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Please stop the unfair punishment of good fathers. We need child support reform now!

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  • Jul 11th, 2019
    Someone from Austin, TX writes:
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    Child support is a joke for the good dads. Unfortunately they end up supporting two households, and are struggling to make ends meet. Here is our story. My husband and I have been married for 8 yrs. he had two boys from his first wife, now 14 & 16. He pays a total of $1500 a month which does not include the monies we spend during visitation, food, gas, entertainment, etc. We both work have decent jobs. Ex wife remarried, her and her husband make good money, own a home, nice cars, go on lavish vacations, etc. etc. meanwhile my husband, live paycheck to paycheck, tent, never have gone on a vacation much less with the whole family. She constantly sends us the pediatricians co- pays which are a $35, not a big deal you say? But here’s the kicker.... we cover all their dental expenses, and insure them for medical, and vision, and dental. Last I heard she drives 3 1/2 hours to another city to get her hair done. Wow! Perfect example why child support is a joke! Struggling
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  • Jul 11th, 2019
    Someone from Austin, TX writes:
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    Child support is a joke for the good dads. Unfortunately they end up supporting two households, and are struggling to make ends meet. Here is our story. My husband and I have been married for 8 yrs. he had two boys from his first wife, now 14 & 16. He pays a total of $1500 a month which does not include the monies we spend during visitation, food, gas, entertainment, etc. We both work have decent jobs. Ex wife remarried, her and her husband make good money, own a home, nice cars, go on lavish vacations, etc. etc. meanwhile my husband, live paycheck to paycheck, tent, never have gone on a vacation much less with the whole family. She constantly sends us the pediatricians co- pays which are a $35, not a big deal you say? But here’s the kicker.... we cover all their dental expenses, and insure them for medical, and vision, and dental. Last I heard she drives 3 1/2 hours to another city to get her hair done. Wow! Perfect example why child support is a joke! Struggling
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  • Jul 11th, 2019
    Someone from Austin, TX writes:
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    Child support is a joke for the good dads. Unfortunately they end up supporting two households, and are struggling to make ends meet. Here is our story. My husband and I have been married for 8 yrs. he had two boys from his first wife, now 14 & 16. He pays a total of $1500 a month which does not include the monies we spend during visitation, food, gas, entertainment, etc. We both work have decent jobs. Ex wife remarried, her and her husband make good money, own a home, nice cars, go on lavish vacations, etc. etc. meanwhile my husband, live paycheck to paycheck, tent, never have gone on a vacation much less with the whole family. She constantly sends us the pediatricians co- pays which are a $35, not a big deal you say? But here’s the kicker.... we cover all their dental expenses, and insure them for medical, and vision, and dental. Last I heard she drives 3 1/2 hours to another city to get her hair done. Wow! Perfect example why child support is a joke! Struggling
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  • Jul 11th, 2019
    Someone from Austin, TX writes:
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    Child support is a joke for the good dads. Unfortunately they end up supporting two households, and are struggling to make ends meet. Here is our story. My husband and I have been married for 8 yrs. he had two boys from his first wife, now 14 & 16. He pays a total of $1500 a month which does not include the monies we spend during visitation, food, gas, entertainment, etc. We both work have decent jobs. Ex wife remarried, her and her husband make good money, own a home, nice cars, go on lavish vacations, etc. etc. meanwhile my husband, live paycheck to paycheck, tent, never have gone on a vacation much less with the whole family. She constantly sends us the pediatricians co- pays which are a $35, not a big deal you say? But here’s the kicker.... we cover all their dental expenses, and insure them for medical, and vision, and dental. Last I heard she drives 3 1/2 hours to another city to get her hair done. Wow! Perfect example why child support is a joke! Struggling
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  • Jul 11th, 2019
    Someone from Austin, TX writes:
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    Child support is a joke for the good dads. Unfortunately they end up supporting two households, and are struggling to make ends meet. Here is our story. My husband and I have been married for 8 yrs. he had two boys from his first wife, now 14 & 16. He pays a total of $1500 a month which does not include the monies we spend during visitation, food, gas, entertainment, etc. We both work have decent jobs. Ex wife remarried, her and her husband make good money, own a home, nice cars, go on lavish vacations, etc. etc. meanwhile my husband, live paycheck to paycheck, tent, never have gone on a vacation much less with the whole family. She constantly sends us the pediatricians co- pays which are a $35, not a big deal you say? But here’s the kicker.... we cover all their dental expenses, and insure them for medical, and vision, and dental. Last I heard she drives 3 1/2 hours to another city to get her hair done. Wow! Perfect example why child support is a joke! Struggling
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  • Jul 11th, 2019
    Someone from Austin, TX writes:
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    Child support is a joke for the good dads. Unfortunately they end up supporting two households, and are struggling to make ends meet. Here is our story. My husband and I have been married for 8 yrs. he had two boys from his first wife, now 14 & 16. He pays a total of $1500 a month which does not include the monies we spend during visitation, food, gas, entertainment, etc. We both work have decent jobs. Ex wife remarried, her and her husband make good money, own a home, nice cars, go on lavish vacations, etc. etc. meanwhile my husband, live paycheck to paycheck, tent, never have gone on a vacation much less with the whole family. She constantly sends us the pediatricians co- pays which are a $35, not a big deal you say? But here’s the kicker.... we cover all their dental expenses, and insure them for medical, and vision, and dental. Last I heard she drives 3 1/2 hours to another city to get her hair done. Wow! Perfect example why child support is a joke! Struggling
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  • Jul 11th, 2019
    Someone from Austin, TX writes:
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    Child support is a joke for the good dads. Unfortunately they end up supporting two households, and are struggling to make ends meet. Here is our story. My husband and I have been married for 8 yrs. he had two boys from his first wife, now 14 & 16. He pays a total of $1500 a month which does not include the monies we spend during visitation, food, gas, entertainment, etc. We both work have decent jobs. Ex wife remarried, her and her husband make good money, own a home, nice cars, go on lavish vacations, etc. etc. meanwhile my husband, live paycheck to paycheck, tent, never have gone on a vacation much less with the whole family. She constantly sends us the pediatricians co- pays which are a $35, not a big deal you say? But here’s the kicker.... we cover all their dental expenses, and insure them for medical, and vision, and dental. Last I heard she drives 3 1/2 hours to another city to get her hair done. Wow! Perfect example why child support is a joke! Struggling
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  • Jul 11th, 2019
    Glen B. from Winnemucca, NV writes:
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    The county is motivated by the CSPIA. One of the five performance measures that increases the amount of money the district attorney welll receive in the form of American tax dollars is their base collection total This is why you get screwed over in family court. They use this money to go on "training" trips in different states, where they are put up in hotels with their meals covered. Nothing will change until that incentive is removed.
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  • Jul 11th, 2019
    Someone from CASSELBERRY, FL writes:
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    $15,860 a year in Child support for my two children, who I have 2-3 days a week. Their mother has been unemployed for the last 6+ years. My taxes and wages have been garnished by the government, while the support payment come out of my checks automatically on a weekly basis. Why is the mothers salary not being taken into consideration? Why is she able to not work and live off of my hard work? Why am I paying so much when I have my children 30-40% of the week? Its well beyond time for reform.
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  • Jun 19th, 2019
    Someone from Penn Valley, CA writes:
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    Being female...of course dated a few men...not ONE SINGLE TIME did one of them ask me if I was on any type of birth control...NOT ONE!!! If you guys do not take the initiative to use some kind of birth control....I hope you go broke trying to pay for the kids you make...I am a tax payer....I work, what are most doing while I am working they are back at their apartment going at it forcing us WORKING PEOPLE to pay for what YOU guys made. I myself personally don't care and I am NOT the only female stating PAY UP!!! I don't care if you live in your car or a cardboard box.....dig deep...why not we working class are forced to pay for what YOU TWO MADE!!!! We pay through the teeth for healthcare, get KNOCKED up...get cash, food stamps, wic, health care, nice apartments...Society acts like we are soooo concerned about child abuse...these women that kicks out baby after baby, most are doing it for one thing, when they discover it costs more to "raise" a kid or it takes work...the the child gets abused....so, get those ladies knocked up, just keep complaining......we keep handing over money to them, they will keep or stay knocked up...do an on line search on how many "MOMMIES" are living in their cars with their kids that are on welfare...OH WELL!!!!!!
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  • Jun 17th, 2019
    Someone from ELWOOD, IN writes:
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    Current system takes half my pay leaving me with nothing to live on. Definitely need REFORM!
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  • Jun 17th, 2019
    Tino R. from Joshua Tree, CA writes:
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    How come I have my son like 40 to 50 percent of the year but I still have to pay child support? His mother refuses to work!
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  • Jun 3rd, 2019
    Someone from Nicholasville, KY writes:
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    Well my son gets punished for a paying child support and she keeps up open it the last time she up child support because she needed to pay for childcare she works and so does her boyfriend but yet they want to keep up in his child support and he doesn't even have the visitation rights that he should have that's Madison County Kentucky for you.
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  • Jun 2nd, 2019
    Someone from Denham Springs, LA writes:
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    My husband is on Workers Compensation. He had 2 surgeries in one year. Now he is not employed. The court ordered him to pay $698 for one kid. The mother lives on Angola camp with no expenses & she is married. He's oy allowed to see his daughter 2 weekends out of a month. The system has it set up where he has to pick her up by 6pm & returned by 6pm. He drives 1 hour to get her & 1 hour to drop her off. The mother refuses to meet halfway. The system treat fathers as if they were the only one who made the child. My husband catch hell with this woman. She lied on my husband other son in which CPS got involved and my husband lost joint custody based on a LIE!! It is so unfair. We are living off $2000 a month and its so hard. I pray for mothers & fathers. I pray justice & change come.
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  • Jun 2nd, 2019
    Someone from Denham Springs, LA writes:
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    My husband is on Workers Compensation. He had 2 surgeries in one year. Now he is not employed. The court ordered him to pay $698 for one kid. The mother lives on Angola camp with no expenses & she is married. He's oy allowed to see his daughter 2 weekends out of a month. The system has it set up where he has to pick her up by 6pm & returned by 6pm. He drives 1 hour to get her & 1 hour to drop her off. The mother refuses to meet halfway. The system treat fathers as if they were the only one who made the child. My husband catch hell with this woman. She lied on my husband other son in which CPS got involved and my husband lost joint custody based on a LIE!! It is so unfair. We are living off $2000 a month and its so hard. I pray for mothers & fathers. I pray justice & change come.
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  • Jun 2nd, 2019
    danny l. from New York, NY writes:
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  • Jun 1st, 2019
    Megan L. from Elko, NV writes:
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    FYI I’m a mother who could easily get $1200 a month for my kids. We share joint custody, but I look at it as that would be taking away 1200 from what they could do at their dad’s. I think child support should be abolished. My husbands ex bought a new car and his other ex wants him to pay for things child support should cover
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  • May 29th, 2019
    G Y. from Rosharon, TX writes:
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    I'm fairly new to the child support scene and have quickly assessed that it appears to be a racketeering and extortion scheme on behalf of the ex-pouse lead by the state of Texas. If I have my children for 8 days (4 weekdays and 2 weekends a month) then thyre under my care and i should be given back that support (uhmm i know im new). It comes up to about $240. All i saying is that i have a household to that needs my children's support, but the AG office doesn't care about when they're with me, only cares then they benefit ( when the mom has them), it's a extremely unfair system.
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  • May 28th, 2019
    Someone from Katy, TX writes:
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    Enough is enough! Children deserve two loving parents in their lives. Mandatory drug testing for all child support recipients; children are not being protected for this Title IV D Federal money for child support payment to state system Equal shared parenting is the answer to protect children and parent’s rights
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  • May 28th, 2019
    Tim G. from Lakeland, GA writes:
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    9 years no contact. $1600/ mo for 2 children. She finally started dating a drug dealer who got caught and now I may finally get to meet my 2 sons. Bless the people behind this petition!
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  • May 28th, 2019
    Tim G. from Lakeland, GA writes:
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    9 years no contact. $1600/ mo for 2 children. She finally started dating a drug dealer who got caught and now I may finally get to meet my 2 sons. Bless the people behind this petition!
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  • May 28th, 2019
    Albert l. from Odessa, TX writes:
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    i have a child that i pay child support for that i dont see i have no contact for and when i call them all they can say is that u need a lawyer are something but when the woman's go to the office they take action right of wrong is wrong and unfair 100% it need to be fixed are ban then
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  • May 26th, 2019
    Jesse H. from Fernley, NV writes:
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    My name is Pocos. My man has to pay $700 a mo for one kid. He can barley live. I think all child support should not be able to go over $400 & even less if they get money from the state for food stamps, cash, etc. Its wrong for any man to be treated this way. Also I think its wrong they make men pay for a child without a DNA test done. Many women lie & cheat. Some don't even know who the real father is but they go after a man with money. I myself am a woman but seeing what women do to a man is insane. I also think that a father should be given an option to have joint custody & not have to pay a dime of child support if the child/children are his. I also think that women should get a card that only allows for childs needs like clothes, socks, etc. Why should any woman live off a man? Its wrong & the fact the courts allow this is crazy. Child support in every state needs to change. I also have a friend & her kids are grown & she still has to give her parents money for child support. They claim its for back pay cause she was unemployed for a bit. Child support should stop as soon as the child/children are grown. This child support system needs to change immediately. What I have seen is crazy. Also I have seen kids taken by dept of children & family services wrongfully yet they go after the parents for child support. That is so wrong. They took the kids so its their responsibility to support them or give them back to their family's. Child support has gone crazy. I also got cut off public aid when my son was a child cause I refused to get child support from his father. A woman should be able to deny child support if they choose to. No state agency should have the right to force that on any parent.
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  • May 26th, 2019
    Jesse H. from Fernley, NV writes:
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    I have been ordered to pay $701 a month for one child to the state of california. This is too much, i have him for the summer every year, yet she claims 100% of the time with him. These little things like having a child for 15% of the year should be taken into account. I have brought a complaint against child support asking for all of the backpay for me having him for 15% of the year. My credit is ruined, i wish i could afford an attorney to take my case, but i barely can scrape by. Heaven forbid something happrns to my automobile.
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  • May 25th, 2019
    Lesley L. from Milton, DE writes:
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    I’m a grandparent, I believe that there should be 50/50 shared parenting.You shouldn’t be bleeding every dime from the fathers’ that are trying to be a dad.This is my opinion.
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  • May 25th, 2019
    Lesley L. from Milton, DE writes:
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    I’m a grandparent, I believe that there should be 50/50 shared parenting.You shouldn’t be bleeding every dime from the fathers’ that are trying to be a dad.This is my opinion.
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  • May 25th, 2019
    Lesley L. from Milton, DE writes:
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    I’m a grandparent, I believe that there should be 50/50 shared parenting.You shouldn’t be bleeding every dime from the fathers’ that are trying to be a dad.This is my opinion.
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  • May 25th, 2019
    Someone from Hamden, CT writes:
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    All cases should be presumed 50/50 with no child support unless the child is in danger or both parents agree to an alternate arrangement. I’m too many cases, good parents (mostly fathers) are being punished. Presuming that mothers are the better parent is archaic.
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  • May 24th, 2019
    Ryan G. from Katy, TX writes:
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    Support equal shared parenting and mandatory drug testing, and counseling
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  • May 24th, 2019
    Daniel C. from Niles, IL writes:
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    I personally believe that it the recipient should have it reduced if the one giving is not being given child without going to court to complain a parental alienation clause
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  • May 24th, 2019
    Karl H. from Catskill, NY writes:
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    The recipient should provide transparent accountability of all expenses.
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  • May 24th, 2019
    Luigi D. from Cheshire, CT writes:
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    50/50 custody The state of Connecticut needs major reform in the Family Court system it is filled with lies deceit and deception and fraud lining the pockets of Of attorneys and judges do nothing about it It is the most corrupt system
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  • May 24th, 2019
    Luigi D. from Cheshire, CT writes:
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    50/50 custody The state of Connecticut needs major reform in the Family Court system it is filled with lies deceit and deception and fraud lining the pockets of Of attorneys and judges do nothing about it It is the most corrupt system
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  • May 15th, 2019
    Someone from Brooklyn, NY writes:
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    Here my case. I have a 9 year old. Me and the mother work things out in the best interest of my daughter. I have 5 month old. The mother say she want her fair share. The court will not recognize the fact that a child existed before. In the eye of the law my daughter mean nothing because me and the mother work things out. The expense that am paying for her does not matter. It is very unfair. The court say I make a lot of money
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  • May 8th, 2019
    Someone from Webster, TX writes:
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    Child support is 20%, 25% if you have more than one child. If you owe 2 different people child support that 20% drops. Usually, if you're paying support that means the responsibility of caring for the child is minimal for you, when compared to the recipient of child support that is. The writer of this petition is bitter, REALLY BITTER, & seems a little hysterical and selfish if you ask me. As a custodial parent I assure you I spend SO MUCH MORE then 20% of my income on my children, I also do every single thing. EVERYTHING. I wanted the divorce, not that it matters, and despite how very hard it is to be a single parent, I had every right to be happy. You might not have wanted the divorce, but does that mean you should always get what you want? What about what someone else wants or if someone else is happy? I can't understand a parent who thinks they don't have to pay for their own child, I don't get it. That child needs a room, rent, that child takes showers and drinks water, uses electricity, eats food, need school supplies & clothes, needs a ride AT LEAST once a day, and that's not including all of the little things in life that cost money. Stopping at the convenience store, lunch money, grabbing a burger, going out to eat for someone's birthday, birthday party gifts, weekend fun, the list goes on and on. ONE of my daughters Public School classes cost over $50. Insurance co-pay or deductible every single time they go to the doctor, every single thing cost money. So you shouldn't be held financially responsible for your child because your ex makes enough? Yes, people who make more pay more in child support because IT'S 20%. Drug testing only for the recipient? You're kidding lol. Anything to make your ex, the person who cares for your child majority of the time, suffer & go without right? Even at the cost of your own children. Dude, it's 20%. Get over yourself.
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  • May 7th, 2019
    Someone from Battle Creek, MI writes:
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    Four year I have not seen my child. He will be nine this year. No there is no court order denying visitation. No his other parent does not have sole custody. The order started in 2015 after we seperated. Originally we had moved to Wisconsin to be closer to the other parent's relatives rendering me without any close ties ect. So when we spilt I was going to school and staying at home caring for our child whom was at that time about to start school so that was going to give me an opportunity to work as well. Anyhow after the seperation I was basically left with nothing and no one and the other parent wanted the apartment space so they could have their new partener move in. So I leave the state to Michigan where my Mom lives. I basically had nothing and no where to go. The other parent had all the assests and because of that decided they were a better fit parent. So I wind up back in Wisconsin a month later (I can't stand being away from my son for so long) I end up living on and off the streets for the next year. That winter the other parent decided that they would be moving to Arizona. So I decided I would go and stay in New Mexico which is my birthstate and I have some family down there. So I end up down there and I'm just mentally struggling so bad. My living situation never changed and was on and off the streets for another two years never seeing my son because I was unfit for financial reasons as well as I was refusing to send dirty pictures and exchange sexual favors to see my son. When ever I asked if Child support was recieved ect . I was always told Idk and it doesn't matter because I never check it or use it. (The other parent makes 60k+) So yes I owe money to the state of Wi and my Student loans because I was unable to finish school due to everything that has happened. Fast forward to 2018-2019 I moved back to Michigan was working and working 70+hrs trying to get those numbers down and it was a way to feel like I was making a difference in my child's life. Since I haven't seen him for 4 years. Now wisconsin did revoke my DL which is ironic because I never had one to begin with. Last time I talked to the Case worker she said when I get more money we can "talk" and "make a deal". So yea in a nutshell this feels like taxation without representation, abuse, the mob is after me and I will never succeed in life and will never see my child. That's all I want is to be with him. It's tearing me into pieces and I don't know how many times all those pieces can be divided. I have read stories about fathers killing themselves over CS cases. I fully understand why. This situation like many others is a burning building and we are trapped and can't get out and uplift ourselves for us and ultimately our children. Also I have purposely left out our Gender and parent roles. Father?Mother? This is 2019 we know it happens to both and it shouldn't matter.
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  • May 5th, 2019
    Beaton D. from Cedar Park, TX writes:
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    I would amend bullet item 3 to, “Total debt/assets of both parties.” In my divorce I left the house to my ex and kids with only $80K left on the house, a mortgage payment of $450/month. Add an extra $500/month for property tax and she pays less than $1K for a 2100 sq ft home, 3 br/2 bath for the three of them. Where I pay over 1K/month for 700 sq ft apt. Her vehicle, that I paid off long before the divorce, was bought brand new. She had 3x more in her 401K than I did at the time of the divorce. With all these assets I am the one paying full child support. So yeah, I think assets as well as debt should be considered. BTW we had no debt other than the house.
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  • May 3rd, 2019
    Someone from Westland, MI writes:
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    I know it's unfair, I know for fact that although have mention she lives with father of her son , uses a false address, no one listens to fathers. They live better that us, and she uses our money and does not have to work, as we work hard to support our family. Tried to tell court she mislead where she actual lives, but they just don't listen. What about dropping into home she states she does live, they would see , we doing right by our children, and yet we get no suport. They get a way with, lying, collecting welfare and live a great life.
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  • Apr 30th, 2019
    Reney T. from Oklahoma City, OK writes:
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    You think the system is unfair? I can't say one way or another but I can sure guarentee y'all this much. Someone owes the state and me over $40k for back support, I forgave ten thousand, the state won't allow another dime in the meantime my child is literally a sitting duck bc deadbeat has been threatening to kill her because that's what he'll do "before he pays child support." His threat not mine. He's been outside with a weapon supposedly,you know what the police said? Smh. Nothing to our advantage, they actually said that I needed to get this instance ono video. What the hell? I know this guy is gonna DO SMTHING BAD I KNOW HE IS, by the time she's 18 iif she's still alive he'll owe over 100k. So if you really want FAIRNESS then start with the deadbeats, no pun intended, and encourage them to at least pay their child support. It's been ordered over and over and over. Nothing ever happens to him, he laughs about how he'll get away with it too. I bet if you take a stand with ppl like him I bet you money that I dont have you'll see more fairness. He thinks he's some sperm donor and that loser wouldn't qualify. EVER. This wasn't quite consensual so don't go there. I didn'tPICK HIM, I NEVER WOULD'VE. He picked me unfortunately. Whatever blah blah Blah I didn't want ppl to know but everyone knows bc he blasted his crime all over the internet. Peachy. Omg. And back then, my dumbass was apparently brainwashed by pro lifers around me. They're no where now! Odd- isn't it. Of course. Look i don't regret my lil sweetheart. I love her with everything in me but if I'd known THEN this would be our lives NOW AND for the rest of ever- would you put YOUR CHILD THROUGH THIS HELL?? Me either. This is UNFAIR to my child. Encourage the bad guys to stop ruining things for y'all ,take a stand against THEM FOR A CHANGE, you'll see results. I'm not kidding this is very serious and we can't seem to get any lawful help. Were as good as dead and I can't do anythng abt the situation. Y'all think you got it bad? You probably do it sucks when you can't payfor necessities.. At least no one's trying to kill you and yours though. Don't get any ideas either please. This is a devil awful situation for any person esp child. Were both absolutely terrified . I don't let her see me fall to pieces . But she's gonna soon enough. Remembe, it's jerks like Christopher Michael Edwards that's ruining it all for the good guys. As God is my witness, apparently the law doesn't care if this child and her momma are alive or dead. And you're talking about the unfairness ot interest being compounded? Were trying to handle the unfairness of someone wanting us DEAD SO THEY DON'T HAVE TO PAY THEIR CHILD SUPPORT. Unfairness??? Yep, DEMANDING MEN get more fairness, but why? So murder can become LEGAL?? Ni one ever promised anyone fairness and TBH, I'VE NEVER KNOWN FAIRNESS. ONLY UNFAIRNESS. MORE THAN YOU CARE TO KNOW.
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  • Apr 30th, 2019
    Reney T. from Oklahoma City, OK writes:
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    You think the system is unfair? I can't say one way or another bot I can sure guarentee y'all this much. Someone owes the state and me over $40k for back support I forgave ten thousand the state won't allow another dime in the meantime my child is literally a sitting duck bc deadbeat has been threatening to kill her because that's what he'll do before he pays child support. His threat not mine. He's been outside with a weapon supposedly, you know what the police said? Lol. Nothing to our advantage they actually said that I needed to get this instance on video. What the hell? I know this guy is gonna DO SMTHING BAD I KNOW HE IS, by the time she's 18 iif she's still alive he'll owe over 100k. So if you really wasnt FAIRNESS then start with the deadbeats no pun intended and encourage them to do their part just at least pay his child support. It's been ordered over and over and over. Nothing ever happens to him he laughs about how he'll get away with it too. I bet if you take a stand with ppl like Him I bet you money that I dont have you'll see more fairness. Pos donors like that btw, it wasn't quite consensual so don't go there. I didn'tPICK HIM, I NEVER WOULD'VE. He picked me unfortunately. And my dumbass was apparently brainwashed by pro lifers around me. I don't regret my lil sweetheart. I love her with everything in me but if id known THEN this would be our lives for the rest of ever- would you put YOUR CHILD THROUGH THIS HELL? Encourage the bad guys to stop ruining things for y'all take a stand against THEM FOR A CHANGE, trust me you'll see results. I'm not kidding this is very serious and we can't seem to get any lawful help. Were as good as dead and I can't do anythng abt the situation. Y'all think you got it bad. You probably do it sucks when you can't payfor necessities. At least no one's trying to kill you and yours though. Don't get any ideas either please. This is a devil awful situation for any person esp child. Were both absolutely terrified but I don't let her see me fall to pieces . It's jerks like Christopherv Michael Edwards that's ruining it all for the good guys. As God is my witness, apparently the law doesn't care if this child and her momma are alive or dead. Unfairness??? Yep I know all about that. To my chagrin .
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