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Another Fathers Day without being able to contact or be contacted by my son. Year number 8.
All thanks to Child Protective Services, Atlanta Family Court System and the Lawmakers and Attorneys, of this the United States of America.
I personally believe that child support payments and visitation with your children should go hand in hand. I have not seen my daughter for 10 years because my ex and her mother decided that since they were no longer able to control my life, that i wasnt to be allowed to see my duaghter. yet child support doesnt seem to care one bit about anything, not only that, they have lied to me several times and threatened me several times, and on one occasion they have actually broken one of their own bylaws just to get some extra money from me by stealing GI Bill funds from me
These laws give every women that had a bad divorce a chance to throw their exhusbands in jail. When I was still working, my checks started to fall on different dates so id pay the 6th r 7th instead of the 5th, and the 23 and 24 instead of 20th. She brought that into the court room for me to be threaten by the judge. Why do men have no rights any more. If its child supportthen why is it going to support my exwife. Why cant I buy clthes or supplys for them, and make a bank accout for my children so they can reseve the money? We already pay close to 700 a mo th on issurance for them. The courts do not take that I to conceration. And if I was still with her and I lost my job would anyone be trying to throw me in jail then? No, she would have to get up and look for work just like me.None of that I concedered. All that is concidered is the mans not working. He needs to pay. Well if its joint custody like its supposed to be then it should not only be the mans responsibility. Yes I know there are dead beat dads. I know men run off. But why does she not have to tell me whats going on in their live, why does she have all the rights ev3n though its joint custody. And why do I have to pay her anything? I have no issue supporting my kids, my issue is supporting her. I have clothes here for both kids and I bearly see them. I was going to send the clothes there so she dont have to buy any. But she gave so much hell that I kept them here. Because of her I cant stand to even go getthem anymore because of how much trouble I have to go through.

Respectfully,
These laws give every women that had a bad divorce a chance to throw their exhusbands in jail. When I was still working, my checks started to fall on different dates so id pay the 6th r 7th instead of the 5th, and the 23 and 24 instead of 20th. She brought that into the court room for me to be threaten by the judge. Why do men have no rights any more. If its child supportthen why is it going to support my exwife. Why cant I buy clthes or supplys for them, and make a bank accout for my children so they can reseve the money? We already pay close to 700 a mo th on issurance for them. The courts do not take that I to conceration. And if I was still with her and I lost my job would anyone be trying to throw me in jail then? No, she would have to get up and look for work just like me.None of that I concedered. All that is concidered is the mans not working
Ive been back and fourth to court with my ex wife. Everytime I petition for some5hing I lose. Everytime she petitions she wins. I moved for work, when we went to court to try and get her to meet me half way for pick up or drop offs the judge was on my side until she gave a sob story so I lost. Then when my son from my current marriage was bit and took a chunck out of his leg at daycare, I lost my job so went back to court to ask for a lower child support so I could co tuniue paying. I was denied. My current wife makes just end for bills and food. Im wondering why my ex can live on state, never be home, never tells me anything about the kids, but is trying to throw me in jail for unpaid child support, and my kids for my current wife does not count to the court system. The moment I go back to work my pay check goes to the state and my kids at home need to go back to a daycare which takes food off the table and we cant get any government help. How is this fair. Its sexist. It discrimination toward menand women alike. It says men cant be homemakers and women must be homemakers because they cant do anything else. My ex wife sits at home living off the state(r where ever she sit, hardly at home from what my son tells me) I offered to take the kids till we get back on our feet but she dont want to lose the benfits and us to get them..... so I'm while im here looking for a night job so I can take care of my kids druring the day she is living off the state with no punishment. To her she is doing nothing wrong and im the*****for not paying childsupport to her. She feels shes intitled to be taken care of.....
Yes I have been homeless for the past 8months. I only have one child. I'm 29 and I've just had a meltdown, I don't even know how it got to this point. I was with my girlfriend for 5 years while we had our daughter. I had a house, great job, 2 cars, etc....we broke up and she put me on child support but back dated it to the start, said I was never there. On top of the 30% order it literally doubled with the back fees 60%...I got hit by a drunk driver hit and run it had me out for 6 months and lost my job.. When I was able to work again I did. But since it nothing like I was making before. With all the taxes and back pay they still garnished my checks. Even when I explained about the accident reports, they only insisted I get a lawyer. I lost my house and car sold everything I've had so now I work temporary jobs to try and make it. But I'm on the bus line and stay outside a shelter. Is must be a redflag in there system with my name on it because even my temp job checks go straight to them... Being Black in America is tough. Especially with no help!!!! I remember I was just playing sports in highschool. Never knew someone like myself would be homeless.
I support my two children that have lived with me full time for two years. I have over half my income taken away per week while my ex wife gets the other half. She moved out of state and has no contact with her children yet she still gets half my money. The court system of Maine says she has to be notified of a hearing to change the order but she won't give up her address to be served. Meanwhile our family has to suffer while she gets a free ride. The child support system is a failure in this state. It does not help the dad's who do take care of their children. In many cases I am sure the system does work, but not in my case. I am tired of supporting dead beat mom's!!!
I pay over 1300 a month for 2 kids I never see, because I took a job as an over the road truck driver because I need to make money I am debt over 20 grand in rears and my ex gets mad at me when I cant meet her half way to pick up one kid. The system sucks in NJ, I hate it these Probation officers are always ready to lock me out because I miss a payment. It sucks and for what to show you can throw me in Jail I await the time I get locked up. I have lived my whole life not going to jail for some dumb stuff but child support will put me there and keep me there because I have no means of paying its shamble for fathers. And on Fathers Day where one day its great to be a DAD on Facebook the woman are saying Happy Fathers Day to themselves and putting down the men that fathered there kids because we aren't around. How can we are forced to bus our hump just to pay child support it sucks all around..That is why its huge on suicide rate with dads out there because the depression gets too overwhelming..But the government isn't going to do anything...
I also feel it is unfair how much income can be taken away from the paying parent most would be on the streets if they didn't have anyone to help them or in jail for not paying and there are no programs to help because they go off gross income and if you get a second job it's more money they can take for child support also I have to travel from ohio to md to see my kids because my sons mom won't meet halfway as ordered by court
I am a woman, who is engaged to a man with a child from another woman and another child from a different woman who she claims is his. The chances of that child being his is slim to none, and he missed the court date where he could contest her claim because he was at court for another case that was honestly more important. He tried before the court date to reschedule but it was denied, and his appeals were ignored. Now he has 14 more years of child support and if by some slim chance it is his child the mother refuses to let him see the child.
As for the child that is his, the child lives with us. It's been over a YEAR and his requests to change the custodial parent to himself are still "being processed" while she sits back enjoys child support doesn't work smokes weed and drinks all day long. I am all for the father supporting his children. BUT I am also all for the mother doing her part to support as well.
We recently had twins (4months) and now I'm terrified we can't take care of them. We planned on having one baby, and I would still work but the costs of daycare for two babies make it impossible for me to work, I feel like the only way I can care for the children is to put another child support case on him. (I refuse to do that, it just seems the only way the state cares is by doing that.) The attorney general ignores his requests to reasses the amount of child support going to the child that may or may not be his just as they have ignored his requests to change the custodial parenting on the other case. I doubt anyone other then other angry people who are caught in this mess will even read this, but this is not fair. It is not fair to the fathers, it is not fair to the wives or girlfriends of the fathers and it is not fair to their other children who do live with them.

My own dad had to deal with this with my mom. The only good thing I can say about the state he lives in is they immediately changed custody when my sisters went to live with him.

I don't even know why I'm writing this. The government is not going to do a damn thing about it. And these lazy unfit mothers are going to continue to rake in benefits while the fathers struggle and go broke and pay more than they make. WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE !!!!!
For years now I've signed theses petitions and have yet to see one change. I watch my government meddle in every affair possible across borders but ignore the discrimination and disparity it's men face here in America. Do we really need a study to see that there is a problem? Every vice including incarceration is used to inforce child support, but at no time is fairness imposed. I live in a 1 bedroom with my wife and 3 kids, and my other 2 children live in a two bedroom 2 bath apartment. Flat-screen everywhere, vacation yearly, and 1,100 dollar dog. But this letter like the millions sent prior will simply go into the shredder. We are forever ignored by media, elected officials, and pretty much every one as well are expendable. History has taught one mager lesson, there will never be a peaceful change!
My partner's baby mommy stays at home all day and doesn't work. She constantly threatens him to get more money and supervised visits. I'm sick of this ***** wreaking so much havoc in his life, and the courts just sit by and do nothing to help him. He is now having to take on a 3rd job just so he can have enough money to pay his bills.

Where's the justice for these fathers? Especially ones that aren't deadbeats!!
Child support is out of hand it is the down fall of today's society. Women getting pregnant by men and then leaving cause they know they are going to get a fat paycheck and not have to do nothing for 18 years. It was put in place because of dead beat dad's but if your not a dead beat it should be 50/50 it is out of control and women are taking advantage of it
Walter Scott, a father to four children, was shot dead by a police officer later charged with first-degree murder while running away from him. One of the many questions some asked after the news of the shooting broke in the national press was why he might flee such an encounter. His family said it was because he owed so much in unpaid child support. “I believe he didn’t want to go to jail again. He just ran away,” Walter Scott Sr. told the press.
If this is why Scott ran, his fear wasn’t necessarily unfounded. At least one in eight incarcerated South Carolinians were jailed over the last decade after failing to pay child support, and across the country as many as 50,000 parents may end up behind bars for the same reason. This punishment is perhaps the most extreme end of the aggressive measures states use to go after noncustodial parents who don’t pay up, which also include wage garnishment, revoking driver’s and professional licenses, and taking away passports.
But this strategy doesn’t necessarily help the parents who need child support, usually single mothers, and does little to help the fathers get jobs that pay enough to allow them to send money to their kids. A jailed father can’t earn any income, but his child support debts often keep accruing. Many states don’t allow people to reduce or suspend their child support obligations while they’re in jail, so they end up leaving with $15,000 to $30,000 in debt. They also face a more difficult time finding employment when they get out.
Yet child support is a vital source of income for custodial parents, and single mothers are particularly likely to be poor, with more than 40 percent of them living in poverty. Among poor parents who actually receive child support, it makes up four-tenths of their income. But just 43.4 percent got the full amount they were owed in 2011; on average, parents are owed an unpaid $2,281.
So what could be done to better ensure single mothers get the money they need to help them raise their children while reforming a system that penalizes poor fathers who can’t pay?
The best model is likely to be found in Europe. As of 2010, all European countries except the Netherlands guaranteed child support payments to custodial parents even if the noncustodial parent couldn’t pay or could only pay part. Sweden goes even further and has a guaranteed assistance program in which all custodial parents get a child support payment from the government no matter what, and the government then collects what it can from the noncustodial ones. Such a system seems to work — 95 percent of these parents get child support payments. This system “gets you a guaranteed minimum benefit whatever the nonresident father can pay,” explained Irwin Garfinkel, a professor of social work at Columbia University.
He thinks this model could significantly improve the system if the United States were to take the same tactic. “From the perspective of the children, I would say that’s the single most important thi
Child support laws and divorce laws need to be reformed URGENTLY! There are so many problems with the current system that I couldn't possibly write them all in one sitting! There should not be a financial incentive for either party to end a marriage EVER! Women aren't helpless creatures without a man anymore. They work and have the same rights as men and as such should not be the benefactors when their marriage dissolves. Isn't this what the women's rights people fought so hard for? Men and women BOTH need to step up when there are children involved- not just the men. No Fault divorce is a joke. If no one is at fault then why is there a divorce? Just for fun? If it's your fault, then no custody and no support. Women should be ashamed of how favored they have been. Taking advantage is not equality nor does it make you strong or independent or give you anything to be proud of.
The Child Support Enforcement Agency has unfairly deemed me the father of a child that wasn't proven to be mine with a paternity test, as well as did a completely invalid way to determine how much money I make and determined child support on over 400 per month than I actually make. Also to add insurance on top of that is crazy. Also I was told that I had to pay more because the mother of the child didn't have a job and had no alternate income. Why does that matter about me? I should not be responsible for more than my fair share provided the child was PROVEN to be mine.
I am a woman who has always stood up for men's rights. I have all brothers and now have a husband going through so much that our entire family is suffering. I can proudly say that when I left my ex-husband that I did not go after child support, nor, did I keep our daughters from him. My husband and I just found out that I am pregnant. With my health issues, this is a miracle and was never supposed to happen. We have a 5 year old daughter together. Before me, my husband was married one other time. He also had a one night stand that created a child. Nebraska has lied and manipulated to do whatever they want with child support. He has to pay almost $800 a month for the child from a one night stand and continues to charge him for child support from his ex-wife after the case was moved to Florida. We are scared to get a modification for the one night stand child, because it is a different state. After being double charged for his ex-wife’s case, we do not want to take the chance. To boot, California already sent the modification papers over a year ago, we filed them and nothing has ever been done about it. My husband has done everything to stop them from double charging us for over a year and they refuse to stop. My husband makes over $2600 a month and only brings home $800, because they are taking more than they are supposed to for child support. The only reason we can pay our bills and eat is because I work. If we have this baby then I will have to take time off work, I am a server. My only solution is to have an abortion, which we cannot afford and truly do not want. Not one person in America will help us! I am to the point of truly believing the only solution is for me to kill myself and my husband getting social security to take care of our daughter that we have now. Since Nebraska takes almost all of his check and they were first, Florida keeps suspending his license for not paying them in full, when that case is being double charged. People treat men's lives like they are of no matter at all. This is hurting our entire family and about to have us kill a baby, abortion, that we really would love to have. Why is no one on this planet helping us, and they all know what is going on? What else can I do to ensure that my family is taken care of? I have begged for help from the government and only been lied to and treated like dirt. What other solution is there?
These money hungry women should not have control over a man's destiny. The custodial parent needs to be investigated in order to receive the support mandated by the court.
We are currently going through this issue. My husband and I can barely provideo for our 2 other children who live full time with us. My husband's ex sits at home and collects benefits from our government as well as child support. Her income for the year totals over $25,000 to sit at home. It is unfair and taking a major toll on our family.
System is unjust and doeant take into account each individuals livelyhood. Very unfair.
Sir,
I truely have no way of explaining things to you without it coming
accross as "off", when refering to "my" case in particular.
I have sent letter after letter, spent many, many countless hours on
the phone with more than 2 dozen lawyers sent emails to congressmen as
well, Even seeking the help of the mcdonalds-like legal aide program,
that has such a huge workload that they misplace vital documents that
are entrusted into their hands but then, place blame on the ones who
trust them!
I honestly dont know what to do!
I am only alotted (questionabley), 50% of my sole income for a man, 24
yrs old, holding down 2 jobs. One, as I. Understand, is a state payed
position!
He has his whole profile on facebook and many other sites.
I, am a person, of whom, "they", determined me, as "disabled, in both
mind, as well as my many, physical ailments.
Thus, am forced to rely on my present wife (not, the mother of the
"child in question), who, the government targets every year, by
undermining her tax refund, forcing her to wait longer than should be
neccessary. And, the federal government, shakes hands with both states
mentioned, and even allows my wife's, as well as my second son (from
my present wife, presently 12) to be robbed of the 200$ tax relief
incentive sent out by Bush jr. and very, very illegally, I might add!
Sir,
Everyone, advocates such as yourself, that I have contacted about my
situation, turns me a blind eye! Then, says, "good luck"!
I tell you, that I don't see any of this, as fair!
The state of nj, knows my situation, that they claim, that I owe more
money than I have earned in my lifetime, and even showed their asses,
after miraculously reducing my bill to some absurd amount of money,
less than previously accused of owing! By law, I am only entitled to
ssdi, not, regular disability!
& its the lowest amount given, which is barely over $7200.00 per year!
Honestly, the child support attorney at the time, now, a so called
judge, presently, or, recently, wearing an ankle bracelet for being in
possession of cocaine in lawrence county tn.
ocaine, and still, deciding cases!
(Wow, what a country!)
She, made attempt to have nj consent to moving the case to tn. But
they denyed it. So she said essentially, "good luck". & gave me their
"probation dept" phone #!!
As you can see, right away, I am seen as guilty! Way back in 1992, The
so called state of nj, was converting to computer and I, was lost in a
glitch, "every", time (3(three), all total) that they sent out a
"computer generated" notice, 3x, informing me of rescheduled court
dates for a child support reduction hearing , that should have been
long resolved by now!
But they kept insisting that since "they", didnt have me listed on the
computer for the hearing, I was forced to be deprived of much needed
survival money from unemployment at the time, in 92, & they
"forced"me to live under the boardwalks along the shore, in the parks,
abandoned bunga
I am tired of the Nazi tactics and system used to essential steal money from men. The mother of my first daughter did not tell me about her until she was 5 and was living in a different state, I was OK with the theft that was performed on my income for many years, but now my back is screwed, my ankle is bad, and I have hernia patches which do not hold if I lift things. I cannot work. Even when I was able to work since I owed back child support they took away my license and the jobs I received offers for required travel but they would not allow me to renew my passport, so basically they have chosen they will not let me work yet they want me to pay. What sense does that make. The mother then embarked on the path of her master plan, every time a child would reach 5 and she would have time to work, she would have another (not by me), now she has 6, sits at home while her spouse of 12 years makes 60K a year yet they do not combine their names on anything so that she can sit at home and collect every government program known to man.

My second daughter with my ex wife is different. I raised her from birth until she was 5, the mother did not help at all, then during the divorce I find her attorney knows the judge, the judge even said in open court "I have known him (her attorney) for many years, so why would I believe anything you have to say over him" I was stunned, and in the end he awarded me only 2 weekends and a hefty monthly support obligation of more than I have ever made at anytime in my life, and I had to pay my ex attorney fees.

I am so tired of this fascist, gender biased system. That is why this country does not deserve to exist anymore. They need to change these laws right away or it really will be one of the nails in the coffin of this dying evil empire as you cannot oppress a population into poverty and expect the country to continue to survive.
F Maryland and F the USA.
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A much needed, long awaited relief of injustice, concerning Child support, in the states of Tn. & N.J.
randall ugrovics - 7:30 pm
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Sir,
I truely have no way of explaining things to you without it coming
accross as "off", when refering to "my" case in particular.
I have sent letter after letter, spent many, many countless hours on
the phone with more than 2 dozen lawyers sent emails to congressmen as
well, Even seeking the help of the mcdonalds-like legal aide program,
that has such a huge workload that they misplace vital documents that
are entrusted into their hands but then, place blame on the ones who
trust them!
I honestly dont know what to do!
I am only alotted (questionabley), 50% of my sole income for a man, 24
yrs old, holding down 2 jobs. One, as I. Understand, is a state payed
position!
He has his whole profile on facebook and many other sites.
I, am a person, of whom, "they", determined me, as "disabled, in both
mind, as well as my many, physical ailments.
Thus, am forced to rely on my present wife (not, the mother of the
"child in question), who, the government targets every year, by
undermining her tax refund, forcing her to wait longer than should be
neccessary. And, the federal government, shakes hands with both states
mentioned, and even allows my wife's, as well as my second son (from
my present wife, presently 12) to be robbed of the 200$ tax relief
incentive sent out by Bush jr. and very, very illegally, I might add!
Sir,
Everyone, advocates such as yourself, that I have contacted about my
situation, turns me a blind eye! Then, says, "good luck"!
I tell you, that I don't see any of this, as fair!
The state of nj, knows my situation, that they claim, that I owe more
money than I have earned in my lifetime, and even showed their asses,
after miraculously reducing my bill to some absurd amount of money,
less than previously accused of owing! By law, I am only entitled to
ssdi, not, regular disability!
& its the lowest amount given, which is barely over $7200.00 per year!
Honestly, the child support attorney at the time, now, a so called
judge, presently, or, recently, wearing an ankle bracelet for being in
possession of
ocaine, and still, deciding cases!
(Wow, what a country!)
She, made attempt to have nj consent to moving the case to tn. But
they denyed it. So she said essentially, "good luck". & gave me their
"probation dept" phone #!!
As you can see, right away, I am seen as guilty! Way back in 1992, The
so called state of nj, was converting to computer and I, was lost in a
glitch, "every", time (3(three), all total) that they sent out a
"computer generated" notice, 3x, informing me of rescheduled court
dates for a child support reduction hearing , that should have been
long resolved by now!
But they kept insisting that since "they", didnt have me listed on the
comput
I work for a bank making 957 every 2 weeks, I was ordered to pay child support in the amount of 767.00 which I find absurd, Ive provided for my babies since birth & we recently offically called if off a month ago but shes getting me on back pay!!! How am I supposed to live off that making an honest living??? Then for them to talk to me like dirt.
The laws are out dated.there from the 50's & 60's when women where homemakers.now women use the laws for income for there own well being.women now cam just marry divorce pop out children from different men and collect.its true I live it.I married for love & to raise a family.she (they) marry then divorce years later.this congress needs to wakeup.me & my son are suffering while the mother is in beauty salons and bars with man after man.do something for the men for once.these women do what they want destroying fathers and children.ty
The laws are out dated.there from the 50's & 60's when women where homemakers.now women use the laws for income for there own well being.women now cam just marry divorce pop out children from different men and collect.its true I live it.I married for love & to raise a family.she (they) marry then divorce years later.this congress needs to wakeup.me & my son are suffering while the mother is in beauty salons and bars with man after man.do something for the men for once.these women do what they want destroying fathers and children.ty
I have paid child support for many years I am sick and doctor took me off work I have applyed for SSDI child support is hounding me I tried to get a medical clearance they turned me down I drive an 18 wheeler for a living they took my medical card I have drove a truck for 15 years I'm 46 not sure Evan if they would release me to do another job not sure what I would do my case is out of st Joseph mo
Child support is extremely bias against father's. How do they get of setting a amount that need to be paid that's more than half a person's check. Let this happen to people in the office who sets these laws and i guarantee it would instantly change. I think the amount should be agreed upon the parents and not a 3rd party who doesn't know anyone's living situation
Son's father setup child support hearing to try and place limits on what city I could live in with my son, then was furious that he was ordered to pay child support. He told my son I only wanted his money so I dropped the child support only to have him hire a lawyer and take custody because I could not afford a lawyer. The judge specifically said he would not even hear me unless I had a lawyer, which is unlawful. The father ended up taking me for child support while he left our son with his grandmother 90% of the time. Meanwhile, he has done everything possible to tear my son and I apart yet there is no Child Visitation Enforcement Agency, only a Child SUPPORT Enforcement Agency. That is NOT justice. All I've ever heard is "hire a lawyer" as if people just have $20,000+ sitting in a special bank account just for a lawyer. YEAH RIGHT. It's all a scam to make jailhouse and courthouse revenue. People need to take a stand NOW. Before it gets anymore corrupt. Jealous parents are using the system to hurt the other parents and it needs to stop. People are committing suicide because they get screwed over so bad that they no longer have the means or the will to go on living!!!!
I am going through a custody battle now in SC and the laws here are not only absurd but completely leave the non custodial parent in a state of poverty. My child's mother not only decided to have multiple babies with a new spouse but quit her job as well. As a result, the state of SC has deemed it appropriate that she no longer be responsible for his needs less about 20% even though she was given full custody 10 years ago through the "tender years" doctrine. The money that has been flowing to her has gone from everything to breast augmentation to he new siblings leaving him still needing when he does get to see me. In a nutshell, we barely get to see each other despite our desire too and I have to pay for him twice. Something needs to be done.
My daughters 12 her mom refuses to work and lives off child support and welfare and claims she some Internet marketing genius and instead of working g spends her days at a gym or clubs
I am a single mom myself and my sons dad helps pay for child care to allow me to work full time. I don't think it's fair for men to get girls pregnant and walk away leaving them solely finantialy responsible for the child , likewise it's not fair to hold the father solely responsible for not only the child, but also the child's mom! What did these women who don't work and are depending entirely on the paychecks they receive from their babies father's in child support do to keep a roof over their own heads before they got pregnant? ! I know raising a child us a full time job, but in this world both parents have to work, unless your born a Kardashian of course (even those women work )
This is long overdue! The laws are very biased. A full time minimum wage should be used to calculate a potential income when a custodial parent is on assistance. I would also like to see that if the custodial parent is collecting public assistance he/she is ineligible from filing taxes. And that the obligor is able to use any child support paid as a tax deduction.
I AGREE 100%. I THINK THEY SHOULD HAVE TO HAVE A JOB AND TAKE RANDOM DRUG TESTS TO GET CHILD SUPPORT! I DON'T THINK ITS FAIR THAT ONLY THE MAN SHOULD HAVE TO WORK, THAT MEANS THE MAN IS SUPPORTING THE WOMAN TOO AND NOT JUST THE CHILDREN!!!! SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE!!!!!
I pay over 700 dollars a month for one kid in Wisconsin I have a child living with me and I pay 270 for one in Kansas. I can never get ahead and I haven't seen my son in Wisconsin since he was a couple months old. Child support is more half of my check after taxes. I'm tired my sons mom calls and tells me how worthless I am but she loves that money
The system need to change or get rid of it. The only problem is that now its a business for the child support agency, A lot of people have to pay a fee to the agency for it being taking out of there paycheck along with their child. I know everyones pain here, I pay child support for my daughter that I can't even see cause the mother wants it minimal so its more money in her pocket. I know the money doesn't go to the child. The parent that collects child support should have to provide a receipt for the amount of money every month, bet it doesn't adds up nowhere near what they are getting. I have a child that I take care of on my own without child support and I pay not even a quarter of what I pay in child support and i pay almost seven hundred dollars a month yet I can't see my daughter because the court decided its what the mother wants and we live in two different states. She won't even let me have her for the summer because its less money in her pocket. The Mother nor her husband works and sit at home collecting money and go to school for the past year and a half. what kind of example is that. She doesn't even let our child see her brother here again it less money she would be getting. I work full time, go to school, take care of my son by myself and pay child support, I've never been in any trouble nor do i have a criminal background. This so called system we have when it comes to children is so messed up. Its not about the child, Its about money, a business.
The system need to change or get rid of it. The only problem is that now its a business for the child support agency, A lot of people have to pay a fee to the agency for it being taking out of there paycheck along with their child. I know everyones pain here, I pay child support for my daughter that I can't even see cause the mother wants it minimal so its more money in her pocket. I know the money doesn't go to the child. The parent that collects child support should have to provide a receipt for the amount of money every month, bet it doesn't adds up nowhere near what they are getting. I have a child that I take care of on my own without child support and I pay not even a quarter of what I pay in child support and i pay almost seven hundred dollars a month yet I can't see my daughter because the court decided its what the mother wants and we live in two different states. She won't even let me have her for the summer because its less money in her pocket. The Mother nor her husband works and sit at home collecting money and go to school for the past year and a half. what kind of example is that. She doesn't even let our child see her brother here again it less money she would be getting. I work full time, go to school, take care of my son by myself and pay child support, I've never been in any trouble nor do i have a criminal background. This so called system we have when it comes to children is so messed up. Its not about the child, Its about money, a business.
Childsupport should be based on a 40 hour week.I worked 20 hours overtime to put food on my table & have money to spend time with my son.plus I didnt want a divorce.so women can file divorce the man pays for it.now since I worked my butt off they look at a gross income.not right.I wanted a family.I wanted a wife and children to raise.its ok they sleep around while I work three jobs then I have to pay that annually salary as cs.wakeup good fathers being treated like criminals.women can do what they want.this is discriminated against men.of course you the government dont care.old laws from the 1950.time to redue them on the women using men for income.there the ones destroying family vaules.wakeup government get ur head out of your ass.im a true hardworking Catholic honest american.time to change this for the welfare of my kids and others.
Childsupport should be based on a 40 hour week.I worked 20 hours overtime to put food on my table & have money to spend time with my son.plus I didnt want a divorce.so women can file divorce the man pays for it.now since I worked my butt off they look at a gross income.not right.I wanted a family.I wanted a wife and children to raise.its ok they sleep around while I work three jobs then I have to pay that annually salary as cs.wakeup good fathers being treated like criminals.women can do what they want.this is discriminated against men.of course you the government dont care.old laws from the 1950.time to redue them on the women using men for income.there the ones destroying family vaules.wakeup government get ur head out of your ass.im a true hardworking Catholic honest american.time to change this for the welfare of my kids and others.
I am a mother who pays cs. The only kids who matter are the ones on welfare. Not right my son goes without food or therapy just because he's married and choses not to work. If I have worked going without food and my son getting to eat ramens every night some weeks then he should be working to. And the welfare bill should be split in half cause they weren't just my responsibility.
The system needs to be changed.
I feel if a parent who is getting child support should be able to work, if they can walk, talk, write, use a pen and graduated from High School there is no problem for that person to get a job. For a parent to sit on their dead asses is showing no self esteem, if an handicap person can get a job so can a person with no problems, also the law should be changed, according to the law a parent receiving child support doesnt have to show where the support of the funds is going, How do they know they are spending the money on the children, from I have heard the parents who are getting the money can be spent for anything, drugs, alcohol cigarettes,anything for them. The money is not being used for the child, the clothing, dentists bills, day care, shoes, this is a disgrace and unethical( lacking moral principles) for the child. The other parent has to right to a new life the other parents gets that choice. But no the person who has the child expects someone to take care of her or him for the rest of their lives- They have become lazy because of the way the law is---so they turn to the government to take care of them, they should get out a get a job and help with the upbringing of the child it takes two now a days it takes two plus part time jobs for both parents.
I think it's a scam it gives the women the power to do what every she wants. I did everything got the new house new car I was proud to be a father. She made every excuse why I was a bad partner and mean person and she ran with guys I didn't even know and soon as we needed time out she was dating them guys. It brings down American and it even makes it tougher to get a job with the illegal aliens. I think it's a scam to get ride of hardworking American's like me that stick up for themselves. Adam a roofer just shoot himself over that. It's people the the Clinton's that give this country away for their greed and egos. May they burn in hell.
When will stuff become fair in this country? If everyone wants equality, things should be equal. It takes 2 people to create a child but yet only 1 to pay the majority of the child's expenses? Real smart. Let's just take away all of one person's income so they can't survive, while the other one gets to work PT, if at all and enjoy life and the children.
I was paying $44,00 a week in child support and they reduce it to $11,00 week for 2 1/2 years just so they could add more money to it so when I complained about it they when to court and decided to make me pay 25% of my pay which I can't afford now I have to get a 2nd job just to pay my rent and take care of my other child this is how Alabama flex their muscle
First time I saw my daughter she was two months old. That was after I took the mother to court. "Im the one who filed the paper work" Im not a dead beat. Long story short I pay 433.00 a month for one kid and I get to see her two wknds out of the month. Every time I see my daughter she is in rags. My question is where is my hard earned money going? It seems to me my daughter is a pay check not a baby
Child support should only ever be based on 1 income, because each father and mother have a household to support where as they used to do it together. The amount should be the same no matter if the income changes.The person paying is penalized if they try to work harder getting another job etc.
I have 5 children 3 of them i raised with no child support and gladly do so I found a partner who is willing to help. I feel strongly that any parent who remarries should be willing to take on responsibility any children in the knew marriage. we have given child support agencies way too much power in determining how they will collect and take away anything to make it difficult to survive.
The laws are biased and unfair. There is no reason to enforce support past the age of majority through age 25! And no tax deductions! You garnish disability checks and yet open our borders to millions of children. It doesn't add up. Many cannot even go into religious life because these debts never go away. Women abort with impunity and men have no say, but does he have a choice ever? No.
I've been paying child support for yrs. on children that are now adults. Just because she had primary custody she took them to the Dr.'s every chance she could.Now she died and I'm still paying thousands of dollars on back medical support that I had no say about.Something should be done about the other parent having a say weather the child should see a Dr. or not.Seeing how you have to pay your half in cash to social services while their on medicaid and have to pay nothing.Then she dies after putting me in dept.
they shouldn't take someone's license who doesn't work and still pays at least 75-80 of the support. It's ridiculous and will create even more strain on the already crumbling system. Taking away someone's license also takes away the instinctive to pay period. Another thing is having a child support case in one state and bring enforced in another is ridiculous as well. Time to transfer the case where the non-custodial parent resides. They need to make the custodial parents WORK! if we pay thy should pay as well, not collect free money like 85% of them do and just have kids to get free money.
1 night and a mother can ruin your life. Pay 600.00 a month making 16.00 an hour. It's a joke. She lies to the courts and still gets it. Great system guys, nice job.
Child support is unfair. 60% of my husbands checks get taken And given to his ex. She gets to live comfortably spending cs money on her other kids whose father doesn't help support. While my husband is struggling to support his family... I thought it was child support. How can one judge take from one child to get to the next.. It should be equal and fair where the man is able to support his child from a previous relationship and still able to provide for current children.
2 1/2 Years Ive been divorced. I have a regular job and pay $700 mo. in support plus medical. She aquired all the assests in the divorce and I struggled since then to re-establish myself. I still havent recovered and live paycheck to paycheck. The ex works and makes more than I do. My son is 14 and doesnt want to live with me because he has no rules of guidance at her house. He fails school and has a poor attitude towards direction and authority. I am a loving father and wanted desperatly to be the primary parent. I wasnt ocnsidered because I am the father. His mother is a drunk who parties and rarely is home in the evening to care for my son which leaves him to do whatever he wants to do. I was told during the divorce that it was a waste of time to pursue primary parent by the judge. I dont care about the money. I care about my son. But lets take all thinks into consideration. The amount of money I pay should go towards my sons needs right? It doesnt because every year I buy all the school clothes because she refuses. He always tells me theres no food in the house. Any activity he wants to do I have to pay for and then anything extra for school he tells me "moms broke and told me to ask you for the money". im working extremly hard and catching up im trying to buy another house. My purpose in this is to have a stable home for when I have visitation. Im terrified because automatic Review of the child support is coming up. If she chooses (and she will) to collect more money then this will force me back to basic poverty. Lets take a look at a few ways nonprimary parents get screwed;
1.Support is taxed as income to the nonprimary parent.That money is never seen.
2.The support is not considered income to the primary parent. Last I checked income is income in the eyes of the government.
3.Primary parent get child income tax credit every year and it never alternates.
4. The primary parents income is suppose to be a factor according to the AG Office but judges dont take that into consideration when issuing the order. That means there are no checks and balances on the part of the AG to make sure this order is even correct. So I guess we leave this up to the blood sucking attorneys to make sure it falls inside the standard.
5. The primary parent has no obligation to provide documentation on how the support is being provided

There is no doubt there are deadbeat parents out there but one thing Ive learned is if you give someone something they dont have to work for, it will enable them. Parents should split the cost of thier children 50/50. These laws are sexist and demeaning to parents who actually care and want to see the best for thier children. By giving money to an irresponsible drunk it does 3 things. Hinders the amount of time I can spend with my child because im working to make up the difference. Hinders the amount of money I have to spend when I do have my son (which equates to bonding and quality time) And lastly enables the custodial par
2 1/2 Years Ive been divorced. I have a regular job and pay $700 mo. in support plus medical. She aquired all the assests in the divorce and I struggled since then to re-establish myself. I still havent recovered and live paycheck to paycheck. The ex works and makes more than I do. My son is 14 and doesnt want to live with me because he has no rules of guidance at her house. He fails school and has a poor attitude towards direction and authority. I am a loving father and wanted desperatly to be the primary parent. I wasnt ocnsidered because I am the father. His mother is a drunk who parties and rarely is home in the evening to care for my son which leaves him to do whatever he wants to do. I was told during the divorce that it was a waste of time to pursue primary parent by the judge. I dont care about the money. I care about my son. But lets take all thinks into consideration. The amount of money I pay should go towards my sons needs right? It doesnt because every year I buy all the school clothes because she refuses. He always tells me theres no food in the house. Any activity he wants to do I have to pay for and then anything extra for school he tells me "moms broke and told me to ask you for the money". im working extremly hard and catching up im trying to buy another house. My purpose in this is to have a stable home for when I have visitation. Im terrified because automatic Review of the child support is coming up. If she chooses (and she will) to collect more money then this will force me back to basic poverty. Lets take a look at a few ways nonprimary parents get screwed;
1.Support is taxed as income to the nonprimary parent.That money is never seen.
2.The support is not considered income to the primary parent. Last I checked income is income in the eyes of the government.
3.Primary parent get child income tax credit every year and it never alternates.
4. The primary parents income is suppose to be a factor according to the AG Office but judges dont take that into consideration when issuing the order. That means there are no checks and balances on the part of the AG to make sure this order is even correct. So I guess we leave this up to the blood sucking attorneys to make sure it falls inside the standard.
5. The primary parent has no obligation to provide documentation on how the support is being provided

There is no doubt there are deadbeat parents out there but one thing Ive learned is if you give someone something they dont have to work for, it will enable them. Parents should split the cost of thier children 50/50. These laws are sexist and demeaning to parents who actually care and want to see the best for thier children. By giving money to an irresponsible drunk it does 3 things. Hinders the amount of time I can spend with my child because im working to make up the difference. Hinders the amount of money I have to spend when I do have my son (which equates to bonding and quality time) And lastly enables the custodial par
Last time i checked it takes two people to make a child therefore it should take two people to care and support a child . Childsupport is designed to favor the custodial parent only and has no laws in place to protect the non custodial.
It is not fair, I lost my job and got behind on my child support. 2 months later they take my license. So how do I look for work? How do I get to work? Taking a man's DL is stupid, and makes it very difficult on us.

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