Unfair child support laws
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Apr 17th, 2016Someone from Erie, PA writes:
child support is a wonderful idea , but implemented so very very poorly , my ex doesn't work and lives in a house with a boy friend with 3 of his own kids , and those kids mother does not pay support , my ex then spends the money i pay on support , supporting her boy friends children ... then tells me she needs to modify it for an increase , these kind of situations should not be allowed to happen . a man paying support who wants to be a father, has to pay this bill , then on top of it , spend the money he would normally spend on his children . its double dipping , and the system is abused by people daily -
Apr 17th, 2016Someone from Taft, TN writes:
I am a victim of paying my hard earned money,to support my daughter's mothers drug addiction to meth, I've tried explaining my situation to courts but keel getting reminded that the state of Tennessee only enforces payment, not on how it's spent.REPORT COMMENTS
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Apr 16th, 2016Someone from Norfolk, VA writes:
Also to add note if I want or need a better job and trying to do so child support agency's and the mother want allow me to get a better job because the law set up in Va is that if you owe more than $2,500.00 in child support one isn't able to get a pass port and I feel that is extremely wrong when the pass port is for better work positions and only for work but child support agency's tells my children's mother not to with draw the child support because I want a better job but if she was to with draw and I get a pass port to get a better job with Merchant Seaman and once I am accepted and she go back to reopen the case that means more money for my children's and they can be taking care of better !! But child support agency's tell her not to with draw nothing and children's mother listen to the agency's and this isn't helping me nor my children's at all and these people trying to manifest to my kids that I don't take care of them or don't wont to take care of them I don't expect and don't won't nobody to take care of mines I created them and it's my duty to take care of them in every way possible the system and the courts need to stop giving these mothers all these lead ways of wrong to destroy the Father's that wish and want to be father's in their children livesREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 16th, 2016Someone from Norfolk, VA writes:
Child support guidelines are totally wrong and misleading out dated and the system is making money the child doesn't receive the money the one parent do and the system and the child support agency's shouldn't be able to receive not one brown penny off the child support moneyREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 16th, 2016Someone from Curwensville, PA signed.
Apr 16th, 2016Someone from Austin, TX writes:
I hate to he negative an to the point.the system lives off this an are paid threw this because of grants an kickbacks.it takes the man or woman to make this happen.now I'm someone who can testify the complaints an has. but now I see that no matter what we say or how many times we keep this going this will never change.The children are tokens an the parents who run to this flawed system are fools.We the people need to just see that we are doomed an this is just the way it was set up.Their is no room to be a respectable parent, it is not profitable..Dysfunction is!They know the answers, but we know the "powers that be" dont hold or best interest in mind.......on mad an fed up real father...An I do understand my choice in who I had my son with is my fault but at the same time its time for the woman this state in Texas favors so much understand it takes one sperm an one ovary... Thanks.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 16th, 2016Someone from Knob Noster, MO signed.
Apr 16th, 2016Someone from Kalamazoo, MI writes:
How can someone else who had nothing to do with creating a child be financially responsible for someone else child? Who the he'll thought that would be an okay thing to do. My refund is taken to pay his back support and he gets ssi. Took whole return to pay for 1 child and screw the 5 i have and work for. He doesn't pay but I have to. How does that even make sense? And to top off it's a default order at least his name is on my kids birth certificate I have proven mine are his. Absolutely ridiculous!!!!! Take it anyway you can don't matter if your hurting other kids as long as you help one. Top it off haven't received my cs in 13 yrs but don't expect a call from me I can and have done it on my own don't help my child if his dad is in jail. It's better he sees him and he does what he can when he can then using my kid for income. Oh and the only reason foc cares is because they want their cut and send me the scraps lol no thank you foc.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 16th, 2016Someone from Laurel, MD signed.
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Apr 16th, 2016Someone from Panama City Beach, FL signed.
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Apr 16th, 2016Someone from Cumberland, MD writes:
How is it fair that a state can say you have to pay 400 dollars a month when your bring home after taxes is only 600 bucks?? How do they expect you to live on 300 dollars a check while you take care of your other child full time?? I work part time and I raise my 5 year old daughter by myself with no help from the state and my son's mother wants 400 dollars a month in child support when it does not take that much to raise a child...I can do it with my daughter for around 200..Why should my only option be work a second job and never see my daughter or my other option give custody of my daughter back to her herion addicted mother because I can not longer afford to take care of her while my son's mother lives in luxury?? You crooks have the power to stop this and yet you choose to sit back and watch has the system destroys people's lives. I have no problem HELPING support my son, but why should my daughter have to suffer because you guys say that she does not matter. How do you sleep at night?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 15th, 2016Someone from North Liberty, IA writes:
My boyfriend has been paying child support for years to a woman who does not put a dollar of her own money towards her child but relies purely on the money from child support to pay for everything. How do I know this? When my boyfriend had to have a surgery, and couldn't pay child support for a few weeks because it was a major surgery and he needed to recover and couldn't work, guess who came to us and told us she's been eating nothing but rice and her phone has been disconnected because she (the child) is out of money and she won't be doing any sports this spring because she (my boyfriend's elementary age child) is out of money. Apparently my boyfriend's child can have things from her mother when the mother receives child support but can not have things from her mother when her mother does not receive child support. Did I mention the mom has a gambling problem and gets paid more money at her job than my boyfriend makes? Never mind that the mother purposefully alienates the child from him whenever she feels like it, occasionally breaking court orders, telling their child that her dad is bad whenever she can, and never mind that the court never takes into account that maybe these women fight so hard in court to have more time with their children because they want the money. It amazes me how biased this system is, how a parent has to financially struggle because they have to make such large child support payments while the parent who receives child support can throw away money like its nothing. I think this system encourages dysfunctional relationships, I think it exists the way that it does so that the state gets a portion of each of those child support payments, and I think it is actually creating a lot of emotional abuse for children who want a relationship with both of their parents, and I ask, how does a system like this that is so poorly run, that has so many people abusing it, exist in the United States?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 15th, 2016Someone from Pflugerville, TX writes:
The mother and I where never married or have we been in a relationship since my son was born. My son was born in 2002. I was put on Child Support by his Mother in 2005. I've been 100% involved in my son life financial and emotionally since he was born. From 2002 to 2005 my son lived with his mom and grandmother while I attended school to obtain a degree. I dropped out in 2005. His Mother left town to attend school from 2005-2007, all while I'm paying child support and my son being left in the primary care of myself, my mother and her mother. She graduated in 2007 took my son and moved from Texas to Georgia from 2007-2009. My son came back to live with me because she couldn't handle him, so he lived between me and her mom, all while I'm still paying child support. She moved back to Texas 2010 and since them I still pay her child support and cover 100% of what he needs in my care. Sports fees, haircuts, shoes, clothes, activities ect... The system has failed in this case because the state is trying to increase support not fully understanding the full scope and only concerned about what the guidelines are. The State guildlines in this case are not in the best interest of the child, when causing me to pay more money puts my monthly expenses to be greater than my monthly income. This will be economic hardship. I'm married with a newborn and a 8 year old daughter who isn't legally mine but i've taken care of her for the last 7 years. My son mother is married and makes double what I make on her own. I have no problem taking care of my son, I have a problem with the system going off guidelines that need to be updated to fit the entire situation and lifecycle. My son is very well taken care of on both sides but based on State guidelines I'm being treated like a dead beat FATHER! FATHERSLIVESMATTERREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 15th, 2016Someone from Bakersfield, CA signed.
Apr 15th, 2016Someone from Larimore, ND writes:
Child support as it is is old world. It's disgusting really. One parents feet are held to the fire. The methods used to collect and calculate it are ridiculous. I believe it to be corrupt. Why should a person have their civil liberties taken when no crime is committed. Unfair and unjust.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 15th, 2016Someone from Charlotte, NC signed.
Apr 15th, 2016Someone from Glendale, AZ writes:
I don't receive my tax returns, 60% of my wages are garnished, and 50% of my retirement. I get to see my children once a year, all because I can't afford to drive anywhere but house to work, let alone 5 states away. My ex hasn't had a job in 5 yrs and lives with her parents and our kids. In no way does that seem legitimate.REPORT COMMENTS
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Apr 14th, 2016Someone from Bartlett, IL writes:
For years I worked 2 jobs after my ex-wife lost her job because it was found out she was having her 1st affair (that I knew of) with her then boss and my friend. She stayed at home, went to the pool and off on vacations with her girlfriends. I was working both jobs, coaching the kids soccer and being a scout leader. 10yrs later back to work she goes, has another affair with her millionaire married boss. Both ask for divorces and are now married. I had to pay half of the house to her, she paid off the new car and took it and took half my retirement, half my bank account and my kids, I pay health insurance on all and child support. Illinois laws SUCK!!!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 14th, 2016Someone from Wichita, KS writes:
Child support laws these days actually are so one sided that they do not truly consider both parents ability to survive which according to the interpretation of the law is that the child should not see a difference from before a divorce, but if one parent can't even afford a car or home, isn't that different for the child?REPORT COMMENTS
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Apr 14th, 2016Someone from Columbus, NC writes:
I'm paying over $1600 a month between court ordered child support and court ordered insurance while 2 of my children's mother lives in a half a million dollar home,always in a different new car,a member at the country club and going on about 4 cruises plus other expensive vacations a year. The other two children's mother hasn't worked a day in over 7yrs because she is a wanna be artist who sits at home painting while myself and her other child's father keeps up her hobby and drinking habits. The NC law states the father is 100% financially responsible for the children but the way I see it them children wouldn't be here if that man and that woman had not had sex which means the woman is half responsible for creating the child so they should be half responsible for the child's financial needs. No wonder Fathers are so bitter!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 14th, 2016Someone from Fort Worth, TX writes:
American society has changed since the 1950's, but Family Law has not. It it time for a change.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 14th, 2016Someone from Harleysville, PA writes:
I pay child support for my two children I have half of the time. I work, and go to school part time. I do everything I can to support my kids, and I am simply exhausted. My ex inherited money, has a husband, and can always see the kids even on my time for sports and school events because she does not have a job other than watching another child. I feel at some point I am just not going to be able to keep up, and my children will lose their father because of this system.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 14th, 2016Someone from Kansas City, MO writes:
Dont get me wrong i make decent money, 19+ an hour but over 3/4 of my biweekly paychecks go towards child support and insurance for my daughter, leaving me with less than 500$ a month to cover all my bills rent fuel, ect., but yet her mother who works a minimum wage job, doesnt have to pay i for insirance for my daughter hers is paid for by obama care, and is able to take a two week vacation every year to cancun while i am stuck at home working my self to death for next to nothing, how exactly is this a working system?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 14th, 2016Someone from Maricopa, AZ writes:
Honestly It's all bull suit it is all for the purpose of "Money" they mean ( CHILD) is there way of getting a way with it! Every adult and by adult I mean men women 18 and older know what their responsibility are and if they do not help then why bother with the bull shut if you love your child that much you are going to bust your assistance off to take care of your children with pride because you know they are your life! That is my opinion I am a single mother who's life have changed with a blink of an eye a heart beat.....Do to false reports and excuses of abuse and negligence bull suit my*****so that they may put there concerns for the safety of the children when in reality they mentally and emotional abuse the not to mention that they do not expect the child to feel or fear in anyway anything because it's in the children's best nature well I apologize with all do respect **** You How do you go home and sleep comfortable knowing that what you do is wrong yes I understand their are children that are really in need of emergency removal and that is " SOME" not 90% removal and 10% that are really in need remain in the home what type of bull suit is that? No I do not submit to sign in order to leave my opinion sorry I disagreeREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 14th, 2016Someone from Canton, OH writes:
I am a single father who lives on $60 a week that $240 a month now I understand that my child needs things however why should I have to pay someone that no longer has my daughter. I feel as though I am a slave to a system that has failed and needs fixed my daughter has been bounced from her mother to her grandparents and now to a cousin I now owe over $2000 because of the low wages I make something must be doneREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 14th, 2016Someone from Thurmont, MD writes:
hey, Here I am protesting the unfair and tricking me into signing a agreement that was held by third party regarding the child and child support. I am struggling to support my current family of 6. This child support system with interstate child support law keeping telling me to go to where the claim is when I am currently living in other state. Child support takes my livinghood check plus work check leaving me just 200 bucks to support my family in "homeless" situation because $200 will not pay the rent, utilities, gas for a loan car and other things necessities to function. How the hell can I get help if I am stranding with a $200 bucks? Government is ignoring the dire economic of its male populations. The child is living in a state school yet I must contribute the support to the parent of the child who is living in a state institution. All I need was a help to solve the dilemma of this shitty law. All the law and government agencies is telling me to cough up money! How do I maintain this if the income is way below my ability to maintain a home and supporting a child who lives in state institution? Is the government trying to rip me off at their expenses? When I get a contempt hearing telling me to go to court in Texas the next day! How do I travel if it is the next day? No advance warning or attempt to give me the chance to dispute the charges at all. Why cant the financial situation involves both parties in supporting the child in question? Why is this stereotyping the male to support while the mother collects money siting at home? Thank you for hearing me out. I am in bad situation and hope someone helps me with the interstate lawsREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 14th, 2016Someone from Birmingham, AL writes:
I am a single mom who pays child support and I don't think it's fair when I was young I agreed to let my children stay with their grandmother from their father side she was supposed to return my kids when I got on my feet because living with her son wasn't any help in the home something happened with my daughter well my oldest daughter she end up having a seizure and it's a when we took her to the hospital a nurse said she had bruises on her bottom so we had a doctor look at them and they confirm they weren't bruises they were Mongolian spots but from that day on Social Services stayed in my life so I had to let my children stay with their grandmother I didn't move to the city that their grandmother stays in in Alabama where I was going to get my own place which I did and a job she then in return went and got a lawyer and had a court date that I knew nothing of so I looked at like the bad guy who didn't show up for court and her and her husband were given custody of my kids later they told me that they would need to adopt them to receive some extra income that her husband their grandfather was getting for disability or something like that so we're agreed then the grandfather passed and I was still left to pay child support if my kids are grown 1 is 17 now I owe 38000 and arrears and it has ruined my life completely my kid's father which is her son doesn't have to pay anything never has never will and she is hitting him from the court system but I am the one suffering from this and me and my kids talk everyday I see them spend time with them we have a wonderful relationship but I'm the one sitting out here struggling trying to pay bills keep a roof over my head and my other child my new family and I'm still behind $38,000 for child support just because their grandmother was upset with me and my kids relationship I have no help to pay this balance off I can't receive income taxes I can't have good credit or anything because of thisREPORT COMMENTS
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Apr 14th, 2016Someone from York, PA writes:
My husband's ex-wife gets almost half of his paycheck every two weeks, free insurance from the state, and is going on a week-long vacation to Mexico at the end of the month. How is that possibly fair???REPORT COMMENTS
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