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The problem is custodial parents (CP) can court-order and require non-custodial parents (NCP) to pay child support, while simultaneously denying equal parenting rights. This usually occurs when the couple has never been married, not living together, and the mother has sole custody, and unfortunately I have seen one too many cases of this nature. Once the CP requests child support, the NCP should automatically be granted equal parenting rights to the child they are supporting. The parents legally required to support the child should be the same parents legally allowed to raise the child. There are far too many cases of NCP parents paying support while being blocked from the children by the CP denying visitation or engaging in parental alienation. Laws must be established to restrict or absolve NCP parents from child support if the CP refuses a relationship without documented reason (NCP presents a threat to the child or does not want a relationship). I bet a lot of NCP would happily pay their child support if they were also given their natural assumed rights in the process. Laws must be established holding CP more responsible and obligated to the very people they are requesting support from.
If the law makers are in the best interest in the child. As for the child department of services cashes in fee, some of those fees should go to a

;bank account for the child to state if any abuse is being made by a selfless parent.
;a same day office (same building) drug test
:randomized interviews with children in there homes and schools without notice
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Women who have babies for money are scum!

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Not all women are corrupt: my ex deliberates doesn't work so he only has to pay $ 250.00 a month and his new wife lets him sit on his*****and do nothing, he beats her, he cheats on her, he is a Horrible person and she allows it. Sad thing is with all his extra time he could actually come see his child in which he doesn't. Not all women a gold diggers, just like all men are bad guys..
System is corrupt and made to benefit women, men get screwed over at every turn in this system.
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Friends, I just joined CAPRA as one of the lead plaintiffs in an upcoming landmark federal class action lawsuit against all 50 States and the Federal Government, because I qualify as: (1) a biological parent whose child custody was unconstitutionally removed without due process; and, (2) I have been directly impacted by that during the last four years, i.e., within the statute of limitations. This class action is on behalf of *both* types of "family court" -- for wrongful victims of divorce-and-similar-with-kids *and* for wrongful victims of child protection services -- and includes suing on behalf of ANY parent affected by either "family court" type.

It's totally free to join, and the federal court relief being demanded includes the full restoral of my child custody rights under law, plus a nice share of the large amount in civil damages expected. Check it out!

It just requires entering someone's referral Code to join, so PLEASE use mine - 42085JL619 - in the CAPRA registration form, located on the bottom of the homepage at http://parentalrightsclassaction.com

Plus, check out their power-packed Legal Tips page for all parents fighting family court, too -- Wow!!

Thanks!!
I was divorced in 1992 in Ohio. In 1993 my ex moved to Arizona with her new husband and my 5 year old son. In 1994 I moved to Arizona so I could be involved in my sons life and see him. The corrupt Cuyahoga CSEA told us they could no longer enforce the child support order since we both now lived in AZ. I began paying my ex directly. In 2000 the corrupt Cuyahoga CSEA sent me a letter saying I owed back support. My ex sent a certified, notarized letter, (at my request), to the corrupt Cuyahoga CSEA explaining that I was paying her directly since they said they couldn't be involved, I was paid up to date, and this letter was written confirmation, (as per our divorce agreement), that she no longer needed the corrupt Cuyahoga CSEAs services. In 2005, (a few months before my son turned 18), the corrupt Cuyahoga CSEA began all the "child support" I had already paid. Whepaidn I asked about the notarized letter my ex sent stating I was paying her directly, the corrupt Cuyahoga CSEA told me that "since no Judge ever signed off on it they considered the letter to be invalid." (Since when does a Judge have to sign off on a notarized letter for it to be valid?). The corrupt Cuyahoga CSEA has since ignored or blocked every attempt I've made to resolve this. They continue to steal $400/mo and send it to my ex. She and her Phoenix PD husband continue to spend it and lie to Ohio to keep it coming. It's almost paid off now. When all is said and done I will have paid over $25,000 more than the Judge ordered me to pay in 1992. The corrupt Cuyahoga CSEA and the Ohio Attorney General's Office have both openly acknowledged that they know I paid the money. They just suddenly decided in 2005 that all that money I paid was "a gift." They are ok saying I blew off paying $25,000 in "child support" but instead paid my ex and her lying thief Phoenix PD husband a $25,000 "gift" all those years. That apparently makes sense in Ohio, the 5th most corrupt state in the union.
I have yet to get in front of a Massachussetts judge that has common sense, empathy, and is a realist . The worcester county court system is a fraud/corrupted system it has been 2yrs dealing with the same bs. My daughter and I have been going through hell I have requested soo many times to remove my daughter away from this state in that I have no family in, absolutely no family support at all, and continue to support my child be both her mother and father like Ive been used to doing since day 1 . My childs father abandoned us when she was a year old , at the time my family was living in MA but considering the cost of living there was no way i could of kept up with the bills and go to school i lost my home and had to resort to living with my parents who eventually decided to move away to a different state so i left with them , i set up my whole new life in our nee home state ,the baby and i had a home , i had a great job , she had her day care we were doing amazing I let the father know where we were just in case he wanted to reach out to the baby and i kept my same phone number as well. He never called or worried about her . Couple months later he decides to request for me to come back to MA in the courts and it was granted even with me having all my proof and paperwork showing my CHILDS BEST INTEREST is with me in NC the judge didnt care to look at my paperwork or to hear my story i had to drop our life and come back to ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, the "father" knowing i had nothing in MA didnt care . Ive spent countless nights in a shelter with my child, MY child spent holidays in a shelter, n a birthday , he has failed to pay his child support order multiple times and has a huge amount owed to his daughter, misses visitation days to go on vacation meanwhile iam stuck with no job due to no day care, the child care waiting list is a year long, no money due to everything going to lawyers that have only taken my money and done absolutely nothing and struggling to get through this while he is kicked back with his feet up in his 3 decker family home driving around in his brand new car.

!!!THE LAND OF THE FREE HUH ..BEING FORCED TO LIVE OF THE GOVT N UNDER THESE CONDITIONS IAM SORRY BUT I WANT TO WORK TO GIVE MY DAUGHTER THE LIFE SHE DESERVES!!!
My husband's ex gets half his paycheck ($1810/mo) for 2 children, the only reason she's only getting half is because the law says that's all they CAN take, really???!!! She is constantly badgering him to also pay 65% (his share she says) of every single thing, clothing, school expenses, etc. What exactly is support for again? She quit her job the day she served him with papers to modify the support. Just happens he had a time period where he worked a lot of overtime the prior year (not available to him now) and that's how they calculated the support. Apparently, working extra hours to try and have extra money to run your current household is detrimental to your financial situation when you have an ex like this. She had a very good job, paralegal, she is now providing zero financial support for their children. It's all up to my husband and her husband of less than 1 year to fully support her and the 2 boys. If this wasn't bad enough, we're supposed to get 1 child to claim on our taxes, but the IRS has a new rule that the custodial parent has to voluntarily sign form 8332 to allow this exemption each year. She won't sign it and says it's because he owes her money for dentist bills, he doesn't, but the DCS judge ruled in her favor on that because she was still making payments on her share of an old orthodontist debt and they are counting this debt as CURRENT unpaid support obligations, had all the proof in black and white showing it wasn't, thought it was open and shut and was stunned to see the ruling go her way, so now she has used the very biased system to get him to pay 65% of her share of a 3 year old debt that he had already paid. So basically, our exemption is gone, she will never agree to sign the form and we'll have to pay money to file contempt charges to have a judge make her sign it so we can get the exemption each year. What kind of system puts that decision in 1 single parent's control? Bottom line, we can't pay our mortgage and we're not sure how things will go from here. We still have 5 years of this and we shake our heads at the Washington State Support System daily!!
I am a mother who has child support orders and I don't receive a dime. I would have never had my children if I couldn't take care of them on my own. How can you combine incomes of two people who don't live together as if what one eats makes the other poop. Child support is totally unfair and the consequences of not paying are the least rehabilitative. Wake Up Congress. It is 2016.
I been on child support for 2years and some how some way I am 17 thousand in the whole with 3 thousand dollars pending, I provided proof to child support showing the all my pay stubs and they still saying they are suspending my license, my son mom constantly ask for more money for my son whose 5, she ask for money to buy him school clothes, shoes, and food. My pay is automatically taken out through child support so I'm left with nothing I feel as though I'm working for free, I pay 718.96 a month 50 hrs a week .... every time I go to child support to talk to them I receive more letters saying that I need to pay more money... I feel like I'm backed up against the wall with the government screwing me.... and I don't get to see my son...
I am a 20 year old who visits and gives gifts to to my daughter. The mother who doesn't even try to let me visit my own child complains about that she is so busy and that is the reason why I can't go see my daughter more than I want. It is ridiculous how when I went to court that they did not take any consideration of how I pay for rent , I am a full time student and on top of all this I give money to the mother. With bank statements in proof that I do. But the mother does not work or chooses to not work. So I have to be pushed hard around. I struggle to pay rent. And help my little brothers to go to school for my mother who makes less than I the poverty wage of America. On top of all of this it's an embarrassment. How the court acted when I brought documentation to tell me in my face that the paperwork provided does not matter all that matters. Is how much I make before taxes? That's cruel. How do they expect me to survive for paying rent and my bills? I love my daughter and if it wasn't for her mother she would be living like a queen and enjoying life... I buy her the things she needs and wants and take her out to eat. I love my little queen such a shame to see a corrupt government.
I am a 20 year old who visits and gives gifts to to my daughter. The mother who doesn't even try to let me visit my own child complains about that she is so busy and that is the reason why I can't go see my daughter more than I want. It is ridiculous how when I went to court that they did not take any consideration of how I pay for rent , I am a full time student and on top of all this I give money to the mother. With bank statements in proof that I do. But the mother does not work or chooses to not work. So I have to be pushed hard around. I struggle to pay rent. And help my little brothers to go to school for my mother who makes less than I the poverty wage of America. On top of all of this it's an embarrassment. How the court acted when I brought documentation to tell me in my face that the paperwork provided does not matter all that matters. Is how much I make before taxes? That's cruel. How do they expect me to survive for paying rent and my bills? I love my daughter and if it wasn't for her mother she would be living like a queen and enjoying life... I buy her the things she needs and wants and take her out to eat. I love my little queen such a shame to see a corrupt government.
I have been paying child support for over 13 years, working full-time and getting regular pay increases. Every 3 years, my children's mother has the ability to review the child support order and get an increase because my salary has increased. She does not work but always claims she pays for things that I then have to pay half of. If she doesn't work where does she get her money, from my child support. So is getting even more money from me. This system needs to be adjusted. I should not have to work 2 jobs to be able to support myself while she does not work at all.
I am a mother of 2 children whose father does not see them regularly and as far as I know does not have a job. I know by taking him to court will only make things worst for his life , so I choose not to. My kids may not have everything they want but they have what they have what they need. Hopefully one day he will realize what he has done.
I have a fiance who has 3 kids and he sees them all the time visits with them, buys them things they need, goes to work and STILL the mother of his kids took him to court and charged him $1000 to pay her child support! This is outrageous! Now after going to court back and forth my fiance now has 50/50 and still has to pay $50 to her for child support BC he makes a lil more than she does. This is still outrageous! There should be no child support BC they both work full time and see the kids 50/50. This system makes my blood boil. I'm done
The court system is terribly one sided with the mother. I recently got my order for child support and they dont care about your bills. Now i have to worry about how ill pay my bills. And did i mention the mother is unemployed?
I lived homeless for 6 years and still have not caught up because of child support. This child support has left me poor and in debt. Their is no hope for fathers like me who have never had a fair chance.
JOIN FREE: Federal Class Action for U.S. Child Custody Victims -

Friends, I just joined CAPRA as one of the lead plaintiffs in an upcoming landmark federal class action lawsuit against all 50 States and the Federal Government, because I qualify as: (1) a biological parent whose child custody was unconstitutionally removed without due process; and, (2) I have been directly impacted by that during the last four years, i.e., within the statute of limitations. This class action is on behalf of *both* types of "family court" -- for wrongful victims of divorce-and-similar-with-kids *and* for wrongful victims of child protection services -- and includes suing on behalf of ANY parent affected by either "family court" type.

It's totally free to join, and the federal court relief being demanded includes the full restoral of my child custody rights under law, plus a nice share of the large amount in civil damages expected. Check it out!

It just requires entering someone's referral Code to join, so PLEASE use mine - 42085JL619 - in the CAPRA registration form, located on the bottom of the homepage at http://parentalrightsclassaction.com

Plus, check out their power-packed Legal Tips page for all parents fighting family court, too -- Wow!!

Thanks!!
Someone from Baltimore, MD writes:
Of the dozens of complaints, there is one glaring omission: birth control. Never has there been more kinds of contraception available as there is today. I see men complaining here, offering anecdotal remarks about their child's mother "doing nothing" all day and collecting checks, while they (the fathets) work hard and have to give X amount of money in child support. Unless you are with/observe the mother 24/7, though, how do you know she is doing nothing? I wonder, who then is doing (what feels like never-ending) the laundry? Buying groceries, taking the child to doctors appointments? Helping with any homework? Caring for the child when he/she is sick? Getting little sleep when the child starts cutting teeth? Taking them to/from the bus stop or to school 5 days a week? Is the father around at ALL helping to do all the aforementioned for the child(ren) THEY helped create?

As for complaints about being poor after they pay child support--assuming they actually DO pay, and pay EVERY month, no sympathy here. YOU chose not to use a condom, far cheaper than 18 years of child support payments, don't you think? Yes, the mother is not blameless by any means. But her refusal, for instance, to use some form of birth control doesn't mean you act just as irresponsibly. Condoms cost less than a 6- or 12-pack of beer.

Our courts are still unforgivably slow in going after deadbeat fathers who won't or don't pony up support until legally forced to. And l don't think it should matter if the mother marries another man, one who makes really good mother. Or even if the mother is unmarried but actually does work and earns good money. The father should still have to pay child support because the father is JUST AS RESPONSIBLE for supporting the life it helped create. Condoms are ridiculously inexpensive compared with 18 years of child support payments. Maybe you should have thought of that before having unprotected sex. You play, you pay. Period. You have two choices: never have unprotected sex with any female, no matter if she is or says she's on birth control. Suit up (if only to protect against STD, AIDS/HIV). Or abstain. Those are your two choices. If you choose to do neither, that is YOUR fault. Not the mother's, not society's. So put your big boy pants on, stop whining it isn't fair, and pay YOUR half for the human being that YOU helped create.

The person who wrote this has no idea what he or she is even really talking about, and also you have no understanding of what is actually going on. YOU ARE VERY IGNORANT to the actual facts!!!
If you are sick and ****ing tired of being a slave to this rat-trap system of child support, then please visit http://childsupportreformnow.com and get involved.

The bottom line is this; the amount of money that people are being FORCED to pay is outrageous and unfair. The cost to raise a child is pretty standard, and no judge, or law should dictate what a person MUST pay. Children need healthy, stable and sane parents, not destitute and mentally broken slaves. What kind of example is that?

Visit the website now and get involved. This is an uprising. We're not going to take this******anymore.

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I am a loving and dedicated Father of two beautiful, healthy, intelligent, and sensitive five year old girls whose mother I am no longer with. I am also the father of their older sister, who is also healthy and happy. She is nine.
I pay child support to my first daughter's Mom, even though she earns more money than I do. She is a highly effective, intelligent, well organized woman, and although our marriage didn't work, I have a great deal of respect for her as our daughter's Parent.
The Mother of my twins by contrast is one of the most resistant and petty people I have ever known. She refuses to find work, and lives off a series of benefactors she has lined up.
I prayed for the lives of each of my children before they were conceived, and no man is more blessed than me to be a father. My children's Mom's prayed right along with me.
I am utterly confused as to why I am being required to pay child support that I cannot afford to the mom of my twins. They are in my home half the time, and I am willing to have them here more often. I do want them to have a relationship with their mother.
In the posts I read of people's opinions about child support, it seems that whatever people's perspective is, the shared sentiment is that the support of the children is a shared responsibility. Why am I supporting a mother who refuses to support herself and our children?
The financial burden to me is excruciating.
This laws are nothing more blackmail . If you don't have large amount of expendable monies you are fever the host of a parasite . Thank you for enslaving me to system of unconstitional taxes. Women have the freedom to do whatever they want and men get pay for everthing.when my children need help I'm there for them the mother just says it's your father's responsiblity. I say no one gets anything. Step up and stop using the child as a means to your own selfish desires. All any party in this process wants is money. Attorney court des ex spouse federal state County none of them give damn about the child. I say get out of everyone's personal life. if a child is left on firehouse no questions are ask. The system is full of coruption so get out of family life.
Another joke post from a lady from Baltimore MD. With equal rights should come equal responsibility. A lady has several options too: abortion, adoption and leaving kid at a fire rescue place. And there are no legal penalties for popping out kids like a baby mill. If a lady can decide not to want a kid. THE MAN SHOULD ALSO HAVE AN OPT OUT (no cash payout) JUST LIKE A LADY. We know its all about the money whether you ladies admit it or not. Not about the kids, ITS MONEY for you and this sexist court system.

If kids were not bags of money to ladies, you would see less of them

To stop ladies from birthing kids for cash

1. 50/50 custody and no money changing hands and alternate custody every 30 days.

2. to prevent baby mill ladies from attempting to use kids for cash, a man should have an option not to pay/raise if the lady wants to keep the kid. only ladies have an opt out with no cash penalty in 2016

That post from Baltimore MD was silly. Someone who wants to have their cake and eat it too. Someone who only wants a free ride and minimal financial responsibility . If you dont need a man like so many lady say, then you should not need/want his finances

Baltimore MD you are a true contradiction
I'm 64Yrs old. My youngest child is 31Yrs old. I have 11 Grandkids and two Great Grand kids. My kids did NOT go to college. WHY in the hell is child support STILL taking OVER half of my income??!! All the mother did was sit on her*****and DRINK ALL DAY!! Now that my kids are fully grown they KNOW what she has done because she was DRUNK almost every day when they got home from school. They will not even SPEAK to her. And they CAN'T believe they ever gave her child support because they used to see ME give her money all the time!! She neglected AND abused my kids.....they made ME pay her to do that!! I'm in the process of reporting her to the Mo. Attorney Generals Office. They take your money to the point that you CAN'T afford an attorney to defend yourself and let the woman do whatever she wants!!! THIS IS THE BIGGEST SCAM IN THE HISTORY OF THE WORLD!!! BEYOND RIDICULOUS
I have to daughters that I love very much, I get to spend my time with them, but cant do any family type fun, since Im paying 240wk to one and 150wk to the other mom which leaves me depressed as a parent not having anything to offer them but my time, not even a home I live with my parents on the couch, i bearly have gas to go anywhere while the moms are out shopping for new cars and purses. If i didnt have my parents around I would have no place to live, and how will i see my daughters then, I work very hard at my job , which makes it difficult to find another job been so tired and what life will i have with my kids if im always tired or working? Really need help! Please help change this.
65% is taking out of my paycheck. Could not afford to pay rent lived in my car, for over a year. Now living in a program for homeless veteran. Eat food that others have thorn away.
She knew I didn't want a child
I told her I'm only 20 and I can't make that type of commitment as young as I am, I can't bring a child into the world and not be established. I told her I didn't want to be with her I just can't, we have different goals.She had nothing better to do, she knew I was going into the Air Force. Later before I could advance to tech school I was kicked out. She had a baby out of pure spite . It wasn't my choice it was hers. Now this girl is on assistance playing games with my hard earned money. I work my*****off , I strive to grow and not be a low life like a vast majority of people my age. How is it right to let these women sit an collect a check, when only a small portion is going to the child. What ever happened to dreams, what ever happened to goals. I lost my future due to an error in my med record from when I was 8, an it wasn't even my fault or my doing. I turned around and worked as much as I could to build myself back up just to have a chance in this lifetime, to have a decent life. An now I'm just trying to survive, the child support support payments are so high prison is almost becoming worth it.
JOIN FREE: Federal Class Action for U.S. Child Custody Victims -

Friends, I just joined CAPRA as one of the lead plaintiffs in an upcoming landmark federal class action lawsuit against all 50 States and the Federal Government, because I qualify as: (1) a biological parent whose child custody was unconstitutionally removed without due process; and, (2) I have been directly impacted by that during the last four years, i.e., within the statute of limitations. This class action is on behalf of *both* types of "family court" -- for wrongful victims of divorce-and-similar-with-kids *and* for wrongful victims of child protection services -- and includes suing on behalf of ANY parent affected by either "family court" type.

It's totally free to join, and the federal court relief being demanded includes the full restoral of my child custody rights under law, plus a nice share of the large amount in civil damages expected. Check it out!

It just requires entering someone's referral Code to join, so PLEASE use mine - 42085JL619 - in the CAPRA registration form, located on the bottom of the homepage at http://parentalrightsclassaction.com

Plus, check out their power-packed Legal Tips page for all parents fighting family court, too -- Wow!!

Thanks!!
The laws are unfair to men. The courts do not hold the mothers accountable for their share in supporting the child. Yet the fathers are required by law to keep up their payments - no matter what - while the mothers of the children can sit back, take jobs for less money during their divorce to get more child support money and not be accountable for their support of the child thru emancipation. The courts do not verify that the custodial parent is also supporting the children. The laws need to be changed and each parent should be required to submit to the courts that they are BOTH supporting the child to the best of their ability. The child support payments should not be to pay for the custodial parent's full rent and vacations. The person receiving the child support should have to document what they are spending the child support money on.
The laws are unfair to men. The judges do not hold the mothers accountable for their share in supporting the child. Yet the fathers are required by law to keep up their payments - no matter what, while the mothers of the children can sit back, take jobs for less money during their divorce to get more child support money and not be accountable for their support of the child. The courts do not verify that the custodial parent also supporting the children. The laws need to be changed and each parent should be required to submit to the courts that they are BOTH supporting the child to the best of their ability. The child support payments should not be to pay for the custodial parent's rent and personal items. The person receiving the child support should have to document what they are spending the money on.
My son's mother and I have Split shared custody with NO DESIGNATED GUARDIAN. We share nights equally (7 each in a 2 week period). She works a good paying state job and voluntarily went down to part time, also taking an hourly pay cut, about 6 months ago. This was done on purpose to lower her income. Now, I'm looking at having to hand her over $700.00 per month. My son and I will lose our home, my car, and after all is said and done, I will be left with less than $300 a month to pay for gas, food for us, and clothes for us. HOW IS THIS FAIR?!?
Child support is extremely sexually biased. I get it, there's dad's out there that don't take care of there kids, but don't punish everyone because of a stereotype. The mother should be required to work full time plain and simple, or give up custody and the support payments. The equation for figuring support is flawed, the mother shouldn't be E able to continue the lifestyle she was accustomed to just because the father makes more money. The mother is owed nothing, the child should be the only consideration. If the child didn't live there, she would still have rent, electric bills, phone bills, car payments and insurance, cable bills, etc. So why should the father be required to support her lifestyle because she chooses not to work and milk the system. Who's the real dead beat parent? Psychology studies have shown that a father's role in a child's development is far more crucial than a mothers, do why do we automatically give custody to the mother and than demonize the father. It's about time the system gets an overhaul. It's outdated and biased.
If you are sick and ****ing tired of being a slave to this rat-trap system of child support, then please visit http://childsupportreformnow.com and get involved.

The bottom line is this; the amount of money that people are being FORCED to pay is outrageous and unfair. The cost to raise a child is pretty standard, and no judge, or law should dictate what a person MUST pay. Children need healthy, stable and sane parents, not destitute and mentally broken slaves. What kind of example is that?

Visit the website now and get involved. This is an uprising. We're not going to take this******anymore.

http://childsupportreformnow.com
I'm a disabled veteran and my ex wife makes just about 34-3500 hundred bucks a month. I used to make in the 2000's but the VA cut my pay now I make less than 1600 a month but I still have to pay the amount a month as I did before they cut my pay, not only that I can't even get legal aid to help what they told me is since I don't have custody of the children they can't help me. Our system is really ****ed up and needs to be fixed.
I can't believe child support is counting over time pay. That overtime is not garrunteed every week. Back in 2013 I put my son's father on child support. We decided later to work things out. They won't let me take him off child support. It's OK except they keep $50 every month even if my child is not on benefits. Now I pushed him to put himself on child support for his other child because the mother was alienating him from her. I told him don't worry. Both cases are in the state of Texas the worst that can happen is income tax being taken away. I was completely wrong. They heard her side of the story (when they were teens, now in their mid twenties) and anything he had to say they told him you don't have proof and he said yes I do and they disregard his say. He only pays $300 for my child in child support and now he's about to pay $849 in child support and back pack. How could this even be OK if he's not making enough. We will loose our home and mode of transportation. We have 2 other kids involved. How could he owe back pay if she refused money for years (which we have proof in conversations) she refused to let him see his daughter. I don't regret our decision but I feel my kids are being robbed and the courts got away with it. How could he be required five supervised visitation and then the courts will ask the mother and grandmother how it's going? They hate him, despise him and the judge (a woman) is gonna take sides. The court system is very unfair. He evn paid $50 to take the required online class "first child today" in those videos and all that reading (4-6hours) it's like the courts and mother do exactly what the videos say NOT TO DO. They didn't want to hear anything he had to say. Yet she's allowed to do what she wants.
I am a mother An have one child she does not live with me because of my work hours i see her every day I belive and know first hand that child support services is corrupt .i understand my rights as a parent that i need to pay if the other parent is recving aid i have no arguments there ...but dcss is so unorganized and dont even know what going on with there own offices its unbelievable ok so in 8, 2013 i recived papes states i need to pay 240 a month to other parent for suport because welfair let dcss he was reciving aid for our child . Ok i understood but i wasnt working so i couldn't pay but started to pay in 5, 2014 to him so he let his welfair know so they stop his cash since i was paying and thought thats it and time pass now 9,2015. Out of no wherr my checks get cut so now i cant pay him and he only recives 50 $from dcss thats from the money they took from me and he dont want to get back on wellfair but 50 is not gonna cut it then a letter in 10,2015 states i owe nothing everything up to stanging 11,2015 same letter owe nothing I try to buy a house and i have a 5000 i owe on my credit report so i cant buy a house ,i cant get an apartment because i have bad credit now i need a place to live by march i never recived noticed on what i owed nothing in the past 3 years untill 2months go that stated i owe nothing that should be illegal how are u gonna bill someone and not let them know im very organized person and i know i didnr recive anything then to fight and fix it is redulious and impossible for a person who works 9-5. For like the next 4 months straight calli g i kept track on who i spok to also finaly they said i only owed 1700. So now tax time they took that but im gonna fight it because its wrong not to notifi u but could have been avoided if they werr organized so in short the dcss could mke u homeless and cut ur pay take ur taxes make u go to jail for driver license. Or not paying wich u had no clue it need to be closed and shut down tjere is no need for child support
In amazement and Disgust at how the system does this to its own people. I am a father of 2 boys that I had with an ex. At 10 and 6 yrs old I am a firm believer that a father should always be in their child's life. Granted we were relatively young when we had them at the ages of 21. I was in college, worked 2 jobs ,a car note, rent, bills etc. long story short I was a great father to my boys. This system took them away. Let me explain. No relationship is without its issues but when a parent decides to leave a relationship abruptly to pursue one with a minor I had NO OPTIONS. Tried to keep lines of communication open to no avail as she was too wrapped up in her newfound relationship taking my boys in the process. Left with no alternative as her family equally could not communicate with her I decided to go to court to file for custody. And she knew this as well as I had gone a solid month before any paperwork was filed just for benefit of doubt. She had my sons staying with this other person starting the alienationing of my children from there father. The whole year of 2010 into 2011 in court for custody and let me tell you were there some chances given to my ex that would never have been given to me the father. She showed up all but once! 1 time to basically prevent me from attaining joint custody. Joint custody as I was being as realistic as possible with visit times being weds thru sat noon. She wanted me to kill my rights then had the nerve to have me just take my boys Sat to Mon! Wow! The next court dates she never came. When finally awarded my joint custody after about a full year of not seeing my sons, more drama ensued. When going to pick up my sons she sends them out with the new boyfriend and tries to fight me in front of my kids. This worked to her affect when she called police saying I started a fight when I'm trying to put kids in the car. Meanwhile the boyfriend mouths off. I drive off to only get pulled over 3 blocks away. Police then takes my boys back to the mother and I return home with out my boys. Her ploy worked as for the next year there had to be police escort every time it was my turn to pick them up. One day I come to the house to pick up the boys and now its emptied out nobody lives inside! With her claim of not having a phone (lie) and no type of knowledge of her whereabouts I go back to the court house and violate her. This happened about 5 times and all she ever got was a lil slap on the wrist by the judge as she would lie her way out more chances given and I still would not get to see my boys as she purposefully prevents them from seeing me. I still had no address nor phone number. The only thing she came to court for literally 6 months after we last stopped going for custody was you guessed it child support. After she was awarded child support she went off the grid again. I only know she still local because the only times I get to see my sons are when they are in school and nowhere else. I've tried and tried and t
Long heartless story short....I was robbed of being there to see my first and only son born and across the United states for that matter. I guess that's a good way to keep a father who doesn't have rights established yet and who you told no way in hell are you getting this child that they are going up for adoption. No lawyer or investigator could fix or change the feelings or the struggle I've been delt. I met my son when he was 3 months old ( after finding out through adoption plan forms from Florida I was having a boy) . After all that was given two options either be with her or pay support. Well here I am $424 a month. I get $1300 after union dues and insurance for my son and I. I split all bills with my girlfriend that I'm with now. After rent and all bills and utilities are payed I'm left with maybe $250 not including food and gas and at the very 1st of the month. To get my son 4 days a month that 180 mile round trip to get him. He's now 3 I've come to the point of buying my son things he needs here is hard I was just able to get him his own bed.I've got very little money to support my son and for a father that's a bad keep you awake at night kinda shit. I don't understand how a person can stay home never have a job but pop another kid out, have a brand new corolla (fully loaded). Have a full kitchen of food and a flat screen TV. While the workin man who fights the system and gets called every name in the book takes it up the @#$. I'm not behind in support and live life pinching pennies and all I want is to have my son and raise him but how will that happen with these laws we have?
Income is $2,200 a month take home pay, for child support I pay $550 a month that brings me down to $1650 a month..my rent is $850 a month..that brings me down to $800 a month my car loan is $284 a month..well that's $516 a month insurance is $80 a month and phone bill is $50 now we are at $386 a month let's add water and electric let's just say $100 each the final amount is $186 dollars a month..for food, gas, support my kids when I have them, necessities, soap, laundry, tooth paste ect you get the picture right? Isn't child support to "help" with supporting your children? Seems that it's being left mostly up to the father? I'm dieing here, I can barely survive. Where are the guidelines for using support money? Having it loaded on card that can't have the money be withdrawn from? Items bought with the card can't be beer, fast food. Limitations such as clothes, school expenses, get this******in order. You have guidelines for food cards. I think child support and the approach on child support needs to be revised..I could go on but what's the point right?
I am paying child support and have equal custody. On another case the person was allowed to bring up mistakes I made as a teenager. That was over 7 years ago. I wasn't allowed to bring up her 3 baby father's. I now have to have supervised visitation and now have to lay $849 per month (included backpay). I owe backpay bc she never wanted to accept money from me. She also alienated me from my child. So it looks like I will not be able to provide for my other kids and keep a roof over my head. All this while I was the one who put myself on child support. Moral of the story father's don't have equal rights in certain towns. While the mother gets her way. Both my cases are in the same state just different cities.
Ordered to pay $840 a month but make less than $1800 per check. So what should I do now about my own bills and other child support payments.
I live in the state of Connecticut. I pay child support for my 2 older kids (7 and 5 years old) from a previous relationship. I pay child support, health insurance, school needs etc. and everytime I've tried to fight in court to lowering my child support it always came out the mothers way with her fake crying and fake sympathy stories. I'm involved in my kids life I pick them up every weekend I'm involved with there school work and the system just doesn't care. I also have another child with my current spouse and he's 3 years old and is hard to support him as well because I'm the only source of income and my spouse is a full time college student and has been trying to find part time work but has been unsuccessful. We also reside with her mother because I can't afford an apartment on my own. All this while my Ex sits at home and does nothing!!... she gets state assistance for many things and is living the life and she just had a third child herself recently and is threatening me to take me back to court to increase my child support for my 2 kids just to get a little more extra money to help her for a child that isn't even mine. I work 50+ hours a week to TRY and make it by but just still isn't enough. The system is so corrupted and favors mothers who sit on there behind and collect while struggling father's like myself are trying there best to make a living and survive in this already messed up economy. The system wonders why father's become hostile and angry with these unfair laws. Also i don't get any help from any state programs, I work very hard and is very independent I don't ask anyone for help but Laws NEED to change and give the parents who pay child support more rights especially if there involved in the kids life. These payment guidelines need to be REALISTIC and truly take in consideration the expenses of the non custody parent instead of just looking over it.
I am a mother of two boys. I was married to their father for 7 years and in that 7 years I was abused. About a year and half after I had my second son I decided I had to leave because if not I wasn't going to be able to live and my kids were getting to the age that I didn't want them to live in that kind of environment. I left one night with the kids while he was at work and moved back to my home town. ( 25 mins away)I got an apartment and started working two jobs. He never helped me financially and I was struggling. I wasn't doing any better like I had thought I would because the abuse had effected me more than I had thought. I felt so worthless like I would never be a good enough mom and no man would want me. (Things he would tell me all the time) I truly believed that I was the reason he was the way he was and that I deserved everything he dealt to me. After months and months of struggling financially and emotionally him and I made arrangements to have the kids live with him and I did not seek a lawyer. I went to his attorneys office and signed the papers. We made an agreement that I get the kids anytime I wanted and no child support would be paid because we were going to co parent and split costs of all their needs. Well as time went by and the children got older I got hit my papers ordering child support and they made it to were I would owe back child support, starting the support from our divorce date. I had to go to court and pay at least 5% to keep me out of jail. I was able to come up with the money and I have been behind ever since. the craziest thing is that I am behind because of INTEREST.... Not the actual support just interest. Here we are 8 years later and I had to take him to court to fight for custody because my youngest son came to me one day after going to his teachers and counselor at school and told me things that made me sick to my stomach. My children were being abused. mostly my youngest. He was acting out in class and the teachers knew something was up because he had always been a good student. The court ordered a GAL and held me responsible for paying for it. DHR got involved along with child advocacy center. The kids told the same story over and over in a years time the story never changed however the GAL , DHR and the court decided the kids were over exaggerating although the teachers testified to what the kids said. It was the most unjustified thing I have ever seen not for me but for my children. The judge did give them more time with me, which we are so grateful for but my children are not being cared for properly. They are 14 and 12 and this time of their lives are very fragile. I have them 5 days one week and 2 the alternate week. I have gotten their hair cuts for the past two years and bought their school and play shoes for the past 8 years. I have bought one of the children school supplies every year since school age began and I pay child support. I spend all of my time with my children. Never get a babysitter,
I see at least 3 young mothers in my area with 2 to 3 mixed kids. The mother doesn't work, There are different men coming and going all the time. The food truck comes once a week, I guess milk, juice, cereal and other things for the kids. The house lights are on 24/7 x 365 days a year and nobody picks up the trash in the yard until someone that Tax Payers pay for to come mow the yard. We need to stop this kind of madness! It shouldn't be a JOB to have babies! Maybe Japan has the right idea? 2 kids and ya get fixed. Male and Female......
Not even my child she trick me into signing the birth record we had a da done and it not my child and she know it and won't even tell them
I have 3 kids and I get child support for them. If he doesn't work his child support is based on minimum wage, if he does work it's based accordingly. It should be the same for the women (people) that receive child support. It isn't right or fair that the people receiving child support site at home and do nothing so that their child support goes up. The person paying child support didn't make and have those children by themselves. I also believe that child support should be based on the education and jobs available in the area, not just town, around where the person lives that receives child support.
I have 3 kids and I get child support for them. If he doesn't work his child support is based on minimum wage, if he does work it's based accordingly. It should be the same for the women (people) that receive child support. It isn't right or fair that the people receiving child support site at home and do nothing so that their child support goes up. The person paying child support didn't make and have those children by themselves. I also believe that child support should be based on the education and jobs available in the area, not just town, around where the person lives that receives child support.
The Law says in Texas once the child turns 12 he or she can choose whom he wants to live with. Why would you allow a child without doing an investigation have that much power.
My child since moving in with his father may not even graduate high school because his father play uncle the fun dad instead of raising his son as a result my son doesn't respect him or his house. I told the judge that wasn't the best decision for him for one he was a sophomore moving to a whole new world. I told his father you need to be apart of his world instead of moving him out of his environment where he has had some success. To make a long story short he is 19 years old threatening to drop out of high school and the law of Texas says that I have to continue to pay child support up until he is 18 or graduates from high school whichever comes later. Before my child left me his father he was doing very well in school star athlete in football once he moved with his father multiple concussions multiple injuries now he deals with depression because nothing has went right for him since he moved with his father I tried to tell the judge all these things before she granted custody to his father but she would not listen only going by the law. His father has multiple kids living with him all of his kids that he was paying child support he has moved them in with him and their life has turned for the worse. His father never has really been in his life the only reason why he convinced him to move in with him but so he could stop paying child support I feel that the Lord needs to change and an investigation needs to take place before the child moved in with the other parent no 12 year old that is a teenager that is going through some hard times just regular teenageers years should be allowed to choose what is best for him or her at the age of 12. That doesn't make sense that you would allow a 12 year old that is two years removed from being 10 to know what's best for him or he. They don't know the history of their father he was a very abusive man he has six different children I have a stable household why would you give the child the right to choose what's best for him or her. Now my child may not graduate because theLaw said he had the right to choose. Without taking into account was actually best for him weather School District household lifestyle the attitude of the kid his mood swings his child his father doesn't even know how he is at the age of 16 before he moved in with them because he really never spent time with his son this is the same man that left his child at home on a Monday instead of bringing him back to my house so he could go to school Monday morning but the state of Texas says it's okay for him to move in with his father when he doesn't even care to bring his child home to go to school on a Monday morning. The courts need to know the whole story do an investigation on the other parent that the child may move in with.

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