Unfair child support laws
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Aug 17th, 2016Someone from New Orleans, LA signed.
Aug 17th, 2016Someone from Brentwood, NY signed.
Aug 16th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformAug 16th, 2016Someone from Buffalo, NY signed.
Aug 16th, 2016Someone from Anaheim, CA writes:
Look at what happened today in the news with the district attorney in PA. Its overwhelming. More $ to lazy mothers less time with our children. My ex new husband said thanks to me for paying for his insurance.. What will happened if I beat his face into the ground?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 16th, 2016Someone from Centralia, IL signed.
Aug 16th, 2016Someone from Woodbridge, VA writes:
Too many women popping out babies for a paycheck! Most of them have babies they barely even want- just OUT OF SPITE! MAD AT THE FATHER, SO THEY USE THIS FAILPROOF SYSTEM AS REVENGE! They will continue to exploit this lopsided system for as long this country allows it! Hold women more accountable for not making every attempt to secure a reasonable, responsible, loving HUSBAND/FATHER for their child!!! Tell a man you're on birth control, have his kid, and collect $1200 a month for ONE child???? RIDICULOUS!!! REFORM!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 16th, 2016Someone from Rosedale, MD writes:
As a feminist and a divorced woman, I see that the laws are biased in favor of moms too. My ex and I negotiated our own amount because the state formula assumed that we were both profligate spenders and we are far more responsible. Most formulas actually support irresponsible spending! I have no problem at all with the custodial parent logging where the money goes.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 16th, 2016Someone from Murrieta, CA writes:
It's ridiculous how much this problem has become more of an issue that never gets fully resolved in our country.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 16th, 2016Someone from Maryland Heights, MO signed.
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Aug 16th, 2016Someone from Raleigh, NC writes:
I have always felt child support should be political. It is a crisis in America. No one wins in the way the current child support is set up. The man struggles financially because the system feels he can pay 1600 dollars in child support while taking home only 750. The child doesn't get to see his/her father because dad now has to work 2 jobs just to live while the mom is still bitter. No one wins. I am all about taken care of my children but why shld I have to take care of her? I have multiple kids one lives with her mom and she lives with her mom. She created a money order to make it seem like shes paying her mom (who she lives with) to watch my daughter and her mom signed off on it. She has money order receipts that you can buy from wal mart, saying she gives her "mom" that she "lives" with 400 dollars to watch our child. Everyone knows shes not giving her mother 400 to watch her grand daughter. My son is in daycare. the daycare is 760 and I am fully responsible for that. My oldest daughters mom told the judge she didn't think it was fair that my son's mom gets 760 so he gave her more. All in all over 1600 dollars and that doesn't include my son being on my insurance. For so long I've felt this system is designed to do just what its doing. Why would you make me pay so much money knowing I can't live off what your leaving me with. My younges daughter's mom wich is my ex wife won't let me take my daighter without her. I have to go to her moms house and spend time with her while they're there. So I have to pay to be able to get my daughter and bring her to my house to spend time with her. My parents seen my daughter twince and shes almost one because of this. Why do I have to pay someone for rights to be a physical father but make me pay too much in child support against my will. The system is creating single mothers. Its like its ok to have a child as a mother because the state will take care of her as well as making you take care of your ex regardless of what they may have done. Its not right. It has to change. its creating more problems then its helping. Oh an at the end of the year I can't claim my children on my taxes. So i get screwed on my taxes if I'm behind in rears my tax return goes to child support. child support is on my credit and the mom doesn't even have to have a job but she can claim the child or sale the child to be claimed. When I file a motion my oldest daughters mom quits her job and when thats over she gets another job. Someone out there has to be able to do something to fix this. I just want to be a father to my children and be able to live comfortably. I can't even spend time with them that much because when I get them I can't afford to feed them. The sad truthREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 16th, 2016Someone from Omaha, NE writes:
Forget the law for a second... It is pitiless how a lazy, cheating mother who refuses to better herself and her career is awarded such a huge chunk of my hard earned income and is not monitored on where that money goes. Let me tell you, it is not spent on our child. Not saying she should fend for herself, but my money should go to my child, not my child and my ex.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 16th, 2016Someone from Clearfield, PA writes:
I believe it now takes 2 people to bring income into a household. There are a lot of woman out there who take advantage of the system just so they can get a free ride. They should be mandated to work at least 20 hours a week to help support their child. They had their pants down willingly and need to take responsibility for their actions. There are so many programs out there that will help pay for child care so that is an excuse. I personally worked full-time and raised 4 children (all 2 years apart). If a man is expected to work to support his children then ALL WOMEN need to work to support their child too. The system is UNFAIR and corrupted. It encourages women to go around sleep with every man they come in contact with hoping to get pregnant so they can collect FREE MONEY while they sit on their rear end tapping away on Facebook to see who they can hook up with next.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 16th, 2016Someone from Columbus, OH writes:
Ohio has to be the worst when it comes to child support enforcement and giving women the ability to use the system for personal vandettas and not making women do something with their lives besides having babies and running downtownREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 16th, 2016Someone from Rocky Comfort, MO signed.
Aug 16th, 2016Someone from Rocky Comfort, MO writes:
My husbands ex has been on welfare since she took their son to another state. He turned 5 and she had another child with her live in boyfriend. My husband is paying for her to be a stay at home mom for a child that isn't his. I'm married and want kids. I work full time and we can barely pay bills. Do I get a bonus for being responsible...no.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 16th, 2016Someone from Waxahachie, TX signed.
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Aug 16th, 2016Someone from Panama City, FL writes:
Ive been payin child support for 3yrs..just last may my ex for me locked up..I.lost my job my only source of income.I have another family I support and I couldnt for 3monthes on a bogus charge I had to plead no contest to in order to get back to wrk..I.finaly get a job then get a letter sayin my license is suspended. Then the nxt week I have a court date for late child support that came in the mail..my ex works..she has a damn good job at corrections..so ive been thru all this crap and she will not.let me.see my kids..and this is nor the first time..every time she gets mad at me she takes my kids away..I didnt.see my son when he was first born for 3monthes..she moved while I was at wrk..wenever she get upset she takes them..even now..I sposed to pay child support for my two kids I cant even see cus she wont allow me to see them..this system is messed up..I wish the childsupport judge would set up the visitation too..REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 16th, 2016Someone from Dent, MN writes:
I have been paying child support. For 25 yrs. The mother has 5 other children by 2 different men. I am behind or owe arrears. Problem is my youngest is 19. I did support my kids just not through the system. Both of my kids are not close to their mother. I could go into rants about this and that. I won't! Most of us probably have the same issue. I had my children most of their lives. The burden was upon me to get custodial papers etc. Changed. Problem is when I lose $750 per month to child support as well as dealing with revoked driving privledges . I can't afford to support my current family. I have asked for support reduction but can't get anywhere without being able to hire an attorney for $3000 up front. (Seriously). I love my kids but child support is out of control. My girls are married(1) and the other is in college (I now have a loan for). I just want to puke knowing she is getting all that $$ for herself. Sad! Please help the parent that is actually trying and those that by the fault of the other sex (male or female [most likely]) just keep getting hosed.....REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 15th, 2016Someone from Three Forks, MT writes:
I pay child support for a kid I never see. The mom came out to my state got a paternity test and then headed back to Wenatchee. She is now living back with the guy that she cheated on me with while I send em a check every month and some other guy plays dad. Im a father to a 8 year old boy that I have full time. I don't get child support from the mom because she is a drunkard. I work full time and am still falling behind trying support my own family. I think there has to be something done to add to the fairness and equality as human beings. I mean after all my life matters too damnit! And I don't sit on my*****collecting money that I didn't earn. She should pay me for my awesome sperm!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 15th, 2016Someone from Grand Haven, MI signed.
Aug 15th, 2016Someone from East Liverpool, OH writes:
I have just started child support also and it's messed up because my ex told them that she has never worked a day in her life and I even have hemophilia yet they denied me all my requests. I even told them I have major health issues and they blew it off like I was some peace of garbage. People fight and brake up everyday. They just need to be a little more equal and make both parents work but the absent parent should still have to pay a percentage.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 15th, 2016Someone from Franklin, TN writes:
I pay $1004 a month for two children that I get to see every other weekend while their mother works part time minimum wage and pays nothing.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 15th, 2016Someone from Houston, TX writes:
I truly believe this is a very unfair system. I see the struggles my husband goes through and it is so hard to watch. I think the healthiest thing for a child is to have equal access to both natural parents (of course they should each meet a certain criteria because I know there are some who are undeserving of rights). However, I feel like the court systems lean away from that for the sake of justifying child support orders. And just as much as I can acknowledge that there are deadbeat dads, I can assure you there are women who abuse the system and see their children as nothing more than a source of income. I will never have an issue with providing for my step-son, my issues are when there is nothing monitored on the mom's side....not standards that she has to meet, and then the game of "you can't see him outside of the rights given to you in the divorce decree"....that ONLY hurts the child. Again, my husband is a wonderful guy and terrific father, and I know there are guys out there who are not, so my opinion is for those who are out there working hard and taking care of their children....I feel the rights to the kids need to be more equal in those situations!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 15th, 2016Someone from Round Lake, IL signed.
Aug 15th, 2016Someone from Taylorsville, NC writes:
I keep losing everything I have while her 5hings keep getting Nicer and more expensive hasn't worked a day in her life just sit back and collects..Don't get me wrong I'll support my kids butt I shouldn't have to suffer And.my family shouldn't have to sufferREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 15th, 2016Someone from Springfield, VA signed.
Aug 14th, 2016Someone from Winterville, GA writes:
I can't get a divorce to set free my cheating wife because I can't afford the child support . What get a divorce and can't afford it so I can go to jail and not pay anything .REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 14th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 14th, 2016Someone from Dayton, OH writes:
My husband has shared parenting with his ex wife of there daughter, she's an alcoholic and doesn't work and he pays her child support every month even though they have her equal time. So now, he pays her and then we get her and have to pay for her more. We pay full time even though the time is split in halfREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 14th, 2016Someone from Lanett, AL writes:
When I first got put on cs I went in front of the judge with all my receipts for taking care of my child. The judge told me that's just a gift. So from that day forward i have been in the hole of a lot of back support. Someone tell me how you can owe more interest than actual support. Kids are grown with kids and I am still paying back time and will never pay it off unless i hit the lottery. A man doesn't stand a chance from the beginning.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 14th, 2016Someone from Dayton, OH signed.
Aug 13th, 2016Someone from Farmington, MN signed.
Aug 13th, 2016Someone from Fort Walton Beach, FL writes:
I am a mother of 2. I work 6 days a week to make ends meet for my children. My ex husband has not paid in over 3 yrs and in the past year has been let go of paying 2 purges that he was issued to pay. The court ruled that he had to pay and then both times turned around when he got arrested and released him the next day saying that the purge was no longer valid. The second time he was able to show a letter where he broke a finger and it stated he could not work, they now have suspended any child support payments he has to make. Please tell me how a broken finger allows you to no longer work. Last time I checked you could still flip burgers with one hand. Our system is SO screwed up and something needs to be done bad. How our some dads run through the mill for missing one payment but others seem to get a free pass for not paying.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 13th, 2016Someone from Palos Heights, IL writes:
My husband has a 10yr old HT only lived with foot the first 6 months out her life. He was never married to the mother. She is now married with a 5yr old from her husband. The father and I are now married with 3 other children of our own. The 10yr olds mother stays at home all day, doesn't work and collects child support to support herself. Did I mention she also has her master's degree! My husband and I can barely make ends meet. We've been on and off state benefits to help support our own children. Yet, this well educated woman gets to sit around, not working and living off of us.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 13th, 2016Someone from Phenix City, AL signed.
Aug 13th, 2016Someone from Mission, TX writes:
I am a mother who receives child support but I work my*****off to give my kids what they deserve. I get upset when my husbands ex wife doesn't use her child support wisely, spends it on her self. Her Kids always come asking for school stuff, clothes, ect. I don't mind sometimes. It just gets me upset that she does not work or does her part to give them things to her kids. Besides getting child support, medicaid, food stamp, and housing. I mean she is living on the goverment. There is nothing wrong with her that permits her from working. I think the goverment sometimes doesn't see what we see. How could they, they don't go throught the struggles we do. When I go to the store I think and use my money wisely then I see other families with two carts filled with food and junk food and what do they pay with food stamps. I mean common....really we work , we pay taxes, while other people that don't do much get to eat better than the working people.REPORT COMMENTS
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