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Please stop the unfair punishment of good fathers. We need child support reform now!

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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Michael W. from Canton, MI writes:
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    Hillsdale county keeps putting me in jail i cant write verry good ld classes cant keep a job but i see my kids all the time
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    ruby H. from Dandridge, TN writes:
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    I agree
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Gerrilynn M. from San Antonio, TX writes:
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    I agree why is child support not based on both parents income. It take two people to make a child and takes two to raise them so why do we only look at the fathers income and then charge him so much a month for the kids that we get no receipts or proof of where his money is going and if it's going to his kids and then the father is only allowed to see their kids every other weekend. It's ridiculous and then the father pays for insurance and dental and eye vision etc and yet these mothers still demand more and more and more
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Spring S. from Missoula, MT writes:
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    I am a mom who went away to Iraq and left her husband and 14 month old son to fulfill my duty to this fine country. When I returned, my home was sold and my husband had left me for another woman and taken my son along as well. I am now a mom who, after fighting for going on 7 years, has her child held over her head like a dog toy, although in most cases that's not accurate because we as humans treat our dogs better than I am treated by my ex husband. If I **** him off, I lose my parenting time. If I ask for more time, my time is decreased. If I look at him funny while dropping my kiddo off, I won't get my parenting time. I am ordered to pay an outrageous amount in child support and can barely make it, all because I'm a disabled veteran (so I receive $800/ month in benefits, yay!), fight fire in the summer, and go to school in my off season, all while not getting to RAISE my little boy and only receive VISITATION. Isn't "visitation" what they give people who are incarcerated? Why should a PARENT (granted that parent is a relatively safe person and role model) be subject to VISITATION with their CHILD when all they want to do is do the things a parent does such as cook pancakes in the morning before school, walk to the school bus, attend school events, read bedtime stories, have conversations about the day over family dinner, etc.? Why should I have to pay someone to keep the one person who owns my entire heart and soul away from me with the sole intention of receiving a pay check with no regard for what my child needs? Why should I have to pay someone so I can wake up in the morning missing my child, go to work and miss my child, find myself unable to fall asleep on countless nights because I MISS MY CHILD? Why should I have to pay for him to not work and live off of welfare? I've said this before and I'll say it again, I'd happily pay my ex husband $744/month to give me my son and leave me alone, and that's a damn fact.
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Someone from Parkville, MD writes:
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    My husband is a great dad the mother of his kids swiped all his right to kids by getting a quick divorce bc she was pregnant by another man and wanted it over before anyone knew. His boys are 9 and 11 she has three younger children by her current boyfriend she does not work and lives off government assistance Along with her boyfriend pay sometimes we are so tight on money he does not have the money required to give her its hard bc we get no help from government bc according to them we make too much but she can get it all not including her boyfriend income she should have to work it’s not our issues she has three additional kids both parties need to work we supply the boys with clothing at ou house food toys along with having to pay her money which she splurges on crap. If you Are tight on money you do without we have two younger kids and if we don’t have money for new school shoes oh well if we don’t have money to eat out then we don’t while she out here buying the 11 year old 80 dollar school shoes. There has got to be more rights for dads
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Someone from Mc Lean, VA writes:
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    I think child support shouldn't be based in incomes, it's fairest if it's based in the children's expenses monthly, then divide 50/50. If mom doesn't want to work, to bad, she should find a way to provide her 50%
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Someone from Lake City, FL writes:
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    Not being able to claim a child on your taxes if you paying child support. The mother gets the child support and the tax return. That's not fair I have four children I pay for and I can't claim not the first child
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Jason G. from Oviedo, FL writes:
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    If you have children you should take responsibility. Both parents spend time with the kid or kids. Both parents are financially responsible. Both parents have a say. I agree to drug testing the recipient. I agree that both parents split costs of medical and child care costs. I agree that both parents be audited... Yearly. I agree that both parents need to be employed (what does a child learn if a parent doesn't work and takes advantage of the system?). These are the common thoughts that I've read, here is one I haven't... I think that jail time should be given to parents that abuse the system. That dont work. That don't use funds for their children. You want help? You got to be a parent. You have to teach values. Dont use your genitalia as an HR department that receives paychecks. At that point you prostituted yourself and your child for X amount of years. Poor kid.
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Someone from Tampa, FL writes:
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    Child support need to be reconfigured or dismissed. My husband is a great dad. He is on child support for his 2 children. His oldest we can get whenever we want. But the youngest I can count on 1 hand how many times we have gotten that baby,not to mention he had no prior knowledge of the baby until her 5th birthday because the morther was "unaware of the father". The mother doesn't pick when he calls to check on his daughter she calls him all types of names just plain nasty for no reason. Not to mention she managed to get back child support. So he paying for a child he barley knows and a child he cant see "because the mother makes the decision". I think child support needs to set more stipulation on the recover of child support or dismiss it. Because for the fathers that's really good are being punished due to this poorly written law.
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Justin S. from Texarkana, TX writes:
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    I wish the fathers would be looked into I currently live 10 hours away from my two daughters she has never meet me half way has two states involved in child support case it's taken out of my check so I'm not behind but the states don't communicate and take more than what's court ordered she has not had a job since fed 2014 will not send pics says she don't have time only answers the phone when she wants I now live in a camper to cut cost so I can pay for the extra stuff my kids do and afford to drive 10 hours to see them and pay for lodging plus I was ordered to pay her lawyer fees. I paid her 1600 a month when there wasn't a court order I will always do for my kids before myself but because of dead beat dads I'm treated as if I'm the same sucks!
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Someone from Stonewall, LA writes:
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    I agree I see this more than often where women sit at home and depend on child support to make a living It's as if Popping out numerous kids has became the best paying job around. The economy is bad these days And child support is obserd Men are being punished and most the time they are still not allowed to see their kids. A divorce and battle of money for kids hurts the kids WHy can't it just be simple And both parties share the children
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Philip M. from Lithonia, GA writes:
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    Man this is so true. I'm losing everything I work so hard for do to this child support. It's not fair to us good fathers at all.
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    justin m. from Logan, OH writes:
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    I'm a single father of two and have another child who lives with his mother, I both pay and receive child support.. i pay more more for the one child that doesn't live with me than I receive(combined) for the two I have custody of. Both mothers have fairly equally paying jobs.. If that isn't f@&×d up,I don't know what is.. child support either needs to go or needs some serious refinement now!
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Edward H. from Parkville, MD signed.
  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Donna D. from Mathiston, MS writes:
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    What about the mother who pays for everything school book, supplies , lunch money, clothes housing, and a dead beat dad that thinks he shouldn't have to pay anything,and has not paid child support but the mother has to claim the child support, he doesn't pay as income. Even though she works she struggles to make it on one income while he works for cash so he doesn't have to pay child support. He gets his visitation every other weekend just to give her a break but he doesn't want them most of the time. He is willing to sign over his rights to get out from under child support. He claims to love them but says he will sacrifice and give his rights up. That is w the majority of the situations. What is being done for the mother's that struggle and have to claim money they don't get so they get no help. Where is the sympathy for them?
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Kimberly W. from Greeneville, TN signed.
  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Donna D. from Mathiston, MS writes:
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    What about the mother who pays for everything school book, supplies , lunch money, clothes housing, and a dead beat dad that thinks he shouldn't have to pay anything,and has not paid child support but the mother has to claim the child support, he doesn't pay as income. Even though she works she struggles to make it on one income while he works for cash so he doesn't have to pay child support. He gets his visitation every other weekend just to give her a break but he doesn't want them most of the time. He is willing to sign over his rights to get out from under child support. He claims to love them but says he will sacrifice and give his rights up. That is w the majority of the situations. What is being done for the mother's that struggle and have to claim money they don't get so they get no help. Where is the sympathy for them?
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Someone from Silas, AL writes:
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    I been paying for years and i still have arrears. My son's Mother doesnt work and neither does her husband. She lives off wat i pay my son.
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Nathan T. from Kansas City, MO writes:
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    This is wrong has been wrong for years. To make someone paid to see their child is ridiculous. 50/50 all the way. Whoever is that primary guardian has to pay rent bills and such anyway they have elected to want a kid anyway when the kid is with the other parent they will naturally pay for the needs of the child. Child support is Ludacris.
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Ingrid G. from Miami, FL signed.
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    CHRIS R. from Lawrence, KS writes:
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    I PAY CHILD SUPPORT AND STILL HAVE AREARS, BUT I TRY AND THIS IS MY STORY. MY DAUGHTERS MOM MOVES FROM PLACE TO PLACE TO PLACE TO PLACE ALL OVER STATE OF MISSOURI. IT'S MY DAUGHTER, HER MOM, GMA, AND 2 UNCLES ALL IN A MOVING HER AS IF THEY'RE OUT IN THE WILD. ALL I AM TO THEM IS A HUMAN WALKING ATM. IN GENERAL MUST PAY WITHOUT A COLLEGE DEGREE IS 10-11 AN HOUR. PAID EVERY 2 WEEKS, TAXES, C.SUPPORT, ONLY LEAVES ABOUT LITERALLY 400-410.00 2 WEEKS. 8 A MONTH. HYPETHETCIALLY, 1 BEDROOM PLACE NOW RENT IS WHAT? 600 THE LEAST! PLUS BILLS, AND A PHONE IS NECESSARY. AND YOU CAN'T APPLY FOR FOOD ASSISTANCE BECUAE THEY LOOK AT THE INCIOME BEFORE TAXES. IT'S A BUNCH OF BS. I NEVER HAVE A PROBLEM PAYING, BUT IT IS BS THAT THE MONEY GOES TO DRUGS, AND FAST FOOD ETC. HOW DO I KNOW THIS? MY BABY MOMMA TOLD ME!. ALSO I TOOK HER TO COURT RECENTLY, AND GUESS WHAT, I GOT SCREWED! THE COURT SAYS, "I DIDN'T TRY" I RESPONDED TO COURT, HOW CAN I KEEP TRYING WHEN THEY CHANGE THEIR NUMBER AND ADDRESSES ALL THE TIME. IT'S JUST A BUNCH OF CRAP!
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    nicole r. from Evansville, IN signed.
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    Laquita W. from Austin, TX signed.
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Someone from Lake Worth, FL writes:
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    Im a Desert Storm Vet. I left my wife after 11 years of her lying, stealing and because I couldn't trust her. We separated and was still married when she moved to Texas, where she began filing for child support. She is currently employed as nurse making well over $45K a year and I make less than $27K and can barely afford to buy food and pay rent on a monthly basis. I had been homeless prior to finding my new place, but I looks like I'll be on the street again because of the RIDICULOUS amount of child support that comes out of my pay. My child is college on a FULL RIDE scholarship and I know for a fact that these funds are not going to him. I'm not trying to get around my responsibilities as a Father, but I can't do anything to get myself out the rut and to be a better MAN because of this legalized extortion called child support. The sad part about it is that I did not cause the disruption to our family, she did with her lying, stealing and being dishonest, which ultimately wound up causing us to lose our home. I didn't press charges on her because she was my wife and we had children together...now look what that decision to not prosecute "my baby mama" cost me. She's a devout "Christian", but evil, vindictive and cunning as the Devil himself. P.S. My kid doesn't even talk to me. Go figure!
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Jabril S. from Andover, KS writes:
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    I pay child support and I can't see my son just because I went off to play college ball and got married and me and my son mom had no relationship at all before and would do anything for him I have no rights towards my son even when he got drug tested and they found cocain in his system they didn't call me about I had to find out by my mother and she still got to keep my son after all that I had no say so I'm from South Carolina but live in Kansas and my son still lives in South Carolina with him mom
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Someone from Prospect Park, PA writes:
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    child support laws are crazy. I pay >3200 per month for 3 children. This leaves me unable to actually be a father seeing how I live in another state because of increases in child support I could no longer support myself in the state my children are in. I was active in my children's lives and now i cannot afford to travel to see them. The courts see me as a meal ticket and always rule the maximum amount. I'm not a bad man and I am an exceptional father. This is not fair to the children either who I see going thru emotional turmoil in my absence. These laws are needed and should be enforced in some cases but unfortunately the courts aggressively go after who they deem can produce the money and are lackadaisical on the ones refusing to pay it.
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    kareem s. from Bronx, NY writes:
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    is this true
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  • Sep 20th, 2017
    Elijah P. from Saint Paul, MN writes:
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    My kids mom refused 50/50 on paper but fine with it off paper. Her defense that was actually written in her affidavit was " I work hard to qualify for welfare" my parenting time that was put down on paper was stuctured to be the maximum time to be 40% to still collect high child support and her to remain on welfare. Since I have fought for 5 years non stop in court, I finally gave up. Its a unfair world where no matter how hard you try, you will never have the chance to get equal time with your own child. That's the reality of it. The mom is too busy trying to qualify for welfare to care about her own child's needs. I was entered into a slavery contract with out giving concent when I'm fully capable to care for my own child. I am a college graduate, own my own home, take care of my 5 other kids with no welfare in my home full time. But the one child I had prior to my marriage after taxes she takes home the same amount I do bi weekly, and she didn't go to school I did. After taxes and medical come out and her 30% plus 20% arrears she gets more of my money then I do and spends it getting drunk,while I still have to pay for my 5 kids daily in my home. If I'm being with held from my child with not equal time, child support should also be with held. It is the mothers choice to struggle and be a single mom on welfare, she could have made the choice to not try to work to qualify for welfare, meaning purposely limiting her income potential to be lazy and not be responsible for her own child.
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