Unfair child support laws
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Dec 19th, 2016Someone from Land O Lakes, FL writes:
Child support should not be used on rent, electric, gas bill, cable, groceries, or car payments. This is absurd! The non-custodial parent also has to provide these things so the children can have a place to come to. I believe these things should be at the expense of the custodial parent. The custodial parent should have to pay for their personal things themselves. Child support payments should be used for things like cloting for the kids, shoes for the kids, medical expenses for the kids, things associated with school. Another thing that is absurd, a non custodial parent having to pay child support during extended summer months while he/she has the children. What is the point? To pay our ex's bills and vacation expenses! If I were to ask my ex for money during these months he would laugh at me and tell me he's not giving me a dime even though it is needed for the kids! The kids' best interests are not in mind when it comes to child support. After all, would we be spending nearly as much on our children if we were still married? The reality is probably not. Let's not forget that it can be wasted on extra-curricular activities. I'm sorry, but I grew up not able to play sports and do things because my parents didn't have the funds and I turned out just fine. My kids have to be told no when they want to do these things while they are with me because I don't have the funds, but he is able to loook like "the good guy" and get the praise from the kids because he can use the money on their wants instead of their needs. This results in my kids never saying thank you to me and never showing any gratitude towards my new husband and I for what we provide for them. In the mean time, I get to hear from my kids, "Daddy works so hard to make money for us." This makes me cringe because I know it is not true. Let's not forget the fact that he is receiving my son's SSI check on top of this and doesn't have to count it as income. -
Dec 18th, 2016Nick B. from Wilkes Barre, PA writes:
My ex and I agreed to be civil after we found out she was pregnant with my daughter, but throughout her pregnancy I was always the bad guy no matter what I did. She threatened me with child support but yet she also wanted an abortion and then she wanted an adoption. Now I can't sleep because I'm a 20 year old male about to get ****ed by the system because she has every right to be spiteful and hate me and take my hard earned money for no reason and if I don't pay, I go to jail? Wrong. That's ********. Men should have a say. Men should have rights the this sticky situation that women put us in. Pay or be incarcerated. How about pay and have more rights to pur children? The world thinks we're "deadbeats". But most of us are devoted men that will take care of our families at all costs and we still get******on. Change the laws and give us more rights!REPORT COMMENTS
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Dec 18th, 2016Someone from Thomaston, CT writes:
I also beleive this, but I would add in one thing. The female here in Connecticut can earn income and it doesn't take from the father's child support as it does in other states. If I earn $750 weekly, no matter what the situation is for the mother, I have no choice but to pay what the book states I have to pay. The earnings of the mother should be considered and any mother who basically spits out kids like a vending machine should be forced to work. They don't deserve $250 per child per week for spreading her legs and raising a child. They should at least be forced to work and provide the daycare, that would be fair to me, especially since they are raking in all the money and there's no way it is worth that per week because they decided to be a baby making sleeze that is taking the father's rights away from 5 men etc, then maing them pay for it in the long run. Those women shoudl be forced to have DNA testing done too. If the father isn't who they think it is, they should be responsible for the cost of the test because half of them don't know who the dad is because they sleep with so many people.REPORT COMMENTS
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Dec 16th, 2016Alonza C. from Torrance, CA writes:
I have recently discovered that my children's mother may have committed several counts of section 8, welfare, and/or other related fraud. Though she filed child support under a vindictive state of mind, but the entire 14 year I lived with her she never told me she applied for any of the above for our children but I was aware she received aide for her previous children. To my recent discovery she was suppose to inform these programs before allowing me to move in under the agreement to pay her $500 a month to help out on a portion of rent and bills. Please understand I was 19 years old and she was 32. I honestly knew nothing about welfare an section 8 and she knew that. I'm learning of negligence of the behalf of County workers to not had notice my 3 kids under the same last name by the same father whom signed 3 different birth certificates. I now learned in order for her to have gotten any assistance she would to admit to either not knowing my whereabouts or state I'm not involved in my kids lives. Am I correct in saying this is a form of falsifying information on a government documents in order to accrue benefits. For 14 years living together, 2 cars leased in our names, decade of mail delivered, two times I proposed to her, and a year after I parted from my ex do to constant insecurities, inability to move forward I was never pursued for child support until I denied returning to our relationship. I received paperwork in a months time. This is only a few infractions of what I am learning from all what this woman was keeping in secret. I am reaching out and educating myself more now after I have fallen in high arrears, no bank accounts, licenses constantly sought after for suspension. I can't get ahead and is near homeless. It's crazy that I reached a point where someone told me to swallow my man pride to stay strong and seek help because the world now is all about scamming and punishing the innocent. I took this advice and went to social services for help and guess what, I seen my ex down there. Still trying to draw more benefits out of the system. I really feel that all of these programs needs shut down for a month and re-evaluate everything and fix all the errors and then allow everyone to re-apply. They have enough money to void out everyone and begin a new proper mission. I truly see now it's not about the children. They will have the memories of Mommy and Daddy out the picture or worse. You can't approve a loan to someone and then charge someone else to pay it back when they aren't in the room. Why is that legal? My ex clearly told me "call before you come by, and we don't need your money". If that were true then why ask for child support? Why would anyone approve it without seeing if both parents can be there for the children? Because it's not. Trust me, if no one was getting a check and these positions were for volunteers, more families would stick together. Less babies would be born. It's so wrong I can't see my children let alone unable to at least build a dynasty for them to inherit because low level parents are satisfied with settling for less in life, not build possibilities for their childrens.REPORT COMMENTS
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Dec 16th, 2016Donald K. from Enterprise, AL writes:
I owe New York State 10,876.76 in arrears. The judge base it on a pay I wasn't making. According to the people in family court. The judge can do that I think it is wrong. Now Albany County is wanting to take 65% of my paycheck. They already took my driver lic. I have no rights to the child. I don't even get to see her. So why should I have pay child support? Why does New York State feel it is okay. To take all my money. I'm 36 years old and force to live with my mom and dad because of them.REPORT COMMENTS
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Dec 16th, 2016Donald K. from Enterprise, AL writes:
I owe New York State 10,876.76 in arrears. The judge base it on a pay I wasn't making. According to the people in family court. The judge can do that I think it is wrong. Now Albany County is wanting to take 65% of my paycheck. They already took my driver lic. I have no rights to the child. I don't even get to see her. So why should I have pay child support? Why does New York State feel it is okay. To take all my money. I'm 36 years old and force to live with my mom and dad because of them.REPORT COMMENTS
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Dec 14th, 2016ken f. from Van Nuys, CA signed.
Dec 14th, 2016kendale w. from Lewiston Woodville, NC signed.
Dec 14th, 2016A S. from Marietta, GA signed.
Dec 14th, 2016Michael R. from Cincinnati, OH writes:
The mother of my son, decided she wanted someone else out of the blue. Got section 8 free rent. Food stamps and a check in the mail for her electric bill. While i had to get another job to afford just to survive because of high child support, which she could have spent it on whatever she wished. She had no job no car. I had zero rights to see my son. Tell me how any of that makes any sense?REPORT COMMENTS
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Dec 12th, 2016Someone from Pattersonville, NY writes:
I agree with Elizabeth H. in that there should be a way of tracking things. I think that the combined income percentage that both parents are obligated yo pay, should not just disappear for the woman because she is considered the custodial parent. In fact, both parents should be custodial parents. Equal in every way. Then, the percentages that you pay after the court figures out your contribution, should go into a child support fund that is mandated by the courts. When you need money, you go down and apply for a withdrawal. little Bobby needs braces? Bring in the dental proof along with an order to get the braces. Little Sara needs a new pair of shoes? Bring in the receipt from your purchase for a reimbursement. I think if we had someone policing this stuff, it wouldn't seem nearly as crooked as it does now. This account would be accessible by both parents and the "child support" wouldn't go to some greedy woman who works the system, it would go to supporting the child/ren.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 12th, 2016Carlos L. from Miami, FL signed.
Dec 11th, 2016Someone from Defiance, OH writes:
My Childs mother and I decided together that we wanted to have a baby, shortly after she got pregnant she decided that she did not want to be in a relationship. As the months went on we would communicate when appointments would be she would agree that I could go with her I would take days off for work only for her to say she would rather go alone. She wanted me to go with her so we could hear the baby's heart beat I was so excited I took the day off to take her I was disappointed when she told me I couldn't go. Later that day as I was waiting at home she sends me an audio clip of our child's heartbeat along with a message saying that it was amazing and that she was sorry she didn't let me go that she felt hurt is all. A few more months went by and needed to start getting supplies ready and would ask her for advice on what types of things I would need, her response was why am I asking her i should be asking my family. I bought everything I thought I would need for the baby and would purchase items for her through her registry. Shortly before the baby being born I told her that I wanted to be there with her when the baby is born I spent time with her she had already picked out a name with out my input but we did agree that he would have my last name. The day she went into labor I took her to the hospital she later gave birth to our son it was the best day of my life. We stayed at the hospital until Sunday morning she insisted that we leave that day I knew something was going on we were filling out papers with one more to go when I went to the restroom when I returned the nurse said I had one more paper to sing and foolishly I signed without looking and we left later on. On the way back to her house she called her ex husband and wanted him to drop off her three other boys all while crying that she really needed them with her. When we got back to her house I played with her boys while she was feeding the baby. Shortly after she told me it was best that I left. I said we need to discuss how we are going to plan visitation with my son she said there was nothing to discuss and I left. Three days went by with her not letting me see my child, during that time she told me that she had called the hospital and let them know that I could not be there for his circumcision. I called the hospital my self to speak to the head nurse of the birthing center which is also her friend to let her know what was going on and she told me that she could not keep me from coming since I was the father and that she wanted me there for the circumcision that is why they had waited to do it the head nurse told me I would have to come in with her because there was a mess up on the birth certificate that all of the paperwork had my name as his last name except on the birth certificate that had her last name as the child last night. I called her that day to let her know that we need to make changes on the paperwork she told me nothing would be changed. The next day I found a lawyer to talk to you he had made some suggestions told me to give her a few days the hospital also told me that they would give us a few days to decide on the last name she wanted no part of that. The next day I went to child support to start filling out the necessary paperwork they could not locate her because at the time she would not give me her new address. They suggested that I request a DNA test so I did. The results showed thankfully that he was my child. They issued a temp child support hearing in august(baby born in may). During that time she allowed me to see the baby anywhere from 30min to 2 hrs a week. We both showed up to the hearing and she was being difficult with the officer asking how long it would take if we could reschedule she was even being difficult when the officer would ask her simple questions like how much she makes per hour. The officer then asked me if I was singing the child I told her that she would let me see the baby for a couple hours a week my ex stop the man told her know that she lets me see him anywhere from a half hour to two hours it just depends. The officer asked her why was she limiting my time my exes response was that the baby would start to cry or fuss the officer shot her folder and said that he was a baby and that is what babies do they fuss but there was no reason to limit my time with the child told us to contact her lawyers that there was nothing she could do and good luck in court and we left. She wouldn't even let me give my son a kiss goodbye. Just a little bit of information in July she started dating someone new. We were ordered to go to mediation We left mediation with an agreement but she never signed the papers and continue to make changes to our agreement and was not satisfied. We went back for the second half of our mediation and March and the mediator was upset that we were back in there when we were even following the first part of the order but we sat there mediated some more came up with another agreement which wasn't signed by her until the end of April because of changes she was making to our agreement again. We agreed to the time that I had with my son because she said she wanted to breast-feed which I I agreed to. The week after our mediation she stopped breast-feeding she moved in with her new boyfriend and our child. she ended up getting child-support and arrears from me arrears were almost for an entire year and she was also getting $600 A month for child support. We both carry medical for our son and I paid her half of day care which is $215 a month that is a total of 815 a month that I pay her I also pay for all his needs at my house which include clothing food roof over his head etc. I do all transportation except for one day my work schedule allows me to be off six days in a row so during the six days my son is with me while she is at work and I have a few overnights as well . Just as a sidenote she has three other boys from her previous marriage and she does not collect any child support from their father. But yet she got everything she could from me. not to mention during mediation the mediator told me it would be in my best interest to come up with an agreement because it went to the judge there was a chance that I would lose days and possibly have to pay more child support so of course I was afraid to lose any time and agreed to our agreement. She would not let me attend his birthday so I had to throw a birthday party for him on a different day she's been broke up with her boyfriend and had to move out so since I was out of town for work every other week I would let her and my son and other boys stay at my house.to make a long story short to this day I still put up with her bashing me as a father.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 11th, 2016alvyn b. from Scotch Plains, NJ writes:
Nobody should have a free ride. i love that comment they wanted equal rights so do we.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 11th, 2016Jeff M. from Temple, TX writes:
To make a long story short I owe 27000 in back child support for a kid that is not even mine. I went to court and terminated my right with a DNA test but the law states I still have to pay back support even when the mother stood up in court a said she know it wasn't mine but she needs the money. The only good thing that came out of this was no intrest on back support, (family code 161.005 section H) was good for about 2 years now they add interest back to my account and when I called about it the only think they could tell me is that they can do what they want even back the law. Now again I have to pay a lawyer the fix this issue do to there lack of knowledge on the law. Now what even makes this worst is I am owed 68000 in back support for I child I raised on my own and the child support office never can help me collect on this, ever time I call they tell me they can't find her or they ask me for her info again because they don't have it. The funny thing is she collects child support and she is in the system. Where is the law that protects people like me. Since when dose the law protect the fraud?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 10th, 2016Elizabeth H. from Round Rock, TX writes:
Thank you! My husband's wife recently took him back to court to get the child support modified, she went back to work long enough to go to court; once the court stuff was taken care of she once again quit working. I do not believe the child support she gets for their two sons together go primarily to the boys. I think they should have to show proof at the end of the year when they're doing their taxes of how much of the child support actually went to the child (ren) , then whatever wasn't be returned to said parent having to pay the child support. It takes 2 to make children, 1 parent shouldn't have to be the main provider.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 10th, 2016Someone from Newark, NJ writes:
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THIS WAS A LONG TIME IN THE MAKINGREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 10th, 2016Landon P. from Burleson, TX writes:
Every law written and enforced is a way to enslave somebody. For example, obamacare-congress and staff have private plans and different Than the one they advocate. Flue shots and other shots they mandate- they don't take them. I have never heard of any congress man or women complain about paying child support? How does a standard child support visitation schedule work for everybody in a state of different races, shifts, aes, pay, needs. I'm tx child support was enacted in 1995. Women made like 70 cents to every mans $1. Since then women now make close to 80 cents per mans dollar and no modification. In tx, the extended standard visitation breaks down to custodial parent getting child lol 56 % of year and the other like 44-46%. So with a 4-6 percent difference which is like prolly 2 weeks they make one of 20 percent. Also, the bottom line of child custody or whatever it's called uses the principle best interest of child. So u are telling me the one shoe fits all serves every child's best interest? No, the only interests it serves is the court, judge, the state child support agamecy, attorneys, and the puppy mill or 3 matters up 3 batters down and the quick case high five. Everybody needs to remember, nobody cares about u. They don't give a dam about ur situation, what u have to say bc they who make laws make them to enslave u. Why not make the standard visitation 50/50 and even and nobody pays anybody? If I pay for all my expenses while I have him and you pay for all them when u have them then ok. Then both parents pay equal into an account that pay for school clothes, medical, and stuff like that. Just like with discrimination, isn't this county built on fairness and equal? Why is this discriminatory. I would venture to say most parents are good and want the best for their child and have more invested and more willing to invested in the best interest of their child so why not 50/50. What gives one parent power over the other if the child is equally their. The system is a hypocrqcy as most things are bc man made them and believe me the reason is to make a portion of society a slave and to. I met amongst each other while the elite and top rob, steal, lie, cheat and don't go to jail. Just like a cop writes a person a ticket on Monday morning who is driving 5 over the speed limit and who is a home owner that pays takes that directly pay his salary, but won't go that same morning and pick up a warrant of the stack of pedophike warrants and serve that. It's about enslaving the willing. It's hard to get something to change when I'm not following it. What do I care as in congress. What does an old judge that hasn't picked up ur file know about the best interest by giving the standard visitation? How stupid. How does one child in tx get 20 percent but 2 get 25. So 5 percent covers it all? What, the children share clothes etc? U would think it would be 40 percent right? Lawyers arnt there to get u out of anything, they are there to make u get exactly what u deserve and make sure u don't get more. Basically a ref, bc there in tx is really. O wiggle room. Also, if women get custodial, what does a mother know about an 11 or 7 or whatever age boy? Do they go camping, renovate houses, fix cars, shoot guns, fish, hunt, etc for the most part no! So how does that serve the best interest of a child? Lastly, any govt agency that tells me the best interest of the child is at hand and approves fluoride and a known poison to be put in the water for consumption and that much hypocrqcy has no credit Uluru with me. Or tells me the patriot act is for preventing acts and yet since that has gone in effect they haven't caught a single one or prevent ed any and in fact there have been 14 attacks since then even if u don't want to call them what they are. The best advice I got which saved me. Buy the house only in your name, then get married or be really don't, then it's harder for her to take it away. She will have to leave and less incentive bc then she has to go through the trouble of financing and or overpaying for rental which negates child support and would make more sense if the parent under paying gets child support bc then that money goes to child instead of parent over paying paying child support to a landlord. But at least in my situation and advice it could be a persuasion factor to stay a little longer and work it out and another. Ought u get to spend with ur child. The other best advice I can give is write down all the memories u have with ur child the small stuff like u fixing something or something they said to make u laugh in a diary. These are the things u will want to recall. Ur can't and these are the same things that will ensure u that u are a good parent and u did well and unjustly u are being denied equal. Just like rep and dem and 2 party system.. why? Divide and conquer. Keep people arguing and it's almost perfectly 50/50 imagine that as even the time in office is 50/50 amongst the two parties. The more 50/50 the more bickering. If people worked out and used The best interest of The child and reduced child support to like 300-400 a month, you would be surprised how much better and less hostile the situation amongst parent s would be and that in turn benefits the child. When somebody is told what to do nobody likes that. When people are reasonable and conclude a reasonable plan then everybody is willing to do their part and then some. That is the best interest in the child, but this is hard to get both parties to realize due to the $ and guaranteed railroad the system. Just like those that make the law don't care bc they don't follow It well same goes for the one guaranteed to win doesnt want to avoid court. But although they think they won they didn't bc the situation is horrible and people would win more and be willing to Do more if u remember it's not about u or how mad u are or about what happen or who cheated. It's greater than u and being an adult u have to put these things aside and work together for your children and a much better situation than some fat judge not judging nothing but following what was ruled for the last 20 years in almost all cases. I'd rather just a robotic arm up at a bench and when everybody get me done push a button and the the robotic arm juslt slams the gavel. That's would be the same thing and save a lot of money for a judge bc they arnt judging rather than keeping the cases moving and status quo.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 9th, 2016Jeremiah W. from Centreville, VA writes:
I was a Chaplain that was laid off during the holidays right in time for a child support case. The courts did not care and ordered me to pay $1,200 a month even though I was laid off and the mother of our children is still allowed to stay on Medicaid. How is this right? When I don't have the ability to pay $1,200 a month. The court also didn't include payments I made to the mother noted as "Childcare.". What is wrong with this system and how can a good father be penalized for getting laid off? Somebody please help me. My name is Rev. Jeremiah Seth Williams. 703-656-0850. I need an advocate and some advice, please.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 9th, 2016Someone from Charleston, WV writes:
Putting someone in jail for nonpayment is a joke, because the taxes payer have to pay for the person in jail.The state, judges, workers, and the agency more wary about kickbacks instead of doing what is right.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 9th, 2016Someone from Charleston, WV writes:
The state should ask the noncustodial paren wants the state help to raise the child with money, food, and clothing instead of make the state choice. Most kid need the love and attention of adult figure.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 9th, 2016Someone from Los Angeles, CA writes:
Child Support system is has been purposely broken by state to generate revenue. Custodial parent is treated with total bias to assure that local government can fatten their little cash cow. I have my daughter 14 days a month on average and would love to have her full time, That being said, the court has still denies me the right of joint legal & physical custody. If the court granted me a day or two more a month I would have her for at least half or a little over half of the time which would give me the right to pursue joint custody and nullify support payments all together. Unfortunately that is not the case. All attempts have been denied. My daughter is now 11 years old, it was a bit difficult to raise her up until about the age of three but after that it was literally a walk in the park "because we like taking walks in the park everyday. Children become more and more self sufficient everyday and it becomes easier to "parent" everyday. So for all the excuses and false pretenses spread out there by custodial parents who don't have a valid reason for "evening the playing field" so to speak "shame on you" for depriving your children of a Father or Mother free to proliferate independently of one another for the benefit of their children. People have fought and died for equality and they should have it no matter which way it cuts.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 9th, 2016Someone from Dayton, OH writes:
I have to pay over $1000 a month for 2 kids. I can barely make ends meet at my place and i'm required by law to be able to provide the same necessities such as shelter, clothing, food and health care at my place as the mother is. I don't have issues paying for my children BUT make it reasonable so I can provide for my children at my place as well!! The mother works and I don't understand why I have to provide SOO much to her. Totally unfair system and doesn't even regulate how that support money is used!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 8th, 2016Leonard A. from Canal Winchester, OH writes:
They shouldn't be allowed to collect support if they have drug/ alcohol dependency issues or been accused of child abuse and collect welfare benefits as well. There aren't equal rights in any of the current child support laws and child support isn't just a males responsibility,it's Both parents regardless of gender...REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 8th, 2016Someone from Aurora, CO writes:
Child support is a broken system. I'm not a parent so this is coming from a child I can tell you what it's like from my mom's side and dad's side. Both sides were completely messed up. My dad would send money and my mom wouldn't get the money. My Dad paid 2 years longer after he had paid my mom off in one lump sum for back child support. They made an agreement in court and everything but still he was being charged child support and was threatened jail time if you didn't pay it. So he had to get an attorney and finally they found out that they were adding payments onto his balance instead of taking them off and they had to send him checks back but this took another two years. Now my friend is going through the same thing he owed 20,000$ last year since then he has paid about 15,000$ of that off but now they say he owes 50,000$ he has 2 kids but it turns out he is paying for 3 kids the 3rd child is a 70 year old lady (who is his daughters grandma)REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 7th, 2016Chaka C. from Atlanta, GA writes:
And if a custodial parent wants to collect a arrears they need to start the process before the child turns 18 , it is totally unfair that a -custodial parent can collect arrears anytime they want and if the non-custodial parent did not protect themselves properly by trusted the other custodial parent then they could be in a bad situation financiallyREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 7th, 2016Danny from Jacksonville, FL writes:
I personally fill this is pointless I honestly do cause no one cares unless we do something about it. Well my situation is I been taking care of my daughter since she was born I love her more then anything I've ever owned well I was then pit on child support by the currupt government cause my baby mother of 10 years have never worked... Ever and because she now has 4 more kids by 4 other different men the one man that still did for my child like a man is suppose to do had to suffer knowing that I still have a daughter and the child support lady told me it didn't matter cause it's a separate situation so long story short I was laid off my job and told by child support that they add my balance up and then divide it from what I was making to making only unemployment I now have no life my license just got suspended can't drive my car I stay out the way now and I literally have no transportation LITERALLY not a soul so government I know you read this and you can sleep at night cause your life probly is a breeze but so help me God I will keep my head high and make change I will not kill myself over this I will not make my girlfriend fill she has to fill bad for me your system is flawed extremely flawed and you must do something people will not tolerate this much longer including me ...REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 7th, 2016Someone from Miami, FL writes:
I currently live with someone that is under child support and it is absurd!!!!! He makes 11 an hour and they take out $600.00 A MONTH for one kid!!!! He doesn't even have enough to support his family. CHILD SUPPORT laws are being unfair! As I experienced, they ALWAYS favor the mother! They don't verify information given by the mother. The girl lives with her grandma and brother, she doesnt pay rent, she gets all the government benefits AND child support! THE LAWS NEED TO CHANGE!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 7th, 2016Someone from Lancaster, CA writes:
I have a few issues with our country's child support and custody laws. First accountability on where child support. Second the fact that most non-custodial parents living in poverty. Third custodial parents not working and getting more custody of children because they stay home. I think the custodial parents should supply receipts for what they spend on the children monthly and anything left over should be placed into a savings account for the children. Also, I don't think its fair for most of the country's non-custodial parents to basically be living in poverty. I for example am paying about 30% of my take home pay. My ex has a new husband who makes decent money. This past summer she took me back to court and my support increased, because I have to work overtime in order to pay my mortgage. The next thing I saw was they went out and bought a brand new $35,000 boat. They could not afford it before the increase so now they can and the money doesn't go to my children. The court also gave my ex more time with our children because of the fact that she stays home and I leave for work early in the morning and have to take them to child care. This in turn also raised the monthly support. I'm not a sexist but why does our country lean more to mothers when it comes to custody of children? Women are always fighting for equal rights and equal pay but they are not willing to give men equal time sharing and most courts agree with mothers.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 7th, 2016Asia B. from Oakland, CA writes:
Women do not stay at home doing nothing. There are an array of things that have to be taken care of within the household. The problem is society's ignorance to the struggles of mothering. Everyone thinks it's a walk in the ****ing park.REPORT COMMENTS
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Dec 6th, 2016Robert C. from Sanford, NC writes:
I have been struggling as a man for the laat 10 years trying to keep my head above water, and be a active postive father (dad) to my children. The more money I make the less I get, and still jump through hoops to talk or see my children. My lights get turned off my car gets repoed because I struggle to pay my bills because child support takes the majority of what I make and leave me with nothing more of an amout to live on the street with. When I get laid off they back me into a corner once I do find another Job and hey you got to pay 3,000 plus what your normal child support payment or you get locked up for the rest of your natural born life till you pay it. All the while my kids mother living high off the hug. I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!!! I love my children and won't quit being there father no matter how much thier mother want's to push me out of there live. I sick of it. Don't have gass to put in my car half the time nor pay all my bills because I'm being pimped by child support. I STAND FOR CHANGE!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 6th, 2016Someone from Sanford, FL writes:
The problem a lot of times is not having to pay child support, it is the bias, racist, and corrupt magistrates and hearing officers that do not follow the law and because the states profit from the unfairness they allow these people to get away with fraud and extortion. THUS VIOLATING YOUR CONSTITUTIONAL CIVIL RIGHTS. Hear in Florida in Seminole County they are the worst and the courts know it. The Florida Supreme Court has acknowledge the bias against men in family court, but the lower courts do what they want to without consequence.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 6th, 2016Someone from Yankeetown, FL writes:
Child support should also address visitation. If you was married and get divorced - the divorce addresses both support and visitation. Now it seems no one gets married and support doesn't address visitation. So you go after the dad's to pay - then the mom's won't let you see or even talk to your kids. Most folks don't know about the parenting plan. Should be part of the child support. AND CHILD SUPPORT IS SUPPOSE TO BE FOR THE CHILDREN - NOT FOR THE MOM TO GET NEW BOOBS!!! or for a mom to move around and in with a different guy all the time and cause she's mad at the dad - to trash him to the kids. She can move out of state and the dad never knows. Why there are so many problems with the kids today. I don't even have kids - just babysit and see this first hand how much harm comes to the kidsREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 6th, 2016Someone from Woods Cross, UT writes:
Please fix this for fathers that can't live for themselves while they pay child support. It's hurt a lot of people and driven them to addiction and suicide because it feels absolutely hopeless. No father should struggle while the mother lives the high life. It's nothing short of cruel.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 5th, 2016Reginal M. from West Palm Beach, FL writes:
Equal economic challenges are in the path of both parents if they deside to part ways, so the responsibilities should be met by both parents as well.REPORT COMMENTS
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