Unfair child support laws
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Jan 21st, 2014Someone from Cincinnati, OH writes:
I am dating a father of case of the woman taking advantage of the man. She was sober, and he had been drinking heavily. He not only pays but also has 50% custody and still pays nearly 700 dollars. Our life is unaffordable due to this lazy woman, who refuses to work 40 hours a week. Not only can I not have children currently, I can not even afford a wedding because bills are so tight. She collects and does not even have to supply receipts. Rape and collecting a check. A lot wrong with the system. -
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Jan 20th, 2014Someone from Fresno, CA writes:
As a new mom as well as being the new spouse, I believe that the laws favor the custodial parent with extreme bias. The ex-spouse didn't ask for child support because she didn't want to reveal her true wealth. The child is turning 7, has been involved in a move-away court case, and now after living in the new state for 18 months, the ex-spouse wants child support. Prior to this she was unemployed for three years. I don't get it. The child wants for nothing from both parents. It seems that the ex-spouse just wants to guy her ex-husband. There are so many twists in this story, but ultimately the laws need to change. Bankrupting loving, hard-working fathers is not good for anyone. Child support needs to be an appropriate amount. And thorough forensic accounting needs to take place.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 20th, 2014Someone from Manassas, VA writes:
I am a divorced mother with a child from my ex-husband. He is not doing good financially and has custody of his other daughter and going through a divorce again. He is supposed to pay child support but we agreed he can pay way less so that he can support himself and his other child. I do not want him to have to pay 700 when he is trying to finish school and get back on his feet. I also do not deny him of seeing our daughter ever. Whenever he can get her I don't care what plans we have, I will get her to him. It's important for a daughter to have her father. I love her but I know that a father-daughter relationship is very important. Then my new husband and I have to deal with the opposite situation with his ex-wife and their daughter. We pay almost 900 a month and get here whenever we can. My husband cares so much for his daughter from his ex-wife and now we are being told that we have to go through a custody battle because she wants all rights to their daughter. My husband is what every women wants as an ex-husband, one who actually cares, pays child support, and is involved in their kids life. We have both situations a greedy ex-wife and me who is really trying to be understanding that he can't afford what the courts are asking. Why can't we all just realized that we all need to survive and women sitting on their butts making money from their ex's and really not using it for the kids (lets get real we all know most women don't use child support to support their child) need to not get as much from the men who are barely surviving themselves. I am not saying women should not get anything but come on, does one child need 900 a month when the mother is not working, not paying child care, and not paying any bills, literally not paying for anything. No, I think MD is the worst state to get divorced in and if you must please don't get divorced there. I really wish courts would actually care about the child and realize most women just want money. There are a few out there like me who the number one concern is for the child and not the money. I am a strong independent women and want my daughter to always have a relationship with her dad. If only all of us going into court had this outlook, the kid is important, not the money than man would the courts and lawyers be out of a job.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 20th, 2014Someone from Tucson, AZ writes:
My husband makes excellent money but the problem is too much goes out. In any given year, my husband makes $72K NET which is the amount the Child Support Laws should be based on! To base the law on Gross is ridiculous since NO ONE sees the money except for the IRS. We pay $1,721 for two children per month. Our rent (since the divorce led to a foreclosure which led to bad credit score) is due on the SAME DAY and that is $1,288. I just recently got a minimum wage job since I cannot find one in my degree (paralegal). I only make about $500/mo which does provide some spending room but somehow it is not enough. I understand that his Ex needs the money to pay her bills and pay off their credit card debts. It seems unfair as she married and bought a house and since her new husband has construction skills, he has upgraded the house. During this upgrade, in which part of our Child Support obviously went to, the children did not receive any new clothes, new items or whatever. I had to go out and buy the shoes. I wouldn't care as much if it didn't mean depleting our income to $60 every month. Just the Child Support and Rent is 60% of our income. It is practically impossible with our bills to live off of 30% AND have the 60% READY for the 1st - 3rd of every month. For me, this develops bitter feelings and while I don't believe the children know anything about the Child Support (as they are 8 and 13), I can't help but feel bitter towards the other adults when I have to see them.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 20th, 2014Someone from Silverton, OR writes:
I am a woman and paying child support after a long custody battle. I am way behind on my child support because even when I worked full time at almost $20 an hour they would take half my pay and it STILL wasn't enough. Now, 3 years after being laid off and only making a quarter of what I was making they have not modified my support. I am making minimum wage and 20 hours a week. I finally hit the three year mark to modify and they tell me the modification could take another year!!! They have suspended my license so I now have to cut my hours at work because the buses don't run at night were I live. I understand supporting my kids but do they really have to push us to the point of living on the street!?! They will get less money now that I have a suspended license. How does any of this make sense!?! Most people just don't realize it's not just the fathers treated so badly. Women who do not have custody get treated just as unfairly. The parent who owes child support is always viewed as the bad guy. There are days I just want to give up and cry. This system makes it so that the parent who pays support is made out to be a monster. The laws for child support are unfair and hold us hostage so that no matter how hard we try to pay and survive on what's left it will never be enough!?!? I've seen both sides and it is just wrong!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 20th, 2014Someone from Hilliard, OH writes:
The current formula used to determine child support needs to be changed to reflect a fair and just amount as opposed to the one that currently gouges fathers. I have the same income as my ex (44K per year) and have to pay $700 a month. I would not mind paying a fair amount but this is ridiculous. I ask lawmakers, politicians, judges, etc. to simply enter their income info into one of the many child support calculators on the net to see how much they would be ordered to pay. Sadly, politicians will not do anything out of fear of losing the female vote.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 20th, 2014Someone from Hilliard, OH writes:
The current formula used to determine child support needs to be changed to reflect a fair and just amount as opposed to the one that currently gouges fathers. I have the same income as my ex (44K per year) and have to pay $700 a month. I would not mind paying a fair amount but this is ridiculous. I ask lawmakers, politicians, judges, etc. to simply enter your income info into one of the many child support calculators on the net to see how much you would be ordered to pay. Sadly, politicians will not do anything out of fear of losing the female vote.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 20th, 2014Someone from Little Rock, AR signed.
Jan 19th, 2014Someone from Revelo, KY writes:
My nursing license was just suspended leaving me no source of income due to "failure to pay child support." One of my two children with my ex-wife came to live with me in August of last year... I have been unable to get a modification. I get responses from the child support division like " its pointless to complain to me". I am now faced with being unable to provide for my family.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 19th, 2014Someone from Clovis, NM writes:
I think the system is not 50-50 we all know that times has change ... most of the dads now days want and will do anything for our kids... please change the rules let us be better dad by helping us to balance our time with our childrens and the child support... sometimes we have to have a second job just to pay child support and we can not even spend time with our kids because of working too much.. when some of the moms are just staying home and collecting our money that sometimes doesnt go to the kids... thank you!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 19th, 2014Someone from Latrobe, PA writes:
I am weary of a flawed and over-compensating system. Women are not victims or weaker. If you are strong enough to push out a baby, you are strong enough to go to work and help pay for half. Men: just because you have testicles doesn't mean you are a walking ATM. Women: when are you going to become enraged that we are being dragged down by the association with such bottom-dwellers? When is there to be accountability...not just for the supposed "deadbeat dads," but for the deadbeat mothers. Mandate that all women who receive support also detail where the funds go. The message the present system sends is very clear to me as childless, educated woman: Instead of getting two bachelor's degrees, I should have spent my time lining up a responsible and gainfully employed man who I could then milk for cash for 18 years. Who knew it was SO EASY.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 19th, 2014Someone from Pomfret, MD writes:
I have a2 year old with my daughters mother. She has custody and makes $50,000 a year. Imake $78:000 a year and I am paying $1250 a month child support and only get to see her every other weekend. Plus I pay for her health care . There is no way she is spending $1250 a month on my daughter and I know she is not spending any of her income on my daughter. Woman may as well.go have 5 kids and collect child support from the feminists system.She is taking me back to course again for more money which calculator states will be $1400 a month. She pays nothing for my daughter and is using the system to back at me for not being with her. We were never a couple. Stop praying on the fathers who are trying to be a part of their child life and trying to do the right thing. The Maryland system is unfair and favors the mother even if she is a indecent mother. Please review the system to make it fair for my daughter and I.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 19th, 2014Someone from Portland, OR signed.
Jan 19th, 2014Someone from Portland, OR writes:
I have a child support order and have yet to see any of it. At the same time I have several male friends who have jobs, pay on their child support but because they are behind due to financial reasons risk having their bank accounts completely wiped out and are threatened with jail time. This is absolutely ridiculous and unjust. I also know several men who are in part time minimum wage status being ordered to pay upwards of $400 plus in child support a month. Again this is gravely unjust and needs to change. Both parties when creating a child should be responsible..not just the man doing everything while the woman sits on her butt collecting a check. We should never create an incentive to have children out of wedlock. Likewise, men with no job who pay nothing on their child support should be the ones being taxed and incarcerated, not men who are paying.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 19th, 2014Someone from Little Rock, AR signed.
Jan 19th, 2014Someone from Little Rock, AR writes:
I myself have 2 ex wives and 2 daughters that I try my best to be a good dad to when the mothers allow. I was married each time I had a child. The marriage failed, it did not involve me cheating. Each time I asked for joint custody because I truly want to be involved in my girls life, not just every other weekend babysitter for the mom. That equals about 4 days a month to try to get to know your child. Then you run into the moms that won't allow you to even see or even speak to your child. So then the fathers like me spend thousands of dollars they already don't have, in desperation of going to court in hopes the court will do something more instead of just tapping the mother on the wrist saying you better allow the father to see their child or be found in contempt. Well it keeps happening and the mother keeps doing it because they know the court not going to do nothing to them besides maybe find them in contempt but nothing to hurt them. But let the man miss a child support payment or get behind because the amount of child support the court orders them to pay is ridiculous. I pay over $1300 per month child support. The court don't care that's more than I even bring home during the month. How I suppose to survive or do stuff for my kids. When the mothers do allow me to get kids I have to somehow get extra money to buy my daughters clothes, take them out, get their hair done, etc because the mothers don't send any clothes on purpose. I can barely afford to feed myself. My daughters love to be with me. They need me just as much as they need their mother. I'm the one who is suppose to show them how a man suppose to treat them when they get old enough. The mothers can come to the father with their sad story about they need extra help from you because they about to get their lights turned off, or they need groceries to eat. Including your child. Sure you could say we'll let the child come with you, but since the father loves their child, you give the mother the money, besides the child support, because you couldn't pay your own utilities to keep on. And it's a few dollars cheaper for the father it give up that money to the mother to make sure their child is warm and not hungry and the father stays with a family member until he gots enough money to get his utilities on. Ok, then when a father ask the mother for more time with child, their answer is either no, because you not stable, you can't even keep your lights on. Or they may say yes when they got plans and need a babysitter. They make it clear though that you keep the child up to 13 days consecutive but not more because they don't want their gift, or playing money(child support check) reduced for that period. You ask for joint custody, the mother answer no, but you can have your child anytime you want them, I just want that check to keep coming. If I miss too many payments I could go to jail and have my taxes taken when I really need that extra money. I don't understand how the court can sayREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 19th, 2014Someone from Little Rock, AR writes:
I myself have 2 ex wives and 2 daughters that I try my best to be a good dad to when the mothers allow. I was married each time I had a child. The marriage failed, it did not involve me cheating. Each time I asked for joint custody because I truly want to be involved in my girls life, not just every other weekend babysitter for the mom. That equals about 4 days a month to try to get to know your child. Then you run into the moms that won't allow you to even see or even speak to your child. So then the fathers like me spend thousands of dollars they already don't have, in desperation of going to court in hopes the court will do something more instead of just tapping the mother on the wrist saying you better allow the father to see their child or be found in contempt. Well it keeps happening and the mother keeps doing it because they know the court not going to do nothing to them besides maybe find them in contempt but nothing to hurt them. But let the man miss a child support payment or get behind because the amount of child support the court orders them to pay is ridiculous. I pay over $1300 per month child support. The court don't care that's more than I even bring home during the month. How I suppose to survive or do stuff for my kids. When the mothers do allow me to get kids I have to somehow get extra money to buy my daughters clothes, take them out, get their hair done, etc because the mothers don't send any clothes on purpose. I can barely afford to feed myself. My daughters love to be with me. They need me just as much as they need their mother. I'm the one who is suppose to show them how a man suppose to treat them when they get old enough. The mothers can come to the father with their sad story about they need extra help from you because they about to get their lights turned off, or they need groceries to eat. Including your child. Sure you could say we'll let the child come with you, but since the father loves their child, you give the mother the money, besides the child support, because you couldn't pay your own utilities to keep on. And it's a few dollars cheaper for the father it give up that money to the mother to make sure their child is warm and not hungry and the father stays with a family member until he gots enough money to get his utilities on. Ok, then when a father ask the mother for more time with child, their answer is either no, because you not stable, you can't even keep your lights on. Or they may say yes when they got plans and need a babysitter. They make it clear though that you keep the child up to 13 days consecutive but not more because they don't want their gift, or playing money(child support check) reduced for that period. You ask for joint custody, the mother answer no, but you can have your child anytime you want them, I just want that check to keep coming. If I miss too many payments I could go to jail and have my taxes taken when I really need that extra money. I don't understand how the court can sayREPORT COMMENTS
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Jan 18th, 2014Someone from Winter Haven, FL writes:
Child support should have better laws too me its all about money so many people are hurt by this and some are living off the system since when it was cool for people too go threw the court systems file paperwork for fraudREPORT COMMENTS
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Jan 17th, 2014Someone from Portsmouth, VA writes:
I understand the need for child support but I also think there should be a better system of collecting it and diffently how much is collected.REPORT COMMENTS
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