Unfair child support laws
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Feb 20th, 2013Someone from San Angelo, TX writes:
I really think something needs to be done when it comes to child support laws, I myself am a single mother and i work a full time job and i am not nor have i received child support from my sons father going on 5 years, he works side jobs and gets paid cash so they wont take any money from him, I work hard to make sure my son has what he needs and i would not have it any other way, i know it will catch up with him one day but im doing what needs to be done to make sure my child does not go without, Meanwhile my fiance has 3 kids with his ex wife and she just started working last year, she was working a full time job then she just quit cause she didnt like it, but then she takes him back for modification of child support payments, and of course she gets more in child support, and then decides she is just gonna work a part time job, this is just ridiculous. I think with her getting over $1000 a month in child support she should be able to provide for her kids but they went without water or gas in the house for 3 months, she pays no rent cause she lives in her parents home and the kids say they never have any groceries, I think it is just ridiculous that my fiance has to work 12 hours a day, and the kids have no food, and have to go without water or gas for months while she sits back and uses the money to go out and buy her new clothes, she thinks just because everything looks good when your looking from the outside that it doesnt matter what is really going on at home. There are lots of women who depend on a child support check and i think the responsibility should be put on both the mother and the father to provide for the children, My fiance has a very hard job and has never missed a child support payment and when he went to his modification hearing they asked "her" if she wanted the AG to include his overtime in his total wages well of course she is gonna say yes, so while we struggle to pay bills and work full time jobs she just sits back working a part time job and collecting her child support, and im sure when another 3 years passes he will be taken back for another modification so she can try and get more money and im sure it will work in her favor like it always does, women need to take just as much responsibility when it comes to raising kids, but why should they when the Attorney General does not see anything wrong with what is going on. -
Feb 20th, 2013Someone from Trenton, NJ signed.
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Feb 20th, 2013Someone from Williamsport, PA writes:
Child support laws are ridiculous. What does how much you pay support for have to do with ones income. Currently I have an ex who I have supported since I met her and a child who I have also supported since she was born and since we parted. She still doesnt work and even when she does its bare minimum. She has milks the system and my wallet. Who is the govt or court system to dictate how much I give my child when I am lucky enough to be able to pay for myself. The child support system is so corrupt and only benefits the person who has the child and makes gold digging other halfs live for free when they dont contribute at all to the child much less than society. If I was still with her we wouldnt spend that much on the child. Yeah sure pay for clothes and toothpaste etc. Well she uses all the same things when she is at my house and I dont receive a penny, its not even able to be added to your taxes and then allow people like this to then allow them to claim the child on their taxes so they get even more money. The time is now to get laws to be fair and common sense.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 19th, 2013Someone from Chattanooga, TN writes:
I too, am sick of the one-sided justice system that favors mothers over fathers to the extent that fathers end up destitute and even in prison while mothers sit on their butts raking in money because they can. This is a travesty and I am a woman. You women who are engaging in such despicable behaviors are an embarrassment to all women everywhere.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 19th, 2013Someone from Sheboygan, WI writes:
I am SICK of our child support system!!!! I am SICK of being treated like a non custodial criminal!!! ALL my arrears are paid, and for the past year, they have been taking a beginning amount of 2,200. Twelve months later, after they have been taking at least 50 extra dollars every month for interest...and I still owe the SAME amount!!! I need to know who is overseeing this dictating agency!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 19th, 2013Someone from Portland, TX signed.
Feb 19th, 2013Someone from Saint Clair Shores, MI writes:
I have a friend who is 23 and she had a baby who is 3 months old. Her finance died and the family got everything. They refuse to help her in any way. I wish there was a way she could sue the family for child support. Shouldn't they be responsible?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 19th, 2013Someone from Saint Clair Shores, MI writes:
I have a friend who is 23 and she had a baby who is 3 months old. Her finance died and the family got everything. They refuse to help her in any way. I wish there was a way she could sue the family for child support. Shouldn't they be responsible?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 18th, 2013Someone from Stone Mountain, GA signed.
Feb 18th, 2013Someone from Hackensack, NJ writes:
You want to know how messed up this system is? I am a hard working, tax paying law abiding citizen who more than willingly pay child support despite the government sticking their grubby fingers into my paycheck with no warning whatsoever. She is working off the books, gets money from her new "common law" husband who also works construction off the books, and gets over 1200 dollars a month in child support from me. She additionally receives medicaid and WIC. A woman that I know receives welfare while living with her non-tax paying drug dealer boyfriend. They are way better off than me with their mercedes benz and living "ghetto fabulous. Something just doesn't equate, I hate to say "whoa is me" but jesus christ when will the government give me my share of the free ride?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 18th, 2013Someone from Youngsville, NC signed.
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Feb 17th, 2013Someone from Miami, OK writes:
I am paying almost more in child support than im bringing home, yet i have a wife and new born at home that i cant provide for. Why can my ex buy houses and new cars and electronics with my garnished taxes? why dont i have right as a father, and a vet?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 17th, 2013Someone from Jefferson City, MO signed.
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Feb 16th, 2013Someone from Baldwinsville, NY writes:
My husbands ex REFUSES to work. The more she can get from him and the government, the more she takes. We have no children, yet MY tax dollars go to people like her. UNFAIR!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 16th, 2013Someone from Aston, PA signed.
Feb 16th, 2013Someone from Las Vegas, NV writes:
I am so tired of my children looking like crap while she always has new clothes. She is remarried and together, they make four times the amount that I make. Yet she continues to take me back to child support court every chance she gets. I have a step-son with a disability whom I take care of. Together my wife and I have a family of 7! I are constantly having to borrow money from family members just to afford my son's medication and put food on the table. I do not understand how a woman can cheat on and leave her husband for another man, make $7000 a month and take 25% of my pay. If she was struggling, then it would be somewhat understandable. But the fact that they are much better off financially and I know she can more than afford to care for our two children, she takes from the mouths of my other children just because she knows she can! This has got to stop!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 16th, 2013Someone from Tampa, FL signed.
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Feb 15th, 2013Someone from Warrenton, VA writes:
Florida and NC child support systems need to be investigated! Florida sent a certified to appear for child support hearing to my mother's house while I was in military in NC. I never received it nor was it signed for, the court date past. The courts calculated the support payment amount out of thin air and my ex's jobless state. They also mysteriously had a their own "signed for" certified letter that I never received. Massive back child support amount was added of course. NC for another child recently tried to raise my support payment by $450.00 based on old information even though my salary was cut by 15% and the mother and my child no longer lived in NC and had not lived there for 6 months. The court date for the increase was still set and the CS was clueless. Florida refused to modify my support payments for my other child due to my pay reduction and instead sent me letter stating I am not paying my support payments as ordered. My child support payments for both states were court ordered and are deducted directly from my paycheck. I have always wondered, when a family applies for financial aid from the state they have a calculation system to qualify you for state and if you qualify there is another calculation for the amount of aid per family size. This type of system seems more sensible than basing the support payments on the non-custodial parent's income alone.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 15th, 2013Someone from Pittsburgh, PA signed.
Feb 15th, 2013Someone from San Antonio, TX writes:
There needs to be some major reformation.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 15th, 2013Someone from Benton, MO writes:
My husband and I divorced and he was ordered to pay quite a bit in child support. We agreed on a lesser amount that we both knew that he could afford. My current husband pays quite a bit more in child support. He also pays for medical insurance which is required and is fine. He also carries dental, vision, and life insurance which is not required but he does it anyway. He was paying less in child support and his ex took him back for more when she found out he had a job that paid more. We recently took her back to court for more visitation rights and we won so we have his children almost half of the year. We recently had a child together. She knows that he cannot afford his child support and he has asked her to work with him on the amount and she refuses. She says she just can't. She told him she wanted him to have more time with the kids but she wanted to keep the same amount of money? Sounds like money is all that matters! He also does not get to claim one of his kids on taxes. We struggle to make ends meet and she knows that. Have you we both do work full time jobs. Her and her husband make the same amount of money that we do but yet they just went and bought a new house for $105,000 and she is constantly shopping high end stores. Everytime I see her she has on brand new clothes, shoes, and nails done. There is no way she can afford this unless she is using his child support for herself. The child support system is very unfair. To get your child support reduced it has to be a 20% increase or decrease. That is a lot if you ask me. My husband is now going to have to take time away from his new baby to get a part time job to pay bills and pay for his child support b/c she doesn't want to work a full time job and won't work with him on a reasonable amount for child support. The funny thing to me is that her husband just went back to court with his ex wife and he and his ex came upon and agreement that he doesn't pay child support nor does he pay medical costs? Why does she let her husband do that but she won't let her ex husband have somewhat of a break on his child support?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 15th, 2013Someone from El Paso, TX writes:
Where there is good there is evil. This could also be applied as where there is a good father there is a deadbeat father. The issue of child support has been ongoing for centuries and the system has been delegated to be favored more on the custodial end. The laws that justify what is fair within child support or custody is an approach of being biased against the non-custodial parent. It's a nationwide issue that affects all men/women non-custodial parents. The whole CS system corruption includes all the Attorney Generals of all states, lawyers, judges, and other state agencies. Eventually, from what I have experienced hiring a lawyer is expensive and I am still paying the bill and trying to make ends meet. Yet it's pointless hiring an attorney because it may seem as if they are fighting for you, but in reality we as caring non-custodial parents have no right! The only right we have is "The right to be with your child or children" NO SHIT! Who gives the law the right to tell us that? We have every right even without their intrusion. The whole system is violating our constitutional rights and judges? are aware of our due process, but just seem to ignore it. Without the crookedness the system would be broke. Morally it is totally wrong how the law gets involved and treats us as deadbeats who want to be in our children's lives, but only enables our lives to struggle and makes ends meet. The long corrupted CS system needs to be scrutinized very carefully and make it fair for both parents to be responsible, especially if they have "joint custody." Yet when the law say: "The best interest for the child." Totally a false statement! More like: "The best interest of the custodial parent and not the child". I thought the money is for the "child(ren)?" These types of laws embrace uncaring custodial parents to seek and abuse the govn't assistance, not want to work, and receive a ridiculous CS a month that we know all that money isn't going to our children. Damn if you do or don't. We, as caring non-custodial parents' are labeled as deadbeats and still get screwed paying a pretty penny (20%) for CS and health insurance, and if we don't, they take away our licenses and get sent to jail. The system is really broken and needs to be fixed! Overall, sometimes a relationship doesn't work and it is what it is, but we as humans need to make a decent living to survive and support our kids. Stop destroying families life's with ridiculous laws that are unconstitutional and make it fair to the point where both parties must be responsible in supporting our child(ren) and live a healthy life. On the note, there are many people who complain but don't do anything about it. Enough is enough! We, as caring non-custodial parents need to unit as one and stand up for our rights. The more we spread this fragile concern verbally, and online it will spread like wildfire. There are petitions going on and need signatures to be expressed to the President. So, let's geREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 15th, 2013Someone from El Paso, TX writes:
In my case, prior to our separation, I was eventually in the process of buying a house that was going to be built. When we separated, I had to cancel the contract do to our situation and lost my earnest money. Yet she threatened me that she was going to leave with my son to California. So, I quickly looked for a lawyer and set a hearing. On our first court date, I was forced to pay $685 for one child and pay for the high cost of health insurance. After she started receiving it, she quits her job and is now living with her parents. The judge ruled that I only had very limited time with my son. On our final court date, she claimed we never lived together and that I was never around when he was born physically, mentally, and morally. I was always around when my son was born and supported both. Eventually, I presented bank statements, receipts, the cancelled house contract that I was going to provide, documentations, and witnesses to the court and the judge ruled that I didn?t have any sufficient evidence of me providing. I saw my son with my own ways coming into this world and have been supporting him ever since. The judge ruled that I have to pay retro pay ($3200) even though I was always there. It?s only obvious they favored her lies and false accusations against me. How in the hell is this fair? I sweated blood and tears to get a spot in this cruel world and now, I am barely making ends meet. Yes, I can get another job, but that only enables me to have very minimal time to spend time with him and create a strong bond. The United States isn?t like the way it used to be, it only entails greed and power and be brutal against people like us.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 15th, 2013Someone from Goshen, VA writes:
Im searching for relief and help. My husband pays 6000 a month and makes 8000, we appealed the case and lost now he owes 40,000 in her lawyer fees. We are drowning and this is unfair, unjust. We have the children half the tme and still pay full child and spousal support. She cheated for 5 years of their regretful marriage. The judge looks at my husband as if he's a joke. My husband makes a good living but we don't have a good living. Soon forced to move out of our home to pay her lawyer amongst many other horrible things. What can we do, how can we change this? I want to take the judge to the media, expose him for making my husband out to be a deadbeat loser. We provide for the kids, food, clothes, insurance, we spend time with them, we give them good morals, values, love, friendship, we are a family but she stealing our dreams. Please someone helpREPORT COMMENTS
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