Unfair child support laws
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Feb 7th, 2013Someone from Bonsall, CA signed.
Feb 7th, 2013Someone from Colbert, WA writes:
The current child support system is really broken. It does not fairly consider the needs of both custodial and non-custodial parents and their financial circumstances. My ex-wife is now worth millions. She has remarried and works for her new husband's company. She can declare as much or as little income as she wishes because they work together control her payroll statements. She has purchased over $400,000 in new luxury and recreational vehicles in the last 18 months. She goes on lavish vacations almost monthly. She lives in a mansion on a 6 acre estate. She has personal accounts and owns a separate corporation. She has spent over $200,000 in legal fees suing me to try and deprive me of a relationship with my children. She has spent easily $30,000 to force me to pay an additional $11,000 in back support and to double my support obligations. Her husband makes over $30,000 a month in income also. In contrast, I was laid off from work and have been diligently looking for work. The best job I could find has been commission only sales and the income is inconsistent and about half the amount I usually make, but I am still required to pay at my imputed income rate. My income is modest. I have asked for modification and help to make the support obligations workable. Not only has the court not helped me make my payments workable, the ex was successful in getting the support obligation more than doubled. She was awarded an imputed income at just about the poverty level and lives the life of a millionaire. Our financial circumstances are so completely disparate it is outrageous, yet I bear 77% of the support expense which has amounted to tens of thousands of dollars in back support, and I am now required to pay half of my income. I cannot survive and meet my basic living expenses with half my income. And the sick thing is that the back support owed is for things such as outrageous counseling fees where my ex takes our kids into a counselor and coaches our children on what they must say, all so that she can build a case against me to deprive me of a relationship with our kids. My case has never involved an issue of whether my children's needs are taken care of. I pay support every month and give all that I can. It has been about greed and a system that is stacked against fathers. This system is really unjust. The custodial parent's actual financial circumstances should be weighed evenly against the father's actual financial circumstances to come up with a fair result. In this State it seems that father's really don't have rights when it comes to support matters or custody. The stated goal is to be fair, but the result is often extremely unfair. Custodial parents should be required toFeb 7th, 2013Someone from Colbert, WA writes:
My ex-wife was cheating on me with multiple partners, and decided to take my two young children and run off to another state while I was on business for a couple weeks. She lied and claimed that I abandoned them and left them destitute and the court bought into her lies. She obtained primary custody even though I have been a good father to our children. She has since remarried to a wealthy man who has been remarried 5 times, she works full time for his company and can hide her actual income, and she is now worth millions. She lives in a mansion, buys new luxury vehicles every few months, goes on lavish vacations almost monthly, and lives the high life. She also has had almost unlimited resources to sue me in court repeatedly over the last 4 years trying to deny me a relationship with our children. She has hired counselors and coached our young children to build case after case against me. She has cost me my career and driven me into financial oblivion. I am in sales, and income is not consistent.Things have really slown down and my income is half what I normally make. I have asked the court for a reduction in support so that I can survive and the ex lied about her income and assets, and expenses, and demanded more support. Now I am having half of my extremely modest income each month garnished to support her lavish life style and cannot meet my own basic needs. The system is absolutely unjust. My ex has purchased $400,000 in new luxury vehicles in the last 18 months, and paid over $200,000 in legal fees persecuting me in the courts, and I don't have two nickels to rub together. The court does not care. They just heaped more burdens on me that I cannot afford. I pay 77% of the expense and she pays virtually nothing. This system is seriously broken. Father's have no rights in the State of Washington, especially if one cannot afford to hire an attorney. Something needs to be done to check on mothers that work the system to abuse fathers. The system needs to be more balanced and take actual financial circumstances of fathers into consideration. At the present the Laws are very one sided and brutally unfair. This has never been about whether my children's needs are taken care of. I have always paid support and helped any way I can. The system allows mothers to extort and abuse good fathers.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 7th, 2013Someone from Houston, TX signed.
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Feb 6th, 2013Someone from Houston, TX writes:
Im tired of being taken advantage of because my ex dont like the girl im with now she has a very good paying job and she goes to school she doesnt need the money shes just doing it out of spiteREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 6th, 2013Someone from Buffalo, NY signed.
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Feb 5th, 2013Someone from Irwin, PA writes:
I AM on both sides of the child support spectrum. On side I pay the support and on the other I receive the support. I would like to know why a single mother of three children is expected to pay more to support her children than the father of any? I find that it is RIDICULOUS that the father of any children be granted and allowed to stay at home doing nothing or doing their best to avoid working a suitable job just so their support will never increase. Furthermore. I am LIVID that i am forced to pay MORE than TRIPLE what HE EVER did because I ACTUALLY went to work to support my kids. Mean while the court system did nothing while they were in MY CARE to help me gain a suitable and livable amount of support off of the man in the first place. It is absolutely absurd that I cannot afford to do anything or go anywhere WITH MY CHILDREN because of the amount of my check the support takes from me. I CANNOT PAY ANYTHING! And to top it off I cannot believe there is no clause what-so-ever stating that a Parent paying support (man or woman) cannot ask for receipts and statements as to where their support is going? If the other party is going to get half of our income they should HAVE to PROVE IT IS GOING TO OUR CHILDREN! And if it is not or cannot be proven, I feel the paying party should be able to bring LEGAL LAWSUIT to gain BOTH the children and the support payed back in full. I do not feel this is support for a child or children this is involuntary SLAVERY which is against our constitutional rights!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (SEE THE 13TH AMENDMENT) I have argued a hundred thousand times that my children are in clothes three times too small, their socks filled with holes,their shoes ALWAYS two sizes too small, they never have coats,hats,gloves,boots my oldest has hit puberty and his father refuses to by him simple things like deoderant. He walks on his toes now because nothing was/has ever been done about his shoes,My youngest was covered in bug bites FROM HEAD TO TOE for NINE MONTHS AND NOBODY DID ANYTHING while his father refused to AT LEAST BY HIM BITE MEDICINE. (THAT IS WHAT HE TOLD HIS PEDIATRICIAN) Even after the child told the legal guardian and myself his father was locking him in the attic!!! He is also delevoping a case of club foot from his inappropriate shoes. I have spoken with my oldest child many times and he has told me he has NO IDEA where the support for my children is going to. His father made the mistake of actually TESTIFYING IN COURT that he INVESTS IT FOR HIMSELF AND HIS WIFE IN STOCKS AND BONDS ETC. WHO AM I SUPPORTING?! And ..the man works *8 HOURS A WEEK! That is NOT SUPPORTING YOUR CHILDREN! I want to know why I am paying him at all? If a parent is unable/unwilling to support their children they should NOT HAVE THEM! I find it even harder to believe that on the other side of the spectrum my daughters father is not in jail for not paying at all....yet when i walk into the courtroom to again ask for a suitable amount of income tREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 5th, 2013Someone from Babbitt, MN writes:
i work two part time jobs and can not make rent or phone payments all that i get for pay is garneshed and can just barly have gas money to get to work in a car that i am barrowing from a friend. i think it is unfair that i can not get a break when my ex has a job and a boy friend living with her and i can not even have my own children over night.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 5th, 2013Someone from Lake Worth, FL signed.
Feb 5th, 2013Someone from Old Hickory, TN writes:
The mother gets free income which is not taxed and the father cannot claim at a loss. The custodial parent should have to justify the need or provide receipts otherwise the money goes into a college account FOR THE CHILD. Most women use child support for their PERSONAL living expenses which is unfair to the father. Not to mention if they marry a wealthy gentleman that is not considered as part of the child support equation.......it is a BROKE system which is breaking fathers......REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 5th, 2013Someone from Duvall, WA writes:
The system is broken! I followed my ex to be in my sons life and have been paying child support and have never missed apayment for 16 years. While the mother works for her parents and has lied about her income since the day she filed and has committed fraud numours times to gain more support. Even Fraud by collecting daycare from the state of Wa. while also collecting daycare from me thru a California support order. I have spent thousands of dollars defending myself for her aligations of missed support payments and clear as day lies to the courts! The courts do nothing but let it happen again and again.kiing county courts in Wa. just push the cases through. Fraud to DCS is to much of a hassel to address. Next in line to get screwed over by the courts..REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 5th, 2013Someone from Duvall, WA writes:
The system is broken! I followed my ex to be in my sons life and have been paying child support and have never missed apayment for 16 years. While the mother works for her parents and has lied about her income since the day she filed and has committed fraud numours times to gain more support. Even Fraud by collecting daycare from the state of Wa. while also collecting daycare from me thru a California support order. I have spent thousands of dollars defending myself for her aligations of missed support payments and clear as day lies to the courts! The courts do nothing but let it happen again and again.kiing county courts in Wa. just push the cases through. Fraud to DCS is to much of a hassel to address. Next in line to get screwed over by the courts..REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 5th, 2013Someone from San Antonio, TX writes:
I disagree with Texas Child Support Laws and we need change! First of all, I don't understand why the AG want to take into consideration "OVERTIME PAY" on what you pay per month. UNFAIR! Sometimes, we are forced to work OT, I don't have a choice and I'm being punished. I also don't agree that it's not tax-deductible. The custodial parent should be claiming that money on her income tax. The Texas child support laws need to be fair to both parents and what in the best interest for the child. We single paying fathers need to live tooREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 4th, 2013Someone from Placerville, CA writes:
My daughter is 5 years old and goes to school during the day. Her mom lives with her parents and does not work. I support my household of three besides my daughter which I have 50-50, yet I still have to pay $402.00 a month in child support while she refuses to even hold a part time job.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 4th, 2013Someone from Knoxville, TN writes:
Been to jail 5 times over this matter it is uncontatutionalREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 4th, 2013Someone from Virginia Beach, VA writes:
My husband pays 810 a month plus pays the health insurance for one child to mom who doesn't work. She doesn't need to work because her husband owns a construction company. She recently took him back to court and got a sizable increase citing the cost of expensive brand clothes as a factor. My husband pays more for this one child than he is able to contribute to our household with our two children. There is no justice in family court. Of course he should contribute to his other child but the amount he has been ordered is well beyond what is reasonable. This last court episode her lawyer sent us a copy of their tax return which was clearly fraudulent. Her husband claimed 22000 income from construction business but has a house, $40000 truck, a boat and a camper...lol. Also he claims no employees or 1099 contract labor. So he is paying workers under the table. My husband was so enraged by their greed he reported her husband to the New York State labor fraud department and they were very interested and said it will be looked into. I feel bad about this because the child will ultimately suffer when this is all unearthed. I also understand my husbands rage at being screwed over to the point it will bring hardship to our kids while his ex goes on 4 vacations a year and shops a lot buying designer clothes. When her hubby goes to jail and/or pays hundreds of thousands in fines and penalties for back payroll taxes and income taxes at least we will be able to say his ex will need the windfall from us. My husband offered her 500 month plus insurance and she said no. He waited till magistrate ruling to report the tax fraud. Said if he got a fair deal he wouldn't report. She and her husband were doomed because fathers rarely get a fair deal in family court.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 4th, 2013Someone from Atlantic Beach, FL writes:
This law in uncontinalble in that with the recent history of long unemployment and bad economy, ther is no provision for the how life really is. Additionally it should not caost sveral thousand dollars to modify a support order for a dad taking care of his children while the mother is allowed to cimmit fraud and contine to collectREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 4th, 2013Someone from Zephyrhills, FL writes:
In 2009 after leaving my husband and having the kids for a year without any help from him what so ever I decided that it was best the kids go live with him. I couldn't find work nor could I afford child care with him not helping me at all. Now he works 16 hrs a week, collects unemployment, has my son's disability check of 700 a month and half of my income. I only make minimum wage all the kids are in school and there is no reason why he should not be working full time. He buys iphones and ipods and xbox games and still wants more child support from me. He refuses to pay for my son's therapy out of my son's disability check while he is with me in the summer so my son has to miss out on therapy. I would love to take him to court but I don't have the money for a lawyer. I had to miss my visitation last summer because he wouldn't meet me halfway with the kids like he was supposed to. I'm so frustratedREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 4th, 2013Someone from Duluth, GA writes:
No one in Congress will give a dame until they are the victim..For Example (Gun Control Laws)REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 4th, 2013Someone from Camp Pendleton, CA writes:
For all of those dads out there that were great husbands and fathers but for one reason or another it didnt work out with mom and now your life is consumed with child support payments i feel you. I am currently in the Military and i have 3 children that mean the world to me. When my divorce went through the military said that i would no longer recieve money for housing and that because i was collecting housing pay waiting on my divorce papers to come in i owed that money back too. I lost 2500,00 dollars a month. I was made to live in dorm type housing with single people (which i cant have visitors let alone my kids). With that now i dont have a home to take my children too and now i lost all of my custody. And in california because i cant see my children my child support is going up to over double. Weird concept right? I have no savings anymore and am negative over 600.00 per month. I will be piling on debt for the next 2 years until i get out of the Military because i cant afford to stay in and provide a home to take my children too. I have been serving my country for ten years now and its sad that i cant see my children or afford a home. Please fix this broken system us fathers that care and want to see our children need it.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 3rd, 2013Someone from Lubbock, TX writes:
I don't understand why both custodial and non-custodial income can not be considered I married my ex -husband back in 1999 and put him through school, he graduated with a Masters and Bachlors in Engineering and a Minor in management. We had two children and divorced. He was makes great money and worked it all out so he became the custodial parent I feel for financial gain. Anyways, I had to get a new job where I finally got medical insurance offered to me and so I took it. After talking with my ex, we agreed for me to get medical coverage on the two children so that it would pick up copays from the first insurance. Needless to say, I recieved a check for 80 hours worth of work for $87.00. I got a lawyer and basically was told that of the $150 medical support and $416 I pay him, I could go to court and have the medical support removed. Nothing would change on the child support. I dot understand how it is fair that he already makes I would over $100,000 a year and its still expected for me to continue giving him over $400 when my take home is $87.00. I am a good mom, I typically have them right around 1/2 the month. Again, in Texas, child support is not associated with time spent with the children. Something's got to give.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 3rd, 2013Someone from Coram, NY signed.
Feb 3rd, 2013Someone from Erie, PA writes:
I have NO problem HELPING to support my children, but the problem arises when the mother has all the power in the system and the father i sucked dry to the point where he can barley survive all the while the mother has no job and does nothing to help with her half of the parental financial responsibilities. The bottom line is the system is horribly one sided and women should have to do something other than collect checks from fathers to support their own homes.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 3rd, 2013Someone from Lehi, UT signed.
Feb 3rd, 2013Someone from San Bruno, CA writes:
I find it odd that most men when faced with a similar situation will never ask the women for a dime for child support. I have to send my ex-wife money every month, on top of that I still buy my son clothes and shoes and I'll spend money on travel expenses when picking up my son who lives 2 hours away. I love my boy and understand that I have to take of care of him but child support money should not go into things that the mother would have to pay whether she had a kid or not. Things like housing is a bunch of crap, if she can't afford to pay for shelter and food on her own then she should not have full custody. If she didn't have a kid, how would she pay her rent? how would she feed herself? When I have my son for over a month, I didn't spend half of the amount I usually send my wife... I find these laws ridiculous.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 3rd, 2013Someone from Waynesburg, PA writes:
after the kids are out of diapers, the child support should be cut in half because babies are the most expensive and the mothers should have to have some sort of responsibility to support there children. if they didnt have the children theyd have to support them selves.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 2nd, 2013Someone from Lock Haven, PA signed.
Feb 2nd, 2013Someone from Wayne, MI writes:
I have no problem paying child support but it shouldn't be so high my ex and her boyfriend can retire in their 20s.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 2nd, 2013Someone from Vallejo, CA writes:
I love my child and want the best for them .but the laws hinder my ability to make a living suspending my drivers license preventing me from obtaining a contractor's license. These things take away my ability to provide for my children. It seems to me that it is a form of punishment that has no justification, construction worker and my work is season I do my best to provide for my children while these laws seem to tie my hands behind my back. He gave the dad. I am not stop tying up the courts and use common sense. It's very simple I have four children all by the same mother. My youngest is 17 years old my folders is 34. Now I own 90,000 in back child support. Something's wrong with that picture. Change these laws it becomes profitable to rip families of part. That's the message we send our children. Something's wrong with that. Look at these cases on a case by case situation without tying up the courts. It's common senseREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 1st, 2013Someone from Jennings, LA signed.
Feb 1st, 2013Someone from Chattanooga, TN writes:
Everyone who pays child support didn't leave there kid or run from responsibility. When u pay 1500 a month and cant afford to feed the kids that live with you or pay ur bills dont tell me i shouldnt be mad at the system that favors the custodial parentREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 1st, 2013Someone from Harvest, AL signed.
Feb 1st, 2013Someone from Arnold, MO writes:
when the NCP has no money to take his kids to movies etc this makes him look bad to his kids. Part of support is huging your child , kissing your child how can a VCP do this when th CP will not let the child see / visit the NCP More to child support than money. The CP can get all kinds of help free . If you can not drive to work how can you keep paying your child support . My guess is a lot of bitter CP work for the child support office. If the NCP does not habe a home to take his child how is that helping the child ? It all stinks. UNFAIRREPORT COMMENTS
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