Please stop the unfair punishment of good fathers. We need child support reform now!
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Jan 4th, 2017Someone from Hollister, CA writes:
I continue to see a broken child support system favoring mothers. Mothers and fathers should simply be treated fairly. Parents who have 50/50 custody should not be paying support to each other . When an adult chooses to have a child they are equally responsible to provide and support that child. My brother and my boyfriend both have good jobs and every time they advance in their career they're obligated to provide money to their children's mothers. There should be no penalty or obligation that entitles these women to more money if the father is playing an active role supporting their children and if they have 50% custody this should be a wash, , the moms should have the same obligations as the fathers to provide for their children. -
Jan 4th, 2017Shane K. from Apple Valley, CA writes:
I have 50 percent custody of my son and still have to pay an unreasonable amount of money each month; even after proving that I pay for literally everything for him. I chose to go to school to make a decent living for myself and she has chosen a career that pays barely over minimum wage. Basically, because I have chosen to have a better life for my son and myself, I'm getting punished for it. Modern times calls for "equality" amongst men and women. Why is Child support rigged in the mothers favor still?REPORT COMMENTS
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Jan 4th, 2017Richard D. from Fayetteville, NC writes:
Most definitely in need of a changed I'm a hard working father who loves his son. I would love to be able to buy him other more than what I can but my son mother jus sits at home and collects my hard earned money it gets hard and depressing at times knowing that my son is getting short changed on life because his mother wants to sit at home and collect. How can child support be for the child if it's going to all her bills. He has no clothes Besides what I. Y by working extra routes at work. We fathers need some justice in the process of gettin a lawyer so I can see some type of change. I never knew being a father would be this hard. Woman make it harder to be a great father as well as the legal sys it's designed for us to fail. But let's fight ????????????REPORT COMMENTS
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Jan 4th, 2017Someone from New Castle, PA writes:
My ex walked away with another guy before we knew she was pregnant. 3 years later I'm getting hit with child support and back pay for child support. i feel its a unjust system.REPORT COMMENTS
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Jan 4th, 2017Stewart T. from Austell, GA writes:
I feel that I fall in this category I'm a good father to my daughter I spend time with her we talk about life such as what is going on with her . so I lost my job and out of work for about six's months got behind on my support but now I'm working steady again now child support enforcement wants to take me to court for contemp even though child support comes out my check every week on top of my license being suspended its totally unfair to the father who is doing his best to meet his obligations and trying to keep a roof over my head it's one road block after another .REPORT COMMENTS
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Jan 3rd, 2017Someone from Newburgh, NY signed.
Jan 3rd, 2017Someone from Los Angeles, CA writes:
Total need for reform, I want the woman to have an abortion, but she was employed and stayed that way through her entire pregnancy! Went to her parents stayed for free and saddled me with huge child support payments no visitation and moved to Hawaii!! This woman is constantly underemployed & always in school never obtaining a degree simply switching focus! I can't make payments and the court won't alter or lower so now my debt keeps stacking up!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 3rd, 2017Someone from Cleveland, OH writes:
A father from Cleveland. I see some women don't know how child support really work. Some one from Denver.... I have 2 BMS and I was good to both I left the first 1 because she wanted to be abusive. So me defending mself landed me in front of a judge that told me to stay out of trouble with her it was the best thing for me to do I listened. With my second BM she wanted a dope boy I wasnt on it she put me out had kids after me and was on welfare. So since she was on welfare I had to pay child support. So now since I got a new job they want to take more money. They have no record of my kids mom's working when they both have jobs .They found where I work but won't look for where they work .I make decent money but to pay my rent bills and put food on my table it's not enough they taking more than my rent. I try to get a modification and they took even more so now my rent is late I'm behind on bills and I barely have food in my refrigerator. So you tell me where the fairness come in. I tell the people at child support the situation they basically say my well being doesn't matter. So I can be homeless as long as I have a job so they can take money out . Then the other parent do get all of whats coming out they get the cut and if they parent gets a check or medical the father pays for that. So bottom line yea it's some foul dudes out here that don't take care of they kids and they need too but don't dog the ones that are make it fair for both parties. Everybody situation is different. I shouldn't have to pay her bills and take care of the things she have going on I have my own responsibility as well as my kids. I'm not out here taking care of somebody else kids nor am I moving on with my kids I just to mess with Thier mother.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 2nd, 2017Zaccheaus W. from Macon, GA writes:
I am a good father I do everything I can for all my kids. I'm even taking care other men kids so in all I'm taking care 9 kids. I'm on child support for one and he's getting $500+ a month. My other kids don't even get half of the time because my child's mother is getting most of the money. I really wish someone could change the way child support is set up. I'm 26 years old paying all the bills in my home plus child support. It's a struggle. I pray this petition does something.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 2nd, 2017Someone from Atlanta, GA writes:
Im a great father.. But i have a childish baby mother.. Im always tgere for son.. Work was in hos life since birth and still is there. Im on child support but i support my child daily.. Say i stop working.. For 2 month.. But i always take care son... But them 2 months i gotta still pay child support. So i old my son money that i dont have its a trap...REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 2nd, 2017Someone from Windsor Mill, MD writes:
How can women continue to target men to gain child support while she is collecting a six figure salary? The "child support calculator" that all judges use to determine the child support amount is unbalanced. not all women are uneducated with low job prospects. There is a community of women who just want a child and will lie to get a child and leave the man. This needs to be checkedREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 1st, 2017Someone from Wheat Ridge, CO signed.
Dec 31st, 2016Someone from Royal Palm Beach, FL writes:
The child support system here in Florida is an absolute scam. I can honestly say that I have seen how they try to ruin peoples lives. For instance, in the case that I am referring to, the mother of the children is an absolute scum bag. She sits on her big butt and does not work, she lives off of child support. That is the reason she has 6 kids from 2 different fathers and is working on having another child with the a father. There are 3 kids involved in this case I am referring to. The oldest being 14. In all the years of these children's existance, the kids have been with the mother all of 5 years. But she has had the father on child support for 10 years, taking child support, knowing that she does not have the kids. Yet the Florida Department of Revenue goes ahead and gives it to her, not knowing that she does not even have the kids. She knows how to scam & fraud the system and Florida Department of Revenue helps her to screw over the fathers of the kids. I think that there needs to be system in place where the department of revenue is constantly checking to find out if these mothers really have the kids in their possession. This piece of scum also gets food stamps and sells them for cash. Amazes me how corrupt our system is but yet does not bother to check and investigate these low life scum's. They always seem to be for the mother and make the fathers look like they are dead beats. There also needs to be a system in place where the mothers have to work too in order to get child support.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 31st, 2016Someone from Marietta, GA writes:
Here is the problem no one sees from the point of view of a single parent. I get there are a lot of no good people, man or woman. However, most times the woman has responsibilities that the man does not. Or vice versa for a single father. The parent that has primary placement of the children has to work around the hours that the children can be in daycare, at school, etc. Also, if the child has to stay home sick, who has to call into work? Not you, but the single parent! Therefore, the single parent is the one putting their employment on the line, not you. The single parent has double, triple, quadruple, and so on people to care for in the house. That means more baths, more homework, more overall responsibility. All while the free parent has all the time in the world to work more hours and provide for the children they helped bring into the world. For some, like myself, who cannot go to work, due to a child with disabilities, can't live off off the little bit we do get, and STILL provide the children with everything they need to become healthy individuals. Raising children properly IS a full time job. Example-If I was a school teacher or I worked at a daycare you'd call it a job, but since its MY children, its not!? Non-custodial parents have no concept of raising children if they are complaining about having to take care them. Either don't have children or educate yourself by putting yourself in the position of actually caring for the child full time. ONLY THEN, will you truly understand the financial aspect of raising a child.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 31st, 2016Michael P. from Lugoff, SC writes:
I think they should take childsupport from the single mothers because they ain't doing nothing with themselves but sitting on they behind not working while the fathers of her kids getting money from them while they lazy butt aint doing and take foodstamps from them too so i think this is a good idea maybe they would keep they legs close and stop being a hoe and get they lazy butt up and work to take care of they kidsREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 30th, 2016Someone from Denver, CO writes:
It is amazing how so many of you men and women have such negative responses about child support. These are not just your child or your ex wife kid they are the future of America. With that being said it's going to take a lot of money to raise a healthy, strong, child. Life is not about just giving a child what is needs it's also trying to do better to give them the extras because life is too short not to enjoy your child growing up. First of all let's get some adult since in my statement I am a single mother to a dead beat father who doesn't pay his child support, so thank you I'm writing from real life experience, I didn't go out after my marriage was over and have another child that I couldn't afford like most you men and woman do when y'all call your self moving on. Why have more kids when you can't even take care of the one you have that's real stupid to me. How many of you who is posting these statements stopped to think to better yourself and education to give your child more because you know what is needed for a good future. How many of you guys are living with your new found love and they are living off some man or woman's child support or government assistance? How many of you guys really signed over your rights so you wouldn't have to be responsible for child and say that's okay my God that makes since to you? More then anything I'm sick of you women who get with these kind of men and are all about lowering there child support so maybe they can keep you happy in name brands they can't afford. For the new love in his life you knew his situation before you got with him and you shouldn't have nothing to say about it because you don't know what the mother of that child is going through. For you mother's and Father's who feel half of the 7 and change your making a hour is to much to give in support know this it takes a lot of them four dollars to pay bills you can go without so many things your a adult but if a child does it's called neglect,and for you good fathers I would that your not on child support you should be good enough that she didn't have to do that. If a man or a woman can prove that they have taken care of your child without the court system involved a judge will not grant support the agreement will stay with the arbitrator. That will remain between the two parties. The only time the judge get's involved is when that have found enough evidence that shows the parent hasn't been supporting there child. You have to have proof you been and always have done it a account of receipts.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 30th, 2016Everardo G. from Tomball, TX writes:
I recently got got bullied by my bed lawyer and the mediator which where friends and ended up paying for visitation with my kids and paying 100% of insurance and all out of pocket expenses. My ex didn't care about the best interest if kids only herself and moneyREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 30th, 2016Ashton P. from New Orleans, LA signed.
Dec 29th, 2016Randall T. from Olean, MO writes:
They say I'm paying 50% into child support but in a 2 week period I make maybe 180.00 on my check. I make 7.65 an hour. My child support comes out of every check and the judges are saying I'm not paying in enough. Instead of my child support going down it keeps going up. And I'm getting further and further behind. I have already been to prison over this once and they are trying to put me back in. My ex wife has been after me for over 10 years to sign over my rights and I finally gave in 2 years ago and she still hasn't went to court over it. My ex girlfriend wants the same thing but she is wanting me to pay for it. And they both are married and the step dads are financially taking care of them and child support still coming out of my checks for the children. My youngest son was taken from his mother and put into dfs and he was adopted by his foster family. I'm still paying on himREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 29th, 2016Giovanni M. from Grayslake, IL writes:
I'm being requested to pay 50% of my salary for a 2 year marriage plus medical insurance expenses. How is this possible being that I also have a child from my first marriage in which I have full custody of due to her mother's passing. How is it fair that she gets to work full time and get more than half my money when I too have a child to care for. She lives in an upscale apartment when I have to rent a room from someone else's home just to make ends meet. I lost my previous job due to not being able to afford toll/gas needed to get to work. How is this at all fair? And to top it all off, she cheated and ran off with another man. Here's the worst part, I only get to see my son every 7 weeks, pay 100% of the expenses to fly to PA from IL. How is this at all fair?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 28th, 2016Someone from Victoria, TX writes:
Agree. So many fathers are trying to support there children and are not given enough credit. Some are paying there child support and don't even get to have a relationship. But the fathers are always labeled a bad father. I know the child support system here in Texas is. It fair at allREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 28th, 2016Someone from Memphis, TN writes:
I feel one parent shouldnt be getting 200 dollars for one child, when the father have 3 other kids and only make 10hr and the mother got 2 jobs, if the other fathers not taking care of their kids thats her problem, cause he have bills too those other kids shouldnt be included when they not hisREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 28th, 2016Paul S. from Appleton, WI signed.
Dec 27th, 2016Greg G. from Cleveland, OH writes:
This is long over due the way they treat good fathers in court is barbaric, unjust, and plain cruel I have been fighting for a entire year and this is just the beginning to be able to see my children my ex has tried everything under the sun to be a cancer to my relationship with our children lies so much as I was abusive to my children knowing I never even spanked my children not even once but the court appeased her every will and way..I work 2 jobs 19 hrs a day and can't even afford to get sick and stay home while she goes on vacations and the Judge says she deserves a vacation and should get away ..I could go on and on about this injustice but it needs to stopREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 26th, 2016Anonymous from Lakewood, WA writes:
Agreed! They should look at how many other children and responsibilities the man has BEFORE determining his monthly/bi-weekly payments. In my husbands case, his ex girlfriend tricked him into thinking he's the father of her child. And now he pays child support, medical, dental and child care for the little girl. And the child isn't even his. But the way the laws are, after the child is 2 years old, they law doesn't care if you're the father or not. They say it's in the "best interest of the child" if you continue to pay child support for the child, even if the child isn't yours. And I don't believe that mothers/parents who receive child support should be able to live off of government assistance. They should be made to work just as hard as the parent paying child support. A 3-5 year old kid doesn't need $500 worth of child support a month. They're out of diapers and by then are on table food, so what extra costly expenses does the child NEED? I've seen women use child support checks for themselves, opposed to what the child needs. The mother/parent receipting child support should have to keep receipts of what he/she buys with the money. And if it shows that they buy something that isn't for the child, the law should terminate their rights to receive child support. Or if it shows that they have so much money left after they buy their child the necessities, the extra money should be given back to the father OR the payments should be lowered since the receiving parent is unable to spend it all solely on the child. Some think it's acceptable for child support to be spent on bills. No, the parent should be working to pay the bills! The child support money should be ONLY for the child. The other parents money shouldn't be paying your bills or your personal needs, it should be going to ONLY the child's needs. Since in fact, that was the initial point of CHILD support.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 26th, 2016Anonymous from Lakewood, WA writes:
Agreed! They should look at how many other children and responsibilities the man has BEFORE determining his monthly/bi-weekly payments. In my husbands case, his ex girlfriend tricked him into thinking he's the father of her child. And now he pays child support, medical, dental and child care for the little girl. And the child isn't even his. But the way the laws are, after the child is 2 years old, they law doesn't care if you're the father or not. They say it's in the "best interest of the child" if you continue to pay child support for the child, even if the child isn't yours. And I don't believe that mothers/parents who receive child support should be able to live off of government assistance. They should be made to work just as hard as the parent paying child support. A 3-5 year old kid doesn't need $500 worth of child support a month. They're out of diapers and by then are on table food, so what extra costly expenses does the child NEED? I've seen women use child support checks for themselves, opposed to what the child needs. The mother/parent receipting child support should have to keep receipts of what he/she buys with the money. And if it shows that they buy something that isn't for the child, the law should terminate their rights to receive child support. Or if it shows that they have so much money left after they buy their child the necessities, the extra money should be given back to the father OR the payments should be lowered since the receiving parent is unable to spend it all solely on the child. Some think it's acceptable for child support to be spent on bills. No, the parent should be working to pay the bills! The child support money should be ONLY for the child. The other parents money shouldn't be paying your bills or your personal needs, it should be going to ONLY the child's needs. Since in fact, that was the initial point of CHILD support.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 25th, 2016Someone from Savannah, GA writes:
Yes! My husband's ex-wife is asking for an increase in support, while she doesn't have a job and isn't even looking for one. The fathers of her other 3 children aren't paying her enough apparently, so she is going after my husband for more because she knows he will pay it. Why are the good Dads always the ones that get punished?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 24th, 2016Someone from El Paso, TX writes:
I agree child support solely benefits the mother. I've heard some cases where the father pays upwards of $900 or more a month. What would a child need $900 for? The mothers use that for there own benefit. Me as a father that has been there for his daughter since day 1 have always had to deal with the court because the mother wants all the rights for herself. Men and woman are equal they deserve to be treated the same it's unfair especially if the father has his own household to support and put a roof over there head. I have a step daughter of my own and refuse to receive child support from her blood father as much as a dead beat as he is it's just unfair. Remember it takes 2 to make a child...REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 23rd, 2016Elena C. from Boca Raton, FL signed.
Dec 23rd, 2016Michael F. from Centerville, TX writes:
In my opinion we are letting the goverment come in and take over what we have to do in general rember when there wasn't a seat belt law children could ride up front food stamps were on paper now it's the US citizens in paper and only gona get worse they don't care about who we are as a person it's all about what's on paper the state is steping in on a situation where the mother had just as much play for the child at hand as the farther the minute dad gets those big words some time they run cause there scared and some is exciment why ever the case maybe every farther's first thought is how am I gona provide for this child while these days mom is just like I'm gona have a kid when she should be on the defense and say how am I gona provide for these kids equal rights right but the government does it with Medicare and food stamps and hud housing it's ridiculous when a child is part the dipper stage she really don't require but 500 dollars a year and that is school supply and clothes they are making us pay the mother's rent part with the child support while they give African Americans the man the woman and the kids money they don't have child support on that side it's almost like the paying them to stay quite lol no all seriousness. The State Needs To Stay OUT of others livesREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 22nd, 2016Someone from Jacksonville, FL writes:
parents who choose willingly not to work should not be allowed to collect child supportREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 22nd, 2016Someone from Point Roberts, WA signed.
Dec 21st, 2016Terrell S. from Henrico, VA writes:
Mothers need to start furnishing receipts for all the child's expenses to the government every month which would be forwarded to father. Every item spent from that child support debit card needs to appear in an account viewable by both parties. The same way we can log in and check our account balances to our own bank accounts and view spending so should the father's be allowed to see where his money is being spent.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 20th, 2016Ken A. from Auburndale, WI signed.
Dec 19th, 2016Aaron D. from Arvada, CO writes:
People's lives are being destroyed on a daily basis due to the unfair laws that family courts enforce. Parents are to caught up in what they can gain, rather than what is truly best for the child. I love my son and get limited time with him. I want half of the responsibility and I just want to be able to provide things for my child on my own..not through this person that has used the gift of life as a way to cash in. If I can't take care of myself due to such high monthly obligations deemed necessary by courts than how can I provide for my son or build resources to help sustain a healthy living environment that is beneficial to his growth and development. Trump, if you really want to make America great again then start here with Family and make this approach toward parental responsibility more fair and civilized. Right now this country is in peril, if we can't fix what's most important first than all else will topple thereafter.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelDec 18th, 2016Someone from Conyers, GA signed.
Dec 17th, 2016Someone from Ypsilanti, MI writes:
The fact that i can not get a passport to work for an airlines is stupid. Also i can keep getting dragged into court when the mother thinks i have money is truely a waste of tax payers money. Aldo they dont give the mother all of the money.REPORT COMMENTS
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