Unfair child support laws
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Sep 27th, 2013Someone from Maywood, IL signed.
Sep 27th, 2013Someone from Ninety Six, SC writes:
Child support is a ridiculous system and needs to be reformed. The system can take over half of a parent's earnings which in turn is given to lazy individuals who never use the funds for its intention, the care of the children. The money is instead used for luxuries that the guardian wants, not things that the household needs. I have seen the children of those being given child support in rags when I know that the guardian, (A) has his own company and (B) receives a check of $1,000 a month from the mother and father of these children. By the way I am not a person who pays, I get to see first hand the stress and physical toll it takes on people close to me who are upstanding individuals and I constantly get to see them with nothing, not even a proper roof over their heads because of this messed up system. And those of you who run this system wonder why men send you letters informing you that they have killed themselves or about to. It's because you have already taken any kind of life they could possibly have from them and given them a reason to despise their own flesh and blood and they don't know how to handle it anymore.Sep 27th, 2013Someone from Chillicothe, OH signed.
Sep 26th, 2013Someone from Harris, MN signed.
Sep 26th, 2013Someone from East Hartford, CT writes:
I find it unfair that I am Disabled due to mental illnesses, and my ex-fiance is married, doesn't have to work, her husband makes a lot of money, and they go on vacations all the time. In my original "contract" the person heading the case switched mine and hers yearly gross incomes. I was supposed to be paying $560 a month to support our daughter while at the time I just lost my job and was unemployed. The system so favors woman over men. I feel like I'll never get ahead in life while her and her husband live it up with my daughter taking in the extra money they don't even need that I need to live. It's not that I don't love my daughter. Before the court order, I was sending money up when I could. Sometimes it wasn't a ton, but it's what I could do. I just wish things were different.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 26th, 2013Someone from Woodhaven, NY signed.
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Sep 26th, 2013Someone from Minoa, NY writes:
The law is sick making me work 70 hours a week causing me more harm between me and my girls than good and my ex lives right down the road with her parents we have split custody. I feel like innocent man sentenced to prison. We have no rights as fathers and child support laws almost push dads to be scum its disgustingREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 25th, 2013Someone from San Jacinto, CA signed.
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Sep 24th, 2013Someone from Atwater, CA writes:
When my ex and I divorced we decided on 50/50 custody and I never asked for child support. I think the system in California is utterly ridiculous! If a custodial parent wants more money then they need to get a better job, plain and simple! They should not be allowed to mooch off the non-custodial parent, especially when their is a 50/50 visitation schedule! Custodial parents should be required to get and maintain a good paying job just like welfare!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 24th, 2013Someone from Coachella, CA signed.
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No, CancelSep 24th, 2013Someone from South Fulton, TN writes:
this would help out big time..if both parents worked together to support child..REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 24th, 2013Someone from Hoboken, NJ writes:
I am stuck paying very high child support and I have been lucky enough to remain employed and continue to pay. Yet I am constantly harassed by Ex., that what I provide does not enable her an upper middle class lifestyle. meanwhile, she refuses to work (has a masters in teaching from Ivy League) and can simply ride the gravy train. I cannot get a picture of how the money is being spent, but hear from my sons constantly that they need new clothes or sneakers. When i ask why Ex is not providing, they are told to go ask their father for the money... system currently favors women and is punitive towards fathers. There has to be some stipulation (my sons are 16,18,19... and yes I am stuck paying through college and paying for college) that the Custodial parent must make the effort to shoulder his/her share. The contents of the documents I signed indicated that i would be providing my "share" not the whole nut and then be asked continually to provide more... simply disgustingREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 24th, 2013Someone from Schoharie, NY writes:
have been disabled from 07 judge will not change order i get 650.00 per month they are taking 105.80 per monthREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 24th, 2013Someone from Union City, TN signed.
Sep 24th, 2013Someone from Murfreesboro, TN writes:
I fully agree, women these days have taken full advantage of the situation and I believe it is fair that they should be as responsible as the men. Further more I believe it should be as easy for men to get visitation set up as it is women to get child support setup, WHY ARE MEN CONSTANTLY GIVEN THE SHORT END OF THE STICK!!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 23rd, 2013Someone from Baltimore, MD writes:
I have a son who is 17 years old and lives with me and his 22 year old brother. I am self employed and I gave all of my assets to my ex-wife in 2005 in order to get a final divorce. While I was paying my ex-wife monthly child support, my son was living with me while I was also paying $ 6,000 per year for private (on-line) school tuition. I went to court to have my support modified and the Judge would not hear my testimony, period (I have a transcript of the case). I continue to pay child support for a child who lives with me and the Courts could care less. To say that it was a hostile environment is a gross understatement. I filed an exception to her ruling and the next judge was a duplicate - he could care less that the first judge would not allow me to challenge my ex-wife's statements about how often my son was with her. This entire process cost me thousands in legal and had I known I would have just paid and kept my mouth shut. I am a business owner but I am not highly compensated and my business has struggled for the past few years. One thing I am convinced of: when a man goes to a support hearing he is guilty as charged, regardless of the facts.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 23rd, 2013Someone from Monroe, LA signed.
Sep 22nd, 2013Someone from Albuquerque, NM signed.
Sep 22nd, 2013Someone from Gilbert, AZ writes:
I receive child support and my husband pays child support. Because I earn more than my son's father and my son resides with me 80% of the time, what I receive is next to nothing. His father is trying hard to make ends meet and tries very hard to meet his obligations so for that I am grateful. My husband however is not as fortunate. He spent thousands of dollars to fight for more time than every other weekend with his son. His mother who is perfectly capable of working a full time job and earned a nice income up until 2009 chooses not to work since living with her boyfriend has been much more lucrative for her. Fortunately my husbanded was awarded 50% time however, he is still paying child support and a significant amount. Mother is accountable for minimum wage only. Why are these people awarded time if they financially are not able to support their fair share? Why is the mother not held accountable for her full earning potential? Why is it that the law seems to be so lenient on mothers and fathers are the accountable ones when it comes to supporting their child? How is this justified?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 22nd, 2013Someone from Chesapeake, VA writes:
A Judge ordered me to pay 100 a month when I make only $425.00 per week. I have less than 100 check each week.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 21st, 2013Someone from Inglewood, CA writes:
I hear talk about cutting food stamps n that there's not enough money n people complaining that welfare n illegal people are using up American tax payer dollars,and also how the county n state budget isn't enough to hire enough people to get things done n that they don't have the budget in many issues. Well, for all of us no custodial parents there's a custodial welfare recipiant , since there's no money in the budget for more county workers to keep the parks clean , so my kids can play in a clean environment -since I Do pay taxs for that ,and meny communities are run down n the high ways are riddled with trash n broken glass cigaret buts graffiti and used condoms n hypodermic needles ect. WE have already paid the biggest available work force in the country. If they can Breed , n get paid ! Then they can work. Why pay for more people when they've already paid an army. This will help the budget a lot n it will discourage the Paracites from eating up our tax dollars. Put the Paracites to get up n be on time n clean the parks n the high ways n clean the graffiti n PICK up there condoms Keeping the Paracites buisy will cut WAY back on vanerial diseases n say money n health n keeping them buisy will cut back on the obesity rate , drug use , the spread of TB n hepatitis , n also teach there young to work n be responsable n if they don't wanna work, do to them like the welfare does to the non custodial parent that works. DESTROY them untill they comply. Put them in jail like they do us. It will release meny able prepaid workers into the needed areas where the budget can't afford to pay someone. Y'all have already paid them. There at home put them to work. We have already paid them! Think of how the use of the Paracite can profit the WELFARES budget !!! The welfare can rent the Paracites out to cut crops n weed fields n then the illegals will have no work n that will help to stop them from taking our jobs ! Hey welfare you can use the custodial parent too! N make a lot of money. Double. You already own them n if the Paracite can't work then Put there kids to work use them like you use us noncustodial parents. It Will discourage the abuse of Welfare n help the ones that really need it! Take there free paid time away n MAKE them fill in where needed ! They have Already been paid ! Note to us noncustodial's. It's time to think! If the welfare puts accountability on the custodial trash. Like they do US , they will have to work like us to get there FREE foodstamps medical ,phone , gas, section 8, ect. I am NO Paracite !!!!!!welfare ! Congress , capital hill folks , use the people on welfare to fill in where the budget can't pay It WILL slow down Welfare n who ever makes it happen will be a money saving HERO!!!!!!!! Use your Paracites,they already refuse to work! In a win win situation They will get OFF welfare !!!!! N u will b a hero. Mr congress man!,REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 21st, 2013Someone from Hampton, VA writes:
If a man is there as a father to his children and pay as much as he can, he should NOT be imprisoned. It shouldn't even be a choice for the mother because she feels she does not receive enough. How will the father pay if he is in jail? It is pointless and unnecessary. Why put the children through that?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 21st, 2013Someone from Hampton, VA writes:
If a man is there as a father to his children and pay as much as he can, he should NOT be imprisoned. It shouldn't even be a choice for the mother because she feels she does not receive enough. How will the father pay if he is in jail? It is pointless and unnecessary. Why put the children through that?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 21st, 2013Someone from Coram, NY writes:
This child support system needs to be brought up to the 21 century as it is dated! The Federal/ States could save money with the so called programs out there and give out less. Make it a tax law... the ones receiving the money have that counted as income....and the ones paying the support take that as a credit on their taxes. This program is a money maker thus the reason why no one in high office is going to touch this. Up date this program...it needs it!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 20th, 2013Someone from Olympia, WA writes:
I find it hard to deal with that the custodial parent can sit at home and only work 3 hrs a day and the State does nothing to require them to work more. Instead they hit the non-custodial parent with a higher child support payment. Also I feel that if you have medical Insurance deducted from from paycheck that show be allowed as a deduction in order to lower your gross pay so it show a real gross income.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 20th, 2013Someone from Oconomowoc, WI signed.
Sep 20th, 2013Someone from Minneapolis, MN writes:
If child support is collected it should be REQUIRED to spend it on the kid. Not rent, not cell phone bills, on the children and their welfare.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 20th, 2013Someone from Corpus Christi, TX writes:
I AM A GOOD FATHER AND HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THIER FOR MY CHILDREN BUT IT IS WRONG THAT THE SPOUCE CAN TAKE THE CHILF SUPPORT MONEY AND DO WHAT SHE WANTS WITH IT ESPCIEALLY IF SHE DOES NOT WORK. AND YET THE KIDS ARE LEFT CLUELESS. THEY ARE ALLOWED TO WRITE ON ON irs BUT YET ITS OUR HARD WORKED MONEY THAT WE CAN WRITE OFF AND WE GET TAXED. I AM A VERY GOOD DAD BUT RULES IN A HOUSE HOLD MAKE A BIG DIFF. IN A CHILDS DESCISION TO LIVE WITH THE RIGHT PARENTREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 20th, 2013Someone from Belton, TX signed.
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Sep 19th, 2013Someone from Buffalo, NY writes:
Like many others the child support system forced me to the brink of poverty. My kids mom recieved a lump sum of 6000 from my taxes and was evicted from her home two months later because she decided to buy a new truck instead of paying rent. The law gives too much freedom to the custodial parent to use the money in ways that are not beneficial for the childs direct needs. This money should be put into an fsa with an approved list of retailers and merchants the money can be spent with. I also believe as fathers we are entitled to decide how the money is spent or atleast have input. As the laws stand now a mother could use some or worse case even all of these funds for things not associated with the childrens needs. I also feel mothers should have to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that a father is a "deadbeat" before she is entitled to child support enforcement. I took care of my kids from birth even after the break up but because she files some papers this automatically makes me a deadbeat. Even though i had reciepts with her signature showing i was contributing.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 19th, 2013Someone from Buffalo, MO writes:
Thechild support system its self sets men up for failure. especially if there is a dramatic change in income and the appointed judge will not allow you to modify the amount if you owe any back support .there for you will always be behind in support . IT is a class D felony to exceed a child support dept of $5000 or more so if you are to pay 600 a month and you can't hardly get the essentials for yourself due to loss of employment that will build up quite quickly . Not to mention the ression and lack of jobs and high unemployment or welfare cases in our economy today men are still not given any breaks. Also the child support laws suspend our drivers licences that allow us to transport to and from a job or to find more work in order to help support the child. Also on top of that the incarcerate us and give us a felony charge ...which also hinders us of finding work due to a criminal record . I believe in most cases (not all but some ) child support was thought of by a woman to punish or torture a man due to they're own grudge against the father for what ever they may be. Being a father is much more than providing the mother with money .Being a father is helping raise that child teach them everything they need to know to survive in live show them compassion and the ways of life. Not only to mothers over exaggerate the expenses they need for that child but also put the finances towards some of they're own luxuries .Vagrency is also a law that means it is illegal to be homeless .That being said in society today a woman even before becoming a mother she has to provide herself a living arrangement .There for the only extra expenses needed for a child would be clothing ,nutrient,healthcare and in an infants case diapers which aren't even a necessity due to the fact people still use reusable cloth diapers to day that would be healthier for the environment as well . The judge i seen for my case asked if i had supper last night ,i answered a bolgna sandwhich Sr.that's the only thing i can afford to provide for myself and some nights don't eat anything due to my unemployment .He then informed me i helped bring him into the world so it is half my part to help feed him. Which in that case if i actually was given my custody rights that i was granted in court i could do so whether i had to go out and catch fish or kill a deer and live off the land we would survive if it had to be that way, but as society today if you have a child in a home there has to be running water and electricity or that child can be taken.What happened to how the ways where before economical development came along. Are we saying the Indians that lived off the land were unfit and neglectful parents? And the millions of Amish till this day live without electricity due to they're religions! It is ok for them because of freedom of religion .what happened to the constitutional rights ? Incarceration over any debt is against the fourth amendment there is no probable cause for a wREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 19th, 2013Someone from Buffalo, MO writes:
Thechild support system its self sets men up for failure. especially if there is a dramatic change in income and the appointed judge will not allow you to modify the amount if you owe any back support .there for you will always be behind in support . IT is a class D felony to exceed a child support dept of $5000 or more so if you are to pay 600 a month and you can't hardly get the essentials for yourself due to loss of employment that will build up quite quickly . Not to mention the ression and lack of jobs and high unemployment or welfare cases in our economy today men are still not given any breaks. Also the child support laws suspend our drivers licences that allow us to transport to and from a job or to find more work in order to help support the child. Also on top of that the incarcerate us and give us a felony charge ...which also hinders us of finding work due to a criminal record . I believe in most cases (not all but some ) child support was thought of by a woman to punish or torture a man due to they're own grudge against the father for what ever they may be. Being a father is much more than providing the mother with money .Being a father is helping raise that child teach them everything they need to know to survive in live show them compassion and the ways of life. Not only to mothers over exaggerate the expenses they need for that child but also put the finances towards some of they're own luxuries .Vagrency is also a law that means it is illegal to be homeless .That being said in society today a woman even before becoming a mother she has to provide herself a living arrangement .There for the only extra expenses needed for a child would be clothing ,nutrient,healthcare and in an infants case diapers which aren't even a necessity due to the fact people still use reusable cloth diapers to day that would be healthier for the environment as well . The judge i seen for my case asked if i had supper last night ,i answered a bolgna sandwhich Sr.that's the only thing i can afford to provide for myself and some nights don't eat anything due to my unemployment .He then informed me i helped bring him into the world so it is half my part to help feed him. Which in that case if i actually was given my custody rights that i was granted in court i could do so whether i had to go out and catch fish or kill a deer and live off the land we would survive if it had to be that way, but as society today if you have a child in a home there has to be running water and electricity or that child can be taken.What happened to how the ways where before economical development came along. Are we saying the Indians that lived off the land were unfit and neglectful parents? And the millions of Amish till this day live without electricity due to they're religions! It is ok for them because of freedom of religion .what happened to the constitutional rights ? Incarceration over any debt is against the fourth amendment there is no probable cause for a wREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 19th, 2013Someone from Buffalo, MO writes:
Thechild support system its self sets men up for failure. especially if there is a dramatic change in income and the appointed judge will not allow you to modify the amount if you owe any back support .there for you will always be behind in support . IT is a class D felony to exceed a child support dept of $5000 or more so if you are to pay 600 a month and you can't hardly get the essentials for yourself due to loss of employment that will build up quite quickly . Not to mention the ression and lack of jobs and high unemployment or welfare cases in our economy today men are still not given any breaks. Also the child support laws suspend our drivers licences that allow us to transport to and from a job or to find more work in order to help support the child. Also on top of that the incarcerate us and give us a felony charge ...which also hinders us of finding work due to a criminal record . I believe in most cases (not all but some ) child support was thought of by a woman to punish or torture a man due to they're own grudge against the father for what ever they may be. Being a father is much more than providing the mother with money .Being a father is helping raise that child teach them everything they need to know to survive in live show them compassion and the ways of life. Not only to mothers over exaggerate the expenses they need for that child but also put the finances towards some of they're own luxuries .Vagrency is also a law that means it is illegal to be homeless .That being said in society today a woman even before becoming a mother she has to provide herself a living arrangement .There for the only extra expenses needed for a child would be clothing ,nutrient,healthcare and in an infants case diapers which aren't even a necessity due to the fact people still use reusable cloth diapers to day that would be healthier for the environment as well . The judge i seen for my case asked if i had supper last night ,i answered a bolgna sandwhich Sr.that's the only thing i can afford to provide for myself and some nights don't eat anything due to my unemployment .He then informed me i helped bring him into the world so it is half my part to help feed him. Which in that case if i actually was given my custody rights that i was granted in court i could do so whether i had to go out and catch fish or kill a deer and live off the land we would survive if it had to be that way, but as society today if you have a child in a home there has to be running water and electricity or that child can be taken.What happened to how the ways where before economical development came along. Are we saying the Indians that lived off the land were unfit and neglectful parents? And the millions of Amish till this day live without electricity due to they're religions! It is ok for them because of freedom of religion .what happened to the constitutional rights ? Incarceration over any debt is against the fourth amendment there is no probable cause for a wREPORT COMMENTS
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