Unfair child support laws
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Jun 18th, 2013Someone from Hauppauge, NY signed.
Jun 18th, 2013Someone from Vass, NC writes:
I know I have to pay child support but I'm 41 years old trying to go back to college so I can get a job that makes more than 7.25 an hour. I can't work a fulltime job and attend college fulltime. I make 9,000 a year my ex gets 2 to 3000 of that a year, I live in a trailer set back in the woods that I rent in N.C. I cant afford heat and for 4 to 5 months its cold here. I can't afford AC and my trailer can spike up to an over 150 degrees in the summer. I don't have TV at all. The windows don't open, some are busted out but on less than 600 a month I can't afford anything else. Now I am being made to not only pay over a 3rd of my income on child support but also for the kids braces. I am going to end up homeless. My ex makes like 40,000 a year and lives in a 5 bedroom home that's paid for. I don't think these laws are fair he has a college education I just want the opportunity to get mine so when my kids ask me for help later in life I can say yes, instead of like now where I haven't been able to get them a birthday or x-mass present in over 2 years. I feel like an awful person when it comes time for birthdays when I have to tell my kids I am sorry I cant send you anything I need the money to pay bills. Which in turn my ex tells our children that the reason I don't send anything is because I am a bad person and that I really don't love them enough. 12 years ago I had the kids my ex was allowed to go 6 months without paying child support and I couldn't feed them or pay the rent without the support and had to turn them over to him. He in turn hit me with child support and even though I made min. wage some how I was ordered to pay twice the amount he was suppose to be paying me, now if I miss more than 2 payments they threaten to put me in jail. These laws have got to change. I don't want to be a dead beat mom but I also don't want to be homeless its bad enough I had to sign up for food stamps just so I can eat. I am sorry but it sucks to look at my paycheck of 225.00 for two weeks of work after they take their cut. I just want to get an education so I can better help take care of my children but they penalize me for trying to move up in the world.Jun 17th, 2013Someone from Mobile, AL writes:
I am signing this because Alabama child support is a big joke. I have had one of my kids living with me for 2 years and when i went to get the child support dropped they increased it and gave the child to his mom. They didn't even take anything i spent off for back pay. It's not fair to the man. Work until we die so she can have a nice car and whatever she wants. The money is not even spent on the kids. Its really a shame. And i have 1 child they take my child support and i can't even see my child haven't seen her in 9 years but they still take my money.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 17th, 2013Someone from Fieldale, VA writes:
I have raised my child all by myself since day 1 with no help from her father or the not so fine state of va's help. He was ordered to pay child support in the amount of $850 a month because i provided complete insurance on her. Ive worked since i was since i was 16 yrs old, pay my taxes & do the best i can but since having my baby 3 yrs ago w no help ive lost my home & struggled monthly. Her father makes more money in a month than i do a yr & i work in a retail pharmacy but yet i get nothing. He hasnt ever recieved a letter stating he will loose his lisence or go to jail. Now w that said my boyfriend of a yr now has 3 kids of his own. He is ordered to pay $425 a month & carry ins for them. Hes has been there sole provider since they were born. Thier so called mother is 26 & hasnt worked a day in her life & refuses to get a job. Says theres no need cuz hes pays for them & the state picks up the rest. & they do...she currently gets $600 in foodstamps, rental assistance & lives with her dad. He was laid off for close to 5 months but hes currently behind 2-3 months since he just started his new job about a month ago. But guess what child support wants to take his lisence due to the back pay. It makes no sense what so ever how they make their rules. They have 1 dad who has the $ & just refuses to pay then 1 dad who consistantly pd till his lay off & sarted again w his 1st paycheck of new job but who are they bullying...its not right how the people who try their best get no where. Im tired of the "system", sorry lazy parents, government personel, drug addicts, & this whats susposed to best the best place to live. Things need to change & change quick! I would love to hear from a politician on this! Which will never happen cuz they dont care. The story of every middle class american...REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 17th, 2013Someone from Tampa, FL signed.
Jun 17th, 2013Someone from Tampa, FL signed.
Jun 17th, 2013Someone from York, PA writes:
I went from being able to provide for my 2 children when I have them to not eating over the weekends so they can. O-yeah their Mother only works part time and lives in the home I gave her.... The system is a joke and not a funny one.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 17th, 2013Someone from Rochester, NY signed.
Jun 16th, 2013Someone from Oakland, CA signed.
Jun 16th, 2013Someone from Jersey City, NJ writes:
i just wanna say that my heart goes out to anyone that is tangled in this web of chaos called child support! Regardless of sexual origin we are all humans and deserve a fair shot at life. This system needs change! God help us and have mercy on us all.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 16th, 2013Someone from East Saint Louis, IL writes:
The child support system in Illinois is a HUGE unfair joke!!!! They do EVERYTHING they can to screw the guy and the woman gets ANYTHING she wants!!!! And they wonder why depression and suicide are so high!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 15th, 2013Someone from Bedford, VA signed.
Jun 15th, 2013Someone from Mesquite, TX signed.
Jun 14th, 2013Someone from Burrton, KS signed.
Jun 14th, 2013Someone from Dwight, NE signed.
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Jun 14th, 2013Someone from Cottage Hills, IL signed.
Jun 14th, 2013Someone from Mount Prospect, IL signed.
Jun 13th, 2013Someone from Memphis, TN signed.
Jun 13th, 2013Someone from Daphne, AL writes:
I am signing bc my husband is too paying a high price for a huge mistake. the system needs to be more fair.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 13th, 2013Someone from Daphne, AL writes:
I am signing bc my husband is too paying a high price for a huge mistake. the system needs to be more fair.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 13th, 2013Someone from Stephenville, TX signed.
Jun 13th, 2013Someone from Goldsboro, NC signed.
Jun 13th, 2013Someone from Bridgeport, OH writes:
I am currently paying over 680.00 a month for ONE child. This includes my insurance I have to carry as well. That has gone up. Now 17 years ago she keft me for another guy so I have had to pay the price because she left me? I have two Daughters with my current wife and when I asked the CSEA about reducing the support oder cause I am having a hard time taking care of my family, the case workers response was " should have thought about that before you started having more kids".. I was dumbfounded I only have one more year to pay but if they are doing this to me then how many other guys are they ripping off? Oh and I missed a payment one month due to switching jobs and my new employer didnt get the paper work in time to take it out of my check so 1 payment was missed. They called and threatened to take my license away because of it. REALLY!!! there are guys that owes thousands and you are gonna threaten me over 600? program needs fixed in a bad way.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 13th, 2013Someone from Brenham, TX writes:
I don't mind paying child support but 20% is too high from an check that ur bring home pay 800 every 2 weeks apartment where I stay is 600-1200 then lights food gas ect off an single income is too much then ur kids gonna what u to do something with em that's one mess up law everyone gotta make a living 10% out every sound more fair to both sides of the party I'm a go dad my first child mother said she won't put child support on me cuz she know ill take care of my child plus the one b4 me second one said if I leave her she will file tell where's. My fairnessREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 12th, 2013Someone from Goldsboro, NC writes:
Im active duty air force and did a year long tour in korea 2010-2011. while I was gone my wife found a boyfriend. well I hired a lawyer and long story short...I spent thousands of dollars on lawyer fees and wound up getting the kids 3 nights a week but paying the ex $1000 a month in child support. its crazy that I have to live paycheck to paycheck because of my ex's infidelity. there is no incentive for women to act right anymore. the government has made it to lucrative for women to break up families. its quite a popular thing in military towns btw...women getting knocked up by military guys and getting that free ride...its terrible and shouldn't be rewarded!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 12th, 2013Someone from Evanston, IL writes:
im on child support homeless and felon cant get hired anywhere with my backgroundREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 12th, 2013Someone from Minneapolis, MN writes:
I think it is unconstitutional to be treat like dirty and nothing can be done about it its total unfairREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 12th, 2013Someone from Yucca Valley, CA writes:
The family law and child support system is a cesspool that needs complete replacement! It is truly disgusting the way lives are destroyed, changed, rearranged. This system is not for our children, does it really benefit them when the other parent hasn't worked in 4 years, chooses to live in a low income environment in order to use and abuse that system that I pay for also through taxes and very little of the money I give actually goes to my child. There is no democracy involved in the process. When the government has this much control and I have no word one way or the other it is called communism. Think about itREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 12th, 2013Someone from Jacksonville, FL signed.
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Jun 12th, 2013Someone from Miami, FL writes:
This so called child support is nothing but a big business for the States. Debtors prison iwas outlawed long time ago in AMERICA. . No triel by jury was ever used to determine these cases, violation of the 14 th ammendment, due process, and unfair treatment under the law, because the cousts most of the time pre determined the case before the obligor even gets to court. The obligor just go to court to hear how much he has to pay, again no due processREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 12th, 2013Someone from Miami, FL writes:
This so called child support is nothing but a big business for the States. Debtors prison iwas outlawed long time ago in AMERICA. . No triel by jury was ever used to determine these cases, violation of the 14 th ammendment, due process, and unfair treatment under the law, because the cousts most of the time pre determined the case before the obligor even gets to court. The obligor just go to court to hear how much he has to pay, again no due processREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 11th, 2013Someone from Luling, LA signed.
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Jun 11th, 2013Someone from Dayton, OH writes:
I feel for the fathers and even mothers on here. I am a mother myself who lost custody of her son for some strange reason back in 2010. But before people start saying I am a loser low life druggie, I have worked my butt off and earned a master's degree, I work for the government as a Staff Accountant, I have no history of neglect, violence or anything to that sort on anyone or my child. I take very good care of my child making sure he has what I can afford to give him while paying $600 a month in child support. My fiance and I are expecting a new baby in the fall and he works his butt off to support his family as do I. I just do not understand how my ex lives with his girlfriend, bought a new Jeep and affords everything else and lives comfortably. I understand that my money I am paying goes to help support my son but that isn't the problem. I know how much it costs to raise a child and it is impossible to have a two bedroom that costs at least 625 a month, pay for electricity, gas, and pay for a car payment, car insurance, have money for groceries, and money to purchase clothes for the child. I feel that both men and women get ripped off. I understand situations but I for one know that it does not cost $500 a month to pay for a child. I use to have custody of my son and I know that regardless you will always have an electric bill, gas bill, car payment and car insurance whether you have a child or not. Those are expenses that do not go up just because you have a child. I know for a fact they don't. The justice system is not right at all and something needs to be fixed because yes I do know of moms who just sit around and collect money for the sake of doing it and it isn't right. That money is for the child. If you are spending $600 dollars a month on clothes for a child, food, and child care which is usually how it's split up well you have a spending problem because typically you pay half for child care and then the other half is the child support. If you divide that by 2, no one should be spending $300 a month on clothes and groceries for a 6 year old. Something needs to be done for everyone's sake. I also understand that there is welfare for those who need it but the problem is the government gives it to people who abuse the system completely.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 11th, 2013Someone from Austin, TX writes:
I don't ask for much but these laws are out of control. I shouldn't have to struggle this hard just to survive when my daughter's mother lives high on the hog. All I want is to survive, but that is just so hard in this system. Half of everything I have ever made in my adult life has gone to a women I met once when I was 19. I can't change jobs or move w/out notifying the state first, it feels like im on parole for being a dumb kid. What really gets me is that my daughters mother has her income, her husbands income and half of my income to live off of. I get half of mine b/c that's the most they can legally take from me in Texas. Is it to much to ask for a fair deal to all parties so I don't have to worry whether or not I can afford rent.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 11th, 2013Someone from Newport News, VA signed.
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Jun 11th, 2013Someone from Ashburn, VA writes:
My ex-wife decided to cheat on my after having 3 kids and 9 years of faithful marraige on my part. My ex-wife entered into an agreement with me for lowered support becuase of the guilt she felt and wanted to do what was right in her mind. Since then, she has moved in with her boyfriend and is living in his home. I have since moved on and found love again in my life. I went on to rent a home that i could afford, that could fit all of my children for the time i had them. I decided it was time to go back to court and request the kids 50% of the time. After all i love my kids and the few months of seeing them on the weekends was not enough. My ex in rebuttal to my request is seeking now full support. For me, thats 2700 a month! If she wins which every lawyer has told me that she is entitled to this money, then i will no longer be able to afford my home, my car, child care for my children, food on my table etc. The system is flawed. My exwife is going to essentially take 3/4 of my salary, earn her own salary, and live on her boyfriends dime. What do I get?! 1.4 of my own pay, no home, no food and a ****ed off girlfriend. THIS SYSTEM IS SO BROKEN!REPORT COMMENTS
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