Unfair child support laws
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Jan 27th, 2014Someone from Jacksonville Beach, FL signed.
Jan 27th, 2014Someone from Ogden, UT writes:
My daughter gets paid SSDI for her "needs" they still come after me for an unfair about so that she can sit at home and live off my child's SSDIJan 27th, 2014Someone from Ogden, UT writes:
My daughter gets paid SSDI for her "needs" they still come after me for an unfair about so that she can sit at home and live off my child's SSDIREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 26th, 2014Someone from Coeur D Alene, ID writes:
We need to seriously reevaluate the whole thing.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 26th, 2014Someone from Laguna Hills, CA signed.
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Jan 26th, 2014Someone from Killeen, TX writes:
I know me and mother pays child support she don't I getting forced she don'tREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 26th, 2014Someone from Killeen, TX writes:
I know me and mother pays child support she don't I getting forced she don'tREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 25th, 2014Someone from Manchester, NH signed.
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Jan 25th, 2014Someone from Addison, IL writes:
I wish I could provide more for my kids but this system is beating me down. CS suspended my license because I was instantly hit with 5K in back support. This limits me to a job within walking distance or limits days and hours I'm able to get a ride to work if I'm able to get a ride at all. I get harassing letters in the mail all the time. I can't even file a request to have my amount lowered because neither the court clerks office or CS have the judge signed order for my case. I can't even get my kid's last name changed because they lost the paperwork. This is a disgusting unchecked unbalanced system. I would give anything to be able to provide more for my kids but this system has left me with little to give, It was designed that way.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 25th, 2014Someone from Albany, GA writes:
so many people are unemployed and can't get employment because there license are suspend. with the high rate of unemployment every little bite helps when it comes to getting a job.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 24th, 2014Someone from Menasha, WI signed.
Jan 24th, 2014Someone from Keansburg, NJ writes:
The way the laws are written and interpreted in NJ, when 2 people who have a child get divorced (no matter what the reason) The Mother is perceived as the victim and the Father as the dead beat dad. I have never missed a support payment in 14 years but in every interaction with the courts I'm treated like a criminal all in the name of "we must do whats best for the child". On one instance, when I questioned why my support was so much (1/3rd of my take home pay) and stated that I can't rent an apartment on what's left over, the hearing officer said "she doesn't care if I live in a cardboard box in an alley, as long as I pay my support." My ex-wife took me to court 8 times in the first 3 years after our divorce trying to raise my support payment and cut my visitation rights. I was there but she never showed up. I won all 8 times but every time it was a fight. That harassment finally stopped when the judge added an amendment to my divorce agreement saying that she has to show up in court whenever she files. When I lost my job and was on unemployment, the judge refused to lower my payments because he said he will just have to raise them again when I get a new job. He suggested I come back when I'm employed again and they will adjust my payments accordingly then. 11 months later I got a new job making a decent amount less then I was at my previous job. I petitioned the courts to lower my payments and was told by the judge that "I've shown an ability to pay my current amount while on unemployment , making much less then I'm making now. So he sees no reason to adjust my support". Then 3 months later they raised it thru COLA because I was making more then compared to what I was making while unemployed. However, I was making $12,000 less then I was making at my previous job. As of today, I'm making $2000 more per year then I was making 14 years ago when my support was first detemined and I have to live with my parents because I can't afford an apartment. My Ex is making $27,000 more then she was back then and she owns a 2 family house. My child support has gone up $32 per week (or a 20% raise). And thru all this the thing that bothers me the most is if I fall behind in paying my child support fine I could end up in Jail, just like if I didn't pay my speeding ticket fine. But all the times in the past when my Ex didn't abide by our court ordered visitation agreement I got absolutly no help from the courts. The strangest thing a representative from the courts ever told me concerning this issue was "I have to let them (the courts) know before my Ex violates the agreement or there's nothing the courts can do." (If I was that psychic, I never would have married my Ex in the first place). So in my 14 years of paying child support I have realized that I'm just a dollar sign and the only true "Right" I have is the right to pay. DisenchantedREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 24th, 2014Someone from Port Jefferson Station, NY writes:
I am a business owner. My ex divorced me at the height of my income. Since the recession I now make approximately half of what I did and applied for a downward modification of child support on my one child. I was ridiculed in court and totally refused such despite that my ex was the one to institute the divorce in order to marry a man who was also cheating and divorcing. Combined they easily earn about three times what I do and use my child support as play money for ski trips, Disney vacations, and Carnival cruises. I have not had a vacation in almost ten years. I am supposed to pay 17 percent of my adjusted gross income for one child. Based on my current income the amount I pay is closer to 40 percent. I am behind on my bills, my taxes, and have been forced to file bankruptcy. Even so,it is a supreme struggle to survive while my ex is living large. Talk about blind justice!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 23rd, 2014Someone from Winter Haven, FL writes:
FIRST I'M A MOTHER OF THREE AND DON'T DEPEND ON CS FOR ANYTHING BUT WHAT'S OBLIGATED AND THAT MESS DON'T COVER HALF OF MY BILL....SO TO THE ONES THAT FEEL ITS NOT RIGHT YOU NEED TO REEVALUATE LIFE....BOYS NEED TO STEP UP LIKE MEN AND HANDLE THEIR BUSINESS....IF WOMEN DID WHAT SOME OF THESE MEN DO WE WOULD BE EVERYTHING UNDER THE SUN AND FOR THE GIRLS THAT SIT HOME RATHER THAN GO WORK SHAME ON YOU...IJS AS SOCIETY WE HAVE TO DO BETTERREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 23rd, 2014Someone from Deerfield Beach, FL signed.
Jan 23rd, 2014Someone from Roanoke, VA writes:
I have read the comments posted concerning child support. I believe that child support should be enforced towards the parent whom refuse to help support their child or children. Unfortunately, their are special circumstances where one parent abuse the system to get back at the parent that dose not have custody or live with them. Point and case, I have seen where the farther was financially supporting the child and the mother placed the farther on child support. The judge does not care if you can prove he has been taking care of the child. The kicker is that he has be pay back child support plus current. Child support is set for certain amount. The mother still causes havoc in the father's life and cause the farther to lose job and vandalize the transportation that he needs to get back and forth to work. Living in an area where as you need a car to get around is a must. Jobs are few at this given time, What is the mother thinking? The young man bowed out of an abusive relationship. If he calls the cops, they want to arrest him when it is evident of acid and bloody scars caused by the mother because of her rages spiked by drugs. He finally want to end relationship but the women abuses her contacts with family and friends in law enforcement. He gets a record. Now the farther is critically ill. He collects disability and the child is entitled to collect a certain amount due to the many years the farther worked. The mother instead puts a lean on the father's disability. The mother asked the farther to come live with because she wants what she wants. Because he wouldn't comply with her wishes she refuse to cooperate with disability so that that the child could receive twice as much as she receive now. Now the farther can't pay rent and is fighting for his life daily from a stricken illness that eventually end in death. THAT'S EVIL!!!!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 23rd, 2014Someone from Winter Haven, FL signed.
Jan 23rd, 2014Someone from Sumter, SC writes:
The whole system is one sided for sure. It's like all fathers being put on CS are looked at the same.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 23rd, 2014Someone from Winter Haven, FL signed.
Jan 23rd, 2014Someone from Winter Haven, FL writes:
please band child support, it is unlawfull and illegalREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 23rd, 2014Someone from Norman, OK signed.
Jan 23rd, 2014Someone from Spiceland, IN writes:
In Indiana- the non custodial parent can be FORCED to pay for an adult child's college tuition. This is a complete violation of our constitutional rights. A married couple is not forced to pay for college- they choose what they can and can't afford. Why don't divorced parents have that SAME RIGHT? This law NEEDS to be changed. Children should be 100% emancipated by 18 years of age. Any other financial obligation for either parent should be at their own discretion.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 23rd, 2014Someone from Philadelphia, PA signed.
Jan 23rd, 2014Someone from Downey, CA writes:
The system is one sided. And continues to destroy families not help at ALL. Both parents need to have rights not only the mother. Especially if the father wants to be involved the system just tears families apart and make it about money. While the child is being hurt. Why the system would want someone to pay so much in child support and not be able to support themselves financially when both parents make the same amount and both parents are seeing the child confuses me.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 23rd, 2014Someone from Virginia Beach, VA signed.
Jan 22nd, 2014Someone from Winslow, AZ writes:
Really unfortunate; the mother of my son just collects support from me and another person, works the system(FAA,food stamps, etc), and tells one of her friends why should she go back to work... I now have to work extra hours to cover a $800/ month modification, which is fair?!? Talking about out of touch with reality...REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 22nd, 2014Someone from Austin, TX writes:
Here's a situation that points out that the system is flawed and that evil, manipulative people take advantage of it in the most selfish ways. I met my son's mother when she was 17. She is the youngest of four daughters. Well, within a month after her eighteenth birthday, her father divorces her mother (I now see and don't blame him at all, especially after experiencing the system for myself...I'd almost like to compliment him and ask him how in the world he was able to deal with those women...gives me a headache just thinking about it) Anyways, the mother gave birth to our son just shy of her last couple months of high school. Now the kicker; The counselors at her school gave her the opportunity to graduate with her other classmates as long as she did a modified work packet that she could do anywhere. I remember when she received the news that she was going to be able to graduate with her other classmates, she was SO excited. Well, her manipulative mother shot down her excitement by basically saying that your not doing that work and so your not graduating on time...because then I won't continue to get child support from your father. Not only was this messed up for the reason of holding your own daughter back because your a selfish gluttony pig but it also screwed things up with my relationship with the my son's mother because she also could not fully move out of her mother's house because if she did then there would go the child support for the gourmand. There have been many messed up problems that I got screwed over in that were results of this selfish woman just from this one act. One of those things is claiming a dependent on taxes...why does the custodial parent ALWAYS get to claim the child? Many of these cases it seems like the non-custodial parent is paying child support enabling the custodial parent to work (or NOT work) some crap twenty hour job so they can live off the non-custodial parent's hard work and not save any of it for the child(ren). My son is getting close to seven now and how much does she have to show for his college fund? ZERO! Why should she be rewarded for being a leech? The system should make it to where one parent can claim the dependent(s) every even year and the other parent every odd year...like some of the few civilized parents that I've only heard of already do. I know i'm just repeating what many have already wrote but the fact that child support is 20% of your income is very shortsighted. If I made a million/year it doesn't take $200,000/year to raise a child. Based on income I do agree, but only to a certain extent. *Sigh* only eleven years left of this b/s.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 22nd, 2014Someone from Atlanta, GA writes:
In the state of Georgia child support will stop at 18, when the child has graduated from High School. If for some reason the child is not graduating on time, the child support will continue until him or her graduate, or reach the age of 20. This is totally backwards. We should continue to support the child that fulfilling an accomplishment such as graduating high school and enrolling into a higher form of education. The only excuse for a child not to graduate with his class is due to health reasons or a learning disability. My fiancƩ is now paying child support to a 18 year old who is still a sophomore in alternative school/open campus. I ask, if the child is failing in class and not able to be promoted, why receive child support? Can the 18 year old not find a job? What else is the child doing with their time? The child support system is set up for the father's to fail. This entire system should be more supportive of co-parenting.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 22nd, 2014Someone from Sugar Land, TX signed.
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Jan 21st, 2014Someone from Dalhart, TX writes:
If theres ever been a law that needs reform its the child support laws.men have become walking banks for the system to milk,period!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 21st, 2014Someone from Ypsilanti, MI signed.
Jan 21st, 2014Someone from Vinita, OK writes:
I agree with everyone here. Ill even go to the extent of sayin that child support is nothing more than legalized racketeering. 6-1-03, I left my ex girlfriend of 21/2 years because of her unfaithfulness. I move to Oklahoma. Where I meet my wife. 9-25-03, my ex girlfriend gives birth to a baby girl. Almost 2 years later, Im hit with a summons to appear in court to determine paternity. By this time, me and my wife have 1 child & 1 on the way. Results come back, child is mine. So now we start the process of determining how much I will be paying fer this child. First figures were completely ungodly. $800/mo fer one child til arears are caught up, then it drops to $600 fer 1 kid. My response to the court was to **** OFF. 1 kid dont cost that much, not to mention I now have a family in Oklahoma. The judge agrees, $600/month fer one kid is too much. He sets support at $313/mo, with $74 going towards arrearages. Once caught up, I would pay $239/mo. The state of Ohio were my child is, intercepts my federal return every year. They fail to report this to Oklahoma, so the 2 always have different figures. Whats sad about this whole damn issue is the fact that I bust my*****to make ends meet. My ex, is a fat, lazy, worthless, good fer nothin, unemployed, sperm collection site. She got $50,000 as an inheritance when her grandfather died. She bought a house with $40,000. Lived there til our daughter was bout 6. Then lost the home because she wasnt paying taxes on it due to the fact she's allergic to work. Ive requested that my daughter come do Oklahoma fer the last 8 years. Ive always been met with a no. I was talking to my daughter on the phone a few months ago. I asked her why she didnt wanta come to my house. She bluntly told me because I would kidnap her. I asked her how she figured that, her response was thats what momma & grandma say. Recently, just like she's done 2 other times. My ex moves and fails to contact me with an address and phone #. Child support is informed. Their response, so what she moved. Not our issue... Typical response.. In 2009, I was involved in an auto accident. I was injured pretty bad, had to take a year off fer surgery & recovery. Got close to $3000 behind. CS levied my bank account, leaving me and my family unable to pay our bills with the lil money that we had managed to save prior to accident. A year after accident, I get settlement. Money that was supposed to goto the doctor and hospital. CS takes arrearages from settlement, leaving me owing hospital. Now, Im fully recovered, still had some arearages. Like $1200, due to no income right after recovery. Got me a job. Got the arears down to $612. Got the New Year kicked off with a bang. CS did an audit on my case. They determined that there was a clerical error on their end by a former employee. Apparently, this employee entered a court order incorrectly back in October 2005. I just got hit with interest and penaltiesfer there **** UP in the amount of $5700. Aint that some shiREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 21st, 2014Someone from Vinita, OK writes:
I agree with everyone here. Ill even go to the extent of sayin that child support is nothing more than legalized racketeering. 6-1-03, I left my ex girlfriend of 21/2 years because of her unfaithfulness. I move to Oklahoma. Where I meet my wife. 9-25-03, my ex girlfriend gives birth to a baby girl. Almost 2 years later, Im hit with a summons to appear in court to determine paternity. By this time, me and my wife have 1 child & 1 on the way. Results come back, child is mine. So now we start the process of determining how much I will be paying fer this child. First figures were completely ungodly. $800/mo fer one child til arears are caught up, then it drops to $600 fer 1 kid. My response to the court was to **** OFF. 1 kid dont cost that much, not to mention I now have a family in Oklahoma. The judge agrees, $600/month fer one kid is too much. He sets support at $313/mo, with $74 going towards arrearages. Once caught up, I would pay $239/mo. The state of Ohio were my child is, intercepts my federal return every year. They fail to report this to Oklahoma, so the 2 always have different figures. Whats sad about this whole damn issue is the fact that I bust my*****to make ends meet. My ex, is a fat, lazy, worthless, good fer nothin, unemployed, sperm collection site. She got $50,000 as an inheritance when her grandfather died. She bought a house with $40,000. Lived there til our daughter was bout 6. Then lost the home because she wasnt paying taxes on it due to the fact she's allergic to work. Ive requested that my daughter come do Oklahoma fer the last 8 years. Ive always been met with a no. I was talking to my daughter on the phone a few months ago. I asked her why she didnt wanta come to my house. She bluntly told me because I would kidnap her. I asked her how she figured that, her response was thats what momma & grandma say. Recently, just like she's done 2 other times. My ex moves and fails to contact me with an address and phone #. Child support is informed. Their response, so what she moved. Not our issue... Typical response.. In 2009, I was involved in an auto accident. I was injured pretty bad, had to take a year off fer surgery & recovery. Got close to $3000 behind. CS levied my bank account, leaving me and my family unable to pay our bills with the lil money that we had managed to save prior to accident. A year after accident, I get settlement. Money that was supposed to goto the doctor and hospital. CS takes arrearages from settlement, leaving me owing hospital. Now, Im fully recovered, still had some arearages. Like $1200, due to no income right after recovery. Got me a job. Got the arears down to $612. Got the New Year kicked off with a bang. CS did an audit on my case. They determined that there was a clerical error on their end by a former employee. Apparently, this employee entered a court order incorrectly back in October 2005. I just got hit with interest and penaltiesfer there **** UP in the amount of $5700. Aint that some shiREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 21st, 2014Someone from Katy, TX writes:
Our system is so completly biased it makes me sick. I have to beautiful bonus children. They are now 6 and 9 yrs old. We pay my husbands worthless excuse for a mother $1700 a month and have for the past 5.5 yrs. Since they have divorced she hasnt worked nor provided anythign for the children finacially. I dotn understand why the father is held to support his children (which he should) but the mother has no finacial responsiblity to do the same. They are both of thier children and my husband should not be the only one fincially responsible for them. Nor is $1700 a month for his HALF (bc she should be 50% responsible as well) what it takes to raise 2 kids. That point is very obvious as the ex lives off of our child support. Burns me up!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 21st, 2014Someone from Metairie, LA writes:
These women are lazy and take these men for everythingREPORT COMMENTS
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