Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence
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Jul 18th, 2015Someone from Sperry, OK writes:
I really feel this is just a one sided thing. I have a friend who's wife has done this to him three times. She will take things that at the time was done in play but then makes stuff out of it when she gets mad. Now this time she filed for divorce again got another restrain ing order for the 3rd time.. only month before he had New appliance put in, paid off her credit cards, privacy fence put up around there yard, He spent over 3000 on a new wedding ring, and she planned to get pregnant with him. Then that easy she got mad she called the cops they did nothing so she goes to the judge and made up a story and got a restrain ing order and filed for divorce. That easy for her she get it all. He is homeless. He spent his retirement all on her and now he has nothing. The law needs a update. On a few details of how they handle D.V. CASE. Anyone can say anything. So before you just point the finger they really need to hear both sides. -
Jul 18th, 2015Someone from San Antonio, TX writes:
While it is extremely unfortunate that other men are also going through this, it is a slight (and I emphasize "slight") comfort to know that I am not the only guy who has suffered at the hand of a lying confused woman and personal opinion-involved law enforcement. I met my ex about 8 years ago and stayed very good friends, but she ended up marrying this drug-abusing lowlife that knocked her up and then she dropped out and disappeared. About 9 months ago she reappeared but was bruised and cut up beyond anything I ever care to see again. She had three absolutely feral children who never received any influence (good OR bad) and were never acknowledged beyond that of eating times and diaper changes. The bio-dad regularly abused his children and wife both physically and sexually. And as a victim of EXTREME physical and psychological abuse as a child I felt as though this granted me the opportunity to change a whole family's life for the better. I offered harbor to this girl and her children in my own home and my family did all we could to help her get divorced from this man. I raised these three beautiful children as my own (a four year old girl, 3 year old boy and 18 month old girl) and gave them the two things they hadn't received for their whole lives: love and structure. What I never realized is that while I was teaching and training and playing and loving and raising these children to become the best behaved children in the world, their mother was uncomfortable with my methods. She had never been raised with rules or love or structure or discipline, so it was incredibly uncomfortable for her. Eventually she started cheating on me and spreading lies so I tried to leave her but I loved these children. My family told me to leave her (and eventually I did) but I had such a strong bond with these kids and couldn't let them suffer under a mother who only used them as tools to get sympathy and government assistance, but couldn't care one way or another about the children. And its also unfortunate that the only thing the law cares about anymore is blood and not actual relationship. She threatened over 10 times to adopt them out just so I couldn't see them. After she left she pestered me nonstop trying to make me feel guilty, because I "kicked out a single mother with three children" then she started letting the abusive ex (who as it turns out never divorced) watch the kids, to which I respond by reallowing them to come back to my home for a few days just til she can figure out a better plan and she still can't clean up after herself, has no accountability and I told her to leave. But then what does she do? She calls the police to arrest me. She then proceeds to say that I have been abusing her children. WHAT!? And her "proof" was a picture of a pretty bad bruise on the oldest girls butt, and the knowledge that I give the children spankings even though I only use my hand and she uses a belt regularly. So the police arrest me, I sit in magistrates forREPORT COMMENTS
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Jul 18th, 2015Someone from Pine Grove, CA signed.
Jul 17th, 2015Someone from Pine Grove, CA signed.
Jul 17th, 2015Someone from San Leandro, CA writes:
I got accused by a girl i new, never dated andnrver abused. She robbed ny house, & commited credit card fraud, then filed a restraining order so i could not accuse her!!! Not to mention she had my US mail put on vacation hold so she can go collect. I had no notice of the restraining order. Plus she asked the court to take me out of my house so she can have it. She nevrr lived with me btw. And wanted my dogs euthanized. The last 2 she didn't get, everything else she did, for a temporary restraining order. Tomorrow is the final hearing a boy I can't believe thisREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 16th, 2015Someone from Jonesboro, GA writes:
A lot of males has been locked up for false allegations of a jealous woman. Make it harder to prove, that this action really took place. If she retracts the original report of violence then she should be charged with False statements.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 16th, 2015Someone from Fort Atkinson, IA signed.
Jul 16th, 2015Someone from Morgan, UT writes:
in my case the accuser has a juvenile record of aggravated assaults. She is a known cutter, self mutilator and I know that she hit herself with a sticky lint removal roller to make visual marks on her face. they look nothing like strikes from my huge hands front or backsideREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 16th, 2015Someone from Trabuco Canyon, CA signed.
Jul 16th, 2015Someone from Albuquerque, NM signed.
Jul 16th, 2015Someone from Wallingford, CT writes:
I was a upstanding hard working citizen when I was accused of a felony domestic violence charge no evidence of hearsay she even admitted she lied within 2 days prosecutors still wanted to continue saying I could have been persuading her. I lost my job I lost my public service license before being convicted I almost lost my house and had to take a plea bargain for lack of funds, I was misled by my attorney and basically this whole experience has devastated me lost my only child , my second Amendment freedoms my reputation my whole life is spent a total disaster for over 10 years. This girl walked away with no penalties and after saying she wanted to rule my life did a damn good job. I can't even focus enough to talk about this and have lost interest in living with the daily horrors of being sent to prison for a year for something I never did. Hearsay is accepted as truth in Connecticut, ins Law are used as weapons. I wish there was more help for men but I have lost total hope and faith.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 16th, 2015Someone from Grass Valley, CA signed.
Jul 15th, 2015Someone from Manorville, NY writes:
My ex did this to me repeatedly while she was having an affair with a thrice married man. She robbed my parents and me of everything. She lied repeatedly, perjured herself, and I never hit her once in my life. She abused the court system with her act and judges don't want to hear/see the truth. As I said would happen, she collects the child support and is constantly forfeiting her parenting time to me now for years as she's very busy with her boyfriend who has since left the third wife.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 15th, 2015Someone from Smithfield, NC signed.
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Jul 15th, 2015Someone from Forest Hills, NY writes:
Please. Stop it. It is against American costitution Destroys our family. And waist of money. StopREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 15th, 2015Someone from Chicago, IL writes:
I am a woman and have been a victim of domestic violence. I understand that these laws were meant to protect but...today I find myself the accused. Banned from seeing or even talking to my children for 3 weeks because my ex husband is a vindictive man. He accused my of stabbing him when all I did was push him away when he charged me, unfortunately my keys were in my hand. He had a warrant issued for my arrest for the alleged stabbing and an OOP granted for 3 weeks that bans any and all communication with my kids, who didn't even witness the "stabbing". Being arrested was the most humilating experience in my life. How can this happen without me being able to explain my side for 2 weeks? The anguish, emotional damage to the kids, and financial costs because of the protection he gets from this law are unacceptable. And please amend thus petition...it's not only men these laws hurt. Thank youREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 15th, 2015Someone from West Haven, CT writes:
i was abused several times and then i got arrested because she said i hit herREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 15th, 2015Someone from Princeton, NJ signed.
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Jul 15th, 2015Someone from Toledo, OH writes:
Please do not let the innocent get railroaded any longer. I have a Felony and can't get a job because of it!!!! HELP US PLEASE!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 15th, 2015Someone from Toledo, OH signed.
Jul 15th, 2015Someone from Millstone Township, NJ writes:
The fact that this can keep happening in all 50 states is outrageous. It is a major abuse of judicial system and a giant waste of taxpayer monies. The judges & prosecutors, who are already over burdened, should recognize that when a woman files and drops double digit multiple restraining orders at her convenience she is using the system to her advantage. especially in cases where there is no proof that an abuse has ever taken place in the first place. If a man in this state is not proactive he is guilty by default. This appalling practice must be stopped! ask your friends to sign this petition and push Congress to entertain and pass a bill that would make a federal law covering this issue. For actual victims of domestic abuse, those that truly need the help, this would free up many hours of the courts time, bringing to a swift justice the true abusers and thus saving those that have evident abuse countless hours of worry by putting their abusers in jail. There definitely needs to be a consequence for a woman that constantly files a false report in order to benefit herself.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 14th, 2015Someone from Fort Lauderdale, FL signed.
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Jul 14th, 2015Someone from Oak Hill, WV writes:
The problem is there is no punishment for the false accuser. No media frenzy,no public humiliation. Maybe they would think twice before ruining peoples lives. The family of the accused suffer just as much,with no relief as well. UnjustifiedREPORT COMMENTS
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Jul 13th, 2015Someone from Riverside, CA writes:
My ex falsely accused me of domestic violence to try and gain an upper hand in a custody battle of our two children. I have a felony charge against me, TRO and haven't seen my kids since father's day. This was a planned event on her part that happened on Father's day where I called 911 on her to prevent any further harm to me as we exchange our kids. She became violent, and high conflict at the exchange where I was trying to get our kids into my car and she was blocking my car door. My current wife was there to help and my ex became hostile toward her I yelled at my ex to get away from my wife and go back to her car. She came up to me right in my face, stepped on and smashed my toe as she stood an inch in front of me. (Police have photos of this and a cut on my arm from her fingernails) I move her off of me in defense and immediately called the police. Police arrived and I gave them my report and told them I wanted to press charges. She claimed the same and must have self inflicted damage upon herself still unknown what her claims are until police report comes out. This is all because she lost original custosy, supposed to pay me child support which she is trying to evade, and unhappy that I remarried. My outcome is still pending court, 911 tapes, and other subpoenaed evidence. And then I still need to defend my criminal case. Total spent so far 6k and counting not including my criminal defense attorney, undue stress, loss of dignity, 2nd amendment right, time with my kids, sleep and numerous other life enjoying experiences. All because of a high conflict, vengful, personality disordered ex. I'm hoping charges will just be dropped based off evidence.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 13th, 2015Someone from San Antonio, TX writes:
Presumption for Custody. Most carry a statutory presumption that in the event domestic abuse has occurred, the perpetrator of that abuse should not be awarded physical placement or physical custody which is wrong since an investigation /due process should be ordained. These false allegations could be done by anyone with no proof and they are valid. This presumption ruins lives of those innocents through restraining orders on the supposedly Abuser. The defendant should be notified.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 13th, 2015Someone from Santa Maria, CA writes:
I Have been a victim of flasely accused domestic Violence. After being took off the lease of our home Pulled away from my 6 yr old that up till then had never spent one day apart.,Also her kids that i farthered from the age 3 and 5 and now 13 and 15. spending a month 1/2 in jail without nowing what was being told to my kids what happen to me.Bail was made and continued on trial with 5,ooo for lawyer and 3,500 for bond attended mediation witch the kids were aloud to speak on there own behalf and? Could be made by mediator the kids walked inand walked out with the six yr old was not even atend.And theses kids had witnesses so many incidents .being the mom went to night school and then with degree of medical assistant work nights. I being on disability took the kids to school made the breakfast pickup the 6 yr old. Lunch home work dinner showers wash house choirs. Now that mom was making her own money and it was hers she did not pay Any bill that was in my name after we lived off th15 yr olds disability. Check and mine allso and of course wallfair.So with that inmind i was not needed anymore. i desident to take the charge and five yr provation being that this women was making it so hard for me to see talk or visit my kids soon just the youn one would come to visitation being the other were step kids moms did not let them see me and that had a tremendous affect on them. I did not want her to go crazy if i won the trial then all the games get the kid every. Weekend and when she would work days of the week them to meanwhile the abuse in that home did not stop the abuser was still there after 3 yr. Mom has went from home with kids to engaged to be married in. Studio apartment and 15 yr old asked her mom that he did not want to live with mom she gave rights to her mom to havehef son the 13 yr old step daughter sent to colorado with aunt. And of course my duahter with me fulltime now iam not alound to call my baby mom she said it gets her in trouble with the boyfriend being it a more abused. Relationships kids have called cop cause mom and new boyfriend fight And now maybe once or 2 times a month to see her daughter. I wont collect child suport to scared of her she could falsely accuse me i still have a math order she threats me for calling to get time for exchange of kid so i will wait for povation to be done what a nightmare. Iv had to get i all past me and eat it so i can be the best single dad posible .REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 13th, 2015Someone from Santa Maria, CA writes:
I Have been a victim of flasely accused domestic Violence. After being took off the lease of our home Pulled away from my 6 yr old that up till then had never spent one day apart.,Also her kids that i farthered from the age 3 and 5 and now 13 and 15. spending a month 1/2 in jail without nowing what was being told to my kids what happen to me.Bail was made and continued on trial with 5,ooo for lawyer and 3,500 for bond attended mediation witch the kids were aloud to speak on there own behalf and? Could be made by mediator the kids walked inand walked out with the six yr old was not even atend.And theses kids had witnesses so many incidents .being the mom went to night school and then with degree of medical assistant work nights. I being on disability took the kids to school made the breakfast pickup the 6 yr old. Lunch home work dinner showers wash house choirs. Now that mom was making her own money and it was hers she did not pay Any bill that was in my name after we lived off th15 yr olds disability. Check and mine allso and of course wallfair.So with that inmind i was not needed anymore. i desident to take the charge and five yr provation being that this women was making it so hard for me to see talk or visit my kids soon just the youn one would come to visitation being the other were step kids moms did not let them see me and that had a tremendous affect on them. I did not want her to go crazy if i won the trial then all the games get the kid every. Weekend and when she would work days of the week them to meanwhile the abuse in that home did not stop the abuser was still there after 3 yr. Mom has went from home with kids to engaged to be married in. Studio apartment and 15 yr old asked her mom that he did not want to live with mom she gave rights to her mom to havehef son the 13 yr old step daughter sent to colorado with aunt. And of course my duahter with me fulltime now iam not alound to call my baby mom she said it gets her in trouble with the boyfriend being it a more abused. Relationships kids have called cop cause mom and new boyfriend fight And now maybe once or 2 times a month to see her daughter. I wont collect child suport to scared of her she could falsely accuse me i still have a math order she threats me for calling to get time for exchange of kid so i will wait for povation to be done what a nightmare. Iv had to get i all past me and eat it so i can be the best single dad posible .REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 13th, 2015Someone from Santa Maria, CA signed.
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Jul 13th, 2015Someone from Kyle, TX writes:
My husband just got served a 20 year sentance for DV that he didnt commit. The DA was very raciest and was talking about him and my family so everyone could hear it. She threatend him if he didnt take a plea she was going to hang him. Tell me how is that justice? Something has to be done.REPORT COMMENTS
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