Unfair child support laws
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Nov 4th, 2010Someone from Villa Rica, GA writes:
if you have an order stating when the child turns 18 the child support obligation is complete and the mother files a modification in atttmept to get more money, a raise in support and to pay the state of florida's attorney representing the case, when in fact its the state of florida's fault. the state stopped the order on child support not the respondent. how is this fair? especially when you get notice a year later, come on!!! the order is suppose to be like a contract however the mother seems to have all the rights and the men are set to suffer or told get another job. the state of florida is notorious for unfair child support laws. -
Nov 4th, 2010Someone from Gattman, MS signed.
Nov 2nd, 2010Someone from Kingsford, MI writes:
Why is it that the government is coming down so hard on the fathers that step up to the plate and take care of there children? I am in a child support battle right now with my ex-wife because of a new job I took with a pay cut. I have served two tours in Iraq and have a full time job for over ten years along with being part of the WI national guard for eight years now. I just learned that the Marinette County child support office is now trying to take from my military pay and my full time job to collect child support when I am not behind at all and did I MENTION THAT THE MOTHER DOES NOT WORK AT ALL and to my knowledge has made no attempt to even find a job. My ex-wife has three kids with three different guy's and is working on her fourth kid with the fourth guy so you tell me is this how it is suppose to work have as many kids as you can and get paid for it????? It just makes me sick to see MEN or WOMEN taking advantage of the system and the MEN and WOMEN that actually do there part in raising there children getting the short end of the stick. In my mind the ones that do this kind of thing to the system don't deserve to have there children.....REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 2nd, 2010Someone from Madison, WI signed.
Nov 1st, 2010Someone from Roswell, GA writes:
It should be child's expenses divided in half. It is ridiculous these gold digging women want to be paid for opening there legs. It is not mothers support for their expenses, it is child support. The amount should have nothing to do with percentages of income. Half the responsibility is mothers as well and sollar amo9unt should be derived from childs expenses. Come on I was a single mother. If they want to live a certain lifestyle, it is not the babies father that should be responsible for that. CRAZZZZY!!!!!!!! The fact that our government demand this raping to continue makes me utterly disgusted. You, the government are handicapping woman and making it their goal to become impregnated in effort to avoid working.It is legalized financial abuse to men!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelNov 1st, 2010Someone from Roswell, GA signed.
Oct 31st, 2010Someone from Fort Pierce, FL writes:
Its amazing on how you are being robbed of your constitutional rights,saying who got them.I payed my child support for my kids since they were born,up till now.Now that the hard times has hit just about 80% of americans,including me,i'm not able to pay all of my support but,I pay about half of it now.To take my license is a bunch of crap I think,especially if i'm paying something.Now how can I go out to find any work if they took my license.I think that its very wrong and the law should be change,upon they have options of you going to jail,license taking,and you in the creditals as bad credit.That leave us,the child support payers with no options,send me to a communist country cause thats what this country is headed to being.Still all freedom like you been doing,United states of *******s.I feel that our rights has been condeemed,which is unconstituional.let freedom ring is what you told us,so stand up and give it back to us,takeing ones driving privilege for child support is digging the economy for working people deeper into poverty.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 28th, 2010Someone from Moscow Mills, MO writes:
Recently, I have been informed that I get the wonderful task of supplying 100 percent of all costs associated with my child. Mind you, however, that she has never worked a day in her life. She is on state aid, government housing, food stamps (e.b.t.), government health insurance, and has been for 15 years. She has three other children, by three other men. The state pays for them. I, however, get to pay for mine. I'm not upset about paying for my child.... But 1,000 dollars a month and health care.......really!!!!!!! I am a heavily decorated combat veteran, a father and a husband who was told by the courts that a "deadbeat" will not be tolerated. To tell you the truth, I'm o.k. With holding a person accountable for their obligations. With that being said, I'm not being held accountable for just my actions, I'm also being held accountable for hers as well. I have heard the argument, weak, at the very best, that it is in the best interest of the child. Seriously, give this archaic load of horse crap a rest. She will not let me see the child, and in order to enforce the rights that I have, that will be thousands of dollars sir. Oops, I can't afford to fight her, our legislation has seen to that. Every penny I make goes to the support of my current family and to support her entire way of life. I now have a wonderful wife, who is truly a credit to her gender and humanity as a whole. However, women like my ex, sure are tearing her gender's reputation to shreds. Good thing I know better, not all women are economic leaches. If I were a woman, I do believe I would fight to stop women like this. It is unfortunate, but true, that the system allows the creation of economic leaches. And for the most part, it is women who receive outlandish amounts of assistance. Women, it's time to stop the few bad apples. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of men out there who should have had more chlorine in their gene pool as well. With that being said, it gets hard to support for your current family when this type of atrocity running rampant. Sometimes it makes you wonder, how can I lay on my back, and make a living. Wait that's called prostitution, and in many places that's still illegal. But in some sick and twisted way, our government is promoting it.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 26th, 2010Someone from Hobbs, NM signed.
Oct 24th, 2010Someone from Gainesville, FL writes:
My husband just got ordered to pay child support this last year. A 10 year old popped up out of nowhere. The child was adopted by the mother's husband but he still has to pay 7 years back support. The problem is that child support exists to ensure that 2 parents are caring for the child financially. With the mother and her husband being married and caring for the child already, plus the arrears from my husband, the court has succeeded in providing 3 financial parents for the child. Something is terribly wrong.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 23rd, 2010Someone from Aiken, SC signed.
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Oct 18th, 2010Someone from Wilmington, DE writes:
I believe that the child support laws are designed to break up families, and does not benefit the child whatsoever, I was order to pay $518.00 but the childs mother said that that was not enough, so the state of deleware had decided not to go by my present income and they want to say that during 2008 I made about 33,0000 during 1 quarter and they are telling me that if I work 7days aweek and overtime, basically my new support order is based on what I can make if I worked overtime 2yrs ago, so far this yr I will make about 50grand, I was also told to cash in my vacation, and my sick time and that should bring me a extra income of about 7grand and they are going back 2yrs retoactive because I was the 4th guy they tested and the child is 7yrs old, The state of Delaware wants to use my old tax returns where I worked 2 jobs in the prior yrs with overtime, So now I appealing the decision because they will contact me by mail and tell me what my new child support is. And my wife has just had a baby this month and I was told by the childsupport lawyer how convient!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 30th, 2010Someone from Ashburn, GA writes:
I am a woman, wife, mother, and a grandmother and I see first hand how greedy some ex-wives can be. This is going to continue until someone in Congress decides that dads have been bashed long enough. Come on dads, we can't take anymore! I'm wondering when the support from attorneys, especially men, will come? How is it that this unfair law can just keep hurting the "good" dads. Child support is a means of income for many women. For those mother's/ex-wives who knowingly abuse it should be punished. Let them have to wonder how they are going to pay or else! It's time the mother's/ex-wives were looked into. For a dad to reach such a point of despair that he has to choose between paying bills or child support, then he'd better choose child support. Forget that he has to live also. The system doesn't care about that. A dad loses much more. This law still isn't fair even with the changes that have been made. Please let's pick up the ball and start rolling. Not everyone can afford an attorney for private reviews. Please help those good dads. Don't put all dads into the same pot. Cases are different. The laws need to be changed! We desperately need it!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 13th, 2010Someone from Kansas City, MO writes:
In an attempt to punish the deadbeats, the system does more damage to the hard working, honest fathers. As a result, those good fathers end up looking like they no longer desire to be responsible for their children; the system erroneously perpetuates the stereotype that there are very few or no good men/fathers.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 8th, 2010Someone from Fredericktown, MO writes:
The Missouri child support laws are extremely unfair. My husband has made less than half of what he did last year to date and we had another child but when we sent in for an order to have child support modified Family Support Division went off of his previous years income and would not give him a credit for our new baby because HE was the one that requested the modification, if the custodial parent had requested it then he would have gotten credit for our baby. If we pay $2000 to hire an attorney we will get the credit for our baby, but we don't have $2000 we are about to lose our house and he is still having to pay child support off an income base thats more than 2x what he is making due to slow work. He is also still paying her for daycare expenses and his child is 15 years old, they would not remove the daycare expense because it was not a 20% decrease from his current order.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 6th, 2010Someone from S Zanesville, OH writes:
I have a friend that has never had problems paying until 3yrs. ago. He lost a job and had to continue paying $400 a mnth. for one child. He got $1000 behind and was put in jail, lost his license. Who will hire you with no license? This cycle has now continued and he's been in jail numerous times. After getting a job they put him in jail again, after paying a 1/4 of it they said pay it all or go back to jail. He went to school. Nope not good enough. The system favors the others pays for their foo, school, living, cars, repairs, babysitters and the men are left hiding from jail and never seeing their kids, and they obviously love their children or they would sign over their rights. This system needs to be equal.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 5th, 2010Someone from Martinsville, VA signed.
Aug 30th, 2010Someone from Marinette, WI writes:
Today I called Marinette County Child Support to find out if they had received my request for review. I talked to my case worker and ask if she had any information about review or how long it was going to take to hear back from her and alls she could tell me is that she had 700 cases to go through and didn't really know how long it would take to get a response. I have just took a new job and also a cut in pay to be able to spend more time with my 2 daughters since I have already missed out on at least 2 years of their lives that I can never get back because of back to back deployments with the Wisconsin National Guard. My ex-wife doesn't even work and is collecting child support from three of us and is now pregnant with the fourth from the fourth guy I mean where does it stop. I guess I am good enough to put my life on the line when it comes to our freedom. Don't get me wrong their are alot of dad's out there that need to be way more responsible but why make it hard to live because in the end it's only hurting the child even more so when the mother cares more for the money for herself than spending it on the child. I see it first hand when it comes to my ex-wife.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 30th, 2010Someone from Fort Stewart, GA signed.
Aug 29th, 2010Someone from Springfield, MO writes:
I am concerned about the public and the media's disregard for the father's rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. That a man may even be imprisoned for being poor. The policies are out of touch with society and do not recognize the circumstances of the average working class citizen.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 29th, 2010Someone from Springfield, MO signed.
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Aug 22nd, 2010Someone from Tustin, CA writes:
I'm paying 806.00 moth for a Kidd I new nothing about till he was 14 and because I live in CA were 70k a year is not that much , I am paying NC pay standard while his mom sits at home and collects state help.....wow 806.00 a month in NC pays the rent and car payment as well as food .......REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 22nd, 2010Someone from Charlotte, NC signed.
Aug 11th, 2010Someone from Almond, NY writes:
In a time of equal opportunity employment equal rights and equal pay for equal work. How is it right that I pay support for my children. When they stay with me 50% of the time. I pay thier insurance co pay on premiums and life insuriance on one all of thier school lunches and I buy thier school clothes.My exwife makes as much as I do and I cant even claim one on taxesREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 6th, 2010Someone from Fayetteville, NC signed.
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Aug 3rd, 2010Someone from Missouri City, TX writes:
I married a man with four children who he loves dearly he has always been the sole support of his children. The kids moms dont work the sit on welfare and section 8 and wait for his check spending it on the men in their life and not his kids but on the other guys kids.we have no money to do activities when the kids come over. We can barely feed everybody. I love my husband but im sick of his kids mom.Im not feeling very Christian like right now.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 3rd, 2010Someone from Missouri City, TX signed.
Jul 29th, 2010Someone from Missoula, MT writes:
We just found out my husband's daughter's mother has convinced a man on the Blackfeet reservation that the same child is his, he signed a paternity acknowledgement and is now paying her child support in addition to my husband paying her $393 per month. What do I do????REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 16th, 2010Someone from Olivehurst, CA signed.
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Jul 2nd, 2010Someone from Macedon, NY writes:
Its just another way for the "other" parent to controll you. I have been on both sides of the coin and there is no fairness for the parent having to pay. And pay for what? If the parent who has physical residencey don't you think they should be able to show they can provide the same amount of money per week. This child support law is stupid and does nothing but cause chaos for the parents and for the other parent struggling to provide just as well for the child when they come over for visitation or are you a babysitter on the weekends so the other parent can go **** the money away and then say I am broke.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 29th, 2010Someone from Washington, NC writes:
I lost my job... The IRS understands and works with me. Child Support DOES NOT CARE! My order stayed the same and payments are still expected! They are THE most unfair and inconsiderate oganization in existence! It's rediculous!!!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 27th, 2010Someone from Richmond, VA writes:
I find it very upsetting that the Child support laws are so unfair towards NC parents and their second families as well. Child support is supposed to be for the child, but it also ends up taking away from the non custodial parent's other children they may have because of the extravagant amounts that some are made to pay. It is also unfair when the custodial parent doesn't WANT to work (not because of illness or no available child care, but just plain laziness) and in turn, it raises the non custodial parents payments because the custodial parent doesn't feel the need to have to help pay for their child's needs, they feel it should all be on the NC parent. Is there anyway to get Congress to take a serious look into this because it can also end up causing the breakdown of many families that COULD have stayed together had it not been for the financial struggles that were made from higher child support payments. Children are the main concern here but not all children are taken into consideration. Example being, should a second child suffer having a house foreclosed on because the father has child support payments to make to another child, and that takes away from his ability to pay for a roof over his second child's head? Is the first child's life and well being more valuable than the second child's life and well being? Lots of people say that is like asking the first mother to take a cut in her pay because he has another child after the first one, but the current laws are basically forcing the second mothers to take a cut in finances for supporting their children because the first mother isn't with the father and I guess the courts figure since the other parent is single they need more help, which is a completely unfair and untrue assesment. And on another note, since child support is supposed to be for the child, why is it that states keep such close records of the NC parent's jobs and financial records, but they aren't requiring the custodial parents to show proof and documentation of what they use child support money for? If it is all supposed to go towards the children, then there should be no problem showing documentation right?REPORT COMMENTS
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