Unfair child support laws
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May 15th, 2016Someone from Vancouver, WA writes:
After 24 yrs I'm down to less then 1000 arrears,WA ST Child support has contacted my ex's to see if they want to sue for extended paymets. How is this fair treatment. My kids are all out making thier way on thier own, I have grand children. So why is the state petitioning the mothers to sue for more support. Am I to start paying thier car payments next? So as a father am I protected by the law or just subject to it. -
May 14th, 2016Someone from Inkster, MI writes:
I have my child 4-5 days out the week and pay child support...When the mother and I were living together as a couple I paid child support... I buy my own diapers, wipes, food, clothing, baby sitting expenses, keep our child under my health insurance, and still i pay child support....I pay my own rent and bills with no government aid and still I pay child support... My questions to congress...Why does it seem as if I'm not only supporting my child but my child's mother as well? When did having a child stop being 50/50? Why does it seem as though the system has been corrupted? I'm all for dead beat parents being forced to do what there supposed to but I feel as if I'm being lumped in the same boat with them why? Why have you turned my child into a paycheck?REPORT COMMENTS
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May 14th, 2016Someone from Fresno, CA writes:
What kind of woman has several different children with several different men then says she has the best interest of the child in mind and cries about raising the child by themselves. Just because you sleep with someone for a month does not make that a relationship. Then they try to ruin the father by going to court for more money. And they wonder why men are hostle. Quite trying to ruin these fathers. Goverment has no business in the family circle.REPORT COMMENTS
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May 13th, 2016Someone from Floresville, TX signed.
May 13th, 2016Someone from Floresville, TX writes:
I'm a single mother and have 2 children living with me. I also have to pay child support for 3rd child. I don't get to see my son and I make less than minimum wage. I work as much as I can since I can't afford daycare. my dad watches them sunday through Wednesday, his days off and he works Thursday through Saturday all day and all night. I work on Thursday and Friday while they are in school. I'm not trying to be a dead beat parent, but I cant afford what they are telling me too. since I cant afford a lawyer I cant get any help. it just so hard trying to do it all alone and no one will helpREPORT COMMENTS
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May 13th, 2016Someone from Spartanburg, SC writes:
As a father you should be able to give the money to support your child, not support your children and their Mother. I am lucky to have an ex that is understanding but even with the money that I pay her it is hard to live a decent life. Please help all the fathers out there.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 13th, 2016Someone from Chatsworth, CA writes:
The child support laws are unfair and ridiculous. I pay thousands in child support while the mother sits at home and collects public assistance. She does everything possible to limit my time with the children since she GETS MORE MONEY THE LESS I SEE THE KIDS! These laws need to be changed!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 13th, 2016Someone from Upper Marlboro, MD signed.
May 13th, 2016Someone from Upper Darby, PA writes:
The child support laws that is crushing the best of some people needs to be changed why can Congress do something about it, if we need to march to the white house and let them make that change I'm here to do so 100%,how about because my company was giving overtime they based my case on that now overtime is no more lost my car house and cannot see my way because i was judge on overtime money some of these judges needs to check with reality, they all look at the man as the wrong one and cast judgment before the case even starts and there's nothing you can do about it because of the law they have which was there so long ago ,with all these changes in this society we all living in we need it to change. Do something about it before you leave office Mr President Obama! !!!!!!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 13th, 2016Someone from North Tonawanda, NY writes:
I have fought this battle for 23 years now. Drivers license suspended, jobs lost, 73 thousand in arrears and the most I ever made in a year is 48 thousand, 15 of those 23 years I made below the self support reserve. They don't care. Was told by a judge in Niagara County New York, and I quote: " son, I don't care if you live in a cardboard box". The system is rigged folks, the game is slanted. A global economy, I live in the Buffalo/Niagara Falls area, yet, these draconian passport and driver license suspensions laws narrow my ability for gainful employment to such an extent that I am now seriously contemplating suicide as the only way to peace of mind.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 13th, 2016Someone from Eagle Butte, SD writes:
Half my check to child suppott 586.... live on 1100 a month.... but her house payment is made as well as the utilies... and now forced to provide health ins. Im so swrewedREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 13th, 2016Someone from Philadelphia, PA signed.
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May 12th, 2016Someone from Shawnee, OK writes:
I think as a woman it's unfair for a woman to back out of parenting by abortion. When a father cannot legally stop the mother if he wants the child, furthermore if we are fighting for equality in this country I think males should have the right to back out of parenting. If women can then so should men. If men can't then neither should women. There are good parents and not always does the custodial parent end up being the mother, but they seem to always get the worse end of the deal. Women are given excuses where men are "dead-beats". It's disgusting what the legal system has done to society and how it continues to prolong the stigma associated with fatherhood.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 12th, 2016Someone from Roseville, MI writes:
My life has been destroyed because of a huge child support order I couldn't pay. I was made out to be a terrible father because of it. Since the beginning I had to fight to see my son. I'm the one who took her to court so that everything was legit and the one who ended up screwd. I'm not going to say I am a great dad because when my mom died I turned to hard drugs and chose not to see my child for fear I would put him in harm's way. I have been sober now for almost two years but I still have that lable so in court I'm automatically looked down upon. We need to fight and keep fighting.REPORT COMMENTS
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May 12th, 2016Someone from Philadelphia, PA writes:
When I got married 10 years ago I quit my job in finance so we could start our family and my husband could persue his career in law enforcement , which he did. His income went from $40000 to $100,000 in that time. During those 10 years we had 2 kids, one of which has level 1 autism spectrum disorder. I was diagnosed with degenerative joint disease...not the worst thing but Def not fun. 2 years ago my husbands mental health started to decline, one year ago he lost all control and assaulted me. BADLY. It had to end. Instead of getting into all the ugly details I'll just say that he has done EVERYTHING he could to drag me thru the mud and get sole legal custody of the kids. I have NO PROBLEM separating myself from him and starting over at age 42. But I don't think that's fair to my kids. I'm one of those mom's who have all day every day planned out to keep my kids growing developing learning and happy. I understand using more modern laws pertaining to family's who have taken on and lived the modern family lifestyle as a 2 income family....but why shouldn't the traditional laws apply to those have maintained a traditional family?! Particularly when a special needs chold is involved? Both my kids are now in school, and there STILL arw not enough minutes in the day for me to get done everything I need to do. Someone posted a comment that us stay at homes sit around n watch TV once the kids go to school. ..guess what bro? I don't own a tv. I'm THAT old school. We have ALWAYS been old school that way. But now that the marriage is over I'm being told I love in a fantasy land if I think my ex husband will continue to pay for this lifestyle and that I need to supporting myself if I want to keep and support my kids. On what PLANET, let alone what state, is that fair? Traditional laws should stay on the books for those who have worked so hard to raise thier kids that wy.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 12th, 2016Someone from Winder, GA writes:
Child support is the worst matter to be involved in. The problem is that the mothers aren't expected to give proof that the father is not involved. They should be required to have 4 references including the father to confirm that the father is not involved with the child. The mother signs a document claiming that she has tried to contact the father for support before requesting it through the courts. These angry ex-wives and girlfriends will do anything to get even with their ex spouse or boyfriend. Child support is the number one way to do it. Mothers should have to submit a years worth of banking statements to confirm money wasn't deposited possibly from the father. The father must have the opportunity to submit documents including checks, receipts for child purchases, grocery receipts for formula or milk or bread items, insurance policies, medical services for the child (or mother during pregnancy), and or any support given. Fathers are thrown out like dirty rags and left broke! God will come to with this matter. I sure wouldn't want to work in a child support office. I am ANTI-CHILD SUPPORT. It isn't child support. It is 8 out of 10 angry mother support.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 12th, 2016Someone from Kalkaska, MI writes:
A MOTHERS SIDE OF THE STORY My ex husband Michael Luke and his girlfriend Leslie Moore decided to bash me on here without my side of the story. Mr. Luke is an alcoholic, who lost visitations of his children because he punched our 4 yr old in the face. My Luke was granted supervised phone calls and visitations. Mr. Luke was $18,000 before he started making payments because Kalkaska County wanted to go to Alabama and arrest him. Yes, he did send extra money. He would get drunk and talk to the kids and promise them things, then sober up and forget. I did go to court and have $3,700 taken off his back child support and we were told then we could never do that again and any money sent would be considered a gift. Mr. Luke received $437,000 as a workmen's comp. settlement and wanted to come visit our children after not seeing them in 5 1/2 years(he has a warrant in Kalkaska for domestic assault). When I cut the visit short after 3 1/2 days because he was drunk at 10:30 in the morning, he left without saying goodbye to the kids. When he got back to Alabama he filed court papers wanting his trip up here to visit his kids taking off his child support (gas,hotel,food etc.) When that did not happen he quit paying and is currently over $12,000 behind in support. He called me after not talking to his kids in almost 3 1/2 years and demanded I let him speak to his children. Not happening. 2 weeks ago he took me to court again and did not show up for the hearing HE asked for, so of course the parenting time stayed the same...There is NONE! Not because I don't want him to but because he won't sober up and be a parent!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 12th, 2016Someone from Kalkaska, MI writes:
A MOTHERS SIDE OF THE STORY My ex husband Michael Luke and his girlfriend Leslie Moore decided to bash me on here without my side of the story. Mr. Luke is an alcoholic, who lost visitations of his children because he punched our 4 yr old in the face. My Luke was granted supervised phone calls and visitations. Mr. Luke was $18,000 before he started making payments because Kalkaska County wanted to go to Alabama and arrest him. Yes, he did send extra money. He would get drunk and talk to the kids and promise them things, then sober up and forget. I did go to court and have $3,700 taken off his back child support and we were told then we could never do that again and any money sent would be considered a gift. Mr. Luke received $437,000 as a workmen's comp. settlement and wanted to come visit our children after not seeing them in 5 1/2 years(he has a warrant in Kalkaska for domestic assault). When I cut the visit short after 3 1/2 days because he was drunk at 10:30 in the morning, he left without saying goodbye to the kids. When he got back to Alabama he filed court papers wanting his trip up here to visit his kids taking off his child support (gas,hotel,food etc.) When that did not happen he quit paying and is currently over $12,000 behind in support. He called me after not talking to his kids in almost 3 1/2 years and demanded I let him speak to his children. Not happening. 2 weeks ago he took me to court again and did not show up for the hearing HE asked for, so of course the parenting time stayed the same...There is NONE! Not because I don't want him to but because he won't sober up and be a parent!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 12th, 2016Someone from Kalkaska, MI signed.
May 11th, 2016Someone from San Antonio, TX writes:
I"ve been divorced from my daughter"s mother for over 23 yrs and I'm still paying child support for one child. My daughter is 25 yrs old and lives on her own . She and her mother always lived in California and I got a job promotion and moved to Texas while going through the divorce. I"ve always been on time with my support but just found out in 2012 that I have arrears for the amount of $80000. Child support division tells me that my ex cancelled the child support in 2002 then she decided to refile 6 months later and now I'm stuck with paying the arrears. Child support division doesn't care for good fathers. I"ve always worked and work hard to make a living. I've hired 3 different attorneys and child support did not want to help them. Attorneys even tried to contact my ex for a settlement but she never responded. She is greedy and she had other kids with other men and she still holds my last name. I'm newly married and its going to be our 2nd year anniversary this month of May and we planned on going on our honeymoon when we got married and went to apply for a passport and I got denied because of the arrears. We had already paid for the trip. It really upset my wife and she still is upset about this. I cant even travel with my family out of the country, I don't get any of my tax refunds, had to sell my vehicle because I couldn't afford it, I cant even afford to help my wife pay bills or be a supportive husband but thank god that she is an angel and understand my situation. If someone knows how or who I can talk to solve this ,please let me know. This is not fair and how do they expect us to live.REPORT COMMENTS
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May 11th, 2016Someone from Fayetteville, NC writes:
Custodial mothers should be prevented from trying to make child support a legacy. My child's mother has purposely taken my child out of school (senior in high school) to assist in babysitting her mother's friend's children throughout the school year. My child has also been forced to lived with an ailing relative to assist in recovery, moved to other relatives homes and not attending school. Now, with the absence from school, she will fail. She will repeat her senior year and support will continue as long as my child is in school. These tactics are not investigated and are not the concern of the Child Support agency. Child support is child support. If the custodial parent is failing in their duties in supporting the child (emotionally, physically, educationally) the Child Support agency should enforce those matters as well, not just financial.REPORT COMMENTS
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May 11th, 2016Someone from Las Vegas, NV writes:
I was ordered to child support in one state. My kids are over 18 but they garnish my wages. I was ordered to support in another state my child is few years old they garnish my wages. When they garnish my wages they split up the required amount only allowed to be given because I don't make enough every week. When they split it neither obligation gets paid therefore the state hits you with interest and fee's kinda like a loan shark or high priced payday loan place. You end up not paying the support and always stuck in a black hole paying there interest and fees all while your child support continues to go up. Is this embezzlement? I would think so since they won't modify it and don't consider your bills, roof over your head, and food as an expense. Do you think this country has a problem with it? I think so.. If not you wouldn't have so many father's arguing it. Think about your legal system is it really legal? Do you feel you had a fair trial or was you one of the victims who went to court your ex or other partner came in with a bunch of lies they couldn't be proven they made you sound like a horrible person then the legal system robbed you of your God given rights to custody of your own flesh and blood your child.. Chances are you probably made less money than your co parent because it's easier to get you to rack up a lot in interest and fees in support. Your ex probably makes more, they get child tax benefits and more time while you didn't. You get visitations, less time with your child, make less still have to split everything and pay more. Sounds fair right? I think all father's should stand together and fight it. What are they going to do throw everyone in jail. Do you know how many billions they are in the hole for it? There only hurting themselves and this country. I'm for child support if one parent cannot afford it but if both cant there are state benefits. If I pay my kids health/medical and pay for any child supporting costs occurred on my time what's the extra support for? what if I quit paying support to the state. My ex makes 60k a year I make 40. I pay more she takes vacations with our kid, I can't afford it. If they put me in jail she would have to cover everything. I'm sure that wouldn't go over well. Not that she couldn't afford doing it herself but then what. It's almost like the courts know you want your child but they make it nearly impossible for you to live and support your child. What do you do? Let's say go get a second job or start a business that way you make more money. That's the plan right. But guess what your ex can come back say you've had an increase and attempt to take more money. Therefore putting you right back to square one. Jail is not the answer it solves nothing. Suspend their license that's not the answer, how they going to get to work? See the state appears to want to create issues and then ***** about supporting ppl after they can't support themselves. That's why the homeless population is rapidlyREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 11th, 2016Someone from Owatonna, MN writes:
We have the kids 14 hours per MONTH less than her...We pay $1022 for the 14 hours difference...this is ridiculous!!!! She is self employed and judge doesnt care that she doesnt work full time just that she is getting food stamps ( lying about her income to them also) OUR SYSTEM is making our lives unbelievable..I cant believe this can happen to anyone fairly!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 11th, 2016Someone from Easton, PA writes:
I guess I am on the other side. I work an bust my but for my child while the father sits in Jersey collecting food stamps and getting doctor notes that he cant work. How fair is that. Though five months ago he worked. So let see I have to work and support our son and still figure out how to provide while he gets away with being a deadbeat. So see not every Mom is getting the treatment described by these fathers. Both mother and father made the child both mother and father should be obligated to support them end of subject. Oh and it cost more than 100 a month to support a child where did that guy learn math. Why should I pay taxes and struggle when my child father getting a free ride.REPORT COMMENTS
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May 11th, 2016Someone from Saint Paul, MN writes:
I pay $700 a month on 2 kids for pretty much having them 50/50. The mother also gets child support for 2 other kids!! She is re-married and they always are on vacations and remodeling the house so obviously money isnt tight. While I'm living with parents paying rent cause I cant afford anything myself. Something has gotta change cause I'm a good father to my kids and always wanna be there for them but these Child Support laws are making it so we cant be in the lives cause were working 60+ hour weeks cause we can no longer live anymore!!REPORT COMMENTS
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