Unfair child support laws
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Aug 28th, 2013Someone from Conley, GA writes:
my ex claims she dont works. she an online hooker now gets the max child support from me and live at home with her mother paying no bills. no real job in three years. but im the non custodial. been on my job 12yrs my own house im about to loose because of child suport. this is crazy i would rather kill myself before i going through another year of this shit. -
Aug 28th, 2013Someone from Inglewood, CA writes:
Right on. How true that is. Non Custodial M. From Lansing MI. They don't give a damn about how they take our money or how our kid$ n family end up. Blood thirsty wolves. They want our kid$ accounts to make money n without the Sorry custodial Paracite being so patheticly Sorry the welfare would have no money. The welfare feeds off the very families they say they are so called helping n people don't realize that. The COMMON TAX payers that are not being robbed by the title IV D have No idea that they are paying the welfare 2$ on top of every 1$ they rob from the hard working class parent n that they are contributing to the drug addicted,drunk,foodstamp pimps n hookers, medical card carrying ,at the welfare office every week ,lazy ,no tax paying , eating up all the food hungry Paracites that are just using the system to get paid off someone else's back while they call it Childsupport ! N the welfare is also useing them to get the kid$ accounts so they can get paid. The welfare is no better then the welfare recipiant ! They are both Paracites .... Blood Money!!! People complain about the welfare system using tax payer dollars!!! The tax payers are that are not in the title IV-D need to stand up n shut this welfare racquet down.REPORT COMMENTS
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Aug 28th, 2013Someone from Philadelphia, PA writes:
Its really unfair how good fathers are stereo typed as bad one because a money Hungary female wants to do nothing but sit around the house and collect money that they are not even using on the child because because the system allows them too females have to much freedom and child support is one of them and then who can afford $893 a month with an average job this support system really needs to changeREPORT COMMENTS
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Aug 28th, 2013Someone from Lansing, MI writes:
The court system is set up to favor themselves, not men, not children, but themselves. It is beneficial for the court to go after the working parent who tends to be the non-custodial parent because of the Title IV-D funds they receive. The more they process in child support, the more they get. They don?t care if the non-custodial parent works full time, part time or not at all. It appears they favor the woman because women tend to be the custodial parent, however the same crap they do to men they do to women also if they are the non-custodial parent. They don't care if the non-custodial parent works, they don?t require it nor do they even suggest they get a damn job. I thought I was doing right allowing our sons to stay primarily with their father. Come to find out he isn't any better than the female welfare queens out there sitting back collecting every entitlement out there and constantly complaining how bad they have it while I work two jobs. Their father doesn't parent, hardly is ever sober and even after being jailed multiple times, because ?custodianship? has been established and he has gone to meetings, he is allowed to have them back. The fact he keeps getting arrested after he is off probation doesn?t matter as long as he keeps going back and they keep processing those child support checks. I have 50% of my wages taken for child support regardless that it put me in the financial position that I lost my home, all the while he has Section 8 paying his rent. He receives food stamps, has CACS pay his utilities, receives Medicaid, received a car from VOA, receives Visa gift cards every year at the beginning of school which is supposed to go for boys clothes, but doesn?t. He collects social security for a ?bad back? and because he is on social security, the boys get checks for dependent social security. Seriously, how the government can give someone a check for a couple of herniated discs is beyond me. I have 3 herniated discs and one is disintegrating and I work. He doesn?t pay for a single necessity in life, food, housing, clothing, car, utilities, healthcare, receives multiple SS checks and gets 50% of my check and has actually tried to get the child support raised. I have ended up homeless , lost my electricity and have gone without eating while he doesn?t have to worry about any living need or work. This system is messed up. Our boys still have to come to me for the things they want and need. I still have to buy all their school clothes, give them all their allowance and purchase their sports equipment and pay for all their extra curricular activities because he never has any money. He always has money for partying, booze and purchasing all his desires though. They don't give a damn if the parent receiving the funds pays the bills and buys the children the things they need or if they are boozing it up. The courts don't give a "f" because the responsible parent who works is the one they goREPORT COMMENTS
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Aug 27th, 2013Someone from Ewa Beach, HI writes:
The laws need to change. We are enabling custodial parents (mainly women) to sit at home and collect CS. I am a female and I feel this system is unfair. I was a single mom, raised my son working two jobs and never got support from his dad. IF I CAN DO IT SO CAN THESE LAZY WOMEN! If u want to take the child, I Think u should be able to take care of them physically and financially.REPORT COMMENTS
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Aug 27th, 2013Someone from Federal Way, WA signed.
Aug 27th, 2013Someone from Lawson, MO writes:
It's not fair nor is it right that family courts always seem to favor the mother..that's ********. Why does the father have to pay RIDICULOUS amounts of child support to the mother when she refuses to get a job so decides that she can live off of other people and the child support and NEVER uses a single penny on the child? Why is that allowed?? Why can't it be no one pays for child support and that BOTH parents have to pay 50/50 of all the child's needs and prove that they have been taking care of their share? Why is it all up to the father to have to basically either work more than 12 hours in a day or get several jobs just to pay stupid child support to lazy freaking moms?! Both parents should be paying for the kid, not just the father alone because that's really unfair and ridiculous.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 27th, 2013Someone from Chesapeake, VA writes:
The current system is typically egregiously in favor of the custodial parent (usually women). In many situations, it disenfranchises the relationships between parents and children by incarceration. It's counterproductive to society and incurs more debt on taxpayers as a result of incarceration. The unfortunate reality is that in many situations the lives of children and others are compromised by the current system as a lack of debt forgiveness in some states. There is a large degree of abuse and malfeasance on behalf of the system, agencies, custodial parents, and the law in their concerted efforts to try to collect amounts that are sadly unfathomable for many non-custodial parents. Sometimes the "children" are well into their 20's or 30's but the interest and fees makes it almost impossible to overcome. To incarcerate NCP's seems to have little to no merit or validity except to unfairly subject NCP's to the financial obligations that should be forgiven. Sometimes the system is used to facilitate a personal vendetta or the agenda of the custodial parent. Oft-times the children are exploited, it's financially oppressive, and the perpetuation of the current system typically bears no true benefit on behalf of the children. It seems to be more about adult support than child support. An overhaul and more efficient approach would seem to be the most fair, prudent, and viable option for the children and taxpayers.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 27th, 2013Someone from San Juan, TX signed.
Aug 27th, 2013Someone from San Juan, TX writes:
I believe that women should work aswell not only rely on men. Plus the money the kid recieves the girl wastes the money on her ive seen it with my own eyes while th kids are all neglected.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 27th, 2013Someone from Maiden, NC signed.
Aug 27th, 2013Someone from Henrietta, NY writes:
I am glad I am not alone. I am tired of watching my ex wife prosper from cheating on me and marrying the man she cheated on me with. She left my 3 boys and I to find herself. Lawyered up and got the kids. I am in NY and she gets 29% of my gross income. After taxes, Healthcare and Support I am paying more than 70% of my pay to her and the govt. I am remarried and live with my mother in law because we cannot afford our own place. She has a new $150,000 house in a upscale neighborhood but only makes $11,000 a year on her own and her new husband (the guy she cheated on her husband of 14 years with) and left her children for makes around $35,000 a year as a Cook Manager at Applebees (she worked there and was sleeping with the boss). The inside of her house looks like Pier 1 imports. Everything is new and they have flatscreen tv's, 5 laptops (1 for everyone) and she drives a new car. I drive a 20 year old truck. I just had my sons for a week and when they went back to their mothers, my 10 year old was given a new laptop by her. My guess is to make him forget being with dad. As she did last time to my 13 year by given him a lacrosse net. My oldest was busted by her for smoking pot in her house and I am the only one who punished him. She said he is a good kid and felt bad. Mind you he had a pipe and 2 small bags of weed when caught by her. I was there immediately to take care of it and punished him immediately. She let him go out the next night and delivered no punishment. My 13 year old is constantly angry with her and wants to be with his father but she had him thinking it would be mean to leave her. I am fed up with the system and the fuse is running short. Men are absolutely slave labor for a defunct system. I make over $50K a year and take home enough to get by. If I lived alone I would be homeless. This President talks about change. How about creating a joint bank account with monies put in by both parents and it is used for school, books, sports, food and shelter (at a percentage of the cost of the children) and everything needs a receipt. As I read this over the facts sound like white trash and that saddens me because we have were an upper middle class family. Or at least I was. Nuts dont fall far from the trees and her mother did the same to her father. I should have looked at history and prevented the repeat. All in all I love my sons and wish I had them all the time. They would be better off as I am a stable, supportive person. Not without fault but a good military man who works hard and takes care of his own.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 26th, 2013Someone from Richland, GA signed.
Aug 26th, 2013Someone from El Paso, TX writes:
Well, I just got laid off about 3 days ago. So, me doing to the right thing, I take the letter from my employer to the family relations department. And nothing to be surprised on, they tell me "we appreciate you submitting the letter and will update it on the system. However, even if you do or don't make any type of monies, you are still obligated to pay the full amount." What I don't understand is that how is it that the custodial parents' who doesn't work and don't give a damn about the child(ren) are able to get all types of govn't help, yet the ones like me and others who care about our child(ren) face a big impact in losing our job and we can't even get a helping hand. The system is completely broken and they don't even give a damn. THE SYSTEM IS JUST MAKING MATTERS WORSE AND DESTROYING OUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH OUR CHILDREN!!! There are good responsible noncustodial parents who fall into this pitfall and stop paying the CS because is so ridiculous we can't even support ourselves. HOW THE HELL CAN WE SUPPORT OTHERS IF WE CAN'T EVEN SUPPORT OURSELVES BECAUSE THE DAMN SYSTEM FORCES US TO SURRENDER EVERYTHING WE FOUGHT FOR IN LIFE AND LIVE IN POVERTY?! For goodness gracious, is there one person in Congress that gives a damn about us and obolishing this corrupted issue?!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 26th, 2013Someone from Chula Vista, CA signed.
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Aug 26th, 2013Someone from Scottsdale, AZ writes:
I see a lot of people talking about what they owe and how they fell behind and are struggling to get caught up, all I can say is the CHILD SUPPORT SYSTEM SUCKS PERIOD!!!!! I have been paying for the last 13 years and have gotten nothing but more grief, my son's mom decided to file when he was 6 keep in mind during those first 6 years he wanted for ABSOLUTELY NOTHING but when we went to court the judge looked at her and simply asked if she wanted DATE OF BIRTH ARREARS not to my surprise she said yes. Now here I stood with a box of cancelled checks and copies of money orders payable to her, or paid on her behalf along with receipts showing items purchased for my son, none of which the judge even bothered to look at or take into consideration. upon her saying yes, he simply ordered me to pay $17,000 in arrears on top of the current order. The kicker here I am 13 years later and I called to get a balance since my son will be 18 in 2 months to my surprise and dismay the balance is STILL $9,000!!!!! Now someone please tell me when ENOUGH IS ENOUGHREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 26th, 2013Someone from Smyrna, GA writes:
My congressman's office claims that these matters are of a legal and a state nature and ethics committee prevents his intervention. Well how about the unfair tax treatment of payers of child support?!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 25th, 2013Someone from Spring Branch, TX signed.
Aug 25th, 2013Someone from Fort Lauderdale, FL writes:
The laws are no good for fathers seeking work and that are behind becaue they may have hit hard time.The fact that the Gov would take a mans lic so he can't not drive to the job site that's uncontainable and unfair.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 25th, 2013Someone from Battle Creek, MI signed.
Aug 24th, 2013Someone from Hanover, PA writes:
You get seperated and want a divorce because she is a a self centered un appreciative money hungry ass! She won't sign because she can live a footloose and fancy free life collecting money and health care off me! I'm trying to move on in life! You meet someone new that means the world to you and deserves to be treated well! How the hell can you move on when you can't afford to support yourself! Tired of ungrateful women using the system! CHANGE THE LAWS!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 24th, 2013Someone from Hanover, PA writes:
You get seperated and want a divorce because she is a a self centered un appreciative money hungry ass! She won't sign because she can live a footloose and fancy free life collecting money and health care off me! I'm trying to move on in life! You meet someone new that means the world to you and deserves to be treated well! How the hell can you move on when you can't afford to support yourself! Tired of ungrateful women using the system! CHANGE THE LAWS!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 24th, 2013Someone from Hinesville, GA signed.
Aug 23rd, 2013Someone from Middletown, CT writes:
Men have rights too and these people in the court system. Need to be on their side as well not only .the women, there's great fathers out there and the law is not on their side, seems to me with some cases I have heard that they are NOT with in the child's interest by any means especially when it comes with women with mental issues ans what not.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 23rd, 2013Someone from Granby, MA signed.
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Aug 23rd, 2013Someone from Mount Holly, NJ writes:
Why are there no laws in place that dictate what child support can and can't be spent on? Why do I have to show proof that I have paid child support yet the mother of my children doesn't have to show proof what she used the money for?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 23rd, 2013Someone from Verona, PA signed.
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Aug 23rd, 2013Someone from Lombard, IL writes:
I feel much better now. I though I was the only man screwed by unfair Child Support ($1700/Mnth, including arrears) arrears which are not arrears, they just been added to my CS because the CS Dept felt like it. I never been late on CS for the past 13 years. Wow even men in TX are getting the BO (bend over) treatment. MEN! PLEASE USE CONDOMS AND DON'T GET MARRIED. IT IS NOT WORTH IT.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 23rd, 2013Someone from Atlanta, GA writes:
In Georgia my in come monthly is approx. $2000 (take home) after taxes, insurance, ect. I have custody of 1 child and have been ordered to pay $515.00 for another... over 25% of my take home!!! On top of that I have a 2 more daughters and a son (not on child support) that where not considered because they are not in my custody. Now I can't afford to support them, what next??!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 23rd, 2013Someone from Atlanta, GA writes:
In Georgia my in come monthly is approx. $2000 (take home) after taxes, insurance, ect. I have custody of 1 child and have been ordered to pay $515.00 for another... over 25% of my take home!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 23rd, 2013Someone from Springfield Gardens, NY signed.
Aug 23rd, 2013Someone from Sauk Centre, MN writes:
Taking support from my daughter to support my son. 20% from my daughter to support my son. Not fair. I have to work part time because I have to. Its not just guys getting screwed its women too. When my son finds out this out. He will really hate his dad.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 23rd, 2013Someone from Sauk Centre, MN writes:
Taking support from my daughter to support my son. 20% from my daughter to support my son. Not fair. I have to work part time because I have to. Its not just guys getting screwed its women too. When my son finds out this out. He will really hate his dad.REPORT COMMENTS
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