Unfair child support laws
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Sep 13th, 2013Someone from Denison, TX signed.
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Sep 13th, 2013Someone from Talent, OR writes:
I am continually appalled at the amount that wages are garnished when a mother can go forward remarry and have another income and child suppport and her own if she works. Meanwhile a father struggles to make ends meet with their wages garnished at 25% or more. It is appalling to me that a father has to suffer on what he can provide housing wise for his childrens visits while the child support division had become a form of general "welfare" payments to single mothers. Things need to change the stipualtions for parents to have as much counseling as it takes for them to get along and co-parent. But the fathers paying their court ordered support? SHOULD NOT be punished for the ones that shirk their responsibility. It needs reformation for sure.Sep 13th, 2013Someone from Lawndale, CA signed.
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Sep 12th, 2013Someone from Cleveland, OH writes:
What happen to the shame and blame days where one ashame to have a child out of wedlock, and child support was awarded through a divorce. Now it's a way to get a check for reproducing, if you are unable to care for the child give custody to the father or relative, but do not use a child to produce income for your lack of better judgment . If child support was only awarded through a divorce, there would be decline in the number of single mothers !! It use to be the only time a man fathered a child or children without their mother was if she had passed.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 12th, 2013Someone from Fond Du Lac, WI writes:
I definitely believe the child support system is one sided and does not take the father's or non custodial parent's living situation at all. My ex and child support raised my child support even though I am currently living on welfare and that is all I have to support my new wife and daughter. They basically told me I still have the ability to earn minimum wage full time job. The problem is the economy in the area I live in is scare for full time jobs, even part time jobs . How is this fair when my ex only works 2 days (part days) a week and has the option to work full time at the bank and my family is in poverty?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 11th, 2013Someone from Saint Charles, MO writes:
I have the kids 1/2 the time (ex 7 days out of 14 days the kids are with me) and pay 1,100 per month. Is this amount being used on my kids. I can tell you defiantly not. In the state of missouri, you have to pay child support until age 21. I thought individuals became adults at age 18. The can join the military and defend our country, but are considered children when it comes to child support. Also in missouri, you have to pay half the college cost. I don't have a problem paying for college, but to be told by the court is just wrong and based on my ex's spending habits, there will only be 1 parent paying our children's college expenses.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 11th, 2013Someone from Inglewood, CA writes:
All this is designed to make money not to be fair. As long as they have the broke down Paracites that are willing to let the welfare system pimp there own children, then the Big pimps Will Keep Pimp'n Too bad that the EX 's can't realize that !,becuase they are too buisy trying to destroy there children's absent parent. The welfare uses our broken family to make money. N it's not about the kids. All of us who pay , We! Know that our kid$ do Not get what the welfare takes from us ... Blood money! Hey. All of you who read these blogs. Need to see why we are being robbed and denied our rights as parents n as humans n why it keeps happening. It's all legal for the welfare to rob us ! N keep 85% of what they take n also receive a 2$ incentive for every 1$ they take from us. Basically you get 800$ takin per month by fresno co but Fresno co got 2,400$ at the end. That's why they destroy the working parent. They will not get anything from the X. They are incompetent n they need welfare n they think welfare is doing them justice but in reality the welfare is using there kid$ to MAKE money. I owe arrears ? How ! I got every garnished check stub???? I owe 26,000$ Now ! It's gone down That still rings in my mind , how we were called" Whiners". We are being Robbed n placed into slavery n debt to pay the broke counties. That's why in most cases they leave the custody to the broke down TRASH ! So the welfare can have a reason to rob us under the legal term " childsupport ". the Counties Are the Golddiggers. N soul robbers. N the Law backs them up. All the way. Some one has to pay for all those welfare workers n judges. N there fancie offices. Why is it that the childsupport division is so big n updated. Not for the kid$ !!!! I know , becuase I still sent my boys money to get by. Welfare loves our money n will keep us as slaves. Even if we are in a wheelchair or disabled n they will take you spouces money too. They are Pigs! Using our kid$. N calling it childsupport !!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 11th, 2013Someone from El Paso, TX writes:
My brother has supported his son.. and now he lives with him but they keep denying his petition for modification of changes circumstances. so basicly he is supporting his son double. she receives a check and he does not even live with her and no one wants to help him in this matter yes it is unfairREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 11th, 2013Someone from Lancaster, TX writes:
I am a mother who pays her child support and works, the father is in jail and never paid a dime. Currently I live with my significant other and he pays child support as well to his son. But the mother of his child hasn't worked in 5 years and still refuses to work. My boyfriend sends out $800 a month for his son and have never missed a payment. He works 60 hours a week and still has time to go to his sons ball games and be involved in his school, but for some odd reason the mother still says that she needs him to pay for his baseball and uniforms, equipment and all other needs. And you know what he does because he loves his son. But back to the odd statement, she receives $800 a month, and when we get his son during visitation he is always in clothes 2x small, dirty, torn, and pretty much falling apart. Yet when we see her she has a new coach purse, new clothes, new everything. His son suffers with her and when he is with us he is treated very well. It's ridiculous she gets away with this. Personally I believe shes's a "gold-digger". She cheated on my significant other and married another after getting pregnant 3 months after she met her now new husband. He's now seeing the problem as well, and divorcing her. But their should be a law passed where the woman who received child support should also work as well! If you can make a baby with the man then you can tango a job as well. Women like that give every other hard working woman a bad name.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 11th, 2013Someone from Westwego, LA signed.
Sep 11th, 2013Someone from Hanford, CA writes:
women should not be able to use "I am going to school" as an excuse not to help support her own children. Especially if that women has a degree or certificate of some sort already.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 11th, 2013Someone from Downey, CA signed.
Sep 10th, 2013Someone from Celina, TN writes:
It should be mandatory that women receiving child support should keep financial records of expenses and be audited at any time.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 10th, 2013Someone from Pasco, WA signed.
Sep 10th, 2013Someone from Inglewood, CA writes:
225,000$$$ is how much has been takin from my paychecks for two boys that the mother took off with n already had Welfare foodstamps n an apartment set up in a different county While we still lived together. You call people whining! My obligated amount was from the birth of the case till last December was only 97,000$. We fathers n Mothers are being robbed n ALL our rights takin away. Sounds like you Never had it as bad as meny of us .... For you to call these people " " "Whining". Tells it all !you didn't have over 100,000$ and sum takin from you n you didn't have to work 3 jobs to get by. Or work over 125 hrs per week. N if you did then you would under stand where WE are coming from. here's the worst part. My kids never seen or my X never seen 1/4 of that money! It's easy to be a spectator n watch n comment from the side lines. As meny of US already know. It's NOT about the kids. It's about the money. The insentive they get for each dollar they take from US, Research what this is about Before you comment with calling people Whining!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 10th, 2013Someone from Plano, TX writes:
I feel there should also be a law that requires the parent who has main custody of the kids to allow the other parent to see their kids, or at least talk with them on the phone to actually attain the child support. My soon to be husband has spend several nights trying to figure out how he can even afford to take care of kids he can't even hear the voices of. I've heard both sides of the story and I don't see how she can keep what is equally his away from him. Too many tear-filled nights have been spend figuring out how to get this justified than what needs to be.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 10th, 2013Someone from Lake Zurich, IL writes:
I am a single mom of 2 kids now 19 and 21 years old. I was married to the father of my children for 11 years and in a relationship with him for over 15 years. He moved out because he "fell in love" with a coworker. I made a more than decent living, never on welfare. Anyhow, all these whining people about paying child support. 2 nd wives complaining about their husband supporting their children. I find it sad that these people only see their side and don't give a******about their kids. Expenses: housing, electric, gas, garbage, water, food, clothing, educational expenses, a car to drive them around, baby sitting (for the many times you can't seem to pick up kids on your weekend). When I got divorced I could have moved in with many different people and paid $400 a month rent, if I did not have kids. With kids I was forced to find a 3 bedroom (condo) because DCFS requires each different sex child have their own room( I have a boy and girl). My exhusband got married to his skank and had a baby, they would not cooperate with the law and show his income annually. Anyhow this skank has not worked in 9 years, and they always crab about how broke they are, while on facebook they show pictures of trips to Italy and golfing outings with famous people ($300 per ticket). I know there are guys truly broke from child support and it sucks, but if you loved the mother and lived with the children, you would do it. Part of the problem is these stupid women who get involved with men with children. The children were there when you met him, you knew he had to support them. Women need to stop being so selfish and realize that a man needs to take care of his responsibilities and not work so that you can sit on your fat*****and cry about how you married a man with a past.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 10th, 2013Someone from New Haven, IN writes:
I am a mother that receives child support and I strongly believe something has to be done to change the child support laws. The support I receive is very little when compared to what my husband pays for his support. My order was put in place when my ex was not working. That was 8 years ago and I have not requested a modification because I don't feel that I should hound him for money because if he pays or not, my daughter will still be taken care of. It is my job as a mother to support her as well. Its not all up to my ex to provide for her. I would be fine with $20/wk because she still has what she needs. She sees her father every weekend and he still buys her things outside of his support obligation. My husband has two support cases that leave us practically broke. He was recently denied a modification because the judge said there was not a 20% change in income. When his original order was put in, he was single and living at home with his mother with no bills. He's now married and we have a child together, and he is the sole provider for our family but that wasn't taken into consideration. It just isn't fair that the mother doesn't have to work and is on welfare and the father has to pay. What my state is saying to me is my child that I have with my husband doesn't matter, us having a roof over our head doesn't matter, having food in our house doesn't matter, making car payments on time doesn't matter. Well it does. I'm not saying that he (or any non-custodial parent) shouldn't pay support but what I am saying is that it shouldn't be so high. Women should not be allowed to just sit around and do nothing and the father is required to provide her with a comfortable living. It is a two way street. In reference to my situation it thinks its absolutely ridiculous that my husband is not allowed to see his daughter but or sons because of the mothers spite so he isn't given any parenting time credit. It's just crazy. Where are the laws that protect men against women who are using welfare and child support as a crutch? Something has to be done. My family and children deserve to have a decent living just like his other children do. Women should be forced to do just as much as they are making these men do to meet their child support obligations. I hear so many women say "I didn't make this baby by myself" you're right and since you didn't the father should have to pay by his self. It's time for a change!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 10th, 2013Someone from Culpeper, VA writes:
I was in virginia beach courts for trail yesterday. My Daughter was born on Sept 20. 2012 she kepte from her until she was 7 months old until the lawyer for my daughter came into play. Mothers words to me before we're "You pay then you see her" I said I have no problem paying when court sets the child support. So finally after all the work I've done by my lawyers request for 3 half months went to trial. She was awarded full custody because we love 203 miles away and my daughter beds a primary home. Then the courts for child support shot me thought the roof. This is crazy and something needs to be done. We are just as much as of parents as the mother. Dads seems to have nothing in favor by the virginia court systems! Thanks for listening to my story.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 9th, 2013Someone from Dorsey, IL signed.
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Sep 8th, 2013Someone from Coram, NY writes:
Child support is meant for the children but the men/woman use it on themselves. Instead of having the parent pay into the rip off system the court should take 1/2 of the monies each month apply it into a custodial account. When the child is of age and no longer to receive child support give the child the funds that is and was meant for him...NOT...to the parent that had no intentions of using in the child.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 8th, 2013Someone from Philadelphia, PA writes:
Child support laws in the U.S. hold a strong gender bias against men. A woman has multiple ways of shirking her responsibility as a parent(abortion, adoption, leaving baby at hospital/firestation) NO QUESTIONS ASKED! Yet a man is always held accountable for his responsibilty, whether he is ready to be a parent or not. Child support does nothing to help fathers and their children maintain healthy meaningful relationships, but it has everything to do with making mother hellbent on vengance happy and satisfied. THE LAWS MUST CHANGE BY ANY MEANS NECCESSARY. WHAT COULD THE COURTS DO IF WE ALL JUST STOPPED PAYING?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 8th, 2013Someone from Waupun, WI writes:
I would like to say it isn't always the woman getting the free ridet. I left my husband after 14 years of abuse. We have 50/50 placement of our only child. He has 4 other children from previous relationships, which he doesn't support. He currently owes roughly $20,000 in arrears. He is currently receiving social security disability, a social security supplement for our daughter. food stamps, and is on both Medicare and Medicaid. At our temporary hearing, he was given "exclusive use" of our family home. He also has two trucks that are paid for. I was given nearly all of our debt and the car that still had a lien on it. In addition, I am paying him nearly half of my wages between child support and spousal support. So, this evil man has it made and doesn't have to work for any of it while I bust my butt for nothing. I feel I am rewarding my abuser. I also don't understand how he can receive all of this financial support when he is not meeting his obligations! The law needs to change. The entire situation should be examined rather than using an antiquated formula. Allowing both parents to survive is in the best interest of the children.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 8th, 2013Someone from Overton, TX signed.
Sep 7th, 2013Someone from Sebastopol, CA writes:
how am I suppose to live with 500 every two weeks ,300 goes to child support ,with seizure, I choose to work cause it make me feel good, even many time I spilt my head open at work , but how can I survive on 200 or less?REPORT COMMENTS
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Sep 6th, 2013Someone from Hanover, PA writes:
I'm in the military. My wife left me for a guy who was on house arrest (you can't make this up) while I was deployed. We have two children. She moved out. We got a divorce. Now I pay $1450 per month in child support. My lawyer informed me that PA did not care why you were getting a divorce. They would just ensure that I paid child support based on their formula. So I pay the CS, plus, when I'm not deployed, the children are with me every other week. Thus, I am paying support to her and still paying for food, shelter, and clothing while they are with me. The courts like to state "in the best interest of the child". But if one divorced couple makes $200,000 a year and another divorced couple makes $50,000 per year, the children with the first couple gets to have a better standard of living than the children of the second couple. Why not have a set amount for costs associated to house, feed, and cloth a child. Then that amount is used for every child no matter how much money anyone makes.REPORT COMMENTS
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Sep 5th, 2013Someone from Macon, GA writes:
This woman works for Geico, Lied in court on her position, Told the court just make him pay Day Care, The prosecutor(Georgia Department of Human Services) (Special Assistant Attorney General J. Robert Sykes) argued her request , and still nailed me to $900.00 a month for a 2 year old at the Time, I had already explained I added Health Insurance, made my daughter my Beneficiary,changed her last name, gave her mother Cash on several occasions, supported her living arrangements, anyway i could ,I Explain to the Child Support about my Brothers Death(Died of Brain Cancer)the same year my Daughter was born, who left 3 girls, who my mother(who doesn't work ,due to her health) has custody of his oldest High school sophomore, who I also find myself obligated to her welfare. I try and help out when I can, I live in sub par housing with visible mice, and she resides with her Mother ,Has Purchased a new Car, and I don't see where 900 a month is going towards my Daughter, I encouraged my Daughter I teach her right and wrong, I go by her school just to see her sometimes...Georgia states that my Gross is 3,400,monthly, by which i gave them My Obligations of yearly Taxes,Student Loans,(over 72,000) trying to gas and go to work, my sub par living conditions, I've lived a Year 1/2 since the order was ruled,without heat, no Gas, no stove, faulty electrical wiring, my Gross isn't gross in my line of work, my sales are commission, and based upon my companies Guidelines if you(the customer) doesn't keep our services for the vesting period the company has set, that's an immediate charge back on the very next commission check, which causes a back lash of trying to work legitimately...It makes me want to give up! I'm crazy for thinking I'm doing right,by struggling to pay this support order and this Child support process in Georgia is so unfair, the Subpoena states this, The Plaintiff "The Georgia Department Of Human Services,ex.rel., Janiyah McKenzie Jones(a 2 year old) has filed a Complaint in the Superior Court of Bibb County, Georgia alleging that you(me) have refused and neglected to provide adequate support for your minor(which i have no legal custodial rights)for whose support you are legally responsible and Chargeable)" this hurts, looks like a pre-wrote letter in general addressing anybody that falls prey to this process, and we all will be treated as DeadBeats, regardless of a true investigation of the child's welfare...where is this process balanced even fair to the child's up bringing because its drawing me away just because I cant afford to do anything but work to try and make my living arrangements a little better, however I cant after taxes, Student Loans, Gas prices, Water bill, Late rent every month, I don't see how its possible!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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