Unfair child support laws

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To who it ma concern, I Carlos feel like both parent should pay child support from day one. Meaning the money should be added to a voucher only for the child to spend. A lot of Women spend their child support on personal things like, hair, nails, gas, clothing, shoes, and the list goes on. It's not fair to the child and the hard working parent whose providing. It should only be about the children. If the money was put on a voucher card, then only the child can benefit from that. A lot of times the mother don't pay any support. Meaning, some of them live with their mothers and pay no bills, just waiting on a check. I believe the child support, should be supported by both parents. The law isn't fair. When fathers are the one to pay the cost, meaning do time if they can't provide. Think about it men don't get assistant like women to live. Women want equal Rights to work in this country. They have that now. With that said, it should be no problem both parents paying child support. Remember it takes two to have a child. Another thing, I have seen a lot of child support cases. Trust me it's not fair to the men. Just like their are bad Fathers out there, so are bad Mothers. This country laws are suppose to be fair to all, not just Women. In conclusion' changing the child support law would be best for our children. That's why it called Child SUPPORT, not Women Support. P.S. A good age for women to start to pay is when the child turns one.
How about you worry about all the deadbeats that don't pay as dime first.
Laws need to changed immediately! Things like this is exactly why I won't marry or have kids!
I am a teacher, working a second job. I barely can afford to live, let alone, see my son.

I willingly set up child support. I tried to keep my visitation to see my son out of court.

However, she has made it very hard to see him. I pay her an astronomical amount a month. Based on a gross income. I then get taxed. Then my net amount has the astronomical amount taken out.

She left me when I was student teaching, and took my son 5 hours away.

All I want is to see my boy. She refuses to meet me half way, and makes me get a hotel room. It costs me 200 dollars to see my son for two days.

How am I supposed to see him, when I pay that astronomical amount of child support.

She gets to claim him on her taxes. She doesn't have to claim child support for her taxes. Also she is a waitress and does not claim near the amount she makes.

She gets to live comfortable, and enjoy my son. I can barely afford to see him once a month.

I am fighting her in court. Since, I did child support first, and tried to do things the right way. She now makes enough money to hire a lawyer.

I just want to see my boy. The system has made that virtually impossible.

Fathers need more rights! Let us see our children.
To all that's reading this. Justice has turned a blind eye on men that love their kids and do want to support them. I was in a abusive relationship in which the mother would hit, cut me with, knives, and a substance abuser. She has a DUI, and multiple criminal records that I was not aware of until after the fact. She was found in contempt of failure to appear, failure to take a psychological and substance abuse eval, guilty of domestic violence and currently has a warrant out for her arrest for violating the domestic violence protective order. She do not work and do not plan to work. She haven't been working since 2008 in which she was fired for being violent on the job. She has interfered with my day care services which I have for him, and refused to bring him for exchange as the custody order demand her to do so. Over a year she has been disrespectful to the sheriff's office when they tried to get my son for me but she refused. All of these evidences has been admitted in the court system. After a two year going on three year court battle in which I've spent countless of money for an attorney until I just can't afford one anymore. I was only granted joint custody of my son in which only constitutes for 8 days out of a month for my son. Depending on how the holidays I may not get to see him none that month. Still the mother has refused to bring him. Whenever I file and have still file a motion it takes the courts 4 to 5 sometimes six months to get a court date. I have no criminal record have three other children from my first marriage and in well good standing and supportive to them. One which is my son lives with me permanently. I volunteered to pay child support for them and had no issues. On the other hand the reason why the ex girlfriend and I broke up was because I had to get an exparte order from her threatening my life and tearing up my place in which she had done before. All counts she was found guilty. I was sending support for my son and driving 2 hours one way to take him to the doctor. Yet I'm ordered to pay a rediculous amount of money in child support in which I cannot survive and may loose everything I have. I filed for to deviate from the guildlines and and provide concreate evidence why not to mention a previous eviction notice the judge kept the order the same. They ask me how much money do my wife make. None of my kids are my second wife biological kids. She is supportive in help paying the bills but have medical bills of her own. All of this was mention in the court. Nothing at all changed in the order. They said to me good luck. I told them that I may loose my mini van in which I have to transport my children, loose my job, and damaged credit. They did not say a word. I also told them that I have to provide daycare, clothes, food, not to mention healthcare for all of my children. The amount they put daycare for a credit did not change the amount to pay. I told them there is no difference in the amount. They seen the amount re
Too many women abuse the system. They lie about bag child support that was paid. They don't work to support their own children and the supporting fathers suffer. This needs to stop!
It's ******** when the mother has 2 part time jobs and child support from a another relationship and a new boyfriend with a job and that person pressure the second mans child support case just to get money and lives in a place that they KNOW THEY CAN'T AFFORD TO BEGIN WITH I think the child support should be set aside for the child or children at the age of 18 not the ex-wife or ex-girl who spends it on themselves or whatever they should have to WORK TO PAY THE BILLS not the child support money to pay the bills.
It is pointless to pay child support, then when it come to be your weekend with your kids, there mother wont let you see them. Then you stop paying, go to court. Judge ask Sir why are you not keeping up with your child support. my reply, Why am I going to be paying when i cant see my kids. Judge, well if your good enough to make them you can pay for them. my reply, There is no issue i can pay, but i want to see my kids. Judge. well you have to take it up in another court room, we are here on behalf of the child, and payment. My reply, if you are good enough to collect money from me you are good enough to fight to see my kids. Judge Sir you will be serving 180 county jail case close!!!!! All in all its bull **** the way the child support system works!!!!!
I KNOW WOMEN LIKE THIS!!!!! IT MAKES ME SICK. PLEASE PUT AN END TO THIS!!! I WISH I COULD SIT HOME ALL DAY SUCKING SOME MAN DRY OF ALL HIS MONEY LIKE THESE WOMEN DO!!!! AND NOT EVEN USE IT ON THE CHILDREN!!!
Thank you!
My husband Has two child support cases in NY one in Seneca county and the other we had moved to Jefferson county. He was making a substantial amount of money for a job but because he was taken to court by both to get support "on paper" when he was paying it on his own ($600.00 per week) it was ordered 400.00 for one and 200.00 per week for the other- he had to leave his job because it was a traveling job and he could no longer afford a place to rent along with electricity etc. for the weekends, along with paying for a hotel 5 days a week and food while on the road for his job while paying the court ordered 600.00 per week when his hours were cut due to lack of work so several paychecks were anywhere between 150.00 and 250.00 per week. We had proof of all of this but the courts said it was without good cause!? This was in 2012, and since then we have been to court several times- for modifications etc. In our area work is hard to find, so he decided to start a drywall business which brings in no where close to what he was making. We have since had our own child plus I have three children myself- and do not get one dime of child support for (father refuses to pay even after numerous court appearances and all I ask is that he pay something doesn't have to be the full amount), we are also on medicaid. The current court orders are for $200.00 per week to one that does not work, refuses to work, lives with her parents and gets food stamps and child support for one of her other children. She filed for violation, and he was told by my court appointed attorney that he needed to pay the full amount.."beg, borrow, or steal it" and also told him to "stop paying on the other case so he could pay more on this one or go to jail". He has already lost his license and CDL, and tax refund. The other case is for 134.00 per week- she makes 17.90 per hour and lives with her youngest child's father. We are going to object to this because the support magistrate did not include his findings of fact with the order (this will be the second time objected to). Meanwhile, he can't see his two youngest because of what she said in court with no proof of anything- and the two oldest refuse to see him because of everything they have been told..right down to child support issues- They re now 13 and 17. It is absolutely ridiculous the amount of child support ordered in these cases- it definitely does not cost this much to care for children per week. Meanwhile, we can't afford for my children, are facing applying for food stamps because child support is set up to not just care for the children but to also support someone who doesn't want to help themselves and expects everything handed to them!! My husband is forced to work- why not the custodial parent barring any legitimate reason such as health etc.??? The whole support system need a serious overhaul!!!!!!!
There is no reason why hardworking citizens need to pay ridiculous amount of money to support lazy mothers or fathers who decide to quit their jobs and file for child support. The money from child support should go to the child and be accounted for . If I pay child support then I should be able to claim that on my income taxes. Since it's my money and not the states money then our government feels it's ok to screw me over by just collecting money and giving it to the custodial parent who in the end uses the money for self indulgence .
NO WOMAN SHOULD BE ABLE TO NAME A MAN THE FATHER JUST BECAUSE SHE THINKS HE HAS THE MEANS TO TAKE CARE OF THE CHILD.. BEYOND THAT CHILD SUPPORT IS NOTHING MORE THAN SLAVERY THROUGH THE COURT/LEGAL SYSTEM. TO THAT END THESE MOTHERS WHO USE THIS MONEY ON THINGS NOT RELATED TO THE CHILD SHOULD NOT RECEIVE ONE DIME.
If we all stop paying what will they do!!!!!!!!!!?
I would like to add that all recievers of child support should be drug tested as well and totaly agree that they should have to work and show proof the money goes to the child good luck all.
The system is not equal. It hurts men. It hurts all of us. The courts will not help. Its another form of a death sentence to those outside of jail. If we cant get you one way, we will get you another way.

There needs to be a leveled enforcement. Why go from A to Z. God help us all
interest rates are ridiculous. why is the government making money off of a bad situation. for all mothers receiving child support they should show proof that the money is being spent on the child, and send the rest back to CS for credit for next months payment. after age 5, a mother should be REQUIRED to work in order to receive any child support payment, or government benefits for that matter. women should also have a limit to how many men they can file a claim against.
It takes a mother and father to make a baby Why does the father becomes the sole financial provider
It takes a mother and father to make a baby Why does the father becomes the sole financial providor?
I am a mother who recieves child support. I am also married to someone who does. Yet we have to fight to see his child yet the mother continues to get child support. To fight for a mans rights a so long and expensive. It you dont let the man see his child you shouldnt get CS. Same you dont pay you shouldnt be able to see your children. Men should be able to still support there other family. But the attorney general doesnt make it easy. When a man tries to better himself its just handed over to the woman that sits all day day already recieving government assistance. They should be required to work, volunteer, or get a college degree. I did as a single mom, no government assistance, and not releying on my childs father to pay me childsupport.
I am a mother who recieves child support. I am also married to someone who does. Yet we have to fight to see his child yet the mother continues to get child support. To fight for a mans rights a so long and expensive. It you dont let the man see his child you shouldnt get CS. Same you dont pay you shouldnt be able to see your children. Men should be able to still support there other family. But the attorney general doesnt make it easy. When a man tries to better himself its just handed over to the woman that sits all day day already recieving government assistance. They should be required to work, volunteer, or get a college degree. I did as a single mom, no government assistance, and not releying on my childs father to pay me childsupport.
The law is not fair. It should be 50/50.
From Washington State, the courts and support are totally biased against men in this state. I'm a woman btw it's never about the kids it's all about the money. Why should a man pay because a woman wants a free ride and feels entitled, it's like they don't care if the guy can afford to live himself. It should go 50/50 you want the kids then pay for them simple as that!
the law is not only unfair and flawed but also outdated along with many other problems.... to many to list in this box!
I work at a fast food place part time, I'm only 23 I'm paying $668 a month! Really who can make a living after paying that. My son's mother works full time also
How can someone pay $600 for one kid and survive? Really ridiculous.
I feel kids born out of wedlock mothers are handed a silver spoon and fathers are labeled a dead beat out the door. So the mother runs to housing authority, dhs office and governmental assistance. And ontop of that mother are allowed to carry for tax credit every year in January then flat broke in march with no car or place to stay. Now I couldn't carry my son out the hospital, his mother rolled out in wheelchair with carseat in lap. Come on government now I believe both parents should provide n care for that child. I sure don't believe a mother should be able to lay up in wait on child support checks n government assistance.....
The states have made it too easy on custodial mothers where child support is concerned. There is no incentive for custodial mothers to go to work and equally share in their financial responsibilities. Its terrible, and its making more and more single mothers lazy and unproductive members of society. Perhaps thats the way the government wants it.....
The states have made it too easy on custodial mothers where child support is concerned. There is no incentive for custodial mothers to go to work and equally share in their financial responsibilities. Its terrible, and its making more and more single mothers lazy and unproductive members of society. Perhaps thats the way the government wants it.....
I don't mind much to pay child support. But, the other parent want more in child support. She has a boy friend a child with him. She has admitted that the three and my duagught live off of my child support. I'm not going to support three addictianal people to live off of me. And my daughter don't get want she need.
As a responsible parent, i dont mind paying monthly child support. But it is CHILD support not ex-spouse support. Laws should be modified so custodial parent gets reimbursement for actual child expenses. It is just unfair for those of us who work decent jobs have to pay more than $800 a month and have to struggle with monthly bills so the ex can get a free ride.
Equality and fairness.
50/50 on everything!
I take care of my child willing and provided financial and emotional support. I also spent substantial time with my child. My child support payment for one child is $907.33. I gross $5k per month, but after taxes and medical insurance...I bring home $3000. Child support takes up 30% of my net pay. That seems very unfair.

I drive 4 hours one way to pick up and spend time with my child. When I have my child, I still take her shopping, feed her and take her places that I have to pay for.
I make a decent wage, but after all is said and done two adulteress women put me down to below minimum wage. When I get my weekends with my son I have to go to the food bank just to feed him. It's ridiculous.
It's absolutely ridiculous the amount of women that live off of child support, when the money is to take care of the child not a lazy women that doesn't feel like having a job. We have so many women having babies by multiple men just to collect money it's disgusting. And everyone else ends up taking care of these low life's because not only do they collect child support they also get help from the state and why wouldn't they they get more money being a low life with no job. The states system is messed up. End of story.
I think it's unfair see a lot of men turn to drugs and have no hope of any when on child support Obama or someone need to give us men some breathing room it's to much
When I was 19 Got someone pregnant, I surrendered my child to his grandparents 3 years a go. My balance is $36,093.00 How in the world can I ever pay this off? Please help....
I also agree both parents should be held responsible the court gives to much le-way to these women my sons mother is allowed to leave the state without no regard to me she can't keep a job and has never had her own place to live I have worked my job for eight years and have my own place she has no responsibility and I'm afraid never will it's sad to see that the courts didn't determine custody due to facts my son would have a better life to lead if he was under my constant care she has done nothing to encourage or educate only is instilled her poor values in his life my new wife and our daughter is highly educated knows how to save money do chors and use her manners.......and she is only four please take a look at these situations because America is failling us now and our children's future
I belive there should be a few changes why is it fair that the father is forced to pay only I do not mind supporting my daughter what really upsets me is I have been paying for her stuff before child support and she try's to get me for back child support how can every thing I bought with recipts be dismissed? I don't belive that is right it is showing some women who abuse this system just to make kids and force them to pay child support when the kid is old enough they can be working part time.
Someone has to take a serious look at this! My husband and I have children from previous relationships, so I know exactly how things work with receiving child support. My daughter's father has paid support from the very beginning. His support obligation is $41/wk and there were times that he fell behind and I never applied for TANF. I worked for the things I needed to provide for my child. With that being said, I think my husband's situation is absolutely ridiculous! He has twins by a woman that he didn't find out about until they were 4 years old, because she didn't know who the father was and he pays support regularly. My husband has to pay back the $900 that she received from TANF and I don't think that's at all fair. Getting on TANF is a choice! There are millions of single mothers that have not gone that route and they get along just fine. I do not feel that it is fair nor should it be legal to force the non-custodial parent to pay back funds the custodial parent chose to receive. She could have and should have went out and found a job. It seems as though the government is giving a free pass to custodial parents that just want to sit around, be lazy, and collect assistance. That's not right! If anything split the cost of the DNA test (because the non-custodial parent has to pay that back as well) and TANF between both parents, 50/50. As a WOMAN WHO RECEIVES CHILD SUPPORT, I feel that you have an obligation to take care of your children whether or not you receive child support. And as a woman who has gone months without receiving child support, I also feel that if you have no mental or physical factors that prevent you from working, then there is no need whatsoever to receive TANF! Men are always told to step up to the plate, well some of these "women" need to step up to the plate as well. Stop waiting for the government and/or support to fulfill the obligations that you as a parent have to your child. If I never receive another child support payment, my daughter will be fine, because I'm not going to wait for others to do for my child what I'm capable of doing.

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