Best Interest of A Child Before Irresponsible Parent\'s Rights
Irresponsible parents should have their rights terminated.
I petition that the law rules in the best interest of the child by terminating every irresponsible parent?s rights as soon as the responsible parent files a petition in court.
I was told by OAG that a father has the right to change his mind, 5, 10, 15 years later and demand his rights. So I ask all of you?. Who will choose to rule in favor of the children? Isn?t it the best interest of a child to be adopted by a man who has taken care of him/her unconditionally? Why are the irresponsible parent?s rights more important than the child?s. Do you think it?s fair for a child to be taken away from a loving father if the mother were to pass away only because the irresponsible biological father who has never wanted to even see her has rights? I am pro father-child bonding. If the father wanted to, he would have been able to see our child. I believe in the child?s right to bond with the father. I also believe that a child should never have to beg for a parent?s love or care. I used to want to petition for irresponsible parents being obligated to financially support while losing all rights to the child as a punishment for bringing babies into this world and choosing to reject them, but money is of the least importance to me as a mother.
Long story short.... Only reason I established paternity was because I wanted to do my part for my child to have the ability to grow up knowing her father and I also believed that if he didn't want to even see her, I was going to be able to have his rights terminated. I was advised by several attorneys to establish paternity as a first step since the bio-father once threatened that if I were to pass away, he would take the child from whoever had the rights. This is after he told me he wanted nothing to do with our child. He owes over $5k in arrears and chooses not to visit her. He thinks he's hurting me by doing this. I contacted the OAG visitation hotline and was told that not paying CS and not visiting our child was not a valid reason to terminate his rights; that no judge will rule in our favor. Now, I don?t see why a very irresponsible criminal who has money to pay his probation, his cellphone, etc, cannot have his rights terminated after he has clearly demonstrated he has no love for his child. I have seen fathers fight for their rights. A parent who loves a child will do everything feasible to bond with the child. A parent that cares would provide even a small amount to help take care of the child. Oh, he once told me that he wouldn?t worry about his child since he was sure that as a mother, I wouldn?t let her starve. Wow, what a wonderful father that should make him. My husband is the only one who works since we decided I stay home and take care of our children. While he makes enough money to keep us off of welfare, we still cannot afford to be hiring attorneys to take our case to court. Especially after being told that his rights will not be terminated. One female attorney once told me ?Men will be men and we can?t expect them to love the children the same way mothers do.? I was very disappointed. I know I was very irresponsible for agreeing to bring her into this world in the manner it occurred. I trusted the man I was going to marry, therefore, I agreed after he insisted many times. I later learned that he was not only an irresponsible man, but he was very dishonest and unfaithful. For this I will have to live with the consequences. What's done cannot be undone and the only thing I wish now is for my child to be protected in case something were to happen to me. It would be devastating for her to be taken away from the only man that she knows and loves as I know the only reason the bio-father would take her would be to avoid child support.
I was told by OAG that a father has the right to change his mind, 5, 10, 15 years later and demand his rights. So I ask all of you?. Who will choose to rule in favor of the children? Isn?t it the best interest of a child to be adopted by a man who has taken care of him/her unconditionally? Why are the irresponsible parent?s rights more important than the child?s. Do you think it?s fair for a child to be taken away from a loving father if the mother were to pass away only because the irresponsible biological father who has never wanted to even see her has rights? I am pro father-child bonding. If the father wanted to, he would have been able to see our child. I believe in the child?s right to bond with the father. I also believe that a child should never have to beg for a parent?s love or care. I used to want to petition for irresponsible parents being obligated to financially support while losing all rights to the child as a punishment for bringing babies into this world and choosing to reject them, but money is of the least importance to me as a mother.
Long story short.... Only reason I established paternity was because I wanted to do my part for my child to have the ability to grow up knowing her father and I also believed that if he didn't want to even see her, I was going to be able to have his rights terminated. I was advised by several attorneys to establish paternity as a first step since the bio-father once threatened that if I were to pass away, he would take the child from whoever had the rights. This is after he told me he wanted nothing to do with our child. He owes over $5k in arrears and chooses not to visit her. He thinks he's hurting me by doing this. I contacted the OAG visitation hotline and was told that not paying CS and not visiting our child was not a valid reason to terminate his rights; that no judge will rule in our favor. Now, I don?t see why a very irresponsible criminal who has money to pay his probation, his cellphone, etc, cannot have his rights terminated after he has clearly demonstrated he has no love for his child. I have seen fathers fight for their rights. A parent who loves a child will do everything feasible to bond with the child. A parent that cares would provide even a small amount to help take care of the child. Oh, he once told me that he wouldn?t worry about his child since he was sure that as a mother, I wouldn?t let her starve. Wow, what a wonderful father that should make him. My husband is the only one who works since we decided I stay home and take care of our children. While he makes enough money to keep us off of welfare, we still cannot afford to be hiring attorneys to take our case to court. Especially after being told that his rights will not be terminated. One female attorney once told me ?Men will be men and we can?t expect them to love the children the same way mothers do.? I was very disappointed. I know I was very irresponsible for agreeing to bring her into this world in the manner it occurred. I trusted the man I was going to marry, therefore, I agreed after he insisted many times. I later learned that he was not only an irresponsible man, but he was very dishonest and unfaithful. For this I will have to live with the consequences. What's done cannot be undone and the only thing I wish now is for my child to be protected in case something were to happen to me. It would be devastating for her to be taken away from the only man that she knows and loves as I know the only reason the bio-father would take her would be to avoid child support.
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