Unfair child support laws
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Sep 3rd, 2016Someone from Pahrump, NV signed.
Sep 3rd, 2016Someone from Midvale, UT writes:
My husband has two children with his ex. He was ordered to pay over $900/mo plus half of daycare, which came out to $500. So he was paying a total of $1,400/mo. Because of false police reports (which his ex dropped once she realized it might take money out of her pocket if he lost his job) he decided to resign from his federal job with ICE (if you do get fired from any fed. job, you are no longer eligible to work for ANY fed. employer). ORS (Utah's child support collectors) would not adjust the amount because my husband CHOSE to leave his job... They wanted him to pay $1,400/mo with no income???? So it added up and added up. He found a job with the VA hospital, and at this point he had sold his car to help pay for child support. He gave his ex $5,000 cash from selling his car, and she never reported it! So he was in arrears I think around 12-15 thousand. My husband had to take the bus to work, he couldn't pay to keep his cell phone, ORS was taking half of all his paychecks and he was giving plasma every Friday just to help with food. His ex got pregnant by some other guy who said that she told him she was going to take him gor all that he's got, just like she did my husband. She threatened his career in the air force, so this poor guy pays $1,500/mo for one kid that he has seen twice in her entire life (almost 3yrs old). It took us taking his ex to court to finally get a relief of back-dating with the correct amounts. We ended up have a large enough credit that he didn't have to pay CS for ocer a year! That is how much DOCUMENTED money was stolen from our family. I could go on and on, but I will end with this thought: Why doesn't my son matter when determining how much my husband owes to his other two children? My husband doesn't have two children.. He has three... Does my son not matter because he came along later? The system is so corrupt. ORS takes 2% of all that they collect so there is no reason that anyone would assist in lowering your monthly CS. It is a legal way to steal from mainly men and in my case, my child and my family. Fix it!Sep 2nd, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 2nd, 2016Someone from Martinsburg, WV writes:
I seprated from my ex when my son was just one year old. Aftef the seperation we agreed on 50/50 custody outside of court. This worked fine for a few months until she found out the I was involved with some when. She then shows up out my house assults me and then the court grants her a protective order against me. She drops the order with in a week when she decided the she could not handle our son.. A little time passes by winter arrives and I (being down on my luck unable to find work) had to stay in a camper for about 3 months while staying in the camper she decides she wants to start drinking and parting every day of the week. Its blistering cold outside and she decides she wants to only see our son for 4 hours every tuesday. Spring comes and I find work my girlfriend myself her two daughters and my son find a nice 3 bedroom house with a fenced in yard andthen the ex decides she wants to do 50/50 custody again. Me thinking about my son agree to this and things go well for a few months. At this point my now fiance changes her face book status to engaged. She pics up our son for her time with him, and wouldnt you know it, I dont see my son for a few weeks, i finally convence her to let me spend some time with him I pick him up at noon my fiance heads off to work at 3 and at 9 that night my ex shows up at my front door demandin my son while I am talking to her I see her sister go around toward my other door while trying to see what she is doing I am assulted again while her sister enters my home knocks my fiances 3yo daughter to the floor giving her a mild concusion and takes off with my son the police show up take a report and I file a protective order myself we go to court and again the provide her with an order against me. I know recieve about $110 a week after child support and am only allowed to see my son for one night a week and one week out of the summet. Courts should order 50/50 custody with no child support unless one can prove the other unfit with actual hard evidence not storys from family and friends. After raisi g my fiances daughters for 6 years the or both involded in aftet school activites and recieve many awards every year including principals honor role perfect attendence and character awards. My son who is primarily in his mothers care is 8 years old weighs at 47 lbs recieves no awards from school and seldom turns in homework assignments. He tells me his mother spends no time with him and he plays video games until he falls asleep after midnight and his bedroom is a open family room that you must travel through to get to the kitchen and dining room. She recieved legal aid while I was left to fend for myself in court. Again I recieve a grand total of $110 dollars from my check every week. She recieves all the money from the child support while making $400 a week receives foodstamps and a medical card while living with two other working adults. I cant even get a medical card so i can go to the doctor or visit a damn dentiREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 2nd, 2016Someone from Philadelphia, PA signed.
Sep 2nd, 2016Someone from Bay City, MI signed.
Sep 2nd, 2016Someone from Bay City, MI writes:
Equal rights for Men and Women. Free to have kids together and BOTH parents WORK!!! 50/50 custody and NO one pays! Raise your own children, NOT the government. RAGE AGAINST THE MACHINEREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 2nd, 2016Someone from Airway Heights, WA signed.
Sep 2nd, 2016Someone from Wittmann, AZ writes:
Adjust child support and pay directly to the adult child Joseph and Donna Torre married in 1978 and Veronica Torre was born in 1979. Joseph and Donna Torre divorced in 1987. Joseph was ordered to pay child support before the separation and divorce. According to the order, the child support was not supposed to exceed 25% of Joseph?s income. Joseph was not permitted to contact Veronica. I am not sure when Donna married Robert Helinski, but Robert adopted Veronica in 1992. If the child support were to match what the order said according to Joseph?s income it would be $15,000, unless it doubles because of interest. That is using Joseph's income from the time the order went into effect until such time as Veronica was adopted and renamed Veronica Helinski. Veronica moved to Arizona in 1996 and again in 1997. Veronica has been in Arizona since 1997 and this last year had a child. We gave her $300 monthly for the first year of her son?s life, along with anything else we could spare and babysitting when needed. My life and Joseph?s life have been seriously harmed with this hanging over our heads. It came to a point when Joseph could no longer find work. His license was taken and his credit ruined. The stigma of being a deadbeat dad is very real. Joseph?s former wife Donna is very active is continuing to do what she can to harm our reputations, with the help of social media. We had read Maryland was doing what they can to wrong the rights of an unfair system. There were faults on both sides, but Donna was the one given free legal advice and Joseph, just as young and stupid, was left to fend for himself. The article said that 84% of non custodial parents were fathers. 63% of those fathers in arrears make $10,000 yearly or less. Congress gives the OCSE $5 Billion dollars for child support enforcement but only $10 Million to help Fathers enforce their visitation rights. A judge told Joseph it didn?t matter if he was permitted to see Veronica, or not, he still had to pay child support. Most of the money we have spent on Veronica over the last 18 years has not been documented. Not that we regret any of it. We can not begin to tell you the joy it has given us to have Veronica, and now Rowan, in our lives. I, Ruthanne, Joseph?s current wife, am now retired and Joseph is unable to get work with this hanging over his head. Donna Helinski has been happily married to an engineer for 20 years or so and she has said she wants the money, but does not need the money. Our petition is for the Maryland Courts to set aside the original court order and make the debt $12000 to be paid directly to Veronica.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 2nd, 2016Someone from Pompano Beach, FL writes:
10 years of incarceration took care of my child throughout ,was released got a job paid payments for years lost my job ,license,home everything but still had to make payments been unemployed for 2years and they still haven't acknowledged my financial changes now I'm homeless and still can't get a financial change for a 18 year old childREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 2nd, 2016Someone from Pompano Beach, FL signed.
Sep 2nd, 2016Someone from Geneva, OH writes:
My boyfriend was married for 20 years, his wife works for the area Children's Services as a supervisor. He just wanted out of the marriage, she got the house, everything in it but his clothes and tools. He gave her "cash" payments which she was supposed to keep track of and said she wouldn't request any back child support, she requested alimony and told him she would drop that at court. Of course she didn't. He spent $25,000 of a retirement fund just to build a pole barn alone. Not to mention she didn't work while she got her degree in college. They based his child support on 3 years of overtime that he is not working now because he changed positions in the company. He almost lost his vehicle, he can't take his kids any where on the visits ... it's ridiculous. She gets $1,728.00 a month ON TOP OF HER wages, the house, and everything in it... and got the arrears that she lied and said she would request.... I call BULL!!! She works in the system, she knows the judges, etc. If you work 160 Hrs a month (which is full time 40 Hr a week job) you would be making $10.80 an hour.... That is more then most families earn! AND SHE is A SUPERVISOR FOR CHILDRENS SERVICES. Come on - let's get these laws straightened out for these guys.. Let them be able to take their kids on vacations, Cedar Point.... Let a dad enjoy his limited time with the kids. Heck, let them be able to live on their own and not support her shopping habit! I raised 3 kids and a foster child for awhile on $24,000.00 with NO HELP FROM WELFARE or at times child support. I gave money back to my ex husband when he showed me what he was making vs what they were taking... He couldn't afford a lawyer and I called child support, they said there was nothing I could do to change it. He would need to pay a lawyer to get it reduced. Let's help these dads who really want to be in their kids life be able to provide for them without giving it to a money grubbing hateful spiteful person... seriously!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 2nd, 2016Someone from Sugar Land, TX writes:
If one party for no reason breaking the family , then he/she ask for child support, it is not make a sense at all. It is contradict of child interest to face divorce and in the other hand claiming they wants to raise the poor kid and asking money. Child best intrest should be pushing parent to work out on issue and make divoce a bit more reasonable , ex. make mandatory family counsultation and mandatory separation period before even go to mediation. paying money is the last thing mom or dad can do, but no money can take poor kids to a warm family again. From what I saw, sometimes child support become a motive for divorce especially for woman as they get %90 of child custody. Other gap is how they spending that child support money. %80 of money goes to non related child activity. Law should ask a prove of child expense or saving for collage and so on.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 2nd, 2016Someone from Erlanger, KY signed.
Sep 2nd, 2016Someone from Mc Bain, MI writes:
i think tbe structure for child support is too high, their should be a cap on what is needed to pay for your child, i do not believe my ex needs $200 dollars a week to support our son, i didnt even spend that much when we all lived at home to survive, now i am forced to lose my home, i am unable to make my payments. The system and laws that back it are in place to break and destroy the member who has to pay child support, their isnt one person in any political view who gives a crap abput what happens to those who pay and do not realize this whole 25% off gross is actually hurting people, and you wonder why so many people lose their homes and have to file bankruptcy or whatever is needed to get a fresh start. Someone needs to look into this and address a cap on support, should not exceed a amount that would financially burden the payee.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 2nd, 2016Someone from Vandalia, OH writes:
Paying for my ex to sit at home and live for free at her grandparents. Paying so much in fact that I can no longer keep my bills afloat. The kicker...I get standard visitation which is 6 days a month. The system has forced me out of my kids lives and into unmanageable debtREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 1st, 2016Someone from Clearwater, FL signed.
Sep 1st, 2016Someone from Guys Mills, PA signed.
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No, CancelSep 1st, 2016Someone from Meadville, PA writes:
I pay around 1100 a month for two kids. How is that right one gets 665 and the other over 400. How is a parent who is involved in their children life get screwed over so bad. How do they expect me to surviveREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 1st, 2016Someone from Hobbs, NM signed.
Sep 1st, 2016Someone from Monticello, AR signed.
Sep 1st, 2016Someone from Dallas, TX writes:
I was forced to pay child support...an amount that wasn't agreed upon and wasn't even given a court date. When i finally got the paperwork to dispute the order it was too late. I got them the day after my appeal time was over. Texas is quick to take the money but does nothing to ensure the money's actually spent on or for the child.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 1st, 2016Someone from Houston, TX writes:
I don't want to pay all this. $120,000. For one child. Comeon cuh.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 1st, 2016Someone from Elyria, OH signed.
Sep 1st, 2016Someone from Dryden, NY writes:
I've worked very hard and long to achieve a good life for my children and myself only to have nys child support laws infringe on my civil liberties with a 25% gross income -fica mandatory payment to a lazy woman that chose to leave the financial security I earned. This is completely unfair to us dedicated father's that are not the deadbeats of the world.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 1st, 2016Someone from Fort Worth, TX writes:
Don't make much money. I always took care of my kids. Child Support is too much. Corrupt system. I need to fight for a fair. I live in Texas. Mother lied to the court. The good came out of this I don't owe any back pay. I had my paperwork to prove the back pay. All men are not deadbeat dads.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 1st, 2016Someone from Fort Worth, TX writes:
Don't make much money. I always took care of my kids. Child Support is too much. Corrupt system. I need to fight for a fair. I live in Texas. Mother lied to the court. The good came out of this I don't owe any back pay. I had my paperwork to prove the back pay. All men are not deadbeat dads.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 1st, 2016Someone from Kermit, TX signed.
Aug 31st, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 31st, 2016Someone from Nacogdoches, TX writes:
It's criminal what they do to your life. I pays half my income for my first child. All the while having custody of my second. We are having to live on food stamps, and off my elderly parents. This is insane... To top it off the mess up your credit even when you make the payments. And all their employees are evil disgruntled people who hate to have to talk to you.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 31st, 2016Someone from Lafayette, LA signed.
Aug 31st, 2016Someone from Miami, FL writes:
Additionally I think it is unfair to charge sick people with child support. I have a client who is homeless, and schizophrenic, who is making a living by collecting SSA payments. She has been charged with child support when she does not have a place to live. It is unfair.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 31st, 2016Someone from Cincinnati, OH writes:
Please make paying support fair.... It's up to both parents to do what they can to contribute to their kids.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 31st, 2016Someone from Troy, NY signed.
Aug 31st, 2016Someone from Suwanee, GA writes:
Children need to be taken care of---period. If money is being accounted for regarding children's care I doubt any parent would have an issue.The problem has become the lack of accountability of those funds and the bias that has become the norm in nearly all states regarding the mother being the primary custodial parent by default unless some extreme circumstances warrant otherwise. This bias undermines the importance of father's involvement in children's lives and we continue to see the next generation of children becoming more entitled and less appreciative of the opportunities available to them. Why is it in the children's best interest to spent more time with a non-biological step- father (or boyfriend of the mother) than their own father? Wouldn't it make sense to acknowledge both parents each provide their own unique values to raise the children as reponsible and independent adults? Until it is recognized that fathers are just as important as mothers we will always have an inequality in how the courts rule -- and it isn't in the children's best interests. As such it is assumed father's are deadbeats and should be penalized financially as well as emotionally by simplistic child support calculators and limited time with their own children. This is not to dismiss some cases which clearly demonstrate an issue with one parent or another and circumstances dictate a clear reason why custody should be awarded to one parent over the other, but this doesn't excuse the mindset of a mother being the default custodial parent. It is obvious why fathers feel there is an injustice in the system but there are few individuals with the authority to stand up for what is right out of fear of persecution by many claiming the "re-balance of child support" is taking food out of children's mouths.Why wouldn't a father be upset when there is no accountability of the post-tax funds being blindly handed over to a mother with the assumption it is being spent for the children's benefit. Accountability is easy to demonstrate by showing how the child support is being spent over the course of the year. If there is a large disparity then there should be an adjustment because it is clearly not needed by the mother and the father would by natural extension be using those funds for expenses he incurs when the children are in his care. Keep in mind no child support is provided to the non-custodial parent when the children are in their care. Why is this? They don't have expenses? Are they not expected to provide food, shelter, or clothing? Why should child support provide financial support to the custodial parent when the children are not in their care? Remember this is tax-free income to the custodial parent as well. If they are using these funds for their own expenses like a mortgage but then are claiming the interest for tax deductions how is this not tax-fraud? The custodial parent also gets to claREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 31st, 2016Someone from San Bernardino, CA signed.
Aug 31st, 2016Someone from Trenton, NJ writes:
This system is totally biased against responsible fathers.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 31st, 2016Someone from Trenton, NJ writes:
This system is totally biased against the fathers!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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