Unfair child support laws
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Mar 9th, 2012Someone from Warner Robins, GA signed.
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Mar 8th, 2012Someone from Wind Gap, PA writes:
This system is so unfair. I love my children and still have to pay 100% child support even though I have them 50% of the time. It enables her to stay home and do nothing. Why is she not required to get a job and support them 50% as well?Mar 7th, 2012Someone from Augusta, GA writes:
My husbands ex-wife receives child support and makes much more than we do. We have children together and with his child support obligation we barely make ends meet. Very devastating to families. I 100% believe he should take care of his children but we are almost 1 paycheck from being homeless while she has 2 homes. EVERY CENT should be tracked also .. As we all know it hasn't all been spent on the children but on weekend girl getaways while we have the children on a limited budget. Joint custody is another thing .. He wanted his children but couldn't afford a lawyer and she is STRICT on every other weekend... Why doesn't a father have equal time with the children isn't it his right? Children in joint custody situation fair well and are adjusted and enjoy having a relationship with BOTH parents!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMar 7th, 2012Someone from Milan, NM writes:
It is not fair that child support is not tracked. My husband pays child support to his ex and she goes to the bar every weekend.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMar 7th, 2012Someone from Hamilton, OH signed.
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Mar 5th, 2012Someone from Beverly Hills, FL signed.
Mar 5th, 2012Someone from Beverly Hills, FL writes:
The mother of my son has ruined my life;she has munipulated the courts for fifteen years.And in 2008 was awarded 125,000 dollars in back ch.support,plus interest& penalties in MA.I was not notified of court date& the D.O.R. says I had my chance.I am unemployed,and almost homeless.She has been a drug addict for a long time & yet the courts dont care;they just want money.The child is 18 now & all the best years I was denied a relationship with him,becuz of system that is unfair for non-custodial parent.When will courts look at situation,with a non-bias attitude and realize a lot of women just have kids and know it be easy street for them¬hing but heartache,a&misery for the DADS?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMar 5th, 2012Someone from Beverly Hills, FL signed.
Mar 5th, 2012Someone from Pendleton, SC writes:
My husband's Ex-wife uses the Ga. Child Support system as a way to lie and cheat my husband. She never lets him see his child and when she started the child support case she lied to the case worker and told them that he had never paid anything at all. They told my husband because she couldn't provide reciepts that he would have to pay back child support. ??? It doesn't matter if he has receipts only her. well in that case anybody can lie and get back child support!! why is her word better? just because it's a crappy system. My husband doesn't mind paying for his child's needs but that was just wrong of her and the state of GA. Now keep in mind also that she went and opened the case and lied to them within days of finding out that my husband and I had started dating. They were already divorced 8 months and she was the one who filed for it. You can't give ticked off women that kind of power over a EX! This can be blamed on bad choices in making laws. Some people are going to take advantage of things like this. The U.S. doesn't just let me state yeah I paid my taxes and never did. Why leave this so open ended and one sided? That's why we have Laws because not everyone will be honest and do the right thing.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMar 1st, 2012Someone from Torrington, CT writes:
Family services in CT uses a formula to help determine child support amounts. We as fathers have to fill out a financial affidavit breaking down our weekly expenses. Then when the courts send our info to family services they disregard what I put down for expenses and base they're number solely on before tax and deduction amounts. Which is not right I never get a take home amount close to what they used to figure their calculations. So I am paying an amount that not only is unfair it is almost unsustainable.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 29th, 2012Someone from New Richmond, OH writes:
My husband has 3 children with his ex wife. He does not mind supporting his childre. He loves them and gives them everythhing they need. His oldest lives with us and has only visited her mother maybe 5 times in the past year, mostly for just a couple of hours and one overnite. The other 2 stay with us every Monday, Tuesday, and every other Friday, Saturday and Sunday. We have the kids everyday after school until their mother decides to pick them up. She has not worked in 2 years. She just got a job and on the days she goes to work we have them every morning before school. We feed them breakfast and since their mother does not give them lunch or provide them with lunch money he packs them lunch on those days. When she works 2nd shift we have them every day. He pays his ex 1/2 of his paycheck every two weeks. She does not buy them clothes, she is suppose to pay 1/2 of sports activities and any out of pocket expense for medical that my husbands insurance does not pay...we have never seen a dime. I work over 50 hous a week so we can give them a good home, cloths, food, and very little extras. She only got a job because she knows the spousal support will be up very soon. I do not think the system that we have in Ohio is fair, we are going to court to see if we can stop paying child support the one child that is with us 98% of the time, she is 16 and we will have to pay for her car insurance. From reading on hear I don't think it will lower the child support but am hoping. I am afraid it will go up because of my income. She does live with a man which moved in to my husbands house only a month or two after the separation, and I'm sure they will not ask for his income like they did mine.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 29th, 2012Someone from New Richmond, OH writes:
My husband has 3 children with his ex wife. He does not mind supporting his childre. He loves them and gives them everythhing they need. His oldest lives with us and has only visited her mother maybe 5 times in the past year, mostly for just a couple of hours and one overnite. The other 2 stay with us every Monday, Tuesday, and every other Friday, Saturday and Sunday. We have the kids everyday after school until their mother decides to pick them up. She has not worked in 2 years. She just got a job and on the days she goes to work we have them every morning before school. We feed them breakfast and since their mother does not give them lunch or provide them with lunch money he packs them lunch on those days. When she works 2nd shift we have them every day. He pays his ex 1/2 of his paycheck every two weeks. She does not buy them clothes, she is suppose to pay 1/2 of sports activities and any out of pocket expense for medical that my husbands insurance does not pay...we have never seen a dime. I work over 50 hous a week so we can give them a good home, cloths, food, and very little extras. She only got a job because she knows the spousal support will be up very soon. I do not think the system that we have in Ohio is fair, we are going to court to see if we can stop paying child support the one child that is with us 98% of the time, she is 16 and we will have to pay for her car insurance. From reading on hear I don't think it will lower the child support but am hoping. I am afraid it will go up because of my income. She does live with a man which moved in to my husbands house only a month or two after the separation, and I'm sure they will not ask for his income like they did mine.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 29th, 2012Someone from Fort Wayne, IN signed.
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Feb 29th, 2012Someone from La Place, LA writes:
I need help my ex wife cheated on me while. In the military and had an affair and got pregnant.for another. Man and left back for her home state of Texas I filed for devorice and before. That happened I couldn't. Make it to Texas And a default. Judgment. As awarded. To her. But every time u ask for a DNA test. I get denied and all she does is run I need. HelpREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 28th, 2012Someone from Warsaw, IN signed.
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Feb 26th, 2012Someone from Portsmouth, VA writes:
he State of Virginia is collecting 60% of my pay for child support payments for kids that are over or near 40 years old. My ex filed for child support in New York for grown children and they let her get away with it. he I left New York I was paid up and my youngest child was sixteen. She called me and asked me to take custody of him and she came to Va. and signed custody over to me. Does the state of Va get a commission? Why won't they stop this madness?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 26th, 2012Someone from San Diego, CA signed.
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Feb 22nd, 2012Someone from Saint Joseph, MN writes:
In '99 my son was born. My x told me i couldn't see him and that she didn't want him. Well, I wanted him so I took her to court and told the judge. She decided to keep him right there and then and was demanded to pay support. Which is totally fine and my responsibility. I lived homeless for 5 yrs cause I couldn't afford to live anywhere after support was taken out. I met my wife now and have three kids with her. Everything was fine until '09 when I was laid off from my job. For three yrs now I've been a stay at home dad. At the same time I've been seeing doctors for depression and been hospitalized twice. I've tried getting my support lowered twice and both judges literally told me to get off my*****and find a job. Easy to say when than do when you have chronic back pain, depression and can be suicidal. I'm 5 grand behind in support, no job will hire me, and I've had doctors saying I'm too unstable to work. Meanwhile child support is telling me their taking my license away, will put me in jail and don't care about the family I have now. How will I get to and from work? If I go to jail how am I supposed to get a job with a criminal record? Makes no sense. For nine yrs I was always on time and never behind. My son doesn't even live with his mom. He lives with her parents who dofoster care. Since he was born he's had pca's come into the house and take care of through out the day from morning to bedtime. He's been doctor to doctor because the family thinks he's autistic. He takes several pills a day, He's still in diapers (especially at night) and is so sedated that all he does is sit like a statue. And when I go to court to try and have my support reduced, she starts crying and saying "how it's fine if I don't pay anything it's just my son won't be able to do any activities at school or play sports". And then both times, the judge has said "that I need to get my act together, get off my*****and get a job" Why should everything go to her when I have three other children who are in good health and need things too. My wife and I don't even spend more than 80 dollars a month on them. Meanwhile my x has bought new cars, a house and goes out every weekend. I should also mention that my son gets sent to a group home every weekend, has had the cops called on him because "the family couldn't control him". He was 9 at the time and sent to a physc ward. I wasn't even allowed to see him even with my child custody papers in hand. I had to go get lawyer. It's just funny how some women play the court system and get away with the things they do and make a good father like myself and other fathers out to be "deadbeats". It takes two to tangle and it's not always the man who doesn't want the responsibilities for what happens afterwards. Like the song from Blue October " every man in America needs to take a stand"!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 22nd, 2012Someone from Taylors, SC signed.
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Feb 21st, 2012Someone from Christiansburg, VA writes:
i think that fathers who get locked over child support i a waste of taxpayers money and is stupid how are they even supposed to try take care of their kids if locked and how are the ever supposed to stay on track when their payments are still building up even while they are locked up and these mothers that collect child support and sit on their butts and do drugs with the support money should not be able to collect child support unless drug tested and fathers should vistation right then when child support startes being charged because some mothers keep their children away from fathers just to have the upper hand i hope the goveremnt changes their lawsREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 20th, 2012Someone from Enid, OK writes:
I think child support laws need to be adjusted. There is no way 2 children need $736 a month and on top of that why do I have to be double dipped. 76% child support and 76% child care cost. Thats unacceptable. I work my*****to the bone and the X is totally benifitting from my hard work. I rearly get to see my children. I wanted to have my children i fought for my children. I also believe that if she wanted custody then she should have been capable of providing for the children. She has the children %76 of the time she should be required to cover %76 of there cost. Its not like she got stuck with the children. She wanted them so she should be the one paying the higher percentage. Really hate paying Child Support and Child Care. Double Dipping.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 19th, 2012Someone from Louisville, KY writes:
Virginia child support laws are ridiculous. These women should be held accountable for every cent.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 19th, 2012Someone from Meadowview, VA writes:
Women need to be held accountable for their actions just as men are. If a pregnancy is to be prevented, a man has three options; abstinence, condom, or vasectamy. A woman has several options to not only prevent a pregnancy, but to terminate. Even if her religion frowns on abortion, she still has the options of placing HER child up for adoption or letting another family member take over the care of her child. (After all, it must be HER choice ALONE to continue with the pregnancy.) Why must men pay out of their noses for HER choices. The courts also need to be rectified in their child support dealings. A woman can lie about paternity (mostly to save her own reputation), but a man can be forced to pay, even if he is NOT the father. The reason for this is called the Voluntary Ackknowledgment of Paternity. Most times, the paper is passed to the "new father" in the hospital, with no one to advise him that it is a leagaly binding document, or that he has just 60 days to rescend it. (Even a minor, who cannot leagally VOTE is able to sign this court upheld and binding contract.) Then, later, when it is found by DNA testing that he is NOT the father, he is unable to have any leagal recourse for her LIES. I believe that is called ENTRAPMENT. (Isn't that illeagal in this country?) In short, laws need to be amended to better represent the man who is having to pay most of his money to one child (that may or may not be his) when, even if he is married with other children, he cannot provide for because all of his money can be used to pay for ONE child's greedy mother. I can promise you, when she decided to continue with the pregnancy, she was not thinking of the child, but the money she would get for it. (By the way, it's called REVENGE and ROBBERY) If she is allowed all this money (that she does not have to prove was spent on the wellbeing of her child), then a father should have had a say so in the decision to terminate the pregnancy.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 18th, 2012Someone from West Hartford, CT writes:
The formula used in connecticut for child support is unsubstainable as a father. I do not know how I will survive. On top of this my ex-wife makes a substantial amount of money. I am more than happy to contribute a fair share to the finacial cost of raising my child but the amount is simply incredible.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 17th, 2012Someone from Sanford, FL signed.
Feb 17th, 2012Someone from Bothell, WA writes:
I have been paying child support for some time now but this last year has been hard and I haven't found a job in over a year but been looking so my payments where lowered and I have to do job contacts no problem but for the first time I forgot to do my job contacts do to some things that's happend but still managed to pay something but since I didn't do the contact for a month now I have to do comunity service like some criminal all becuz of some job contacts a peice of paper that's very sad peoples lives are being ruined do to child supportt I would much rather make ancount for my daughter then to ever go though child support agin very sad :(REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelFeb 17th, 2012Someone from Bothell, WA writes:
I have been paying child support for some time now but this last year has been hard and I haven't found a job in over a year but been looking so my payments where lowered and I have to do job contacts no problem but for the first time I forgot to do my job contacts do to some things that's happend but still managed to pay something but since I didn't do the contact for a month now I have to do comunity service like some criminal all becuz of some job contacts a peice of paper that's very sad peoples lives are being ruined do to child supportt I would much rather make ancount for my daughter then to ever go though child support agin very sad :(REPORT COMMENTS
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