Make child support more than just a revenue collector
To whom this may concern:
My name is Andrea and 13 years ago I committed a white collar crime in my early 30's. I'm not proud, I embarrassed myself as well as my family. In doing so my husband of of 12 years decided he wanted a divorce and he went for blood. I lost everything and still did my very best to maintain. The most important thing I lost was my children. Of course there were court orders for visitation and such but not once were they followed. As all of this was going on he had already met someone new and was moving on and she was calling all the shots including having him file as the parental parent and coming after me for child support instead of shared parenting. The past 13 I have endured severe stress and depression, I have paid child support faithfully for 2 children. My youngest will graduate in May just a couple of months shy of her 19th birthday. I have tried to remain in there lives but everytime I do here comes the current spouse causing trouble. I've been bullied and threatened via text and email. The threats are not physical but I know first hand what a nightmare they can create. I find it very unfair that she has been allowed to know all of my business via child support. I have been made to follow all rules and pay even though my ex-husband makes 3 times the amount I do. They do not have to follow the rules but I do. How is that fair??? I'm not a dead beat but yet I'm treated that way. This needs to change, I have no problem taking care of my children but why does someone making 70,000 a year need a large child support payment especially when they basically refuse to let you see your children. I have no money for an attorney so I have been forced to endure the heart ache, I've been forced to move 2 states away to just try to have a normal life and not live in fear of what they will do to me next. Child Support needs a make over, they should have to make the other parent just as responsible.
My name is Andrea and 13 years ago I committed a white collar crime in my early 30's. I'm not proud, I embarrassed myself as well as my family. In doing so my husband of of 12 years decided he wanted a divorce and he went for blood. I lost everything and still did my very best to maintain. The most important thing I lost was my children. Of course there were court orders for visitation and such but not once were they followed. As all of this was going on he had already met someone new and was moving on and she was calling all the shots including having him file as the parental parent and coming after me for child support instead of shared parenting. The past 13 I have endured severe stress and depression, I have paid child support faithfully for 2 children. My youngest will graduate in May just a couple of months shy of her 19th birthday. I have tried to remain in there lives but everytime I do here comes the current spouse causing trouble. I've been bullied and threatened via text and email. The threats are not physical but I know first hand what a nightmare they can create. I find it very unfair that she has been allowed to know all of my business via child support. I have been made to follow all rules and pay even though my ex-husband makes 3 times the amount I do. They do not have to follow the rules but I do. How is that fair??? I'm not a dead beat but yet I'm treated that way. This needs to change, I have no problem taking care of my children but why does someone making 70,000 a year need a large child support payment especially when they basically refuse to let you see your children. I have no money for an attorney so I have been forced to endure the heart ache, I've been forced to move 2 states away to just try to have a normal life and not live in fear of what they will do to me next. Child Support needs a make over, they should have to make the other parent just as responsible.
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