PLEASE help good fathers and custodians battle the war of Child Support Enforcement!
Did you know failure to pay child support lands you in jail for longer than your average drug addict, rapist, and burglar?
The Department of Child Support Enforcement is just a “legal” way for people to use their children as paychecks. My spouse and our family are victims of this diabolical ring.
Please hear my story.
My husband has 4 children, by 3 women. I do not have any biological children, unfortunately, because we cannot afford it. He has always been a part of his children’s lives, in fact-he has Sole Legal and Physical Custody of all 4. Prior to him having custody, they all filed for TANF and Child Support (even though all 2 of them worked full time “under the table” and the other was in and out of jail, sometimes prison, for drug charges. He used to pay his support, which totaled close to $1500/month, but he stopped paying once the children told him (and mother’s admitted) that the money never went to the kids, instead it went to bar nights, shopping sprees, vacations (while we had the children), new cars, and heroin.
We fought and fought this system, to no avail. When he got custody of all of them, DCSE refused to close the cases on their own. We had to make “deals” with the mothers. $10,000 cash to one, $5,500 cash to another, and the down payment for a new home for the third one. They closed their cases, although still accruing interest towards arrears. Then, in less than 3 months, all of the cases were re-opened, with not $1.00 of what we proved they were given got applied to his cases.
My husband is not a criminal, but he has spent a combined total of 4 and a half years in jail since 2008, because of “failure to comply with a court order to pay support”. Keep in mind, during the incarceration period, the payments still add up and the interest still accrues. 2 months after release, guess who is back in court again?
We are fighting a losing battle, and I know there’s thousands of other families enduring the same pain that we are. We are at a standstill.
I will speak on behalf of the above mentioned thousands when I say Child Support would be paid more frequently if there were better ethics in place. With an EBT card you can only purchase groceries, right? If you are caught cheating the system to obtain EBT fraudulently-your benefits get cancelled, right? The Department is still attacking my husband even though he has had sole legal and physical custody of all of his children-pushing to have him incarcerated again. We cannot get ahead! No one can when the program is just setting everyone up for failure. Not every Father is a “Dead-Beat” and not every Mother is a “victim”. Something has to be done!
All I have ever wanted is to be a mother. I can’t do that because we’re constantly fighting DCSE. I have four step-children, each of which will tell you that I am their Mother, because once custody changed, they wanted nothing to do with their children. No phone calls, visits, or anything. Not even a Happy Birthday Card.
You are elected to support and help us, “The People”. I know I’m just one person, but hopefully my voice is enough to help everyone else that is scared to approach this controversial topic.
Thank you in advance for taking the time to review m, and hopefully amend this horrible cycle.
The Department of Child Support Enforcement is just a “legal” way for people to use their children as paychecks. My spouse and our family are victims of this diabolical ring.
Please hear my story.
My husband has 4 children, by 3 women. I do not have any biological children, unfortunately, because we cannot afford it. He has always been a part of his children’s lives, in fact-he has Sole Legal and Physical Custody of all 4. Prior to him having custody, they all filed for TANF and Child Support (even though all 2 of them worked full time “under the table” and the other was in and out of jail, sometimes prison, for drug charges. He used to pay his support, which totaled close to $1500/month, but he stopped paying once the children told him (and mother’s admitted) that the money never went to the kids, instead it went to bar nights, shopping sprees, vacations (while we had the children), new cars, and heroin.
We fought and fought this system, to no avail. When he got custody of all of them, DCSE refused to close the cases on their own. We had to make “deals” with the mothers. $10,000 cash to one, $5,500 cash to another, and the down payment for a new home for the third one. They closed their cases, although still accruing interest towards arrears. Then, in less than 3 months, all of the cases were re-opened, with not $1.00 of what we proved they were given got applied to his cases.
My husband is not a criminal, but he has spent a combined total of 4 and a half years in jail since 2008, because of “failure to comply with a court order to pay support”. Keep in mind, during the incarceration period, the payments still add up and the interest still accrues. 2 months after release, guess who is back in court again?
We are fighting a losing battle, and I know there’s thousands of other families enduring the same pain that we are. We are at a standstill.
I will speak on behalf of the above mentioned thousands when I say Child Support would be paid more frequently if there were better ethics in place. With an EBT card you can only purchase groceries, right? If you are caught cheating the system to obtain EBT fraudulently-your benefits get cancelled, right? The Department is still attacking my husband even though he has had sole legal and physical custody of all of his children-pushing to have him incarcerated again. We cannot get ahead! No one can when the program is just setting everyone up for failure. Not every Father is a “Dead-Beat” and not every Mother is a “victim”. Something has to be done!
All I have ever wanted is to be a mother. I can’t do that because we’re constantly fighting DCSE. I have four step-children, each of which will tell you that I am their Mother, because once custody changed, they wanted nothing to do with their children. No phone calls, visits, or anything. Not even a Happy Birthday Card.
You are elected to support and help us, “The People”. I know I’m just one person, but hopefully my voice is enough to help everyone else that is scared to approach this controversial topic.
Thank you in advance for taking the time to review m, and hopefully amend this horrible cycle.
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