Unfair child support laws

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i agree i have my child half the year and yet i have to pay 855$ to her mother who goes and gets pedicures and nails and eats out almost every night and sends my daughter to me without shoes and clothes and i have to pay for everything that she needs while she is with me on top of the child support while her mother sits at home on the couch
I think it really should be done away with. You can't make someone do what they don't want to do. In the long run, yes, it sucks. The children suffer. But they SUFFER no matter what. The children will know if the parent (male or female) wants to be in their lives. There are people (mainly men) going to jail because the (female) has that power to make that happen. So again,... Who benefits??? No one. The children suffer because they do not see that parent. That parent suffers because they lose (what job they had or did not have) and has to start over from scratch. The (female) has no money coming in because (the male) isn't working to even pay the Child Support. The SYSTEM is BROKEN and is NOT FAIR!!! There are men out here who want to take care of their children but still have been beat by the System because of one situation or another. Judges (female) do not care about men. They see a situation and throw the book to the males and make it very hard to even live for themselves. So I say and ask this question,... WHO BENEFITS??? NO ONE!!! IT'S A LOSE LOSE SITUATION. Whoever created Child Support needs to pay it for themselves to see how hard it is. There is no way in the world that a NBA person should have to pay THOUSANDS of dollars per month. No child is needing $65K just to eat and go to school. Something that they HAVE TO DO because its State and Government Law. So who is getting all of that money??? Its not going to the child. They parent (females) are getting that money and using it for things that what it is intended for. I say, do away with Child Support and if you want it, GET OFF YOUR LAZY BUTT AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS!!! They are BOTH parents responsibilities. It takes two to make a baby, it should take TWO to RAISE it. And not just FINANCIALLY!!!
I am a student and work hard as well to have 75% of a 200 dollar check taken between taxes and child support well which leaves me 200 dollars a month to live on while my child's mother won't work and lives for free because she refuses to get a job neither does she even let me speak to my sons this is very unfair.
I'm a father that posing child support for my 10 year old and his mom doesn't want to work.
Women get away to many times with putting the father on child support out of spite and the courts let them do it. When me and my children's mother was together she took me off. As soon as we broke up cuz she was cheating she put me back on it. She has a great job, she doesn't need child support just wants it because she's greedy
I agree, the system is unfair to those fathers who work and are laid off from their job. Yet the Attorney General expects you to pay that same amount and will not grant you a review. Mean while the custodial parent does not work at all and complains to the Attorney General about payment in full. Well if you have someone to take care of your child, relavtive or friend, why don't you go work part time and help out. Don't blame the father if you are facing econmical trouble with your current spouse. I don't mind pay my portion but the system is so one sided to mothers and the system treats the fathers who do pay unfairly while other father get away without paying one cent to support their kids
Both parents are required to provide Child Support. If a man was to quit or get fired from his job and not pay support, he would get thrown in jail. These women are abusers and criminals who are gaming their ex-husbands/fathers. Yes, we are ex-fathers, who would really love to be fathers to our children, but we are crippled by the legalized slavery laws that force us to get multiple jobs so that she can quit her job and stay at home eating bon bons.
what about when the father hae all the kids and still asks the mother for child support!.]?
I'm all payed up & up to date now but I found myself in deep trouble in the beginning. My son's mom took me to court when my child was 6yrs old I showed up took my paternity test & was ready to pay support. I was already given her 200 dollars a week without a court order or a paternity test. After initial hearing she never returned to court saying she was offended that I chose to have an DNA test. She moved without consulting me to Atlanta Georgia, I live in Philadelphia pa. After a couple of years past without hearing from her she reemerged & took me back to court. I had a fiance plus another kid, I had A1credit & everything. After my hearing the judge determined I owe 15000. In back support & I had to pay 800 monthly. Pryor to her coming back from Georgia I received a letter stating I was excluded from being the father so I assumed she ran to Georgia because of that fact. When she reopened the case 3yrs later I received a letter stating I was the father smh. Judge said why didn't I follow up I said because y'all sent a letter stating I was excluded now I got one saying I am the father witch one is it? The judge simply said the first letter was a mistake so the ruling stands. I than asking well I was willing to settle my support obligations when she first brought me to court but she never came back so why should I have back support after she refused to show? He said I should've did more I said what about the 200.00 by weekly; I payed her without the before the court order? He said simply that's considered gifts therfore giving me no credit for previous payments. I have to say this strained my relationships with my son & at 14 me & my son still have issues that need resolving. His mom can no longer handle him now she wants me to play a bigger role in a teenagers life that I only been in part time. I feel this whole thing could've been avoided if it wasn't for his vengeful mother I think her personal issues with me made it hard for me to bond with my son over the years. I'm glad to say I'm about to pick him up from school so he can get a shirt & tie for his graduation to high school..All is good
I believe in taking care of my kids but I don't agree with child support I can barely pay for anything cause they snatch money out of my.check and send it to the mother of my child who has no job i walk to work every morning and all.she has to do is take care of my son which i believe i could also do and still work its unfair what these woman get to do while man work its called chd support not mother support but does it all.go the child no!
i have a child by a women who is caucasian she 5 children including my son who a mixed child his mother signed her last name on his birth certificate but at the same time i'm not denying my son bus shouldn't the state verify if the person is really the biological parent before the state takes the word of the childs mother also if i'm paying child support don't have the right for my son to have my last name do i have any right i havent seen my son in 3 years
Please hear us the current law is hurting families more than helping
I was very young when I had my first child, slapped with child support early on after the mother and I had a falling out. She claimed back child support which in turn put me in debt. I am now 26 years old still paying back child support from when I was 17. They have taken ever single tax return and it just seems like no matter how much extra I send in, the debt just won't go away. The mother of my child has not showed his face to me once since then, nor called, just nothing. Several times I have tried to contact the Attorney Generals Office to file a civil suit against her for going against court ruling (visitation) but they state that since I am behind there is no obligation to uphold the terms. But it's okay for her to receive 800$ ($400 bi weekly since i am behind) a month from me? Something needs to be done more than just the women working, they need to implement dual child support. Same obligations for both parents, we both send in money to the Attorney Generals Office and they regulate the account and determine if what was purchased was legitimate / relevant.
I'm an ex felon keep my payments on time $400 a month, yet I'm still getting calls that he needs stuff yet she doesn't allow me to bring him to my place of residence(he lives in Ohio I live in Tennessee)
a court and or an institution should not be able to implement how much support a parent can afford circumstances change and most women try and collect support and use the children as pawns the system is designed for the sole benefit of these corporate fictions to make money and the womwn when made you made choice to have a child you should be ready for the complete responsibility as well as the men
Women have the right to have an abortion. Men don't. Women have a right to decide NOT to be a mom, Men don't. Women have the right to leave a child at the police station or hospital. Men don't. Women have the right to deny visitation of a child. Men don't. Where's the equality??
The parent who has custody but refuses to work should not receive as much in child support. It is the responsibility of BOTH parents to help support the child NOT just one and NO WELFARE is not working to support that child!
The system is geared towards lazy women. I know several single fathers rasining their children and they don't get a drop of court ordered money from the mother but the mothers are free and chilling at home. If they were men, they would have been called deadbeat dads and in jail. The system needs to be fair and just.
I feel it should be no child support because woman don't spend it on kids they spend it on theirselves, bills or significant others when the can set money aside for other priorities and spend the child/children money on the kids. So I would say child support is the dumbest thing ever because no money can compare to love and time spent with a child/children
This child support system doesn't work whatsoever. Males (because ridiculously, most women don't get hassled for child support) have to hand over half of their income to pay for a child that their ex won't let them visit in the first place. The law should apply to parents with joint custody, and even then it should be revised so that the payments don't bleed the man dry. Most of them live in poverty for fear that the payments will send them to jail otherwise.
I am disabled. As well as my separated wife, but she still receives part of my income when she has a boyfriend who can pay for the care of a child. I cannot afford anything above food I must sit and wait until the next month to pay rent. Because she is disabled she receives extra for each child she has, one being biologically mine the other from her current spouse. That's her disability and 2 more income adjustments purely for having children living with her plus her boyfriends income, plus food stamps plus welfare. Shes making bank while I cannot even work unless I lose my disability and I cannot hold a job because of my disability. Not to mention they would take more if i did work anyhow. Add that with no job security and I am screwed over. The law should only apply to those with "joint custody". Or allow legal custody removal without prior need of the one receiving child support.
The child support system needs to be revamped. In TX, you pay 25%-40% of your income. 40% is max if you have 4 or more kids. If you have kids from different marriages, the max is 50%. It should be 40% max, period.
its all about city bank using the money for intrest look it up i did crazy
After my sons mother and i separated. She decided to take me down child support when she realized she have to work. I been in my boys life since they where born. They are now 7 & 5. Its been 2 yrs. Judge told me since im not in the household no more i got to pay. That's crazy. No when she mad i can't get in touch with them. She try to keep them from me. I taught them everything they know. Our bond to strong to try break it now.
MY child support payment are half of my income every month, the other half is my bills. I cant live like this and the system doesnt care. My ex wife and her fiance make more than me and i still have to live in poverty just so the courts dont lock me up for non payment. This system doesnt work!!!
I share 50/50 with my Ex. Combined her and her new boyfriend make more than i do in salary, but I still pay her every month. This is ridiculous!
My husband and I were married two years ago. He pays support as well I do. We both get the kids 50/50, however, he pays more support for seeing only one because the other one "doesn't want to see him ever again". This is an on going battle. His ex doesn't work, but she can raise dogs and horses, not pay taxes on anything. My ex, whom I pay child support too after 8 years of being divorced, decided that since he has had another kid, he needs money from me. Amazing how that works, he makes more than me, we have the kids 50/50, and he gets the money. In court he lied and stated that I never get the kids. Unbeknown to him I had records of the last three years when I had them and when they went home. Well the magistrate stated that I would need to file a separate motion with my attorney to have that looked at. He's a real piece of work and I cannot believe these so called people are aloud to get away with basically stealing. It streams lines to the children now being "cash cows". I would never ever have a parent pay child support/paycheck for their kids! If your a loser, your kids do not need to be with you, but that means that you pay for your kids and not expect others to "help" raise them by taking their money because you choose not to work! Together we pay 1660.00 a month. Truly amazing how this whole child support is such a scam, and we thought welfare was bad... Have a kid and get a check for not doing anything. The laws need to change for the good people that work hard for what they have. We need to help raise our kids, giving money to another person to do that is asinine. "Cash Cows" that's what children are now days.
My son wears old clothes because his mother refuses to spend his child support money on him shes a bum and its sad we need to have better laws for this
i do believe that it is unfair that if we cannot pay we lose our lincese and also we can lose our house anything this is Criminal we are not criminials we pay our bills when we can this makes me want to leave the us

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