Unfair child support laws

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I am tired of hearing and seeing issues about men being effected by child support. Numerous websites are provided for men. What about women who are treated unfairly by men who don't work... Or beat the system by "claiming" SSD , WHILE THE ARE 100% CAPABLE of working??
I am tired of hearing and seeing issues about men being effected by child support. Numerous websites are provided for men. What about women who are treated unfairly by men who don't work... Or beat the system by "claiming" SSD , WHILE THE ARE 100% CAPABLE of working??
A person should NOT be jailed because they can not afford to pay the whole sum of back child support all at once because they are disabled and unable to work! But yet THEY ARE still making court ordered monthly payments. And haven't even seen their kids or heard from them in 19 years! They are no longer even living in the home. Yes, I believe that back child support should be payed.... but in payments!! You should not have to do jail time because you can't come up with the money all at once!! I still wouldn't be able to come up with $35,000 cash all at once, even if I did a year in jail!!! My Doctors won't let me work!! More than likely....I would just give up, say what's the use and just kill myself!! These laws need to change!! (just got another harassing letter in the mail today) I have been up to date on all of my payments these last few years!!! Now I'm threatened with jail for not being able to pay full back support sum all in one payment!!! When is it going to stop!!??? (male or female...IT'S WRONG)
A person should NOT be jailed because they can not afford to pay the whole sum of back child support all at once because they are disabled and unable to work! But yet THEY ARE still making court ordered monthly payments. And haven't even seen their kids or heard from them in 19 years! They are no longer even living in the home. Yes, I believe that back child support should be payed.... but in payments!! You should not have to do jail time because you can't come up with the money all at once!! I still wouldn't be able to come up with $35,000 cash all at once, even if I did a year in jail!!! My Doctors won't let me work!! More than likely....I would just give up, say what's the use and just kill myself!! These laws need to change!! (just got another harassing letter in the mail today) I have been up to date on all of my payments these last few years!!! Now I'm threatened with jail for not being able to pay full back support sum all in one payment!!! When is it going to stop!!??? (male or female...IT'S WRONG)
A person should NOT be jailed because they can not afford to pay the whole sum of back child support all at once because they are disabled and unable to work! But yet THEY ARE still making court ordered monthly payments. And haven't even seen their kids or heard from them in 19 years! They are no longer even living in the home. Yes, I believe that back child support should be payed.... but in payments!! You should not have to do jail time because you can't come up with the money all at once!! I still wouldn't be able to come up with $35,000 cash all at once, even if I did a year in jail!!! My Doctors won't let me work!! More than likely....I would just give up, say what's the use and just kill myself!! These laws need to change!! (just got another harassing letter in the mail today) I have been up to date on all of my payments these last few years!!! Now I'm threatened with jail for not being able to pay full back support sum all in one payment!!! When is it going to stop!!??? (male or female...IT'S WRONG)
There are tens of thousands of letters in this petition and 98 to 99% of fathers are correct perhaps just perhaps this is only a SCAM. As far as congress being asleep and need Awakening not true they are very well awake. Capital Hill Congress people that work there or known to be very smart and gifted intelligence very well educated and bright but when it comes to the child's father a micro part in there bran is numb.You do the math 30.000 plus and 98 to 99% correct excuse the you know what out of me. As far as the ATTORNEY GENERAL CHILD SUPPORT DIVISION, Now they are asleep they have meeting every week of the mount in the mornings and not knowing that kits, children's miner sons and daughters are consider a CHILD. Fathers guiding providing giving loving teaching is consider a SUPPORT. But no they go by the name of CHILD SUPPORT to big of a name when its in reality spousal support or ex support.Perhaps just perhaps the child support division employees been hypnotize with the word child support and if so they should be forgiven. I'm a father of 4, I love my kits the system got me to be homeless one of my kits in person and the other is lost. and the two other are married.been paying for over 17 years my oldest is 25 Yr. old.and I'm still throwing the money away my ex get it and my child stay crying. And GOD the one you have in your herd does do care, Who else beside the father.
The law should also be changed to where a father should not lose his drivers license because of getting behind on child support. So many people get fired, or get layed off its a part of life. What happens if the father wants to be a policeman, or doc, or anything with credit or license. What now? Wake up America! Welfare mothers should not get a free ride especially if the fathers are also on welfare.
I have paid child support faithfully for over 14 years. Over the years I have bought school clothes, paid soccer fees and whatever else occured. My child never received any of it. Her mom choose to pay for her own personal expenses. The system is unfair and needs to be reevaluated or revamped. Those who receive child support should have to show receipts for purchases for the child, quarterly, annually or monthly. It is for the child right? This isn't spousal support. The system is broken and needs to be fixed. Thankfully I will be done paying in 1 year. I am all for supporting my child, but not the mother. They can get a job and support themselves. When will Congress or senator's change the way our society looks at men or women who pay child support?
this is exactly what is happening to me. I have become diabetic and sick because no matter how much begged the state even wants of one disability check....its the corrupt politicians and bra burning feminist pigs in washinton responsible for this chaos! and you cant blame all men. its women to supporting sancho with their babies money...lazy good for nothing deadbeat mothers and fathers because of you us hard working dads and moms have to suffer stupid and lazy politicians who cant resolve the problem except by laying a heavier burden on the hardworking parent and not on the deadbeat mother or father. and I'll state my name because Im not a coward like most of you. my name is Efren M Montes of San Diego, Ca.
i dont think its fair that my children cant get child support only because the father "only income is SSI" both mother and father have the responsability support their children. laws need to change because even with SSI being the only income they sure do get good income. its not fair at all. and now he is out in the streets dating other girls who already have children and not supporting his own.
Why is it that a woman can have as many children as she wants, wield power over men, but he cannot start life over with another woman because he owes so much? United States Courts! Are you even taking the time to read these comments? You know what they all have in common? Betrayal by a system that promised equality. You have been creating a country full of women raising children that it is ok to be selfish and that they do not have to work and that men mean nothing. If men cannot be happy, their children can never be happy and the cycle continues.
It is not just women being lazy! I know plenty of men who do not support their children yet they keep having more.
It is not just women being lazy! I know plenty of men who do not support their children yet they keep having more.
Very unfair what happened to me started working again and they just took my pay stub and took my gross income
I make 50 thousand a year but I got to live in with my sister or my semi because child support cripples me she says she is struggling but she has another baby
a Mother should not have to pay child support to a free-loading Dad that also has 3 other children he can't support either
My daughter was born while I was in the US. Navy. when I got out 4 years later, my daughter's mom told me she did not want me in my daughter's life. from 2004 to 2007, I had only seen her a handful of days. Since 2007, I have not seen her, She contacted me on facebook, I told her mom that she contacted me and that day I was blocked from sending or receiving messages from my daughter and viewing her page. her mother has started a career and has been working it for at least 5 years while I worked my ends down making money to send my child. now that I am unemployed and attending school, I receive papers of contempt, for failing to pay. I don't make any extra money that does not go to support the family and the child that have with them. the mothers who keep their children away from the father without legal reason to do so should be the ones held in contempt.
I don't believe father's have rights. When the government is able to step in and make a person pay for a child that they don't have an ultimate decision in actually having, is violating rights.

Women are making a living off of having multiple children and getting child support. I believe in supporting a CHILD not a mother.

Lastly to the Mothers that have custody and do not allow the father to be part of a child's life should not be allowed to collect support. Why if a parent is trying to be active in a child's life still be responsible for paying for a child they cannot see? If the parent is chosen to keep that child to themselves than they should fully support that child than.
Many woman are making having kids a business. Children to them are an asset more than anything else. Child support laws MUST be changed.
I am a father of 2 and I was living with the children and my ex until December of 2015.
A child support case has been open against me since 2013 in spite of the fact that I have always taken care of the children.
I have recently had a Bank Levy placed on my account leaving me broke because I have no access to the money that I work hard for.
I have been denied access to a passport and drivers license which is critical to my work.

This makes me wonder why I pay my fair share of taxes in this country because it does not benefit me in the least. The state of NYC seems to be the worst toward fathers,
The child support agencies are extremely ruse and treat you as if you have actually committed a crime when they are taking your hard earned money and no one seems to be able to stop them.
I am going to start a petition to fight the way the system imprisons the parents who want custody for the right reasons and instead are thrown to the side with little to no time with the child or children and is told to them pay for the other parent to provide for those kids. I shouldn't have to help the mother of my child take care of him and then struggle to do it myself when I have him and watch him worship her for all the nice toys and hate me for the hand me downs. It isn't right and we need to make the change
I am going to start a petition to fight the way the system imprisons the parents who want custody for the right reasons and instead are thrown to the side with little to no time with the child or children and is told to them pay for the other parent to provide for those kids. I shouldn't have to help the mother of my child take care of him and then struggle to do it myself when I have him and watch him worship her for all the nice toys and hate me for the hand me downs. It isn't right and we need to make the change
I have tried to get legal support, I tried to pay a lawyer, I tried to negotiate with their mother. City clerks have only one answer and one gesture. "They can't provide legal advice." (Point to documents on shelves.) 90% of city employees are women and treat men as if we are known criminals of the worse kind. They won't change anything. Women well keep using the government as a weapon to crush men out of spite, and children will be raised to despise their father and resent themselves.
Is a lot of good men out here to do a lot of good thing still spendin time with the kids and still doing what they need to do on top of paying there child support .
My husband and I just found out we are pregnant with our 2nd child. Most people would be happy, but however we are forced to seriously consider abortion due to the fact that he has 3 children from a precious relationship, and because of child support, we can hardly afford our own home mortgage and the 1 child that we have together (my only). His ex and all 3 children live with HIS mom, and every month she signs over the child support checks to my husband's grandfather and he covers the rest of the expenses for the children, yet no one in his family has actually helped my husband and i, just his ex. She lives with his mom rent free, drives her vehicle for free, gets free childcare from her, and she gets food stamps, wic, and medicaid for all 3 children, all the while going to a 4 year university to get a degree in physical therapy, that my husband's grandparents are also supporting financially, and getting support from us. Also, she has put all 3 children into a private catholic school, which is NOT cheap. All the while my husband and I are in debt from trying to make ends meet. It really burns me and fills me up with resent that I have to probably abort a baby that I really want, just so we don't foreclose on our home because we have to support her, when she doesn't even try and reaps all the benefits from MY HUSBAND'S family!!!!! It's wrong!!
My son is paying back child support in Traverse City MI for a child that isn't even HIS. a Court Ordered DNA test Proved that and the judge issued the Revocation of Paternity Act But yet my son is Still Paying Child Support. NOW Here is the Really Messed up part. MY SON is paying Child Support to HIS father ( MY EX husband) YES..thats Correct) The baby don't EVEN live with my ex.Kiara Lives with her real Dad. .. YET My son IS Paying CHild support to his Father. And because my son Brendan was out of work for a couple months T.C Michigan put a Warrant out for his arrest. WITHOUT Notifiying anyone. The Police came to MY door looking for my son for this stupid warrant. The FOC has taken my sons Federal and State income tax and over half his weekly checks each week to which he can't even pay his rent now. ALL THIS for a baby that isn't EVEN HIS!! and the Money isn't Even GOING To the baby. ITs going to my son's so called dad. What a MESSED UP system TRAVERSE CITY is!!!!! They really Screwed MY son over.
I think it's horrible the courts include housing and sustinence allowances in child support for military. I have to pay her $1500 a month because the allowances I am given to support myself are included. Without including those my payment would be $700. But I can't afford to see MY kiddos because I can not afford too any more. Wisconsin sucks
Friends of the Court (FOC)
Receives local funding through property taxes and state funding converted from federal IV-D program through contract with state to perform child support order establishment and enforcement services in compliance with state/federal IV-D program guidelines.

Receives funding from statutory service fees added to support orders and collected from payers of support.

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Okay, so briefly, what exactly is Title IV section D and how does it affect you. Well, to summarize it...it is a federally funded incentive program designed to reward child support order establishment and fund child support enforcement programs. This allows the states to generate huge amounts of revenue, the more families and individuals they destroy, finagle to keep in the system the more money or incentive monies the States get from the Federal Government.
I don't think it's fair for men to pay child support with out being given the opportunity to take care of their kids if the mother can not. And see how many stay on welfare.
I have a daughter in Canada which by court order I can legally visit her. Bug due to my back ground I can not get into Canada. I tried to get a special permit but was denied. So how can they force me to comply.
I'm from Kansas city. How can you make a FULL payment if you don't have a job?. We put men in jail. How can you provide if you're in jail. Also the state get money for you being in jail but there is no money put on your child support Bill. How is that a crime prison because you can't pay.. Love don't cost nothing. They need to change the laws to help Fathers nation wide
my boyfriend is going through this nightmare. he is a good father . his ex refuses to work. now is taking me back to court to relocate the kids out of state. to take my visitation right away. i have to pay a lawyer and most of the cost . that she started. taking my kids out of state . is a financal hardship just to see my kids for a little while. my ex does not allow me to talk to my kids on the phone now. this is not fair!
my ex refuses to work. now is taking me back to court to relocate the kids out of state. to take my visitation right away. i have to pay a lawyer and most of the cost . that she started. taking my kids out of state . is a financal hardship just to see my kids for a little while. my ex does not allow me to talk to my kids on the phone now. this is not fair!
My fiance & brothers have been screwed over by child support. March 7,2016 fiance went to court because of back support. He was ordered to pay $1903 in arrears by April 11,2016. Ive made money gram payments and always call in a few days to verify balance. March 30,2016 the last $150 was paid bringing arrearage to $0(my records) but according to AG office hes still behind $338. Theres no way. I call bull****!!
My brother has 2 daughters and since he wants nothing to do with the mother he hasnt seen daughters in 16 years, but still pays current support/arrearage. The daughters 16 & 15 have legally had their last name changed to the step-dads last name.(which is all good cause he has raised them) My brother still has to pay $1400 a month support. Thats not far , if legally they can change their name then the support should be cut off.
How is it fair that the men don't get to see their children as much as they would love to because they have to work extra hours to keep up with the child support demands. Not all mothers NEED the amount demanded. Every case is different and should be treated as such! You can't lump all these fathers together. I've seen child support/ custody battles up close and personal for years being a nanny/sitter and friend. THESE LAWS NEED TO BE RE-EVALUATED. Because I'm sorry but a mother who lives with her parents, has a full time job and minimal bills does not need to go after a father who works full time and wasn't a lotted the full amount of time he wishes to have with his children.
thank you California for making it harder to be a good parent. my soon-to-be ex wife tells me that because she gave birth to my son, that she has all rights to him. Stanislaus county is widely known to favor the mothers and take their sweet time to get the child support in order, I'm guessing to see the best ways to get more money for the mother.

I was told I was going to pay around $270 a month, which isn't bad at all. my ex claimed she cancelled the child support in exchange for me willing to pay $300 a month cuz I was trying to be nice. I didn't hear anything for nearly 2 months, then magically starting getting notices again. I contact my ex and she claims that they "never cancelled it" and that it was raised to nearly $600 a month!!! she has a "secret" side business that she isn't reporting on her taxes, "demoted" herself to get less hrs at work, and is now going back to school. the child support agency hasn't even got in contact with me to discuss the proposal on the support, saying I have 30 days to respond...but where is the damn paperwork?!?!?!

if anything, there needs to be a system in place where the receiver of the support needs to show proof of purchases to validate the money is going towards my son. i'll be damned if im paying for her schooling...please, congress, help a dad that's trying to do right by his son and not give in to the greedy needs of the mothers who falsely need help
I think it's awful the way men are treated when it comes to child support! I know of quite a few men that have been screwed by the system, my fiancee, stepfather, and my uncle. Even some friends. It isnt fair. The fact that the mother is collecting some kind of financial aid (foods stamps, wic, etc..) from the government should not enable the government to hunt down the father for all the money he has just so they can get their money back. Especially when the mother, who obviously couldn't afford the first child, goes and has ANOTHER child by someone else! It's ridiculous! The whole system is unfair, and unjust and something needs to be changed! I say once the mother goes out and has another kid though she couldn't afford the first, the support should be null and void or she should be made to find a JOB! Scrolling through the comments and seeing terrible things about men wanting to take their own lives just because they can't make it, is so sad to say the least. Women should not be getting a free ride just for having sex! I'm a "single" mother, we were married, and I still don't get child support from the father, I have made it on my own before, without any help from the government or him, so all those other women can too! The answer is: don't be lazy! WORK! Like you're making the fathers do (while milking them for every penny in the process, leaving them with NOTHING!!). This should not be happening like this. There must be a better way. SOMEBODY NEEDS TO FIX THIS PROBLEM.
I think it's awful the way men are treated when it comes to child support! I know of quite a few men that have been screwed by the system, my fiancee, stepfather, and my uncle. Even some friends. It isnt fair. The fact that the mother is collecting some kind of financial aid (foods stamps, wic, etc..) from the government should not enable the government to hunt down the father for all the money he has just so they can get their money back. Especially when the mother, who obviously couldn't afford the first child, goes and has ANOTHER child by someone else! It's ridiculous! The whole system is unfair, and unjust and something needs to be changed! I say once the mother goes out and has another kid though she couldn't afford the first, the support should be null and void or she should be made to find a JOB! Scrolling through the comments and seeing terrible things about men wanting to take their own lives just because they can't make it, is so sad to say the least. Women should not be getting a free ride just for having sex! I'm a "single" mother, we were married, and I still don't get child support from the father, I have made it on my own before, without any help from the government or him, so all those other women can too! The answer is: don't be lazy! WORK! Like you're making the fathers do (while milking them for every penny in the process, leaving them with NOTHING!!). This should not be happening like this. There must be a better way. SOMEBODY NEEDS TO FIX THIS PROBLEM.
I had a son when I was 19 years old. I have not seen the mother since she became pregnant, and my son has no contact with me. I enjoy no parental rights, yet I am obligated to pay child support. As I write this comment I am unemployed. I don't understand why I am a part of this if she moved on and started a family somewhere else. Am I being forced into slavery with my son held from me for ransom? This is a cultural phenomenon. So help me, God, this must end.
No fault divorce, 17% for 1 child, 25% for 2 children = easy for women to get divorce after cheating and collect easy money = lawyers and judges happy with more and more divorce cases, so win win for everyone except the fathers. Only in this country could it be so crooked, like everything else in this country. Worse divorce laws for men than any country in the world. What's that tell you, yep, most crooked country in the world too! Nothing will change for the better, but it'll definitely get worse, that's a guarantee!
My ex wife is doing everything she can to work as little as possible, all while collecting a lot of money from me every single month. We are barely making it in our home now. I have three additional children that I am responsible for and can barely make ends meet because she lies to the courts about the money in her home.
Yes the system is corrupt! But the courts don't always favor the woman. I work full time, pay insurance for my daughter and myself, and get less than $100 a month for her. I'm low income and barely scrap by, I don't get the luxury of special things in my one bedroom apartment because I make so little money. I've put in 3 different modification letters and finally something is being done after 8 years. But that being said he isn't forced to pay anything.. How is it that I work and take care of her, he refuses to even see her and he can get out of paying support?

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