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Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence

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We, the undersigned, are writing in hopes of bringing to your attention a dire misjustice that is occuring in our state as well as many others across the US. Laws inacted to protect the victims of the vile crime of domestic violence are being misused by both citizens as well as law enforcement, and in this process innocent men's lives are being destroyed. In most states, the burden of proof is being thrown out and the simple word of the acuser is being taken without question, many times without the accused even being allowed to speak. True victims of domestic violence, some of whose names you will find below, find this to be deplorable. Not only can a woman falsely accuse a man of domestic violence without fear of consequence, but the accused man has no voice against her. The accuser can be a mentally disturbed individual using such laws to exact her revenge against a man who simply does not want to be in a relationship anymore, and her word is automatically taken, even when no evidence is in place. The man in such cases is automatically arrested, injunctions are automatically set in place, and even if he is able to prove his innocence in court he has lost months of his life due to the fact that she cried wolf. Worse yet are the cases of these innocent men who are poor and have no means to hire private attorneys. Their public defenders assume they are guilty and therefore do only the bare necessities to be their legal voice.We are not in any way asking for a revocation of the laws that protect true victims of domestic violence. Our wish is that these laws be revisited and indications made to to allow for criminal and civil prosecution when someone, whether male or female, has misused these laws in a vindictive and cunning way. We also would ask that law enforcement officers, public attorneys, and judges be forced to recognize the precept that the accused is innocent until proven guilty. Unfortunately, in the cases of domestic violence accusations, the opposite is true. An example of this is that of a 20 year old Florida resident who made the bond that was set for him, only to be picked up the very next day without provocation. The acuser in this case simply told the court she was afraid. He had done nothing in terms of trying to contact her or see her, and was not without several witnesses the few short hours he was free. Something must be done to prevent those who would lie about being a victim of domestic violence from continuing to do so. If it is not, our prisons will be overrun with innocent men and our streets will be controlled by the women who sent them there.

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1 hour ago
Christopher B. from Jacksonville, FL writes:
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This exact thing happened to me. The day I broke up with my girlfriend, I went home and was almost immediately attacked. I didn't even fight back, I had a ripped shirt and bloody nose. She marked her own neck up. She then called the police and told them I attacked her, and with barely any questions they took me to jail, and allowed her to sleep in my bed in my home while I went to jail. This is a real thing, women do it all the time, please help.
1 day ago
Richard L. from Hampton, VA signed.
1 day ago
Someone from Portage, MI writes:
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Things like and this is just one example (other are mentioned above and some not mentioned above) an accuser (man or women) who is a mentally disturbed individual (such as one suffering from a personality disorder esp. cluster a and b) using such laws to exact her (or his) revenge against a man (or woman) who simply does not want to be in a relationship with them anymore, did not do something they wanted them to do, would not support their alcohol or drug habit by giving the accuser money/alcohol/etc, would not agree on with the accuser about something trivial as what time to take out the trash or not show up to a dinner with the accuser cuz they are ill, etc. I am not saying that every person man or woman that accuses another man or woman (usually a spouse or bf or gf) of domestic violence/abuse is lying nor everyone who accuses has a mental illness etc. Most are not lying and are in fact telling the truth and are the real victims. The accused then do deserve to be charged etc. However the men and women who are innocent and the real victims should not be punished, files charged against, their lives ruined, etc cuz of someone pretending to be a victim and lies etc to cops, law, courts, judges etc to get the real victims/innocent ones put behind bars, forced to pay fines, stuff on record, etc. for whatever reason (revenge, etc). Perhaps those accusing ppl should have to go under an evaluation and lie detector test before any charges can be officially filed and lives ruined etc. and if found to be lying even when mentally not well (such as pd etc) then they will be the ones penalized put in jail forced to go to court and seek help for their issues etc. and all charges against the person they filled against will be dropped. Punish the real abusers/ppl committing domestic violence/abuse... not the innocent ppl the real victims for lack of better wording. Idk I guess what I am trying to say is something needs to be done something needs to change some ppl with and without power need to do whats right etc. Innocent ppl man and woman lives should not be ruined cuz of ppl falsely accusing them of things they did not do. Ppl should not be to have someone or them selves inflict harm onto themselves and say it was who they accused it was and the accused go to jail etc when they are innocent either. The right ppl need to have files charged against them, the right ppl need to go to jail and pay fines etc. Innocent ppl do not need to go to court need to go to jail etc.
1 day ago
Jorge C. from Apo, AE writes:
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Mi nombre soy Jorge Cardona, civilian trabajando por el Gobierno de Estados Unidos, He sido falsamente cusado de abuser fisica y siologicamente a mi mujer, las acusaciones son falsas y pueden ser provadas, decia que la mantenia encerrada, pues ella entraba a la base military a clases de Ingles y Aleman, ademas iba a las tiendas; esto nunca lo miraron, ella tenia o tiene tarjeta de crdito/debito, tambien tiene identificacion como mi depende, esto sirve para mirar cuando ella entraba, en la base. Los cargos de abuso fisico, ella , me trato de atacar con un cuchillo, lo reporte a FAP representante y me dijo que ella no pdia hacer reporte porque aca en alemania, ellos solo ven casos de soldados, la representantede FAP llamo a la Policia Militar de Estados Unidos y acuerdo a ella dijo "ellos tampoco pueden recibir el reporte porque no soy military, ellos no tiene nada que ver con civiles". finalmente despues de 6 meses fui escuchado por la Policia Militar Americana de aca (Alemania) despues de que hice el reporte de abuso, fui acusado (sospechoso) de interferer con la justicia y proveer false declaraciones. Mi mujer durante su declaratoria dijo que yo era que le habia agredido fisicamente, y que las marcas y mordidas que ella me causo era por defenderse. yo estaba en peligro ella me amenazaba que si me iba me acusaba a la policia, despues de lograr grabar algunos eventos en mi cellular, con el apoyo de companeos de trabajo sali de la casa, y todo ha sido una pesadilla.
1 day ago
Marylou W. from Gulfport, MS writes:
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I am a domestic abuse survivor and work with victims of domestic abuse. Women/girls who falsely accuse because they want to get even, take the blame off themselves or get full custody need to be held accountable. Men's lives are ruined from false accusations! I have written books and articles about abuse and am in the process of writing about false accusations about domestic abuse. www.goodkarmayoga.simdif.com
2 days ago
Someone from New York, NY writes:
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Currently living this nightmare. Was charged with misdemeanor aggravated harassment for making threats to an ex. The charges are baseless. In fact, the reason she filed a complaint was because she found out i was getting ready to do so. However she got there first, so I am now assumed guilty by the judicial system. I have no criminal record and am a pacifist. Nevertheless, I was arrested even though there is ZERO evidence and my ex is currently trying to recant her allegation but the DA is insisting on moving forward. I spent 48 hours in the "Tombs" at Manhattan central booking. Most of that time was in a 6x6 cage covered in feces and urine. No food, no water, nowhere to go to the bathroom. Was even kept for close to 24 hours after my bail was posted because my paperwork was "misplaced" I have been humiliated and have already spent over $10,000 in legal fees and associated costs all for simply having the misfortune of dating a malignant narcissist. When my case is resolved I will be pressing my own charges against her as well as a civil suit agains her, the NYC DOC, and the Manhattan DA's office. I am the victim here! Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty? Is this really a smart way to be using taxpayer money?
3 days ago
Brian and Tanisha M. from Havana, FL signed.
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Buffy B. from Dunedin, FL signed.
4 days ago
Someone from Wellesley, MA writes:
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My son is currently incarcerated because of false allegations and he has been there since before Christmas and he will not be released until sometime in April. he caught his wife cheating on him with her ex, and he left the house. she begged him to come home when he said "no, I'm filing for a divorce, and I'll get everything and you will get nothing because I have proof of you cheating on me." she went to the local police station and said my husband attempted to kill me and she knew the proper wording to use "strangulation" so now my son is facing 5 years in jail. They own two homes, and he has a great profession! He has two amazing kids by another woman that he was very involved with and they miss him terribly!! :( they cry for him all the time he can call them, however they say" Daddy come pick me up right now " its heartbreaking for our whole family. He is the most amazing son a mom could ever want. He has lost his job, and meanwhile she's sleeping with her ex-boyfriend in the house that my son bought and remodeled!!
4 days ago
Julianna R. from Reston, VA writes:
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I personally am a victim of REAL Domestic Violence - However - I am more importantly a survivor of Domestic Violence. I have recently married a man that has been abused himself, accused falsely by his x-wife and son's mother who collude together. But because he is black, over 6'foot and 280lbs the courts allow all of the allegations be drug in to court at the expense of attorney fees, money that could have gone to his children, and have every false allegation thrown out. We got married and now they have filed reports against me! which at the expense of hiring an attorney was money that would have been spent on his children. These orders (yes, they filed one against him also) where filed to prevent him from spending his court order Christmas visitation 2016 with his children and new wife. He has not seen his children for 45 days. one child is a 13 yrs. old boy and the other is his 8 year old daughter, both testified in court on my PO hearing and were cross examined by his ex-wife and lied. The wife represented herself, the judge called out the both of the mothers - This needs to stop! Because as a survivor I could not get one person/agency/department NO-One to help - Have Pictures names all documentation - would be happy to share it - This is taking away from the PEOPLE who really need the recourses and giving it to malicious vengeful, usually women, who are lying for there own benefit.