Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence
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Oct 27th, 2018Stephen G. from Huntington park, CA signed.
Oct 20th, 2018Someone from Williamston, NC writes:
I am a victim of this very thing. The evidence I have is overwhelming, yet because she is a woman an accusation false or not I am automatically treated as guilty. The fallout is damaging in so many areas of my life there are not words. How one person can do this to another is beyond my understanding. This is not just unconstitutional, wrong, and unjust. It is just plain wrong cruel and unusual. False allegations are real and they ruin the lives of good men!Oct 19th, 2018Someone from Tallahassee, FL writes:
Forget about it. Play the hand you were dealt. fight back to the top like a King.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 7th, 2018Joye B. from Gordon, GA writes:
This happens in same sex couples also, there are women and men who need protection but there are entirely to many people sitting behind bars being kept from their children because of false unfounded aligations. Laws were changed because of fear from truly abused individuals being so afraid of comforting their abusers in most states the accused is deemed guilty from the start and their side of the story is totally ignored. Guilty no matter what evidence you have showing your accusers past history of prior false reports. It's easy for them to have restraining orders... Because your rights are gone based on their word only.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 3rd, 2018Someone from Caldwell, ID writes:
I discovered my wife whom I had been married to and tried very hard to take care of was cheating on me, after which I gently touched her face to wake her up, and tapped her knee cap to get her attention, the rest was talk of how could she do this to me, as well as some harsh names I called her, but I never threatened her, she turned the story into I was out of control, and squeezed her face until her cheeks bled, then I slapped her leg. A sympathetic officer interviewed her and she added that I had destroyed property and had become increasingly violent. Which everyone I know and meet will tell you they can't see me doing that, and that's not like me at all, i'm the easiest, mellowest guy you'll ever meet. She then talked about how afraid she was of me ( Two weeks after the incident she yelled at me in our car when I was picking her up for an appointment she asked me to take her to, I did not retaliate in any way I HAVE EVIDENCE) in custody hearing she tried to use it against me, it was denied. Then 6 months went by then a warrant was issued for my arrest before Christmas, She had custody of my son, and at this point it was clear what she wanted, I went to the police to have them do a welfare check on my son whom I hadn't seen for 4 months because she was ignoring my texts and giving me excuses of why I couldn't have him. I went to jail peacefully. Thankfully I had family who bailed me out, but I was told there was a no contact order (which later on about a month or two I discovered there hadn't been one) at this point I was engaged to my current wife. When I was arrested the court day was set, and thus changed my life. I had NEVER BEEN PROSECUTED, NEVER ACCUSED, NEVER DONE ANYTHING WRONG IN MY ENTIRE LIFE BECAUSE I AM A GOOD PERSON. But now because a cop called and accused me of punching her, which I denied, he said it was fishy that I didn't say I touched her at first, because the first thing he said was I punched her LIE #1, then he proceeded to ask me you slapped her and made her face bleed from grabbing her so hard, would you be surprised if she had injuries? LIE #2 he wrote on his report there were no obvious injuries or marks. I said yeah, because I didn't hurt her. Then he asked me what about threatening to punch her, she said you said if you weren't laying down then i'd punch you. I said NO, what I said was you're lucky I don't because i'm not that kind of a guy. WHICH HE ASKED ME TO REPEAT, IT'S ON RECORDING WHICH PLAYED IN COURT. His report stated that I said that I would punch her if she wasn't laying down. LIE #3 FOLKS FROM AN OFFICER WHO LIED IN COURT AND HIS REPORT! Among saying many other bad things about me AND ADMITTING PROPER PROCEDURES WEREN'T TAKEN, I was still convicted of Domestic Battery In the Presence of a child. (BECAUSE MY CHILD WAS IN THE SAME HOUSE). All advancements my public defender took were shut down to prove motive, to explain my innocence and prove her lies, because ladies and gentleman, she couldn't remember 90% of what my public defender asked her, A REAL VICTIM WOULD NEVER FORGET! The court would not allow any extra evidence I had like 2 occasions after the alleged event that she was the one who was showing signs of abuse and control. For example! A: Accusing me of sexually molesting my son!? That's sick, that was thrown out the window a week after I finally got court custody. B: Adding to the story, now I was also making her have sexual relations with me on top of all the other things. C: She went for a no contact order- which was denied, because there was no evidence to support I needed one. Lady's and Gentleman I share my story because I want Men to stand up, and Women to support us who have fallen because of the ABUSE that some women have decided to manipulate the system to their favor. I had a clean record, and never did anything unlawful because I wanted to make myself a great person, but now, it's hard to find work, I may not be able to witness the birth of my daughter from my new wife who is now living in another state because we wanted to move there together, but I can't, they denied me because of these charges, also, my current 3 year old son, may not be able to be with me at all because of these charges, I may be the one in jail for 1 year because of her lies and deceit. I am the one living in fear of my ex-wife, but she knows how to play the game, so does her mother who might I add, has had many charges, and crimes, and her children have many crimes and juvenile problems.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 3rd, 2018Cheryl B. from Layton, UT writes:
My son is currently going through this situation in Fairbanks, Alaska. It is destroying his life. He has not seen his 3 and 4 year old children since May, 2018. ALL because of lies, she is the abuser!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 1st, 2018Someone from Hampstead, NC writes:
My spouse of nine years recently committed perjury by falsifying domestic violence while stationed in Japan and received a DVPO and ex-parte to return to NC. I went back to NC to fight these erroneous allegations and provided a police report, from an incident that had occurred, that my wife was the perpetrator. The NC judge still granted my wife temporary primary custody. I now live in Japan alone without my children. Where is the justice?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelOct 1st, 2018Justin M. from Hampstead, NC writes:
My spouse of nine years recently committed perjury by falsifying domestic violence while stationed in Japan and received a DVPO and ex-parte to return to NC. I went back to NC to fight these erroneous allegations and provided a police report, from an incident that had occurred, that my wife was the perpetrator. The NC judge still granted my wife temporary primary custody. I now live in Japan alone without my children. Where is the justice?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 29th, 2018Someone from Las Vegas, NV writes:
I am accused of domestic violence, she perjured herself all over the place and still I haven't seen my children in almost 3 weeks to date. She and her sister called the police, the police came and said this is not abuse it is a family law case. She turned around and filed a protective order saying I pulled her hair and was punching her, that I previously pulled a gun on her. The police don't investigate or prosecute people for lies, they call it perjury but it means do what you want and nobody will do anything to you for lying. Our justice system is a joke. The self help centers are biased and the woman organizations tell them what to put to lie. The DOJ and FBI need to prosecute the district attorneys and judges that don't do anything about all the lies.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 28th, 2018Someone from Altamonte Springs, FL writes:
I can definately relate to this and was suprised yesterday as I watched the hearing with Brett Kavanaugh and him being accused jsut because someone said so without any corroborating evidence I never would have thought this would happen to someone with a high stature such as Brett Kavanaugh, I have had accusations made against me some 38 or 39 timesfrom someone who learned how to use the legal system to bully me I once was accused of violating and injuction that never excisted and sat in jail for 40 days before my attorney presented this information at my court hearing in which all the charges were dropped and the case dismissed, I was also arrested 3 or 4 times for missing court dates I knew nothing about in which in all the cases they were all dismissed with exception of the last one in 2016 which the Judge granted a 7 year injuction in which in my personal opinion this Judge has no common sense or integrity to even see that these same accusations had been made over 35 times and had been dismissed over 35 times, I wanted to sue the courts and all the agencies involved but found out in the state of Florida the Legislature passed a statues that the courts have a right to violate your rights and there is nothing you can do about it what a screwed up legal system we have that you can be accused of something without any evidence other than hear say, the courts did discover the accuser was bi-polar after a court ordered mental investigation of my accuser which was ordered to get on medication for being bi-polarREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelSep 3rd, 2018Stephen G. from Huntington park, CA writes:
We should all be treated and valued equal . Thats the true nature of business our America stands for .REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 23rd, 2018Someone from Miami, FL writes:
My brother is going through hell right now, he married a woman from Colombia and started her legalization in the US because she was pregnant of his first born. He is a 3 time Marine war veteran, she never work or help my brother financially, my brother paid everything for her, one month he showed me he paid more than $1500 in Uber Eats she ordered.. and after all this..this woman falsely accused him of domestic violence and said he was mentally sick because of war, which by the way my brother's doctor diagnosis is light ptsd on his dreams..this happened 4 months after the baby was born. There was no evidence of abuse and my brother never touch jail. My brother is 45 years old with the cleanest record, barely a parking ticket, but the judge decided to take away the baby from my brother and gave it to her. This was in June 2018, we are August and my brother only has the right of one visit of one hour a week and supervise with no right of taking one picture with him. Now she decided to asked through her lawyer that she wants alimony, a paid apartment, transportation, child support because she couldn't find a job, plus for not be give him share custody for another 12 weeks! Please we need advice and help! My brother's lawyer is a woman but I don't know if she is helping or making it worse!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 16th, 2018Someone from Big Bear City, CA writes:
I am the mother of an accused “abuser” . The accuser has been the one who commits violence but yet can get away with restraining orders because of “ being scared” and “suffers ( supposedly) from PTSD because of all the alleged abuse. There is NO proof of any of it. No police reports, medical reports, nothing. Yet this person can get accepted into a shelter based on lies.... very sad for children. The beginnings of a vicious circle.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 11th, 2018Someone from Roanoke, VA writes:
Shouldn't a woman have to PROVE that she was abused, BEFORE we destroy a man's life? Why do we continue to destroy men's lives over an accusation alone? This is GOVERNMENT SPONSORED EXTORTION!!! Please, someone.... anyone.... tell me: how is it NOT government sponsored extortion? Why do you continue to do this CONGRESS?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelAug 3rd, 2018Someone from Jacksonville, FL writes:
• I have never committed any type of domestic abuse or violence toward My Wife nor her daughter. I have never threatened them. • My Wife has been starting arguments and trying to provoke me. She would then threaten to call the police to have me arrested because she has a restraining order against me. She would taunt me and call me a criminal. As a result, I have been sleeping in my car since 19 April. • In February, My Wife began to ask me to purchase a car for her daughter's birthday/graduation present and pay her rent for a year. I declined and she began to argue and she threatened to call the police. I departed the apartment and went to the Navy base. I remained on base until My Wife call and asked me to return. When I returned she began accusing me of talking to a female on the telephone. I signed on to my ATT account and asked My Wife to go to the time and number she claimed. It was customer service assisting me to transfer my account from my previous address to My Wife apartment because she had pay as you go account. • The third week in March My Wife two sons stated they were coming to their sister graduation and bringing their girlfriends. A couple of her siblings were planning to attend as well. My Wife mention the ideal of me getting an apartment for her daughter again. I told her no again. In April, I was preparing for finals at FSCJ. My Wife began accusing me of being on line chatting with women and that I was not in class. We were arguing so much it was interfering with my finals study/test. I confronted her about going through my computer and cell phone the night prior and she began to act like a different person. She had deleted everything on my cell phone and computer. She had blocked my next-door neighbor and deleted his name. I got a room on the Navy base to distance myself and to study for my finals. When I returned, I found out that My Wife used the restraining order, which expires 11 May 2018 to changes the locks. • While away I saw my next-door neighbor from my previous address and he had given me a bunch of mail that had came to the house. In it was the order from the court dismissing the restraining order. • In June, I began working with VA and the Vet Center to see if I qualify for assistance since I was living in my car. I did not qualify for anything for financial reason. I was advice to stop supporting My Wife because she is denying me access to the house. • My Wife has mental issues she will not admit to and get help. She has been harassing my parents and my daughter. She has asked me to drop my underwear so she can fill my testicual to see if I am having sex. My Wife has been stalking me online. She has accused me of being in a relationship with a woman that is actually a relative. My Wife has been pretending to be someone else and enter into a conversation with me. My Wife has also pretending to be me. She has sent messages from my computer to others. • I have been trying to get My Wife to get mental help since we have been back together. I have tried to contact her father to see if he would come with me to the court to request to have her evaluated. • My Wife has been fraudulently trying to take money from my account. • My Wife is only accusing me of Domestic Violence in attempt to get money. From the time we got back into a relationship until June, there has not been any accusation. Only when I emailed her that I will not support her after July did she claim domestic violence. I stated to her before that I cannot support two household and I will not continue to live in my car because her daughter is afraid of me.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 30th, 2018Cassondra G. from Tucson, AZ writes:
I'm in Pima County Tucson Arizona I have a video of dr. David Rubin beating me up I have him on 911 recorded line admitting to having sex with me when I was asleep because he said I had too much anxiety and wouldn't do it when I was awake so he thought it would be easier if I was asleep he's on 911 on a recorded line with the Pima County Sheriff's Department admitting to walking around the house naked while my nine-year-old daughter was in there sleep he went into her room while she was asleep he's running for US Senate some people are given preferential treatment the other day last week I had a black eye bruise on my nose my feet were still bleeding I have bruises on my legs a mark on my shoulder and one on my back but he didn't get arrestedREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 29th, 2018Joe S. from Murrieta, CA writes:
My gf of 10 years filed a TRO against me a week ago, and i have a hearing next week. We had an argument because she feels it's ok for her teenage daughter to walk around the house with everything hanging out. This is the 3rd argument we've had about this, and this time, my 7 year old son tells me "daddy, i touched her boobies". Her daughter does not live with us, and this escalated into an argument. She then takes our 2 kids, and her daughter and leaves the house. Comes back with a sheriff to keep the peace, as she gathers belongings and leaves. Gone for 2 weeks no contact. She then starts texting me to leave the house , on top of telling me you're a good person, a good father. States she would schedule an appt to seek counseling, but never did Yes i have printed out all the text. with these comments. What man abandons his pregnant gf and his kids? A week from then, i get served a TRO in front of my kids as she watches from her car in front of the house. She claims i suffer from PTSD, which there is no records. She claims i pulled a knife, yet the sheriff never filed a report or arrested me. She claims i told her i would take the kids and run to mexico, but i don't go to mexico. Many other lies on top of this, all to get me to leave the house, because her daughter doesn't need to abide by my rules. From all the research i did, why should i even go to the hearing? I lost my job because DV showed up on my background, so now, it will be difficult to get a job. I'm in california and the judge will side with her, and take her word, despite no proof, no evidence. Just her word! Never ever touched her, my kids, or her daughter. It's shameful how women are allowed to abuse the system and get away with it. I guess i can sue her for ruining my character, not being able to get a job?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 25th, 2018Someone from Roanoke, VA writes:
www.foxnews.com/us/2018/07/25/woman-kills-fiance-after-arguing-about-wedding-guest-cops-say.htmlREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 12th, 2018Someone from Niles, OH writes:
I am a victim of a false Domestic Violence accusation. My ex is mentally disturbed and he had it planned to set me up so thst he could move in his girlfriend he had been cheating on me with for months. I went to jail, paid bail, got two year old daughter back. He then immediately filed a protection order. A week later i allowed visit through police . He kept her hidden for two weeks plus had his buddy cop bully me verbally over phone and then he made another false report to police that i violated protection order. I now have an ankle gps monitor. Im on house arrest while caring for two year old. I frightened of police. I almost lost my job, i was homeless for a week. He has thrown away most of my belongings still at our apartment. I have pre trial for DV monday and a violationof protection order hearing monday. My attorney is not helping me either. Please keep me and my daughter in your prayers.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 4th, 2018Christopher M. from Southgate, MI writes:
I'm being falsely accused right now. Cops automatically believe the so called victims and by there word even if lies are automatically guilty. It's not right and this is being taken advantage of and it's not right! It's choosing me thousands of dollars and she's setting all this up for divorce!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJul 2nd, 2018Someone from Port Orchard, WA writes:
Falsely accused female defending herself against a mentally I'll female for defending I was defending myself from her attack on me. I could lose everything.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 30th, 2018Someone from Roanoke, VA writes:
www.foxnews.com/us/2018/06/29/his-intestines-are-out-suspect-tells-911-after-shooting-ex-husband-reports.html?intcmp=ob_article_sidebar_video&intcmp=obnetworkREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 28th, 2018Someone from Roanoke, VA writes:
www.foxnews.com/us/2018/06/27/woman-forced-ex-to-have-sex-holding-machete-to-his-face-cops.html?intcmp=ob_article_sidebar_video&intcmp=obnetwork Will she even get jail time?REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 25th, 2018Nicole P. from SAFETY HARBOR, FL writes:
Cps took our two week old using domestic violence against my partner from over two years ago and substance abuce against me when I have drug tedying for over a year and completed a doc jail diversion program and probation in 2016 yet they still want us to do a case plan on all of it.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 25th, 2018Nicole P. from SAFETY HARBOR, FL writes:
Cps took our two week old using domestic violence against my partner from over two years ago and substance abuce against me when I have drug tedying for over a year and completed a doc jail diversion program and probation in 2016 yet they still want us to do a case plan on all of it.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 16th, 2018Someone from Roanoke, VA writes:
Dear: "someone" from Colton, CA: Call the Senate Judiciary Committee in Washington DC (202)-224-5225 They are THE "people in power", who are responsible for fixing this. This is a national epidemic, but largely hidden, and they LIKE it that way, thank you very much. Congress ignores it, main stream media ignores it, and men are extremely easy targets. This WILL NOT STOP, unless and until CONGRESS stops it. Men are presumed guilty! 2-3 million protective orders / restraining orders issued every year!..... NEVER a prosecution for lying to get one... Its felony perjury in every state, but NEVER prosecuted with respect to these orders. This false accusation problem is MASSIVE and largely hidden, because once the order is issued, its over and done with , the man is ejected from his own house and labelled an "abuser", all with no trial or due process whatsoever! That's why they're called "ex-parte" orders.. Ex-parte is a latin word that means "without trial". CONGRESS started this about 20-30 years ago, with the Violence Against Women Act, and the "ex-parte" (un-constitutional) orders.... Ever since then, millions of men have been falsely accu……… Just call the Senate Judiciary Committee in Washington DC (202) 224-5225 This is PRECISELY THEIR responsibility! Ask for Sen. Chuck Grassley or Evelyn Fortier (she is the "domestic violence expert"). These false accusations are happening because it is BUILT into our laws... They WON'T STOP until CONGRESS changes the laws, to RESTORE due process... currently, the accuser has NO burden of proof, AND they are also GUARANTEED to NOT be prosecuted, even if they ADMIT they lied under oath.... The accused is presumed guilty... yes, it has literally been flipped to the exact opposite of "innocent until proven guilty"... they literally can't lose... they can just lie over and over to different Judges / magistrates, until someone believes them and they get what they want. They are guaranteed to not be prosecuted! If they tell a "credible" story to the magistrate or judge (they need NO physical evidence whatsoever, the accusation IS the "evidence"), the magistrate or judge is going to immediately EVICT the accused from their own house. They are literally taking serious legal action, based on NOTHING but an accusation... and with that, the burden is automatically shifted to the accused, to prove they did NOT commit the alleged "abuse". The accused is forced to try to prove a negative, instead of the accuser having to PROVE their accusation with real evidence. If people don't put pressure on Congress to change the laws, federally, this epidemic will continue to grow. Until then, I wouldn't suggest letting ANY female into your home (if you're lucky enough to have a home), because they can ALL do it!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 10th, 2018Someone from Colton, CA writes:
Hi, I have a clean record, a master's degree and have been a social worker for 11 years. My 3 1/2 year old sons mother made false allegations that I hit her 3 years ago but she never called law enforcement because she was afraid. She states I have family that have been acused of criminal acts and that I told her she would never be able to leave me and then I would clean my guns and started crying at the trial. I was shocked on her fabricated story. Her attorney stated that after one night 3 years ago I hit the mother and I responded are you serious and the judge was offended by my statement and I answered the attorney no those are your words and your adding to the story. Consequently I was sent to anger management for 26 weeks and a restraining order was granted and now I am at risk of losing my employment due to a restraining order on my record. The mother is accusing me of new things every week. It got to the point that I can't even take my son to the restroom because now she is saying that I touched his private. I asked my son a week after in the presence of a visitation supervisor what happend last week when I took him to the restroom and he stated I do not remember. I am living a nightmare and trying to control my emotions from her fabricated stories that are taken by the family law court at face value. I provided evidence to the court that the mother is a pathological liar and paranoid. The judge found that my child and I have a bond but still ordered 4 hour supervised visits that I am paying over $500 a month for in addition to $900 a month of child support. I had my son for entire weekends for 3 years and now my child support will likely go up to $1400 a month do to the mother's attorney strategic ways to get the judge to order supervised visits. Someone please help with this unjust family law system. I have had to get rid of my home and move into my aunts. I am a 45 year old man and my life was perfect until i became involved with an evil woman. I should have known better because her mother had her father fired from law enforcement and her aunt married an elderly man before his death so she could keep all his belongings. Someone of power please do something to keep inoccent men from being punished without evidence. I don't believe that being upset of the outrageous allegations is sufficie t enough for a judge to ruin his life.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelJun 6th, 2018Someone from Port Republic, NJ writes:
I am WOMAN and WITNESS and VICTIM!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 21st, 2018Michele R. from Chimacum, WA signed.
May 15th, 2018Gloria L. from Independence, MO writes:
My own daughter used DV laws against me and my son after she viciously attacked me and my son pushed her to keep her from continuing the assault she then went to the kansas city kansas courts and filed chargers not only on me after she physically injured me but on my son too for pushing her off of me trying to protect me from further harm she used this DV law filed false chargers out of spitefulness and vindictiveness called my friends and my sister and told them she did it and said she lied in court to make sure i get put in jail the filed a protection order to back it all up my public defender did nothing to help us he didnt care the courts gave her a victim advocate lawyer from legal aide she lied everytime we went to see a judge even accused me and my son of trying to break in her house I am disable able and have alot of health issues but that wasn't put in consideration and my son is always at work and don't have a drivers license we live in Independence Mo. She changed her story of events of the altercation multiple times while me and my son and witnesses we had told the truth and our story never changed. We forced to plead guilty to chargers we did not commit were found guilty the day we first went to court because she was thought to be a victim and was her word against ours even the police helped her with her lies and now me and my son is going through a diversion program until 2019 and have to pay out of pocket for court expenses while my daughter got away with false accusations of DV. I was Victimize not only by my daughter but the court system too! So yes the laws need to be fixed to not allow this to continue happening enough is enough!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 15th, 2018T C. from Indianapolis, IN writes:
We are dealing with legalized child abduction from a verified Abuser, Felon & DUI, yet his Criminal Lawyer abuses my rights to fair & equitable trial.... This is what my son(6) & I have suffered under since 2013 : false allegations of Mental Illness -we have no protection! We are post Divorce & I was shanked ! no share of the estate & no parenting rights. My ex should go to jail & I regain my rights!!!REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMay 8th, 2018Dont C. from Winchester, MA writes:
This is becoming an epidemic. We just launched a site and blog for victims of false abuse allegations to share their stories to help bring exposure to this growing issue. Visit dontcrywolf.org to share your own stories and contribute and help spread the word. For many victims there is not due process - especially in the communities where the falsely accused live and are trying to raise children. We would like domestic violence victims to share their thoughts on the dontcrywolf.org blog on this topic to get their perspective. I hope this petition gets some traction! I will share this on the dontcrywolf.org site right now.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 22nd, 2018Mark K. from Apple Valley, CA writes:
I wrongfully accused and then poorly (HELD UP for more money) at my arraingment. Grieving over a death in the family same week of my arraignment, scared of the "unknown" and "why" this was happening, I changed my plea simply to deny my counselor/attorney for misleading me. If your attorney deny's you an upfront play-by-play and total cost up front, FIND a NEW LAWYER. THIS GUY RUINED My life. I have never hit a woman, but she HIT me and Sheriff's didn't care.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 22nd, 2018Ronald T. from Punta Gorda, FL writes:
Due process under law when charged not in existence. Just handcuffs and the hell thereafter.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 15th, 2018Someone from Champlin, MN writes:
In state of Minnesota, the supreme court made a change in a good way. Usally an domestic or past OFP/HARASSMENT Order you can go way back. So now it os relevent to show a person can use that.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 14th, 2018Someone from Mill Valley, CA writes:
The nature of this problem being what it is I understand that a lot of the commentary is necessarily personally biographical in nature. And this is not intended to take anything away from that, I know and share your pain, but what I would like to see is more hard statistical data on this problem. Do states track the number of DVRO's they issue? And how long they last, and what percentage of the men are arrested, and or prosecuted as a result? I read once that 100's of men commit suicide annually after having DVRO's filed against them. We can all tell our stories, and they will to a man be sad but until hard data is collected that will irrefutably show the trends of related to this issue sadly I don't see much being done here. Does anyone know a reporter who works at a high profile publication like the Times, or Vanity Fair? They have research departments that are professionals at sourcing data. You get a named reporter to do an expose with hard facts, from there you take a run at T.V. shows like PBS, Frontline, 60 Minutes, THEN with public sentiment at your back you go to elected officials. I'm sorry to say this but what this movement doesn't need are anymore sad stories, what we need is a marketing plan, and a PR firm. There have to be a lot of people impacted by this, and within that group there must be second, and third people removed who know people. This group needs to leverage those connections to tell the story. A story which I'm sorry to say is too little in the public consciousness at the present time. There is a time and a place for personal accounts, and I will suggest that a therapists office is great for that. If you haven't been you should go, now. But from those ranks we need warriors who want to fight this, people who can put their personal pain aside and say "Yes, I hurt, but I'm able and willing to fight" and then to stay in the fight once it's begun. That's a petition I'd sign, and it's a battle I'm ready to fight.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 4th, 2018Someone from Roanoke, VA writes:
Call the Senate Judiciary Committee in Washington, DC (202) 224-5225 Ask for Senator Chuck Grassley or Evelyn Fortier. Tell them to STOP the "ex-parte", non-constitutional orders. They are causing an epidemic of false accusations, and the accused is assumed GUILTY, with NOTHING but an accusation. This problem is HUGE, but has largely been "hidden", because the accused is LITERALLY assumed guilty, and once the order is served, its pretty much over and done with. They give you a court date that is made to "look" like a trial, but you were ALREADY ASSUMED guilty, that's why you're ALREADY out of the HOUSE! So see? Its already done! Why would a judge say "no, I think its better if he goes back"? It is LITERALLY GUILTY, unless you can somehow disprove a negative, when usually the Judge won't even allow you to speak! Its what some would call a "rubber stamping process". These orders are in DIRECT violation of the US Constitution in many ways... the right to a trial (the "trial" is not a trial at all, you're not even allowed to speak). The right to due process? The accused is LITERALLY kicked out of their OWN house, immediately, without even being able to speak... simply because he was accused. If it is later found out, that the accuser lied, the accuser is GUARANTEED, to not be prosecuted. That's why they falsely accuse so often... because they know there is no risk. Even if they get caught lying under oath, they are NEVER prosecuted... yes, never. We live in a very adversarial society (unfortunately ), and our government keeps giving us "tools" to manipulate, black mail, and extort money from each other, with false accusations. Its the go to tactic in divorce situations, and every lawyer knows it. Men living with women can be controlled and manipulated, with just the THREAT of a false accusation and Protective Order / Restraining Order. There is NO defense for it. Give Americans their due process back, and stop violating people's most basic rights. Call them. Senate Judiciary Committee (Washington) 202-224-5225 Or keep getting falsely accused... Trust me, EVERY female KNOWS she can do this.... all she needs is a reason. Yes, its THAT easy for them! Its because of our LAWS! They NEED to CHANGE.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelApr 4th, 2018Someone from Cambridge, MA writes:
i was a career firefighter/paramedic and a FEMA rescue specialest prior to be falsely accused of domestic violence by my mental ill ex girlfriend who is diagnosed with boarder line personally disorder. She was violent and i would never strike a women, its not in me, I always walked away even to the point where i would leave my own home to stop the assault on myself. I finally broke it off with her and walked away and she thrented to ruin my life if i left her, she called the police and made the accusation with no injuries or signs of struggle, My fire department terminated me due to accusation and based there destine solely on a police report and i have lost the love my life and that is the fire service. im broken and now i have lost it all cause i decided to get of a toxic and abusive relationshipREPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMar 30th, 2018Someone from Gilbert, PA writes:
My former fiancé was arrested for assaulting me when she called the cops herself. I refused to testify, wrote a letter to the DA all the while she was setting me up and she tried to say in court it was my fault. She got her charges dropped. 6 months later she attacks me for I think the 6th time. I grab her and hold her down, not gently mind you but o sure as hell didn’t assault her, I didn’t hit her, I just didn’t want to be hit again. I get out of the house, next morning arrested for felony charges for domestic violence. She called me 250 times since then. Testified in court at preliminary where I wasn’t allowed to speak. Ended up pleading guilty to misdemeanors. Law enforcement career ruined, almost lost my daughter from a previous relationship. Total nightmare. The system is rigged against males in this case and the laws certainly need to be changed. If your being hit, leave. Don’t defend yourself ever. She hits you once end the relationship or end up like me. Life ruined and a year later still trying to pick up the pieces.REPORT COMMENTS
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No, CancelMar 28th, 2018Someone from West Hartford, CT writes:
In CT I am guilty until proven innocent. The problem is no one is interested in my story. Wife is a drug addict who came to steal the children and claimed domestic abuse with no physical evidence. I have been fighting this for 6 months now. I regained my children because she landed in jail for child endangerment and identity theft but I'm still guilty. I have the kids but no job because I could not find affordable child care. Today they offered me a suspended sentence and probation. I'm not guilty. I have petitioned the judge for a family violence program so my sentence (of my "guilt") will be removed after I complete the program. Thank goodness for my military service because I don't know how we would survive.REPORT COMMENTS
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