GREAT EP (earning potential). She worked in the medical industry. But since the judge ordered her to pay me child support she quit. Her boss confirmed it that 3 weeks before we went to trial ahin put in her 2 weeks notice and he had to hire someone else. She got out of child support all together. Now when I had a son with one of my ex gfs. And I got fired because she was harassingREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 20th, 2016Someone from Seminole, FL signed.
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Aug 19th, 2016Someone from San Jacinto, CA signed.
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Aug 19th, 2016Someone from Fairfield, CA writes:
Child support laws are corrupt,unfair, all for women who wants a way to sit at home and do nothing. I'm a full time father. I go to work and take care of my daughter. I have been fulfilling my duties by taking care of my child. I have my daughter every week from Thursday morning till Sunday morning. Her mother just put me on child support. It's hard because I have been providing everything by myself for my child and paying for a roof over her head. Her mom is just a person who has multiple babies just to collect a check. It's unfair to men especially the real fathers out there. The laws need to change the men who actually want to do right get the short end of the stick. Because I want to be a responsible parent and do what's right in getting punished to give up money that I actually need to be able to provide for my daughter. Please someone do something about the current child support laws. It is extremely unfair. In today's world the cost of everything has risen. This is no longer the 80's the 90's where one income was fine. If us as FATHERS. Are on the street what can we do. Then we are looking like the bad person and bad parent because we can't provide. This is just ludicrousREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 19th, 2016Someone from Oregon, WI writes:
Also, the law is not very helpful when it comes to allowing one parent to move far from the other. When this happens, it makes it impossible for the other parent to spend enough time (over night stays) with the children, which affects the child support calculations unfairly as well.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 19th, 2016Someone from Ashtabula, OH signed.
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Aug 19th, 2016Someone from Manassas, VA writes:
Get a poorly selected sex partner pregnant and she can take you to court and make you legally responsible for more of the child-she-wanted-to-have's expenses than she is. Nice. Way to deter p.o.s. women from abusing this jacked up system. The amount one parent is ordered to pay is should never go over the average total cost of raising a child from birth to 18, regardless of how much a parent makes. Especially if they never shared a household and combined finances. Reading these comments make me sick. Sorry you all are going through this. IS ANYONE LISTENINGREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 19th, 2016Someone from Manassas, VA signed.
Aug 19th, 2016Someone from Columbus, OH writes:
A damn shame.. My big girl mother driving a brand new Range Rover, and I can't even get a driving license.. I just started paying child support for her four or five years ago and now I'm in $30,000 in back pay and she lived with me until she was 10yrs.. I can't get a job because the job requires license I can't get my license because I can't get a job now I'm being threatened with jail time. how is this possible I'm homeless with nothing..REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 19th, 2016Someone from Saint Louis, MO signed.
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Aug 19th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 18th, 2016Someone from Naperville, IL writes:
It's unfair to working fathers to pay 1/2 their salary when an exposure is making more than the husband. There should be a law that both salaries are combined and divined by two to ensure both father and mother can lead a good lifeREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 18th, 2016Someone from Kyles Ford, TN writes:
I'm all for supporting your children but the courts punish those of us who work hard to earn a living above being mediocre and reward those who are content in making less because it's made up in income by the other parent. So why ever work harder? The more you make the less you keep and the less you make the more you keepREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 18th, 2016Someone from Philadelphia, PA writes:
The child support system is broken. I am a good father in this horrible system. I am paid up with all my child support. I am currently waiting on the judge to put in a modification to lower my child support because I am not getting any overtime. (I don't understand why they take overtime into account. Child support is slow and overtime is not guaranteed and getting child support to modify an order takes a long, long time. The child support systems turn around time is not horrible. I went to court 3 weeks ago and still no change to my order. You call child support and they treat everyone like a dead beat. I guess if your a hammer all you see are nails. I live in Philadelphia. The system allows females to lie. This system is "guilty until proven innocent". This system has blood on it's hands and it has people in jail. This system makes money by tearing kids and parents apart.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 18th, 2016Someone from Cookeville, TN writes:
My boyfriend and I have a little girl together also have two boys by the same father who haven't been in the picture ever since they were born basically my boyfriend raise them as his own he also has a child that is nine years old and was never with the mother well we just found out that not only is he not only is he having to pay child support but they are also making him take premium insurance for himself and his son but which would cause him half his check but the grandmother has full custody braise the mother was proven unfit did they give him custody no they gave it to a drug addict grandmother because he had lived with her since he was born we have her proven unfit twice and she gave joint custody to her mother which is the great grandmother he has tried to get custody twice and both time was shot down and the child never gets to see it and ever since he has tried to get custody they will not let him see him and has now been 4 months since we have seen him and these person that has him doesn't even have a vechile but she is related to the judge by married 2nd cousins so how is he suppose to get a break basically paying for a child that never sees the money and who's grandmother the custodial parent is a drug addict and uses that for her habit..... I believe some father have it so bad explain that?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 18th, 2016Someone from Hot Springs National Park, AR writes:
My husband was recently taken to court for a review for increase in child support by the mother of his child. The mother of his child was awarded $220 a week plus we are being made to pay her attorney fees. The all the extra things my husband has paid for over the past 5 years were thrown to the side. Did not matter that her husband made substantially more than mine. It didn't even matter that she lied on her Affadavit about how much she actually made. The fact we have one child and another on the way didn't matter. All that mattered was the bottom line. My husband drives 6 hrs round trip for visitation, has paid for numerous extras, etc. Did the increase occur because the child needed it--NO. The child was never even brought up during the hearing. It all fell on what the amount the mother thought she needed. Father's in this country has little to no rights. So many woman say they want equality but in this arena (family law) there is no equality.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 18th, 2016Someone from Lamesa, TX signed.
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Aug 18th, 2016Someone from New York, NY writes:
I understand that nothing is the child's fault, and child support is for the child. But no one should be sentenced to paying more than 50% of the child's expenses. You only contributed 50% to the child's DNA, why should you be COMMANDED to pay more than that? Any funds you contribute to your child above your half should be strictly voluntary, not required with devastating consequences for not doing so. Just because one parent is used to a certain level of income does not mean that the child and custodial parent are automatically entitled to the same. If you want the child to have that level of income, allow the child to live with the other parent. Bottom line is we need to change these outdated laws ASAP.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 18th, 2016Someone from Oxnard, CA writes:
I have a boyfriend who works very hard for very long hours because of child support. He doesn't make much but his ex supposedly thinks he does. We have 2 kids together and 1 from his previous relationship. He tries very hard to be there for them physically & financially. But it's hard for him because of child support. We've been together for 11 years and watching him suffer hurts, and not only that it hurts our kids too just cuz of his ex. We live within our means because we don't have that much $$ to live a lavish life style. But his ex is now asking for more $$ so she can eat out, get her nails done, and go shopping. The crazy part is that she has no shame on posting her spending habit on instagram & Facebook. They share their son 40/60, although nothing has changed on custody activities she is now saying 80/20. Not only that on the paperwork she supposedly spends $5,000 a month on expenses for her son. Her & my boyfriend makes about the same, where is all that extra income coming from? doesn't make sense. Obviously she is making way more and expects to be paid more through child support. I know child support is not based on personality but this woman has different boyfriends every other year, moves from place to place every other year, and spends $$ like crazy. As for my boyfriend he's had the same relationship for 11 years, has lived in the same neighborhood since he was a child, and trying to make a decent living for his kids. But he is being punished by supporting his ex's habits. Yeah he was young when he had his son, but it's her fault not wanting to raise their son together and going off with another man, and now he's paying for it. This child support is very unfair, it's strips away their rights especially for those that are good father's and are trying. I never had a dad, and my boyfriend is the best dad to our kids, that should mean something?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 18th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 18th, 2016Someone from Mobile, AL signed.
Aug 18th, 2016Someone from Edmond, OK writes:
My husbands divorce was final in 2013. In 2011 he was in the military and ordered to pay 2163 a month in child support. He wasn't able to live so had to move back into the barracks which in turn he lost the off base housing pay. In 2014 he got out of the military and didn't have a job for 4 Months. At this time he was over 20,000 in arrears. In 2015 he filed for a modification and they lowered it to 1200 a month. we requested all court records from the modification and she didn't even have to update her income. She now makes more than my husband in wages and she donated her eggs for anywhere between 8,000-32,000 each time she started doing this in 2012. We obviously don't have money for an attorney and she does, we can't get proof of 1099 she likes about income when she does report it. I just don't understand. If it wasn't for family my husband would be homeless. We just need proof of her income (both wages and other income, like egg donation) and I think once the money slows down she will want the kids to live with me. She intentionally ignores my calls to talk to them. I was told she yells at my son saying"your just like your deadbeat father" so much more, but the only think child support tells us, is to get an attorney (off of the 800 he makes a month.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 17th, 2016Someone from Ocala, FL writes:
The child support guidelines are a joke and I thought it was just Florida. However, after reading Aaron S. from Findlay, OH comments I realize that our situation is not only similar but that the guidelines are unfair and unjust every where. These guidelines are not meant to bring families together, but infact they tear families apart. There are real fathers out there who genuinely take an interest in their child's life but have to pay a ridiculous amount of child support that makes it really tough to even support themselves. There need to be better support for good dads and mothers when comes to child support.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 17th, 2016Someone from Los Angeles, CA signed.
Aug 17th, 2016Someone from Apopka, FL writes:
Drop my child support cases! I should not have to pay when I am denied visitation for no reason! The mothers of my two daughters denied me visitation by simply telling the courts that they did not want to allow visitation and they had no reason to deny me visitation, other than they were afraid my daughters would have left them to be with me and they didn't want to lose that child support money to buy things for themselves, like getting their nails done, etc! Being that the courts treat the mothers like they are queens and agreed to deny visitation for no reason whatsoever, then I don't want to pay! I am also only a student right now until I can obtain a career, because of a worthless economy and $386 a month is too much to pay in child support while getting very little money in school loans that I should not be paying you with at all! I also think that if men do not have a job or are not allowed visitation for no reason, that they should not have to pay at all! Not everyone has rich families to bum off of to pay child support and your stupid programs to help fathers find a job while they are jailed don't do anything being that the economy is corrupt and poor! I became sick and tired of not ever seeing my daughters long ago and now I am telling myself that I do not have daughters, because I have not seen them since they were babies, they are now in their teens, I missed out on being a father and all I ever do is pay to spend time with the air! I am also sick and tired of being stuck in an RV at a shitty concentration camp style inland campground all of the time, because I can not afford to go places and have fun and also can not afford to move to a better RV place on the beach until I have my career and can buy a house because of child support! I am not one of your livestock to keep pinned up for you to use to allow women to live the lifestyles of the rich and famous just because they gave birth! I also have been going through changes since a few years ago and I am now a mtf transgender and don't need this annoying stress in my life anymore and the mothers have plenty of money, because their family members have plenty of money and the mothers even have new boyfriends that are being the fathers! I have been having to have a friend help me with child support off and on also, because the amount you charge me is too much and I cant even afford to support myself like other students at my university can and it is embarrassing! Drop my child support cases, or I will use my Space Studies knowledge to have them dropped and I will sue you on top of it! I don't want to pay these high school dropout loser women child support anymore! I will never have kids again and thank god I am no longer a man, for men indeed are used and disrespected extremely by women and our government!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 17th, 2016Someone from Findlay, OH writes:
I've been paying support for 8 years. I live in Ohio, they just did an administrative review and raised my support to over $900 per month. I make $12.50 an hour.. have to provide medical support of $90 a month if not providing insurance. I tried to provide insurance,but my ex wouldn't give me the kids SSNs and i couldn't obtain them without a birth certificate proving i was the father. I also have to pay $159.00 per month in arrears. Again, i make $12.50 an hour. How is this fair? There is zero chance i can afford to support myself in any way shape or form. I've had to move back in with my parents because of this.. im 32 years old. How can they take everything that i make from me and expect me to be homeless and not be able to do any thing with or for my children, or for myself?? I'm a burden to my parents because i cannot support myself. I am trying to appeal it and the child support agency is fighting me on that. My parents are helping me by getting me an attorney, but i just don't understand how this can even be legal.. this needs to change. I have to be able to survive. Her and i were married and both had them. It wasn't just me. But, ever since we split I'm the one who is punished again and again. I rarely get to see my kids and i never have any money to support myself. Haven't been able to even afford Christmas or birthday gifts the past 3 years. :-(REPORT COMMENTS
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