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My wife left me because she was "ready to move on" here in ga they ahev no fault divorce so she doesn't need an excuse to just walk out. She will be taking 1/4 of my pay for chiold support and moving to a more expensive place with her friend who is doing the same thing to her spouse. We make nearly the same amount of money. I can't claim anything on taxes for child support. I can't get earned income credit because of the cut offs while she gets to because the cut off is way higher when claiming 1 dependant. I understand that this system is designed to help support the child. But it is screwing hood hard working men and taking their lives away from them. The cost of living these days is too high. I'll never be able to afford a house or a new car. I have to live off 400 every month. And that's before food gas clothes toilitries anything. We need tax breaks for men who pay child support too many women are repaint the benefits of leaving their men for nothing.
My wife makes as much as me; she decides to have an affair, gets custody of kids and I'm stuck paying child supports and is entitled to my retirement. Crazy! To me when you make the decision to cheat, you decide you don't want any retirement. The percentages for child support need to be changed. It's too much. The male counterpart is usually thrown into the realm of poverty while the woman's lifestyle is much improved. The woman's income ability to provide should be taken into consideration- like the difference be the incomes, then take a percentage of that.
A friend of my has 2 children his ex has dragged back and fourth to court for silly things. How can a woman who took a $5,000 pay cut at a family company 6 months after the divorce now get free health insurance and assistance. How can she start off with $900 dollars a month in child support and get to claim both children at tax time and make out with $8000 dollars or more because she's low income and has 2 children? How can woman lie on her court financial papers and get all this. Not only that she takes him back to court for an extra $100 dollars a month for the children's activities so now it's $900 a months but here's the kicker he tells the judge his child is a minor without proper working papers working for the activities the child is doing, not only that the child is being dropped off by the mother or grand parents and its 30 minutes away. The judge oks the extra $100 for activities and tells him she's learning responsibility. Well that's great judge but maybe the mother should learn some she works less than 30 hrs a week never has both her kids at the same time she can't even afford these expensive activists but sure take another $100 from him, and at tax season make him pay another $900 dollars. How is this fair??? He called RI department of child support to ask if he could get records of what she was spending the money on the woman told him she can spend it on what ever she wants he has no say if she wants to eat out every night at expansive restaurants she can. Grades are slipping, clothes are too small and have holes, boots have holes in them. I'm not knocking the mothers who use the system correctly but you only hear about dead beat fathers what about the fathers who are struggling because of mothers who are abusing the system. There really needs to be an investigation. I think tax records should be provided 5 years before child support is issued I think both parents should be sat down to discus what their financial status was together and now, and I think you should put a time frame on the patent getting the support they need to step up and work as hard as the other patent is how is he suppose to fight his court case if he has no money for a lawyer. I honestly look at this man every day and tear up he loves his children and no matter how hurtful his ex is to him or what she says about him to his children he takes them when he's suppose too, takes them when she can't and never speaks one bad word about her. If it wasn't for our faith in God I don't even want to know where we would be. If nothing changes nothing changes...
I am a single mother of two and I do receive a little over $400 a month in child support. While it helps, when I'm in between jobs and helps even when I do have a job, its completely unfair. I don't ever spend that much money on my kids on a monthly basis, and with state assistance on top of it, it makes a great nest for a dead beat mother, which I am not, but a dead beat mother in my opinion is a mother who receives the money then turns around and uses it for drugs and alcohol, not the things that are necessary in everyday life for those kids. I am currently with someone who has to pay child support. He got a second job so he could pay his bills and it turns out, the more money he makes the more he has to give to his ex wife, who is an addict and lives with another man who is on record dealing to minors. How is this fair to my partner or the person who pays child support to me? It's not, and if anything it's highway robbery. And really ladies and gentlemen, you should probably choose more wisely on who you have sex with!
i was in the military for 11years and paying 2 to 3k a month to a woman for child support up until may 2013. and what happened i tried to get in touch with her she told me basically i owe her and i wasn't making that much at the time. and then the military lowered down to 600 a month but i was paying her that on top of the agreement we had and i saw what she was doing on instagram wow she was parting up and smoking cigars.
It is not fair that I pay a major chunk of my paycheck on child support. Don't get me wrong, they are my children and I have NO problem covering costs for them. I have to pay her tons of money while she also works and makes almost that which I do. She has a lavish house with all new everything inside while I live in a small rental and barely make it. I can't go out as I can't afford to so I sit at home. I have to drive over 7 hours one way to see them and when the military moves me it will be even further. I must cover travel costs and anything I do with them, including feeing them, when I have them. I can't afford this! I love them with all my heart and will strive to see them all I can and be a good father, but I have a hard time affording it. Please fix the child support payment system and start allowing it to be tax deducible!
I make a good amount of money and my ex was not wanting to put me on child support. The court decided to start a child support case and from there on she started asking for money over and over. As soon as the Court case was over she went around asking how will she get her money and how fast will she get it. These laws are unjust and are not helping out my new family. I am married now and its hard to support my family with just $200/week with deductions. I can't even by a house for my wife and daughter. She has a boyfriend who works and helps pay her bills and she works as well. They never asked them for her checks to see the amount she makes why is it only towards the men!
I am told to pay 65% of all the child fees and $459 a month and start at over $11,000 behind even though we were together for the 1st year of our child's life and then she was convicted of child neglect. I had 100% sole custody of our child no child support then state of Florida says your not married so the child goes back to the mother after her classes. Since that day and it's been a year in a half now I've been paying $60 a week. Now she wants more money since I have been trying to better my child's and my life. When does the law make things 50/50?
Iowa Child Support is unfair in several ways and needs to be changed.

My husband has a bachelors degree, works as a full-time teacher, pays a large amount in child support and only brings home $250.00 weekly. His ex and her husband both work full time, have no college educations and bring home 3 times as much money as our household. She lives lavishly while we struggle to pay our bills while also having the child half the time. For the record yes I am college educated, work full-time but only bring home $21,000 yearly.
The point of this is that what we pay in child support is considered cash that we receive. It is unfair that if we apply for medicaid as a secondary insurance for pregnancy as one example, we have to count what is paid (even though we don't even touch the money) for child support as income we receive. This is money that we don't have and should be counted as a deduction. It is also unfair that people who receive child support do not have to list child support as income when applying for benefits. This is absolutely unjust. State assistance is abused because of this technicality. Regardless, parents who receive child support should be required to count this as income! This is free cash in there hands! This is household income. They should be required to pay the taxes on this income because they are the ones receiving this.

The government needs to realize what this unfair system does to families who have to pay large amounts of support. According to society and women's wages, men are supposed to be the ones providing for their family. This is impossible when men are required to pay well over 30% of their income to another family and there spouse being a woman makes much less.

Basically it is this...You have two separate families, all four adults work. You take a large amount of money from one working family, put them in financial hardship and give it to another family so they can live lavishly. The family that is struggling and can barely make ends meet, apply for assistance and can receive NONE because it looks like their income is good and they are well off. Yes it looks good on paper but in the grand scheme of things it is terrible! If this would change I feel that there would be a lot less complaints about the child support system being biased and one sided. Families should not be put into financial hardship because of a broken, unjust system.
This government CAN't continue to force peoplpe to pay child support when they don't force companies and corporations to pay liveable wages.

I say everyone needs to file exempt and stop paying taxes to this government who railroads it;s citizens into slavery.

THE DUMBEST LAW IN THE WORLD IS GOING TO JAIL FOR HAVING A CHILD!!!!!

EVEN WGHEN THE GOVERNMENT IS PAYED BY CORPIORATIONS TO KEEP SLAVE WAGES INTACT!!!!

I DIDN't SIGN UP TO BE A PART OF THIS COUNTRY OR TO FOLLOW THESE SLAVE LIKE LAWS!!!!!

If the government wants to implement fiar child support laws based on each parent being able to survive cool otherwise if They attack my life I'm going to attack the very fabric of this nation and cause chaos in every area I can.
You mess with me once I mess with you TEN FOLD.
You cost me and I cost you 10 fold.

I bring home $229 after taxes with a masters in PM and undergrad finance.

I am not a slve to this government and never will be.
Everytime I look at my checks I create additional chaos in other areas of concren for this government.
come after me and I come after you.
This law is ILLEGAL and there is no due process.

so, eliminate it!!!!1
Mothers should qualify for child support. It shouldn't just be handed to them. The court should consider also if she has another man or husband bringing in income, since the new husband is obviously supporting the family. Also the father shouldn't have to pay for Medicaid. Mothers should be obligated to pay for insurance as well. It is not fair for the father to have to struggle to support his ex, her kids, and his new wife and kids. It is ridiculous!
I was married 10 years, I have 3 beautiful children, my Ex-wife never worked but 1 job for 3 months and got fired, for missing to many days, I never asked her to work since I was the loving caring husband, while I was at work she found herself boy friends to mate with and decided to move one in and finalize the divorce that I submitted a couple years ago but I couldn't ever get her to the county required Kids Hurt 2 class for divorcing parents, so she gets states assistance to get a free lawyer to motion on my papers and gets out of the class and now her boyfriend lives with her and my children, I pay their bills and he works, with 2 kids of his own that he drawls child support from his ex wife that he cheated on with my exwife.
When my kids come and visit they have terrible clothes and are always hungry.
I found dope in their house when I pick them up, they live in a very low end house on the wrong side of town.

But the state of Texas demands me to pay her dope habit and bills, and I only get to see my kids every other weekend, when that I have done nothing but love and support their entire lives. I care about their school and activitys,
Now I am the one struggling to work, pay and barley get to see my children, while my Ex-wife sits at home does nothing but smoke dope while kids are in school, I think the support case needs to be reviewed and it should be fair expenses for both party's.
She birthed the kids yes,but that doesn't mean she can sit at home like a cow grazing a pasture while I'm pulling the plow alone.

Please review and listen to the people.

Respectfully Submitted
I've been going thru this for 8 years now but I refuse to take anymore! South Carolina family court system has to change!!
I am a victim of this. i pay child support, and cant even see my kids.
I have a novel idea how about if a couple gets divorced each parent should have automatic 50 50 custody and no child support should be enforced unless one parent doesn't want the children how about that women have just as much right to work in this country as men women have the same rights as their male counterparts there is no reason for custodial and non-custodial parent your both parents be parents and stop this fighting over the kids for a paycheck .....anyway let's not forget women are really in control my ex wife now has my money her money and her new boyfriend money the only people that suffer is me and the kids when they visit because I'm trying to live on 800 bucks a month so we don't eat that well
I have a novel idea how about if a couple gets divorced each parent should have automatic 50 50 custody and no child support should be enforced unless one parent doesn't want the children how about that women have just as much right to work in this country as men women have the same rights as their male counterparts there is no reason for custodial and non-custodial parent your both parents be parents and stop this fighting over the kids for a paycheck .....anyway let's not forget women are really in control my ex wife now has my money her money and her new boyfriend money the only people that suffer is me and the kids when they visit because I'm trying to live on 800 bucks a month so we don't eat that well
Judges should be held ACCOUNTABLE for unjust and Down Right Corrupt Rullings.
This Bafoon Judge Owens in Tarrant County Fort Worth Texas should be Criminally Charged for Abuse of power.
Liberal Judges like this Idiot Owens do not give Fair Rulings.
The Dis-Honorable Judge in Tarrant County (presiding over my sons Case should face Criminal charges for NOT following the Law and ruining Lives by his unjust rulings and NO ONE HOLDS THESE CORRUPT IDIOTS ACCOUNTABLE !?!??!!!
WHO THE HELL POLICES THESE PIECES OF CRAP THAT MAKE IT TO THE BENCH !!!?
The X Wives can Lie, have a Police record for Domestic Violence, sleep with multiple Men have multiple Children, ABBUSE THE CHILD, brake the Law, be completely Unfit to be a parent and tell the Judge ( in this case Owens ) and the Women gets away with all of It and UNBELEABALBLY ( SHE's ) NOT HELD ACCOUNTABLE !!!
To Anyone.
WTF !
The Sysyem IS Broke !!!!
I'm Ready to fight the System and Help these Fathrs who are being Taken to the Cleaners.
Owens needs to be Disbared and Procescuted.

I wish Someone would look into Who this Owens is.
My Money is He's Dirty.

A Very Frustrated Grand Parent.
Captain Jerry Nichols.
Grand Prairie, Texas. 75052
after the kids turn 18 there should not be arrears. only the mother will benefit from this not the kids they don't see the money .
My husband pays $600 a month for 2 kids we have 2 together he makes $11 an hour on commission..his caseworker told us he has no rights because he didn't ask for any when he was taken for child support. We cant make it by and our JFS counts his child support as housely income..I cant survive on nothing and his case worker also told me specifically if I want our 2 children to matter then I needed ro divorce him and take him for child support myself because until my children are part of their system they don't matter and his only obligations are to the 2 that are and if he were to loose a job they would take my check if my last name was the same as his so I have been married for 4 years and never changed my last name out of fear of not being able to take care of my babies. I am at my wits end and ready to hit the road running. I shouldn't have to divorce my husband formy kids to matter and I sshouldn't have to struggle to pay lot fee on a trailer and not even have a car when she's living large in a nice house with a nice car. Im tired of suffering. I deserve along with my children a chance at just being able to make it.
I have no problem paying child support but I think the following changes could help. First the support that is paid to the custodial parent should be transparent!!! If we could see where its going without having access to it would bring peace of mind also this would keep the other party honest in the purchases they make keeping the kids as the priority. Second and support that is paid and is able to be deducted by the other party, like mortgage interest paid ect should also be a deductible expense for he/she who is paying to help support that mortgage. A portion of child support should always be tax deductible! Third the total amount of support that is paid should only be a % of what the non custodial parent is making taking into consideration his/her living expenses and other family expenses. I realize that the kids should come first but if the non custodial parent can't pay his/her bills and their child support, both parties should realize that other human beings need to eat and have a roof over their heads besides the kids on the support order. Woman do get a bad wrap in this sensitive matter, my ex wife is as bad they come but I think when everyone involved is considered we can get along better and not be so upset about helping our kids receive the support they need.
Women suck and it's good to know that I'm not the only dad gettin screwed. I pay 280 per week and I get teo see my child one weekend a month. I have lost jobs cause of the apathy I have gained from this experienc, I have spent thousands and thousands on lawyers, I on top of that, I am not even allowed to have my daughter stay with me at my house because the mother says my grandma comes over to visit and smokes around her causing her to get sick. WHAT!!! No one smokes around my kid and i live in the burbs where everyone has land and enjoys life without having to lock their doors. So I visit with my child at other relatives houses. I wonder if my smoking granny could go see her over there. COURT IS IGNORANT and debilitating to men across the country. That's what the next president should work on is making the judges responsible for the decisions they make. No accountability is ruining someone's life. I missed almost 2 years of my daughters life and I've never been in jail or convicted of any crimes and on top of that, I am a registered NURSE and I'm not good enough to be a Dad. F--- that. My daughter loves me and she is my world. What is all this craziness doing to the kids when there is no need for this nonsense.
Women suck and it's good to know that I'm not the only dad gettin screwed. I pay 280 per week and I get to see my child one weekend a month. I have lost jobs cause of the apathy I have gained from this experienc, I have spent thousands and thousands on lawyers, I on top of that, I am not even allowed to have my daughter stay with me at my house because the mother says my grandma comes over to visit and smokes around her causing her to get sick. WHAT!!! No one smokes around my kid and i live in the burbs where everyone has land and enjoys life without having to lock their doors. So I visit with my child at other relatives houses. I wonder if my smoking granny could go see her over there. COURT IS IGNORANT and debilitating to men across the country. That's what the next president should work on is making the judges responsible for the decisions they make. No accountability is ruining someone's life. I missed almost 2 years of my daughters life and I've never been in jail or convicted of any crimes and on top of that, I am a registered NURSE and I'm not good enough to be a Dad. F--- that. My daughter loves me and she is my world. What is all this craziness doing to the kids when there is no need for this nonsense.
Women can lie and tell the judge they lied. Nothing happens to them. But I can be falsely accused and fighting for a year with KY child support and fl. Child support can ****up your life credit and reputation. Child support is a tool to keep child from there fathers. This has been happening since the 60's. I am tired of these women crying wolf and using children as pawns. Child support lacks the intelligence, common sense, and to see through the ********. There standard response is you are a no good SOB. I am surprised the support men pay. I was responsible for 85% ex-wife 15%. How in the world does that happen. It took 50 / 50 to conceive child. CHild support has to much power and they destroy fathers everyday. I only have One thing to say **** CHILD SUPPORT AND LIEING EX's. Judges don't do a thing about it they believe the women all the time. That is why men do not pay because the system is broken. The system is designed to crush fathers that only want the best for there children. The laws need to change and all lying women should go to jail. There are fathers out there that would do a better job than women hands down.
In CA they drop a letter off at a know residence.... Then deem you the father if you don't respond back. How do you respond back to a letter you never received? Now he has to pay for a child that he knows is not his, and one other tha is questionable. A self suffciant man has to suffer because a woman who has a boot full of kids wants to be supported by the system. Things need to change.
I have to pay $1500 per month, $400 per month on medical, 50% of co pays and dental and the mother doesn't work and married. How is this system do unfair that it doesn't take marital status, income status nor adjustment of garnished wages as the child ages. How does an uneducated consumer not producer to society rip all the benefits ? I worked my way through graduate school, I wasn't handed a silver spoon. We enable the unmotivated and underachievers and we, who have struggled in life have to pay for their lack of contribution. This has to change, it is such an enjustice.
My son pays 1400.00 a month on child support and she never let's him see his kids. Child support is based on regular wages and overtime? He is not left with enough money support himself and was told to live with family. There is something wrong with our system. Hid kids wanted to live with him so she made up a whole bunch of lies and filled a protective order on him, all lies.. so he can't even ca or have any contact with them not even his oldest that is 18 yes old and is no longer in school. But she can receive TANF, Food stamps,Housing and child support for over 18 years??? I have reported her on fraud because they were married for years and she never had reported it or even that she made her 18 year work and pay all the bills. Laws need to Change, train people and make them get a job.....
This child support law needs to change! Most of these woman receiving support also are supported by the government such as food stamps,housing And Medicaid. I've known many woman who put their baby daddies on child support on purpose just so they don't have to work. Most of the time they spend the money on themselves while their kids look like they been living in the streets. These woman aren't even raising their kids, it's either the grandma or relative who steps in to help. Chill support law needs to change. Their are hard working dad's our there who want their kids and the other parent makes it hard for them, why because they want money. I knew this one ratchet lady who thought she was going to receive assistance all her life cause of child support and food stamps, little did she know once the boy turned 18,that was it. And to top that off, she did a terrible job as a parent, the boy had been out of jail time to time, has a child of his own that he doesn't see, all because the mother thought the dad shouldn't be in his life. Maybe he should have been raised by his dad, who remarried with other children and does a great job of parenting his kids. I'm tired of the woman, because most of them are, taking advantage of this retarded child support law. It needs to change as well as all those men who have to pay for kids that aren't theres. Why are they any blame for that woman who couldn't keep her legs closed. She should be at fault for not knowing who her baby daddy is!
We live in a country where there are no father rights. Legal system is bs.
I have a husband who has two kids and his ex girlfriend is always threatening to get child support and taking all of his check when he gives her $480 a month and she complains she doesn't have anything because she doesn't work women who have more kids work part time and earn there own money why do the fathers have to suffer when they start another family and have his kids included
Ridiculous when father has to pay $1000 (for two kids over the age of 5) as the mother sits at home with no job to raise another baby from a a different father. Why is she not responsible for SOME income to raise these kids too?
It is outrageous that women can collect child support and remain voluntarily unemployed, especially once a child reaches school age. My mother raised 2 children without help and only collecting 200 a month in child support. She always held a job and ensured we were taken care of.
I've been dealing with Child Support for all of my daughter's life (10 years). Her mother works when she wants to, which isn't very often. Most of the time she's on social networks posting pictures and statuses of going to parties, drinking, and smoking weed. When I lived in Indiana, work was sporadic at best, I moved back home to Massachusetts where work is better, but I didnít realize how bad child support was here. Child support has already suspended my license without me knowing, when I found out (after being pulled over by a mass state trooper on the way home from dropping my daughter off to her mother in Indiana and having my car almost towed), they claimed they didn't suspend it (knowing itís easily seen on my driving record). Since the first day, I have been met with double talking, lies, and general abuse of power from my Mass caseworker and her overweight ignorant supervisor as if Iím some type of deadbeat that is avoiding my children. I take my daughter every summer and see my son every day, I make my payments + arrears on time and they still garnished my paycheck, for way more than is court ordered. Multiple times I have asked to speak to someone higher up, and each time Iím ignored and the abuse continues. Indiana child support is bad, but Mass is decidedly worse. Where does it say that every Father is to be treated like dirt by the system? Do they not realize that if the father goes broke, the children are the ones that lose? Something has to be done about this!
My boyfriends ex-wife married a doctor and works for him.. Her "income" is minimum wage but combined they make over a millions a year. My boyfriend is paying $450 a month in child support and is disabled and makes $600 a month. YES correct he only gets $150 a month after support is paid. How is this fair? The kids wont come see their dad because he cant afford to do anything with them and MOM has passes to every theme park in the state. She has a boat etc.. So its been 8 months since he has seen his kids because they are busy doing the fun stuff that we cant afford. Nice system huh??
I live in Ohio, (Erie County) I was just indicted on TWO counts of non support of dependents for ONE child (son) which just to add I'm unable to see. I'm not making excuses saying i shouldn't have to pay child support, but i have custody of my oldest daughter that i have to support because she lives with me, My son's mom gets a $700 SSI check, Food stamps and lives in low income housing. I see my son has a roof over his head and food on the table, so instinctively i'm going to make sure my daughter has a roof and food over her head (which i'm 100% responsible for). If i pay my ordered child support then my daughter and i would starve. This system is ran by some NUT JOB that can't add 2+2. Again i'm not men shouldn't have to pay support but they need to look into every case more. Or better yet give a father equal rights at birth! I can support ONE home not TWO while she's driving brand new cars and i'm spiting and sputtering around the city in hoopty, eating freaking CORN FLAKES for breakfast lunch and dinner. I've never seen people with such a cold heart. All's your doing in enabling the women WHO ARE perfectly capable of working not too. Thank You to the system, now i can tell my daughter well daddy's going to jail possibly prison so i'm going to lose my job either way, lets hope your grandma lets us live with her even though she can barley support herself. To the lawyers who see this post, you proudly say your helping people get rights to their children, everyone of you could fight this system buy NOPE that would be taking money out of your pockets! You should be ashamed! Have a heart, Help Us people out!!!! $1,200 for you to go into a courtroom and file some paperwork for my visitation rights, pshh HELPING??? No your ROBBING!
i live in kansas city mo,we need to get things moving in mo.Im inn..
It doesn't take a genius to figure out that the child support system is severely flawed. It needs to change now.
Long story short.I work 7 days a week 10 hours a day supporting my wife son & step son.my wife sleeps with my bestfriend & Im the one thrown in the street torn from my boys & I have to pay 1000 a month.laws need to be changed.women use men for income for free ride.I could go on but for me a hard working father getting screwed because of the system women can munmanipulate.not rite.im fustrated the way the court system is tord me.ok for them to have many men.crazy world.times have changed.I always battling for my son.ty
Long story short.I work 7 days a week 10 hours a day supporting my wife son & step son.my wife sleeps with my bestfriend & Im the one thrown in the street torn from my boys & I have to pay 1000 a month.laws need to be changed.women use men for income for free ride.I could go on but for me a hard working father getting screwed because of the system women can munmanipulate.not rite.im fustrated the way the court system is tord me.ok for them to have many men.crazy world.times have changed.I always battling for my son.ty
Long story short.I work 7 days a week 10 hours a day supporting my wife son & step son.my wife sleeps with my bestfriend & Im the one thrown in the street torn from my boys & I have to pay 1000 a month.laws need to be changed.women use men for income for free ride.I could go on but for me a hard working father getting screwed because of the system women can munmanipulate.not rite.im fustrated the way the court system is tord me.ok for them to have many men.crazy world.times have changed.I always battling for my son.ty
Parents need to support thier children....but the child support calcs are INSANE...especially if you make more than $80k. The judge decides how to allocate the extra income. ..wtf. After all, non custodial parents STILL have to PROVIDE for their children on TOP of child support. Food, clothes, gifts, vacations, A HOME, CAR.... While the ex fills their bank account. Mine doesn't spend a dime more than she has to and I get nagged for stuff like phones, sneakers, etc.. And made to look like the bad parent. I even take my kids during th week cos their mom wants them to stay with neibor while on a trip. The non custodial parents make a Significant CONTRIBUTION to the WELFARE of the children that the courts so easily overlook. I'm going to have an audit of how my child support funds are being spent or not on the next modification. The CS laws need serious reform being so one sided.
I am married to my husband who has to pay child support for one child of 1200 a month plus making him get a one lump sum of money of 5000 dollars in 3 months if he dont have that money he goes to jail which i think is crazy and he supports me and my 2 children which i have not got one penny of child support for and i have done just fine with out the child support and they have everything they need these lazy women out there just dont want to work and live free and when they get child support it dont even go to the child. It should be called ex wife support or goverment support and thats why the jails are so full because they send all the fathets to jail for non payment of the child support they need to stop doing that and save that open spaces for the real criminals. They also need to change that if any cash money is given to the child its considered as a gift i think any money given should be considered as support or any clothes bought etc.
Myself and my fiance raise my 3 yr old daughter. And don't want support from her dad.. he is the revolving door father.. was in prison til July and started making promises.. didn't keep them we moved to another state mobile to mobile calling is free. He has Calexico one time.in six months.. a and he had pics of hrs on his facebook they have all been deleted. . Now on the other spectrum I have a very special needs autistic and medically needy child in which I gave my parents.permanent guardianship. I pay 280 per month in child support and I make 2.18hr serving at Waffle house 3rd shift. .he has no father he was a con man and lied about is name had fake id's and his mom and brother were in on it... I bribed him with 50bucks to come hold little Zachary and he did said he looked just like him. . Gave him back and th he last I.saw of him.
Why don't we just call it "Mother Support" and advertise: Don't like to work? Why not have a baby and secure a paycheck for the next 18 years or more. Mother's should not consider having children as earning a paycheck or a way to earn money, why are they not taxed on this income, they don't have to do anything but collect money. I have seen & lived this injustice and abuse for the past 17 years. I am a mother and the wife of a father who pays an outrageous amount of child support a month, because the California Court refuses to listen and acknowledge that he is a married man with three other children. He currently pays $1500 a month for one child, which is more like mother support, because we know by fact that the money is not spent on the child. He provides complete health benefits for his child. He is a non-custodial parent, not by his choice. The mother has refused him to have a relationship with his child, he has been robbed of being close to his child, his money, peace of mind & pride. California Court will not listen to him even though the mother and child live in Texas, we live in Nevada. This case should have transferred to Texas or Nevada years ago. California refuses to listen. The child has mental issues because the mother left the house 3 months ago with her new boyfriend. She has now left her husband, their two babies and my husband\'s daughter on their own. The husband says he knows that she can do that because she has the child support money security. No one knows how this is going to end, I do know that as long as these women continue to get a free ride things will not change for the better of the children, the fathers and the families being affected.
Enforcement remedies are unfair and biased. My husband is the custodial parent. His ex wife quit working 5 months after we got married due to pregnancy. She petitioned the court to modify her payments, saying she could pay $50 a month, but refused to pay anything until the court hearing, which was held 7 months later. At the hearing she testified that it just wasn't worth it for her to work because she would have to pay for daycare for her new child. Never mind that we were paying daycare for her oldest two. The court found she was shirking her responsibilities and imputed her income to what she was capable of making. Still not a dime. So we filed a case with the Child Support Enforcement unit. They were able to start garnishing her wages for the 2 short months she worked around Christmas, because we were able to tell them where she was working, not because she informed them. Then no payments again. She finally started working again, part time, just over a year ago. Again, thanks to our information, they are able garnish her wages. While we get 55% of her income, she continues to work less than she is capable of. We've gotten tax refund offsets of very minimal amounts because of injured spouse claims of her husband's. The kicker for me is that it's ok for me to use my income to support the children she brought into this world, with none of the rights, yet she claims all of the rights AND neither she or her husband are willing to support them. We do the best for the children that we can, without counting on her support, but it's tough, especially when we have to repay the State because they don't wait to get adjustments on the tax refund before distributing the money to us.
Mother of two, and some of the laws are unjust. It does not require a fortune to care for two children. I've worked two jobs, for 7 years to support my children without support, I never sat around and collected money from a man, and i also never had a father willing want to help raise and support his kids. I see the men who do their best and I respect their effort, and its these men who get the harsh laws imposed on them. Its not fair, the decision to have a child, the act, is made by two, but only parent suffers while the other benefits. Whether man or woman, this should not be either way. Something should be done, all situations should not be handled in the same manner.
Child custody should be shared unless there's violence or drugs my ex was abusive and they gave my son to her because I worked at 6 and had a good job not because it what was best for him she smokes so much my son has coughing attacks when he comes to my house coughing out the tar and nicotine he breathes in at that house it
This needs to made right.
As the wife of a man who is ordered to pay more than $1400 PER month for ONE CHILD and as a SINGLE mother of a child until I met my said husband and I in fact never received a penny in support from the biological father, I can speak from experience that THE LAWS FOR CHILD SUPPORT TOWARDS NON CUSTODIAL PARENTS ARE DISCRIMINATORY, BIASED, UNFAIR AND DEFUNCT. In my case - I got screwed by the SYSTEM BOTH WAYS!!!! We live check to check while stepson's mother and stepfather take fancy vacations and drive luxury vehicles on our dime. We work very hard for what we have and make good money ON PAPER but in the bank - not so much when you have to pay out support #1 then your mortgage - by the way our mortgage is not much off from our child support payment and in TAXachusetts child support goes until 22 for non- emancipated children. That's if we don't go bankrupt first.. but they will still want their money to fund their fancy cars. Oh and by the way - my husband supports my son as his own as well and that means nothing to the state and it's ridiculous guidelines.
As the wife of a man who is ordered to pay more than $1400 PER month for ONE CHILD and as a SINGLE mother of a child until I met my said husband and I in fact never received a penny in support from the biological father, I can speak from experience that THE LAWS FOR CHILD SUPPORT TOWARDS NON CUSTODIAL PARENTS ARE DISCRIMINATORY, BIASED, UNFAIR AND DEFUNCT. In my case - I got screwed by the SYSTEM BOTH WAYS!!!! We live check to check while stepson's mother and stepfather take fancy vacations and drive luxury vehicles on our dime. We work very hard for what we have and make good money ON PAPER but in the bank - not so much when you have to pay out support #1 then your mortgage - by the way our mortgage is not much off from our child support payment and in TAXachusetts child support goes until 22 for non- emancipated children. That's if we don't go bankrupt first.. but they will still want their money to fund their fancy cars. Oh and by the way - my husband supports my son as his own as well and that means nothing to the state and it's ridiculous guidelines.
As a divorced single mom, I am so tired of hearing woman cry about having to do it all. I do. Stop looking for excuses.
The federal government should be sued for violating the 8th amendment. I've paid three times a father does that lives with his children. I work harder so that my ex lives better to alienate my children from me to get more child support. A disgusting tactic used to gain full custody and get the highest child support payments!
California is two years behind in its federally mandated guideine review process.

I live in anger everyday, my children have been alienated from me, and I can't provide for my new family.

Your constituents need you.

Our founding fathers, you know the Framers of our Constitution. How would they feel about your policy?

They would call you tyrants.

I PAY 67 PERCENT OF MY MONEY TO TAXES AND CHILD SUPPORT. I WENT TO COLLEGE SO I COULD MAKE A LIFE. I CANT HELP PAY FOR MY WIFE'S HEALTHCARE NEEDS. WE WANT TO START OUR OWN FAMILY, BUT ARE AFRAID. WE ARE AFRAID OF NOT BEING ABLE TO PROVIDE! ALL I WANTED WAS A FAMILY FROM THE BEGGINING. I WAS MIXED UP WITH TWO MALICIOUS MOTHER SYNDROME TYPES. THEY ARE BLEEDING ME FINANCIALLY AND MENTALLY. I GO TO COUNSELING EVERY WEEK IN EFFORT TO SHAKE THE FEELINGS OF HOPELESSNESS AND ANGER I HAVE. ITS NOT WORKING. I NEED REAL JUSTICE!!! FAIRNESS!!!

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