Unfair child support laws
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Jan 18th, 2013Someone from Utica, NY writes:
I work 40 hours per week. I have worked consistently for the past 17 years, except for a period of 3 months overall due to unemployment. I have always paid my child support. I have 4 kids from 3 separate mothers. I know I messed up but I am paying for it and have no problem paying for my children. However, I recently went to court for my 2 sons child support case. We sat in front of the support magistrate and when asked I said I work 40 hours per week. When she was asked what she works her reply was 12.45 hours per week! I am ordered to pay her $250/mth and provide full insurance through work which has a $10,000 family deductible. Medical expenses are raping me and she is not forced to work more to contribute.This woman receives section 8 housing assistance, full food stamp assistance, cash assistance, and pays $170 per month for a $750 3 bedroom apartment in a very nice section of the city. I live at home with my mother and sleep on a futon in the living room. Forget dating with my situation. I'm 35. I can't afford to live on my own with student loan payments, food, clothing, gas to get back and forth to work and to see my kids. I have no car pmt as my car is paid off but I still have to pay insurance and gas. My problem is that legally, according to the support magistrate, I am not allowed to claim even one of my boys unless their mother gives me permission and signs a release of claim to exemption IRS form. This is pathetic. We have 2 children. I support them and the system supports them yet she is allowed to claim them both on taxes, get the EIC and other tax credits, and get $8,000 - $12,0000 back as a tax return! I get no part of that and I don't qualify for assistance as my income is over the poverty threshold due to making less than $28,000 per year. I paid a tax liability of ~ $450 - 600 over each of the last 3 years. I pay, pay, and pay even more and yet she gets to sit at home, wake up when she wants to, is not even a responsible mother as my son is now going through court proceedings due to missing so much school. I'm a piece of******in their eyes based upon how their own mother and her family talk about me yet my child support is still taken out of my check every week and I was there every day for my kids until they told me to go &^*% myself and they want nothing to do with me because I want to provide structure, stability, and be an actual parent to them and their mothers tries to be their friend. I have gone for custody 3x but have been denied as I am unable to prove anything, other than furnish report cards of straight F's or less then a 68 avg in school. This woman receives $250/month. My daughters mother, who actually is a mother and works with me to raise our daughter, receives $56/month. How is this fair? I want the laws to change in that my children all receive the same amount. I live in NY state. They take 32% of my income for 4 children. I'm going back to court soon for my other daughter. They are going to take even more. -
Jan 18th, 2013Someone from Utica, NY writes:
I work 40 hours per week. I have worked consistently for the past 17 years, except for a period of 3 months overall due to unemployment. I have always paid my child support. I have 4 kids from 3 separate mothers. I know I messed up but I am paying for it and have no problem paying for my children. However, I recently went to court for my 2 sons child support case. We sat in front of the support magistrate and when asked I said I work 40 hours per week. When she was asked what she works her reply was 12.45 hours per week! I am ordered to pay her $250/mth and provide full insurance through work which has a $10,000 family deductible. Medical expenses are raping me and she is not forced to work more to contribute.This woman receives section 8 housing assistance, full food stamp assistance, cash assistance, and pays $170 per month for a $750 3 bedroom apartment in a very nice section of the city. I live at home with my mother and sleep on a futon in the living room. Forget dating with my situation. I'm 35. I can't afford to live on my own with student loan payments, food, clothing, gas to get back and forth to work and to see my kids. I have no car pmt as my car is paid off but I still have to pay insurance and gas. My problem is that legally, according to the support magistrate, I am not allowed to claim even one of my boys unless their mother gives me permission and signs a release of claim to exemption IRS form. This is pathetic. We have 2 children. I support them and the system supports them yet she is allowed to claim them both on taxes, get the EIC and other tax credits, and get $8,000 - $12,0000 back as a tax return! I get no part of that and I don't qualify for assistance as my income is over the poverty threshold due to making less than $28,000 per year. I paid a tax liability of ~ $450 - 600 over each of the last 3 years. I pay, pay, and pay even more and yet she gets to sit at home, wake up when she wants to, is not even a responsible mother as my son is now going through court proceedings due to missing so much school. I'm a piece of******in their eyes based upon how their own mother and her family talk about me yet my child support is still taken out of my check every week and I was there every day for my kids until they told me to go &^*% myself and they want nothing to do with me because I want to provide structure, stability, and be an actual parent to them and their mothers tries to be their friend. I have gone for custody 3x but have been denied as I am unable to prove anything, other than furnish report cards of straight F's or less then a 68 avg in school. This woman receives $250/month. My daughters mother, who actually is a mother and works with me to raise our daughter, receives $56/month. How is this fair? I want the laws to change in that my children all receive the same amount. I live in NY state. They take 32% of my income for 4 children. I'm going back to court soon for my other daughter. They are going to take even more.REPORT COMMENTS
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Jan 18th, 2013Someone from Duluth, MN writes:
The current child support laws are a joke and ment to drive a wedge between fathers and there kids. I have one ex that i have 2 kids with. I have full custody of 1 kid my ex the other but i have to pay child support on the child i dont have custody of..i receive no such support for the child i have full custody of. I have another ex that i have 2 aditional children with. She has married and between her and her new hubby they make almost 90k a year. I make 22k a year and have to pay child support on those 2 children as well. When i told the judge that i have and take care of my kids 50% of the time i was told that dosent matter and dosent count for anything since my visitation with my kids was not court ordered.....I work full time, take care of my kids 50% of the time, raise 1 child alone and have less then $100 a month to live off of...please explain to me how this is in the best intrest of my children?REPORT COMMENTS
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Jan 17th, 2013Someone from Ontario, CA signed.
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Jan 16th, 2013Someone from Nacogdoches, TX writes:
I served 8 years in the Navy. During my last year my ex decided she couldnt handle military life and split with the kids back to texas. I was awarded child support and now that I am out of the military and back in texas to be closer to my children I make enough money to drive to work. I am remarried but now have to live at home with parents. my car was repossessed last week and after taxes and garnishment i am left with 45-48 dollars a week. I have a baby due in march with my current wife. my ex sits at home with her now 4 children (2 are mine) and her new husband getting his paycheck, her father pays all her bills and gave her a house and car. she gets almost all my paycheck and i cant afford to even drive to houston to visit them. Child support laws are unfair. many nights ive contemplated placing a bullet in my head to end the struggle and the stress but with my children and my child on the way i cant commit to it. its depressing and the laws need to change.REPORT COMMENTS
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Jan 16th, 2013Someone from Rensselaer, NY writes:
Im the only guy who pays an absurd 161 principal payment and ridiculous 34 towards arrears make 35 a yr.. have 2 other kids owe 28000 in arrears 5 judgements collecting 9% been told cant change it because i dont have grounds.. and most importantly have not seen her in 7 yrs nor has she met her brother and sister.. Im by no means looking to get out but damn can it be fair and allow us who really pay try to get the arrears under control.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 16th, 2013Someone from Rensselaer, NY writes:
Im the only guy who pays an absurd 161 principal payment and ridiculous 34 towards arrears make 35 a yr.. have 2 other kids owe 28000 in arrears 5 judgements collecting 9% been told cant change it because i dont have grounds.. and most importantly have not seen her in 7 yrs nor has she met her brother and sister.. Im by no means looking to get out but damn can it be fair and allow us who really pay try to get the arrears under control.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 16th, 2013Someone from Winslow, AZ signed.
Jan 16th, 2013Someone from Buffalo, NY writes:
The current child support and cusody laws should be reviewed and revised. When a family is broken living in seperate households it puts a financial strain on both parents. However the current system puts the majority of the financial responsibility on fathers. When my kids mom seperated I wanted joint residential custody so that we would share equally in the financial and time responsibilities of raising our 3 children. However joint residential custody cannot be granted unless the mother agrees to it and in most cases the mother won't for purposes of collecting child support. At first I embraced child support. As a father I knew it was my responsibility to support my kids so it was no difference to me if they took it directly from my check or I gave it (a choice they leave up to the mother regardless of whether you prove in court that you had been taking care of your children prior to any petitions being filed). The judge ordered me to pay 145 a week which was pretty close to what I was giving any way on my own. However the support collection unit was delayed in the automatic withdrawals and when money started automatically coming out of my check I was behind. The current law allows the support collection unit to take an additional 30% of your income until you are caught up with no regards to what expenses to maintain and support yourself. Having this extra money taken caused a huge financial hardship which caused a series of events to occur. Let me explain: I got a simple traffic ticket which I could not afford to pay due to this I was incarcerated for 10 days and lost my job. After that I lost my home. I followed process filed a petition for modification and by the time I got my day in court had found a new job makin about the same income. I was unemployed and collecting unemployement for 3 months when we went to court I asked the magistrate to lower the support for just the 3 months I was without a job. The magistrate refused saying this is a statutory court we are told what we can and can't do and we can't lower you support just because you were terminated for a job. She asked me for proof of a job search during that time even though I had paystubs showing I was once again employed so obviously I did what was neccessary in that time to find a new job. So I went and got a second job to try to support myself while fulfilling my obligations but what the courts don seem to understand is having to work 2 jobs does not leave you with much time to spend developing relationships with your children. And because you don't have the time to spend with them it makes you look as if you are disinterested in being a good father to them. So you are forced to decide between feeding and housing yourself or spending time with your kids and it is not right. I believe moms should have to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that you are the courts definition of a dead beat parent before child support can be awarded. I also feel that once the amount is set it should beREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 15th, 2013Someone from Pleasantville, NJ signed.
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Jan 15th, 2013Someone from Kansas City, MO writes:
I have three kids. 2 with my supposed to be ex wife and one with another. Im currently on probation for two years for my two daughters with my ex but she wont give me a divorce and it has been over five years because she is getting higher child support out of me because she knows that when the divorce gets finalized it will be lowered. She currently works as a nurse making 30 to 40 dollars an hour and i make 15 an hour and they wouldn't give me a modification either so i am paying out the wazoo to support her partying habbit while my kids still suffer not getting much out of my money and i have them half and half with her. My kids shouldnt be eating ramen noodles and hamburger helper all the time and should be allowed to shower at there mothers house more than once in 4 days. With the other mother she is not working so now she has me in court also trying to get me put on probation for another two years and the courts simply just don't care and tell me to get a lawyer well the the outrageous child support someone tell me how i am supposed to just whip out two grand magically for a lawyer when you are struggling already. FOR WHAT THE SYSTEM IS DOING, IT IS LUDACRIS AND WRONG AND THEY SHOULD BE CHARGED WITH CRIMES FOR WHAT THEY ARE DOING TO FATHERS AND THE FAMILYS AND GET FIRED FROM THERE FAT PAYING JOBS THAT SCREW PEOPLE!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 15th, 2013Someone from Hiddenite, NC writes:
I am a single mother of a 9yr. old boy. My ex signed his rights away. Yet I know many good men who are put into poverty by our JUSTICE SYSTEM who willing pay child support and are left with nothing to support themselves. Non custodial parents are treated worse than criminals. People in prison are entitled to food, clothes, heating/air, and cable! A non custodial parent isn't left with enough money to buy gas to get to the job that allows him/her to pay child support. Where is the justice in that? Why doesn't the custodial parent have to show proof of child support spendings and take drug test?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 15th, 2013Someone from Cincinnati, OH writes:
HELLO, MY NAME IS GENEVIVE. I HAVE BEEN A SINGLE MOTHER FOR 24 YRS. I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY SOME PEOPLE FEEL THE NEED TO FORCE MEN TO PAY MONEY. YES IT'S HARD RAISING A CHILD ALONE. IF A MAN CAN'T GET TO WORK AND EARN MONEY HOW CAN HE PAY? LOCKING HIM UP DOESN'T SOLVE ANYTHING. IT HURT THE CHILD. I HAVE A SON SO I CAN RELATE TO BOTH SIDES. IF THIS GOVERNMENT WAS REALLY CONCERNED ABOUT THE PEOPLE THERE WOULD BE MORE ASSISTANCE TO HELP US BE SELF-SUFFIENT NOT DEPENDENT. THE CHECK THESE WOMEN RECEIVE BARELY PAYS RENT, WHICH CREATES A HOSTILE ENVIRONMENT AND IN SOME CASES LEADS TO MAN-BASHING BECAUSE OF STRESS AND STRUGGLE. OUR CHILDREN NEED TO LEARN RESPECT AND LOVE TO BE PRODUCTIVE. THE WAYTHIS GOVERNMENT IS IT ONLY LEAVES ALL OF US HATING. IS THAT WHAT YOU ARE CUSTOMIZING?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 15th, 2013Someone from Cincinnati, OH writes:
THIS CORRUPT GOVERNMENT IS USING THIS SYSTEM AS A TOOL TO WEAKEN ALL STRONG MEN AND TO DESTROY OUR HOUSEHOLDS NO MATTER WHAT COLOR YOU ARE THIS IS PART OF THE WILLIE LYNCH SYNDROME CHANGE THE LAWS NOW AND LET US LIVE ALL TOGETHER IN PEACE LOVE AND HARMONY OR YOU WILL BE SORRY WHEN THE CREATOR THE HEAVENLY FATHER COMES FOR ALL YOUR WICKEDNESS YOU HAVE DONE THANK YOU AND PEACE BE ONTO YOU ALL!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2013Someone from Hayward, CA signed.
Jan 14th, 2013Someone from Blackshear, GA writes:
What I want to see the court system use is not what the father makes but what he brings home! A Man still has to be able to enjoy life and also be able to do things with his child! It does still coast money for us do things with our kids! Its not far for us have to struggle why the women makes out like a bandit!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2013Someone from Twin Falls, ID writes:
The mother of my children will not let me see them or even talk to them. I am paying my child support through wage withholding. I have asked for help from the courts and they stated it is not their job or wrong department. I need help. She should not be allowed to collect child support unless she grants visitation. I have been fighting this for 8 years now and I am getting to the point to where it wold all end. Have asked the state of CA for help and they stated they can no longer help as she does not live in CA anylonger the court order states that she need written permission before she moves. NV states that they can not get involved with child visitation issues where do we get help at.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2013Someone from Blackshear, GA writes:
What I want to see the court system use is not what the father makes but what he brings home! A Man still has to be able to enjoy life and also be able to do things with his child! It does still coast money for us do things with our kids! Its not far for us have to struggle why the women makes out like a bandit!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2013Someone from Huron, OH signed.
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Jan 14th, 2013Someone from Brunswick, GA writes:
I personally believe it's unfair to men who go out and get a career to not only have to pay high taxes but high child support as well. There is a default amount that a woman receives when the father is unemployed and I think they should use that same amount all across the board. Mothers are given a set amount for public assistance and that fee has nothing to do with the father's income so why should men suffer just because the chose to not be with a woman. That does not make him a deadbeat, it simply means the woman is bitter. Child support is the main reason kids are growing up in single parent households and prone to get in more trouble than kids who have their fathers in their life. Woman should not expect a man to befriend you once you've taken the measures to forcefully take his money. Men seem to stay away from mothers and children out of frustration and this isn't fair to the children. All men deserve to live just as comfortable and the system makes it for the mothers. Something needs to be done!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2013Someone from Albia, IA writes:
The parents role should be joint effort to provide for a child/children. it disgusts me to work myself to death never missing work so my sons needs are met all the while the mother waits for her government handout sits down to channel surf and do drugs day in and day out. Furthermore as the male I find there is little i can do to solve not only my sons desperate needs as his mother digs them both a proverbial grave but also my own needs to provide my son a life to which his personal growth can be meet responsibly. I welcome the day that our government and its brainwashed society can wake up and realize that their personal destruction of our children (our nations future) for monetary gain isn't really productive for anyone including themselves! To those in charge of this atrocity I say grow a backbone and say no to money and yes to children for once it will forever change your life for the better!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2013Someone from Hamden, CT writes:
The state of CT has unfairly taken my daughter away from me sticking her foster care based on her lies, my parents have basically abandoned her at this point, & they take half my paycheck in child support and havent gone after her biological mother for any of the 15 years of child support shes never paid, i have had custody of my daughter for the first 7 years of her life until my mother & her decided it was better she go and live with them (this was a big mistake because my money was always good but i was pushed way out of the picture) & im riddled with guilt because i know shes better off with my wife & i and i cant get state of CT to see this.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 13th, 2013Someone from San Jose, CA writes:
I am a women and i agree that child support laws are unfair! My husband works 2 fulltime jobs and we barley survive due to child support and courts not granting us a hardship on our child.REPORT COMMENTS
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Jan 13th, 2013Someone from Bedford, TX writes:
I don't even get to see my son...she fights me in court everytime I am suppose to get him for summer break or spring break. and they wonder why men are killing these women! Something has to stop or Elizeth Mosquera will be dead! No threat. Just putting that out there!! Texas laws and TN C.S laws suck.REPORT COMMENTS
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Jan 12th, 2013Someone from Henderson, NV writes:
I am a full time, working mother. My son chose to live with his father when he was 13. He is almost 18, now. I always paid for his clothing and other necessities, all these years, as well as airfare to come visit me, twice per year. I live in Nevada, and the state of California is taking $500 per month from me... $250 per paycheck. My hours have been cut down to 32 from 40, my support remains the same. For the past 6 months, since they started garnishing my pay, my bank account has been overdrawn, I have to overdraw myself monthly, in order to keep a roof over my head, and utilities on. I can barely afford to eat, or get to work. I pray, every day, that I get laid off from work, I've even considered quitting. I cannot do this. I am in a constant state of anxiety/depression. These laws are ridiculous.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 11th, 2013Someone from Raeford, NC writes:
i pay 1400 a month in child support plus a 500 car payment just to see my children 6 weeks out of the year i am a E5 in the army and that is over half my chekREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 11th, 2013Someone from Raeford, NC writes:
i pay 1400 a month in child support plus a 500 car payment just to see my children 6 weeks out of the year i am a E5 in the army and that is over half my chekREPORT COMMENTS
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