Unfair child support laws
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May 19th, 2013Someone from Boswell, IN writes:
I have 3 children from a previous marriage, and never once forced their father to pay child support. I believe that if they are truly a father they will help raise their children without being forced to. My husband on the other hand is a victim of the courts, he married a woman that already had kids because she was pregnant, long story short, they were married when a child was born that is not his, but they were married...so he can't fight it he has to pay. To top it off his ex knows there is nothing he can do so she takes him to court every 2 months to get child support increases, while he's not even aloud visitation! How is any of this fair? For a man that pays child support to even live a normal life he has to get with a woman who collects more in child support than he pays out! -
May 19th, 2013Someone from Lincoln, NE writes:
And they should not be entitled to receive EIC that is meant to benefit my children living with me! These children are entitled to have clothes that fit and enjoy life too. There should also be an agency that enforces visitation and let's punish CP's that refuse to give it! NCP's can't afford to fight repeatedly for visitation after making their support payments. And NCP's shouldn't be made to feel guilty or be punished for having a second family. Just because there was a divorce doesn't mean that the NCP was the cause. And if a CS order forces/qualifies a NCP to be on welfare, don't you think that order should be looked at again?REPORT COMMENTS
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May 19th, 2013Someone from Lincoln, NE signed.
May 19th, 2013Someone from Springfield, MA writes:
My ex-wife quit her job when she started to receive cs. What about if she had children with previous relationships and did not seek support then. How can she pick and choose?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 19th, 2013Someone from Laurinburg, NC writes:
What is fair about Child Support.....Custodial Parents get all the benefits and yet the Non Custodial Parents have to foo the bill..... So, do you want people off welfare....Do you want to end the so-called "Deadbeat Daddy" status.....Then allow Non Custodial Parents tax deductions for child support Paid....Stop allowing Custodial Parents who do not work.....additional tax breaks such as EIC......MAKE IT FAIR FOR EVERYONE!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 19th, 2013Someone from Portsmouth, VA writes:
Child Support is nothing more than a for profit venture set up by the states to receive federal incentives under Title IV and other federal laws all invoking vile and vicious laws such as the Bradley Admendment (which needs to be repealed by the way). Why does the federal government provide these funds? Even officials with the GAO have been quoted as saying that this is a huge waste of money. The current child support system actually destroys families to create the conditions needed to allow the family courts to step in and collect these arbitrary amounts of money just so they can be paid by the federal government for doing so. This is not at all about the children's benefit. They may get a little check but the state governments receive a dollar for dollar match for what is collected in child support, 100% profit. This is the only reason why it is pursued so aggressively in court more than any other crime out there including murder, rape, robberies, etc. The laws are unfair, crippling, and in the end, detrimental to the development of our children. The system constantly garnish wages, seize property, takes licenses, and incarcerates both fathers and some mothers preventing them from getting good jobs to pay their court ordered support. I have lost the opportunity to join the Merchant Marine because I'm on child support. I could have paid my arrears and provide a decent amount of support for my children to live on but child support prevents this because I cannot get a passport. How brilliant is this? This cannot go on like this. The current system needs to be revamped. It has the potential to bring this nation to a halt. Doesn't a nation's economy depend on having consumers out there spending money generating revenue for the state and federal government through taxes? How can that be if everyone is either in jail or having more than half of their income being taken away?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 19th, 2013Someone from Independence, LA writes:
YES THE LAW SHOULD BE CHANGE LIKE YESTERDAY ABOUT 20 YEARS AGO AND PUT MY CHILD REAL DAD ON CHILDSUPPORT NOT TO BE UGLY OR EVIL BUT ANYWAY NONE THE LEASE HE DIDNT SHOW AND HE FOWARD THE LETTER BACK TO THE C/S OFFICE OKAY I LET IT ALONE AND GOT A JOB AND SUPPORTED MY OWN KIDS BUT HAD I BEEN ON WELFARE THEY WOULD HAVE HUNT HIM DOWN OKAY I MARRIED A MAN THAT THIS WOMAN SAY HE WAS THE FATHER OF HER CHILD OKAY HE WAS ORDER TO COME TO COURT AND HE DIDNT MAKE NO EXCUSE FOR HIM HE BRUSHED IT OFF LIKE IT WAS GONNA GO AWAY IT DIDNT BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED WE FOUND OUT HE WAS 10,000 IN THE REAR NOT BECAUSE HE WAS THE FATHER BECAUSE HE DIDNT TAKE A DNA BUT REMIND YOU SHE HAVE 4 OTHER KIDS AND THE FATHER NOT OWN CHILD SUPPORT AND ME AND MY HUSBAND HAVE 2 KIDS HE CANT SUPPORT BECASE OF THE C/S TOLD ME MY KIDS GET WHATS AT THE BOTTOM THE LAW NEED TO BE CHANGEREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 18th, 2013Someone from Cypress, TX signed.
May 18th, 2013Someone from Los Angeles, CA writes:
Child support is crippling men and second families. Children of second families go unsupported financially because of the greedy and irrational government. The pendulum of feminism has swung too far on this one. Men are being imprisoned and prevented from progressing in employment or education because of licenses being taken. This is evil.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 18th, 2013Someone from Etters, PA signed.
May 18th, 2013Someone from Camp Hill, PA writes:
My child's mother collects over 10,000 in public assistance every month lives at home with her parents and I get harassed for missing 1 week of 30$ payment for switching jobs. Every month getting dragged into court when the child support comes right from my pay checks and I'm no longer behind. The system is absolutely unfair!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 18th, 2013Someone from York Haven, PA signed.
May 18th, 2013Someone from York Haven, PA writes:
The law needs to be adjusted so its fair for both parties and people can actually live a life that they deserve.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 18th, 2013Someone from Conroe, TX writes:
The courts are against fathers. I paid over 100k in legal fees to have the rights to my own kids!?? I was fortunate enough to have a 50-50 shared custody. But I'm still slammed with child support! My ex-wife makes 20k a year more than me and her husband makes more than her. I'm paying 55% of my income in child support and 20% in taxes. I work 60 hours a week to make 60k a year. My whole life is setup around the schedule I have with my kids. Shamefully the quality of life they have half the time when they are with me is very low compared to their mother. Myself and three kids are living on less than 2k a month while there mother is shopping for a third home. I have lost everything. I'm close to loosing my house now and don't know where we will go. If I work anymore hours it will cut into the time I have with my kids. Again they are with me 50% of the time. I do not see how the court is operating in the best interest of the children in this case.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 18th, 2013Someone from Bayonne, NJ writes:
I am divorced , with joint custody of our two children. I pay child support. My ex wife does not work. It should be equal financial responsibility, 50/50 is what I am talking about. My ex wife uses my child support money for her own needs. She must get a job and stop relying on my money. If I was to stop paying my child support. My ex wife might suffer. Oh well ! she asked for the divorce. Child support rules must change. CS is BS !REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 17th, 2013Someone from Gilbert, AZ writes:
It's time for transparency on Child Support for all parents. Laws need to be updated to account for Good fathers and better accountability for those who collect it.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 17th, 2013Someone from Brooklyn, NY signed.
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May 17th, 2013Someone from Baldwinsville, NY writes:
I married a man whom is divorced and a father of 5 children. I love him and refused to allow his financial strain to stop me from wanting a life with him. Based on the NYS law regarding spousal support, my husband was ordered to pay his ex an amount that exceeded his ability to provide a home to his 5 kids in which he has half of the time, child support is less than spousal, together the support exceeds his take home because the previous year he received a bonus in which she was entitled to. the formula doesn't allow these men and in some cases woman to move forward in life, to plan for a future of love again, more children, and in our case my husband can't even go to the doctors because he can't pay the bills. He is left to suffer working a job that pays for his ex wife's lifestyle. He gets paid 8,000 a month, a pretty good job considering the economy these days but every two weeks he is left with 157.00.... For two weeks and we have a 4 year old to provide for. Is this man not supposed to provide for his new family? Does Paterson not think that people want to begin a new life after a painful 1st marriage? Start over and experience life with someone whom they are in love with or are they not supposed to want to start over?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 17th, 2013Someone from Atlanta, GA writes:
I am a father with a child in New Jersey (the worst state in the nation to deal with family law, in) and I am willing to stand up for unfair child support laws and practices that work against fathers and promote an adversarial relationship between parents. Unfair laws like the "Bradley Amendment" and Debters Jail need to be reviewed and a better solution has to be reached. Family matters are a delicate and extremely sensitive subject that needs to be approached with a scalpel...the involvement of the court as it stands today, is a chainsaw.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 16th, 2013Someone from Olympia, WA writes:
This is so frustrating! It makes me sick... My fiancé is a wonderful father and all he wants is more time with his daughter! not only does he provide everything she needs in our home, he pays a ridiculous amount of child support every month and only gets to see her 8 days a month! After thousands of dollars in lawyer fees that's what the court ordered... its been hard for me to go through this with him, I cant fathom the idea of being told when I can see MY child and it being only every other weekend. Especially when you want to be in the child's life???? its mind boggling that he's not given permission to see his child a fair amount but he is court ordered to pay for the child??? doesn't make sense to me. As a mother I wouldn't be ok with my child not seeing her father for week periods at a time.... who are these monsters that make these laws??? How does any of this benefit the child? So the mother gets child support... does the child really see any of it? where are the receipts to prove it? My fiancé works hard for his money and its sad that now that we have a child together we all suffer from the ridiculous laws. I watch my fiancé struggle paycheck to paycheck to help me support our family while his ex doesn't work, lives in a nice home, and just bought a new car! How she does this? She has HUD housing, gets hundreds of dollars from us, and gets food stamps. Something has to be done! This needs to change! Its becoming more common that women pray on established men to get pregnant so they can succubus off them and tax payers. Me personally, as a women, I would not have a child if I couldn't provide for it. The government enables women to get away with this and its disgusting! unfortunately, I believe Its only going to get worse before it gets better. I hope I'm wrong!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 16th, 2013Someone from Hagerstown, MD signed.
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May 16th, 2013Someone from Denver, CO writes:
FOr 15 years, I have struggled to pay Colorado Child support because the unfair amount i have to pay with the wages im earning . In the beggining I will agree and take responssibility that yes I refused to pay the support. As time went by I accepted it and pay when im working because my kids can use that money I dont mind its for them . I was living pay check to paycheck and it seems i was just working to pay child support, I had to learn to live that way. I finally took action to further my education to get out of this child support pitfall. I am finally making a good living and low and behold now I have to pay an additional MEdical insurance premiuim that is unreasoanble and beyond unacceptable and just as much as my Currnt Child support order ? REally ? When will it end ? And when I call the CSE agency these so called Techs that handle your case ? MY tech ? They do absolutley nothing for me ? They are so one sided its just upsets me off.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 16th, 2013Someone from North Reading, MA writes:
Well I'm currently stuck with a $875.00 a wk temporary court order, the sad part is it was based upon the income of a real estate transaction from 9yrs ago, because at our first court appearance I did not have council present and my spouses lawyer used mortgage application from 9yrs ago..there's nothing temporary about 3yrs when her lawyer continues to drag her feet and purposely prolongs the divorce for my soon to be ex and her "attorney " financial gain her attorneys fees are now approaching $95,000.00 she's a complete crook and the middlesex probate court is corruptREPORT COMMENTS
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May 16th, 2013Someone from Nashville, TN writes:
I am a woman, and I am disgusted by the number of women who view having children as a money making venture. The women who chase highly paid men in hopes that they get impregnated. Also, the idea that child support typically supports the mother, and the child rarely sees the benefit of the money because the mother is getting her nails and hair done. My proposal is this: child support should all be put on a card, similar to how food stamps are, and then each month, the mother should be required to provide the statements of purchases to the father. Another proposal should be this: in a court hearing, custodial parent should be required to bring proof of all child related expenses, including food clothes etc. The judge should split those costs right down the middle so both parents are equal in financial support. In regards to paying for housing for the kids, I feel that the custodial parent should be responsible for all of it. If they can't put a roof over kids heads then they don't need custody. The maximum should be that the father pay 1/4 of the rent. Mainly due to the fact that the mother would have to pay rent for herself regardless of if she had kids or not. The law create a hostile and resentful environment between exes that the children will definitely feel. If things are unfair between exes this promotes a lack of enthusiasm in the non custodial parent, and kids will remember their fathers frustration far more than they remember their mom getting "paid".REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 16th, 2013Someone from Buffalo, NY signed.
May 16th, 2013Someone from Phoenix, AZ writes:
How is it when people divorce the man always get screwed? I make $8.75 an hour my child support on my two older kids is $175.00 a month per child and the jude awared my ex wife $560.00 a month for the two children i have with her thats why now im homeless no car about to be fired from my job cause i cant support myself. And the worst part about it is my ex is on sectoin 8 pays $470.00 for rent makes $10.00 an hour 40 hours a week she has 4 other kids none of the dads pay child support but meREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 15th, 2013Someone from Kutztown, PA writes:
All these comments dont mean s**t because NOTHING ever gets done about it. I make 16.50 hr and pay 1,650 a month for 3 children to a mother that doesnt work. She doesnt work and gets more of my hard earned money than I do and I pay the tax on it too. The system is twisted and corrupt and NOBODY that CAN change it cares.REPORT COMMENTS
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May 14th, 2013Someone from Oak Hill, OH writes:
Regardless of the gender of the custodial parent, it should be considered unlawful to accept child support payments from the noncustodial parent for the financial support of the children if the custodial parent is not also providing financially for the children. Bottom line---in order for the custodial parent to receive child support they too must maintain a job or be found in contempt for failing to provide financially for their children. Additionally, it is also unfair that the custodial parent whether employed or not has the right to deny the noncustodial parent (the one who is working and paying support) the ability to claim the children.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 14th, 2013Someone from Coram, NY writes:
The system is so lopside. Make it fair for both sides. Help the economy as it should be counted as "INCOME" as it is!! Applications have it read: Addtional income from child support, alimony and other sources may be added. Give the person tht is paying it a write off or some type of tax credit and funds will flow in to help with the economy. This needs to be reviewed and considered for additional tax revenue. The receiver gets the funds TAX FREE AND also gets to claim the child as a deduction at tax time. This is so unfair!!! Call it what it is, Double dipping....Make Equality count for BOTH men and women, the payor and the receiver. Why is there no representative taking this on? Also yes, take funds out of State wages when taxes are filed but to take BOTH State AND Federal refund checks is way out of line. State refund check took all to be applied to outstanding which in turn paid it all current and up to date but wont give any of the tax refund for the Federal taxes. You don't get a refund and it is not applied as future payments. This is so blantanly unfair and raping good people. This needs to be addressed. We see equility for women but where it equility for MEN??? Please review this process and do the right thing and make it fair. We know that for those that are on the receiveing end will never agree to this fairness as greed begets greed. So now someone in power needs to stop up and make this happen. This is 21 Century? Signed: Woman to ALL women AND men. Make it fair..it's way past due!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 14th, 2013Someone from Florissant, MO writes:
I am raising my daughter by myself. I dated her father for 8 yrs. He was a good provider while we were together; but once we seperated he said what is not under the same roof with him he does not have to support! I CAN NOT get his wages garnished because he gets disability because he has heallth issues now. He has always worked and was paid cash so therefore he's collecting the disability that can not be garnished. I know there are alot of children in this world who are not being cared for by both parents and this is just so unfair. I created this lovely human being with another person; but left to struggle with her alone.... SOO UNFAIR!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 14th, 2013Someone from Escondido, CA signed.
May 14th, 2013Someone from Warner Robins, GA writes:
My child support started in 1998 and my youngest from my ex was considered emancipated last year 2012. I haven't seen my son and daughter in over 7 years. Not because I haven't tried but my ex and her husband have isolated them from me as well as my family. The thing that upsets me most is that I have been remarried for 10 years and we've been together for 12 years. I helped raise her son who is now 22 and we have a 9 year old. In all the time we've been together my wife has never met my children and the funniest part is that when my children told her that they were going to have a sister my ex called specifically to have a woman to woman talk about how she wanted the kids to know each other she wanted to take her out to lunch and all these other things. My wife kindly refused the offer but we did call wanting to take the kids to the carnival and it was like a crazy switch went off she said that they couldn't go, she didn't know her and it was just ridiculous. On top of that as far as child support knows she makes $265 a month and pays $120 a month in child care she still uses my last name although she is remarried she gets child support from me and she had twins from another guy that she is getting support from and she has a husband taking care of her oh and on top of all that she woks full time. How do I know becasue when the coursts were forcing me to supply healhcare for my children I petition the court becasue at the time I was just making a little over $6 an hour my support was $377 and the health benefits was approx $380 a month. You do the math ans see how much I have after working a 40 hour week. I did my due deligence went to the huspital to get a report of all the times my son was in because he was in and out a lot when he went back to live with his mom. I also had the health insurance company that I was court ordered to have send a report of how amny times the coverage was used and quess what. She never used it. Do you know why, becasue she had coverage from her job that she was working full time although she told the courts she could only work 4 days a month becasue my son was in and out the hospital. Well child support agreed that it was not cost effective for me to provide coverage but this was after I quit my job to get a part time job with no benefits just to I can have money and they still did not question how she was able to provide healthcare nor did they care they just eventually found a reason later on to raise my support. Her working 4 days a month and paying child care has been unchanged since the case opened in 98 and finally closed in 2012. I could go on for pages the nonsense I've had to listen to in court and the the things I've had to listen to from the people who are supposed to be the most educated in the courtroom but seem to totally ignore common sense.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 14th, 2013Someone from Warner Robins, GA signed.
May 14th, 2013Someone from Warner Robins, GA writes:
I recvd child support benefits. I realized that it was unfair when the non-custodial parent was arrested for non-pay. I knew that he was unemployed and was struggling to make ends meet. Putting him in jail was not the answer. His family had to pay the child support for him so that he could get out of jail. It's not suppose to be this way. If we were a family and he was unemployed we would have worked out and made accomodations. child support doesnt allow for the non-custodial parent to be human. They are suppose to work, work, pay and pay. The expect this people to pay when things beyond their control causes them to be unemployed. They are not given the same rights as a father that is in the household. Many fathers loses their jobs, decides to go to school, or just quits because it not working out. However on child support, those basic rights are stripped. It's not fair!REPORT COMMENTS
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