Unfair child support laws

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and why not reduce what the guys own and if unemployed why not reduce payments
My son has no net income and we the parents buy his food and gasoline so he can get to work and live.
My Ex and I were together for 14 years with two kids, before we separated she had a hidden affair for 1 (one) year, she had keys to an apartment, was seen with her now boyfriend/husband in multiple places, was coming home from work anytime from 10pm till 4am the next day, we separated 8 months after that year I found out about her sneaky and disgusting low life, she later took me to court twice, now she gets 65% of my hard working earning, I have to pay half of child care, half of medical bills and medications, my question is why should I have to pay so much for her own dam mistakes and stupidity choices she made??? I donít mind supporting my kids! However I do mind that she gets all the benefits while I am the victim and forced to work two jobs, while she laughs it off!! please help!
TITLE V- GRANTS TO STATES FOR MATERNAL AND CHILD WELFARE PART 1-MATERNAL AND CHILD HEALTH SERVICES

APPROPRIATION

SECTION 501. For the purpose of enabling each State to extend and improve, as far as practicable under the conditions in such State, services for promoting the health of mothers and children, especially in rural areas and in areas suffering from severe economic distress, there is hereby authorized to be appropriated for each fiscal year, beginning with the fiscal year ending June 30, 1936, the sum of $3,800,000. The sums made available under this section shall be used for making payments to States which have submitted, and had approved by the Chief of the Children s Bureau, State plans for such services.

ALLOTMENTS TO STATES

SEC. 502. (a) Out of the sums appropriated pursuant to section 501 for each fiscal year the Secretary of Labor shall allot to each State $20,000, and such part of $1,800,000 as he finds that the number of live births in such State bore to the total number of live births in the United States, in the latest calendar year for which the Bureau of the Census has available statistics.
(b) Out of the sums appropriated pursuant to section 501 for each fiscal year the Secretary of Labor shall allot to the States $980,000 (in addition to the allotments made under subsection (a)), according to the financial need of each State for assistance in carrying out its State plan, as determined by him after taking into consideration the number of live births in such State.
(c) The amount of any allotment to a State under subsection (a) for any fiscal year remaining unpaid to such State at the end of such fiscal year shall be available for payment to such State under section 504 until the end of the second succeeding fiscal year. No payment to a State under section 504 shall be made out of its allotment for any fiscal year until its allotment for the preceding fiscal year has been exhausted or has ceased to be available.

APPROVAL OF STATE PLANS

SEC. 503. (a) A
The Social Security Act 1935 section V: 502 states 1.8 million dollars are given to each live birth. The governor and attorney general of each state sign off to this federal grant as the trustee of this Social Security Trust Account. This money is to be given to each man or woman to pay for all of the things they want in their life time. The Alien Registration Act 1940 requires the feet prints or hand prints of the baby for the birth certificate to create the Social Security Number for the 1.8 million dollars to each live birth. I study under the Private Attorney General Act 1866 Congress authorized all American Citizens to be Private Attorney General. The Social Security Act 1935 pays for all child support and the failure of the court system to provide this congressional remedy is an act of treason, a felony and violation of the oath of office to protect the people's rights and U.S. Constitution against terrorist domestic and foreign. This Social Security Act 1935 is your relief for child support vehemently confirms the courts are operating under fraud and President Obama, Senator Sherrod Brown and Senator Rob Portman can address the House Judiciary with a criminal complaint to take immediate action against this contract violation to receive federal funding and not follow the guidelines of that contract. This further violates 42 USC 2000d and this petition ought to alert congressional authority of funds being embezzled. Also note, why are the America Citizens not receiving this 1.8 million dollars (to each man and woman) each year? Considering this lacking I want to have the entirety of the 1.8 million dollars that are due to me placed in my bank account as soon as possible. For anyone thinking this information is not true ihave included this section from the Social Security Act 1935.

TITLE V- GRANTS TO STATES FOR MATERNAL AND CHILD WELFARE
ALLOTMENTS TO STATES

SEC. 502. (a) Out of the sums appropriated pursuant to section 501 for each fiscal year the Secretary of Labor shall allot to each State $20,000, and such part of $1,800,000 as he finds that the number of live births in such State bore to the total number of live births in the United States, in the latest calendar year for which the Bureau of the Census has available statistics.
Sincerely,
Mr. michael turner white
3756 Reading Rd, Apt A-307
apt.307
Cincinnati, OH 45229-1426
The Social Security Act 1935 section V: 502 states 1.8 million dollars os given to each live birth. The governor and attorney general of each state sign off to this federal grant as the trustee of this Social Security Trust Account. This money is to be given to each man or woman to pay for all of the things they in their life time. The Alien registration Act 1940 requires the feet prints or hand prints of the baby for the birth certificate to create the Social Security Number for the 1.8 million dollars to each live birth. I study under the Private Attorney General Act 1866 Congress authorized all American Citizens to be Private Attorney General. The Social Security Act 1935 pays for all child support and the failure of the court system to provide this congressional remedy is an act of treason, a felony and violation of the oath of office to protect the peoples rights and U.S. Constitution against terrorist domestic and foreign. This Social Security Act 1935 is your relief for child support vehemently confirms the courts are operating under fraud.
My husband just retired from 20 years of military services. His income is only a fraction of what it used to be. We have his son and his ex has the daughter. He has been trying to have the support changed from 1050 since November but of course it hasn't been changed. Now, she gets over 75% of his retirement check and our family suffers while she is living it up and buying her other kids things instead of her daughter. We have three kids we took in and a son of our own. Thank goodness I work and have a degree but she needs to get off her rear and get a job and stop relying on him. He gave 20 years to the military but she is reaping the benefits. Plus, now we are told she may not have to repay us once the support does change....whenever that will be. Child support is bogus, especially when each parent has a kid from the relationship.
One of my biggest issues is that it is the father's who try there hardest and as soon as they fall behind the government kicks the crap out of them while they are down but those fathers who have never tried or even had a job and are nearing or over the $10000 mark have never suffered any consequences but they were withholding payments from my wages for 10 consecutive weeks or more and wake me up at 3 am to arrest me cause I was close to 3000 in the hole with them which caused me to miss work and loose my job so I would get more behind while looking for a job again!
My ex wife is remarried has four other kids doesnt wanna work n i have to pay 600 a month plus 65% of medical bills because she has no income . Lousy system in place. There are just as many deadbeat mothers as there are fathers now.
THIS HAVE TO STOP. IT'S UNFAIR AND THE CHILD IS STILL HURT AT THE END OF THE DAY!
I doyuble paid child support because of SSA overpayment of 5,000 and got nothing back.
My husband and I are forced to live with shut off notices on our utilities, repo notices for my car, we cannot afford to give our two year old daughter the life she so rightfully deserves because his ex wife honestly takes us to court once every 30-60 days for support. He told the courts he was interviewing for a job and they raised his support by 300 dollars based on the prospect that he MIGHT get his job and told him if he doesn't, to appeal. What kind of system is that!? She even said she knows he can't afford it know but if he gets the job, he will. But he hasn't even been offered it. He just interviewed. this system is flawed greatly and is ruining families and relationships between parents and children. I will chime in on the "she doesn't work" idea, because she doesn't work. She lives in her boyfriends house, for free, has no bills or obligations, no job, get public assistance and all of our income. What the courts don't look at is when they take the fathers income to that extreme, not only are they ruining the children's quality of life when they're with their father but the new spouse (me) then has to work 3 jobs to take care of EVERYTHING because he's still supporting his ex. Meanwhile his children don't have clothes or shoes that fit them and she's wearing Holister jeans. It's more than flawed. It's injustice. But all the world cares about is money. Everyone one of these fathers could die of starvation and as long as the mothers were getting their money, no one would care.
There haves to be some type of fairness the childsupport system needs to be revamp and make it better for fathers that are in there kids lives and that are struggling fathers who struggling to make ends meet wines up looking like a dead beat because he having a hard time making his payments the system needs a change and make both parents full responsible help each other as parents for the sake of the kids set goals help eachother put away college funds for the kids there gotta be a better way for dads that are trying their best or at lease trying to make things better throwing dads in jail for trying to make ends meet make them feel like a failure and not only that when they get lock up trying to get out of jail and having loves to bail them only leaves them in further dept and it's even of a more struggle they will be lies told in court to make u look bad and it's crazy things need to be change but there should be a better plan I just don't know why no one taking any actions or helping change things to at lease make it easy for good dads out there it's hard u got Uncle Sam taxes us child support taxes us plus bills and if I was to get a good paying job the more I make the more childsupport takes this gotta change for the better and someone gotta do something about this
I have been paying child support for 20yrs. Not only do I feel this is unfair, but I feel like custody should be shared, 50/50. Why can't both parents have equal custody and child support be abolished? Both parents should be held accountable for support and care of the child or children, not one parent. Child support and it's laws has caused children and non - custodial parents to become de-tached. It is my opinion that child support is hurting children rather than helping them.
I'm paying 188 a week.and I am a responsible father. I provide for my kid and have over a 100 overnights. Women are greedy. I can barely pay my rent. Living pay check to pay check
A shared income by both parents should be implemented. NOW
I honestly seen these women alot where i live in south Texas, they just walk around with there i phones holding their Micheal Kors purses not even trying to be the perfect mother they should be while some hard working men bust their a** being forced to pay child support when they probably shouldnt
I truley belive that both parties need to take the financial responsibility it shouldnt just be the man if thats the case, the man should take care of the child.
It's sad that a father is expected to pay so much in child support that he can't pay his own bills or provide food and shelter for his child(ren) when he does get visitation with them. Meanwhile, the baby mamas are raking in money just for sitting on their asses. They drive new cars, walk around in nice clothes, but when his child comes for a visit, it's evident that the support money isn't going to him at all - because his clothes don't fit, he's missing articles of clothing, he complains that "mommy doesn't let me have snacks when I'm hungry," etc. It's time the golddiggers learned how to fork over half the cash to support THEIR children. It shouldn't be up to the fathers to be poor and unable to support themselves just because someone wants a paycheck for popping out kids. If the money went to the kids, that would be one thing...but most of the time it doesn't!
I'm from kansas and the laws here are the worst
I'm from kansas and the laws here are the worst
My fiance is going through so much hassle with his daughters mother and the child doesnt even live with her mom. My heart goes out to men who are trying to make an honest livivng but cant because these dead beat mothers are abusing the system.
there are women who just money just to show off
FAMILY COURT CIRCUS, NEEDS TO BE SHUT DOWN.. JUDGES AND GALS, AND LAWYERS NEED TO BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR DAMAGING FAMILIES.. ESPECIALLY THE KIDS..
The child support laws are unfair as hell. Does the government have to punish ppl just to help single mothers? Some of which aren't nothing but legal whores, making babies for a check. Time to wake em up.
The law really need 2 be more clear and should state that the women should have proof of her monthly child support if not there should be consequences because we have them if we don't pay
As a father I pay $400 a month for my 6 yr old son which is more than his mom even makes in a month and uses all the money she gets for her bills and none of it goes to my son I don't think it's fair that I have to bust my a** to pay for my bills and my other baby and also I have to pay her bills it's not fair I don't mind paying but she should at least pay her own bills and use the money that I give her for my son and not her....thanks for listening. Cody
Child support Laws should be revised and give us access to see our children if I pay child support I should be allowe to see my children.
I have a four year old daughter that I pay child support on and my ex is married and gets to sit on her a** everyday and not have to do anything. I have a four month old now with my fiancé that I support but it doesn't matter im practically paying their (ex and her husbands) mortgage payment. I can barely afford just essential bills etc.
Its so hard to pay my bills and take of my kids when they are with me , while she owns two houses, takes trip all over the us , while I have to miss meals everyday so that I can feed my kids when they are with me
My fiance has a 5 year old with another girl and 'we' pay 100$ a week in child support while she sits on her butt and does nothing. She recently filed for child support when she found out I was pregnant. She is always asking for more money for her son for clothes and food when she gets food stamps and has roomates living in her trailor splitting a whopping 300$ a month rent. She receives 400 a month from us and always has new clothes while me and my fiance scrape up everything just to pay rent. Over the winter he gets laid off and didnt receive unemployment due to a complication. So all the money we saved for the winter had to go to her, she took us to court 3 times since aug last year saying she really needs the money. I have also had to spend a few hundred just to give her her new clothes. I think its absolutely ridiculous that she gets to sit there and do nothing while we work our butts off. And we still pay for his sons clothes (which he never has new clothes from her). Something needs to be done about this! !
I live in North Carolina. My husband pays child support for his son. A reasonable amount each month. He get's to see his son every other week (unfair). My problem is when he comes over to the house, he is in what looks like hand me down clothes and shoes. Why is this so...if we are paying money for him a month to get clothes, shoes, and food. Then on top of that we pay medical for him. My husband is working his butt off! It seems that the law favors the mother's always. Why is that? Didn't these mother's have a part in making these kids too. So why do the dad's have to suffer with maybe having no place to sleep or no food to eat, just to pay for children that TWO people brought into this world. These mother's who collect child support needs to get a grip, and stop acting like you are entitled ( even if you have your children 24/7, your still not entitled, that is something your suppose to do.) Fix these child support laws America!
I'm only allowed to see my kids every other weekend. Not the whole weekend either. Just 10 AM to 6 PM Saturday and Sunday. I would like to have them every weekend from Friday to Sunday night but due to my current financial situation and the amount I am forced to pay, I can not afford to fight for that.

On top of all of that, she can claim them on her taxes every year and I can't claim a single penny I am forced to hand over to her. It makes absolutely no sense that I can't claim the portion of money I pay for my children.

It is absolutely true. The child support laws are one sided and need to be changed. I see so many domestic disputes and even household situations that make children living there unsuitable and the court do nothing, but when a mother bails on the father and wanted to take him for all the money he has, they are more than happy to take it from him and hand it to her.

Every once in a blue moon it is the other way around. But that is very very rare. The government needs to butt their nose out of the public's business and let them live there lives. If both parents decide to split and there are kids involved then they should be required to work out an agreement before a divorce or separation is granted and should be given so much time to figure something out. There should be set standard to what is reasonable and what is not and if a decision is not made in time and the courts do have to take charge, both parties debts and financial situations should be considered instead of just focusing on when their gross income is.

Last. if one parent wants to work it out but the other wants to leave. the leaving parent should have to give up their parental rights. It takes two to tango and two to create life. IF you want to bail and the other person wants to do the right thing and make it work for the kids, then the person leaving is a coward and deserves to lose those rights.

Bottom line, no parent should have to struggle or be forced into bankruptcy. Unfortunately there are a lot of people (mostly mothers) who take advantage of the corrupt system. And because of that there are also a lot of fathers that do the only thing they can do sometimes, which is try and hide income just so they can manage. and then you have those who just say screw it and just earn less on purpose or just go to jail. and why.....because the support system is UNFAIR!!!
Custody and child support laws are flawed.
My supoort was dropped becausethe mother is a low life and didnt show up to court. But now they are threatening to throw me in prison for support they stopped collecting. I worked 2 jobs and went to school and had to drop out to stay out of jail. Obama needs to fix this and screw the health care bill.
my ex wife is lying that she's not making that much money and she is. I even have proof of it and the courts are not doing nothing about it. and they're hitting me with more child support that I cannot afford. it seems like fathers do not have any rights. she even lied on her taxes to get more money. and I have proof of that too and they're not doing nothing about it. I do not have a lawyer because I cannot afford a lawyer. but she can. I need help out there. she has abuse my son and the police give me copies of the pictures. and they're doing nothing about it either.
My ex has not worked a day since we divorced. Her current husband makes very little and I'm sure that my child support is just supplemental income for both of them.
The only thing stop us seeing the kids is the law and we need to get equal right! The law don't know who's fault is it and don't know if he the bad father or she the bad mother. It make good father look bad.
Too many women have been abusing this system and unfairly subjecting alot of men to grief through this unbalanced system. I feel that both parties should have to equally contribute to a neutral account and the one who has custody of the child should be able to withdraw fair amounts of money for the child's care and show PROOF of how they spent that money. The other party should be able to see the reciepts of that spending at any time and there be transparency across the board. For a long time, a whole lot of women have been using child support as self support to pay their personal bills, get their hair and nails done, pay their rent, pay their cell phone bills, support their new lover and their other kids by different men and so forth. This is not right and it must stop now! Additionally, the fathers should be given more time to support and spend with their children. They are missing out on so much quality time with their kids and every other weekend a month is not enough. They need to be able to be more of an authoritive and support figure in their child's life to help guide, direct and nurture their development.
We need equal rights as fathers cause the system is not fair to all working men they kill our pockets we can't even take care of our bills or other bussiness:::I have a court order for vistiation an still get rob of my kids but pay all kinda hi money for a lazy woman to take care of others off they childsupport u pay for ur kids
My ex wife and I had an equal parenting time arrangement and neither paid any support to the other. We argued about sports but always acted in the best interest of our kids. (she always wants to be on the go year round and I enjoy a balance that involves family time as well as sports- a compromise was not happening with this woman) 5 years after our divorce my income increased and my ex decided to start her own business with her husband- leaving a well paying job. Her career CHOICE decreased my kids standard of living on her time- so you can imagine what happened next. She wanted child support for her half of the time, and now I pay 70% of all extra curricular activities- and was recently sent an email stating she was going to buy the most expensive cleats for our 7 year old daughter and I WAS GOING TO PAY 70% of the cost. On top of having the kids half the time I pay over 800 dollars a month in support for "her half" of the time. My ex and I no longer act in the best interest of our kids. The resentment and anger brought on by an unfair support system has put our kids in a state of turmoil because there is a true sense of hatred between their parents. I would love to rise above it, but when I am TOLD what I am supposed to pay without getting any say I have an issue. When she is allowed to make a poor career choice and cause me and my family to struggle I have an issue. The last thing I want is to waste more money on legal fees that landed me in this situation. The child support system is flawed. Both parents should be financially responsible for their life and life choices and based on those life choices they should be equally responsible to provide for their kids. That is how you raise healthy kids. That is how resentment and anger are minimized which prevents using the kids to manipulate and hurt the other parent. I am too good of a man to take a lower paying job in order to collect child support from my ex wife- it is just sad that she isn't as decent of a person, and the courts don't hold her accountable. Please realize that men and women have equal opportunities in the work world, stop punishing someone for being successful POST DIVORCE. My kids enjoyed the fruits of my success- a beautiful home, vacations, fun family weekend activities... Now we have the house, but no extra money for the family vacations and family fun times. That money goes to their mother now- and it is horribly sad.
I was made to sign and order without telling me what it contains and now I am being denied to talk to my child, I did not sign a paternity test and the child does not have my last name.
This is not the land of the free!!!!!
Not sure that this will help at all but at least I can get this off of my chest. I've been in a relationship with my fiancee for about 5 years now. He's held a job for over 3 of those years and he always pays back child support. We have a child together and have to live with my grandparents because we can't seem to make enough money together to get back up our feet. We were going to be able to at least pay off some debts and get the car fixed with his tax return but the IRS seized the entire thing. That money was there because of our child, and they took it for a kid who probably won't see any of that money. The ex's mother is a lawyer and she always makes sure to squeeze all the money she can out of the situation. It's just not fair. The ex would let her kid live in squalor if not for my fiancee taking care of him almost exclusively for the first few years of his life. It just doesn't seem fair that this past mistake bites us in the*****so hard when all we're trying to do is better ourselves now.
My Ex-Wife tries works off the books and still wants me to pay for everything. There should be a balance, rather than the non-custodial parent pay above and beyond. Yet still, she complains it's not enough? I just don't get why they try to get more when life is already hard as is.
I believe all noncustodial parents should have to pay SOMETHING to support their children, but not in a way that allows their ex's to live on food stamps while receiving tens of thousands of dollars a year worth of child support AND working AND having a live in boyfriend who makes over 100k a year. My fiance' pays the State of Ohio 200 dollars a month so his ex wife can keep his children on medicaid. He brings home less than HALF of his paycheck so she can live on welfare. We struggle to pay bills with 2 full time jobs while she works part time, collects food stamps and gets child support. Her income alone amounts to 52,000/yr with the child support. COME ON! It's unreal.
Want What is Best For Grandchild
As a grandmother who loves her grandchild more than anything in this world, I firmly believe and see the effect on my grandson's life because of the unfair child support system. When the non custodial parent is paying so much into child support that he really can no longer provide for himself or maintain the child with the standard of living the child is receiving on the custodial side. I watch my son as he tries to keep his own spirit upbeat around my grandson and do everything he possibly can do to please his son with no funds for them to go anywhere or do anything. It is limited to teaching him how to ride a bike, create things with his hands, nature.Anything and everything he can possibly do to please him that is as low cost as possible. The ex wife is taking my grandson on elaborate vacations everywhere. The court does not require accountability for her supposed half on these child support requirements, such as monthly child expenditure receipts and bank savings for college statements. If the court system was a true system of justice it should set up a realistic monetary figure of what exactly it costs to raise a child, split that figure in half,charge each parent accordingly. All documentation to show that these expenses are going where they are supposed to for the child should be provided by the custodial parent monthly. The income or wealth of either parent should have no bearing on child support. The child will live in style of life each parent is accustomed to and rightfully acquired through his or her own effort when he is with that parent. It is up to the court which income and lifestyle is in the best interest of the child. In the case where the income of either parent can not meet up with the established figure for raising a child properly, then the government should provide the additional money needed. Something has to change soon. As it stands now, this system is destroying the family unit and the well being of many of our children and grandchildren.
There has to be change in order to make the system better. Just like any other system things have to be adjusted to be beneficial at all. I understand it is our right and responsibility to provide for our children, but it is also a right as American Citizens to be treated just and fair. Until a change is made and there are rules set in place to protect both parties in the matter, this will be a flawed system. Please all who read sign this petition.
In California in the military and paying an extraordinary amount of child support even though I have 49% custody. System is very unfair and targets military people trying to do the right thing and defent their country, meanwhile the other party is sitting at home collecting food stamps and living in low income housing getting 800 a month support for 1 child...while I struggle to pay mortgage, auto loans, etc...
Illinois does not factor in the other parents income. I currently have 50% custody and still am forced to pay 32% of my salary. Once you are deemed a non-custodia parent, you are trapped. Men make up 90% of this group.
TO THE POINT-this evil law has put in poverty!.and by taking my only tool to offer theses very few jobs out there my driving license. By taking my license away to punish me,now turning fifty nine which makes it worse for me to get a job with all the young illegals aliens flooding the job market and my own. country being prejudice because. l am getting older so ple- ase give us back our driving back and you will be putting us back to work.I think jesus somebody is trying to us poor americans who ever you are ,may god bless you.
My exwife is capable of work but chooses to live off my child support.
TO THE POINT-this evil law has put in poverty!.and by taking my only tool to offer theses very few jobs out there my driving license. By taking my license away to punish me,now turning fifty nine which makes it worse for me to get a job with all the young illegals aliens flooding the job market and my own. country being prejudice because. l am getting older so ple- ase give us back our driving back and you will be putting us back to work.I think jesus somebody is trying to us poor americans who ever you are ,may god bless you.

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