Unfair child support laws
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May 18th, 2016Someone from Miami, FL signed.
May 18th, 2016Someone from Sanford, FL writes:
I'm a disabled veteran and my ex wife makes just about 34-3500 hundred bucks a month. I used to make in the 2000's but the VA cut my pay now I make less than 1600 a month but I still have to pay the amount a month as I did before they cut my pay, not only that I can't even get legal aid to help what they told me is since I don't have custody of the children they can't help me. Our system is really ****ed up and needs to be fixed.May 18th, 2016Someone from Tallahassee, FL signed.
May 18th, 2016Someone from Little Falls, NJ signed.
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May 18th, 2016Someone from Houston, TX writes:
I can't believe child support is counting over time pay. That overtime is not garrunteed every week. Back in 2013 I put my son's father on child support. We decided later to work things out. They won't let me take him off child support. It's OK except they keep $50 every month even if my child is not on benefits. Now I pushed him to put himself on child support for his other child because the mother was alienating him from her. I told him don't worry. Both cases are in the state of Texas the worst that can happen is income tax being taken away. I was completely wrong. They heard her side of the story (when they were teens, now in their mid twenties) and anything he had to say they told him you don't have proof and he said yes I do and they disregard his say. He only pays $300 for my child in child support and now he's about to pay $849 in child support and back pack. How could this even be OK if he's not making enough. We will loose our home and mode of transportation. We have 2 other kids involved. How could he owe back pay if she refused money for years (which we have proof in conversations) she refused to let him see his daughter. I don't regret our decision but I feel my kids are being robbed and the courts got away with it. How could he be required five supervised visitation and then the courts will ask the mother and grandmother how it's going? They hate him, despise him and the judge (a woman) is gonna take sides. The court system is very unfair. He evn paid $50 to take the required online class "first child today" in those videos and all that reading (4-6hours) it's like the courts and mother do exactly what the videos say NOT TO DO. They didn't want to hear anything he had to say. Yet she's allowed to do what she wants.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 18th, 2016Someone from Jacksonville, AL signed.
May 18th, 2016Someone from La Puente, CA writes:
I am a mother An have one child she does not live with me because of my work hours i see her every day I belive and know first hand that child support services is corrupt .i understand my rights as a parent that i need to pay if the other parent is recving aid i have no arguments there ...but dcss is so unorganized and dont even know what going on with there own offices its unbelievable ok so in 8, 2013 i recived papes states i need to pay 240 a month to other parent for suport because welfair let dcss he was reciving aid for our child . Ok i understood but i wasnt working so i couldn't pay but started to pay in 5, 2014 to him so he let his welfair know so they stop his cash since i was paying and thought thats it and time pass now 9,2015. Out of no wherr my checks get cut so now i cant pay him and he only recives 50 $from dcss thats from the money they took from me and he dont want to get back on wellfair but 50 is not gonna cut it then a letter in 10,2015 states i owe nothing everything up to stanging 11,2015 same letter owe nothing I try to buy a house and i have a 5000 i owe on my credit report so i cant buy a house ,i cant get an apartment because i have bad credit now i need a place to live by march i never recived noticed on what i owed nothing in the past 3 years untill 2months go that stated i owe nothing that should be illegal how are u gonna bill someone and not let them know im very organized person and i know i didnr recive anything then to fight and fix it is redulious and impossible for a person who works 9-5. For like the next 4 months straight calli g i kept track on who i spok to also finaly they said i only owed 1700. So now tax time they took that but im gonna fight it because its wrong not to notifi u but could have been avoided if they werr organized so in short the dcss could mke u homeless and cut ur pay take ur taxes make u go to jail for driver license. Or not paying wich u had no clue it need to be closed and shut down tjere is no need for child supportREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 18th, 2016Someone from Chicago, IL signed.
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May 17th, 2016Someone from Fort Collins, CO signed.
May 17th, 2016Someone from Schenectady, NY writes:
In amazement and Disgust at how the system does this to its own people. I am a father of 2 boys that I had with an ex. At 10 and 6 yrs old I am a firm believer that a father should always be in their child's life. Granted we were relatively young when we had them at the ages of 21. I was in college, worked 2 jobs ,a car note, rent, bills etc. long story short I was a great father to my boys. This system took them away. Let me explain. No relationship is without its issues but when a parent decides to leave a relationship abruptly to pursue one with a minor I had NO OPTIONS. Tried to keep lines of communication open to no avail as she was too wrapped up in her newfound relationship taking my boys in the process. Left with no alternative as her family equally could not communicate with her I decided to go to court to file for custody. And she knew this as well as I had gone a solid month before any paperwork was filed just for benefit of doubt. She had my sons staying with this other person starting the alienationing of my children from there father. The whole year of 2010 into 2011 in court for custody and let me tell you were there some chances given to my ex that would never have been given to me the father. She showed up all but once! 1 time to basically prevent me from attaining joint custody. Joint custody as I was being as realistic as possible with visit times being weds thru sat noon. She wanted me to kill my rights then had the nerve to have me just take my boys Sat to Mon! Wow! The next court dates she never came. When finally awarded my joint custody after about a full year of not seeing my sons, more drama ensued. When going to pick up my sons she sends them out with the new boyfriend and tries to fight me in front of my kids. This worked to her affect when she called police saying I started a fight when I'm trying to put kids in the car. Meanwhile the boyfriend mouths off. I drive off to only get pulled over 3 blocks away. Police then takes my boys back to the mother and I return home with out my boys. Her ploy worked as for the next year there had to be police escort every time it was my turn to pick them up. One day I come to the house to pick up the boys and now its emptied out nobody lives inside! With her claim of not having a phone (lie) and no type of knowledge of her whereabouts I go back to the court house and violate her. This happened about 5 times and all she ever got was a lil slap on the wrist by the judge as she would lie her way out more chances given and I still would not get to see my boys as she purposefully prevents them from seeing me. I still had no address nor phone number. The only thing she came to court for literally 6 months after we last stopped going for custody was you guessed it child support. After she was awarded child support she went off the grid again. I only know she still local because the only times I get to see my sons are when they are in school and nowhere else. I've tried and tried and tREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 17th, 2016Someone from Mount Dora, FL signed.
May 17th, 2016Someone from Quincy, CA writes:
Long heartless story short....I was robbed of being there to see my first and only son born and across the United states for that matter. I guess that's a good way to keep a father who doesn't have rights established yet and who you told no way in hell are you getting this child that they are going up for adoption. No lawyer or investigator could fix or change the feelings or the struggle I've been delt. I met my son when he was 3 months old ( after finding out through adoption plan forms from Florida I was having a boy) . After all that was given two options either be with her or pay support. Well here I am $424 a month. I get $1300 after union dues and insurance for my son and I. I split all bills with my girlfriend that I'm with now. After rent and all bills and utilities are payed I'm left with maybe $250 not including food and gas and at the very 1st of the month. To get my son 4 days a month that 180 mile round trip to get him. He's now 3 I've come to the point of buying my son things he needs here is hard I was just able to get him his own bed.I've got very little money to support my son and for a father that's a bad keep you awake at night kinda shit. I don't understand how a person can stay home never have a job but pop another kid out, have a brand new corolla (fully loaded). Have a full kitchen of food and a flat screen TV. While the workin man who fights the system and gets called every name in the book takes it up the @#$. I'm not behind in support and live life pinching pennies and all I want is to have my son and raise him but how will that happen with these laws we have?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 17th, 2016Someone from Des Moines, IA writes:
Income is $2,200 a month take home pay, for child support I pay $550 a month that brings me down to $1650 a month..my rent is $850 a month..that brings me down to $800 a month my car loan is $284 a month..well that's $516 a month insurance is $80 a month and phone bill is $50 now we are at $386 a month let's add water and electric let's just say $100 each the final amount is $186 dollars a month..for food, gas, support my kids when I have them, necessities, soap, laundry, tooth paste ect you get the picture right? Isn't child support to "help" with supporting your children? Seems that it's being left mostly up to the father? I'm dieing here, I can barely survive. Where are the guidelines for using support money? Having it loaded on card that can't have the money be withdrawn from? Items bought with the card can't be beer, fast food. Limitations such as clothes, school expenses, get this******in order. You have guidelines for food cards. I think child support and the approach on child support needs to be revised..I could go on but what's the point right?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 17th, 2016Someone from Ocala, FL signed.
May 17th, 2016Someone from Houston, TX writes:
I am paying child support and have equal custody. On another case the person was allowed to bring up mistakes I made as a teenager. That was over 7 years ago. I wasn't allowed to bring up her 3 baby father's. I now have to have supervised visitation and now have to lay $849 per month (included backpay). I owe backpay bc she never wanted to accept money from me. She also alienated me from my child. So it looks like I will not be able to provide for my other kids and keep a roof over my head. All this while I was the one who put myself on child support. Moral of the story father's don't have equal rights in certain towns. While the mother gets her way. Both my cases are in the same state just different cities.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 17th, 2016Someone from Modesto, CA signed.
May 17th, 2016Someone from Houston, TX writes:
Ordered to pay $840 a month but make less than $1800 per check. So what should I do now about my own bills and other child support payments.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 17th, 2016Someone from New London, CT writes:
I live in the state of Connecticut. I pay child support for my 2 older kids (7 and 5 years old) from a previous relationship. I pay child support, health insurance, school needs etc. and everytime I've tried to fight in court to lowering my child support it always came out the mothers way with her fake crying and fake sympathy stories. I'm involved in my kids life I pick them up every weekend I'm involved with there school work and the system just doesn't care. I also have another child with my current spouse and he's 3 years old and is hard to support him as well because I'm the only source of income and my spouse is a full time college student and has been trying to find part time work but has been unsuccessful. We also reside with her mother because I can't afford an apartment on my own. All this while my Ex sits at home and does nothing!!... she gets state assistance for many things and is living the life and she just had a third child herself recently and is threatening me to take me back to court to increase my child support for my 2 kids just to get a little more extra money to help her for a child that isn't even mine. I work 50+ hours a week to TRY and make it by but just still isn't enough. The system is so corrupted and favors mothers who sit on there behind and collect while struggling father's like myself are trying there best to make a living and survive in this already messed up economy. The system wonders why father's become hostile and angry with these unfair laws. Also i don't get any help from any state programs, I work very hard and is very independent I don't ask anyone for help but Laws NEED to change and give the parents who pay child support more rights especially if there involved in the kids life. These payment guidelines need to be REALISTIC and truly take in consideration the expenses of the non custody parent instead of just looking over it.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 17th, 2016Someone from New London, CT signed.
May 17th, 2016Someone from Opelika, AL writes:
I am a mother of two boys. I was married to their father for 7 years and in that 7 years I was abused. About a year and half after I had my second son I decided I had to leave because if not I wasn't going to be able to live and my kids were getting to the age that I didn't want them to live in that kind of environment. I left one night with the kids while he was at work and moved back to my home town. ( 25 mins away)I got an apartment and started working two jobs. He never helped me financially and I was struggling. I wasn't doing any better like I had thought I would because the abuse had effected me more than I had thought. I felt so worthless like I would never be a good enough mom and no man would want me. (Things he would tell me all the time) I truly believed that I was the reason he was the way he was and that I deserved everything he dealt to me. After months and months of struggling financially and emotionally him and I made arrangements to have the kids live with him and I did not seek a lawyer. I went to his attorneys office and signed the papers. We made an agreement that I get the kids anytime I wanted and no child support would be paid because we were going to co parent and split costs of all their needs. Well as time went by and the children got older I got hit my papers ordering child support and they made it to were I would owe back child support, starting the support from our divorce date. I had to go to court and pay at least 5% to keep me out of jail. I was able to come up with the money and I have been behind ever since. the craziest thing is that I am behind because of INTEREST.... Not the actual support just interest. Here we are 8 years later and I had to take him to court to fight for custody because my youngest son came to me one day after going to his teachers and counselor at school and told me things that made me sick to my stomach. My children were being abused. mostly my youngest. He was acting out in class and the teachers knew something was up because he had always been a good student. The court ordered a GAL and held me responsible for paying for it. DHR got involved along with child advocacy center. The kids told the same story over and over in a years time the story never changed however the GAL , DHR and the court decided the kids were over exaggerating although the teachers testified to what the kids said. It was the most unjustified thing I have ever seen not for me but for my children. The judge did give them more time with me, which we are so grateful for but my children are not being cared for properly. They are 14 and 12 and this time of their lives are very fragile. I have them 5 days one week and 2 the alternate week. I have gotten their hair cuts for the past two years and bought their school and play shoes for the past 8 years. I have bought one of the children school supplies every year since school age began and I pay child support. I spend all of my time with my children. Never get a babysitter,REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 17th, 2016Someone from Flint, TX signed.
May 17th, 2016Someone from Bellevue, NE writes:
I see at least 3 young mothers in my area with 2 to 3 mixed kids. The mother doesn't work, There are different men coming and going all the time. The food truck comes once a week, I guess milk, juice, cereal and other things for the kids. The house lights are on 24/7 x 365 days a year and nobody picks up the trash in the yard until someone that Tax Payers pay for to come mow the yard. We need to stop this kind of madness! It shouldn't be a JOB to have babies! Maybe Japan has the right idea? 2 kids and ya get fixed. Male and Female......REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 17th, 2016Someone from Brooklyn, NY signed.
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May 16th, 2016Someone from Alvarado, TX writes:
Not even my child she trick me into signing the birth record we had a da done and it not my child and she know it and won't even tell themREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 16th, 2016Someone from Kenton, TN writes:
I have 3 kids and I get child support for them. If he doesn't work his child support is based on minimum wage, if he does work it's based accordingly. It should be the same for the women (people) that receive child support. It isn't right or fair that the people receiving child support site at home and do nothing so that their child support goes up. The person paying child support didn't make and have those children by themselves. I also believe that child support should be based on the education and jobs available in the area, not just town, around where the person lives that receives child support.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 16th, 2016Someone from Kenton, TN writes:
I have 3 kids and I get child support for them. If he doesn't work his child support is based on minimum wage, if he does work it's based accordingly. It should be the same for the women (people) that receive child support. It isn't right or fair that the people receiving child support site at home and do nothing so that their child support goes up. The person paying child support didn't make and have those children by themselves. I also believe that child support should be based on the education and jobs available in the area, not just town, around where the person lives that receives child support.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 16th, 2016Someone from Houston, TX writes:
The Law says in Texas once the child turns 12 he or she can choose whom he wants to live with. Why would you allow a child without doing an investigation have that much power. My child since moving in with his father may not even graduate high school because his father play uncle the fun dad instead of raising his son as a result my son doesn't respect him or his house. I told the judge that wasn't the best decision for him for one he was a sophomore moving to a whole new world. I told his father you need to be apart of his world instead of moving him out of his environment where he has had some success. To make a long story short he is 19 years old threatening to drop out of high school and the law of Texas says that I have to continue to pay child support up until he is 18 or graduates from high school whichever comes later. Before my child left me his father he was doing very well in school star athlete in football once he moved with his father multiple concussions multiple injuries now he deals with depression because nothing has went right for him since he moved with his father I tried to tell the judge all these things before she granted custody to his father but she would not listen only going by the law. His father has multiple kids living with him all of his kids that he was paying child support he has moved them in with him and their life has turned for the worse. His father never has really been in his life the only reason why he convinced him to move in with him but so he could stop paying child support I feel that the Lord needs to change and an investigation needs to take place before the child moved in with the other parent no 12 year old that is a teenager that is going through some hard times just regular teenageers years should be allowed to choose what is best for him or her at the age of 12. That doesn't make sense that you would allow a 12 year old that is two years removed from being 10 to know what's best for him or he. They don't know the history of their father he was a very abusive man he has six different children I have a stable household why would you give the child the right to choose what's best for him or her. Now my child may not graduate because theLaw said he had the right to choose. Without taking into account was actually best for him weather School District household lifestyle the attitude of the kid his mood swings his child his father doesn't even know how he is at the age of 16 before he moved in with them because he really never spent time with his son this is the same man that left his child at home on a Monday instead of bringing him back to my house so he could go to school Monday morning but the state of Texas says it's okay for him to move in with his father when he doesn't even care to bring his child home to go to school on a Monday morning. The courts need to know the whole story do an investigation on the other parent that the child may move in with.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 16th, 2016Someone from North Fort Myers, FL writes:
I feel that child support should be based on a set amount. How is it that one woman can recieve 200 a month for two children but another woman can recieve 2000 a month for two children. Doesn't it cost the same amount to raise children? Why punish the fathers of failed relationships. This means that because that relationship failed he isn't allowed to move on.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 16th, 2016Someone from Largo, FL signed.
May 16th, 2016Someone from Indianapolis, IN writes:
I feel if you are Receiving child support you should have to take a random drug test.There are a lot of People abusing child support for their own selfish needs.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 15th, 2016Someone from Mount Morris, NY signed.
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May 15th, 2016Someone from Wichita, KS writes:
The state of New Jersey raised the date of majority to age 19. I have anticipated the end of payments for 18 years just for Gov. Christie to extend payments by a year. This type of action is unconstitutional as it violates the rights of the non-custodial parent. In the United States is is declared we provide fair treatment for all. However, fair for all except the non-custodial parent. Child support is a state run scam full of corruption.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 15th, 2016Someone from Atlantic, IA writes:
Child support laws protect only women. If the mother has money for designer clothes and cocaine the father should not be living in poverty!!!!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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