Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence

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We, the undersigned, are writing in hopes of bringing to your attention a dire misjustice that is occuring in our state as well as many others across the US. Laws inacted to protect the victims of the vile crime of domestic violence are being misused by both citizens as well as law enforcement, and in this process innocent men's lives are being destroyed. In most states, the burden of proof is being thrown out and the simple word of the acuser is being taken without question, many times without the accused even being allowed to speak. True victims of domestic violence, some of whose names you will find below, find this to be deplorable. Not only can a woman falsely accuse a man of domestic violence without fear of consequence, but the accused man has no voice against her. The accuser can be a mentally disturbed individual using such laws to exact her revenge against a man who simply does not want to be in a relationship anymore, and her word is automatically taken, even when no evidence is in place. The man in such cases is automatically arrested, injunctions are automatically set in place, and even if he is able to prove his innocence in court he has lost months of his life due to the fact that she cried wolf. Worse yet are the cases of these innocent men who are poor and have no means to hire private attorneys. Their public defenders assume they are guilty and therefore do only the bare necessities to be their legal voice.We are not in any way asking for a revocation of the laws that protect true victims of domestic violence. Our wish is that these laws be revisited and indications made to to allow for criminal and civil prosecution when someone, whether male or female, has misused these laws in a vindictive and cunning way. We also would ask that law enforcement officers, public attorneys, and judges be forced to recognize the precept that the accused is innocent until proven guilty. Unfortunately, in the cases of domestic violence accusations, the opposite is true. An example of this is that of a 20 year old Florida resident who made the bond that was set for him, only to be picked up the very next day without provocation. The acuser in this case simply told the court she was afraid. He had done nothing in terms of trying to contact her or see her, and was not without several witnesses the few short hours he was free. Something must be done to prevent those who would lie about being a victim of domestic violence from continuing to do so. If it is not, our prisons will be overrun with innocent men and our streets will be controlled by the women who sent them there.

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My ex, a sociopathic narcissist, feels no remorse for false allegation against me, and having been an attorney was well aware of the disaster that was being created for me.
My ex, a sociopathic narcissist, feels no remorse for false allegation against me, and having been an attorney was well aware of the disaster that was being created for me.
Dido to all. My wife had an affair or two, decided she wanted to separate / but filed for divorce and wanted me to leave. My three children wanted house sold and her to leave. She filed for an order of protection, it "was not" a restraining order. We were only allowed to talk about or children. I stayed completely away from my home each night until 9 p.m. or later and only went home to sleep. I worked two jobs, the second to pay my son's college tuition. After order in place, she alleged a violation. I was subpoenaed to appear in family court, judge ruled in my favor, would not remove me from home or change order which infuriated her. She two weeks later cried wolf again. I returned home at 9 p.m. to have her throw a hot drink on me and then again call the Village cops. This time they sent robo-cop with a chip on his shoulder and he arrested me, class one felony for contempt. I was arrested in front of my 19 year old daughter. He refused to let me call attorney, he refused to allow me to make a phone call, he did not read me my rights and did not tell me what I was being arrested for. I represented myself, DA dropped charges. I have filed a notice of claim against robo-pig and village. It is my understanding that there are only three (3) arrestable offenses in violation of a "Restrain" from order and those are misdemeanors. The order that she had was a "Refrain" from and very limited. I was also told robo-pig needed a warrant from Court and Court could only charge me with felony contempt, however there was no basis. I am a business professional with not so much as a parking ticket . I spent 28.5 hours confined and in County jail. Not sure who orchestrated this but divorce was over in 8 months because Judge was infuriated with me? No-one would listen to me. She was able to remain in home for 3 years until my youngest graduates high school. I have to wait for house to be sold for my share (50%) of home. She was able to have her affair and not have her life change beyond me not being in it. Something so wrong with the system. I am fortunate that my older two children know the truth and have been protective of me. She has primary residence but we have joint custody. My 14 soon to be 15 year old son has been and still is my life. Now I am reduced to seeing him when I can within confines of her craziness. Cannot trust her even now that we are divorced.
I never knew things like this were possible, but it is true, it's all leverage that is used in a pending divorce to get a leg up. The true domestic violence victims have to wait because of the courts being over run by false allegations and of course the children suffer the most. Deplorable that this goes on this day and age. I know 4 other people personally that this has happened to. I am going through this now after finding my wife having a secret relationship, gave her divorce papers , I leave for a business trip and the next day she files this protective order alleging abuse the entire relationship and also to my kids. I haven't seen my boys in 2 weeks, and filed the divorce the next day when I got back from my trip she then gets an attorney and tells my attorney they will dismiss the charges if I drop the pre-nup. NO WAY, I am going to fight for my kids, they deserve that from me, I have never been accused of anything like his or even have any type of police record. This is such an abuse!!!!!!!!!
My son who loves his children is fighting for equal parenting time. His soon to be ex has tried everything in the book -Domestic violence and restraining order (both rejected) and charges him with illegal drug use for prescription drugs. When police investigated she then claimed okay they are legal but he was abusing them. It is her word against his and it has cost the city, county, and my son lots of money. Detectives had to investigate for nothing rather than go after real drug problems yet nothing happens to her. What about perjury laws? What about filing false police reports? Absolutely nothing gets done and she just keeps making stuff up. Now why would she do this? It is all about money. She wants to go back to the husband she divorced before my son because he has more money and she can spend, spend, spend with no consequences. This is a sad state of affairs.
We are going through the same thing right now. My fiancé ex wife just kept adding things. My fiancé never got to tell his side. He got 5 yrs in prison, and she wanted him to do 2 yrs. He was supposed to be released a week ago, but the DOC likes to play games. This woman is evil. Especially threatening to put someone else away.
I agree, we need . To be inocent until proven gulty .unless other victim as brises and more deep investigation. Women lie
Unfortunately I have experienced this first hand and I would have beat the charges but instead I did not want the children (all 6 of them ) to have to choose sides and cause friction between eachother too. I was falsely accused and the mother was threatening to punish whom ever told the truth. Something has to change very soon before anymore children are affected by this ridiculous law. Seperated from the children and EX has shacked up with a person whos Father is a retired State Trooper who is just as conniving and spiteful as her. I am not wishing any misfortune to anyone. I JUST WANT TO BE ABLE TO HUG MY CHILDREN AND BE IN THEIR LIVES. Thank you for this website and all the others who are doing what is "in the best interest for children everywhere".
Falsely arrested twice. Unable to see my one daughter, 10 yrs old 50 days. Unable to get any personal belongings from home. Afraid of police brutality. Wife has friends who are police officers
If you CURRENTLY have a Protective Order or Restraining Order issued against you, PLEASE do yourself and the rest of us a favor. FIND a lawyer who will CHALLENGE the CONSTITUTIONALITY of YOUR order!.... AND take it ALL THE WAY to the Supreme Court!

Not every lawyer will want to do this, but FIND one who will! Tell your lawyer to reference "crespo vs crespo" in New Jersey These orders were ruled to be unconstitutional, but it was later overturned on appeal. It is very rare that anyone challenges the constitutionality of the orders. This******WILL change.

These orders are a direct violation of the US constitution. The right to a trial, the right to due process, the right to face your accuser and cross examine them, and the right to be presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law, under due process.

Find a lawyer who will challenge the constitutionality of YOUR order, and take it all the way to the supreme court. Google: "crespo vs crespo" in New Jersey. Use that case as a reference. Crespo WON! It was RULED that these orders are unconstitutional (duh), but it was later overturned. We need EVERY person with a Protective Order or Restraining Order to start challenging the constitutionality of these orders in court... and this BS WILL change! It is a DIRECT violation of our most BASIC civil rights. These orders are literally guilty, until you can somehow prove yourself innocent!

Please do yourself AND the rest of us a favor.... find a lawyer who is willing and do it! Please. It took me YEARS to figure this out, and I cannot do it because my life has already been ruined and my Protective order has expired... your order has to be CURRENT. I wish I had known when this first happened to me. Please fight this crap in court, for ALL of us. Thank you.
I just got kicked out of my house Thursday due to being acused of domestic violence. I have never laid a hand on her, harassed her, stalked, etc. But now I havent seen my son in over 2 weeks and she is pushing to take everything that I bought and that was given to me by family, and also going to try to take full custody of my son.