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I am at most happy that The Family Court Committee of the Missouri Supreme Court has taken the time to have the Family Support Division reviewed. I am a 27 year old African American that has been in the city of Ferguson all my life. I thought this opportunity would never be brought about me being a father to my daughter. I've been in the system for close to 9 years, I make my payments on time since then. In the past I was paying a lot more than I should've but my attempts to reach out to child support has been unsuccessful. It seems as if the system targets the father for outstanding payment amounts, their driving privileges, and credit report when the mother just collects. Taking care of your child is the #1 priority but when an agency like child support makes it hard for an individual that's really trying. Dec 27, 2015 I had unfortunately lost my job, working as a dishwasher and I held on to it to the best of my abilities. I talked to Barbara Menzel about my employment situation and other options I'm willing to take regarding my situation. She worked with me because I had to send pay stubs for a modification to have my current order reviewed. It was an transmission error with printer at library and application was sent only, I also told her it was an error at library. She didn't return my calls but sent me a letter saying my modification is closed. Wages doesn't show 50% increase in income, hence I worked only 3 days out of the week because of other dishwashers. She returned a letter in the mail, with all capital letters saying my review is closed and could not be open. I was upset and was afraid my tax refund would be intercepted. I talked to a representative and all my records are in the system, she listened to my story and still didn't send my information to enforcement so changes could be made. I cried for a while, I couldn't hold it in when I talked to her and felt my situation wasn't even recognized. It's hard to try to make a change when the representative didn't do her job. I called again and had my tax information reviewed so we can talk options to still pay but still have some finances to take care of priorities being unemployed I looked forward to my tax refund. I talked to another representative listened to my story also. I stated, "Is all my money going to be taken?" "Yes sir," said the representative and I cried after that again. I had received the tax off set refund notice but my refund was still pending to be intercepted and I have to wait another month to receive the difference. I was so calm throughout the whole process because being angry would not solve problem and child support has my fate in their hands. I just pray about it being a change with the system so father's can be recognized more. Corey which is the supervisor in the division heard me out and successfully sent to enforcement. As of now I am waiting to have a hearing about my taxes. I thank the individuals who recognize this comment and hopefully some things wil
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After reading many articles published from law schools, it is a solid statement to say that the government introduced child support laws and enforcement not for children, rather to benefit the government. It was decided that it was cheaper to form a child support division and spend millions on payroll than to have millions of women go on welfare. The expense was passed on to fathers as a way to keep woman off welfare. Yes fathers should be held responsible but not to the extreme of them not having a life of there own and the constant counterproductive laws which impede our constitutional rights.
It's all a scam for the government, they claim they can't be sued. The child support customer service agents treat Dada like shiet. Enough is enough time to get Democrats out. They are for lazy mothers and over charging on child support. It's OK I get $62 after a week's work right.. As long as u get your 10% and the mother gets her money not the kids, cause we all know lots of lazy moms spend it on themselves..
I'm suppose to get $300.00 a week spousal support...court ordered...but child support only gives me $282.46 a week when my ex husband brings home $1000.00 a week and also putting him in arrears $70.00 a week and I might not live 3 more years to keep collecting...and I got stuck with our house that's badly in need of repairs and my whole disability check + $13.00 goes for the house payment every month...I hate this American Gov..dealt with it my whole life and it's been nothing but hell on poor people...my grandfather fought in WW1 and my dad and brother served 8 hears in the Air-Force and my ex-husband was in the Army when I married him...what is wrong with this damn country...
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UNFAIR LAWS? FREE RIDE? Let's talk about unfair laws and a free ride. My ex owes my children over $71,000 in child support. I am the custodial parent working two jobs to put food in their mouths, while he works under the table, drives a new truck and goes on multiple vacations a year. In essence my girls are growing up without a parent because I am never there due to work and he refuses to help. The Courts provide no assistance! He refuses service and refuses to show up to hearings, so DHR says there is nothing they can do. I refuse to go on public assistance because I will not raise "welfare babies." Also, I am not sure how far most of you think that $400-$500 goes toward raising a child, but where I am one person could not live on that, much less 3. Yes, the laws do need to be revised, but they need to be revised in favor of the children. They did not choose to be in their situation - the adults did. Stop making them suffer because adults don't want to grow up. When you have kids, you come last. A child should not do without just so your life can be comfortable and convenient. Also, don't have more kids if you are not willing to support the ones you already have!
Father's have no rights. How is this fair
I cant hardly afford to pay my rent let alone buy groceries. This economy is so screwed up its hard to find gainful employment. I also have a medical condition that makes it hard to keep a regular job (Diverticulitis... google it) so how the hell am I supposed to pay child support when It is hard to support myself!
Yeah there is a secret being passed around women about how to beat the system. Instead of spousal support just combine that with the Child Support. The child support system is beyond ethical and needs to reform. BADLY
I don't think its fair to put a rubber stamp on child support. You have great dad's that provide for there kids, and just because or out of spite a woman can get some absolutely crazy amount of money out of the father. A social worker should be forced to come and observe a family to see if the mom is working, or even trying to find a job. Is the dad providing for the child, spending time with the child. Create a report for the judge, so you don't get some judge reading numbers on a paper and putting child support into a situation were it completely unfair to the dad. Which is 90% of the time.
If a man that decides to have another child after getting divorced, that new child shouldn't suffer because the first child mom is getting all that money for her nails and such. While his new child suffers financially of his needs because of everything is going to the first born mom. Child support shouldn't be calculated from his income but by his needs. It takes two to make a baby it is not fair for only dad to pay it should be equal. These laws need to change. In Texas the first born gets 17.5% of his income if another child is born while that child only gets 5% at the most 10% but unlikely of his income . the law is practically saying the first child is more important than his new child. These laws need to change . the other should not get more or less than the other it should be equal.
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You know I am fed-up with this DEAD BEAT WOMEN that states cater to.

I have been on child support for 16 years with no arrears, I claimed my son from day one. I have had a job since then and support everything . . . . She has not worked in 16 years thanks to your finance payment of child support that my son barely gets so I have to give him money under the table or his mother will take it. She has also sent my son to her mother house to go to school. Her mother then tried to file income tax on my son which I counter very quickly. Let mention that she stays in MY HOUSE which yield another son who is now 2 years old. I did not want to have any more children by this women, but I am getting old and my first son needed a brother, every now and then she threatens to file child support on the 2nd one who stays in MY HOUSE AS WELL, I do not have the money to get a lawyer to fight this due to it all going to her.

Bottom line I am paying child support for 16 years and this women is in MY HOUSE.
The only reason she is still their is because I care so much about my kids and don't want them to end up in a shelter when I can provide for them. She also threatens to harm them which is something I cannot take. I am so fed up of taking care of a grown*****women who don't want to work and the laws enable this. I have told her plenty of times to leave the kids here and go get on your feet you can could and get or see the kids on the weekend to no avail.

I am a very bitter and un-happy man who has been trapped by the loop holes in the Child Support Laws.
I have also told the child support office and the women at the desk just laugh like I am lying and just don't want to take care of my kids, this makes me very very upset when all these DEAD BEAT WOMEN stick together.

I get home from work my 2 year son is greeting me at the door until she calls him like she don't want him around me.
I cook, she sends him to bed and saying he already ate.
I don't know how much more I can take, I am too nice but their is a time when this will come to an end.

Sometimes I think of just leaving the country and starting over.

A SLAVE TO CHILD SUPPORT.
my fiancé made 31k. after child support taxes and insurance he makes negative pay. no back child support but they tell him he is capable of making more. he doesn't have money to eat or buy gas to get to work. on top of it why is it okay for another man to be living off his child support? who stands up for the men. who enforces court orders when the woman decides to claim the kids when she wasn't supposed to. The rude woman at the child support agency said he should get three jobs and said he should get a lawyer. WITH WHAT? why not drug test the woman that's receiving the money. You have taken a hard working man that was a good father and made him homeless, no rooms to bring his kids to, no money to do anything with them all because she decided she wanted another man. My fiancé doesn't own anything because he let her keep everything in the house for the kids sake. She is netting 18,000 per yr and gets food share, badger care but he still is paying the high insurance. She lives in a big house that a lot of couples that both work can't afford to live how she does. and this is why he feels there is no way to make it and tried to kill himself. He makes a negative income and now will owe taxes too because she cheated him out of that.
The System Is So Unfair To Fathers.. Why The Law Allow Us To Open Up An Account For Our Kids,Instead Of The Money Going Straight To The Mother... God Knows What They're Going To Do With It..Its Incredible How System Treats Us...
The System Is So Unfair To Fathers.. Why The Law Allow Us To Open Up An Account For Our Kids,Instead Of The Money Going Straight To The Mother... God Knows What They're Going To Do With It..Its Incredible How System Treats Us...
to walk into na family court building as a guy, you are treated rudely and criminally from anyone associated with the place. even the (men) security treats guys with brutal browbeatings. truth be known the real maniacs are the women who have to continually take us there out of spite. I BELIEVE IN CHILD SUPPORT. but i believe in a fair shake from a stable person and not a woman scorned. i dont recall us men having a place where we can do that to women. and i also dont recall the 27 lies i wrote down in 15 minutes of court. still im the loser. deadbeat thats paid over 100,000 in 12yrs and my child doesnt even have a savings acct. deadbeat
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It's totally free to join, and the federal court relief being demanded includes the full restoral of my child custody rights under law, plus a nice share of the large amount in civil damages expected. Check it out!

It just requires entering someone's referral Code to join, so PLEASE use mine - 42085JL619 - in the CAPRA registration form, located on the bottom of the homepage at http://parentalrightsclassaction.com

Plus, check out their power-packed Legal Tips page for all parents fighting family court, too -- Wow!!

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The Child Support System needs to be reformed. I am familiar with several people who are involved with these unfair practices in this system. The system is horribly skewed towards the mother, who is often the custodial parent; and is very, very, VERY biased against the fathers. Under this current system, if a non-custodial parent- usually the father- is unable to pay, their driver’s license is suspended. How can they go to work to earn the money needed to pay the debt if their license is suspended? Additionally, if they should happen to miss a court date for any reason, an arrest warrant is issued and they are incarcerated. How are they to go to work to pay the debt if they are incarcerated? In this present day society, no other debt collection causes your driver’s license to be suspended nor ends with the result of incarceration. Question: if you didn’t the money to buy your child a pair of shoes this week, would your license be suspended? Certainly not. Why, then, are these types of punishments placed on non-custodial parents who are unable to pay child support?

Every parent that pays child support is not a deadbeat; their situation is simply a result of the demise of the relationship between both parents. While the system does serve a purpose, it is in desperate need of monitoring. Far too many instances occur where the custodial parent’s demand for child support is not a result of actual financial need for the child; their goal is to be a thorn in the side of the parent they are no longer in a relationship with. If the parent files a claim for child support, they need to be able to show that they need child support, and the amount of the support needs to be contingent upon how much the non-custodial parent is able to pay.

Sadly, many of the custodial parents that exercise these cruel tactics are female parents. Time after time, I have witnessed women who are financially stable, demand child support from their former partners when they are not in a position to pay child support. These women are not in dire straits, but spend lavish amounts on their children’s clothes and shoes, as well as other non-essential frivolities. If the custodial parent is able to purchase $300 sneakers and $400 video game systems for their child, why, then is she able to go to the courts to demand child support from the non-custodial parent who is having trouble making ends meet? What claim is the non-custodial parent able to file in such cases? While he's barely able to pay his rent, she's demanding that he pay child support so she can take another trip or buy another pair of $300 sneakers? Where's the justice in that?

The system is also an opponent to non-custodial parents who re-marry. The assumption is often that the non-custodial parent will forget about his “old” children and lavish all of his abundance upon any children he has in the new relationship. As I said before, many of these child support claims are issued because of gr
Child support need to be reform or modify it. Each patrents should 50/50, and allow laws interfere with people parenting hood. Stop favoring the women mostly.
Child support is needed,absolutely, but when it's calculated on exaggerated income, or not modified in a timely manner when there is a crisis in the Males job,home,even health, it castrate him mentally and financially, if not done properly.
...........and society (Memphis ) wonders where the element of entitlement spawns from.
I work 60 hrs a week to be able to live and give my ex 1,200$ a month and judge keeps on granting her everything as I'm getting to the point I can barely make rent on top of this she is court ordered to provide the essentials when they come over and she doesn't even do that and I also pay for the extra curricular activities and all I've asked is for more time with my kids and get denied for no reason because the they think more time with my kids means less child support which is sad because kids need their daddy's also. Last thing is when we sold the house her dad bought her a house and she lives rent free and dad bought her a car also which is sad considering she is 35. I'm tired of the laws screwing dads. Time for changes illinois hasn't changed laws since the 80's . If all she wants is money them just give me my daughter's and get a job and pay me support because the love for my daughter's means more then money.
Unbelievable.. I have been following this petition for some time now,I did receive an email back from my Representative Ryan Zinke for the state of Montana he said that I needed to write my State Senators because child suporrt is on the State level.So I sent my Emails to...Senator JohnTester & Senator Steve Dains the Senators for the state of Montana over 3 weeks ago,as of today,I haven't received an answer from either one of them.I'm pretty sure if one of them or perhaps a family member were facing hard times as many of you are,something would get done.I will be very carefull come election time whom I choose to vote for.REFORM IS NEEDED on many levels not only CHILD SUPPORT.
The state of Indiana is making me pay Child support past my 3 boys emancipation ages. I was in the arrears because of an illness for 4 1/2 years and I was finally approved for SSDI last July. The judge just ruled on this and refused to retro active their emancipations. According to Indiana child support guidelines, it states. Children are emancipated by operation of law! You read down and then it contradicts it's own law by saying the non-custodial parent has to file a modification, before they will remove the child for emancipation? My oldest is 28 and the middle is 26. Basicly I'm overpaying by about 30-40 thousand dollars. The definition of operation of law in Black's law dictionary 9th edition says it means it's automatic! This whole system is a scam and a rigged!
Despite have 50-50 custody of my boys and providing a home of equal substance to their mother, why am I paying her 28% of every paycheck? Our salaries are very similar, and we have physical custody of the boys an equal amount for the majority of the year. I pay for all the same things as she does, why is she getting paid to take care of her own children?
This is certainly one sided in my opinion. When I went to court, they wanted a full disclosure of all my bills (necessities and leisure). They didn't care that my ex was lying about her tips she made as a bartender. They went off of what she claimed she made. No one I know claims all their tips when reporting them. I had to have a bankruptcy because my ex kicked me out of my house and then got sole occupancy through the court system to prevent me from trying to move back to my home. The judge said to me "I don't care if you drive a jalope and live with your parents as long as your children are taken care of. I was not even able to present my living situation because the judge didn't want to hear it. I was slated to make just what I had for the past 5 years and my judge projected that I would make 7 to $8,000 more than I actually did for that year. She set my obligations, based on making $72,000 (judges calculations) which turns out is $379 a week. How can that even be realistic? What's more, the judge didn't say "oh, and you should try to find a job that is more on the books so we can actually see how much money you actually make.
We went back to court so I could ask for a reduction and the judge told me to get a 2nd job if money was tight. Seriously? So, my kids should see less of me so I can make things even by working 2 jobs? New York State is pretty ruthless regarding men. If I have to pay this kind of money, why can't I claim it on my taxes at the end of the year? I worked for the money that goes to her, I pay taxes on the money that goes to her, what is wrong with this picture?! Why isn't the non custodial (paying parent) the default parent to claim the kids on their taxes?
Maybe now I should explain that I have my kids for 4 days per week every other 4 days (50%) of the time. Definitely not fair.
I don't think I should have to pay my exes mortgage while trying to figure out a way to be able to care properly for our kids. Especially when we have them equally and the judge didn't even care... Hope something changes for the rest of the poor parents that get shafted by the system like I did.
Women fought for equal pay rights, so I can't comprehend why women are favored in the court of law. Two people make a child, not just the father. The mother should share 50% of the financial burden. Also, giving the child 35% of the total income is absurd. Entitled, righteous, lazy children is the result of a high child support payment.
How is it right that if someone doesn't know that they have a child and does something to get locked up for 19 years they still have to pay court ordered child support??!?!? That makes no sense whatsoever. That person could be in a 23 hour a day lock down and can only use the phone while still shackled and still getting thousands and thousands of dollars of back pay. How is that person even supposed to make those payments? Yes they shouldn't of gotten locked up I know but it's not right that a bill is going to get added up when the at person has absolutely no way of paying it. I've been told by a cs attorney that someone could be completely disabled in a wheel chair and paralyzed and cant even walk and still have to pay child support? The laws sure will legalize gay marriage but not make the laws better for fathers that actually care for their kids and that are struggling to keep the state happy.
So I am active duty military and I am responsible for maintaining my own living establishments with accordance to state laws and regulations pertaining to my parental responsibilities. I am paying more than I can legally afford within my pay. If its for the best interest of the child/children then the noncustodial parent should not be hung out to dry, especially if they are active in the lives of their children. I am sent on military orders to other duty locations and am required to provide a healthy, safe, environment for my kids but if I am not even able to provide that for myself then how can I do that for them as well? Congress, I ask you to set a basic needs of the child across the board. Not off how much the parents make, but off a fair assessment of requirements. For example, if a parent is trying to better themselves so they can financially support the child then why should a percent of their success go to the custodial parent just cause the noncustodial parent utilizes what available to be in a better situation? in my case the custodial parent was given primary physical custody without a choice to me, and I am paying for it. I am limited on my visitation, my living arrangements don't allow me over night visitation due to the state laws of gender living arrangements. Please reevaluate the support standards table across the states or at least make the states responsible for adjusting the guidelines to reasonable amounts. I have been paying $1,273.00 a month for the past 3 months since they adjusted my amounts and my children have NOT seen a dime. The custodial parent works 9-4 M-F, receives EBT, discounted rent through her work, child support from another parent, her standard income, and since she works at the daycare facility of the children she receives a very discounted rate. I am a firm believer in supporting my children, but they are now suffering the loss of time with their father due to my limited resources and availability to maintain a location to have my time with them. I vowed to support this country and the local state government destroys people in my situation while Washington sits and does nothing. I just want my time to be a father.

R/S
Concerned U.S. Citizen
I'd like to know exactly (proof) what my money is paying. I pay child support for two teens who see me as a ATM and don't want me in there lives yet they don't say NO to my money RIGHT! I too don't want any part of all that families lives. I pay top cap of support for both teens and I don't see them benefiting from it, they dress cheap. There stepdad that they call DAD who can't even support them dresses well and his two daughters that he has with the mother of the two teens I support. Yet those two (mom & stepdad) don't make what I make in one of there life times. Unbelievable how this child support system works because they say its here for the best interest for the children yet in reality its more like making sure they don't have to financially support the children. In which at least make it a point that these children that are receiving child support are truly benefiting from the money not being victims by there mom & dad(stepdad).
My husband who works 60 hours a week and is a partially disabled combat veteran (who has yet to receive his disability payments after waiting over a year and a half since he got out) with 20 years of military service is getting taken to the cleaners by his ex wife for child support for their 2 teenaged sons aged 17 (soon to be 18) and 16. Actually, the payments are technically for just the older of the two because the garnishments began while there was split custody; the younger one was still living with us at the time and had been for about a year and a half. The State of Maryland ordered my husband no longer had to pay $750 monthly since custody was split as well as the fact that their education and insurance is paid for. Now after his ex wife went behind his back and a back door, my husband is having nearly $1200 garnished a month for the past 6 months. He has since been in the process of trying to get this appealed through Child Support Services in Tennessee to no avail. Their "system" seems backwards and archaic as they make my husband mail in his paystubs and new requests to appeal these garnishments every month. His older son will be 18 by the time the payments are adjusted fairly! Aside from that, his ex wife used his income from when they divorced over 10 years ago, my husband was serving over seas, working 2 jobs, and earning much more AND they factored in his Basic Housing Allowence the military provides which they are not supposed to do. His ex apparently was lazy and didn't work for years but, she now has a job and has NEVER provided the court with her income and assets. Evidently, she has family members who work for the court she went through including the clerk who assisted her in the process which should be illegal as only non-partial parties should be involved. My husband was never received a summons to court or anything to show cause and was surprised to find over $550 of his paycheck garnished. He also is being threatened to have his Federal Income Tax Return garnished for back child support for last fiscal year. When husband got custody of his younger son, a year or so prior, he provided his current income which was not factored in. We had to another city where the cost of living is substainly cheaper because of this and I had to quit my job. My husband was able to transfer with his job though. He sent his son back to his Mother because he felt he could no longer provide for him and the area where we moved is not a kid friendly neighborhood. We are struggling because I can't seem to find a job (and I'm ineligible for UI because I quit and moved for my husband). My husband lost wages due to some health issues and being hospitalized recently however no matter what the nearly $1200 is being garnished like clock work. We have been late on rent and almost got evicted from our townhouse. We have trouble paying our other bills. We do with out in a lot of cases. Our 2 small dogs eat better than we do. Meanwhile in TN, his ex who owns
My husband who works 60 hours a week and is a partially disabled combat veteran (who has yet to receive his disability payments after waiting over a year and a half since he got out) with 20 years of military service is getting taken to the cleaners by his ex wife for child support for their 2 teenaged sons aged 17 (soon to be 18) and 16. Actually, the payments are technically for just the older of the two because the garnishments began while there was split custody; the younger one was still living with us at the time and had been for about a year and a half. The State of Maryland ordered my husband no longer had to pay $750 monthly since custody was split as well as the fact that their education and insurance is paid for. Now after his ex wife went behind his back and a back door, my husband is having nearly $1200 garnished a month for the past 6 months. He has since been in the process of trying to get this appealed through Child Support Services in Tennessee to no avail. Their "system" seems backwards and archaic as they make my husband mail in his paystubs and new requests to appeal these garnishments every month. His older son will be 18 by the time the payments are adjusted fairly! Aside from that, his ex wife used his income from when they divorced over 10 years ago, my husband was serving over seas, working 2 jobs, and earning much more AND they factored in his Basic Housing Allowence the military provides which they are not supposed to do. His ex apparently was lazy and didn't work for years but, she now has a job and has NEVER provided the court with her income and assets. Evidently, she has family members who work for the court she went through including the clerk who assisted her in the process which should be illegal as only non-partial parties should be involved. My husband was never received a summons to court or anything to show cause and was surprised to find over $550 of his paycheck garnished. He also is being threatened to have his Federal Income Tax Return garnished for back child support for last fiscal year. When husband got custody of his younger son, a year or so prior, he provided his current income which was not factored in. We had to another city where the cost of living is substainly cheaper because of this and I had to quit my job. My husband was able to transfer with his job though. He sent his son back to his Mother because he felt he could no longer provide for him and the area where we moved is not a kid friendly neighborhood. We are struggling because I can't seem to find a job (and I'm ineligible for UI because I quit and moved for my husband). My husband lost wages due to some health issues and being hospitalized recently however no matter what the nearly $1200 is being garnished like clock work. We have been late on rent and almost got evicted from our townhouse. We have trouble paying our other bills. We do with out in a lot of cases. Our 2 small dogs eat better than we do. Meanwhile in TN, his ex who owns
My husband has two children from two seperate relationships which we have 30% custody of. He makes great money on paper but only brings home 2,000$ a month. That isn't enough money each month to provide food, clothes and a roof over his children's head not to mention going and doing anything with them. All the while his children's mothers either live rent free or pay next to nothing. They each take several vacation trips per year and always have new clothes and extra things. He was recently promoted and I just don't understand why he has to pay more to "even out the style of living between the homes" when they have a better style of living at their mothers homes. We are asking for 50/50 of his son & we were just informed that he will still have to pay her around 500$ a month while she is living at home with her parents working part time. Something needs to be done to protect the fathers that want to be in their children's lives. How will he ever be able to buy a home for his kids to grow up in if he can never get ahead in life? It doesn't take one male to make a baby. The child is 50% the mothers reaponsibility, there is no reason why fathers should have to pay for the mothers to be able to hold up to providing for THEIR child on THEIR half.
Start investigating child support cases and you will see that the child support system is extremely unfair to men.
I am a mother to two boys and two stepchildren. I work 3.5 to 6 hours a day at our school district while our children are in school. It helps to make up the $200 a week my husband pays in child support (he has 50/50 legal and physical custody).I started working there when my youngest was 6. No reason with so many surrounding school districts other women cannot do this.
I've been paying over $950 a month for 2 children. Worked extremely hard this past yr to get a promotion and make some more money. The minute I accept it, and the ex finds out she files for modification to receive more money. Why should a man even try to better himself? Why are people allowed to use the system as a weapon? Now I'm not able to pay my own bills, or even go do fun things with our children when I have them because she's sitting back getting the worlds biggest free ride ever. I'd love to have our children, but it's simple... The system favors the mother no matter how good the father is. You're punishing the fathers that actually do want to be a part of our children's lives and are not dead beats. This system needs fixed badly.
this is so unjust and needs to end.
My son is paying astronomical amounts of CS while the mother is pregnant again with another man's child and is sitting home while her child is in school and my son is paying for this. He has 50/50 custody and still pays so Much CS that he literally will be making $4. an hour how do we expect people to live on that. He loves his son and wants the best for him and does the best for him unlike his own father who has paid a total of maybe $300. of child support to him in his lifetime and never saw him until he was 18 and he took the initiative to meet his father. Why is it that fathers that don't put anytime or financial support in to their children getting away with this and the fathers that want to be and are in the children's lives get screwed. Something needs to be done about this ASAP or this problem is going to lead to homeless and jobless good working loving fathers and men.
As a grandmother for more than 20 years, and have 'lost' grandchildren due to the unethical, unfair, and BIAS child support system; it is LONG overdue for change! We are in the 21st century with women having the "right" to say IF they have sex, IF they take birth control, IF they *CHOOSE to have a baby, and IF they *CHOOSE to work!! Women even get the GREATER benefits of legal aid, general financial assistance, and the opportunity to further their education at low cost. CONTRARILY a man has ONLY ONE *CHOICE: IF he wants to have sex ... even with his conniving WIFE who will divorce him within a year of giving birth!! And he certainly has NO RIGHTS IF the woman asserts all of her "rights" as stated!!! In the July 2015 issue of 'Child Support Report' (COMMISSIONER'S VOICE) Deputy Director, Vicki Turetsky, stated: "We have two bedrock VALUES in our program. One is that PARENTS have the fundamental responsibility to support THEIR children. The other is that government has a fundamental RESPONSIBILITY to provide DUE PROCESS and PROCEDURAL FAIRNESS to litigants, particularly to UNREPRESENTED litigants. ... We can increase trust and compliance if we can improve the PERCEPTION of PROCEDURAL FAIRNESS and deliver REAL DUE PROCESS - an opportunity to be HEARD, an order BASED ON EVIDENCE, and REALISTIC DEMANDS to comply. ..." These SOUND like lovely ideals IF they pertained EQUALLY to BOTH PARENTS!!! In our son's case of July 2014, and wasn't decided upon for 5 months in December 2014, NONE OF THESE IDEALS WERE EVIDENT and STILL AREN'T!!! Recently FSD has in fact indicated 'loosing' and NOT FILING his request of modification due to hardship which he submitted in August of 2015 : 7MONTHS AGO!!! Now, they want to reprimand him for THEIR NEGLIGENCE and INCOMPITENCE!!! The fact that they, the women and the system that COMPOUNDS their "rights" ABOVE ALL ELSE INCLUDING THE LETTER OF THE LAW, is CONTRARY to ALL LEGAL, ETHICAL, MORAL, and FAMILY VALUES*!!! **FATHER'S LIVES MATTER** And women's RIGHTS should/CAN afford them EQUAL RESPONSIBILITY IN SUPPORT!!!
I am paying 460 dollars for a soon to be 13 yr old who does not need day care. I find myself paying extra for my daughters needs to fulfill her endeavors as a child. The system is set up for fathers who care about their children to fail. I don't understand how a system can not show compassion for the man who chooses to help raises his offspring. They do not care of your living situation or job situation as long as the mother is well taken care of. The money is never accounted for or for that matter you are seen as wrong for asking what the funds are being put to use for. Child support in some cases is seen as extra income for the other party to be able to obtain certain treasures in life such as cars, houses, or anything hat pertains to credit. This is why on a credit application they ask for addition income I.e child support, alimony. The Maryland child support law is bias and unfair. They don't take into consideration how much you have the child or what extra you do for the child. In these situations it is the mothers word often times over the fathers and judges seem to be very sympathetic to the mothers of the system. The child support standards need to be restructured to help benefit the child and not viewed as a personal gain of monetary assets.
I'm paying child support for a child that isn't biologically mine.
I am paying support for a child that lives with me. CSR will not help me with a modification in Georgia, not even the director. They claim to care about the children but from the way they have treated me and my child, I can only assume they are concerned about the numbers.
I am paying support for a child that lives with me. CSR will not help me with a modification in Georgia, not even the director. They claim to care about the children but from the way they have treated me and my child, I can only assume they are concerned about the numbers.
I have been paying child support for 13 years. I have worked consistently whole my daughter's mother chooses not to work. And my daughter suffers.
Why must I pay child support when I get absolutely no legal rights to my daughter?
With the rising cost of health insurance it should be adjusted also child support is to pay for half of the child's needs not to allow the mother to stay at home because that means it's 100% plus the mother also the mother should have to prove what she used the support for if dads have to pay the moms must show where it goes
My husband paid child support to his ex when we had 49% custody. He makes minimum wages and had never missed a payment. Well cps stepped in and gave us full custody 99% took close to four months to stop the support all the while being told that even through we have custody she will not have to pay that money back. At this time she had a zero contact order and we had to request a hand signed letter from her stating she was willing to stop the support. Otherwise we would spend the better half of a year in court trying to have it stopped. Why??? Top it off she missed 27 visits in a row no call no show we take her back and ask for support and we were denied because she is on welfare and has had another child. Claimed hardship. Laws need to be changed now.
My ex has is not capable of getting a degree she has been working on an associates degree for 5 years. She toke me to court and won so she can live with her parents but knows nothing about our son's health nor will she learn. Time after time I have proved that I am a fit parent to take care of our son. So now I am fighting with doctors and schools and others 2 states over. And only get 2 weekends a month to actually hang out with my son . I get Skype but she does not let him be on for more than 5 to 10 min at a day. Show me fair rights.
certain states *cough* ohio *cough* could use a tune-up.
i agree they need to be more equal with us. The (fathers) please yall need to do some changes in this child support law!
The entire child support system needs to be reworked. The current set up is like punishment for men and it's been our experience that female judges treat all fathers like dead beats even though they love and care for their children as much, if not more so than the mothers who automatically get custody because someone back in the 50's decided that the mother was the best choice for raising the children no matter what. It's time to make changes reflecting the changes in women having careers and with the father being just as suitable to be the custodial parent. Maybe then women will stop having babies as a way to get a paycheck while doing nothing. Also I don't believe it would be that difficult for a person receiving child support to have to prove that the money is actually going to the care of the child. Why are these mothers receiving child support able to take fancy vacations and buy brand new cars and basically live the high life while the father paying the support can barely afford to live. Why is it ok for a mother receiving child support to have more babies when ultimately what your saying when you ask for child support is that you can't afford the kids you already have?? What is all this teaching our children?? My mother never received child support from my father, she remarried and raised us without fleecing my father who also remarried and had kids with his new wife.
I agree no one should have a free ride off the back of someone else especially if they were (irresponsible) in the relationship..we all should be giving a fair chance especailly id they do not have a good or valid reason to put the man on child support..theyre should be a law against people who trick people into conceving a child without there consent
My husband pays his child support and also provides dental and medical last year the child's mother's oldest daughter started all this trouble telling her mother she needs more child support. We are not rich and we are barely making ends meet. Well she sits at-home and does nothing,then she decides to home school the child another way of getting out of working. The stress is so bad for my husband that he works and works and had lost a lot of weight. Well the child support agency doesn't care even though he pays it faithfully. Where is the Justice for the Father's that pay on time and provide and have to work all the time just to pay the support while the mother does nothing to help. She is lazy and vendictive. These laws have got to change.
And I also would like to add there should be a law in place that if a father is paying child support he should be allowed to have rights to his child lignite or non ligitamate! Or at least some visitation rights!I myself am having a struggle just to survive do to astronomicly high child support then getting a runaround on ligitamization to get rights just to see my child..but yet they are so quick to punish me when work gets slow and I don't have ended coming in to deduct it..I'm so financially bound up I can't even afford a lawyer.please pass some kind of visitation law for even the non legitimized fathers!!

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