Please stop the unfair punishment of good fathers. We need child support reform now!
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Dec 6th, 2015Someone from Lake Villa, IL signed.
Dec 6th, 2015Someone from Hanford, CA writes:
this system needs to be changed its ********!where are the fathers rights? we have noneDec 5th, 2015Someone from Dallas, TX signed.
Dec 4th, 2015Someone from Hialeah, FL writes:
Ex wants to put me on child support now that I'm with someone else. The child support isn't to do for mine, it's so that I CAN'T do for my new woman or her kids. I still pay over $1500 per month for 3 and spend as much time with them as possible. But she wants the money to be court mandated so she can "cover her ass".REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 4th, 2015Someone from Richmond, IN signed.
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Dec 2nd, 2015Someone from Calumet City, IL writes:
A child support case shouldn't be started against a great father because the mother feels that's a way to penalize a father who doesn't want a relationship! Very common, what we need is a more 2015 approach and enforce EQUAL visitation and a parenting councilor. Any married middle class family knows they would never spend $1000+ on a child every week!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 1st, 2015Someone from Laramie, WY signed.
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Nov 27th, 2015Someone from Auburn, NY writes:
Please stop this sexist law against men. children need both parents. And we need to show Women of todays world that children are not a money symbol. Father of 3, one I pay child support for and get check raped, the other two are in MY custody. both were women who decided to deceive me just so I could give them a child. the second time around I was smarter. but this sexist law needs to be brought down.. Did you know In ny state they throw you in jail if you refuse to pay because the mother is a drug addict but the state wont do a damn thing to intervene. and they can keep you in for an indisclosed amount of time. did you also know they don't threaten the women with jail time if they don't pay? This whole system was made by a sexist woman who hated men and decided to make money off of family split ups. on top of that I have agreed to pay 40 on current and 10 on my arrears, but NYS child support and told me several times they can take out as much as they want and they do not have to listen to a judges court order. So the judge ordered 50$ a week cause that what I can afford.. but CS decided that was not enough and garnish 60 every week. and WILL NOT change it.. The whole system is run by sexist and bullies.. END THIS NOW! Cayuga County Auburn New York, where judges let criminal's go with slaps, and party all weekend long snorting coke and the cops bully citizens. even our own mayor has several DWI's and DUI'sREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 27th, 2015Someone from New York, NY signed.
Nov 27th, 2015Someone from Brooklyn, NY writes:
A presumption of equal parenting time is very important. Start from there and let the parents decide what their schedules will permit regarding parenting time.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 25th, 2015Someone from El Paso, TX signed.
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Nov 23rd, 2015Someone from Virginia Beach, VA writes:
As a mother, I believe it is the responsibility of both parties. The women always want to act like they had no part in the creation of the child, and are somehow "entitled" to half of the fathers income. Women use the excuse that they need more for rent, utilities, etc. As a grown adult you would need to work and establish employment, become a productive member of society and support yourself regardless of having children. Child support has been favoring the mother for far to long. This is a small example of what someone I know is going through. The ex will not contact the father, unless it involves more money (i.e. Taxes, more child support, retirement). Does not allow phone calls, and keeps the children on speaker so they are not comfortable talking to the father safely. The father send gifts and gets no phone calls back letting him know they were received, and no thank yous. Meanwhile, the mother to these kids is getting child support ($1,500), while the father also provides health insurance, dental, life insurance, but the spiteful ex is still claiming he is the dead beat. She provides no medical, no dental, no life insurance. While said person is working the bare minimum to be able to get as much as possible in state benefits, social security, and child support. And yet this is who gets the main custody?! This all adds up to being much greater than the fathers income, and yet he is still somehow required to give half of his paycheck, while still trying to support a family with a second marriage. The children and expenses in the second marriage aren't counted into what gets paid in child support, the courts don't care about the children's welfare and wellbeing in the second marriage. And all the while the ex has means to improve her financial standing even more by remarrying. Did I mention that bank statements prove that said person spends well over $600 in nails a year, $700 in coffee stops, and even more in bar stops? This just states where priorities lay, and who gets hurt? The kids. They hurt because of the mother will talk down and mean about their father, making them think he doesn't care because she repeatedly denies authorized visits, doesn't let them call, and fills their heads with stories. Child support needs to be reformed so that the father is not suffering financially while the one holding custody continues to "live the good life" with no effort in financial support. If the one holding custody can't live on their own and maintain a livable income, they should not be allowed custody. Especially when the support will not be used on the child. Parenting classes should be mandatory, free of charge, with a renewal requirement. The one paying support should be allowed to know where the support is being used, and if it is in no way being spent on the children the payee should be held accountable with punative actions.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 23rd, 2015Someone from Upper Marlboro, MD writes:
Good fathers are being punished several times over, and there are certain recipients who are abusing the system for financial gain or malice.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 22nd, 2015Someone from Kapolei, HI signed.
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Nov 20th, 2015Someone from Gilbert, PA writes:
The receiver of "said support" should have to submit receipts as to what the money is used for. My husband's ex has a closet full of brand new clothes, and they come over on the weekend filthy and in clothes 5 sizes too small. The courts are slow, we have been fighting so long. How many red flags need to be raised? But hey let's up his support. Cavities, kidney infections, clothes that don't fit, can't even make it to school...but yes please garnish his income more now that she has another child who is not his. This makes no sense.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 20th, 2015Someone from Seattle, WA writes:
Just to point out my statement, it is profitable for a woman to deceive a man into thinking she is in love with him, have his child, leave him and take the child, and take advantage of the Washington State Law and extort him for his hard earned money. That is my situation. I have never abandoned my child but she was slowly taken away from my by the mother and the help of her family. I evaded filing a petition first because I was afraid and intimidated of the Family Law in WA state. When the mother decided to file, I countered with what I believe to be a parenting plan that is in the best interest of the child. We went to mediation and nothing was resolved. It went to trial where I was able to point out inconsistensies in the opposing parties claims. She goes to the bars, casinos on weekends when she is scheduled to have our daughter and stated the daughter is with her when she does go out. In addition, she did not disclose all her financial claims honestly. On top of that, that mother admitted to bringing our child around her boyfriend who has a criminal record for DUI and appears to be a member of a gang. I lost in trial and feel like the judge had made their mind up from the beginning and I had no chance at all. I represented myself and was honest about everything and she was represented by an attorney that fabricated and exaggerated the stories. The judges decision was made less than 24 hours from when trial ended. I currently have a mortgage and cost of living expenses in which it takes up almost all my monthly income. My child support calculation was based on an inflated income for me (father) and a deflated income for the mother. Is this law based on a punishment for loving the wrong woman in life? It has to change. How am I to live and provide a life with my child when I have no money left over? How can I buy her clothes? How can I take her on vacations? How can I take her out to eat? How can I create these memories with her when all the remainder of my money will go to the mother? I need help. Its not only me but the good fathers in WA state that are in the same situation as I am. I used to hear a rumor that WA state has a high suicide rate because of the weather. Its not the weather, its the Family Law. This has to change and it has to change now! The Family Law / Child Support Law in WA state is enabling how deadbeat fathers are bred. We are at a disadvantage from the very start and it is not fair! I love my child with all my heart but what kind of person will she see me as when her mother is using my money to make memories with my child and another man, while I will no longer be able to bond with her like a father and daughter should. I want answers and reasons! I do not want to hear, thats just the way it is or its the law. WE (the good fathers) NEED YOUR HELP!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 20th, 2015Someone from Batesville, IN writes:
My husband works a 40+ hr job as do I. He's court ordered to pay child support for a son that is his and a son that is non biologically his. (The ex girl friend was pregnant and married when she met my husband. She claimed she didn't know where the bio dad was and asked my husband to be this little boys dad. The ex girlfriend has known for 6 years where this little boys dad is and that he's a military man to say the least) after child support is taken out of my husband's pay check he's only left with $120 for our family. I have 2 little ones with him. We both work our butts off to try to provide for our family and for his "other" family.the child support office has started garnishing my checks in order to pay his child support. I barely have enough to take care of my kids. Why is it fair that the ex girlfriend gets to sit on her butt and get goverment assistants and collect a child support check? Both of my husband's boys are in school full time and she chooses not to have a job...she hasn't had a job for 6 yrs, she is fully capable of working. My family is on the verge of becoming homeless because of her. I can barely afford to feed my family let alone get diapers for my babies. My family does with out a lot of things just so my husband can pay child support. I think thrre needs to be a change. I think the one that is getting the child support should be ordered to get a job once their youngest starts school full time. I'm a firm believer in it takes 2 to make a baby it takes 2 to be finacially responsible for them. We need a change or more good fathers are going to start going under ground just so they can survive and to be able to financially afford to take care of the family they have nowREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 20th, 2015Someone from Elmwood, TN writes:
I love my girls with all my heart and it has emotionally broken me I was ordered to pay 250 a week in child support at 12 an hr I do construction and some weeks I couldn't even afford gas to go to work much less feed my children and do anything with them its heart breaking not being able to have the money to do anything with my girls or buy them anything it almost drove me to suicideREPORT COMMENTS
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Nov 16th, 2015Someone from Suitland, MD writes:
The tax laws needs to be changed and the support should be counted as income.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 16th, 2015Someone from Lake Zurich, IL signed.
Nov 16th, 2015Someone from Calhoun, GA writes:
CSEA has no interest in what's best for our children. It's all about the money. Laws are not fair for us good fathers trying to better ourselves for our child's future. We just keep getting punished more. Women wanted Equal Employment opportunities and they got them so I shouldn't be punished for her laziness to not want to better herself.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 16th, 2015Someone from Morrisville, PA writes:
I am a victim of unfair bias against good father's and I continue my fight. We need to stand up and set the record straight that; we are good father's who love and care for our children and can give them as good or better care then the moms they live with. Manny Dieguez. Fighting Father of 2 childrenREPORT COMMENTS
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