Unfair child support laws
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Oct 15th, 2016Someone from Zebulon, NC writes:
I wholeheartedly agree ..that should be a law . Sent people abuse the system and do things out of spite . There are some real legit people who do need support but there are just as many bad as good -
Oct 15th, 2016Stephen C. from New York City, NY signed.
Oct 15th, 2016mark N. from New York, NY signed.
Oct 15th, 2016Stephen C. from New York, NY writes:
Yeah, I'm not going to correct the grammar mistakes I see in this message, but it is true. Now I don't agree with some laws. I know that young people well they have urges especially young men, so it's a bit unfair to tell young people to wait until such and such a date before having kids, because well the body is what it is. With that said, if your going to come down on young men, when the young in America today are being hit very hard in so many ways due to our economy and also just adding the fact that no one is guaranteed employment forever even when they do have a job, then you have to come down on women too for basically as your saying here doing nothing but having kids and then living off the state. Or, you can't come down on any gender, and the state will have to be forced to give an allowance of sorts to young people (forever) to help with child expenses, but again even if this policy was pushed, these people who have kids both the man and the woman need to be encouraged greatly to get a job to help support any children they might have.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 14th, 2016Johanna M. from Rising Sun, MD writes:
While I don't exactly agree with the original statement, making it sound like most single mothers just sit at home and collect a child support check (there are those that do, and there are plenty of women who use the courts and their children to punish men for the failure of their relationship), I don't believe that it's fair to take over half of the non custodial parent's income for child support. Doing so not only impedes the non custodial parent's ability to take care of themselves, but also makes having a relationship with their child more difficult, by making it necessary to work more hours or to have several jobs just to put a roof over their head. I know many parents (not just fathers) who are homeless because more than half of their income goes to pay child support. How is someone supposed to spend quality time with their children when they have no home to take a child to? Then you have people who refuse to work an over the table job because of the of amount child support they are supposed to pay. There will always be deadbeats who just simply don't want to pay child support, but I believe the majority of parents would have no problem paying child support if it was a fair amount and if courts took in to consideration their ability to provide for themselves as well as their children. Most people can't afford to have half of their income taken from them, especially if they are making minimum wage, and it isn't right to expect them to. Of course every parent should take care of their children, but what custodial parent do you know that pays half of their income solely on their children? Even accounting for a portion of rent/mortgage, electric, water and other necessities, it's not half of their total income. By the way, I am a woman who pays just as much as men in my state do. They use the same system to calculate payments for mothers and fathers. I was homeless and was having trouble finding a job at the time that the judge decidedhow she was going to calculate my payments. So even though I had no income, she calculated my payments as if I was making minimum wage and working 40 hours a week, putting me over $10,000 in arrears from the start. I've been able to get a job since then, but as with most jobs that pay minimum wage, I'm not allowed to be given more than 29 hours in a week. Of course I'm looking for either another part-time job or a full time job, because even without child support taking 55% of my check, who could live off a part time minimum wage job? I've never lived off a man if anything it was the opposite. When my husband got hurt and couldnt work, I worked two jobs to keep a roof over our heads. Not all women bounce from man to man having children just to get a paycheck.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 14th, 2016Johanna M. from Rising Sun, MD writes:
While I don't exactly agree with the original statement, making it sound like most single mothers just sit at home and collect a child support check, I don't believe that it's fair to take over half of the non custodial parent's income for child support. Doing so not only impedes the non custodial parent's ability to take care of themselves, but also makes having a relationship with their child more difficult, by making it necessary to work more hours or to have several jobs just to put a roof over their head. I know many parents (not just fathers) who are homeless because more than half of their income goes to pay child support. How is someone supposed to spend quality time with their children when they have no home to take a child to? Then you have people who refuse to work an over the table job because of the of amount child support they are supposed to pay. There will always be deadbeats who just simply don't want to pay child support, but I believe the majority of parents would have no problem paying child support if it was a fair amount and if courts took in to consideration their ability to provide for themselves as well as their children. Most people can't afford to have half of their income taken from them, especially if they are making minimum wage, and it isn't right to expect them to. Of course every parent should take care of their children, but what custodial parent do you know that pays half of their income solely on their children? Even accounting for a portion of rent/mortgage, electric, water and other necessities, it's not half of their total income.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 14th, 2016Victoria T. from Marion, MT signed.
Oct 14th, 2016Victoria T. from Marion, MT signed.
Oct 14th, 2016La Trice J. from Cincinnati, OH writes:
I am a woman who owes and pays child support. I began to occur the day that I set foot inside the court room which at that time I was unaware. The calculations that they base what you pay is unbelievable. I work full time and is still unable to pay rent and food etc.. The way that this country is ran is deplorable. I for one would petition how a state calculate what is set for a person to pay child support.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 14th, 2016Someone from Miami, FL signed.
Oct 14th, 2016Oscar L. from Copperas Cove, TX writes:
I truly agree, especially when we as great fathers continuously are taken back to court each year by mothers and the unfair child support system. I truly don't understand why its name "Child Support" because it's actually spousal support and revenue for the OAG. I take care of my kids and they live well and I have paid ALL the money to ensure they do. I have a son that I paid child support for, then had custody for 7 years. I received no money from the mother I actually had to pay her because I made more. I then paid for everything else, College, cars, Insurance and all. Mother gave 0.00, we have to change and reform the system, woman need to be investigated and ensure that the CHILDREN are what's Important. Not the next man they are going to take advantage of, what are the numbers, % of woman that actually put the children first and not try and get what they can from the father. I believe woman need to start going to college and earn more money and share the responsibility of raising each others kids. The men are not the only source it takes two to raise a child.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 14th, 2016Tim B. from Dayville, CT writes:
agreed, this needs to change, especially for the fathers that are still part of the childrens lives.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 14th, 2016Someone from Woodbury, MN writes:
Agreed. This amounts to unethical bias. Complete reform is needed. It is absolutely ridiculous.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 14th, 2016Someone from Saint Paul, MN writes:
Agreed the child support is more like a form of alimony. Lets be honest, the ex does not use it for the kid. They also are not required to provide proof on what it is spent on. The whole child support system is in ridiculous need of reform.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 13th, 2016WILLIAM T. from Irving, TX writes:
yes these sad mothers needs too work also this should not all be on the father cause she wants to be lazy if we have to pay so should sheREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 13th, 2016Someone from Valley, AL writes:
why can someone's exwife threaten her exhusband to take them back to court for more money when she doesn't have to show proof of what she has used the child support for. She just bought a new car last year and claims she can't support her child! I think wheather it's the father or the mother that has custody they should have to keep receipts to show how the spent the money on the child, I know they can use some of it for rent and utilities, clouthes and groceries, but the rest should be spent on the child not the mother!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 13th, 2016Concerned Citizen from Revere, MA writes:
If you want to fight the good fight and reform the corrupt family law system, then sign this petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 13th, 2016Rick S. from Kennesaw, GA writes:
My ex-wife quit working 8 years ago when she cheated and got pregnant by another man She moved in with him immediately after the divorce and never worked again. Now she still has my 12 year old and I recently got custody of my 15 year old. Now I have an 10 month old with my second wife. Since the ex refuses to work I still have to pay her $900 a month even though I have a baby and teenager to support. I am driving a 10 year old chevy aveo and surviving on credit cards while she drives a $60,000 car and lives in a $300,000 house. The kicker is that she has three college degrees and won't get off her butt to work because she knows she would have to pay for her part of supporting the children if she showed an income.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 12th, 2016Someone from Phoenix, AZ writes:
My daughter is know 20 and I just found out that she was raised by her older sister when her mother did not want her when she was a child I got my visits with her but I just assumed she lived with her mother as the pick up point was at the mothers residents know I'm still paying child support arrears when I couldn't work but for what isn't the mother responsible for at least most of thatREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 12th, 2016Someone from Canton, TX signed.
Oct 12th, 2016from Jacksonville, FL writes:
child support calculations in Florida are unfair to military reservist. They average out what you make per year instead of using what you make per month doing this shows that a reservist makes more than what they actually makeREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 12th, 2016Laura P. from Phoenix, AZ writes:
When my exhusband and i divorced in 2009, we were both given same amount of shared time. My eldest ran away because she wanted to be with her boyfriend and asked to stay at her dads. The court gave her to him. I never paid child support because we had and have same amount of time spent, one week on, one week off. The court have me paying for all three children and i have done everything I can, spending time and money to fix it. They only respond that i have to pay for all kids. I lost my apartment and can barley afford a room. I am desparate for help.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 12th, 2016Concerned Citizen from Revere, MA writes:
If you want to fight the good fight and reform the corrupt family law system, then sign this petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 12th, 2016Samuel V. from Tampa, FL writes:
Hello, I'm am a former active duty service member currently in the Reserves. I have an eight year old son that i have been paying child support for since 2009. i don't even get to see my son. My account has a hold for money i supposedly owe. Now they are trying to take my disability money from the VA and not really laving me with a leg to stand on. She is Married now and unemployed. I haven't even been to court for any child support enforcement. Why is it fathers who are actually trying to be there for their kids are dealt with so harshly?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 12th, 2016Rico B. from Cincinnati, OH writes:
I'm not in the system,but I hear and see the aftermath of child support. there needs to be a better, more fair, system implemented. People are going broke to because a judge thinks 2k a month is normal cost of living for a kid. that's dumb and not right.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 11th, 2016Someone from Aurora, CO writes:
my children were taken from me and their father, without cause, no evidence has ever been provided, they were taken from us for neglect but was dropped. my children were held by the department and still have no reasons for doing what they did and we are both paying child support, though they receive money for care and my son is on disability not to mention my son is 20 years old without any proof he has a mental disability which will cause him to never live on his ownREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 11th, 2016babs h. from Aurora, CO writes:
my children were taken from me and their father, without cause, no evidence has ever been provided, they were taken from us for neglect but was dropped. my children were held by the department and still have no reasons for doing what they did and we are both paying child support, though they receive money for care and my son is on disability not to mention my son is 20 years old without any proof he has a mental disability which will cause him to never live on his ownREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 11th, 2016Michael M. from Rocky Mount, MO writes:
Nobody should have a free ride. Also my child support is over thousand a month.. I only get payed 1200 a month! The take over half my check and I can't even live.. I live with my newborn baby.. And it costs me money to go to work.. I can't even afford to work anymore. The child support laws are in fair and unjust. They need a changeREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 11th, 2016Someone from Palestine, TX signed.
Oct 10th, 2016Someone from Shelby, NC writes:
I won't to leave my wife, all she does is sit and watch movies.. If I leave I'm afraid I'll have to pay for her just to sit and watch movies once again. I'm on the verge of suicide do to so much misery and depression, I can barely work due to my PTSD but I always try. If I could leave and give to my child voluntarily without being forced I'd be able to live life worry free.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 10th, 2016claudia d. from Bayport, NY writes:
I do not think it far that women who collect child support do not have to claim that money as income and the father,paying all the money can only write 20% off on his income taxes....REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 10th, 2016Someone from Syracuse, NY writes:
My ex-wife has a boyfriend moved in and helps financially. Can my child support get lowered?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 10th, 2016Someone from Ames, IA writes:
My name is private I agree that all woman should have financial responsibility as well as the father. I had been dealing with a child support case in Minneapolis MN which has cost me my life, it's not fair at all. I strongly believe that my ex-girlfriend planned all this to have it her way and to use it to for conveniences. I only have one child who is already an adult but they just figure that my ex-girlfriend twins kids are my too while they are not. I know because I was not with my ex at all after my child was burn. I really need some help I don't want to struggle or die because an unjust society I am a decent man who deserve an opportunity to put in practice all the jobs and life skills I learned peaceful, I try to make things happen for me but I cannot even effort an apartment or any other expensive like medical, dentist and groceries.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 10th, 2016Concerned Citizen from Revere, MA writes:
Help millions of fathers and children from the CORRUPT Family Court today by signing the Modern Day Family Law Reform Petition. https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 10th, 2016Someone from Greeley, CO writes:
My son's mom left and took him with her when he was only 9 months old, did everything she could to keep me out of his life because i wasn't willing to leave my 2 year old son, school and family to move back to her home state with her. 6 years later, she came back and filed paperwork for child support and is currently living in my home state, using an address that she doesn't even live at anymore and human services refuses to call her in to get updated information on her when it comes to income, residency and so on. When they did the child support, they used information that she gave back in 2014, the order was signed in January of 2015, and when i asked the technician putting everything together if that information of hers was accurate and up to date, she said all she could do is go based off of information that was last given to her. I told the technician that i think it is only fair if updated information was given and she said she can't do anything about it. His mom is currently working at another job, making way more then the 11.00 dollars an hour she said she was making when she filed and the system just doesn't care. I think it is ridiculous how hard the system makes it for fathers who actually give two craps about their kids and i think that if child support is requested from the mom, the system should make it an equal opportunity for the father to request some sort of custody unless she can prove that he is a bad parent. I think it is absolutely ridiculous about our child support system and it definitely needs to be looked at and way more documentation needs to be enforced that when something changes financially, it needs to be documented. I have my oldest son and my youngest daughter, how am i suppose to make a living supporting my two kids when i'm paying more child support to one then it takes to support my other two. RIDICULOUS!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 9th, 2016Someone from Middle River, MD writes:
I can't pretend to know what the woman does or does not do with her life. The reason I support this is because I am a recently divorced father of 3 children. I've started a new career, no criminal history, no abuse, nothing. However, I have to give half my income to my ex wife. I'm all for supporting my children- I love them deeply and care for them more than myself. How am I supposed to take care of myself, let alone 3 children (when I get to see them bi-weekly) on $600 a month? The state seems to careless about my well-being. How am I supposed to perform my role as father if I can barely avoid living out of a cardboard box? This isn't fair in the slightest and a change is needed.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 8th, 2016Kevin T. from Independence, MO writes:
I am a loving father of two children. My plight stems from the fact that I received less than 50/50 custody for my kids. If the mother and I make the same amount of income, we both have stable housing, no criminal record, mentally stable, and outside family support, then why wasn't I granted 50/50 custody? I'm a college educated military veteran and I have a clean record, yet the court system saw fit to give the mother the majority of parenting time. I have spent thousands of dollars on attorneys, court fees, child support, and medical insurance trying to get 50/50 custody of my child. We are both good parents, but the court system is extremely biased and this needs to be corrected.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 8th, 2016Kevin P. from Wahpeton, ND writes:
First off I got married to have a family to have a child to raise to be able to come home from work spend time my child reading stories playing with them and just everything father can do. Because of your no-fault divorce laws I have been cheated out of that at minimum it should've been 50-50 custody and no child support but the judge wouldn't even do that. According to my state law if there is domestic abuse involved the victim gets a child my ex-wife it hit me and was charged with domestic abuse and the judge overlooks that violating a law second of all state law is she cannot leave the state without my permission I never granted permission and the judge allows her to move she's been in contempt of court many times and the judge overlooks it. This country has become nothing but a bunch of whores I am Seventh-day Adventist and we do not believe in divorce which violates the First Amendment freedom of religion. I am so sick of this country I can't stand it anymore I am listed when I was 18 to the army but if I had to do it all over again it be a cold day in hell. I pray to God that he wipes this country from the face of the earth. Also was being Seventh-day Adventist we live a modest life we don't put value and money we live within our means and yet your child support system violate my beliefs because if my child is not under my roof they are no longer my child which I never signed a parental acknowledgment form and yet I'm being forced to pay child support which is the reason my ex-wife want to divorce because I was paying child support for my sons she said we needed that money to buy a house to provide for our family so because of your child support law you have cost me my family and my life and it will be a cold day in hell before I ever pay another dime of child support I will commit suicide before I ever pay another dime as I said I had a child to raise a child to be able to watch them grow every day and when you take that away life ain't worth living! And when you threaten me then if I don't pay I go to prison fine free room and board at this point my life is over and I really don't care I'm 46 years old and I'm too old to have started a new family I want to leave this country but I can't even do that because your child support law I'm a prisoner in this ****ing******hole country that I pray to God wipes from the face of the earth!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 7th, 2016Mom and 2nd wife from Fountain City, IN writes:
My husband pays 52% of his income to his ex-wife for their 2 kids. She moved out of state (WV from IN). She has not cooperated with facilitating visitation for over 7 years. We have been together for 5 years and I have not met his boys. I have 2 children one with my ex-husband and one from a 6 year relationship. My ex-husband is ordered to pay only $25 a week, which he hasn't paid for almost 2 years, no enforcement even after me bugging the child support office. he does not seek visitation. Youngest son's father is ordered to pay $52 a week, which he does, faithfully and sees our son regularly. If my husband or my youngest son's dad miss 2-3 payments for whatever reason, the court is hauling them in. However, my ex-husband is allowed no payment for over 2 years without repercussions? How does this system even work? Dads that try to do the right thing and WANT to be with their children get beat down and deadbeat parents get to go on their merry way? How is that fair to anyone?REPORT COMMENTS
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