Unfair child support laws
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Nov 17th, 2016paul h. from New Iberia, LA writes:
I haven't been able to get ahead with child support and she to my licence being suspended i can't drive to get a better job to work at a better place im having to settle for less and struggling to take care of my other kids as well can't efford to live alone and pay all my bills its sad this country we live in now -
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Nov 16th, 2016Someone from Manchester, PA writes:
My woman just left me for a man that has no job and two kids of his own. They wanted 1000$ a month for my son. That's one of my entire paychecks. So I need to get a 300$ a month apartment with utilities included? Meanwhile she makes way more than I do, has another kid getting child support. So she gets a free mortgage payment out of us both. Should be post tax dollars. Not pretax.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 16th, 2016Colon williams from Saint Louis, MO writes:
Hi my name is the general and I was working that the courts told me to do the judge told the prosecutor to not to do anything until I find another job so the judge gave me 3mouths to get a job because I was paying cash every time I went to court on my child support + they had me on probation so I found a new job the next week been working for about a half a year paying on time Everytime I go to court now I got a call from probation offered to come see him and it was not time to come see him I new in my sprint that he was up to something soon as I get there I was willing to pay early but he had already called the police on me and the police locked me up and he said he didn't call the police once I was in jail so the judge did not give me a county year but he told me how to get off probation that I have to do 6 months then I'll be free from probation and the ask were is my probation officer and he was no were to be found so he new the probation and prosecutor had set me up pray for me my baby mother now is willing to sign the papers to stop it cause she is not getting anything.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 16th, 2016Someone from Tuckerton, NJ writes:
I have my children Tuesday-Saturday and have to pay child support I pay for clothes food cell phones pretty much everything they need Talk about unfair treatment... once your in the system paying support It just constantly increases and your screwedREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 16th, 2016Adam B. from Horse Shoe, NC writes:
Hey my name is Adam Bryant I live in North Carolina. Am supposed to be paying 600 bucks a month in child support but I file for a modification pay got cut in half not getting d modification yet but I make a payment every two weeks is half of thatlike 120 can they throw me in jail for not paying child I'm scared and I go to court the 22nd of this month I have a court appointed lawyer and stuff and they're supposed to look at my modification then I just need help I'm scared to deathREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 16th, 2016corneliu d. from Ridgewood, NY writes:
I do not believe we shall spend time in jail for child support.theres no way with limited time can you pay support.especially if your incarceratedREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 16th, 2016Tina S. from Otsego, MI signed.
Nov 16th, 2016Bruce S. from Louisville, KY writes:
I paid my child support on time for 18 years and had no past payment due or any money in the rear. I called the child support to have my case closed and they put my case in an audit. The prodical for making sure I didn't owe or under pay. The whole time during this period I called to check on the process, because they were still taking from my checking at my job. During this time when I went to the office about my concerns I was told a person that was in training was handling my case. But the supervisor had to sign off on it. Needless to say I wasn't too happy about it. After my walk in to the office about my concerns my child finally stopped. However minus the prorated amount owed for the remaining last month I was only refunded 100 out of 680 they kept taking. When I called and asked about the refund all I was told is that is what the audit came up with. (The trainee and supervisor signing off). All the when I was never behind and stayed caught up. All I can go by is what they told me. These people have no one to answer to they can do whatever they please to do and the fathers that are doing what the court ordered have to deal with whatever child support inforces. These people need to be accounted for their actions! I'm out of money I can't get back!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 16th, 2016Z G. from Whitestone, NY writes:
So how would we go about making a change? My husband pays 1,200 to a woman even tho we can barely pay rent on time and take care of our own expenses with our own child while she works off the books and collects our money and pays no rent because she lives at home with her parents. The law needs to change but what can we do to push for a change I tried doing my research but I can't find any leads on how to beginREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 15th, 2016Someone from Fort Worth, TX writes:
I do not believe we shall spend time in jail for child support.theres no way with limited time can you pay support.especially if your incarceratedREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 15th, 2016Princess C. from Bartlett, TN writes:
I'm all for this. Especially experiencing it first hand. 2 years ago my husband found out that the little girl that he had been taking care of for 5 years wasn't his child. He had been on child support for the whole 5 years. Due to the mother of the child requesting child support after he and I got married when the child was 2 years old it caused him to accumulate arrears. Once we found out the child wasn't his we immediately got a lawyer. After going to court for over a year they finally decided to take my husband off child support for the child. The child support stopped but the arrears stuck. He has to pay the mother over 6 thousand dollars in arrears for a child that the court disestablished paternity of for him. I think it's messed up that he is still responsible for the back pay even after the court knows he's not the father. The system is really messed up.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 15th, 2016Princess C. from Memphis, TN writes:
I'm all for this. Especially experiencing it first hand. 2 years ago my husband found out that the little girl that he had been taking care of for 5 years wasn't his child. He had been on child support for the whole 5 years. Due to the mother of the child requesting child support after he and I got married when the child was 2 years old it caused him to accumulate arrears. Once we found out the child wasn't his we immediately got a lawyer. After going to court for over a year they finally decided to take my husband off child support for the child. The child support stopped but the arrears stuck. He has to pay the mother over 6 thousand dollars in arrears for a child that the court disestablished paternity of for him. I think it's messed up that he is still responsible for the back pay even after the court knows he's not the father. The system is really messed up.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 15th, 2016James L. from Nashua, NH writes:
I am all for this, I have that situation going on now and it annoys me how she can just say she is not going to work and collect. While I am trying to survive on pennies, she is at home living in luxory and doing nothing for it. She is just collecting her checks....it is not fair and the current support guidelines and laws need to revamped entirely. NEED CHANGE NOW!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 15th, 2016Someone from Findlay, OH writes:
I have went through so Much with child support since day one from rushed paternity test and having to go to court that same day to set up child support to pay to getting called every negative name in the book by my children's mothers and also getting told by a child support case worker that they didn't care if I lived in a cardboard box as long as THEY got the money not my childeren I also read on their website that they said that people that pay child support are more likely to spending time with your child/childeren but that's not the case for me in order for me to actually have a reasonable paycheck to be able to pay rent and all the bills that I have I have to work so much that I don't get to see my kids to where I feel like I constantly have to work to survive my children hate me and that's what their mothers say but sometimes the way they act it makes me think that it's something that their mothers are telling them I'm not a bad person I love my children but when I have to work over 80 hours at times to be able to get a feasible paycheck to be able to pay bills and survive I don't get to see my kids I miss out on everything that goes on in their life and I try to be there when I can but I feel it's not enough I've been put through the wringer with child support case workers also where they ignore my messages they say they never get them I have receptionist at the child support agency say that she's been annoyed by me calling so much but no one ever answers any of my questions did you try to put me down make me feel like I'm not trying hard enough and in a way making me feel like I'm a worthless father when I really do care And at times I have a strange way of showing it also because sometimes I'm too tired to be around my kids and I know that's a bad thing by the way to the system setup for me in my case it seems like I really have no other choice also get slandered on Facebook and put down by my children's mothers you know doing stuff on Facebook walls and posting means up and trying to put me down and a lot of the times it hurts because they don't know what I have to go through to be able to survive person when they receive a child support payment from one of my children's mothers at one time I seen a picture when me and her were getting along and she was flipping through her phone to show me pictures of my daughter's graduation that I missed because I was at work and I seen a picture of her at a casino swiping the child support card and she tried to say you don't need to see that or see that and I acted like nothing happened like I didn't see anything just to not argue or start a fight when I got to see my child and it's not me trying to put down the mothers out there because I know there are good mothers out there butt in my case they're treating my children like pawns and they feel like they have ownership over me because they constantly threaten me with my freedom they've already taken away my license they've taken away everything that I've worked really really hard for and I could say that for a hundred percent certain fact that when I see people working the same amount of hours that I do that started the same time I did that got hired in the same time I did that has the same pay rate that I do and in order for me to actually even come close to what they bring home on a normal 40-hour work week I have to work 80 hours I have to work twice as hard and then I still don't have enough to survive on so I mean it in a roundabout way I have very little to survive on but it's still not enough to survive while they can like my children's mothers can go to casinos and go and travel all over the place with their work company and spend all this kind of money and have a good time with my kids when I want to be there and I can't be it just kind of I just don't understand how they could treat people as in child support can treat people so unfairlyI have went through so Much with child support since day one from rushed paternity test and having to go to court that same day to set up child support to pay to getting called every negative name in the book by my children's mothers and also getting told by a child support case worker that they didn't care if I lived in a cardboard box as long as THEY got the money not my childeren I also read on their website that they said that people that pay child support are more likely to spending time with your child/childeren but that's not the case for me in order for me to actually have a reasonable paycheck to be able to pay rent and all the bills that I have I have to work so much that I don't get to see my kids to where I feel like I constantly have to work to survive my children hate me and that's what their mothers say but sometimes the way they act it makes me think that it's something that their mothers are telling them I'm not a bad person I love my children but when I have to work over 80 hours at times to be able to get a feasible paycheck to be able to pay bills and survive I don't get to see my kids I miss out on everything that goes on in their life and I try to be there when I can but I feel it's not enough I've been put through the wringer with child support case workers also where they ignore my messages they say they never get them I have receptionist at the child support agency say that she's been annoyed by me calling so much but no one ever answers any of my questions did you try to put me down make me feel like I'm not trying hard enough and in a way making me feel like I'm a worthless father when I really do care And at times I have a strange way of showing it also because sometimes I'm too tired to be around my kids and I know that's a bad thing by the way to the system setup for me in my case it seems like I really have no other choice also get slandered on Facebook and put down by my children's mothers you know doing stuff on Facebook walls and posting means up and trying to put me down and a lot of the times it hurts because they don't know what I have to go through to be able to survive person when they receive a child support payment from one of my children's mothers at one time I seen a picture when me and her were getting along and she was flipping through her phone to show me pictures of my daughter's graduation that I missed because I was at work and I seen a picture of her at a casino swiping the child support card and she tried to say you don't need to see that or see that and I acted like nothing happened like I didn't see anything just to not argue or start a fight when I got to see my child and it's not me trying to put down the mothers out there because I know there are good mothers out there butt in my case they're treating my children like pawns and they feel like they have ownership over me because they constantly threaten me with my freedom they've already taken away my license they've taken away everything that I've worked really really hard for and I could say that for a hundred percent certain fact that when I see people working the same amount of hours that I do that started the same time I did that got hired in the same time I did that has the same pay rate that I do and in order for me to actually even come close to what they bring home on a normal 40-hour work week I have to work 80 hours I have to work twice as hard and then I still don't have enough to survive on so I mean it in a roundabout way I have very little to survive on but it's still not enough to survive while they can like my children's mothers can go to casinos and go and travel all over the place with their work company and spend all this kind of money and have a good time with my kids when I want to be there and I can't be it just kind of I just don't understand how they could treat people as in child support can treat people so unfairlyREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 15th, 2016Someone from Findlay, OH writes:
I have went through so Much with child support since day one from rushed paternity test and having to go to court that same day to set up child support to pay to getting called every negative name in the book by my children's mothers and also getting told by a child support case worker that they didn't care if I lived in a cardboard box as long as THEY got the money not my childeren I also read on their website that they said that people that pay child support are more likely to spending time with your child/childeren but that's not the case for me in order for me to actually have a reasonable paycheck to be able to pay rent and all the bills that I have I have to work so much that I don't get to see my kids to where I feel like I constantly have to work to survive my children hate me and that's what their mothers say but sometimes the way they act it makes me think that it's something that their mothers are telling them I'm not a bad person I love my children but when I have to work over 80 hours at times to be able to get a feasible paycheck to be able to pay bills and survive I don't get to see my kids I miss out on everything that goes on in their life and I try to be there when I can but I feel it's not enough I've been put through the wringer with child support case workers also where they ignore my messages they say they never get them I have receptionist at the child support agency say that she's been annoyed by me calling so much but no one ever answers any of my questions did you try to put me down make me feel like I'm not trying hard enough and in a way making me feel like I'm a worthless father when I really do care And at times I have a strange way of showing it also because sometimes I'm too tired to be around my kids and I know that's a bad thing by the way to the system setup for me in my case it seems like I really have no other choice also get slandered on Facebook and put down by my children's mothers you know doing stuff on Facebook walls and posting means up and trying to put me down and a lot of the times it hurts because they don't know what I have to go through to be able to survive person when they receive a child support payment from one of my children's mothers at one time I seen a picture when me and her were getting along and she was flipping through her phone to show me pictures of my daughter's graduation that I missed because I was at work and I seen a picture of her at a casino swiping the child support card and she tried to say you don't need to see that or see that and I acted like nothing happened like I didn't see anything just to not argue or start a fight when I got to see my child and it's not me trying to put down the mothers out there because I know there are good mothers out there butt in my case they're treating my children like pawns and they feel like they have ownership over me because they constantly threaten me with my freedom they've already taken away my license they've taken away everything that I've worked really really hard for and I could say that for a hundred percent certain fact that when I see people working the same amount of hours that I do that started the same time I did that got hired in the same time I did that has the same pay rate that I do and in order for me to actually even come close to what they bring home on a normal 40-hour work week I have to work 80 hours I have to work twice as hard and then I still don't have enough to survive on so I mean it in a roundabout way I have very little to survive on but it's still not enough to survive while they can like my children's mothers can go to casinos and go and travel all over the place with their work company and spend all this kind of money and have a good time with my kids when I want to be there and I can't be it just kind of I just don't understand how they could treat people as in child support can treat people so unfairlyI have went through so Much with child support since day one from rushed paternity test and having to go to court that same day to set up child support to pay to getting called every negative name in the book by my children's mothers and also getting told by a child support case worker that they didn't care if I lived in a cardboard box as long as THEY got the money not my childeren I also read on their website that they said that people that pay child support are more likely to spending time with your child/childeren but that's not the case for me in order for me to actually have a reasonable paycheck to be able to pay rent and all the bills that I have I have to work so much that I don't get to see my kids to where I feel like I constantly have to work to survive my children hate me and that's what their mothers say but sometimes the way they act it makes me think that it's something that their mothers are telling them I'm not a bad person I love my children but when I have to work over 80 hours at times to be able to get a feasible paycheck to be able to pay bills and survive I don't get to see my kids I miss out on everything that goes on in their life and I try to be there when I can but I feel it's not enough I've been put through the wringer with child support case workers also where they ignore my messages they say they never get them I have receptionist at the child support agency say that she's been annoyed by me calling so much but no one ever answers any of my questions did you try to put me down make me feel like I'm not trying hard enough and in a way making me feel like I'm a worthless father when I really do care And at times I have a strange way of showing it also because sometimes I'm too tired to be around my kids and I know that's a bad thing by the way to the system setup for me in my case it seems like I really have no other choice also get slandered on Facebook and put down by my children's mothers you know doing stuff on Facebook walls and posting means up and trying to put me down and a lot of the times it hurts because they don't know what I have to go through to be able to survive person when they receive a child support payment from one of my children's mothers at one time I seen a picture when me and her were getting along and she was flipping through her phone to show me pictures of my daughter's graduation that I missed because I was at work and I seen a picture of her at a casino swiping the child support card and she tried to say you don't need to see that or see that and I acted like nothing happened like I didn't see anything just to not argue or start a fight when I got to see my child and it's not me trying to put down the mothers out there because I know there are good mothers out there butt in my case they're treating my children like pawns and they feel like they have ownership over me because they constantly threaten me with my freedom they've already taken away my license they've taken away everything that I've worked really really hard for and I could say that for a hundred percent certain fact that when I see people working the same amount of hours that I do that started the same time I did that got hired in the same time I did that has the same pay rate that I do and in order for me to actually even come close to what they bring home on a normal 40-hour work week I have to work 80 hours I have to work twice as hard and then I still don't have enough to survive on so I mean it in a roundabout way I have very little to survive on but it's still not enough to survive while they can like my children's mothers can go to casinos and go and travel all over the place with their work company and spend all this kind of money and have a good time with my kids when I want to be there and I can't be it just kind of I just don't understand how they could treat people as in child support can treat people so unfairlyREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 14th, 2016Someone from Johnstown, PA writes:
My ex and I have 2 childen who are 10 months apart. When he first went to court went in with papers that stated he only made so much money per month of which I received $225.00 per month after a year or two they finally went directly through his job and the sent over the records on his income and the payment went from $225-$630 per month. I received those payments everymonth for about 3 years. Then his mother passed away, the minute she died he quit the job. That has been 3 year, he feels he does not have to pay child support because I work. The children live with me. I take care of them myself I have missed so much, they are 16-17 now. Their dad takes no interest in them AT ALL! now they are older they see it. I have gone rounds with my daughter because she feels my job is more important, I work 7 days every week currently before that I worked 3-4 jobs at one time just. People ask why do you work every day no days off. they say "I could never do that" My answer to them is thank God you don't have to. The GA and PA courts has not done anything for 6months regarding this case they don't talk to each other. This man chooses not to take care of then, he chooses not to have a relationship with them. He would rather watch the football game. ALL of these choices he has made. But I have been forced into working 7 days per week and I can't get any one to take care of his obligation. I don't live off of the system (eventrying to get alittle help with utilities in the winter I was denied) I have no choice but to work all the time, I have to keep a roof over their head. He is not made to get out and get a few jobs as I do. and he makes arrogant remarks about me working all time. He makes a world of promises to the children to disappoint them. He would rather me get on government programs so he wouldn't have to take care of them. There is one thing they've been seen is how to have good work ethics. HOW can I get helpREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 14th, 2016Denny C. from Hannibal, MO writes:
I agree, I have made poor choices in my life not having safe sex. From the result of this I have 4 children all by different moms. None of these pregnancys was planned. I worked & provided for the children & even gained custody of 1 of the 4 children. I am now married & with the woman who had my final child. So I have 2 of my 4 children. I didn't find out about my 3rd child til he was 5yrs old & his mother jumped state lines once she gave birth. I went to the doctor appts with this women & the doctor's conception daye didnt maych the time we was together even after taking a dna test my 1st cousin slept with her also. I've lost a child, I am now disabled & when i was heading home from work in 2010 I was hit head on & an additional 2 more times by a woman who lost control of her vehicle. I applied for disability in 2010 & was denied so I decided that I was young & i would try a different career with less physical labor. It still forced me to do a back surgery from the accident I was in. Now its 2016, I re applied for disability due to my physical and mental illness and health. I was denied again, I now have appealed this. I currently need another back surgery, a hip replacement, I have 2 torn labrums. My back is completely messed up from L4,L5,L5-s1 by herniated disks,bulging disks and so on & so forth. I'm a man who doesn't want to be on disability bc I believe that I should work & take care of my family the way I could before my accident. I am currently on medicaid, I haven't had a income in almost 3yrs. I'm being punished by Child support enforcement division of Missouri for non payments. I have told them of my situation but they dont care. I fear soon they will come after me to lock me up. I need help. I'm a father who loves his children & would do anything for them. I can't help that the government is taking so long for my court date of appeals & I dont understand why I was denied in the 1st place knowing i need multiple surgerys. I'm lost & I have a attorney. I do believe that dad's our screwed to this system. I've lost my license which i can't drive much or far anyway due to my physical disabilities. I've lost my hunting & fishing privileges even though I can't hunt like I want or used to before the wreck. It destroyed my life, now I'm struggling with life to no end. I agree with no1 should have a free ride, & we the father's should get more proof of where our $ does go ehen we do pay. One of the children i just have joint custody of has 3 baby daddy's & how do I know when I did pay it doesn't go to the other kids. Because one of her children's dad was 50k in debt over child support when i was with her. She has the power to drop the child support he owed. I was left by all the childrens mother's. I always wanted to bd in a family. Now I have one I can't do my part & what I want to do, it's not by choice its by force I can't work because of my injuries I received from that accident. I have been screwed over & over by child support enforcement agencies since i had my 1st child. I was raising my 1st child & had her with me while the Child support agency made me pay her! I have so many bizarre stories it's unthinkable & not ok. I know there our some bad dad's out there but NOT ALL OF US OUR!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 14th, 2016Tori M. from Aurora, IL writes:
This petition is so true, there should be a way for the person paying child support to know that the money is actually going towards the child and not themselves. There are so many cases where the person receiving the child support spends half the money on the kids and the rest on themselves, it honestly isn't fair and their should be a better system set up.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 14th, 2016Thomas M. from griffin, GA writes:
RE: Someone from Lancaster, CA writes: Sounds like a bunch of mad fathers that weren't there to take care of their kids and once they got hit with that support order they decided to do the bare minimum. In case you didn't know, the support is for the home the child lives in. Food, lights, gas, clothes, extra curricular actives etc cost MONEY. IN CASE YOU DIDN'T KNOW it's the self entitled LIBTARDS(HitlerY supporters I'm sure) like you that are so self centered and shallow that you refuse to see that we are forced into doing the bare minimum because we are expected to survive with as much as 60% of our pay gouged out for people like YOU!! By the way,,I also would be willing to bet that YOU think it's a good thing to limit the GOOD fathers to only see our kids 4 DAYS A MONTH with no money to take them to do anything outside of our dwelling!! So goFyourself with your insensitive snide remarks and join your libtard cult following and let the good people fix this family killing by design corrupt system of trash!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 12th, 2016Christopher U. from Chicago Heights, IL writes:
This position seems pointless nobody has moved on it since it's been posted nobody is coming said anything about it child support is majorly ignored in this country because it's a way to keep people poorREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 11th, 2016Benita A. from Thomasville, NC writes:
Non custodial parents should not be penalized because the custodial parent has made welfare a career and works just enough to still be able to collect a tax credit, full welfare benefits and half of the noncustodial parents income. A person can commit fraud or theft and be put in jail but ripping off the noncustodial parent and our government and hard earned tax dollars is not punished.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 11th, 2016Benita A. from Thomasville, NC writes:
Non custodial parents should not be penalized because the custodial parent has made welfare a career and works just enough to still be able to collect a tax credit, full welfare benefits and half of the noncustodial parents income. A person can commit fraud or theft and be put in jail but ripping off the noncustodial parent and our government and hard earned tax dollars is not punished.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 11th, 2016David M. from Los Osos, CA writes:
I am a Father of four, Three children from my first marriage, a one from my second, My second wife had a child from a previous marriage that she collected support on, I had a good Job and so did she, plus she was getting support. that made us a three income home while the father was a half income parent, WHAT!, my stepsons father could not afford to visit him, he had to work extra hours to afford a everyday life and pay child support, I sent the father his child support back monthly without my wife's knowledge, He then had the ability to drive from, New Mexico to Missouri to visit, this moment changed my stepsons outlook of his father. A great moment in both of their lives, Today I am paying child support to the same woman, (Third husband) she is newly married, no animosity on my part, (Fourth husband)He has a good job, she has a good Job, she gets child support from me, and support from the other father. A four income home approx 120,000 annual income from employment, 8,000 annual child one, 10,000 child support child two, Total=$138,000 she has divided her first son from his father again, and is trying to do the same to me, OPINION take a good look this is an industry for custodial parents if the law allows them to use it the wrong way, I took responsibility for my stepson before i married his mother, so should any man that puts himself in that position. so I believe that once a mother and a man marry child support should either stop or automatically be adjusted based on percentages needed by both families, of the children. But how do you tell law makers who don't have to deal with these issues, START a movement maybeREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 11th, 2016David M. from Los Osos, CA writes:
I am a Father of four, Three children from my first marriage, a one from my second, My second wife had a child from a previous marriage that she collected support on, I had a good Job and so did she, plus she was getting support. that made us a three income home while the father was a half income parent, WHAT!, my stepsons father could not afford to visit him, he had to work extra hours to afford a everyday life and pay child support, I sent the father his child support back monthly without my wife's knowledge, He then had the ability to drive from, New Mexico to Missouri to visit, this moment changed my stepsons outlook of his father. A great moment in both of their lives, Today I am paying child support to the same woman, (Third husband) she is newly married, no animosity on my part, (Fourth husband)He has a good job, she has a good Job, she gets child support from me, and support from the other father. A four income home approx 120,000 annual income from employment, 8,000 annual child one, 10,000 child support child two, Total=$138,000 she has divided her first son from his father again, and is trying to do the same to me, OPINION take a good look this is an industry for custodial parents if the law allows them to use it the wrong way, I took responsibility for my stepson before i married his mother, so should any man that puts himself in that position. so I believe that once a mother and a man marry child support should either stop or automatically be adjusted based on percentages needed by both families, of the children. But how do you tell law makers who don't have to deal with these issues, START a movement maybeREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 11th, 2016Keith M. from Rockfield, KY signed.
Nov 11th, 2016thomas M. from griffin, GA writes:
It really boils down to this,,,this system doesn't care about the mother,the children,and certainly not the father, ALL it is concerned about is generating revenue for itself, keeping us poor so THEY can keep going to the bank and continuing to control us PERIOD!!! can you say corruption?!! If it truly cared about the children,,then force the custodial parent to produce documentation of all money spent EVERY WEEK and in many cases obtain a JOB!!! It needs to be just as much of a pain in the a** for them as it is for us!! As it is now the custodial parent can get free food,free rent,free phone AND A CHECK!! It's no wonder as to why the morals are all but gone in society today,, and the children grow up seeing this and think it's ok!! WELL IT'S NOT OK!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 11th, 2016Someone from Bakersfield, CA writes:
Yeah child support laws in California are a joke, good men like me get screwed and mothers get the easy way out. I see my kids all the time, yet these women want more money to blow on there new boyfriend smh wake up Congress and do something about, remember we the peole vote for you to be in a position of power.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 11th, 2016Someone from Stuart, FL writes:
I have been paying child support for years. Even though I had my son for 7 years I stilled had to pay for his child support to Florida. So I dbl payed. I asked Florida to take that off my back support and the will not. How is that fair to me. My credit is shoot because of it and I can't even get credit to help better my life. My children don't even live at home anymore and they have children of there own. My ex never worked and lived off of my support ontop of that I still bought school supplies and clothes for them. I struggled and I am still struggling.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 10th, 2016Someone from Bassfield, MS writes:
I agree with Jairo V., why should I be forced to work away from home 6 and 7 days week to pay child support, miss out on seeing my daughter because I can't afford to go home due to the amount of child support I have to pay, while the mother gets to work and save every penny of her money plus spend every day with my daughter (that's worth more than any amount of money). I can not willfully take another job to be able to spend time with my daughter because it would be less money and courts won't allow me to make less unless I get laid off. I can't even afford a home now. The laws are unfair and only hurt my daughter cause her daddy can't come home as much as he should.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 10th, 2016Matthew L. from Salinas, CA writes:
I was a victim of California Child Support FRAUD. The DCSS decided not to persue the biological father because his SSN is registered in multiple states and I was an Easier Target. I now pay over a thousand dollars a month in child support and dont even know where the child and his mother are. The courts are stacked against men it is beyond unjust and illegal but no one cares.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 10th, 2016Robert P. from Middletown, OH writes:
I agree 100% on this and should be considered also for secion 8 help as well.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 10th, 2016Jairo V. from San Antonio, TX writes:
I think that the child support system is borderline hostile to the fathers that work day in day out just to fall short because the mom is always considered the higher person because she gave birth to the child or children. It should be 50/50 between parents especially because the father sees the children less due to the unfair laws that are around.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 10th, 2016Nick C. from Dublin, CA writes:
I have 3 kids from a prior marriage. the child support laws are completely unfair. i have served my country and have paid non stop. the arrears from unfair interest and false reporting have left me with a HUGE debt. i have since remarried and have a 3 year old daughter. i have a god relationship with one of my children but the other 2 have been unfairly turned against me by their mother constantly telling them i am a bad person. the youngest of my first 3 kids is in high school now and he will be 18 in 2 years. but the unfair laws have put major interest on money that i am unable to pay. even though i am paying every month, because the arrears cannot be caught up i will be paying the rest of my life for unfair interest charges and have no way out. I understand that people make mistakes in life regarding kids, but i believe it's unfair to demonize men like me who have served their country, work hard every day, pay taxes, and pay child support while the other parent has not been required to work and receives welfare, medical, dental, food, etc... and because she is getting these entitlements, i am required to pay those as well. this is not fair at all. are custodial parents always getting away with this? the financial responsibility should be equal. both parents should be held equally accountable for supporting the kid(s). these unfair laws make it absolutely impossible for those of us paying child support to get ahead and forge better lives that will benefit even the children that do not live with us. both parents are equally responsible for bringing the child into this world and both should be required to meet standards to care for the child or children. I see all too often women don't want to give custody or even shared physical custody to the fathers of these children out of spite, hatred, or anger. They are backed by laws that have painted them as blameless victims. they can even go and have children from multiple partners and collect support from all the different men. it's like a money making industry for them. There are a lot of Men like me out there that pay support, struggle to meet our responsibilities and be good fathers. fighting the mind games when the custodial mother poisons the kids opinion of us so the kids don't even want us around. when will this end? for these types of cases putting laws and labeling us as dead beat dads is the worst decision ever made by our governmental systems. you cannot generalize and lump us good dads just because other people run from their problems. this should all be handled on a case by case basis. there should also be an age appropriate payment plan because as the kids get older, they cost less money than when they were infants. either way if you fall behind on your support payments there needs to be a better way to catch up. but charging insane amounts of interest on those of us that are paying all the time is the worst because you have ruined our capability to create better means to support our kids. it will forever be a stain on our financial record with no way to ever get out of it. so unless these laws were designed to basically turn men and fathers into money machines for the state, this should be addressed immediately. In the end, times have changed and people need to be responsible for their own choices. BOTH people who made the babies should be held equally accountable. the laws are definitely one sided. does anyone ever ask if the father wished to have custody of the child? all too often this is overlooked as if the laws and society says that men cannot be a father and raise kids on their own. basically there are women out there that abuse the laws of the child support system and enslave men by way of having children so they can have kids from multiple partners and receive money and free entitlements. Maybe there should be a law against having children with more than 2 different partners. it's obvious that the law is not designed to protect children from out of control people having children with multiple partners and each one getting money for it. if you demand the government be involved, then there should be involvement on the other side of the spectrum also. otherwise, maybe the laws need to be immediately repealed and go back to the drawing board. the way these support laws have been designed allow women and some men to take advantage of the system and of course those of us who do pay and try to meet the responsibilities have to suffer for it. People don't get that justice is not to be used as a weapon or a means to make money off of dishonest motives. these laws enable dishonesty and perverse behavior. it allows men and women to use the law to enslave the other parent. these laws were supposed to help children, but instead it has enabled more children to be created because of perverse ideas that the state will support the children as well as the irresponsible people abusing the laws by having more children because they will never be held accountable for their irresponsible choices to bring life into this world. Sometimes the only answer for this injustice is to let the parents suffer and stay out of it. sometimes the consequences are having to actually be penalized for abusing the system. perhaps there should be a law stating that women who have more than 2 child support cases from different partners could be investigated and be fined for defrauding the system. I say to my state and federal representatives, that these laws are unfair. these laws have and are currently ruining the lives of thousands of good men because of the unfair financial burdens placed on us. i say to all of our government that accountability should be equally placed on both parties. I say all too often that anger between the parents causes unfair treatment of the children. I say that because the laws are biased towards women that they can use the child support law that is deeply flawed as a weapon of financial slavery on the men. they force the men out of their children's lives. poison the minds of the children against the fathers, and expect the laws to treat them as victims and the men are assumed and labeled as uncaring deadbeat dads. the men are looked upon as the most horrible human beings. I say to our courts and government that this is unjust and we good men trying to be in our kids lives and support ourselves and our kids have been mistreated and labeled as criminals both on our financial records from unjust accrued interest and unjust calculations because not every person makes the same amount of money, not every person lives in the same zip code, not every person is equally educated. many fathers have been forced to live in single bedrooms with roommates or share a house because of these unjust financial laws of child support. we have been reduced down to not being able to afford a suitable place to bring our children when we are "allowed" to visit with them. When the other parent finds out that we cannot afford our own place and the kids are exposed to strangers, we are then demonized by the custodial parent again because they don't want the kids around strangers. What recourse do we fathers have? when will the laws and the scales of justice be balanced for us? it is not a crime for me to have had relationships that did not work out. it is not a crime for me to have had children in a prior marriage. but because the laws are biased towards the mother, i was unable to see my kids because the laws would not back me up on what i feel are my rights as a parent and a father. in the end, i have been paying and the debt keeps climbing and now they constantly probe my bank accounts because now the accrued interest has grown so big that i will never be able to pay this off for the rest of my life. I have lost all faith in our representatives and the people in our government. I'm just what the system says i am. according to these laws and this system i am just a slave, a poor excuse for a human being, a deadbeat dad, a hopeless case, and whatever else angry women wish to add to it.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 10th, 2016Someone from Sacramento, CA writes:
My son responsibility for his daughter is paying child support, but he also has a son that he pays for his son is 14yrs old !, that lives near by,his daughter from a brief relationship moved, with his daughter to Texas telling the judge that she had a scholarship to a college in Texas my Grandaughter was two she is now 7yr old we have not heard from her ,the mother does not answer phone calls or texts but she got the judge there in Texas to pay her eight hundred dollars my son lives with me else he would be with out a job and homeless ,once the mother moved to Texas with her family there she said I don't need to go to college she lied to the judge here in Calif so he let her go ! We don't have the money for a lawyer .REPORT COMMENTS
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Nov 10th, 2016Angionette H. from Mukwonago, WI writes:
My husband pays nearly $1000 in child support every month for his 2 kids. His ex sits and home and does not work. They are 5 and 11 - both in school full time. We are trying to find a house but cannot afford one big enough for our daughter and his 2 kids (every other weekend) due to the amount of child support he pays. When/if we do find a house, his kids most likely won't even have a bedroom. They will be sleeping on a couch for 3 nights every other weekend (Fri-Mon). Meanwhile, she's married and also gets her new husband's income. They get new cars and toys all the time. We can't even afford a decent place to live! I work full time, college educated, at a global company. Its not fair that we have to suffer!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 10th, 2016Timothy L. from Lahaina, HI writes:
I agree that mothers who don't want to get jobs should be responsible and not live off of child support solely. this also creates unfairness to non-custodial parents that had paid child support when they were working and weren't a deadbeat Dad/Mom but through no fault of their own became disabled and couldn't receive money as disabled because of different state laws about receiving disability before getting SSDI. I was out of work because of a severe back injury that left me unable to do any type of work at all, but I had just moved to New Mexico from California to be near my children who were moved from California to New Mexico by their mother. I became disabled in New Mexico where I later found out that you had to purchase on your own, short-term and long-term disability, through an employer or through the state unlike California where disability is taken out of your check automatically. I'm now in so much debt from being without any means of even supporting myself let alone me being able to pay my child support obligations which I always paid on time and more than I had to for my children because they needed more money when I was working. I'm just trying to let other people in my position know that they are not alone and we get hit with interest on the arrears that we might have to pay back for the rest of our lives. Child support laws need to be changed in certain circumstances instead of penalizing people like me past the point of poverty and even being homeless when the custodial parent almost relies on child support to support their lifestyles.REPORT COMMENTS
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