Unfair child support laws
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Aug 31st, 2012Someone from Houston, TX writes:
1.Child support should be conditioned on the premise that both parents remain fully employed. If you aren't responsible enough to get or hold down a job, how can you possibly teach that child to grow into a responsible adult? The child should stay with the person who can demonstrate the ability to contribute to society and self. Assuming that responsible parent poses no danger to the child. Alimony should be illegal. There is no reason for him or her to pay you money to get back on your feet when the person who wants alimony chose to step out of the workforce. Or chose to listen to his or her ex's advice to step out of the workforce. Especially if you were never married. Personal responsibility has to be taken into account. You made a choice so you alone must deal with the consequences of your actions. Both parents should pay child support into a government (CPS) facilitated 'account. Both parents should pay significant high cost to maintain the account. 150.00 bucks a month each parent and the money that is spent should have a documented reason for expenditure with a (mandatory) genuine receipt/bill attached. Every dollar in that account should go to the benefit of the child. And should not be indirectly spent on anything other than the well being of that child. Anything spent outside of that child?s direct well being should be paid back by the individual responsible for wrongfully taking the money and a heavy fine should be attached. The money should be paid out in the rears in the form of a check. And should be a percentage of the monthly income of the individual making the least amount of money. This creates a situation if you will, in which both parents are putting in the same amount of money to take care of that child/children. If the parent wants more money for the child he or she should not able to say ?that because my ex is making so much more, my child is entitled to so much more.? Your child is entitled to what you can and chose to give your child. If I want my child to have this, then I?m going to work and earn this for my child. If my ex can pay this then so "will" I. That idea comes from a place of fairness. Likewise in the case that the parent making more money gets primary custody of the child/children and wants the child to go to Harvard preschool for 1800 dollars a month and wants the ex making $2000 a month to pay half they are protected by the previous statue and don?t have to jump off a bridge. 1. No-one should be able to claim tax a deduction on those kids. Uncle Sam should not be incentivizing the degradation of the traditional American family values at all. That money that one of these parents would be getting as a result of the child tax credit should stay with Uncle SAM or better yet go to the national debt. And if you're not married by the time the child is born. The hospital, by law should get the ball rolling on child support to start There are those that say "I don?t want the govt or the courts resolving these -
Aug 31st, 2012Someone from Detroit, MI writes:
Child support is illegal. It's 'taxation without representation'. How? Because you cannot 'owe' for something you own. It's called sovereignty. The child support laws are enforcing that you pay for 'your childrens' expenses' as a form of "debt".(As if you used services and am now contractually bond to repay these monies to first the state, then to the custodial parent) ?? Illegal.REPORT COMMENTS
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Aug 31st, 2012Someone from Greenfield, IN writes:
My boyfriend is in the same boat as all of you. Took his license away. How can he go to work when he has no license to drive there? Somebody needs to get a petition for cps cuz they miss use there power also. They take kids away from the parents that take care of them and leave the ones who are getting abused.REPORT COMMENTS
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Aug 31st, 2012Someone from Oliver Springs, TN writes:
I go back with my original statement which has stayed the same. Child Support IS NOT support of children. IT IS A WEAPON to be used against non-custodial parents by the custodial parent. My child support is about $1,500 a month now. The Mother tells me she needs more money for insurance. She also sent me an email upset with the fact I am defending myself against unfair child support. It goes like this word for word "All i asked u to do is help pay more joe that it! Now i have to go pay 195.00 dollars an hour to talk to a lawyer something i should not have to do. All that does is hurt your sons. Well sounds great. Get ready is all i have to say!!" ... The problem is if she has EVER needed money I dished it out no problem. I mean it's my kids. It's what I am supposed to do. I even paid off her car $7,000 to help her which was over the top. I extended my hand to pay for utilities in her home to help even more. School supplies I paid for and my son's $1,000 echocardiogram I paid for when it was not required. I went well beyond what was required of me to support my kids and ensure they were taken care of. All of which was prior to my jacked up Child Support. Now, I can't afford to pay for expensive gifts for my kids. She recieves all of that money, buys the gifts for my kids and tells them I have nothing to do with it. She quit working full time and now works part time. She also bought a new van when she couldn't afford the car she had. When did this all happen? When she found out the government would allow her to take in excess of what she needs in support. I paid $3,500 to a lawyer to try and protect me from legalized theft.... My kids want for nothing, their Mother has my help any time she needed and she still says it's not enough. Impossible... It's not about child support. It's greed, a weapon and a form of revenge because she knows I won't be able to support myself after I leave this contract job in a combat zone... I work here because I had no other job to go to. It was work overseas in a combat zone or lose my home and everything. I did this for my children. Now while I almost died once from a Rhino bus getting blown up and I sit and listen to explosions. My kid's Mother... working part time, sleeping in her bed every night, getting to see my kids every night and spending time with her family any time she like. She recieves my hazard pay...my uplift... my 44 hours overtime a week... everything! Support? No...legal weapon for non-custodial parents to be abused with. Oh last thing... that van she bought with my child support. It's to drive my kids and her sister's 3 or 4 kids around. Her sister's baby Daddies... don't pay a freaking thing. Why would they need to... I'm paying for it through my child support. While her sister sits around collecting welfare, food stamps and everything else. The jokes on me!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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Aug 31st, 2012Someone from Gaithersburg, MD writes:
My fiance and myself live in Maryland and the child support laws are so unfair. His ex wife is a nurse who only works part time and he works full time but has to pay her 1200 a month for two kids. Did I mention he works weekends and holidays while she doesn't have to. All she does is sit around of her days off and goes out to eat with her friends or goes on vacation with her family. She is always asking for extra money and refuses to work full time becasue "she needs a break from her kids." MY fiance is a great father who doesn't mind paying the child support but the amount he has to pay is crazy. We can barely make ends met becasue he has to pay his lazy ex to sit around and do nothing. The worse part is the more she makes his payments are still the same, where is the justice in that! This system is flawed and needs to be fixed so we stop protecting "mothers who struggle." It's time to cut the fathers some slack!REPORT COMMENTS
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Aug 31st, 2012Someone from Bakersfield, CA writes:
Child support is a rip off system aimed at supporting the government and ruining many lives and family's at their own expense.REPORT COMMENTS
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Aug 30th, 2012Someone from Oracle, AZ signed.
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Aug 29th, 2012Someone from Chicago, IL writes:
I'm part time and only make 900 dollars every two weeks and child support is garnishing 1000.00 every month, I went for a mod they did only by about 30-40 bucks. It's hard for me to eat, let along pay my bills. I have to live to. This has put me so far behind on my rent. Living on the street is my only option. I know c. s have to be paid but, do these public aid recipients really deserve a free ride especially when they are married. Cs only helps the women and wants to hurt, humiliate and incarcerate the dads. Why?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 29th, 2012Someone from Nanty Glo, PA writes:
My husband pays support for his son who is handicapped and has a trust fund due to a medical mistake. All care for him is to be paid for by this trust. However he still pays 650 per month, The mother does not work and never has. Today we got a letter she is trying to rais the support saying both kids are in school. So if both kids are in school why not make her get a job??? The kicker is the second boy she says is my husbands but refuses a paternity test but had him added to the support. I want to know why my husband has to work like a dog and she sits home and lives off her disabled sons social security and the child support. Then has the nerve to say both kids are in school pay me more money??? I recieve child support for my two kids 400 per month, I work and always have. I also paid for my oldest boy for 15 years who is now 19. Something needs done and it needs done now. I honestly am about ready to tell my husband to get laid off because if the support goes higher i will have to get a second job to survive while she sits home and does nothing.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 28th, 2012Someone from Slippery Rock, PA signed.
Aug 28th, 2012Someone from Bronx, NY writes:
The magistrate entered an order for support on May 4, 2010, without looking at the fathers income who has his own family cafe , a house, and other children in his marriage in private schools and his wife is working, while they messed up my arrears because the district attorney he used in his custody case knew the staff in the scu unit located in the lower level of the court as well as the other magistrate that entered that order and messed me up before she retired, because of that they messed up my paperwork, and when I go to petition room they dont allow me to type my own pettitions and express what I want they always have the staff type it for me against my will so they can put and rephrase it the way they want for the fathers convenience. My case has been compromised because its a click and a conflict of interest everyone knows and is in faver of the father. My son is 19 sleeps all day and hangs out all night and has sex and even got arrested under the custodial parents nose, and I was never told until he was 19. He is working and making more money than me has a car, and is not showing any type of paperwork that would indicate that he is in college. If hes not going to college why is the order of support not terminated> How does the magistrate repeatedly hear a child support case without having the fathers income tax paperes, bank statement, and talk or report the other children in his marriage that are in public schools and activities, and his wife works in their self employed business and I am a dislocated worker and my unemployment check was cut of a year ago and the arrears are still going up, why not make an order for a poor person relief as opposed to 55 dollars a week that exceeds my interest and arears that are kiling me. Where are my rights as a noncustodial parent that got laid off, and that made payments for 2 years out of her unemployment checks where it all went to the custodial parent on a weekly basisi for 2 years just leaving me with 80 dollars. If my son wants to terminate the order and told me he doesnt need or want my money, and the father the custodial parent is saying different why cant they let him talk or represent himself as the adult that he already is?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 27th, 2012Someone from Shreveport, LA writes:
It is ridiculous when a man is out of work & needs to file for unemployement but has to wait forever to get a court date to get the child support modified...but it the mean time is being put in arrears!! Obviously there's no money if there is no job!! What good does it do to put someone in jail or take a drivers liscence from them??? Especially when he has 2 other children to care ufor as well. These laws are so unfair & something needs to be done!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 27th, 2012Someone from Wartburg, TN signed.
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Aug 27th, 2012Someone from Oliver Springs, TN writes:
I sat in court while a Judge dismissed every excuse from a man who could not find a job. There was nothing he could say to the Judge that was an excuse. I am the man on the opposite side of that man. I did whatever it took to get a job including working overseas in a combat zone. I have ensured my children recieved any and everything they could want and need in life. I even extended that support to utility bills in their Mother's home and covering the cost of medical deductables for the kids. The Mother working full time said she could not afford her car so I paid it off for her hoping it would create some kind of peace in the Mom/Dad relationship. Worst idea I ever had. Shortly after she asked for a case review, she stopped working full time and bought a new van. My child support increased drastically and everything I make including hazard pay was included. All the overtime I work...everything. The conditions of me working here were clear and I was willing to take the risk and work as required to ensure my children recieved the support they need. But while I sit hear listening to rockets explode, IEDs going off and have my own near life experiences she is comfortably sitting at home working part time. It's not child support anymore.... It's supplemental income... A legal way for custodial parents to enact some kind of revenge on non-custodial parents. A way to take advantage of the other person. I believe firmly parents should have a responsibility to fullfil for their children by supporting them. I do not agree when that child support goes well beyond a child needs. It then turns into a weapon for custodial parents to use against non-custodial parents. The gifts I used to buy for my children I can no longer afford. That money goes into child support. Where the Mother recieves the money and tells my kids she bought that expensive gift for them. Their Dad had nothing to do with it. When I asked my 12 year old boys if they knew I sent money to through their Mother in support of them. They told me, "Mom never said anything to us". When I asked their Mom has she talked to them about it he response was "Well I don't want them to know about that kind of thing. They should not have to deal with those sorts of things". It's not child support.. It's a weapon for custodial parents to use against non-custodial parents.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 26th, 2012Someone from Richmond, IN writes:
I make minimum wage always have because raises are not a mandate. I pay 30$ a week to my exhusband not a problem. I'm behind 4,000$ for being unemployed at one time or another over the years. I'm suppose to pay half for medical I can't. I barley bring home 600$ a month. My support payments are now 60$ a week. I bring home about 130 a week. Most jobs here only give you 32-35 hours so you aren't a full time employee and they don't have to offer you insureance. The only factories here use temp services and it's extremely hard to get hired on in those circumstances. My back supports just keeps going up because I'm charged 30% interest a month on the back support . My lisence has been taken. My credit sucks. I can't afford to live on my own. My ex makes 4,000$ a month. This is crazy.REPORT COMMENTS
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Aug 24th, 2012Someone from Huron, SD writes:
Even if you have never been in trouble, you go to jail and get fingerprinted. You are now in the system. They want you in the system, they want to know who you are and child support is the best way to do this. Not only do you lose your license, but your self respect. Mental and physical ability to be productive in society. DSS will take your rights to bare arms, yes crime is going up, we can't afford to feed our families. Is this the way of gun control? Your rights to not bare arms? Well if this is true, Obama gets his way, the third ammendment is gone. The goverment wins, and if******hits the fan in the US how do you protect our families. Do we just sit and wait to die?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 24th, 2012Someone from Sylvania, OH writes:
I have been paying child support for about a year now. My wife and I aren't even divorced. I spend just as much time with him as she does (sometimes more) and have never been anywhere near being a deadbeat father. Child Support laws are a joke, punishing every father regardless of circumstances just by a mere mention of anything to CSEA.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 23rd, 2012Someone from Destrehan, LA writes:
The child support system is terribly unjust and unfair. For instance, it take both a male and female to produce a child. Which means that both parents were in mutual consent prior to conception. Therefore, child support should be based of both parents income. By doing this both individuals would seriously consider if they should bring a child into this world simply because the repercussions of their actions would be the same. It is also unfair when a mother has three, four or five children from three, four or five different men, unemployed and never been married. These actions only prove that this person is not accountable for her actions. If a woman has more than three children from three different men then she should only be granted enough support to enable her to go to school and learn a trade rather than sit at home and produce more children out of wedlock. Especially if the father(s) are currently married and have families that they must take care of. Third, I do not understand the dynamics of arrearage. What does it have to do with your credit report rating, driving licensure and passport privileges. For instance. if DHR suspend your drivers license then how would you be able to travel to work in order to pay your arrearage. If the local authorities detain you for driving with a suspended license, not only will you have to go to court but you will have to pay court fees, post bail and possibly lose your job because of a tarnished criminal background. In closing, the United States is currently changing for the worst. It seems as if there is no protection of rights, beliefs in conjunction to the way we live our daily lives. The laws that are bestowed upon us are paradoxically designed to keep you impoverished, destitute and depressed. In relation to child support, the woman as well as the man must adhere to justification and accountability for his or her actions.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 23rd, 2012Someone from Poplarville, MS writes:
I agree. I am in Mississippi and I was ordered to pay support to my ex girlfriend for two kids. She wouldn't let me see them half the time because I had a new girlfriend which has now been my wife of 15 years. They are now 17and18 with kids of their own and have not lived with her for years, but nobody will stop the support. I'm disabled and my wife works to make ends meet and support our 3 kids we have together. I've reported it to dhs and even tried to get help from lawyers, but no one will do anything. my daughters call me all the time for money because their mother won't even give them $5. she tells them that she has things to pay and buy. and if they do get it, it's borrowed and has to be given back. Their grandmother said that their mom deserves all the money because they were bad when they were growing up. It's absolutely ridiculous and the child support divisions need to get off their butts and actually start helping the one's who do support the kids instead of the lying money grubbing jealous exes.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 23rd, 2012Someone from Upland, CA signed.
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Aug 21st, 2012Someone from Gastonia, NC writes:
Im a single parent of two and the mother of my first child took out support on me even though ive had my child the whole time since shes been born. ive already had to go to jail for 2 weeks for this crap and im going to court tomorrow and facing a 500 fine and 120 days in jail for nothing. im very ill my children need me and the mother is a worthless piece of shit............................REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 21st, 2012Someone from El Paso, TX writes:
I've posted here before but in reality I don't think it's going to do any good. I too received a response from "our" representative, but they end up saying that it's a state issue. What a load of CRAP! They don't give a darn about "US" responsible non custodial parents. WE ARE BEING RAPED BY THE CUSTODIAL PARENT AND STATE LAWS!!. As long as they see money, it doesn't matter. Yet the system is allowing illegal immgrants be USCs while we the people who are in the US making a living the right way, we will get punished by it. WHY DOESN'T CONGRESS CONCENTRATE MORE ON ISSUES WE BRING UP LIKE THE UNFAIR OF CHILD SUPPORT SYSTEM!? Damn if we do or don't pay for child support. We are forced to pay a pretty penny for CS and if we don't, we still get sent to jail. Very pathetic how our country is treating us. FIX THE DARN SYSTEM!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 20th, 2012Someone from Valley, AL signed.
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Aug 19th, 2012Someone from Chesapeake, VA writes:
Went through a NY court child support hearing & during the discovery of expenses my x could only produce $600-$700 max in child care expenses. Court decision: $1,525 a month cash and I pay every cent of health/dental expenses. Equals to $1,800 a month. Just because I work extremely hard to provide a good living, she recieves a payment that allows her to quit her job. Now there is no child daycare expenses & the money will just pour in with ZERO guidelines on what she can spend it on. There needs to be a updated system that truely tracks the financial needs of the child/childern and monitors the usage of the support. If a spouse is paying a ridiculous amount of support it needs to go for college, best daycare, best schools and ALL the needs met.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 18th, 2012Someone from Duluth, GA writes:
This is certainly cruel and unusual punishment! My girlfriend was jailed for child support for her oldest soon and the father's of her two youngest son's haven't paid child support at all! Now her two youngest are without their mother! Please help!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 18th, 2012Someone from Duluth, GA writes:
This is certainly cruel and unusual punishment! My girlfriend was jailed for child support for her oldest soon and the father's of her two youngest son's haven't paid child support at all! Now her two youngest are without their mother! Please help!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 18th, 2012Someone from Lawrenceville, GA signed.
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Aug 18th, 2012Someone from Plainfield, IL writes:
My husband thought he had 2 daughters from his first marriage he just found out from DNA testing one of them is not his why should he pay for a child thats not his. I understand that and want the best for the child but it's the mothers obligation to find the real father and make him responsible.REPORT COMMENTS
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