UNFAIR CHILDSUPPORT LAWS FOR FATHERS
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Oct 10th, 2016David S. from Greeley, CO writes:
I agree and feel that the system needs to be looked at deeply. -
Oct 10th, 2016Someone from Fort Lauderdale, FL writes:
My childrens mother after we broke up 5 months later went and put me on child support even though i had my kids 3 days out the week and my mother 2 days. Gave her cash money and a part of their lives. Lied to the judge, said she was broke with no income, then got hired for a job paying $48,000 a year and bragged to my face at a joint custody hearing that i never got because she failed to show up and i didnt know the proper procedure. Back in court fighting to stay alive while they mess up my credit down 119 points because i couldnt afford to pay. How dare them attack my credit to put me in a bigger hole? This is abuse of powerREPORT COMMENTS
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Oct 9th, 2016Russell S. from Danvers, MA signed.
Oct 6th, 2016tanner a. from Cushing, MN writes:
i used to work for myself as a painter and because i have a part time job as a mail carrier making 17 an hour they calculated my child support to be 16 an hour at 40 hours a week.....I wish i could get that many hours in. Im only guarenteed 8 hours a week on saturday at my job and winter months get really slow for my painting business....oh and allow me to mention that the county that this takes place is one of the poorest in state. since then, ive had to quit painting, and find more work. i now ride as an aid on a school bus 20 hours a week as well as the mail carrier job, but the aid job only pays 14 an hour. i asked my lawyer if i could reevalute my child support and he told me it they would just tell me im under employed......ive also been learning how to day trade but they wont consider it as schooling, even tho i pay for the education. I've been doing a cash job when i can for in between my school bus shifts but its still not enough to survive. Not only have i had to rack up a significant amount of debt to pay for food and gas but ive been forced to live with my parents now which is really fun.......so despite the fact that i am working 6 days a week, i still can't get my child support knocked down to allow me to survive on my own....Thats not even the worst part. my son needs me in his life but they wont give me 50/50. so this is where i couldnt fathom. i am on food stamps, and medical assistance, but they still make me pay 558 a month to my ex. 50 of which goes to the state for his medical assistance! The child support lady says i have to pay the 50 now that im not living with those two because before my income would've been helping with their expenses...........but, i said, isnt that what the 500.00 dollars and more than 65 percent of my income is going towards? oh and not to mention i cant even claim that money on my taxes...wtf!? idk how they get away with this but I'm fed up with it. i cant move forward financially because of this and its not fair at all. I feel so helpless to it all. i hope this reaches somebody that can help because i feel like ive exhausted all of my efforts in finding enough money to make it on my own.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 5th, 2016Someone from Hattiesburg, MS writes:
The system is design, for a hard working man to fail n life and for his kids... Cause look at the world now a woman can just do what she want, take your kids from you and get your money every week are month. If something happen to where u get laid off are loss of job you still have to keep paying child support are get behind and go to jail.I don't have a problem with paying child support but a least let me carry my kids on my taxes n get some of my money back instead of letting the women get child support for a whole year then turn around and get $8,000 back from income taxes. Not fair for men, it takes two to make a child not just a man...REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 4th, 2016Someone from Darlington, SC writes:
I agree as I have to pay for two kids and it doesn't even give me the right to the one thing that matters ( court ordered time with my kids ) that's what's really important. Really the average dad inside the home only pays a fraction of what a " absent " parent has to spend on their kids by law no matter if your going through hardship or not . BS!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 4th, 2016Someone from Parkersburg, WV writes:
This I can get behind because I pay the state of Maryland for 2 kids plus cash assistance my ex wife got after her and I split up plus health insurance for both children so I pay 1100 a month to child support plus the additional 130 a week for insurance through work and I asked the court from the beginning to make sure my money was used on my kids but the judge said there is no way to enforce itREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 1st, 2016Javier T. from Columbus, OH signed.
Oct 1st, 2016Someone from Sacramento, CA writes:
Child suppot is not the answer. Relationship will fail and some parents will not fulfill there obligation. This is unfortunate It almost feels as if couples plan there breakup before there union. This is because of the template made by the long history of family law. There is no motivation to work through issues. The process is highly emotion and no place for an agency that functions on paperwork exclusively. Family values are suffering while the state in all its capacity is encouraging the decline. It's hard to imagine the people involved aren't well aware of the devastating byproducts. However dull narrow minds will always get in were they fit in. Best of luck if you are a honest hard working america and get caught in the state drag-net. Keep your head up and don't resent the family you tried to start. Hopefully people start to wake up.............REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 29th, 2016Someone from Hewitt, TX writes:
Seems like women just get pregnant for the money these days and damn sure don't spend it all on the child. Child support laws have done nothing but punish men for having children, while rewarding the women for having them. It's another reason why America has such a high divorce rate. I mean why should a woman want to stick around forever if she can get a check in the mail ever month just for leaving you while moving on to the next victim. I pay $950 a month for my son plus healthcare. When I asked my friend who lives with his wife and kids if he spent that much money on his two girls every single month, he simply replied, hell no. The problem is this will never change because the courts and attorneys make a fortune off of this system just like the women. Its seriously time that the courts focus on a method which provides everyone with justice. I mean that's what there here for right? Its not that men don't want to support their children, because we do. We just don't want to go broke and end up living under a bridge just because we brought a child into this world. I don't know why they call it child support because its far more than just support. Its an annual salary these women receive.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 27th, 2016Someone from Muskogee, OK writes:
My ex-wife remarried a doctor. After a couple of years into their marriage she called me and advised me that she contacted the state and I was no longer required to pay child support. I fell for it. No problem for years. She and the Dr. are divorced now and she is broke. Our daughter is 25, two college degrees and no children. But now I am being sued for back child support and interest totaling over $120,000.00. Almost $70,000.00 in interest.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 26th, 2016Someone from Council Bluffs, IA signed.
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Sep 26th, 2016Someone from Lincoln, NE signed.
Sep 26th, 2016Someone from Council Bluffs, IA writes:
These mother are having baby after baby. I have a daughter by a woman in Nebraska, my daughter was born in May of 1990 that puts her at 26 now her mother has multi kids by multi men she has been on goverment assistints at least 26 years it must be changedREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 25th, 2016Someone from Sacramento, CA writes:
I helped her try to get pregnant and it cost a lot of money and it did not work so she pushed and pushed me into adoption so we did and then she cheated on me which was not the first time, she was marmarried 2 times before me and did the same to both of them. End result she knew how to work the system and took me to the cleaners, and then I got sick lost my business I fell way behind just to get screwed with all that interest. I'm 61 and I can't control this issue and she will not work it out with me. I need help. It's not fair to help someone like her and then get treated like this.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 25th, 2016Someone from El Paso, TX signed.
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Sep 20th, 2016Someone from Dallas, TX writes:
What can we do. To get this government to help us. I don't seem to understand how we as men are loosing our rights. A bunch of the women are getting pregnant for the money. So illegal but the government puts a blind fold in occasions like this. I've worked so hard to stay out of trouble all of my life and it seems like the more I've gotten in to success, the more I get screwed. I was once married and had two girls with this person and in 2011 I filed for a divorce after she cheated on me because she thought I had cheated on her. When I handed her the papers she cried kicked and plead to give her another chance. After people from church getting involved I gave in. This would have obviously not saved me from child support but after years later she couldn't live with it and went into another rampage of none sence cheating on me thinking that now I had been cheating on her since she did it. Well this got to the point of her wanting out, after a big time in the trash of hanging on for my daughters, and she began making me go crazy saying she would get help and another saying I needed help and blaming me and so many other things. Came to find out my own best friend was putting things into her head, well to shorten this a bit, she ended calling the cops on me and telling them I had choked her and hit her and almost killed her. Now I have a felony I filed for the divorce and got it granted but at the end of everything I still get the short end. No daughters to see and or speak to for over a year now paying child support and health insurance. And while this insane moment and lack of concentration I flipped my car and luckily no injuries thanks to God and two weeks later another accident on another car and when friends where there to help me stay focused one being a female, she starts to play a role of subduction and taking advantage of my situation while drowning my self in alcohol, which that's bad on my part but who can have a calm and smooth ride in this type of event, and she became pregnant on her own decisions saying she did it to help me have a child to make up for my others that I had lost. So many facts and why do I have to end up taken advantage of. I'm now paying 2k a month and they are out spending it on stupid in responsible things while I can't enjoy a day of my life. Can we actually get together and press for a change?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 20th, 2016Someone from Burbank, IL writes:
It's absolutely ridiculous that as a father I'm supposed to give up 20 of my earnings while the mother lives wit mommy and daddy while also attending school. The laws are very one sided judges should have the right to have discretion in the matter. .REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 20th, 2016Someone from Burbank, IL writes:
It's absolutely ridiculous that as a father I'm supposed to give up 20 of my earnings while the mother lives wit mommy and daddy while also attending school. The laws are very one sided judges should have the right to have discretion in the matter. .REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 20th, 2016Someone from Blakeslee, PA signed.
Sep 19th, 2016Someone from San Diego, CA writes:
I agree that parents should be held responsible for their children, but this law stipulates unfair minimums that cause financial crisis to thise that honestly pay support. This law needs to be removed or minimum onligations need to be revised lower. The only things this law supports is the creation of deadbeat dads and parents who end up in jail for not being able to pay child support.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 19th, 2016Someone from Neelyville, MO signed.
Sep 18th, 2016Someone from Chesterfield, MO writes:
when i received my court order after two years i was shocked I couldn't believe i live in USA it was injustice and unfair ...it was like a joke i don't have nowhere to go to complain I am paying big child support my child and my X they are treating me as there employee with no respectREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 18th, 2016Someone from Laguna Beach, CA writes:
My ex lives with her mom. Doesn't pay rent, utilities, car payment. Has no bills. She has no job. She relies on my child support to support herself. I'm not able to buy my child the things he needs while he's with me because I pay so much in child support. It's unfair. It's punishing the responsible parents and teaching the children that it's better to milk the system than acually work.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 18th, 2016Someone from North Fort Myers, FL signed.
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Sep 13th, 2016Someone from Arcade, NY writes:
Yes very unfair. Reduced 401k barley can live. I keep the house going kids grew up in while shes out buying new car, vacations without kids $500 phone etc etc. I even had to buy school clothes becauae she stated she had no money. She also claims both kids,REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 13th, 2016Someone from Myrtle Creek, OR writes:
Both parents should be responsible for 1/2 the real need of raising there kid or kids, not calculated of income. This system is really screwed up.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 11th, 2016Someone from Houston, TX signed.
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Sep 8th, 2016Someone from Sanford, NC writes:
I honestly think that men get treated unfairly. I am a sworn in GAL for children and see alot of men at times in court trying to pay outrages child support payments. Living in a household where my husband struggled at times to provide for his child outside of the house; at times a total of 700.00 came out of his check within a two week period due to insurance and child support. Mind you, the mother, which the older child told us, would take her other baby shopping with the child support check and tell my husbands daughter, that she couldnt have anything because of bad grades. The thing is she would always call us praising our child that she was doing excellent in school. This was my personal struggle with a mother just sitting around shopping for her baby by another man and not taking care of my step daughter. I want to fight for men because its unfair. I thank God those days are over and when the money stopped so did the relationship as she neared 18. So was my husband just used to take care a whole nother household for 18 years? I think in taking care of a child it should be 50/50. I believe all men should have an equal set amount. Please understand that every woman don't do right by this money that they receive. Please help these men and women survive themselves. I believe children need love and compassion as well as money for support but make sure they receieve what's being sent. Yes I believe that the custodial parent need to provide lights, a roof etc as far as help but I also believe that getting their nails done, hair done, and personal care should be looked at and is very unfair to the non custodial parent. I belive just like with SSI or SSA in which you fill out a worksheet of how you spend the money on the children in which you are the one in charge of it, I believe this should be implicated also in the DCSE laws. Start making the CUSTODIAL parent responsible because we have no problem locking majority of our men up for it. Angel Clemons, GAL for the State of NC.REPORT COMMENTS
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Sep 1st, 2016Someone from Spring Grove, PA writes:
One would think that in this day in age with BOTH Mother AND Father having full time jobs, the child support calculations would be more fair, especially when legal custody is 50/50. I can completely understand if you were married for 10+ years and the Wife basically gave up a career outside of the home to raise the children. A little "starter" money might be appropriate based on some fancy calculation. I provide for my children when they are with me, yet somehow I also must bear the financial burden when they are not with me? I am all for providing for my kids, but when my ex wife works full time and is re-married, I have to draw the line here. I think step one is that if the ex-spouse gets re-married, child support should not even exist. It's insane how much this impacts the person who is forced to pay child support. I hear crazy stories about some guys paying over $5000 in child support. What? That's more than most people make when they are holding a full time job. Let's not forget that child support is not taxed to the person awarded the support, but somehow the person paying is getting screwed from a tax perspective. So my ex wife basically receives CASH each month that she does not have to claim on her taxes as income, even though she can use that money for whatever she pleases. I don't see the "balance" here at all with how child support is calculated. Some people pay $2000 per month per child where others are paying $200 per month per child. What kind of eff'd up logic is that? Because I am a capitalist and believe in advancing in my career, I get penalized because my ex wife decided to be a teacher? Again, no logic is used whatsoever! Based on the calculation that the state of PA uses, my ex-wife's net per month is only 10% less than mine even though my annual gross salary is 55% more than what she makes. Based on that statistic alone shows how unbalanced the child support laws are. This is not only a financial strain on me each month, but also a psychological one as well. I make a decent salary, yet am living paycheck to paycheck to ensure ends meet. I have had to sell things off just so I don't get negative with my checking account to cover unexpected costs. I have gone from saving 17% into my 401K each year to 1% on an annual basis because that is all that I can afford. So not only do I suffer when I am working, but will also suffer when I retire. THIS HAS TO STOP! There has to be more that I can do as a hard working, dedicated American citizen to be able to live out my dreams and provide for my kids. The most ironic part of this is that SHE was the one that filed for divorce. Great way for women to make some money out there. File for divorce and then take all the child support money that you can!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 1st, 2016Someone from Spring Grove, PA writes:
One would think that in this day in age with BOTH Mother AND Father having full time jobs, the child support calculations would be more fair, especially when legal custody is 50/50. I can completely understand if you were married for 10+ years and the Wife basically gave up a career outside of the home to raise the children. A little "starter" money might be appropriate based on some fancy calculation. I provide for my children when they are with me, yet somehow I also must bear the financial burden when they are not with me? I am all for providing for my kids, but when my ex wife works full time and is re-married, I have to draw the line here. I think step one is that if the ex-spouse gets re-married, child support should not even exist. It's insane how much this impacts the person who is forced to pay child support. I hear crazy stories about some guys paying over $5000 in child support. What? That's more than most people make when they are holding a full time job. Let's not forget that child support is not taxed to the person awarded the support, but somehow the person paying is getting screwed from a tax perspective. So my ex wife basically receives CASH each month that she does not have to claim on her taxes as income, even though she can use that money for whatever she pleases. I don't see the "balance" here at all with how child support is calculated. Some people pay $2000 per month per child where others are paying $200 per month per child. What kind of eff'd up logic is that? Because I am a capitalist and believe in advancing in my career, I get penalized because my ex wife decided to be a teacher? Again, no logic is used whatsoever! Based on the calculation that the state of PA uses, my ex-wife's net per month is only 10% less than mine even though my annual gross salary is 55% more than what she makes. Based on that statistic alone shows how unbalanced the child support laws are. This is not only a financial strain on me each month, but also a psychological one as well. I make a decent salary, yet am living paycheck to paycheck to ensure ends meet. I have had to sell things off just so I don't get negative with my checking account to cover unexpected costs. I have gone from saving 17% into my 401K each year to 1% on an annual basis because that is all that I can afford. So not only do I suffer when I am working, but will also suffer when I retire. THIS HAS TO STOP! There has to be more that I can do as a hard working, dedicated American citizen to be able to live out my dreams and provide for my kids. The most ironic part of this is that SHE was the one that filed for divorce. Great way for women to make some money out there. File for divorce and then take all the child support money that you can!REPORT COMMENTS
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