Unfair child support laws
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Oct 14th, 2012Someone from Mansfield, OH signed.
Oct 14th, 2012Someone from Toms River, NJ writes:
i received a court order 2 years ago terminating arrears on my child support as they were paid in full. 2 years went by and everything was o.k. then I started a new job and the CSEA of richland county ohio started garnishing my check again bypassing the courts and using an old expired court order from years ago to collect arrears that were paid to the clerk of courts.I called the CSEA of richland county of ohio and talked to the supervisor (mrs. hopkins) and told her what she was doing is illegal committing fraud, contempt of court order, illegal use of my SS# as well as other violations. Mrs. Hopkins told me that she never received any payments. I told her to look at the court order, and look at the court records that the payments were paid through the courts and it's not my responsibility where the money goes after that. Mrs. Hopkins said she don't care what the court order or the courts say, she's garnishing my paycheck anyway, illegally or not. I sent letters to the CSEA of Ohio, the Federal CSEA and The Ohio government and got no response.They know I can't afford a lawyer and the legal aid says I'm not qualified for legal representation. Thia agency is very corrupt and someone needs to go to prison for it.Oct 14th, 2012Someone from London, KY signed.
Oct 13th, 2012Someone from Chattanooga, TN writes:
There are so many better solutions than what we have now. Lets get out of the dark ages.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 13th, 2012Someone from Bedford, OH writes:
I can't believe that there is not more on this subject. child support is not a good system someone really need to take a look at how this system is set up. I do not have a problem with paying child support, but they take so much money from me that I am barely able to support myself. They put to much strain on the obligor usually the men. I feel like I am being oppressed.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 12th, 2012Someone from Jackson, AL signed.
Oct 12th, 2012Someone from Wellesley Island, NY writes:
I pay my child support, I also spend more time with my son that his mother does. I have no problem paying to support my child but three times now when i get a part time job the state garnishes those checks as well even though i have a credit with them from paying too much. All this does is make me look bad to my new employer when i call to ask if it can be stopped they say i have no choice its all through a computer.I am a responsible parent and new york state is hurting me by doing this when i have done over and above everything that they have asked.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 12th, 2012Someone from Dallas, TX signed.
Oct 12th, 2012Someone from Ogden, UT writes:
I make $20 an hour...the ex doesn't have a job, but instead lets her husband who makes triple what I do, support her. Therefore, my $20 an hour goes down to about $13 an hour once my $800 a month for child support comes out and I provide the health insurance. I work my tail off and I am the one responsible for 75% of my kids financial support, but she can sit on her*****and not do a damn thing. What if I were to sit on my ass? I would be shunned and considered a deadbeat dad, but its all good. She can afford a 2012 Maxima, a brand new $250,000 home, and goes on family trips whenever she wants. I'm driving a vehicle 1/5th the value of hers, live paycheck to paycheck, and my wife and I have a child due in May that I can't even be excited about because we are broke. If i get a part-time job I get hit up for even more support. Does this seem right to anyone????REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 12th, 2012Someone from Guys Mills, PA signed.
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Oct 11th, 2012Someone from Dallas, TX signed.
Oct 11th, 2012Someone from Lehighton, PA writes:
I'm in the middle of a early stage separation and divorce. I'm also currently in a chapter 13 bankruptcy. My wife and I have agreed upon what is essentially 50-50 custody, yet the support calculators are indicating I'm going to be hit for in excess of $800 per month for our 2 children at a minimum!! I cannot afford to keep my house (so my kids have a place to sleep when they are with me half of the time) AND pay out all this money so she can work part time BY CHOICE and live in the 3 bedroom apartment she has moved into. She left when I wasn't around and I wasn't afforded the opportunity to say "the kids stay here with me". How is it that I should have to essentially pay for her to continue living the lifestyle she has gotten used to while I may have to end up in a shabby apartment or worse, with nowhere for my kids to sleep when they are with me?? This would simply facilitate her going for full custody citing this exact thing as the reason - yet the child support laws, as unfair as they are are the ones that have driven me into this. How is it that fathers who wish to actively be involved in their children's lives are punished because of these incredibly unfair laws?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 11th, 2012Someone from Brookhaven, PA signed.
Oct 11th, 2012Someone from El Paso, TX signed.
Oct 10th, 2012Someone from Tampa, FL signed.
Oct 10th, 2012Someone from Shelton, WA writes:
Im a fair mother husband ordered to pay but I do not make him we have 50/50 My current husbands ex demands support and is getting it in NC after ignoring her son for 13 yrs he wanted to get to know his mom...now after having him for a yr she gets support...she never paid my husband a dime in 13 yrs....we wont be able to afford food for ourselves not to mention in NC they dont take stepparents income so she gets to sit on her a$$ while her husband makes 4000 a mo get w/s/g and.electric paid and geys 750 a month off us....please help us ALL of us...REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 10th, 2012Someone from Cleveland, OH signed.
Oct 10th, 2012Someone from Abingdon, MD writes:
I firmly believe in sharing the expense of suppoorting a child that you both joined in creating, however the system for support calculations is flawed. Not ever situation can be appleid to a cookie cutter form and have a just amount determined. Each situation is diverse and distinct and should be revied by an authority member with each side allowed to plead their case. The full time earning of each parent would not be considered inappropriate when used by consideration by anyone. When you start to consider additional income like the overtime that a party must work to pay for their obligations already owed then the system injures those parties who accept the responsibilities of a parent but are overly burdened by the system that restricts every cent they work for. Someone in the political realm needs to take a stand and assist the antiquated system that grants almost elclusive custody to the mother and have each dispute settled fairly without bias and with the understanding that there is an acceptable level of support due to the child without overly burdening the life of the non-custodial parent.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 10th, 2012Someone from Killeen, TX signed.
Oct 10th, 2012Someone from Saint Robert, MO signed.
Oct 10th, 2012Someone from Martinsburg, WV signed.
Oct 10th, 2012Someone from Martinsburg, WV signed.
Oct 9th, 2012Someone from Pontiac, MI writes:
I can barely survive. I pay full health and life insurance for my son I also put away college money but with this unfair judgement I am not able to put much away and the courts will not even recognize it my son is 2 i was ordered to pay $401 dollars a month for him I supply and of his needs clothing and everything else what is a 2 year old going to do with $400 a month. Then they tell me it's to help with the cost of living his moms rent is $73 lights and gas are a total of $125 a month sometimes less even if I paid her rent and utility bills it still wouldn't equal $401REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 9th, 2012Someone from Galena, KS signed.
Oct 9th, 2012Someone from Blountville, TN writes:
For those saying women need to be hit with these laws. in TN we are. I was foolish at age 21 and allowed my estranged husband to con me into letting his mother have temp custody of our 2 children. Life spiraled out of control and we seperated, since then the courts won't claim jurisdiction for me to file for custody. My estranged husband went to jail for 6 yrs for rape of a child, and has been out of jail since DEC 2011.In the meantime, I lost my job after the state suspended my license, and i spent 10 days in jail. Once again I lost a job and have been unemployed 5 mths, but have a work at home job starting in two weeks. However,I will probably be in jail and miss out on that opportunity to start paying my $500 mth child support. [also my payments are $500 a mth , which left me with $60 a week once it was taken out at my previous job. They refused to reevaluate my support amt unless i petitioned the court - which I couldn't afford to do] My estranged husband has made 2 payments in 10 years totalling to $340, yet I am the one about to go to jail, not him. So don't tell me Child Support doesnt enforce on women they are just as cruel and uncaring to us women who TRY to do the right thing, no matter how impossibly hard they make it. I also hold the custodial parents to blame- seems they get to help make the decisions on who the court goes after.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 9th, 2012Someone from Scranton, PA signed.
Oct 9th, 2012Someone from Lake Ariel, PA signed.
Oct 9th, 2012Someone from Belleville, IL signed.
Oct 9th, 2012Someone from Tunkhannock, PA signed.
Oct 9th, 2012Someone from Scranton, PA signed.
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Oct 9th, 2012Someone from Glen Burnie, MD writes:
W. Settles, MD; DC stated child support in 1994 for one child $345.00 per month, prior to that for two years I was paying on my own until my ex decided that she need more money and file child support. For 19 years my support was coming out of my check on time every two weeks and my son was on my medical plan. In 2008 my son join the Army Reserved and love it, in August 2011 my son was kill in an auto accident he was 20 years of age. I notifed the courts and provided them with the death certificate. One months later I had retired from working and started working and a contractor job in March 2011. Soon after working on my new job I had a deduction coming out of my retirement check and contract check totaling $960.00 dollars. I contact the HR department and they say it was for back child support rears. I explan that I dont owe any back payments nor notified by the court that i did. So I contract the courts and sent them a letter. They responded back stating that I owe $8500.00 in back payments. I also inform DC that started the child support that the State of Alabama where the mother live have started to take the same amount on me at the same time. I ask DC child support to investigate and they refused to get back with me. On this date I have been paying back support for over one year for a total of $8950.00 and it still coming out. I have question on wether I owe or not. DC have not giving me any documentation on owing back child support. I see i will have to sue the stated and DC in federal court to get my answer and over payments.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 9th, 2012Someone from Canton, MS writes:
The current child support laws are so unfair to the non-custodial parent (usually the male), totally one sided. Why can the woman sit at home like she had just won the lottery and live off the money from child support and don't do anything?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 9th, 2012Someone from Bartow, FL signed.
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Oct 8th, 2012Someone from Queensbury, NY writes:
Women should have to work and pay there end too! Sitting home and collecting child support is not in the best intrerest of the child.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 8th, 2012Someone from Jacksonville, FL writes:
Child Support isn't bad; its how it?s used and calculated makes it bad. I serve in the United States Navy. I have 2 lovely children. I pay 60 percent of my check plus a car note for the next 3 yrs. I barely have enough for myself and when I have my children I barely can do anything with them that cost money. I can only afford housing if I have a roommate to make ends meet and on top of that My 2 children have to sleep in the same bedroom I sleep in while their JOBLESS mother sits home ONLY goes to school because my child support is helping them survive I am here struggling to make sure that happens. I had barely even talked about child care cost. If I have to start paying child care cost I won?t have a car to pick them anymore and probably would have to give up some type of Utility in the house whether it be cable or internet which I use with my kids when we are home. The judge looked at my month income before taxes and established a child support payment plan not considering what I actually make after taxes then on top of that I can?t even clam child support in my taxes. The child system needs to be reinvente!!!!. People who pay child support can only pay child support if we can survive ourselves. It would even make us feel a little better if we knew our money was going in our children?s account and not their mothers. Mothers who earn child support abuse it so much by thinking they can live off of it and not work. How can I be a dad to my children if I don?t have means of transportation to get them or have a place for them because I have to live in my car? How can anyone who works for the services, especially a judge not see this? The calculations are so unjust! When I was married to my ex wife I wasn?t spending a thousand dollar a month to my kid so he can be well in life, why does that change after the split? If a mother can?t work and support her child why can?t we( the working parent) automatically be awarded our own children until she can support herself and children? (This pertains to either genders or whoever is the child support payer) and when she does find a job the judge then should be able to come up with a child support that?s reasonable. I really hope that this petition makes it through and we can all see a change. For all those child support payers BRAVO ZULU hang in there and pray. GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 8th, 2012Someone from Canal Fulton, OH writes:
exe wife (doesnt work) has a husband who doesnt work plus her brother and sister (both above 18) who don't work living with her and my 2 daughters meanwhile I have custody of our son and don't have the money to get his prescriptions. I called CSEA about this and the comment from them is "this isnt our problem"REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 8th, 2012Someone from Morgantown, WV writes:
unfair in when you try to pay your support and the parent that collects tells childsupport that they dont want the support and the agency sends back your money then 11years go by then the parent decides that they want it and the court rules in their favor after 11 years i am stuck paying back 11yrs worth of support and have not seen my child since she was 4yrs old and i have page after page of proof and no one wants to take a look at the paper work now that in unfairREPORT COMMENTS
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