Unfair child support laws
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Jan 11th, 2013Someone from Brooklyn, NY signed.
Jan 11th, 2013Someone from Brockport, NY writes:
From Brockport, NY, My ex-wife's deaf who's got a college degree from RIT. Made $30K annually way back in 1999. Had two kids, decides to get on SSDI ($2500/mo.), WIC ($200/mo.) and Food Stamps ($500/mo.) then she abruptly left me for another man in Florida in May 2000 and got pregnant which was her loophole to "abuse" the system. We filed for divorce in May 2001 and she remarried in June 2001. They had a baby boy together then they divorced 18 months later. 2nd ex-hubby took the kid. My ex-wife, She NEVER paid him Child Support in the State of Florida even though the kid is 11 years old today. I had to pay Child Support at the rate of 65% since 2001 while she never sends me anything such as School's Report Cards, School Pictures, School Plays, School IEP Meetings...Absolutely nothing !. Takes me to court when she cries for MORE money because she's divorced for the 2nd time and remarried again 9 months later. 4 years later, She divorced again from her 3rd ex-hubby. 3rd Ex-hubby's a cheater, liar and receives SSDI while working his own lawn care business under the table. I had someone to follow him, take pictures and I sent them all to IRS where he got busted. Ex-wife's clever because she divorced him before he got busted. I wanted her to get busted, but failed. Ex-hubby lost his SSDI. In December 2010, I lost my job since my position got abolished. Ever since, I got on SSDI receiving $1,081 a month. Yesterday, I got a letter from Judge ordering me to pay my ex-wife $570 a month plus $150 a month for Kid's Health Insurance. $720/mo. total leaving me $361/mo. to live on while I have $715/mo. mortgage and utitlity bills. I'M SCREWED !. Ex gets $2500 from SSDI, $720/mo. from me and works part time according to Social Security Policy that she can earn under $1,000/mo. That totaled $4,220 a month tax free which is over $46K a year. Hey, I'm not finished here...According to her Tax Returns, In 2009, She made $10.9K, paid $4,400 in Federal Taxes and received Tax Refund of $6,800. In 2010, She made $11.7K, paid $4,900 in Federal Taxes and received Tax Refund of $7,200. In 2011, She made $6.8K, paid $1,900 in Federal Taxes and received her Tax Refund of $3,400. Why is she getting all that FREE money back from the Government ?. That is what I don't understand about this screwed up system America's in. Politicians....Please, Wake up, Smell the coffee and go after the people who are NOT honest with the system AT ALL. Please contact me at my email addy as I'm willing to work with you and want some FAIR justice after all.Jan 11th, 2013Someone from Conway, SC signed.
Jan 10th, 2013Someone from Wichita Falls, TX writes:
I pay 600 a month to a 35 year old lesbian mother who refuses to work, gets food stamps, lives in a HUD house and just so happens to move her unemployed 24 lesbian gf in with her. Why am I so obligated to pay her but theres no oversight on how she spends my KIDS money. They dig into all my finances then turn around and say "Here you go! Go crazy!".REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 10th, 2013Someone from Rockaway Park, NY writes:
The system and its enforcement, as it is, is counterproductive. It adds a rediculous amount of stress to an already broken family. Its enforcement is equally bizarre.Especially for those of us that are accountable and do not hide from the system. Although you could hardly blame those that do.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 10th, 2013Someone from Saint Clair Shores, MI writes:
Finding it very hard to support my family with a $700 cs payment every month for two kids the mother has kept from me and the courts do nothing about that! But I get behind on payments and a cop is at my door to arrest me, one child is 16, works and provides for himself, and none of the money goes towards the kids, she's married with 2 other kids also, lives in a house that paid for, so how much does she really need? And why should the majority of my money go to my first 2 kids, and leave my other kids with nothing! It's unfair to my kids at home! Parents who stay together don't have to set a standard on how much of their money goes to their kids, you make do with what you have, you budget, so why is it different when they split? Totally unfair! It's unfair to the fathers, their kids at home, and their kids in the system!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 10th, 2013Someone from Saint Clair Shores, MI writes:
Finding it very hard to support my family with a $700 cs payment every month for two kids the mother has kept from me and the courts do nothing about that! But I get behind on payments and a cop is at my door to arrest me, one child is 16, works and provides for himself, and none of the money goes towards the kids, she's married with 2 other kids also, lives in a house that paid for, so how much does she really need? And why should the majority of my money go to my first 2 kids, and leave my other kids with nothing! It's unfair to my kids at home! Parents who stay together don't have to set a standard on how much of their money goes to their kids, you make do with what you have, you budget, so why is it different when they split? Totally unfair! It's unfair to the fathers, their kids at home, and their kids in the system!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 10th, 2013Someone from Manassas, VA writes:
Im not trying say nothing mean. When there only women working in the child support system they unfair to us mens. I live in manassas va the child suppprt office here is terrible they dont really do there job u ask me some doin it just get back at us men.for example i been married for 15 years my has a son he is 17 do think she got help from the child support people no and she will tell u all i want is for this division in manassas sucks and some need to look into itREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 10th, 2013Someone from Manassas, VA signed.
Jan 10th, 2013Someone from Newport News, VA writes:
I am not a dead beat dad. I see my kids every weekend. Pay my ex-wifes car payment and I am still obligated to give up 30% of my income. Seems jacked up.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 10th, 2013Someone from Houston, TX writes:
Its not right to kick a parent whose down by taking away the most valuable necessity to a PARENT by severely imparing our ability to survive when already faced with the hardship challenges of finding half decent employment in this clusterf#@k of a nation!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 9th, 2013Someone from Lombard, IL signed.
Jan 9th, 2013Someone from Virginia Beach, VA writes:
The option to split can be made by one or two therefore u can be mislead for financial gain.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 9th, 2013Someone from Sarasota, FL writes:
My friend had a child with his girlfriend here in Florida where they lived together for 3 years of the childs life the mother became hooked on pain pills, she was doctor shopping and selling them behind my friends back while he was at work, he had no idea untill the day she was arrested for trafficking well she went to prison for 5 years the child lived with the father for 2 years when he was arrested for driving on a suspended license for unpaid tickets, he sat in jail for a bit got released then went to pick up his child from his ex-girlfriends parents. They told him that they have custody of the child now and he isnt allowed to see his son right now. Some time went by he received a letter in the mail saying he owes over a 3 grand in child support to the parents of his childs mother or baby's momma. He had no knowledge of the custody or child support hearings, the state of Florida allowed these people to do all this behind his back without any letters so he could at least oppose what was happening and fight for custody of his son. He has to pay the maximum amount they can make any parent pay for support which is $800 a month per child, he only makes $12 an hour he never get overtime or had any other income so they dont always go by what you make either they make you pay what they want. Its not like the parents need they are very well off they both retired young they arent going after their daughter for any money the mother is hooked on drugs and moved out of state because the police are looking for her ex-con boyfriend, they're making my friend pay for everything, Ive told him he needs to speak to an atorney but hes stuck on not being able to afford one he cant even pay all his child support, he got his license reinstated only to have it suspended again because he cant afford to pay all the support demanded by the state he is worried they will throw him in jail if something is not done. It's really upsetting to be told our whole lives that america is the greatest country we are so fortunite to live here. Knowing this now this state is so corrupt anybody that has money can manipulate the law & courts to do what ever they want!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 9th, 2013Someone from Sarasota, FL signed.
Jan 9th, 2013Someone from Plant City, FL writes:
i pay $1500 a month for 3 children and two who live up north that i havent seen in 12 years. now 2 divorces and 3 kids later...i am living in my car. nowhere to go...i only take home a little over 400 every two weeks...i am a veteran..still work for the government..on time with support...no criminal record..no drugs no nothing. i appealed 3 times and now half the time if it wasnt for my son here close to me in florida...i would just end it all. i am really trying and this really needs to be stopped. my ex wants more money...withholds the children from me because of her anger towards me and i can never affored to get a place and pay the only 3 bills i have. so this must stop and be re evaluated.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 9th, 2013Someone from Cherry Hill, NJ writes:
The laws are totally designed to protect the interests of the mother. I have been paying child support for one child for 15 years. Due to an early divorce settlement, my ex also gets to claim our child on income tax every year. She purposely refuses to work, always complains that she wasn't getting enough child support and now expects that I pay for our daughter's college. I have paid well over $200,000 in child support and she could not even put even the tax money away for our daughter, who will graduate high school next year. Ex even receives disability for herself and daughter. My recent divorce is now costing me alimony and additional child support on top of the current. The calculations are based on income and yet EXPENSES are not even factored in. How do they expect fathers to survive? Also, wife should not get half of 401k when she did not work in my shoes doing MY job. And there should always be exceptions to the rule. The mother is considered unfit if she is a drug user or prostitute. Yet, what if she is a drug enabler to a drug addicted child and is financially unstable to provide for the kid? This system is beyond jacked and affecting millions of hard-working fathers. Kudos to whoever started this petition! It deserves attention at the Supreme Court and should belong on Obama's agenda. It's a horrible epidemic and good fathers are totally getting shafted!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 9th, 2013Someone from Harker Heights, TX signed.
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Jan 9th, 2013Someone from Valley Center, KS writes:
i am a single father of 2 children and have been divorced from my children's mother for 5 yrs all i have ever received was 50$ from her and per her decision she sees them mayb 3 times a year it wasnt a problem until 2 years ago whn i became disabled and have had surgery on my hip and can barely walk now i know she is working at a daycare of all places and she called me and wanted to claim them on her taxes to pay for her wedding i applied for child support when i became disabled and havent heard 1 word from CSS about it... if she was a man she would be in jail i dont know what to do but something must change soonREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 8th, 2013Someone from Buffalo, OH writes:
I know many fathers who do more than their part and still they are attacked by child support and thrown in jail away from the children they help raise! It is disgusting this is allowed in a free country. These children are horrified when their fathers are taken for months and go without.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 8th, 2013Someone from Mullica Hill, NJ writes:
Men need more than half of their income to live on. These laws have to be fixed.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 8th, 2013Someone from Ellenville, NY signed.
Jan 8th, 2013Someone from Marlow, OK writes:
Over 650 a month for the last 14 years, which was originally based on 2500 per month income as a house framer. Since that time I have not had a job that has averaged that amount of income. My ex wife lied in court saying that she didn't have a job, therefore I was given 70% of the responsibility on everything. She has not made even one time any accommodation toward travel expenses to give time for visitation or summer vacations. The burden has solely been on my back. The amount was originally for 4 children, which at that time that 650 dollars alone could easily take care of the food, clothing and additional necessities of the children. The problem comes though when the economy goes bad in a place you live, you can't move, can't find enough work because the building market rolled to a creeping crawl. I have tried to be very intuitive in creating my own businesses, as well as taking jobs in anything that could possibly be a paycheck to ease the situation. I have been garnished, licenses suspended on numerous occasions at the drop of a hat. I have had my last moneys seized from bank accounts without warrant or judicial hearing. I have been jailed in another state which I lived for about a year because 2 states can't communicate authority of my child support payment State. To top this all off, 25 years of carpentry and hard labor have left my knees and legs in bad condition, barely able to stay on my feet for more than 2 hours at a time. I have had chronic kidney stones and circulation problems with my legs due to possible diabetes. Yet, I can't even afford to visit a doctor because I have no health insurance or enough money to make an appointment. Dental work? Forget it... how can it happen when you are barely feeding yourself and a son who is living with me, who by the way has been emancipated 5 years along with his brother 3 years. Now there is 2 children living with her and yet they have not changed my support obligation. I have filed for amendments to the amount last year, and they cancelled court dates for 5 months. Now I have received a letter from DHS prior to the latest rescheduled date, stating that I am not eligible for a hearing for support modification! 4 years ago I took a dangerous job of being a repo man just so I would have some work that I could physically tolerate. This was a commission based job which paid me maybe 12,000 the first year and 22,000 the second year as I got better at it. That is gross income, which they gladly garnished for the same 650 per month. I have been out of work now again for almost a year. I finally had to apply for food stamps which amounts to 200 a month, which I am feeding both myself and my son who lives with me. I bet you can only guess what kind of foods I am able to afford. I have applied to so many jobs I can't name them all... mostly on line because employers these days either have forgotten that people are real instead of an internet connection, or they don't have the guts to look someone in thREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 8th, 2013Someone from Marlow, OK writes:
Over 650 a month for the last 14 years, which was originally based on 2500 per month income as a house framer. Since that time I have not had a job that has averaged that amount of income. My ex wife lied in court saying that she didn't have a job, therefore I was given 70% of the responsibility on everything. She has not made even one time any accommodation toward travel expenses to give time for visitation or summer vacations. The burden has solely been on my back. The amount was originally for 4 children, which at that time that 650 dollars alone could easily take care of the food, clothing and additional necessities of the children. The problem comes though when the economy goes bad in a place you live, you can't move, can't find enough work because the building market rolled to a creeping crawl. I have tried to be very intuitive in creating my own businesses, as well as taking jobs in anything that could possibly be a paycheck to ease the situation. I have been garnished, licenses suspended on numerous occasions at the drop of a hat. I have had my last moneys seized from bank accounts without warrant or judicial hearing. I have been jailed in another state which I lived for about a year because 2 states can't communicate authority of my child support payment State. To top this all off, 25 years of carpentry and hard labor have left my knees and legs in bad condition, barely able to stay on my feet for more than 2 hours at a time. I have had chronic kidney stones and circulation problems with my legs due to possible diabetes. Yet, I can't even afford to visit a doctor because I have no health insurance or enough money to make an appointment. Dental work? Forget it... how can it happen when you are barely feeding yourself and a son who is living with me, who by the way has been emancipated 5 years along with his brother 3 years. Now there is 2 children living with her and yet they have not changed my support obligation. I have filed for amendments to the amount last year, and they cancelled court dates for 5 months. Now I have received a letter from DHS prior to the latest rescheduled date, stating that I am not eligible for a hearing for support modification! 4 years ago I took a dangerous job of being a repo man just so I would have some work that I could physically tolerate. This was a commission based job which paid me maybe 12,000 the first year and 22,000 the second year as I got better at it. That is gross income, which they gladly garnished for the same 650 per month. I have been out of work now again for almost a year. I finally had to apply for food stamps which amounts to 200 a month, which I am feeding both myself and my son who lives with me. I bet you can only guess what kind of foods I am able to afford. I have applied to so many jobs I can't name them all... mostly on line because employers these days either have forgotten that people are real instead of an internet connection, or they don't have the guts to look someone in thREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 7th, 2013Someone from Knoxville, TN signed.
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Jan 7th, 2013Someone from Longton, KS writes:
As a minister I see a lot of fathers that's worried about their children because the mothers do nothing but wait for their check in order to buy drugs for themselves instead of feeding the children. there's laws preventing fathers from doing the same so those laws should also include the mothers. we should change these laws to be more equal to both parents. For our children's sake.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 7th, 2013Someone from Yucca Valley, CA writes:
If there weren't so many men who skip out on their kids, the system probably wouldn't be this way. On the other hand, my husband has to pay 950 a month for one kid, and the mother won't even let her come home with him, he can only go to pick her up, and get a motel. And she is mentally and physically abusive.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 7th, 2013Someone from Brooklyn, NY writes:
After she kidnapped my son for about a year I found her took her too court for custody and the first thing she asked about was child support (or in other words, revenge for fighting for my son) and of course they side with her now I'm living paycheck to paycheck barely surviving while she living in a nice house with her brand new custom car. This system is backwardsREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 7th, 2013Someone from Valparaiso, IN writes:
2 kids, divorced, mom refuses to let me see the kids, even though court ordered, she just lies and says she said it was ok. Then after court which she always wins, you ain't see MY kids. I just want to die, going to work to be more in debt, someone shoot me.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 7th, 2013Someone from Simpsonville, SC writes:
I know that mathematically speaking my future is very dim. I'm one small financial disaster away from losing everything. And if I should lose my job in this economy, I will likely go to jail in my state.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 7th, 2013Someone from Mchenry, IL writes:
This is a sad day we live in for single or separated fathers!! There has got to be politicians out there that have this problem. Like everyone who has a child they want to see them, its hard to see them when I look like a bum. The whole system is flawed child support and child visitation. I pay so much I can't even come close to affording a lawyer to even start visitation. This has got me in a rut for a long time now. This is leading to mental issues I cant explain! I hope this issue becomes wide spread across our nation!! My prays go out to all us VICTIMS!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 6th, 2013Someone from Springfield, OH signed.
Jan 6th, 2013Someone from Bowbells, ND writes:
I am speaking on behalf of my wife. She is a stay at home mom and i am currently in between jobs and her ex-husband has custody of her oldest daughter. We can't afford for her to pay child support and now he got her arrested and is extradicting her to indiana and taking her away from her kids just so he can get money from her. She is denied her visitation and all her ex does when he does get any child support is spend it at the bar. He is using their kid as a game piece to get money. As I said he is now taking her away from her 3 kids here in ND (one is 7 months old, one is 2yrs and the other is 5 years and have never been away from mom) and extraditing her to indiana just to hurt her.REPORT COMMENTS
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