Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence

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We, the undersigned, are writing in hopes of bringing to your attention a dire misjustice that is occuring in our state as well as many others across the US. Laws inacted to protect the victims of the vile crime of domestic violence are being misused by both citizens as well as law enforcement, and in this process innocent men's lives are being destroyed. In most states, the burden of proof is being thrown out and the simple word of the acuser is being taken without question, many times without the accused even being allowed to speak. True victims of domestic violence, some of whose names you will find below, find this to be deplorable. Not only can a woman falsely accuse a man of domestic violence without fear of consequence, but the accused man has no voice against her. The accuser can be a mentally disturbed individual using such laws to exact her revenge against a man who simply does not want to be in a relationship anymore, and her word is automatically taken, even when no evidence is in place. The man in such cases is automatically arrested, injunctions are automatically set in place, and even if he is able to prove his innocence in court he has lost months of his life due to the fact that she cried wolf. Worse yet are the cases of these innocent men who are poor and have no means to hire private attorneys. Their public defenders assume they are guilty and therefore do only the bare necessities to be their legal voice.We are not in any way asking for a revocation of the laws that protect true victims of domestic violence. Our wish is that these laws be revisited and indications made to to allow for criminal and civil prosecution when someone, whether male or female, has misused these laws in a vindictive and cunning way. We also would ask that law enforcement officers, public attorneys, and judges be forced to recognize the precept that the accused is innocent until proven guilty. Unfortunately, in the cases of domestic violence accusations, the opposite is true. An example of this is that of a 20 year old Florida resident who made the bond that was set for him, only to be picked up the very next day without provocation. The acuser in this case simply told the court she was afraid. He had done nothing in terms of trying to contact her or see her, and was not without several witnesses the few short hours he was free. Something must be done to prevent those who would lie about being a victim of domestic violence from continuing to do so. If it is not, our prisons will be overrun with innocent men and our streets will be controlled by the women who sent them there.

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My whole life has been messed over by a false accusations of domestic violence. I was in my early 40's, with no priors arrest, and worked for the Department of Homeland Security at the time.
The mother of my children wanted shelter, government assistance, and a way out of the relationship.
With no job, she saw this out of a relationship that for one reason or another, she really didn't want to be in. At the time, when jailed, l didn't have money to meet bail. So I took a plea out of a justice system that was just stringing me a long. The plea was one of the worst mistake that I ever made in my life. I now have a record that not a reflection of me ,my personality, or anything that I truly believe in.
It is sad that there are women out there who are being abused and actually need shelter and government assistance who have there spots taken by women who fabricate stories of abuse for the purpose of obtaining housing,money,and an abundance of government assistance and resources and worst of all use there children as pawns and tools for revenge! I am a man that's had my son taken from me by his homeless mother who used false claims of domestic violence has her living in a shelter with our 6yr old son who was living with me sleeping in his own bed.even with no proof or credible witnesses the judge denied me joint custody and only allows me every other weekend after not seeing or speaking to my son in 5 months.ive never been arrested or even questioned for domestic violence.mean while the mom gets housing ,cash, job ,assistance ,and my kid is in counseling behind false accusations .if that's not mental abuse I don't know what is.any judge doing there job a little could see the inconsistency it this woman stories.the system is broke and doesn't work for men!
Im a witness to a girl breaking into her boyfriends window and biting him repeatedly. I told tge boy to call the police. The police arrested both of them. The boy was in jail & plead guilty to get out of jail (due from fear of jail). Eeeeeeeeergh!
I"m going through a messy divorce in CA. I stop giving my wife cash money during our divorce and instead paid for everything with my ATM card to have records of finacial support. She was ****ed off that I was no longer giving her cash money. She was coached to place a TRO on me by filling a false dv report with no merrit. She obtained the TRO through the courts with several false dv allegations. I was never arrested for the dv allegations. The sad part about this.......my ex wife was coached by her moma.....to place this TRO on me right befor our spousal/ child support and visitation court hearing. Now I have lost tempory parental rights, pay more spousal and child support untill my TRO hearing. This is an unjustice and abuse of the legal system...the best part of this situation.....Im in law enforcement and now I might lose everything I worked hard for in my life because I decided to file and pay to divorce this women......LOVE HAS NO FURRY LIKE A WOMENS SCORN......
My brother had a dispute with his soon to be x wife and she tried to hit his hand and he pushed her aside with reasonable force to keep her from hitting him and now he is up for Domestic Violence charge. This is wrong, she is bigger than him and has been the bully all their years of marriage. She works for the state of MI and is now living at a Shelter for Domestic Violence victims. She is taking away from people that really need it. They have been separated for 2 months and he has made no effort to see her or be near her, yet she drives by his house all the time to intimidate him. She even tried to get her 19 year old daughter to place a PPO on him so that she could live at the shelter with her. I realize that Domestic Violence is wrong; but, we have to realize that people should be innocent till proven guilty and these laws are not set up this way. Please help us change this, Prosecutors should do their research before slapping these charges on innocent people.
My husband and my life were ruined by the current laws. My husband is mentally ill, and instead of helping they coerced me to signing a paper when the police were called. Now, his meds are working, and he cannot get a job. He is a good person, kind, and now the system just lumped him in with severe batterers. He has never punched me. I hope that we can temper the extreme, one sided laws in place now. I hope that additional legislation will allow expungement of class a misdemeanors for men who do not repeat offend, who go through therapy and complete probation. The current laws are ruining lives.
I was falsely accussed by my husband, three months after our marraige with the intentions of taking my house away from me. The judge said she only skimmed throught the paperwork and gave my house to him for three months, when he is not listed as an owner or lien in the house. I hold a respectable job with the Federal Government and these false accusations may damage my career.
Women need to step up against the fight in dv and start a petition for women to stop slapping men.
This has to stop. To many lives are being destroyed especially children. False accusers should have to pay, fines, court cost, attorney fees and time in jail.
Both of us had to pay 5 thousand dollars and an additional 2500 to bail me out
I was falsely accused of domestic violence, Ithas been 12 years since I last seen my children in a supervised visit when the visit was over the supervisor pulled my sun from my arms he was crying and did not want to leave me. I said then and there I would not put my children through this anymore it was the hardest decision of my life. I think of them everyday their mother has moved them to central Fl. that they are older to keep them from me as there interest in their father grows she has done everything she can to keep them from me. When i left the marriage she told me she begged me to stay, when I declined she told me "If you leave I will make sure you never see these kids again,ever" that was the only promise she ever kept. Through all of this I have continued to pay support for my children carry life insurance in the case of my death they are supported. My money is good enough to support them yet I am not! The family courts are all about the money, not the best interest of the child.I miss them so much, the hurt is killing me little by little everyday!
I am a victim of DV who also was falsely accused encouraged by abuser's attorney in a custody battle. Let's be more proactive and show that NOW and other DV groups only care about profit not the abuse or false allegations.
This is an awful, discriminatory "loophole" in the current laws that the real victim, the accused, apparently has no voice, no representation, no fair due process, and is guilty until proven innocent. Once proven innocent, there is no apology, no restitution, no way to get back lost time with children taken away, no way to change children's memories of being told lies that their victimized parent had hurt the lying parent, etc. It is deplorable for any parent to do this to their own children. It is also wrong for the laws to allow a parent to do this, perfectly legally, and it is wrong for the government to side with an abuser of children.
I have lived this nightmare along side my boyfriend for almost a year. His ex wife got a new bf and they plotted to push him out of his children's lives and make the new bf their daddy. Starting with false allegations of DV, then when that didn't work, false allegations of sexual abuse. A very good man and loving father had his babies ripped away from him and his name and reputation will forever be questioned in some peoples minds. After almost a year of court dates and thousands of dollars in lawyers fees, he was proven innocent and the judge threw out all charges. But how does both the father and the children recover from the trauma? Because of the actions of a vindictive woman, the children are so messed up and possibly being threatened. No one wants to believe a woman could lie and be so evil but everyone is so quick to accuse an innocent man and ruin his life. There needs to be a stiff penalty for anyone who falsely accuses a parent of abuse to gain custody or take away parental rights.
People who are innocent should not be punish for a false accusation.