Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence
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May 10th, 2015Someone from Newport Beach, CA signed.
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May 9th, 2015Someone from Montclair, CA writes:
I have allegations of domestic violence against me by my ex girlfriend. She is very unstable. She's been diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety, depression, bi polar disorder and a thyroid condition. She takes therapy every week. She had made false allegations to the police against me and realized her mistake. Knowing she lied, she paid for my attorney and bail because I didn't have the money and was willing to do anything to make sure I wasn't convicted. However, once I left her she decided to go back on it. She lied to me about what she said to the police and to the extent of the seriousness of the allegations. Once I received the police report, her story was like "out of a movie." I was charged with 5 felonies and she didn't even have any injuries except a few unexplained bruising. There were bruises above both her eyelids, but not around her eyes. I read what would cause that and it could be from her crying and rubbing her eyes repeatedly and hard. She was so depressed all the time and had outbursts that were so intense that she would cry for hours. She was also taking medication the causes blood to thin which caused bruising. She also had a couple of small bruises on one side of her neck. I cannot explain these bruises, but I know for a fact that I did NOT cause these. I never harmed her or any of my ex girlfriends and NEVER would cause harm to any woman or person. I'm still in the court process and feel like the charges against me are excessive because now that they're felonies and not misdemeanors they're more difficult to have dismissed. My attorney says that he can't get all of them dropped. This is not justice. All the signs point to her being unstable and lying, however, they think "something must have happened" says my attorney, so they can't dismiss all the charges. I don't know where else to turn. I'm not going to accept charges that I didn't do, but I can't afford to go to trial. What do I do?May 9th, 2015Someone from Montclair, CA writes:
I have allegations of domestic violence against me by my ex girlfriend. She is very unstable. She's been diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety, depression, bi polar disorder and a thyroid condition. She takes therapy every week. She had made false allegations to the police against me and realized her mistake. Knowing she lied, she paid for my attorney and bail because I didn't have the money and was willing to do anything to make sure I wasn't convicted. However, once I left her she decided to go back on it. She lied to me about what she said to the police and to the extent of the seriousness of the allegations. Once I received the police report, her story was like "out of a movie." I was charged with 5 felonies and she didn't even have any injuries except a few unexplained bruising. There were bruises above both her eyelids, but not around her eyes. I read what would cause that and it could be from her crying and rubbing her eyes repeatedly and hard. She was so depressed all the time and had outbursts that were so intense that she would cry for hours. She was also taking medication the causes blood to thin which caused bruising. She also had a couple of small bruises on one side of her neck. I cannot explain these bruises, but I know for a fact that I did NOT cause these. I never harmed her or any of my ex girlfriends and NEVER would cause harm to any woman or person. I'm still in the court process and feel like the charges against me are excessive because now that they're felonies and not misdemeanors they're more difficult to have dismissed. My attorney says that he can't get all of them dropped. This is not justice. All the signs point to her being unstable and lying, however, they think "something must have happened" says my attorney, so they can't dismiss all the charges. I don't know where else to turn. I'm not going to accept charges that I didn't do, but I can't afford to go to trial. What do I do?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 9th, 2015Someone from Bourbonnais, IL signed.
May 8th, 2015Someone from Fontana, CA signed.
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May 8th, 2015Someone from Albuquerque, NM writes:
These laws are a violation of men's civil rights. False accusations lead to mandatory arrest and prosecution of men. These laws prevent either the police or district attorneys from assessing a case before prosecution. Only those with the financial ability to defend themselves can receive proper justice. The women who call the police often don't have any desire to prosecute yet the law forces this upon them. This kind of law is unconstitutional and should be overturned by SCOTUS.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 8th, 2015Someone from Rockwall, TX signed.
May 8th, 2015Someone from Chicago, IL writes:
Family is going through same thing. We are the victims of these accusers. Action needs to be done to stop this!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 8th, 2015Someone from Grayslake, IL signed.
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No, CancelMay 7th, 2015Someone from Berne, IN signed.
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May 7th, 2015Someone from Oviedo, FL writes:
It's funny Barb Coomer is one that falsely accused me of abuse. Ha Ha. She is so full of it. Ask her if she had her ex-husband falsely arrested for abuse so he couldn't leave her sorry ass. She puts this on her blog/webpage-she is so bi-polar it's not even funny. Ask her if she was diagnosed with this before and see if she lies about this also.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 7th, 2015Someone from Chester, PA signed.
May 7th, 2015Someone from Montgomery, AL writes:
Please pray for me because I am now revealing in the open what my EX wife did to me by accusing me falsely of abuse. AND I WAS FOUND INNOCENT BY THE COURTS and THE JUDGE (A FEMALE) CALLED HER A LIAR IN OPEN COURT. And now one of her kids are attacking me for telling the truth. But as a minister who claims to be transparent and never hides his mess I must tell it in order that no other Good Man Of God gets trapped in that WITCHCRAFT as I did...Plus we are divorce and it is now my business to tell it if I want to and I now there is always two sides to every story. Plus she is no longer under my covering as her husband. Believe me I do not want her back nor do I want her attention. But I must bring light to this problem with women in the church operating in this form of witchcraft. And also to let men know they are not alone and should not be quiet about their PAIN. I know some of you will say why not just leave it alone, but I saw to many men in that jail hurting along with me and they did nothing wrong to their women..:-)..For those of you who do not know what witchcraft is in the bible, it is gossip, backbiting, slander, gainsaying and all of this comes from your ...I DID FORGIVE HER BUT I STILL ANGERY ABOUT BEING FALSELY ACCUSE AND THE PROCESS THE LAW PUTS ME AND OTHER INNOCENT MEN THROUGH. BUT IT STILL MUST BE ADDRESSED....IF IT WAS A WOMAN EVERYONE WOULD BE SAYING LOCK HIM UP...BUT BECAUSE IT IS A MAN SAYING THAT A WOMAN HAS DONE THIS EVERYONE SAYING LET IT GO WHEN I SAW TO MANY MEN INCLUDING MYSELF BEING ACCUSED FALSELY AND IT WAS DONE BY YOU CHURCH WOMEN WHO ARE NOW SAYING LET IT GO....WELL. THEN STOP ACCUSING MEN FALSELY...WE ARE WORKING SO WHEN A WOMAN ACCUSES A MAN FALSELY AND SHE IS FOUND OUT TO BE A LIAR, SHE WILL NOW BE SENT TO JAIL AND PAY COURT COST AND FINES..THEN THAT MAN WHO WAS ACCUSED FALSELY CAN SUE HER FOR DAMAGES....SEE WOMAN DO NOT LIKE THAT I KNOW...THIS IS ALSO ABOUT PROTECTING MEN, WOMEN, CHILDREN and ANIMALS...ONLY THE FALSE ACCUSER SHOULD BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR WASTING TAX PAYER DOLLARS AND FOR TRYING TO DESTROY AN INNOCENT PERSON LIFE AND CAREER...Thank you for your time Mr. Harvey and Sis Shirley, Min. Warren Rudd...P.S. Here is the letter I also wrote to the Mayor of Montgomery, AL....Your Honor Mayor Todd Strange, My name is Min. Warren Rudd. I now reside here in Montgomery after arriving here in 2010 from Philadelphia, Pa., to work for US Air Force at Maxwell Gunter Air force base. In 2013 I was falsely accused by my ex-wife of abuse base on, as I was informed, an old Jim Crow Law that is still on the books which allows you to have a warrant placed on you without proof as long the accuser knows your name and address. AND I WAS FOUND INNOCENT BY THE COURTS and THE JUDGE CALLED HER A LIAR IN OPEN COURT. And now one of her kids is attacking me for telling the truth. I would like to see what can be done to not only help man who are falsely accused, but also ANY AND EVERYONE WHETHER THEY BE MEN, WOMEN, CHILDREN and ANREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 7th, 2015Someone from Montgomery, AL signed.
May 7th, 2015Someone from Pittsboro, NC signed.
May 7th, 2015Someone from Baltimore, MD writes:
I am a victim of Domestic Violence & Sexual Abuse by me Ex-husband: Edward Boze who also abused our 3 Boze Children: Devon, Cheylan & Nashera in the hellish place of Louisville, KY. Nothing was done on our behalf & I was further victimized by CPS & Corrupt Government Agencies when these Vile, Evil & Inhumane Entities Kidnapped my children on October 10, 1995 & further allowed my children to be abused by the animal & further allowed him to terrorize me by stalking me, threatening me & kidnapping our children & taking them to Indiana! Later after CPS, Various others in the Dirty Foster Care System, had finished abusing my children by brainwashing, lying to them & drugging them up, my son, Devon was forced to live with the monster & my 2 daughters: Cheylan & Nashera were Sold into Slavery: The Black Market Slave Trade/ Free Foster Care Adoption/ Forced Adoption. I stand firmly against All forms of abuse committed against men, women, children & animals! I also do not stand up on behalf of liars who falsely accuse others of abuse or criminals who are habitual liars who use these tactics to get away with abuse & murder!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 7th, 2015Someone from Powell, TN writes:
My fiance was arrested last week on false accusations from his ex wife that he domestically assaulted their daughter. Their daughter, who is 17, was belligerently cursing at her father, calling him names and began throwing things at him, all for him asking her to clean the house. He then simply grabbed her by the arms and told her to leave (which I thought was better than most parents would do, if I would have said the things she said to him to my parents at her age, I would have been slapped across the face). Not aggressively, not enough to hurt her, he just held her by the arms to keep her from throwing more things at him. She called her mother, who in turn called the cops and told the police my fiance was drunk and hitting his child. We had just gotten of work, had not had any alcohol and he was trying to control a belligerent 17 year old, there were no violent acts done and no threats said by either of us. The police showed up at our home and didn't even want to hear our statements. He spoke with them maybe 30 seconds before he was in handcuffs. His ex wife did this entire thing out of spite, we are in the middle of a huge custody/child support battle between his daughter and son and she knew an incident such as this would hurt his case. I was so shocked when they arrested him, I cried to the officers telling them they were making a mistake, that he hadn't done anything and would never hit a woman or child. They did not care. We are a hard working, middle class family who gives his kids the world. His ex wife has had assault, drug charges, DUIs, she has had the police called to her home on multiple occasions for fighting, drinking... And despite her record the officers took her word on it. The officers took her word, from a woman who was not even at the house when it happened. Something needs to change. The fact that she can call at any time and tell the officers lies like this, and that the officers believe her without even hearing our case is sickening.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 7th, 2015Someone from Pittsboro, NC writes:
As with such wrong action this problem. hurt the whole. family. it hurts jobs. it cause sickness.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 7th, 2015Someone from Montgomery, AL signed.
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May 7th, 2015Someone from Hagerstown, MD writes:
Just today my son lost the rights to see his daughter based on false accusations. The child is only 10 months old, the mother has made 4 false accusations in the past 6 months. Each report was filed after he seek visitation/custody. She is able to afford a lawyer and as a result not only has he lost the rights to the child he is also facing jail time.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 7th, 2015Someone from Scottsdale, AZ writes:
I am 100% innocent. The charges against me are lies.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 7th, 2015Someone from Wymore, NE writes:
When my son moved near to us when married to his first wife, we got and eye and ear full. She didn't care for the children. They often went to school in dirty clothing, she fed them candy and the house was full of cockroaches. My son moved back in, I forgot to mention that he was trying to get a divorce. He moved back in to make sure the children were cared for properly. She made accusations and he was arrested and imprisoned for several months. During that time, she lost custody of the children and they were assigned a guardian ad lidem because of the same reasons my son returned to live with them. When she finally filed for divorce, she tried to accuse him again this time of raping her. She had no evidence, but they gave her full custody. My son has the children almost as much as she does, but he pays over $500 a month in child support. She also tried to accuse him of non-payment when it comes directly out of his paycheck and goes through a state payment system. My son remarried, I believe too soon, and ended up with as bad a situation. The one exception is that this girl calls and has him arrested for abuse then calls me and others to bale him out so he can go to work. She drains the accounts and lately seems to have all control of communication so I never get to talk to him unless she allows us to chat through personal messages on Facebook using her computer. I have to assume its him. They have 3 small children. I don't know why he tends to fall for the same kind of woman each time except they give him a sob story and he wants to be a hero to the situation and falls in love with the idea. I've learned since that in abuse cases there is no innocent until proven guilty. Instead it is assumed that they are guilty until they can prove they are not. Do you realize how hard that is to do? Please make some way to discern this behavior and how to defend against the accusations. Thank youREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 6th, 2015Someone from Elizabeth, NJ writes:
I am a male. I have been falsely accused of domestic violence 15 times by my ex-girlfriend who was the abuser. Even years after I left her. Sole reason is child custody. I have been arrested and jailed 3 times for false allegations of domestic violence. I have had 9 restraining orders filed against me. Approximately 8 criminal complaints for domestic violence and child endangerment filed against me. About half of all complaints/charges were dismissed for lack of prosecution and the other half dismissed after a trial proving the allegations to be false. The reason my state (NJ) will never change the legislation is because it is a big cash cow for the legal industry. The courts are packed in the county family division. frequently people are sent home because there is no time to here their case. I've witness over 100 dv trials. 90% of them get dismissed.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 6th, 2015Someone from Elizabeth, NJ signed.
May 6th, 2015Someone from Madera, PA writes:
I never even used a curse word, was convicted without being notified and come to find out she is profiting from it. I cannot get a job anywhere. To say this is criminal would be an insult to criminals.REPORT COMMENTS
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May 6th, 2015Someone from Carleton, MI signed.
May 6th, 2015Someone from Allen Park, MI writes:
At the moment my son is a victim of a false domestic violence accusation Men need protection from women using these laws to harm men in a vindictive manor. and his accuser has been seen with another man two weeks after filing false charges have picture to prove it please Help......REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 5th, 2015Someone from Woodbridge, VA writes:
I have a friend who has been accused of sexual abuse by his 3 1/2 year old daughter. I won't go into a character assassination of his ex-wife. Suffice it to say, she is a real piece of work. Because of her lifestyle and indiscretions, he was awarded sole custody of his daughter. The ex is obviously not happy with that outcome, so she has done everything in her power to make his life a living hell ever since. Everybody that knows this young man knows he would never do such a thing, to any child, let alone his own daughter. We are all absolutely convinced that the ex has coached this little girl to tell authorities her daddy abused her. We're not just basing this on our observations of the ex's behavior. No 3 1/2 year old kid would use the terminology she did unless they were told what to say. Of course, I am 100% for protecting children. But something needs to be done to make it harder for dishonest adults to ruin an innocent person's life out of pure spite or revenge. It's just way too easy the way things are. In cases like this, the child is not the only victim.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 5th, 2015Someone from Columbia, MD writes:
This definitely should be revisited, and at the very least, exceptions should be given to people already involved in divorce cases.REPORT COMMENTS
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