Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence
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Jan 2nd, 2015Someone from Fairmont, MN signed.
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Jan 2nd, 2015Someone from Lubbock, TX writes:
Good man in hiding. Long story short my x- love of my life lived together for 3 yrs. The hole time we lived together we had 1 or more roomates. From the bigging she let it known to myself and all our close friends how she hated and was deathly scared of her father x retired military. But deeply loved her mother and 2 brothers.Many times I would find her crying I knew she missed her family each time I would offer to take her to get home town. To maybe see if her mother could sneak away from under the thumb of her dad for a short visit with my love. She refused every time.She refused because she said her father would out out and it would not be good for anyone. She would tell me he had many resources and still had contacts in high ranking military and government. In three years to my knowledge she spoke to her mother a few times and never saw them. I think her younger brother came to see her once for a short visit.In our second yr together everything went south. She had gotten a her life threat from an x boyfriend she claimed she had no contact for 5 yrs..this person cloned both our cell phones new everything going on in our life to the point of lights off before going to bed. It got to a point I had to stop working and went into hiding to keep her safe. She asked her uncle for help. I asked who her uncle was when she told me I almost the floor.During this time I had received emails from someone claiming to be the uncle. I had my doubts at first but then I had reason not to believe her. All this was going on we were pregnant at was a very pregnancy she was in souch pain all the time. I had to help her to the rest room and back every night anything she needed i got for her day and night. On our 8th month or so she went into labor. I recieved the message from my roomate that he had dropped her off at the ER I called to the ER to find out her status they told me she taken to labor and delivery and was tranford to that building. The informatoin desk also said she was in labor i asked to please connect me to the nurses statoin they in turn tell me she is not there. I was so confused scraed and upset all at the same time. I called friends that work at the same hospital and they said that more than likely she was a no info patient. At that point I remember her telling me she was a no info patient because of her dad. But even then why was I not put on the list to be able to come up and be with her. I was not happy I went back home up all night waiting for any news. The second day came by this time I knew the baby had to be born and her in recovery I started texting begging her to tell me something on or about the faith dufaith day I got a call from her to please come and get her at the same ER she was dropped off at.To my surprise she was alone I asked her where is the baby? She said there was no baby that what was growing in her was a massive tumor that was removed..I was in shock! I thought to myself but you were lactating and I would touch her stomaJan 2nd, 2015Someone from Warren, MI signed.
Jan 2nd, 2015Someone from Stanton, CA writes:
Juat the ohter day my Ex Wife startingh hitting herself and scratching her face. called 911 police came and took her away because my 9 year old daughter saw her hitting herself. She has hung these tactics over my head for years. Now shes in jail and the police know that she has been abusing herself to take my freedom and my kids from me. The first time it happened it was a living nightmare. i couldnt believe it. The police just looked at me like i was a piece of******and my friends, well it took this for them to realize my Ex is a smart evil entity. I WANT THE ARREST OF THAT DAY OVERTURNED AND ERASED FROM MY HISTORY.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 1st, 2015Someone from Clyde, NC signed.
Jan 1st, 2015Someone from Davenport, FL writes:
There are many obvious loopholes in this law and serious long lasting emotional devastation to falsely accused respondents. It's the word "CRUELTY" nicely embossed on to a shiny shield shaped badge. Right at the top of the list is a dismissal of injunction does not enforce legal repercussions against proven frivolous accusations by the petitioner.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 1st, 2015Someone from Oxford, OH signed.
Jan 1st, 2015Someone from Athens, OH writes:
Like so many others, I went through the same thing. My ex used these laws put in place to protect real victims of domestic violence to gain the upper hand in a divorce - she lied about domestic violence, lied about emotional abuse. I was kicked out of my home that I purchased before we were married, children taken away, firearms taken away - I was treated like a criminal for several months. My reputation in my small community was ruined; after all, why would a cute, petite woman lie about being abused? She had nothing to lose by doing so, as these insane laws do not punish those who lie - only those who are falsely accused. For her, best case is the charges would stick, and I'd be a criminal the rest of my life. Worst case, charges are dropped. I am fortunate that all claims were dropped, and I got my life back and shared custody of my two children. But, things could have just as easily gone the other way, as I have read over and over in the comments on this page. This is an epidemic!! My thoughts: If someone (man or woman) makes claims of domestic abuse and files a DVCPO, and if those claims are ultimately dropped, dismissed, or proven false, then the person filing the charges needs to pay a mandatory fine (say $1000) or spend some time in jail. I think this would make those liars think twice about making false claims. Good luck to all of you...REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 1st, 2015Someone from Salt Lake City, UT signed.
Jan 1st, 2015Someone from Grand Ledge, MI writes:
Judges need to step up...learn the laws...burden of proof falls on the petitioner ...not the defendant...why do you judges not enforce that...my loser sister got a PPO on me... i fought it... I have concrete evidence she lied...damn judge didn't care...whats wrong with that pictures?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 1st, 2015Someone from Riverside, CA writes:
RID 1304493, RIVERSIDE CALIFORNIA, FAILY LAW DIVISION. THE DA DISMISS THE DOMESTIC VIOLATE CAUSE, BUT FAMIY LAW JUDGE DID NOT,REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 31st, 2014Someone from San Francisco, CA writes:
Please Remember - Women are also victims of false Domestic Violence Restraining OrdersREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 31st, 2014Someone from Jacksonville, FL signed.
Dec 31st, 2014Someone from Hobe Sound, FL signed.
Dec 31st, 2014Someone from San Antonio, TX writes:
Please stop False Allegations on Domestic Violence. Just because I no longer wanted to be with the person, he falsely made reports and provided false photos claiming a date 2 months back of the police report. This person is mentally unstable and suffers from PTSD and took rejection really seriously. He was caught in lies of where he took the photos and they still convicted me. I do not understand the purpose of fighting for my innocence when the State will still prosecute you. If the State knew that the allegations are false why would they still proceed and prosecute the innocent. This needs to stop. These allegations are all for the purpose of winning a custody battle or being bitter due to rejection of not being accepted anymore in a relationship. They need to take all this into consideration. If anyone can just go out there and hurt themselves and call the police on false allegations and get away with it, then what is next? This system is corrupted and its ashame that no one can step in and make a change. All this really deviates from the people from the real victims that need the help. Now, people are using this as a tool for their own vindictive benefit. Come on, wake up, it is no longer for the innocent victim. You are all we have for help and we are all pleading for your help. Please step in and do something about it, reach out to us with resources, feedback, assistance, programs. Make a change for us.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 31st, 2014Someone from Cranberry Twp, PA writes:
Domestic violence is a terrible crime, false accusations are equally devastating. Both are equally destructive to the lives they touch. More should be done to guarantee the safety of both parties. I was accused by my wife, who used this tactic to aid her case in divorce court because she wanted to marry another and wanted our children without a fight from me.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 30th, 2014Someone from Cleveland, OH writes:
Having been the victim of a mentally unstable abuser of these laws for the last 7 years....using them to her advantage to gain control over a divorce she didn't want and only wants revenge for our failed marriage and to unjustly keep my children from knowing me when there was no real evidence of any abuse to her or them only accusations.....losing in criminal court but through the advocates and civil court getting 5 years and now again trying to abuse these laws to again get another 5 year order to keep me from her and my kids all over a bad argument that she created ... Only to remarry a real victim whose Ex-husband beat her so bad he spent over 6 years in prison who never got ANY help from any group or advocate whatsoever and had to go it alone before me...WOW what a system we have...I guess after 20 years of vacations..private schools and staying home to raise the kids in a great neighborhood and never having an issue this could happen...These Laws Have To CHANGEREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 30th, 2014Someone from Thief River Falls, MN signed.
Dec 30th, 2014Someone from Clermont, FL writes:
It is a travesty the way this law works.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 30th, 2014Someone from Flora, MS signed.
Dec 29th, 2014Someone from Northport, NY signed.
Dec 29th, 2014Someone from Greenbrier, TN signed.
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Dec 29th, 2014Someone from Fort Collins, CO signed.
Dec 29th, 2014Someone from Hendersonville, NC writes:
my brother has been a victim of a hateful woman who abuses the laws meant to protect against domestic violence. Women who do this need to be held accountable and prosecuted. They hurt real victims of domestic violence and they create victims of unfair laws, all for their own selfish, insane reasons.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 29th, 2014Someone from Yucca Valley, CA writes:
I was drugged and framed for DV by my husband, who was able to use the false allegations to gain the upper hand in our divorce. He was granted an emergency TRO and temporary sole custody of our three children. Ultimately no charges were filed against me, but it took over a year and a half for the DA to dismiss the case, and I spent $35,000 to date in legal fees fighting the RO and fighting to see my kids. He has also filed a civil suit against me, even though he lost the DV RO trial. The police refused to look into the fact that I had been drugged. And during the year he was able to keep my kids from me, he successfully brainwashed the older two, who now want nothing to do with me. Not only has he gotten away with all of this, but has been rewarded temporarily with custody, sole use of the home and other assets, and not having to pay support all this time. I on the other hand continue to pay despite the allegations being false and am having to fight to get back the things that should have never been take from me. There is enought research showing these people usually have a personality disorder, in my case, he is a narcissist. Until there are laws and punishments that hold them accountable for their false claims and lies, this will continue to happen and innocent lives will be ruined...including children!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 28th, 2014Someone from San Diego, CA signed.
Dec 28th, 2014Someone from Roanoke Rapids, NC signed.
Dec 28th, 2014Someone from Long Beach, WA writes:
Go to the District Court (never deal with the family law court, they are corrupt) File a complaint of Intentional Infliction of Emotional distress, Trepass, Assault, Perjury, or whatever grounds you can prove. Take photos. Get on the computer and type up your whole story with dates, names, witnesses and what happened. Put it in a 3 ring binder and turn it around so SHE is the one being sued. Keep sueing her until she stops.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 28th, 2014Someone from Niles, OH signed.
Dec 27th, 2014Someone from Vancouver, WA writes:
It's refreshing to see that my main family's issue is that of so many more (that we're not alone). I have 2 older sisters who exhibit psychotic behavior and hate my dad so they both claim he abused them. My dad wouldn't get my sister who was 16 at the time a car so she yelled outside our house, "He raped me!" I was abused by my oldest sister (she is bipolar though we didn't know at the time) but she denied all the abuse (she abused all my siblings of which there are 6, myself included). We forgave her but then to top it all off, she recently got the state involved to investigate my dad for being abusive. Fortunately, they saw there was no case. This Christmas was the 1st Christmas in which my 2 older sisters weren't invited. It was heaven. No tension, no unnecessary drama...when people are harmful to your family, cut the ties asap. Dont prolong your and your family's suffering. Learn from our family's mistake.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 27th, 2014Someone from Vancouver, WA signed.
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Dec 27th, 2014Someone from Natick, MA writes:
It is rather sad that, being a person who's always advocated for equality of gender (equal pay, equal political representation, etc.), I have to see that for the wrong doing of a few, some of us (loving innocent fathers) have to suffer the wrath of mentally ill women abusing the legal system. I am now being falsely accused and being destroyed... it is the worst nightmare a man can have.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 27th, 2014Someone from Atlantic, IA writes:
I have a friend he is sitting in prison for his wife accusing domestic abuse. These are the women who are making it bad for the ones that are really abused.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 27th, 2014Someone from Atlantic, IA writes:
I have a friend he is sitting in prison for his wife accusing domestic abuse. These are the women who are making it bad for the ones that are really abused.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 26th, 2014Someone from Des Moines, IA signed.
Dec 26th, 2014Someone from Monmouth Junction, NJ writes:
My ex with help of a non - profit organization , got w educated how to get everything without a divorce and now playing her cards using the FRO. Falsified everything to get me arrested to extent of blatantly lying to court.. I had everything to prove including an out of state RO.. BUT NJ JUDGE WILL NOT HEAR ANYTHING I SAY.. I LOST MY KIDS. MY LIFE AND ALL I EARNED last 30 years including self respectREPORT COMMENTS
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