Unfair child support laws
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Jul 18th, 2016Someone from Independence, MO signed.
Jul 18th, 2016Someone from San Diego, CA writes:
I have two children with my ex. She made false allegations against me (the court does not investigate) a year after our divorce was finalized. Now she's remarried and living off new spouse's income while sitting at home and collecting child support. The judicial council needs to include new spouse's income or house hold income. New domestic partners may not contribute directly to child care, but reducing living cost such as rent/mortgage, food, medical insurance needs to be considered in the calculations. Joint custody needs to be recognized in a federal mandate. No more using kids as leverage to extort money!Jul 18th, 2016Someone from San Diego, CA writes:
I have two children with my ex. She made false allegations against me (the court does not investigate) a year after our divorce was finalized. Now she's remarried and living off new spouse's income while sitting at home and collecting child support. The judicial council needs to include new spouse's income or house hold income. New domestic partners may not contribute directly to child care, but reducing living cost such as rent/mortgage, food, medical insurance needs to be considered in the calculations. Joint custody needs to be recognized in a federal mandate. No more using kids as leverage to extort money!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 18th, 2016Someone from Erwin, NC signed.
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Jul 18th, 2016Someone from Las Vegas, NV writes:
Fathers! Things don't change because we stay silent! It's time to speak up!!! I'm here because I love my children I want the best for them!! And although I'm faced with solitude I have Hope! Because I love my children and I'm a great Father.!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 18th, 2016Someone from Glen Allen, VA writes:
There are so many layers of corruption in divorce corporate legal industry that I have completely lost trust in this gender biased legal system. I am so very sorry for children of this Nation where greed of legal system makes sure that parents stay away and the whole family keeps suffering. Unfair child or spousal support is just a part of big; pretty much lifelong scene of ongoing suffering. I think these courts should be named as anti family courts. I just hate anything and everything about current family legal system. I don't have any hope left at all. No one can fix it no matter how many lives are lost or ruined. This is modern version of human slavery to abuse kids/parents for each other. There are no words to express the frustrations of people going through this brutal judicial torture.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 18th, 2016Someone from Tulsa, OK signed.
Jul 17th, 2016Someone from Canton, MS writes:
It amazes me that a father who does right by his kids and will spend his last to make sure that they are taken care of is treated so unfairl.. it's unfair that a father should still have to pay child support when the children are in his custod.. Furthermore the amounts being awarded are ridiculous. It is not right to penalize a father that makes a decent wage wit higher rates because he works hard to make a livin.. It's like the government doesn't care that the father has to live as well after not being with the mother of his childre.. It's hard enough as is to get your life back on track after divorce and you left the mother everything that you worked for. Still only to be subjected to unfair child support payment amount.. also if a father should have to pay then the mother should be held accountable and made to show what she is doing with the child's money. Example of what I'm saying is child support took all of my check for July 4th while my kids we're with me. I asked the mother to send some of their money so they could have a decent 4th. She wouldn't even do that. And that's not a hard task to do when she's been awarded $1200 a month in child support. No child needs that kind of money. It's more for the mother than the child. This is ridiculous and unfair!!! Tx is ridiculous on child support!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 17th, 2016Someone from Knoxville, TN signed.
Jul 17th, 2016Someone from Dallas, TX writes:
Just out of a bad attitude I been put on child support for a child I don't see, nor communicate with. I'm homeless, and can't even afford to support my self and family I have where I'm not on. Hold support. On the verge of loosing them as well and my self integrity. At this point I need help and answers because I don't think I will make it any longer. I need help.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 17th, 2016Someone from Toledo, OH signed.
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Jul 17th, 2016Someone from Atlanta, GA signed.
Jul 16th, 2016Someone from Virginia Beach, VA writes:
The entire court process was a crock of shit. Because my ex, we never Married, has family with money, I got treated like a dead beat mom. I did everything to take care of our child. He left me with a personal loan that he decided not to pay. I have to pay him 400 a month for a child he doesn't even take care of. He pawns her off to his mom. And I'm lucky to get her every other weekend. Since when did us Mom's get kicked to the curb in such a harsh way?! I gave them all the proof of how he lives and what choices he had made, but because he his family has money, I lose either way. This is such ********REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 16th, 2016Someone from Atlanta, GA writes:
Child support is really to help the one with the kids and the one with out the kids have to suffer its either they take our license or locke us up an make us pay more then what we can pay. then some of us can not see our kids cause mother/father don't want us to and it unfair for the ones that want to be with our kids have to go through this and it people out walking free and don't have nothing to do with there kids at all.its time for a change in this systemREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 15th, 2016Someone from Hallandale, FL signed.
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Jul 14th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
Forcing anybody to do anything is SLAVERY. We need to fight this NOW! http://childsupportreformnow.comREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 14th, 2016Someone from San Antonio, TX writes:
I was married but separated and had 3 minor kids, when my (now) ex-wife, filed for child support. She was in Texas while i was still in Florida. When we first separated, I was unable to give her the full required 1/3 of my pay but i sent her half of everything. I was trying to get out of my lease so that i may move into the base barracks and send her the money from the rent. Once I received orders that i was going to Japan unaccompanied, I wanted my kids to live with me until I PCS'd. I had my kids for 7 months with ZERO support from my ex-wife. We went to court a few weeks before I transferred and my ex-wife had the nerve to ask for BACK CHILD SUPPORT from the time that we first separated. I told the clerk that I currently have all 3 kids and have not received any payments for support from ex-wife. The clerk asked why did she not explain that and i replied "Good Question." Once the clerk sorted through all of the BS, she told me that my ex-wife decided not to ask for back child support now. Now i'm back and stationed in San Antonio. We went to a review after my oldest daughter turned 18 and graduated High School. My middle child daughter was going to the 11th and my son, the youngest, is going to the 9th grade. My son has moved in with me and has been in my house since Aug 2015 and transferred to school in my district. At the review, my ex-wife surprises me by saying she thinks i should still pay child support although 1 child is with her and the other child is with me. I did not agree. The clerk gave me TWO options. I could take a pro-rated reduction based on both of our incomes or I need to speak with a judge to cancel it all together. I said I would like to speak with a judge and apparently that meant continue to pay full price of both minors until my court date. They have sent me to the wrong courthouse, and delayed my case being transferred from one county to the next for months. Each time i called, it was as if it was the first time i called and they needed to figure out what i'm calling for. Finally i called in February and the lady that i spoke with actually took time listen and figure out what the issue was. Since my divorce came AFTER the child support, they had never combined the two and could never solve the issue, therefore, rather than explain to me what the problem was, they continued to tell me to call back in 3 weeks EVERYTIME, only to tell me the same thing over again. Now that it has been resolved, I have been calling to see when will my court date be.Their response is that it takes time for the legal aspect to investigate to see what needs to happen.....call back in 14 business days. I call back, now, its only been 11 business days because of the 4th of July holiday, call back on Wednesday. I call back on Thursday and the clerk tells me she will resubmit the request and it takes 3-5 business days, so call back then. I have been paying child support for a child that lives with me to an unfit mom that does not spend a dime ofREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 14th, 2016Someone from Overland Park, KS writes:
In the state of Kansas, the court's "Main Priority" is to ensure that the divorce of their parents will not have a negative impact on the children and the "lifestyle" they've grown accustomed to. I agree with this. It is not the fault of the child that the relationship of his/her parents did not work out and they are divorcing. In the case of my husband, who was previously married to an attorney for a number of years and has 3 children from that previous marriage, the Court made it clear that their main priority was to ensure that the children's lifestyle was not negatively affected as a result of the divorce, and that the purpose of child support was to ensure that the kids had the financial means necessary to continue to live the "lifestyle" they were accustomed to, because that is all that they have ever known. I do not disagree with the court's position on this necessarily. So the court ordered that BOTH parents were responsible for child support. The Court set the Child Support Figure at $6,000 a month. (That is more than 3 times what I make a month, so how how the hell it takes anyone in their right mind $6,000 a MONTH to raise 3 kids is beyond me, but that's the figure they came up with. They did this by adding the total income each parent earned the year before they filed for divorce then divided that figure using some Kansas Child Support Law Formula). The Court ordered the Mom was responsible for contributing 40% of the $6K Child Support and my husband was responsible for contributing 60%.So Dad pays $3,600 in child support each month and Mom pays $2,400 in child support each month BUT----- once the payments are sent to the child support center and processed, the child support office then turns around and send the full $6,000 child support payment to............. you guessed it! They turn around and then mail the money right back to his ex wife! So after calling them and asking if she really needed to send her child support payment in since it was just being sent back after they collected my husbands, they told her she didn't need to, so each month, she gets this 60% portion of child support, then turns around and tells the kids and my husband that she can't make ends meet and she's broke! That she can't pay all the bills and take care of all the things the kids need with only $3,600 a month!! When we remind here that "ok, maybe it is not enough, but that is because SHE is supposed to be contributing $2,400 of her own income toward the children's needs!!! She spends the entire amount of child support on her mortgage payment. She will contact us each month asking where her child support payment is because her mortgage is coming due and she needs the money to pay for her mortgage! The money is not even going to the kids and we have documnets and emails from her titled "Mortgage Due" asking for her child support so she can pay the mortgage of this HUGE house she does not need and refuses to move out of just to keep up with the Jones! SoREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 14th, 2016Someone from Port Orange, FL writes:
I find this utterly ridiculous! I work two part-time jobs, my boyfriend, whom I live with, works 40+ hours a week. He has to travel almost 2 hours to get to work for a $12 an hour job. We struggle to make rent after our roommate lost his job and the court increased the child support he owes. The Department of Revenue of Florida served him an increase to 60% in support to the mother, who lives in New York. I make barely enough to pay for all my bills and my part for rent - TWO JOBS - and she makes more than me with one job at Wal-mart, but according to her she sees less than $100 every two weeks, when he has the papers to prove he pays the amount he owes in full; she says she cannot make enough to support the child, but she wrote on her papers to issue the increase order says she spends almost triple what she makes a month. What is she spending this money on? Is the money she gets going to the actual support of her child? The Department of Revenue denies him the right as a concerned father to see her expenses. For all we know, she pockets it! Everything she has been doing is obviously based on an intent to destroy his life, and she has no care at all that the new increase will throw 3 people on the street. It may sound like I might be able to survive with 2 jobs, but I can barely make enough for rent in my area; my boyfriend will be left with $200 or less each month with the 60$ the state takes from him. Their andwer to his argument of forced homelessness? "Get another job. Your roommates can get another job, too." I am disabled with a diagnosis of generalised anxiety disorder and poor health, so, what, I have to work four jobs a week now? I will barely get 3 hours of sleep a day, and he would suffer more to make 80+ hours a week, just for them to take even more from each pay check. Her vindictive and sociopathic nature against him has left us destitute. He is a great, loving, and responsibile man. The increase that has created the very real reality that he will be left in a loop of living in his car and being in jail (it's illegal to live in your car in Florida), all because he cannot afford to live as an individual, has brought him to the discussions with me of suicide.. because that is his only option to get free of the child support now. Thank you, Department of Revenue from the State of Florida, for having no care of human life, and taking the mothers' word. I hope you enjoy all the blood money you take from impoverished fathers. Non-custodial fathers deserve to have a living wage, too.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 14th, 2016Someone from Lake Lillian, MN writes:
My ex first off left me for another guy & when that didnt work out for her she expected me to get back together & I told her no not this time . She threw a rock breaking my windshield as I went to take a photo of the damage she tried to run me over , I jumped out of the way she hit my car, then she backed up (note: she had our 4 yr old daughter in the vehicle ) 30 yards out in the street not even looking for cars and came at me again trying to kill me I bare got out the way she hit my car again this time deploying her air bags (vehicle must be traveling over 33mph in order to deploy) giving me a chance to pull her out the vehicle &call police thankfully my daughter was unharmed so greatful of that !! Ex spent 1 night in jail & the judge granted her 5050 custody 7 days after she couldve seriously injured or killed our child & me (unbelievable) besides totalling our vehicles intentionally so apperently progressive wont cover either vehicle . I owe $14,890 on a car with $8000 in damages just moved into new place perfect for the kids & myself . She loses her job cause of child endangerment charge . So she goes gets assistance knowing Ill have to pay childsupport !! Not my fault she lost her job she should be locked up for attempted murder but not here in Kandiyohi County Mn. No she gets over half my paycheck now she actually makes $20 more a week than I do from my check she lives with her mom no bills! Im days away from losing my house I cant afford to barley feed my kids on the weeks I have them now its so unfair!! I tried for reveiw or modify childsupport court denied to waive my $490 in filing fees so I cant get it reveiwed !! The reason my kids wont have a house to call home a big yard to play in & have their friends over to play with anymore is cause the corrupt system that is for " the best well being / interest of the children is taking my money I work for to support my family & giving it to the person that tried to kill me & put our childs life at risk who uses it to honest get her hair done & go shopping ! First week she recieved check I dropped kids off as scheduled i have to pick up drop off every week aswell . anyway i dropped them off with in a couple hrs she was on her way to drop the kids off at my sisters for the week ... I wouldve loved to has just kept them with me but no its a real said deal ...REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 14th, 2016Someone from Elmwood, TN writes:
I have been paying child support for 15 yrs when I first started paying it I didn't even make enough after child support to buy gas to go to work the following week they just took 50 percent of my gross then another 20 percent for taxes and I was forced to live with family because I couldn't afford to live on my on I have 3 beautiful dayghters that I love more than life it's self but the strain of child support has made having a enjoyable child hood with my children impossible because I couldn't afford to take them to the movies and vacations with and there mother uses the system to try and break me and that's a real shame I feel like the state of tenn has robbed me of having the kind of relationship I want to have with my daughters one of which its mine biologically but I'm the only dad she knows and will ever know and I pay child support on her as well the system needs to be more fair in stead of so one sidedREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 14th, 2016Someone from Cresson, PA signed.
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Jul 14th, 2016Someone from Warner Robins, GA writes:
I make 3 million dollars as my salary , and I pay 25,000 a month in child support. How could a 3 year old child be accustomed to a certain lifestyle ? Kids don't need anymore then 500 a month.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 14th, 2016Someone from Albuquerque, NM signed.
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Jul 14th, 2016Someone from League City, TX writes:
My fiancé pays almost $900 a month to his ex wife. It is her 2nd child but his first. She gets 100% of her own income 50-60k then 20% from my fiancé and 20% from a different guy... I am pregnant and scared out of my mind. We can barely afford what we have let alone adding a child. What makes her child priority over mine? A baby costs more than a 3yr old. And why can't we share 50/50 custody? We live close enough. Why does she need 20% of his income BEFORE taxes and I think it's extremely unfair he's commission only and they base it off of his average. What if he doesn't sell a car that week? Nice to know she'll get paid no matter what but my family has to suffer because apparently in the courts eyes were garbage. 1st borns from the male are all that matters. So basically if I wanted to run around and have the 1st born from 10 different men I'd be set for life getting 20% of each of their income. I think the more children you have from different guys your support goes down until it's even for them all. 2 baby daddy = 5% from each and the mother should have to get off her butt and go find a job. I hate his ex wife is buying a HOUSE with his child support and we struggle paying for 1.5 bedroom apartment with older cars and she's got a brand new car. It's just unfair.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 14th, 2016Someone from Central Point, OR writes:
100% disabled veteran, Arizona has made the right step now Oregon an west coast veterans which makes the highest concentration of war time vets let's stand up for what is just if uncle Sam feels our children only cost $80 bucks a month then why would the ex get $900 a month?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 13th, 2016Someone from Barksdale Afb, LA signed.
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Jul 13th, 2016Someone from Springfield, MO writes:
My husband's ex is gouging us for all we are worth. Before he and I were married she was kind, said he didn't need to pay child support, just to help with things their two children needed. Now, we are married with a new baby, and she has stopped letting him see the kids unless it is in HER house on HER terms, and is demanding nearly double what we pay in rent. She lives with her mother, is unemployed despite a bachelor's degree in accounting, and my husbands parents serve as her free babysitters. Yet he is supposed to pay. How is this acceptable?REPORT COMMENTS
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