Unfair child support laws
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Sep 12th, 2016Someone from Princeton, WV signed.
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No, CancelSep 11th, 2016Someone from Ridgeway, VA signed.
Sep 11th, 2016Someone from Red Bank, NJ writes:
The law should Change. As my son had a child of his own, child support was still taking money from me. Now I went through the courts to stop it and it was quite crazy. They gave me the emancipation court date yet they still took my money until then. Now the money they owed me I never got back in fullness. They only gave back 687$ yet my son had a child of his own for 2 years. Where was the money going if he wasnt in the state to receive it? Who received it if he didn't? 5,019 I over payed... Where is the rest of my money? Only 687$? Had I owed that money believe me.. They would make sure they got a every damn penny.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 11th, 2016Someone from Eloy, AZ writes:
My husband works hard to provide and is not a deadbeat, yet is being treated like one while his ex gets to stay at home and live off him and her current husband. We have one child under 3 and one on the way very soon. I now have to go back to work (somehow, even though we can't afford childcare) to pay child support to his ex, because if he increases his income so does the amount he owes her and we can barely afford our own living expenses without child support as is. So, I have to find work while almost due (incredibly difficult) and put both my babies in childcare while she sits at home with her excuse being she can't afford childcare for her one non joint child. My stepdaughter is 7 and in school. The court says she's worth $424 month, but when my baby is born that amount will decrease by about $25. How is one worth $400 and the other $25? The child support system desperately needs an overhaul. We cannot afford our basic expenses. This month will be between paying child support or electricity, water and groceries. And the hole will just keep getting bigger for us while his ex is not held accountable to provide any support or any proof that our support is actually for my stepdaughter. How is it that we can afford her while she's living with us, but can't when she's with her mom? None of the calculations make sense when applied to actual living. We do not go out or eat out, we have not bought ourselves clothing much less anything cool, we do not spend money on anything other than our necessary living expenses. Yet we're supposed to be able to afford to live? At $12/hr, my take home would be about $1424. Childcare would cost us $1320. 1424-1320=104. 104. Subtract gas to travel to and from new job and subtract cost of formula or nursing supplies since I won't be home to nurse my child. Where is the amount left to pay child support? My husband already works 60+ hours and we're breaking even between his take home and our expenses (which are literally rent, trash/water, gas, groceries, electric, car and renters ins, phones through Net10, credit card, basic internet, and our one recreational expense of Netflix). I'm failing to see where we can afford to pay his ex. And we're deadbeats because of it. It doesn't make any sense.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 10th, 2016Someone from Mount Joy, PA signed.
Sep 10th, 2016Someone from Kingsport, TN writes:
Why is it the parent that is getting the child support does not have to show any receipts or prove the money is going to the child? Also, why is it that the parent receiving the child support not liable for the child financially? I.e. Having to hold and maintain a job? Supporting the child on their end? Using child support money for other things then the child.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 10th, 2016Someone from Leander, TX writes:
I'm the father of three children all with health issues, I lost my job three months ago and don't have any income. My order states that I'm to pay for child support, medical insurance and ALL MEDICAL BILLS (copays). I simply do not have the money to afford this. While I have been diligently looking for a job, I'm unable to expand my search criteria for alternate locations because I would potentially lose the ability to see the children and the children would default to she can choose where they live. Not to mention that I'm unable to afford COBRA and I've applied for state healthcare programs (which I did not qualify of because I've not been out of work long enough). On top of this, I've applied and am receiving unemployment benefits but 1/2 of the benefit is going to my ex so I'm not even able to afford simple basic necessities (I also have Diabetes and the price of my insulin and Test Strips without insurance is about 1200-1500 per month). To make matters even worse, I've filed to the court for a modification (even if only temporary) over two months ago without any response yet from the Attorney General except that the amount of money that I owe is growing and I could be put in jail if I don't pay. This is unfair and unjust. She has a job and is able to "not" accept money, we share 50-50 Custody and 50-50 Possession but the court determined that since I normally make more money than her, i should pay to make it fair for her. So now that the tables are turned why are they not a quick to remedy this situation? This is absolutely unfair treatment and needs to stop! -PaulREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 10th, 2016Someone from Phoenix, AZ signed.
Sep 9th, 2016Someone from Batavia, OH writes:
I want to pay for my kids and live as well. This system must change.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 9th, 2016Someone from Strasburg, VA signed.
Sep 9th, 2016Someone from West Warwick, RI writes:
My husbands son has been so badly brainwashed by his mother that he barely wants to see his father anymore. This comes after my husband and I having custody of his son for the past six years. We have providing everything and anything for him without the mothers help at all. For the past year she has done nothing but file false motions in court dragging us back-and-forth. We have had to pay for an attorney, costing us thousands of dollars to fight for a child who in the end decided he wanted to deceive us anyway because of what lies his mother has taught him. His mother collects Social Security because she's bipolar and has anxiety disorder but she's fully capable of wreaking havoc in others' lives . At this particular point in time we have no choice but to throw our hands up and let The boy do what he wants to do. His mother has made it so that the he doesn't even want to see his father anymore but yet we will have to pay child support because she's a lazy crazy woman with no concern for her son accept how to pay her way through life on someone else's dime. He will no sooner fail out of school then return to a stable home. It's so sad.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 9th, 2016Someone from Lilburn, GA writes:
Too many mothers are abusing the system as it is now.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 9th, 2016Someone from Palm Coast, FL signed.
Sep 8th, 2016Someone from Bowling Green, KY signed.
Sep 8th, 2016Someone from Girard, IL writes:
I like this, and I hope it happens. I would also like to add that I believe both parents should be fully investigated from time to time. I pay child support for 3 kids with 2 different mothers, one of my ex's likes to call me and brag about all the new stuff she bought for herself, (shoes, flat screen tv's, new phones, etc.), and then tells me that I need to pay her more and if I don't agree she calls CS and nags them until they raise my amount. This is a monthly issue with her. In addition to that she moves to different states alot so that I cannot see the children. The other ex has moved away and I have searched and searched to find my child, but with no positive outcome. I constantly get letters in the mail from CS about how they are going to suspend every license I have if I don't pay pay pay. So let's do some math, not this common core crap, let's do some common sense math. A non-custodial parent works 40 hours a week, but only brings home $185, (after CS gets theirs and then taxes come out), so we take that amount times 4, (4 weeks a month),which comes to $740 a month, to pay your own bills, (rent, elect., gas, etc.),and also that money has to go to providing for a family or another child or children a person may have custody of. Also, I didn't figure in for the prices of transportation an individual would have to provide for to get to and from work, grocery store, etc., due to CS suspending a drivers license. So with the way prices are today and how the economy is going, how the hell is this enough money to survive and still live a normal life? I believe is time to wake up, either CS needs to close their doors for good, or they need to start getting off their asses and do something about it. If a custodial patent is abusing the system then the system needs to penalize that parent. And the same for the non-custodial parent. This is a control problem. I see alot of bad things happening because of the actions of our family court system, CS, and abusing of the system by both custodial, and non-custodial parents. If this is the path that will be taken by these services and courts, then I feel no remorse when things take a turn for the worse. It's plain to see that if you push an individual to a breaking point then their actions become forced, meaning people will find a way to provide for themselves by any means possible. (Let that sink in your head for a minute). And just for further facts, look at all the riots, and buildings being set on fire, people getting killed, all because people are tired of being pushed around, and screwed over. Enough is enough! In my opinion, these places, (family courts, CS), either make a change or it will be made for you. There are alot of people out there that are sick and tired of being sick and tired. Changes are coming, whether these places make the changes needed themselves or it gets done in a way that nobody will like, and then it will just get worse. I am one of the people that will fight nonstop to makeREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 8th, 2016Someone from Houston, TX signed.
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Sep 8th, 2016Someone from Tampa, FL signed.
Sep 8th, 2016Someone from Maud, TX writes:
I looked into how much it costs a year to take care of a child. The USDA shows how much in child care, medical, housing, school, etc. costs for children, by age. I went to the final age of 18 even though my boyfriend's daughter is 5 and got the annual amount it will take to take care of her in Texas at 18. Even at 18 it's just over $12,000 a year, which is about right. So, cut that in half to make each parent liable for taking care of the child and it's still less on each parent than for one parent to, pretty much, do full support at $600 or better/month plus pay for insurance, plus pay half the medical bills, plus etc. Texad and many other states do not split the responsibility evenly, even if the mother/father is capable of working. There needs to be a change and both parents need to be paying, not just one. Change the child support in america today please! Everyone who has a voice, please help.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 8th, 2016Someone from Girard, IL writes:
I feel that the other parent who does not have custody is sometimes a victim due to lies, deceit and manipulation. I know first hand how this is, and it take a HUGE toll on the family who does not have custody and who tries hard to see or FIND their kids. Then to have the custodial parent message the noncustodial saying "Looks like you're working again, thanks for the flat screen for my bedroom, haha". And while the noncustodial parent seeks to have modification and investigation on the other parent, it doesn't happen. Plus suspending drivers license and hunting/fighting license? How is the noncustodial parent suppose to go to work, feed their family and take care of their other kids?? Hunting and fishing is not leisure activity. It's a way of living and providing for your family. We live off the land, as we are suppose to. Some of these parents live out in the country where jobs are scarce and need to travel for work, how can they do that with no D.L, and have to afford to pay all these back CS plus a reactivation fee for the Drivers License. It seems like the government's way to take advantage and make more money. Oh. And no Missouri will now charge you a separate fee, for using their service even though you never asked To. So in addition to having to pay child support to the other parent, you now have to pay Missouri a fee for using their service. Blasphemy! !! Something needs to give, we need help and it's do sad seeing my husband bust his but day in and day out to help support his family (us) and have to pay child support on kids he doesn't see and the moms keep moving around so he can't find them, and they take half , yes HALF his paycheck. It all doesn't make any sense to me.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 8th, 2016Someone from Tampa, FL signed.
Sep 8th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
Come sign the petition that is going to help end the Family Law Corruption once and for all! https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 8th, 2016Someone from Lenexa, KS writes:
I have three kids and had to pay $1560 at the time plus less equity and my ex's van in lieu of alimony. I spent a load of money to get 50/50, but the system is bias here. If mom didn't want it it wasn't going to happen. I ended up getting 50/50 on my youngest child, but only after I agreed to not ask for a reduction in support. I know have my emancipated son living with me and my 17 year old daughter. Still working to get my child support reduced. Nothing is easy. I think the system should be more equitable and not leave the other parent without enough to pay their bills.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 7th, 2016Someone from Detroit, MI signed.
Sep 7th, 2016Someone from Altoona, PA writes:
Child support laws r unfair. They go by income of both parents and if the dad makes good money and the wife either doesn't work or works part time the law makes it that they even out the income. Therefore the wife won't look for a full time job and just takes in the money living free. Both parents should work at least forty hours and the other parent paying child support should not get most of their income taken for child support especially when the wife gets food stamps, section eight, works part time and lives with a boyfriend who supports them too. The law is unbalanced!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 7th, 2016Someone from Tampa, FL writes:
Hi, i am 44 and a father of a 9 years old daughter, i have always paid 50% of the child expenses (daycare, clothing, etc,) by mutual agreement, which I thought was fair, i have had the kid 45% of the time and not by desire, i want 50/50 but she refuses, idk why because she doesn't help with homework and is always late, leaving early or no showed for school and other activities, this person was married going through a divorce or whatever at the time of the conception and now with a new husband. Now She is coming back to me for retroactive child care, cause i refused to give her money her excuse she has too many expenses but she eats out every single day, ( too lazy to make her own lunch) now i sue her in order to get 50/50 but even doing that i still have to pay her for child support, and retroactive on top of what I am already paing. The whole system is wrong, unfair their math is stupid and incomprehensible, creating job security for attorneys, judges and courts, saying in the best interest of the child...yeah right, sure I don't believe on it. I don't trust it. Uses and abuses and destroys the good working man, i know many like that, and gives privileges to irresponsible women. It needs to be changed NOW.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 7th, 2016Someone from Indio, CA writes:
Child support and alimony aren't fair, everything is biased on the women, they don't work and they get all the money, what about are needs and are bills, I can't even pay my bills after working 60 hrs at week... The law needs to be change...REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 7th, 2016Someone from Kenai, AK writes:
I'm a 65 year old Vietnam War veteran, and a proud father of three children, now 38 to 41 years old, married and children of their own. I have only received 6 to 8 visitation visits with my son, and none with my daughters, per their mom. I hired attorneys before to help me deal with my rights as a father, but they will take your money and back out going against the state of California at the last minute, with no money refunded. Child support division will not help you, you are on your own. So now what does a father do at this point. I have been denied my rights as a father with visitation rights, but still paying out support for them, my son's mother has abused the walfare system ,when my son way about 5 year's old, his mother would go to the walfare office and look for some one to father another child and sue them for child support and to stay on walfare, she had done this 3 or 4 times now.I tried to make contact with my kids, but never promitted to even talk to them on the phone , couldn't even give birthday and Christians gifts per their mothers. Ok so maybe some day when they get old enough I will try to locate my kid's. According to the state of California child support division I still owe the state $114,k. I contacted child support in California and asked them about my support, the state of California told me my child support has been paid in full for many years now, and what I'm paying now is instrest, and it is no longer consider child support, so then why I'm I still paying child support when it's not !! Me and wife are now paying out money to penalties and fines, due to Obamacare, can't afford medical insurance but forced to pay fines. US father's need someone to listen to us and do what's right I have been paying child support for 35 plus years, through payroll deductions, tax returns, PFDs, etc. I'm sure support was not meant to take the entire family to Disneyland, for a victory celebration!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 7th, 2016Someone from Athens, TX writes:
Child support laws are very unfair and very biased toward women. It's time it get fixed. It takes two to bring a child into this world. The mother should have to provide the same for the child. If u can't provide for ur child then the other parent should have custody.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 7th, 2016Someone from Las Vegas, NV signed.
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Sep 7th, 2016Someone from Kenai, AK writes:
I'm a 65 year old Vietnam War veteran, and a father of three children, what are received 6 visits with my son, and daughters mother refused me any visitation with my daughters. My son's mother had moved and taking him out of state without any my permission or telling me about it, I called child support to tell them about it they said it was my problem, have hired attorneys before they will not go against State of California, however they will take your money and then back out the last minute. Had melanoma surgery back in the eighties actually died on the table tried to tell child support what happened if they work with me they said that's my problem, what the father to do at this point. I have been paying child support to the payroll deductions for over 35 year's, and all this time they've been taking my tax return my Alaska PFD there any money taken back from the state. I had called California Child Support Division in California and asked about my child support and how much more I still owe they told me my child support had been paid in full for many years now and all in pain now is the interest which is more than I can afford to pay, and now did California straightening to take everything I have along with Obamacare hit him if he did meet with penalties for no medical insurance. It all started back in 1970 and now with 2016 and you know I have never seen my kids since they were four years old I was told I had grandkids wish I had never seen, now you tell me what's fair!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 7th, 2016Someone from Minneapolis, MN writes:
The current laws are a joke and completely screw fathers that want to be involved. I understand single mom's need protection, but not at the expense of worthwhile fathers.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 7th, 2016Someone from Cresco, PA signed.
Sep 7th, 2016Someone from Roosevelt, NY writes:
I am submitting this petition to put some laws in place to monitor the monies a parent receives for child support. The money should be spent on education and the betterment of the child. not the mother's cosmetic upkeep. please change the laws there are excellent fathers out here in the worl like myself and the mother of the child uses the child a pawn as a chess match. please consider. D.croslandREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 7th, 2016Someone from Birmingham, AL writes:
I work a full time job and have never received a dime of child support from my ex husband for our son. I am completely against the current child support laws and they need to be changed immediately! My husband that I have been married to now for 15 years pays his child support weekly, pays even more than required most of the time. It is still never good enough for his exwife, she has never worked a day in 15 years. She blows the money on junk they don't need, then cries when the power is about to be cut off. Custodial parent needs to be held responsible for the funds they receive. She claims she can't work, why?? Both girls are about to graduate high school and her youngest by her new husband is in 1st grade. It makes no sense!! Something has to change!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 7th, 2016Someone from Kenilworth, NJ writes:
I'm paying $1000 a month in child support plus pay mortgage and all the bill that amount to $2000 a month extra meanwhile my Wie sit there home collecting the money our daughter is 12 years old why she can not work?REPORT COMMENTS
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