Unfair child support laws
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Aug 7th, 2012Someone from El Paso, TX signed.
Aug 7th, 2012Someone from Elmhurst, NY writes:
The woman/man who receives child support money should account for the spending to their case worker which is for the child/children really and not her/his lifestyle. UNFAIR!!!Aug 7th, 2012Someone from New York, NY writes:
The child support laws are SO SO unfair - it is unbelievable that the United States claims to be the fairest system!!! PLEASE review the child support laws before the social fabric of this country is destroyed forever!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 6th, 2012Someone from Los Angeles, CA writes:
My boyfriend's ex-wife cheated on him while he was working out of state. Not only does he pay for child support, but he also pays alimony when she's the one that committed adultery. How is this fair?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 6th, 2012Someone from Hibbing, MN signed.
Aug 6th, 2012Someone from Jacksonville, FL writes:
I can't afford to live after child support. I can't pay my rent or light bill or nothing. While she sits home everyday by the way she has a house a nice car and all while I struggle to make it from month to month it isn't fair. Theyve took my tax returns and all but they say I'm still behind I need help ASAPREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 6th, 2012Someone from Manchester, NH writes:
I am on BOTH sides of child support. Where I receive support from my sons father and my now husband pays support. He has 1 child which we never see the mother has moved and we have no way to find her but he pays support for that one. Then we have his ex wife who he pays for his 2 children with. She brought him to court because he had closed his business (economy) and was out looking for a job all the time.She is remarried and stays at home with her now 2 other children we are school aged and can be in school and she still chooses to not find a job. Her husband takes care of everything. Lucky her I have always had to work and support my son well not only that it shows good ethics to children. He found one and he was trying to pay her up. I would have her come to my work to give her money all the while she was seeing a lawyer to screw him. We got paper work served and he went to court, now he is paying more in child support when he was making more owning the business but pays more now imagine that. Also has to reimburse her now husband 90 a month for insurance. I am not understanding that only because they are married and have 2 other children so that makes 4 of them on the insurance so a "family plan" rate is applied. Now you add 2 other children (my husbands) it doesnt cost anymore in insurance but yet we have to cover it. Now my husband and I just got married so I have insurance through my work which is the best ever cause I work for the government. We are going to file a petition to have it modified. We now have found out that we CAN force her to find a job because her children are all in school now. I am thankful that his children are growing up we have a 15 yr old and 13 yr old. Its sad when you start counting the days till your children are 18 so you cant be screwed but the ex's anymore. I on the other hand have no issues with my ex. I know he has another family to raise so I do not screw him any which way or form. I am only 1 of those women who do not screw the ex's. Good luck to all you men out there that are getting screwed. I am so sorry you have to deal with this and I hope that someday you will have your chance to turn this all around.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 6th, 2012Someone from Windsor, NC signed.
Aug 5th, 2012Someone from El Paso, TX writes:
It's unfair women who don't pay childsupport .I have been wanting for the child support. To do something to my x wife . She is owning more than 36000 in child ssupport. And all the txt child support .Says shes not working . Can't do anything about it. But if it was me paying child support.I would have been jail. Unfair ....REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 4th, 2012Someone from El Paso, TX signed.
Aug 4th, 2012Someone from El Paso, TX writes:
It is not fair we should end the ride to all this females who just abuse from the system. Females ask for equal rights 50% 50% right well on child support should be the same. He pays 200 she should too.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 3rd, 2012Someone from Staten Island, NY signed.
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Aug 2nd, 2012Someone from Irving, TX writes:
I have had on thousands of dollars added to my child support yearly (even though I haven't been behind) yearly for like three years straight... Some of it because of Montana and sometimes because of Texas. Who does this? Who keeps this from happening? With a system that can not even keep up with the documentation that I have from their offices....? Why should I pay at all? I will even up AGAIN, have the documents to prove it, go to court and get ripped off again while I can't even keep a roof over the head of my disabled self. This needs to be reviewed...Who am I paying Texas or Montana? Why do they take turns forcing me to pay more than the amount I am obligated per month even though I have no arreage each time? This is too much.....REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 2nd, 2012Someone from Brooklyn, NY writes:
Like a well-oiled machine, this system encourages what so many other aspects of our broken society encourage: parasitic behavior. One person or class of people riding on the labors of another. As long as we are working to change one part, let's work to change it all. Another world is possible.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 2nd, 2012Someone from San Jose, CA signed.
Aug 2nd, 2012Someone from Aston, PA signed.
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Aug 2nd, 2012Someone from Taunton, MA writes:
I pay 50% of my Gross income to Massachusetts DOR because my teenaged son wants to live where there are no rules or supervision. My issue is this. Why should a 15 year old boy be able to choose which parent to live with if the one they choose cannot or in my ex's case will not support him? My ex has not worked a full time job in 5 years ever since I left him when he foreclosed our family home unbeknownst to me. He lives in low income housing, collects welfare( for my youngest son who does not even really live with him..he is liviing with my 28 year old daughter), foodstamps, masshealth and disability. Whereas, I supported my son all by myself when he lived with me struggling with a debilitating condition,fibromyalgia to get to work 40 hours a week. I received no support or assistance during the time he lived with me. The kicker is my son is not even really living with his father, he is residing with his 28 year old sister, so my ex is committing welfare fraud.My son has been on social network sites bragging about doing drugs with his father. The courts DO NOT CARE. I have been forced to move to a cheaper place because I cannot afford to pay the rent I was and after all is said and done, $200 a week (a full half of what I make) support, rent and bills paid and believe me I live very frugally, and my bills are paid, I have no money to buy food. I cannot even qualify to speak to "Lawyer of the day". to get any legal advice and I cannot afford legal representation. I NEED HELP! CAN'T SOMEONE HELP ME?!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 2nd, 2012Someone from Salina, KS signed.
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Aug 2nd, 2012Someone from Nashville, TN writes:
My husband (college degreed professional who was working two jobs) literally was bankrupted and couldn't afford to even put a roof over his own head after his divorce. He never got behind on the "child" support, though he most likely would have without the help from my in-laws and later myself. Mothers who receive the support do not have to give an account of how the funds are spent. We have constantly seen my stepchildren without basics like clothes that fit and aren't worn out and at times, they had no food in their house and they called us to pick them up because they were hungry. I am a mother myself and work full time to do my part for my child that I have 365 days a year. Why aren't divorced mothers, who often have at least 90 days a year without ANY children expected to work and do their part? Why isn't there a deduction from day 1 for days that children are in dad's home? Why should housing be included when calculating payments since both parents need a home during their parenting time? It's unfair to expect one parent to provide two homes and wouldn't the mother need a roof over her head whether or not she has children?. Why aren't mothers expected to send support to the dad during his parenting time? Why isn't it considered when dad covers many other major expenses such as healthcare on top of "child" support? Why is it when a father covers tens of thousands of dollars worth of expenses for the child, he is never allowed to claim that child as a dependent on tax returns? Why are subsequent children not given equal consideration and fathers are expected to play favorites with their children based on birth order and who their mother is. The best solution is 50/50 custody and completely eliminate child support with each parent covering expenses while the child is with him/her. If that's not possible, costs should be split 50/50 regardless of income and since the receiving parent is getting a break as it is since "Child" support is tax free income, the paying parent should get to claim the child on taxes.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 1st, 2012Someone from Dorchester, WI signed.
Jul 31st, 2012Someone from Watsonville, CA writes:
$930 a month for basic support, $180 per month of child care, $140 for out of network therapy, $120 avg copays, I also pay $225 a month for healthcare. my take home before all of this is $4000 a month! How are men supposed to take care of themselves much less move on to find hapiness and support a new family? The system is broken because it breaks good men like me who want to be responsible. The guidelines are screwed up and I can garauntee you not all of it is spent on my child! For this money, My son should be wearing nice clothes, instead I see him with rags!!! Tie the support system with a dad's ability to see their children and this will turn things around almost overnight!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 31st, 2012Someone from Kansas City, MO writes:
My ex has remarried to a man that makes twice of what I make, and is still hitting me for the max child support. she's had 3 other children, and has removed herself from the work force, and I'm forced to cover all the extra costs as far as my travel to see him which I do every month, they live in California, I live in Missouri. I have over 40k dollars just in travel expenses alone not to mention several lawyers that I've gone through trying to get some help. The problem with the system is that its set up to be a self licking lollypop, Lawyers cost 300 dollars an hour, but you cant even think of going to court to try and defend your rights without one because the system is so convoluted.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 31st, 2012Someone from Valdosta, GA signed.
Jul 31st, 2012Someone from Valdosta, GA writes:
Child support is ****ing my older brother up, he is seriously considering suicide now!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 31st, 2012Someone from Jacksonville Beach, FL signed.
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Jul 30th, 2012Someone from El Paso, TX signed.
Jul 30th, 2012Someone from Monroe, WA writes:
My husband's ex-wife recently had the child support increased by 465% since she learned my husband has advanced himself in his career. Meanwhile, she is mostly a stay-at-home mom, working maybe 15 hrs per week in a nail salon for fun, because her current husband can support her so she does not need to work. Thus the lovely child support formula comes into play forcing my husband to pay the 70% of "child expenses". The child is 15, so there are no child care expenses, just basics (or so it should be). This was a HUGE hit on our family as fixed expenses such as mortgages, car payments/insurance, etc. are not taken into account. Not to mention the difference in cost of living between WA State and Montana...this should also be taken into account. Now we are barely getting by. Then to top it all off, the order took 6 months to get the order finalized and in the system. Meanwhile, we would not make the payments because there was nowhere to apply them to and they would be refunded. Now, we are expected to pay 6 months all at once and they have put a lien on our house and reported him to the credit agencies. This is absurd all around. Something needs to change in the system.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 30th, 2012Someone from Augusta, GA signed.
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Jul 29th, 2012Someone from Denver, CO writes:
I legaly have my daughter more then her mother and still have to pay child support sh e also dosent work and rarely has my daughter when it is her time, if any one can help or knows pro bono lawers that can help I have already spent over 7 grand and I have no recored im stable and have a full time job and my daughters mom has two dui's a drug history and no job unstable and im still getting screwed overREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 29th, 2012Someone from Denver, CO writes:
My husband had had to fight for physical custody of his 4 year old daughter even after the mother being put in jail or on house arrest several (which is a violation of court orders) was still granted custodial parent. My husband now has more physical parenting time then the mother, pays $200 in health insurance got the child alone, and $60 for court ordered life insurance that the mother never purchased even atte given a 30 day notice but my husband still has to pay her child support because she didn't want to work our provide any type of stability for the child. He shouldn't have to pay her anything and the less she works the more she gets from my husband. There should be a punishment for that not a bigger handout. If she doesn't want to work and provide the farther who is already doing everything should get full custody.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 27th, 2012Someone from Marysville, WA signed.
Jul 27th, 2012Someone from Oakland, ME writes:
What is even worse is that even with all of the information we have about it being in the best interest of the child to have 50/50 access to both parents, and most U.S. States have a law prohibiting gender bias in custody disputes, still 82% of women get custody. Before the early 1900's, all men got custody since men needed their children to help with the family business. Women weren't required to pay child support. Then things changed. Feminism was introduced and the legal system saw a way to profit from the men.... give the women the child, make the father spend his money to fight for custody, and when he loses, give the woman more of his money to support the child and provide alimony. The women would get sole custody and men had very little rights to even see their child unless permitted by the mother. Paying so much money and not being able to even see their child gave birth to the Deadbeat Dad. I just had my divorce yesterday. Luckily my lawyer knew a few tricks. We got the divorce hearing out of the court system and hired an arbitrator(former judge) who pushes for 50-50 custody from the beginning and doesn't back down until it is agreed on. It's not a perfect system but it is much better than the courts.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 27th, 2012Someone from Berwyn, IL writes:
I pay 28%, I have my children 40% of the time. This translates into me supporting them nearly 70% of the time, while their mother no longer chooses to work, but instead is now On husband #4.REPORT COMMENTS
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