Unfair child support laws
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Jan 15th, 2016Someone from Tucson, AZ writes:
There are to many rights for the woman as far as child support laws go. When a woman THREATENS you with child support, there is something wrong. -
Jan 15th, 2016Someone from Mountain View, CA signed.
Jan 15th, 2016Someone from Saint Paul, MN writes:
I have a good job, but lived homeless for three years because my x-wife lie about domestic abuse and end up paying almost all my salary. She admit she lie to the court after she get the money she wanted. The court didn't do nothing but order me to pay her alimony and child support. She do not work and her new boy friend doesn't either. I took care all of them while living in misery.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 15th, 2016Someone from San Francisco, CA signed.
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Jan 15th, 2016Someone from San Jose, CA writes:
I am a working mom who can`t afford to support my ex husband, we are 50/50 custudy and he is health and able to make living, I ma financially crashed, this is not 1950 this is 2016!!! If any parent ask for custody they need to show they are able to do what is t=best for the kids and able to support them!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 15th, 2016Someone from Perryton, TX signed.
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Jan 14th, 2016Someone from Sugar Land, TX writes:
20% of income for 1 child in texas means the mom doesn't have do anythingREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2016Someone from Leander, TX writes:
It takes two people to make a child male and female so it should take two to raise it in every aspect equal rights equal responsibility everything should be 50/50 cause thats what it took to make a child everyone deserves to be happy we all really need to unite to get this to congress cause enough is enough it's time for change and a closed mouth doesnt get fed so voice all your concerns and lets make a difference today for a better tomorrowREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2016Someone from Victoria, TX writes:
No more free rides. I worked and went back to college for the second time and when I got a better career the ag office told me to pay 1500 per month. My ex wife wouldn't go to school or get a job . That's one of the reasons I divorced her. She never helped me. And now I pay her more than I made per month when I was with her... thanks us government yall have your heads up your ass.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2016Someone from Payson, UT writes:
This system is set up to enable mothers who have kids to stay home and never work, while enslaving fathers with a debt burden for 18 years, and make it extremely difficult to get even ground when it comes to time with the children, and the support amount paid. Time to fix the defunct Child Support system.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2016Someone from Mauldin, SC writes:
Its called child support..not her Support...i dont mind paying..but how is it that im paying $700 a month plus medical..killing my self to survive and my daughter mom doesnt work at all and lives off the system..to me..thats called double dipping..and she gets away with it because. Child support isnt considered income..this ******** has to stop..she needs to get off her fat a$$ and get a job like alot of. Other tax paying americanREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2016Someone from Doylestown, PA writes:
My ex-wife is a very controlling woman that grew tired of me not doing as she commanded. She found another man, while we were still married, and moved on. Because of her infidelity, she was punished by the divorce court and received nearly none of the marital assets. Now she is using the power vested to her by the child support laws to punish me in retaliation. Giving my ex-wife the power to control nearly every aspect of my life. This came to a crisis point when my employer shut down and left me unemployed last year. Unable to find a position that compensated me at the same level, I attempted to start my own business. I then attempted to modify support to my new level of income, and the courts punished me for being self-employed and would not reduce my obligation. Citing that I could make the higher salary if I would find a job working for someone else. Since my support was set at a level higher than my gross income, I had to give up on self-employment. I then took the first job I could find in my area, which paid much less than my prior employment. Once again, the courts punished me for finding a job not paying enough, and would not reduce my support payment. They determined that if I gave up my underwater home and moved to a different state that I could find more fruitful employment. Leaving my friends, family, children, and home behind me. Due to arrearage growth and the very high payment the courts are garnishing 50% of my gross pay, and the arrearage is still growing. After the support garnishment, taxes, social security, insurance, and all other deductions? I am forced to live on less than 20% of my gross pay, leaving me well below the poverty level. As a result over the past 9 months I have lost my home, my vehicle, and had to sell almost all of my possessions. I am a college graduate that now sleeps on a friends couch and I have to ride a bicycle 12 miles to work every day. I have taken a second job at a hardware store down the street, leaving me very little time with my children. If I do not change my situation, when my children reach the age to end my obligation, I will owe my ex-wife nearly $70 in back child support. I challenge anyone to justify the fairness of child support!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2016Someone from Sikeston, MO writes:
Nothing about this system is fair. It leaves us hard working men with nothing. No paycheck at all an some of us don't even get to see our kids. I work 40 hours a week an a student an my check this week was $73. Not to mention I have a fiance and 2 other kids at home. I don't even have money to take care of my family at home since my first baby momma cheated on me and ran off with my daughter. Now me and my family has to suffer. I'm out of options and sometimes I think about just ending my life cause everything just goes bad dealing with this corrupt system. No money an can't see my daughter. What's to live for when your own country makes laws to keep hard working father's down?? All the law's just support women even the corrupt mothers who just abuse the system without any care in the world how it effects the father. I love my family but I hate this unfair life. Working for not even half a salary is getting old.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2016Someone from Newport, VA writes:
The child support laws should correlate to the custody laws. A mom sits home on her behind, withholds the child, asks for more support and gets it, blows the money on gifts to bribe the child, threatens more court, and dads don't have a leg to stand on. This is NOT JUSTICE!! Mothers should be required to look for work or have an income if fathers' support amounts are increased due to a mom's inability to budget. Plus, if the custody order isn't being followed, then a child support increase should not be entertained in court!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2016Someone from Grass Lake, MI writes:
The system is a joke. My wife walked out claiming abuse none of which was proven and all was refuted by our 7yo, 15yo, 17yo and 20yo. All 4 said there was no abuse and refused to leave with her when she left and refuse to talk to her with the exception of the 7yo. During an emergency custody hearing, the judge granted her week on week off parenting time and $450 per month child support just for the 7yo but did not grant me anything for the 15 and 17yo who reside with me. Fast forward several months later and FOTC is recommending me for sole custody of the children but only thinks I should get $289 for all 3 children....$450 per month to her for only one child that we had equal time with and now only $289 when I will have all 3 the majority of the time to include school expenses??? Really?? Yep, seems pretty fair to me!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 14th, 2016Someone from Columbia, MD signed.
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Jan 13th, 2016Someone from Butte, MT writes:
When two people divorce they create a PARENTING PLAN in the court system.Well if they can create this plan then you would think that between the two adults they can create a CHILD SUPPORT PLAN. No more trading days for dollars folks.I beleive a NEW METHOD will be in the future its called.....CHILDRENS CHECKBOOK.Both parents will contribute equally to support theyre childrens needsThis way both parents can see where the money is being spent.If you go on line.,you can look all of this up..CHILD SUPPORT PLAN & CHILRENS CHECK BOOK.Surely this is one way for both parents share the childrens expensess.Its very interesting.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 13th, 2016Someone from Cabazon, CA signed.
Jan 13th, 2016Someone from Scottsville, KY writes:
I have my daughter about 13 days a month. It's not much compared to most, but I pay 300 a month in child support and have never missed a payment since it started 3 years ago. I didn't choose divorce, I didn't abuse her or cheat on her. She did, however, cheat on me. The next thing I knew she said she didn't love me anymore and carried my then 1 year old daughter away screaming "daddy!" I was heartbroken. I fought for a year in court, spent a tone of money. She got a free lawyer. I got on paperwork that I can get her every other weekend, and alternate weekdays. Totaling 10 days a month. Her mother gives her to me on request most of the time an additional 3-5 days a month. So since I have her so much, but her clothes food and more toys than a five year old could want.... Why do I have to pay child support? I made then only 12 an hour, now I make 15. So I'm not rich. With everything taken out I get paid 280 a week. I can barely pay my bills. I make to "much" to get assistance as she does. I can't claim her on anything. I once mentioned to her that it doesn't take that much to support a child half the time, that I would pay half of any medical (which she gets for her for free) and I would pay half of anything from school, if she would just drop it or at least could have it reduced. What did I get? A letter in the mail. Court summons. She was taking me to court for calmly and rationally asking her to drop child support one time! Nothing happened but I have learned to keep my mouth shut cause freedom of speech or fairness of any kind doesn't apply here. I'm tired of hearing dead beat dads deadbeat dads. Cause there are those like me who love their children very much, whose life isn't just football and hunting and a kid is just in my way of having a good time. My life is my children, I rarely ever get anything for myself, it goes to them. And I'm fine with that, but I'm not given much to work with here. Now I have a thee month old son with another woman who left. She abandoned the baby with someone in another state and this girl contacts me after me searching for them for months and tells me she has him. So over a period of a month I go see him, get a lawyer and win full custody of him. The mother shows up during court to fight for him after not seeing her newborn for over a month! Well we still have many more hearings to go. But my lawyer mentioned to the judge about her paying child support to me, which I'm for if the other parent has little or nothing to do with the child. And guess what? Denied! For the time being. Yeah. A woman paying child support!!!! Are you outa your head!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 13th, 2016Someone from Houston, TX writes:
In my opinion why don't the courts make women report where the child support money goes? All the money that is given to these moms goes unwatched, i see women with new cars all the time, moving from house to house, clothes that make them look hot and so onĀ as soon as they placed there ex on child support. I think support should be just for what it takes to raise the kids, and the money should have to be shown where it went and if it cant then it needs to be given back!Ā This is unfair to us supporting the mother as well they suppose to show how that money is spent show proof as in where the money is being spent like every month child support and courts should issue paper work on them to write everything they bought down with a recipe to at least show the fathers that the money our hard earned money goes to the kids and not the mother so why should this be any difficult to do so? My thing is it should be monitored 100% and it should go to the child!! If mom wants to get a new wardrobe and buy new cars then mom needs to get a job!!!!Ā Child support never has been and never will be fair to fathers and its unfortunate. Most dads aren't deadbeat dad's they want to know and make sure that the money is for the child and not the mother this is why most men skip out on paying. And another thing is I don't get why we have to give half of our check i mean we should support but dang how much does it take to really support its crazy because we have bills we also might have other children to provide care for as well something has to be said and done about this we work hard and sometimes we have to get a second job to make ends meet I understand the child needs support but how about look into our situation too we need support ourselves in order to provide support. .. well all we want is to be treated fair and not unfair just saying to the father's that own up to it ........?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 13th, 2016Someone from Killeen, TX writes:
I can only echo what everyone is already saying.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 13th, 2016Someone from Springdale, AR writes:
I've followed the decree to the letter. However my ex has not. My crime? Wanting to be a father to my child. Because I asked for a change of visitation after moving out of state, I fell behind in support. This was used as a weapon to get me to stop seeking any kind of visitation. I'm told I owe a little over 7K in back support, which I'm not sure how this is possible because when I do the math, I pay $5'200 a year, and I was only out of work maybe six months, definitely not more than a year. I had started making payments again as soon as I got another job, but was still arrested. I'm now ordered to continue to pay the current order and must pay an additional $250 a month plus court fees and classified now as a felon. I've never broken the law in my life with the exception of a traffic ticket here and there. My salary is now 12k lower a year than it was at my divorce. I live in a studio apartment, and after all is said and done, I'm left with $34.00 at the end of each month. So I have to decide, food, or gas in the car? S No cable, not a fancy car, a cheap cell phone with a low rate of $36 a month. Nothing flashy about me at all, not one bit. I now have to get a second job; hard to come by with my current job and hours. The second job will only keep me from seeing my child even more, as I will have no time to visit her. I've not seen or talked to my daughter in two years. Mother doesn't feel that she is compelled to foster the relationship between my child and I. I'm constantly told I hurt our child by begging she have a relationship with me, to the point I've just let her go in the hopes that she will find me some day. My crime was that I no longer wanted to be in an abusive marriage. And that I wanted to just be a father. I have been denied access to my daughter even at her school. There is no order that says I can't see her, but I have been denied. Her step father has more rights than I do as far as even the school system is concerned, how is this right? I've been essentially told to pay up, and shut up.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 13th, 2016Someone from San Antonio, TX writes:
Child support reform is not workong, change child support legislation. that benefit the parent not the stateREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 13th, 2016Someone from Mesa, AZ writes:
The current child support laws are a joke and a disgrace to the hard working men and women that actually want to provide for their children. Basing payments on gross income leaves little or no money left to live on by the time taxes, insurance, and child support are taken from the gross income. Too many instances where children never receive the benefits intended for them. There must be accountability from the custodial parent to the non-custodial parent to show what the money was used for.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 12th, 2016Someone from Myrtle Beach, SC signed.
Jan 12th, 2016Someone from Spencer, WI writes:
I have 50/50 custody and I have to pay for insurance, sports, clothing, go to appointments and etc.. all and more than the mother takes care of and yet I'm still ordered to pay her support cause she doesn't want to work more than 32 hours a week or apply for a job with responsibilitys .So I busted my*****to make a living and she sit comfortably and reaps my rewards. If you ask me this is like legalised prostitution you have woman tricking man and getting pregnant or flat out lying to them and getting pregnant for financial gain a pay check, health care, housing assistance, food stamps and etc... Anyway to sum it up sex for gain. And social service ( the pimp) comes in and makes the man pay. If there is 50/50 equally shared placement and no one is more responsible than the other where in the world should there ever be an exchange of money each parent should take care of there half. Otherwise both parents compete to make less so not to pay the other and the child suffers or there's hurt feelings and animosity created by having money basically stolen from you and again the child suffers . HELP!!!!!!!! Please fix thisREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 12th, 2016Someone from Stanton, CA signed.
Jan 12th, 2016Someone from Butte, MT writes:
I have been following this petition for a while now..Congress can't you see the plea for change for the the unjust child support laws.The way this is all set up is set for the fathers to fail.Going to jail,losing ones license,getting a felony because he may have lost his job & just cannot make a payment.Wow please look at what all of this is doing to the parents & the children that are involved here.It is destroying people lives.Why isn't something being done.Look at the responses to this petition. Reform is desperately needed.PLEASE DO SOMTHING to help the people crying out in our own country.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 12th, 2016Someone from San Leandro, CA writes:
I am the (custodial parent) father of a 16 year old daughter. She has been in my custody off and on since she was 2 years old. I was granted full custody when she was in the 4th grade. During the early years the mother gave false information to the courts and child support began to accumulate and continued for about 4 years without me knowing. My immigration status was the reason for CSS not being able to notify me correctly. Long story short......Our daughter is 16 now. The mother has never paid for a school lunch, or bought any school clothes or even attend a school function but because there are no laws in place for fathers that take care of their children I am still obligated to pay child support & arrears till this day even though the mother has never provided 1 cent towards anything in 9 years. Not even consistent visitation. I tried filing a child support case against her and it was denied because according to the courts (she is on aid). How can this government allow someone to remain on aid for that many years??? People need to realize that just because you have a child support case or you owe arrears doesn't make you a deadbeat. Mothers that don't take care of children they already have and continue to have more kids while the government keeps assisting them are the REAL deadbeats!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJan 12th, 2016Someone from Panama City Beach, FL writes:
Comment after comment of the destruction caused by family courts and child support laws. I am also a victim. No record here. i have been put in jail with criminals because i became a parent. Saddam Hussain never treated parents this bad in his Country. This needs to change. Time for State government to get out of our homes and out of our families. The destruction to the families in this Country is disgusting. I am actually considering leaving the Country because of child support laws. i can make a better life for my children outside of the U.S our Corporations and jobs are leaving the Country. And now families are leaving the Country for a better life because the destruction divorce and child support laws have on our children. (sarcasim)....Great job congress and state legislators. Keep up the great work!REPORT COMMENTS
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