Please stop the unfair punishment of good fathers. We need child support reform now!
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Sep 12th, 2016Someone from Patchogue, NY writes:
This letter has been written and directed to you to call your attention to an issue that has greatly impacted my family and is a concern, not only for our family, but for numerous other families with a parent or spouse who responsibly and diligently pays child support for their children from past relationships, and who continue to fight to be a part of their children?s lives. As I think we are all more than aware of, there are some negligent parents who fail to support their children emotionally and financially. To hold non-custodial parents accountable, at least financially, New York State operates a child support program which provides custodial parents with assistance in obtaining financial support and medical insurance coverage for their children by locating parents, establishing paternity, establishing support orders, and collecting and distributing child support payments. This system is a very useful tool for parents who truly need help enforcing child support orders and holding non-custodial parents accountable for their financial obligations. However, this system is seriously flawed and is in dire need of immediate reformation. My husband has a child from previous relationship. He has fought hard to stay active in his child?s life, fighting against parental alienation and emotional abuse from an ex-wife who would withhold visitation or put restrictions and conditions on his time with his son as a means of punishing my husband for perceived wrongs against her or for leverage to obtain additional financial assistance in violation of an existing Court Order. Throughout her abuse, my husband continued to pay child support directly to her, at her request, weekly (although ordered monthly) as she did not want to collect child support through the state (although this was ordered to be set up). He continued, then, as also court ordered, to pay her directly until such time she did set up the account. Throughout this entire time, he was constantly bombarded with false accusations from both his ex-wife and her family for failure to pay his support obligation, even though concrete proof of payment existed. Being proactive and looking for a solution to this issue, my husband contacted the New York State Child Support Enforcement Bureau on numerous occasions to try to set up payments though the Bureau himself. He was told that as a non-custodial parent he was not able to set up the account. Only a custodial parent could set up an account. Again, during this time, he continued to make payments directly to his ex-wife, as directed by the Court Order until such time she set up the account. Finally, after years of blatant disregard for the existing Court Order on his ex-wife?s behalf, which clearly and definitely effected my husband?s son?s emotional wellbeing, my husband contacted a lawyer and filed for a custody modification. It was only after my husband filed for a custody modification that his ex-wife contacted -
Sep 12th, 2016Someone from Memphis, TN signed.
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Sep 9th, 2016Someone from Fort Huachuca, AZ writes:
My husband pays so much in child support we are beginning to go into serious debt. What about our family? What about our two kids? What about our oldest daughter's specific needs due to her medical disabilities? Putting a whole family into debt for the sake of one illegitimate child is unjust. Also, corruption in family courts needs to be kept in check. How is it that a parent can be lied to by court officials and then be held responsible for the truth? Stigma against fathers in family court needs to end. When I was a child and my parents split my mother got full custody of my sister and me. She shouldn't have. My father was by far the better parent, and we both would have been better off raised by him than by a borderline schizophrenic mother. But, the courts were always against him. It wasn't until a decade later, when my mom finally got caught abusing us, that our father managed to get custody of us.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 9th, 2016Someone from Odessa, TX signed.
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Sep 8th, 2016Someone from Tampa, FL writes:
We need to stand together men in reform this.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 8th, 2016Someone from Coahoma, MS signed.
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Sep 7th, 2016Someone from Hanover, PA writes:
I'm not opposed to child support. Though it should be based on the total household income of both parties. I should not be required to pay in excess of $20k/yr when the other household already earns over $20k/yr. In my situation, after CS is taken, I bring home ~$20k/yr and the receiving party has over $80k/yr... The recipient should also pay tax on the extra "earned" income, not the payee. Not to mention the direct negative effect it has on the children. My children are teens now and see where the money goes for themselves. It hurts their relationship with the other parent and creates hostility between the parents themselves. The current regulation has little beneficial consequence as a whole. In an ideal world, the parent whome requires the least amount of support should be the primary caregiver. If the parent can't maintain a job, provide security, good financial habits, and be independent without Government assistance and support, they should not have the privilege of having primary custody.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 7th, 2016Someone from Kalamazoo, MI writes:
Father pays 50% of taxable income, never gets to claim child as dependent on income tax, gets him 1 overnight weekly and every other weekend. Wants more parenting time but has to fork over more money to file motions and hire attorneys!! A joke! What are the courts and custodial parents thinking??? Children should not be visitors in non custodial homes nor a paycheck for the custodial parent!!!! A middle class father should not have to pay over $200 a week in support (with no child care expense necessary I might add). And why do the custodial parents not have to account for any of the support monies they receive? Corrupt system!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 6th, 2016Someone from Fort Myers, FL signed.
Sep 6th, 2016Someone from Pittsburgh, PA writes:
I just received custody of my son so why is it so hard to vacate/terminate existing child support order since I have primary custody. Why is child support still being deducted from my pay. Why do I have to wait 5 weeks until a hearing on it? I need that money for my son. Why does she need it? Domestic relations have told me for 12 years it's about the child but here they are being more about the mom, continuing to give me problems, and not for the best interest of the child.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 6th, 2016Someone from Schenectady, NY writes:
Child support needs to mainly factor two things: Income of both parties AND time with children. A father should not have to pay 100% child support with a 50/50 shared custody. If the fathers income makes up most of the child support, that is fine, but their obligation should be tied to the amount of time they are not with him. We are using the father as an example here because of the bias laws in place. The same should be true of the mother should she be paying the unfair share of child support. The laws need to change now.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 5th, 2016Someone from Pecos, TX writes:
My ex went to prison for smuggling drugs into a prison facility & when she got incarcerated I was supposed to get custody of my daughter but her sister,mom,& even her brother in law got involved putting things into my daughters head so she wouldn't come with me I reported them with the sherriff & they didn't do a damn thing when they took her from me now she's requesting a review to get more child support out of me I'm like where's the rights that supposed to belong to us dad's that do comply with these court orders & have to make payments to this attorney general damn system!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 5th, 2016Someone from Londonderry, NH writes:
Until Judges are forced by law to treat Fathers fairly nothing will change. Will it happen? I'm 56 having already paid unreasonable support for 9 years. Paying till I'm 63...that will be 17 years. No it will not happen...REPORT COMMENTS
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Sep 5th, 2016Someone from Owego, NY writes:
All I want is equal time with my daughter. The courts have taken my rights away from being a parent to more of a visitor. Were is the the equal rights for both parents? I too have to pay more than 50% of my income and provide everything wile she stays with me. How is that equal? Reform is what we need. Educate judges on equal rights on both parents.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 5th, 2016Someone from Auburn, WA writes:
I get screwed and she gets to take the kids 1hr away from the home to live near her affair. Due to the fact I worked GY judge said sorry...wouldn't have her move the kids back. Also I get my kids every week on my weekend. She makes more than me and I pay her $1000 a month. That's BS. I'm treated as if it's her kids not mine and she gets to dangle them over my head and try to control me. Short story.REPORT COMMENTS
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Sep 4th, 2016Someone from Centereach, NY writes:
I'm a loving father that being harassed by the mother and the courts are on the mother's side I am a loving father that took care of my son since she was three the Mother wasn't around the mother of his child support and still is running around not in handcuffs but if it was me I would be in handcuffs and now I am fighting for my two-year-old daughter that the mother says I'm unfit to take care of my daughter which is only true I think it's fair I should be able to see my daughterREPORT COMMENTS
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