Unfair child support laws
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Jul 21st, 2016Someone from Pittsfield, MA signed.
Jul 21st, 2016Someone from Inverness, FL writes:
I had my house, all belongings, and car taken from me. They are now garnishing my disability pay for moneys owed and all children are adults now. What is the logic behind this and I have to pay interest higher than the worst credit card. Its a wonder why some lose it over these issues. She got the whole planet and all I have is my BONES. That real just..............Jul 21st, 2016Someone from New Cuyama, CA writes:
I do not agree with some of the statements in the petition but I do agree that there needs to be drastic change in the child support laws. Our government seems too have broken down Our family structure by job creation and trying to put both parents to work and paying to have a baby sitter coming to the home. It's difficult for a family with two working parents to support the household little owned one person. I was a single mother of four children my ex-husband was requested us to pay child support he went to court and was ordered to pay $40 a month for 4 children mind you while I was working One of my children got into trouble and was put in placement. I was orderd to pay child support which is fine but when i couldent pay it all they suspended my driver license and threaten me with legalities. They did reinstate my license after i told them i was going to quit my jobs and go collect walfare.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 21st, 2016Someone from Ashford, CT signed.
Jul 21st, 2016Someone from New Cuyama, CA signed.
Jul 21st, 2016Someone from New Cuyama, CA signed.
Jul 20th, 2016Someone from Lancaster, TX writes:
i agree with this indiviual,i also feel that it is wrong to add interest to child support like its IRS bill. child support should automatic stop when i child turn 18 years of age, are if the child drop out of schoolREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 20th, 2016Someone from Howell, NJ signed.
Jul 20th, 2016Someone from Pasadena, CA writes:
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No, CancelJul 20th, 2016Someone from Liberty, NC writes:
My husband is paying out almost 2,000 a month in child support. he had to quit his job because child support was taking everything and he was coming home with $20 pay checks which made it to where he wasnt able to afford to get back and forth anymore and we are not able to afford our home and to feed the 2 children in our home. Its just crazy that people can run your life like this while woman just sit back and collect. my husband is so stressed out about it he talks about taking his own life. no matter how many times he ties to explain to the court he is trying and its just way to much money they dont seam to care.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 20th, 2016Someone from Belton, TX writes:
Agreed. I am a married mother of two and agree strongly. A child should not be meal ticket. It is the responsibility of both parents to financially support a child. The child support system is a disaster and so many women have children simply so they don't have to work. What kind of example is this? Mother's receiving child support should absolutely be required to maintain employment. We also shouldn't reward fathers that pay to support their children with poverty. The system is sexist and a disaster for the community in general.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 20th, 2016Someone from East Hartford, CT signed.
Jul 20th, 2016Someone from Hyattsville, MD writes:
PART II a month. Pretty nice right? I'm so blessed because all things are possible with God and I most certainly pray for his guidance and strength every night. People need to stop using their children as pawns....My hats are off to all you dads here going thru the struggle. Remember to put God first and he will definitely see you thru....Karma is real and believe me they will not get away with it.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 20th, 2016Someone from East Hartford, CT writes:
My ex wife does not work, is completely healthy to do so. Does not pay rent and now her partner lives with her and hasn't reported it to the housing that someone is living there, while I'm paying real bills and can barely pay my rent while half of my check goes to my kids for child support! I give her 670 dollars a month for child support! Every two weeks i get paid only bringing home 335 dollars! I'm almost homeless. This is forcing me to find another job and leave my ministry at church after she was the one who cheated on me from the beginning. Ridiculous and unfair! I barely have groceries to live on!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 20th, 2016Someone from Hyattsville, MD writes:
I am a custodial parent with a 16 year old son. My childs father has an arrearage of over 46,000K. I agree with a lot of what you fathers are saying on here. I do not think that the laws are fair, no I do not need 1/3 of the non-custodials parent paycheck to raise my child but assistance is needed. I have seen my friends collect 1000s a month and they aren't even satisfied. I have male friends who pay support and the moms live at home with parents and don't work or they try everything they can to get more money knowing that he is doing the best he can verses nothing so I feel your pain. But it's the ones who right out refuse to pay - duck and dodge for years as in my case. I asked for 75$ a week (that's all) and that was to help with day care and his food for school, etc which was approximately 340 each a month between the two of us at the time. After daycare he would have been going to school and the support could be reduced fairly. But no.....I'm being greedy etc. etc. So I had to file because I couldn't take the lies, promises and excuses anymore. The court ordered exactly what I asked for almost 342.00 a month. I'm living in my own apartment, taking care of myself, paying my car, etc. etc. While he lives at home with parents, no car, no rent nothing, not even a credit card bill, not that that is important but when people live at home they most certainly don't have the responsibilities they would if they were on their own. After going to court I was labeled greedy and spiteful. The support order didn't make a difference because the only time he paid was initially when he was ordered and that lasted 6 months. After that it was catch me if you can, a few checks here and there and some tax returns. We also have a visitation order that he requested but those slowly stopped happening and are now completely non-existent. I see how my son is affected by his relationship with him. He tells him to let him know if he needs anything but when he ask it's always the same thing. "I'll see what I can do" or "why you only call when you want something" HELLO that's what kids do. What do you think I go through? It's really sad and it makes me so mad to see that so many of you who will do what it takes to take care of your child(ren) and yet the court or other parent don't take any of that into consideration and come to realistic support payment. You have a right to live in a nice environment, drive a car and not have to move home because you have a ridiculous amount of support to pay. You can't claim them on your income tax and they base support on pre-taxed dollars so unfair. As for me I don't think I will receive any support at all at this point. When you average the payment that was ordered over 16 years it comes out to approx 65K he has one more year before my son is 18. He isn't paying so that will bring the balance to 52K of arrearage which averages to be 11K of support I received over the years yes...648.00 a year which is 54.00REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 20th, 2016Someone from White Hall, AR writes:
child support is not alimony, it should not be the sole income of a non-working parent.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 20th, 2016Someone from Humacao, PR writes:
People have been signing this petition since 2009. . . . Same situation under different circumstances. . . :/ I don't know what to think or what to say. . . U.S.Army SoldierREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 20th, 2016Someone from Norwalk, CA signed.
Jul 20th, 2016Someone from Houston, TX writes:
It is unfair to pay 30% of my income in support, 30% in taxes, 15% in insurnace and receive $700,000 in debt. My ex leaves without any debt and did not work in 7 years (while kids went to school), I pay for school clothes, shoes, phones, activities and struggle on coupons. While she travels for the summer and got her first job in 7 years. She has 3 degrees and now works as a teacher and always tells the kids. You dad has a good job and he doesn?t do enough for you ask him to buy it. I have a new wife and 2 children, it?s sad I cannot take my children to the movies or out to eat. They get mad when we shop at Walmart or Aldie?s, they want Macys and Whole foods like their mother takes them. They do not understand, I am still paying for their moms college, her attorney?s fees, $2,000 a month in child support, all medical and taxes and am going into debt every month. Yes, I make $100,000 a year, but after child support, insurance and taxes, I take home $1,552 dollars every 2 weeks, while my ex has so many tax deductions, with her job she takes home $2,136 every 2 weeks and receives $2,000 in child support as well, while I have all the bills from our marriage and pay half of all child activities. I don?t know what she spend the money on and the kids always ask, why don?t you take the summers off and Christmas off and lets go have fun, mom does it. How am I supposed to live with a wife and 2 children, support 3 other children and pay half of everything. Sadly she didn?t work for 7 years, but was able to travel for 3 months a year and receive welfare and in court always said, her travels to Kenya, Europe and everywhere where paid by her family, she stated she doesn?t have $50 dollars to pay for court fees and that I had to pay them for her. While she has 2 new cars in her driveway and lives in ?A Gated Luxury Apartment Community?. I have 1 old car that?s 12 years old, looks like crap and my children with her have told me I owe them a car and they don?t want me to give them my current car, they deserve better and new car. Just once, when I go shopping or plan a trip, I don?t want to have to say I cannot afford it or we cannot eat there, we have a budget for lunch. My other 2 kids, don?t get the same experience and I even tried to go back to school, but couldn?t afford it as the college wouldn?t take me In the doctoral programs unless I worked as teaching assistant and did not have another rob. I would go to jail as the TA salary is less than my child support, which cannot be changed as it?s based on potential earnings. I work 80 hours a week, all year long, my ex didn?t work and now works as a teacher and just enjoys life. How come child support is up to 50% of gross income, and then the parent has to pay taxes etc. and live on the 20% that?s left as well as any new kids or spouses. It?s sad, my current wife would have a better life if we divorced and lived together so she could get child support from me and welfare too. We would have double ourREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 20th, 2016Someone from Louisville, KY writes:
So my ex files child support on me 8 months after I knew she was cheating on me. Get married a few weeks ago. None of them work and live off his grandma, if they don't work and can live then why should I have to? Yes I would help with my daughter but she doesn't let me see her makes my daughter all her husband dad and so does he and cancels the visits when I had to jump through all these hoops to get approved to see her because her false allegations got me put on house arrest cause the court doesn't investigate and judge was bias and didn't want to look at my evidence showing the allegations are false. And another reason why I don't think I should is cause they're both drug addicts everyone in the household are drug addicts so I don't know if she's going to use the money for my daughter, I'm barely living as it is and I live with my mom now, I make minimum wage and you can barely live off that even when you're working 50+ hrs a week. Alls I want is joint custody and have her have to get a job to collect child support, women want all these equal rights but some of them want to live like they're in 1930s not working and collecting money from there ex. We need to get something passed for fathers who want to be fathers and not have to suffer for workingREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 20th, 2016Someone from Vredenburgh, AL writes:
It need to be redesign if the women gets childsupport it should be some type of record showing that the money its going to the child or children not the women benifit not all women abuse the money jus most of em that dont work and the ones supporting there habitREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 20th, 2016Someone from Huntington Park, CA signed.
Jul 19th, 2016Someone from Revere, MA writes:
If you're serious about child support reform then please sign the following petition: https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reformREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 19th, 2016Someone from Palmdale, CA writes:
After the non-custodial parent can no longer work why and the child is grown. Why is the State still collecting child support interest when the amount can never be achieved or overcome?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 19th, 2016Someone from Statham, GA signed.
Jul 19th, 2016Someone from Dansville, MI writes:
For me to get custody of my children, whom have expressed a desire to live with me, I have to have "adequate" housing. Current FHA debt-to-income ration limits are 31% housing related expenses and 43% total debt related expenses. 42% of my "pre-tax" income goes to child support every month, making it impossible to secure financing on a home, let alone, one that is deemed "adequate". Something has got to change, these kids want to live with it at the very least, have split custody time and this government racket has made it impossible to have the "kids best interest" taken care of.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 19th, 2016Someone from Fayetteville, NC writes:
NC child support enforcement has kept me in bad credit and with the inability to save money. I live pay check to paycheck because of these unfair calculators they are using. My ex wife makes more than I do and yet she gets to claim all the kids on her taxes, she stock piles the money etc. I pay 1350 for two kids. And she gets all of the benefits tax wise. It's a shame and I am ashamed to live in NC.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 19th, 2016Someone from Casper, WY writes:
I have paid child support and have never been behind since taken to court. My child's mother changed her phone number and left the state for two years. I have tracked her down in the last few months and now I am able to see my daughter once a week. I am a person of the community, a home own and tax payer. Yet, my lawyer says if I go back to court my child support will double and I will be lucky to see my daughter twice a week. When will the suffering end?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 19th, 2016Someone from Bristol, WI writes:
Its the system not either parent the courts, child support if they give a job to folks and stop asking race or gender u can't pay bills ,with a check one bill takes up your whole check this system needs and will collapse its slavery putting y'all against each other while the rich are behind it getting rich learn historyREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 19th, 2016Someone from Cypress, TX writes:
For fathers that take a interest in their children and made a conscious decision to bring them into the world and raise them with unconditional love the slanted child support system is a load of crap. My ex wife and I did not work out for the long run but it doesn't make me a bad father however the burden of proof is on me to state otherwise. The money racket which has been created for state run child support collection is just that - a racket!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 19th, 2016Someone from Four Oaks, NC signed.
Jul 19th, 2016Someone from Pinehurst, NC writes:
Several issues. 1) I was in Afghanistan at the start of the war. After my return from war, my wife had found a "boyfriend" and wanted a divorce. My children described the relationship they had seen them essentially having sex in the ocean. It seems un-American to do that to a soldier at war and to his children. 2) My wife neglected the children and they have psychological trauma from 14 years of it. 3) My ex-wife alienated my children's affection. She refused to allow them to visit and regularly discouraged them from seeing me. She played games and would take the children on a trip when I had traveled to pick them up. There is no good way to enforce visitation. 4)Although I had a good job(Post military career), my position lost it's funding and I was cut. Being older I could not find another job so I've returned to college. My oldest had "emancipated" and I did my best to pay until I could not. There is no notice nor free legal council for men to adjust child support. Without being served or even notified my retirement was taken from me. I can no longer afford to pay my share of rent and will have to move out. I've been supporting my children in their pursuit of college, paying for their dental insurance and dental bills by minimizing my own bills. Now, I cannot afford to pay their dental bills. Their mother does not support them. She uses the extra money to take trips to the beach. I was not notified that this was going to happen. The child support office and the court that ordered my retirement to be taken did so with false evidence, without due diligence, and without due process. After serving in the Army for 20 years, carrying my friend off the battlefield, and fighting for our worlds freedom I am essentially enslaved by our government. I do not have a place to live, not a car, my future is now jeopardized as well as my children's health, welfare, and education.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 19th, 2016Someone from Alliance, NE writes:
The mother award 70/30, and 1200.00 monthly. Stipulations in court were that the 30% I received would be diluted if the kids were involved in activities. The mother keeps them involved in everything and refuses to let me see them. I have had to relocate to afford to live...While the mother goes on expensive trips and has new hair and nails every month, new vehicles and a really nice house. Now I'm forced to live with my mother until I get on my feet... Constantly alienated by the mother, the kids hardly speak to me, as I believe they are having too much fun and not enough discipline. I love them with all my heart, but losing ground quick. People need to stop this nonsense and look a lot more in to parental alienation as well.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 19th, 2016Someone from Sierra Vista, AZ writes:
My husband pays 1,000$ a month in child support. We had to move 2,000 miles away just so my husband could afford to pay her all the money, while she sit's at home and doesn't work.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 18th, 2016Someone from Tucson, AZ signed.
Jul 18th, 2016Someone from Sandwich, MA writes:
The system is creating deadbeat dads because of the unfair child support guidelines. If the courts want what's best for the children make it reasonable for what it would actually cost to raise a child so the father can be part of the kids life and provide additionally besides the child support. You make it so the father has to get an under the table job paying cash because if they didn't the courts would take all of their income and make it impossible for the man to live. As a responsible adult it is necessary for one to put a roof over their head, pay for electricity, cable and utilities plus put food in the table. Just because someone has a child with someone they are no longer with that parent shouldn't have to contribute to that as well as their own living situation. I'm paying for my own living and my child can live their and I'm not receiving money from anybody. The courts are the absolute sole reason dead beat dads are created. It is just unfair and unjust.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 18th, 2016Someone from Mascoutah, IL writes:
I have 50% parenting time and am penilized for the fact I have a job. Equal responsibility should be placed on both parents both emotionally and financially. I urge you to read the University of California study on the true cost of raising children. Title: Economic and legal issues in competition, intellectual property, bankruptcy, and the cost of raising children. The courts involvement in childcare has had negitive effects on the children they are supposed to protect. The laws on the books are outdated and need to be addressed. Thank you for your time and consideration in this matter.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 18th, 2016Someone from Lowell, MA writes:
After 3 years 10 contemp of court order for not following visitation order 1 for not showin up to court my attorney making deals outside the court room we have achieved to have 50/50 since 50/50 has made things worse with her new attorney the advice to take my 50/50 away is a shame and not the best interest of our son now going into another year and 3 months by calling the cops at drop offs ever week for 3 months ,Been thru dcf been thru Gal investigator at the same time lost my job ..after a year of waiting for dcf report in which I told the judge no abuse was found 4 times with a gal report that found no abuse including dcf report showing no abuse either and by me putting in a modification due to lost of work a year and 3 months ago due to all the abuse claims it's been put aside building up while I send what I can afford weekly now the bias on this judge against me is horrible. I'm not refusing to pay I just want to pay what the guidelines we suppost to follow ..but when a judge tells you she doesn't go my 50/50 guidelines and will impute payment in the most rude way and threating me to thro me in jail, these 4 plus years all I have done is follow court order and for having my son 50/50 seems the judge is not thinking the best Intrest of our son..but Intrested of the lies to take my 50/50 away now wants to change the schedule as my son adapted after a year and 3 months and now they want to change it again SMH it's a long battle and the bias against fathers is realREPORT COMMENTS
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