Unfair child support laws
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Dec 16th, 2015Someone from Burns, OR writes:
she left me for a drug addict. moved. filed a false res. order on me. makes false claims to get me arrested every time its my weekend with our daughter. and I have to pay for this. -
Dec 16th, 2015Someone from Rosemead, CA signed.
Dec 16th, 2015Someone from Chicago, IL writes:
I can't see my children but my lazy baby's mother can just lay around getting money from the state cause she don't want to work something needs to be done enforce men getting to see children like you do hunting men down for money I don't know her address to even serve her papers to get it reduced where is the help for men I got shafted after she left my child with her boyfriend and my son got hurt I didn't get custody I got parenting classes and anger management classes when I had nothing to do with the situation where's my justice she still ain't got no job she living with some other guy she has no job but I can't get my child I'm more fit we want justiceREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 15th, 2015Someone from Trenton, MI signed.
Dec 15th, 2015Someone from Sacramento, CA signed.
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Dec 15th, 2015Someone from Saint Paul, MN writes:
Child support is really messed up I've got to kids 1 is 15 and the other is ten I had custody for 9 years but when I went through a divorce they just gave her back to her mom even with all the drugs for the nine years they just waved it that's screwed up if your on assistance they can just leave your child support but as soon as they took her back and gave her to her mom they couldn't wait to start digging in my pockets and during the divorce I got screwed there too the Mom got everything you know what I got 314 child support bill then on top of that I got put into anger management tell me that is frustrating there should be a law where when the kid is 18 years old everything is done it don't matter she's graduated or not and when she goes to college its on them I love my kids a lot but we Dad need to live tooREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 15th, 2015Someone from Puyallup, WA writes:
My husband and I have 3 kids. He and his ex girlfriend have one child together. She got mad when we got married and quit her job, then moved in with her mom and filed for child support. Prior to that my husband had an agreement to put $400 a month in her account, which he did for 9 years. The child support is now set at $700 a month which comes out of my husbands tiny paycheck. He was forced to take a lower paying job after being laid off. We tried to get it modified and it was denied. So basically my step son (who is 12) is not well cared for, and has a able bodied mother who refuses to work, and gets $700 a month from our family to spend on her nails and partying. This country is so corrupt. The fact that my husband has 3 other kids to support doesn't matter? Why is the first child so important, but the comfort and well being of the preceeding children doesn't matter to the court? The cost of supporting ALL children should be taken into consideration when calculating child support. Just because he made the decision to have more kids, doesn't mean they should suffer for being born after his first child. The laws need to change!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 15th, 2015Someone from Manassas, VA writes:
This system needs to change now!! I have to pay 5800 on backed child support for a child i didn't even knew about. I am now married with 3 children and it's been real hard to support my family, while this women doesn't work, parties Friday, Saturday and Sunday and picks up my son at midnight with brand new clothes, long nails every week but yet can't even pack my son a pair of socks!! Another thing is that many of these women get pregnant on purpose thinking they can make a man stay just because of a child. I know its our responsibility to use protection but what can a man say when she is telling us "don't worry Dr. Said i can't have children, and im allergic to condoms"REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 15th, 2015Someone from Garner, NC signed.
Dec 15th, 2015Someone from Fort Worth, TX writes:
My dad pays 1200 a month to my mom, and I don't see any of it, I have to get my clothes from my mentor, and he's even had to get me my medicine, I live in a trashy trailer home in Texas when 1200 a month can afford a decent apartment or at least a decent trailer home, I refuse to clean up others messes because of unfair treatment do the house is getting worse and worse, I work to pay my phone bill and save for college, there is no college savings for me from my mom, my dad has tried to report it, but they refuse to listen to him, I wish they would give the child more of choice in the matter when it came to custody be cause this is rediculous, :/REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 14th, 2015Someone from Perry, GA signed.
Dec 14th, 2015Someone from Hillsborough, NH writes:
The laws need to change. Women abuse the system quite frequently, while men like me who have a family to take care of and get a call 11 years after a child is born to be told they owe child support is unconstitutional. The woman I am expected to pay, while placing my family finances in danger, is already collecting child support from one man, alimony from another... And working as a hairstylist, receiving cash tips that go unclaimed.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 14th, 2015Someone from Saint Paul, MN signed.
Dec 14th, 2015Someone from Grand Prairie, TX signed.
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Dec 14th, 2015Someone from Corpus Christi, TX writes:
Its unfair as a mother beingon child support and not being able to be with my son. I can take full responsibility for my kid but what i refuse to do is take care of his father and their other two kids.My baby was preety much took from me I didnt sign any papers or go before a court. Long story short my son is no longer in his care cps intervened an my son was removed from and and his girlfriend's care a and my kid now resides with his mom and her husband.He asked for back child support which was 13,000 and I have two other kids who live home with me. I saw my son this yr for 1st time in 4yrs.Okay that was in March and I'm current on child support.I just need to figure out a way to be with my son......As a mother i understand what u guys are going through dealing with selfish ppl who only give a damn about a check but yes they should show proof!!!!!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 14th, 2015Someone from Circle Pines, MN signed.
Dec 13th, 2015Someone from Fort Bragg, NC writes:
As I serve my country and plan to for as long as my legs will permit me to jump out of airplanes, there is someone mentally preparing to commit suicide waiting to pay child support to a never married women wanting money for selfish reasons. He will die at 25 and jump no more.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 13th, 2015Someone from Decatur, GA signed.
Dec 13th, 2015Someone from Conestoga, PA writes:
End your criminal activities now. stop the extortion and causing those like me thousand of dollars of debt. It is demanded receipts should be shown on a monthly basis on what is being spent on the child. the current law is criminal in its own right preventing paying parents from having a living. Now is also the time to hold the agencies and the courts responsible for acting in such criminal manners. the agency employees and judges are not above the law and shall be held accountable for their involvement of crimes committed against citizens.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 13th, 2015Someone from Geneva, OH writes:
I pay child support to a custodial mother collecting mental disability ssi she's never worked a day in her life Diagnosed with BPD, severe anxiety, Ptsd, bipolar 2, manic depression. She's stopped letting me see him, My son and I are very close and I've even had him most of his life (sometimes for months) she Cutting off all contact just as he starts school. It's all been planned...REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 13th, 2015Someone from Cordele, GA signed.
Dec 12th, 2015Someone from Elk Grove, CA signed.
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Dec 12th, 2015Someone from El Paso, TX writes:
Change these laws, make custodial parents show proof of each dollar amount caring for a child. These laws are ridiculous and need to change. For the past 5 years I've been paying my ex trips to Vegas. Custodial parents need to be held responsible not given a blank check.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 12th, 2015Someone from Waterbury, CT signed.
Dec 11th, 2015Someone from Hutto, TX writes:
4 kids, divorcEd 10 years ago because dad became heavily involved in meth. He tells me if I finish the divorce I will never see a penny in child support. 10 years later we had another hearing. One child emancipated 2 years ago...leaves 3 teenagers home with me. I have raised them on my own. He is 61900 in arrears. Was originally ordered 750 a month plus 1/2 medical. He has paid 200 this year. He can afford his criminal court costs, an attorney against me for his child support obligation, to have a dirty ua on probation. But not help support his kids. Today, his obligation was lowered to 319 a month. He can go out and party, but not work a job where his wages are garnished. He has been an independent contractor for 10 years. Cashes his checks at money box. I completed my education and work 75 hours a week...and he can't make 750? He lives with his mother who has only enabled this behavior. Why not take away his freedom, mine is, I always work, sleep, and raise my beautiful children. The has to be a solution to the way the dead beats are handled. My family does not live, we don't have down time together when I'm not working or we aren't focused on grades. Proud to say my oldest is a 3rd year criminal justice student and my other three will never use drugs or fight against what's ethical and morally right. I'm am in debt from medical bills, but he gets all the free medical and dental he needs. He has been out of jail for 15 months, but states he is unemployed and has no way to earn money. We are in austin, a thriving job market. I don't even know where anyone can get hired at minimum wage here, we start people at 10.00 an hour. 319 a month for e teenagers because he hates me more than he has ever cared for his children...and the office of the attorney general is putting him under their wing...apparently he and the choices he has made needs more care and concern than the children of our future and the moms the raise them. I failed to mention I have already forgiven 37000 of the arrears, to help him out 7 years ago...our system is broken. Put these deadbeats somewhere, make them work and send the money to the kids. I didn't choose this, neither did they. All they will remember from the or childhood is mom was always working. We do not receive any form of assistance from the government. I make just enough to not qualify...qnd custody, he had the opportunity and was appointed a therapist and we were going to have supervised visitation, but he decided to not do that. He had my kids in a home filled with cat urine and feces in their beds, he stayed in a shed and watched our kids in surveillance cameras and rented out one of their bedrooms to other drug users, so yes, therapy was needed...and today he said I keep him from his kids. And to top it off, HE was issued a court appointed attorney, I couldn't get one. Our system is broken. Pleas help fix it.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 11th, 2015Someone from Hutto, TX signed.
Dec 11th, 2015Someone from Passaic, NJ writes:
I'm a dedicated Dad. These laws must change utterly unfair. My child's mom was allowed to take my child out of state and continuously violates the visitation order. She's recently married and now her husband has the right to claim my child over me. Courts don't care as long as you pay. It's time to tailor these orders to each case.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 11th, 2015Someone from Byfield, MA writes:
My fiancé was ordered to pay nearly $200 a week for a child whom he is not allowed to see by the maternal grandmother. She has custody of child who will be 18 next year. (Due to A made up story reported to dept of child services-which was investigated and later dropped) The child's mother never was ordered to pay any support at all, despite mass law being the state minimum is $20 if the parent is not working. It should be divided equally between both parents if they do not have custody. 10 years later, my fiancé has new job, and we have made several requests to dept of revenue to have modification of support order denied. Yet the mother still isn't paying a dime. She moved out of state to avoid paying support but has since moved back to Massachusetts with 2 more children). If You have children, you support them equally. Just as if you do when married. It takes 2 incomes to support children in this day and age. Why should it be any different for non married parents? Child support should help the child, but not cause a parent to become homeless or unable to support themselves. It is supposed to be based on income, but how do they expect a person to live when 90% of their weekly income goes to child support? You take support after taxes, so my fiancé who grosses roughly 750 a week, now takes home $176 for a 40/hour work week. He has $325 taken out for his children, but has had to live with friends to have means to survive. For a grown man to have to work nearly 70 hours just to bring home a livable wage is absolutely Disgusting. he has tried to get assistance to make ends meet and is continually denied since child support is not counted as expenses when reporting bills. Yet the other parent gets to count child support as additional income. Seems unfair. My fiancé has always supported his children, whether court ordered or not, and he gets railroaded and has to face living in poverty, when the other parent should share equal part in supporting the welfare of the child. His oldest has quit school and will be 18 in the next year. We should be able to go after the child's mother for neglect and all the extra money we paid to cover her non payment of support. There has to be fair, more consistent rules across the country.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 11th, 2015Someone from Byfield, MA writes:
My fiancé was ordered to pay nearly $200 a week for a child whom he is not allowed to see by the maternal grandmother. She has custody of child who will be 18 next year. (Due to BS story reported to dept of child services-which was dropped) The mother never was ordered to pay support, despite mass law being the support is split equally between both parents if they do not have custody. At most the mother should have been ordered to pay the state minimum support of $20 per week to lessen support on father. 10 years later, new job, several requests to dept of revenue to have modification of support order denied, and the mother still isn't paying a dime.......yet she is now back in the state( after moving away and having 2 more children). You have children, you support them equally. Child support should help the child, but not cause you to become homeless or unable to support yourself. It is supposed to be based on income, but how do they expect a person to live when 90% of their weekly income goes to child support ( for a child who quit school and is self supporting, making more money under the table than his father)... Disgusting. Something needs to be done.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 11th, 2015Someone from Cibolo, TX signed.
Dec 11th, 2015Someone from Maywood, IL writes:
Child support should be a flat fee n each pay grade. Flat rate for 20 to 2500, 26000 to 310000, etc..REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 10th, 2015Someone from Kerrville, TX signed.
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Dec 9th, 2015Someone from Victoria, TX writes:
Child support law is very unfair. No parent should be locked up for being behind on child support. Come on people be independent and support your own kids. We don't need the fathers in our children life. We are very independent women. Who can all raise our kids on our ownREPORT COMMENTS
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