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I have 4 kids that I pay child support for, A 17 year old son a 6 year old daughter and 5 year old twin boys. My soon to be ex wife had an affair left me and bought a 200,000 home and lives with her boyfriend with my 2 twin boys. I'm paying her 960.00 a month as of last week. This is in addition to the 700.00 I'm paying my first wife for my 2 other children. I just need someone to explain to me why its ok for mw to pay for my cheating soon to be exes new 200,000 home while i live for free in my parents basement. Yes I have a job, but for what, I can't survive like this. Can someone please answer me how I am supposed to live?
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The cs system is outdated and needs a revamp for modern times....
Wow look someone from Fresno signed , welfare is hooking people up over there ... Man I got robbed for going on 250,000.00$ in the past going on 22 years GOOD GOOD WELFARE GRAVY TRAIN IN FRESNO!!!they even gave me 35,000.00$ in arrears too and 10,000.00$ of that is just becuase they could.... They even used my wifes income AND her son from her previouse marrages childsupport - Fresno welfare : ha a bunch a PIGS!
If someone don't revamp the child support laws, good men are going to go insane or commit suicide trying to figure out how to pay what they want you to pay and then affording there own bills. ITS INSANE.
Raising a child should not put a parent in debt? Why is that when you fill out about 10 pages of an affidavit from front to back so they can see what is in your savings and checking, but the judge ignore the rest of your information you have wrote. Retroactive payments is robbery to the non custodial after modification.
I have seen the child support system FAIL my husband and family or more than one occasion. The child support/ baby mama support-system is failing my husband who is constantly being dragged into court although he PAYS child support for his daughter. My husband and I have 3 other children together (besides the one he provides weekly support for). The system has completely forgotten about my children. They fail to judge fairly based on the fact that my kids need care too. My husband only makes $9.50 an hour and cannot afford the amount that was decided he needs to pay. I now must take care of our kids solely because he does not make enough. And to make matters worse, they asked him how much I make and can I help him out. How dare they?? So now it's every working adult that lives in my APARTMENT (not house, thanks system) responsibility to take care of his other daughter? If we ALL took care of his daughter who would take care of MY kids. This system is so unfair! It is frustrating and disgusting the way the system continues to attacks father's that actually take care of their kids but FAIL to follow up or catch dead beat dads! Whenever he has to go to court because he ignorant daughter's mother is requesting MORE money, the judge and prosecutor are rude and nasty to him. They belittle him, and NEVER listen to a word he has to say. They never even review the information provided on that information sheet they give that clearly states his other kids and their expenses. Their sole purpose to is collect more money for a child that is almost in high school, no before and after care fees, no daycare expenses and that already gets ALL the money he makes. That childís mother pimps the food stamp and cash assistance system and continues to collect money from the state although her current husband is a general manager and makes in upwards of $55k annually! If you can't tell, I have lost complete faith in our system!
Hmmmmm it's time to eat; I'm in the welfare gravy train line and the portions look scrumptious , so now that I got the biggest plate my fragile small hands can possibly hold serve me a double scoop of welfare topped with food stamps and smother it with all the childsupport you can possibly fit on My plate: and I'll wash it all down with a 40oz of court modification ;thanks welfare gravy train,.....see y'all in the cheese line.....
My 30 year old son had to move back home with me just so he could survive because a completely unfair and biased judge ordered an outrageous amount of child support retroactive to the day his ex decided she didn't want a relationship any longer. This woman lives at home, her mother does not work, and the day the astronomical child support was ordered. ...Her father quit his job. So my son is now paying not only for his son..but his exes parents to live a nice life as well. There is something completely WRONG with the child support system and it needs to be changed! In the meantime...my son's ex has completely cut off all communication and will not allow my son to have contact with his son..or me to have any contact with my grandson. And because of all the child support ordered...there is no money to keep taking her back to court to get her to comply with court orders. Child support was never intended to completely remove a father from his sons life....but these women know how to manipulate the system to do EXACTLY that. We are also not living in the same world when these antiquated laws were written...nor are we living in great economic times!! The laws need to be changed!
How can i support my two children during the time i have them if i cant even pay my bills? i got a promotion, and after a court hearing i have to pay more, leaving me only with 200 dollars a month to live on and support my two children when i have them. this is no way to live. i can't even get an apartment. i cant have my own place to live.
Nor should we lose any of our licenses as they are a necessity to provide for any type of family. 11 years I've been doing this BS and have to keep my eyes on the rearview as I have no choice but to drive and do what I have to do, all due to one whiny female who took her deal to D.C. and completely f*cked things up for the good dads to have any kind of good or even decent relationship with their kid(s). And yes, all this while the other party is allowed ta sit around all day on social networks because they have no life or skills of any kind, as they have been allowed to do this since 1994. This needs to end NOW!!!!!!
ANor should we lose any of our licenses as they are a necessity to provide for any type of family. 11 years I've been doing this BS and have to keep my eyes on the review as I have no choice but to drive and do what I have to do, all due to one whiny female who took her deal to D.C. and completely f*cked things up for the good dads to have any kind of good or even decent relationship with their kid(s). And yes, all this while the other party is allowed ta sit around all day on social networks because they have no life or skills of any kind, as they have been allowed to do this since 1994. This needs to end NOW!!!!!!
I am 24 years old. My original support amount was 64 dollars every two weeks. The judge ordered i begin paying on January 8th, 2011. My ex wife's lawyer wrote January 8th, 2010, and now all of a sudden i am 2368 dollars in arrears 4 years later. When they first issued the summons for me to appear in court about the arrearage, the hick*****judge told me i'd have to get a transcript of the court proceedings. They also told me i would be paying an extra 12.80 bi-weekly to get caught up. I missed only 2 or 3 payments the entire time, and never even have came close to making a dent in the payments. Turns out the 12.80 extra they keep as a fee. so back to the transcript, boom they are charging me 300 dollars in transcription fees. At this point, it wouldn't suprise me if they have redacted the judges statements where he ordered me to begin paying childsupport in 2 weeks(which was january 2011, not january 2010) and replaced it with something to suit their company line. I have been unable to secure the funds for the transcript until last week i broke down and asked my dad for a loan.

a month ago, i got a certified letter saying they were suspending my drivers license and i had a warrant for my arrest. I sold a bunch of my possessions, and they agreed to let me pay 400 dollars and they would set aside the warrant and suspension of my drivers license. They had me sign papers, and at a glance they appeared the same. Then i had a court appearance on september 8th, 2014.

I was presented with two options:

Sign their latest document agreeing to start paying 64 + 12.80 every week instead of two weeks as per the original order, or be held in contempt of court.

So i am probably headed to jail soon. I just got the letter in the mail today and noticed that they changed it from bi-weekly two weekly, doubling my payment. I make more per hour now, but the cost of living has doubled in that timespan. This******is not fair, and every time i go to court they find a new way to screw me over, and they nickel and dime me with fees.

If it wasn't for my daughter, i would walk into that court room and blast everyone of them mother****ers to hell.

Luckily, i started a new job on Wednesday which i make 12 dollars per hour, but if they get wind of that,******i'll be giving them 100% of my check per week. This system is ****ed.

I just sent my dad a text to see if he'd loan me the money to get a lawyer, but guess what: The state of Arkansas has Sovereign immunity. God damnit. ****ing bastards. Looks like i'll soon be joining the ranks of The DeadBeat Dad club, which sucks. It pains my heart to think what my child must feel like being in the middle of this, and she acts out as a result. She is the apple of my eye, and you can ask anybody around. She belongs with me and not her piece of******mother.
I'm going to jail because I cannot afford the alimony. Want to support my kids but can't anymore the court took away my drivers license and issued arrest warrent , will lose my income now as I'll be in jail and can't drive to work... HELP
I still don't understand how it is in the best interest of the child. How is it in the best interest of the child for one parent to collect and have no ambition, while the other pays out half of their wages to child support for one child? How is the parent who pays half of their wages ever going to give that child healthy meals, decent quality clothing, pay for extracurricular activities, or a college education? How is it in the best interest of the child to have a parent that can barely afford to support themselves? IT IS NOT IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD. BOTTOM LINE! Also, how many recipients of child support get added benefits, reduced child care costs, free food, and subsidized housing? All of them. How many of them actually work and attempt to support the child the "Old Fashioned way"? A very small percentage. To ignore the actual cost the government pays annually for public assistance, versus how much they get reimbursement, they would see a great deal of money slipping through the cracks. All we can ask for is that you, The Federal Government, of The United States of America, REQUIRE, the recipients of child support, to provide LEGITIMATE PROOF of what the child support is spent on. From there, proper measure should be taken. I ask all of you petitioning, to join me in submitting a bill to congress, requiring recipients of child support to provide legitimate proof of what child support is being spent on. I can guarantee that this will bring the issue to their attention and progress will be made! Join me! We have the right and responsibility to provide our children with a better future! If anyone is interested in joining this cause, contact me at ehintca@gmail.com.
ALL-ABOARD! Get on the welfare gravy train n live like a Queen, n do what ever you want all day n sleep all day and go to Walmart in your pee stained pajamas ... ;just sighn on the X at your local welfare office:...... WELFARE , it's not just a life style it's ROYALTY.....and freedom..... THAT'S SERVESE YOU AND not your baby daddy'S ....... "This is called childsupport "
This made me cry. I cannot believe the government do not see anything wrong with this. This is child abuse on many levels.
I have been bank Levied on two occasions while actively paying to support my child and trying to figure out how I am going to Survive with My wife and our two Children in the home. They made no concession or considerations even when I was in a Coma, which caused the Levi. It's just business I guess, nothing will ever change.
i cant believe the child support system in America. I am ashamed of our so called leaders in Washington. but one day you will have to answer to the most high
i cant believe the child support system in America. I am ashamed of our so called leaders in Washington. but one day you will have to answer to the most high
i cant believe the child support system in America. I am ashamed of our so called leaders in Washington. but one day you will have to answer to the most high
i cant believe the child support system in America. I am ashamed of our so called leaders in Washington. but one day you will have to answer to the most high
I am struggling and almost homeless having to support two households on my own. I am still paying my child support, and because i have owed in the past they suspended my licence... How am i supposed to get to work to pay my child support? i do not live near a bus line.. Please help us!!!!
I am a single Mom who does not collect child support and watch many others collect and sit on their assess all day claiming to be miracle mom's. When women who don't work and ask the children's father for money because they are just getting by, wouldn't you think is time to grow up and support the children you've jointly made??
I m so scared of mine and my children's future because of the child support I have to pay,, I have three children living with me by court order and I'm so happy to have them with me but I also have two more children with a woman who already is receiving child support from another guy too.she didn't wanted to stay together and be a family with us. is so hard for me to make child support payments and have to provide for me and my kids at home.. I as a Father cry and my head hurts when I think about what is going to hapent to my children at home if I end up in jail for not paying her the child support.. she didn't want it to work and left me for someone who end up leaving her and after that guy another guy and another..and now she is pregnant from her new boyfriend . my God protect me from this law
I m so scared of mine and my children's future because of the child support I have to pay,, I have three children living with me by court order and I'm so happy to have them with me but I also have two more children with a woman who already is receiving child support from another guy too.she didn't wanted to stay together and be a family with us. is so hard for me to make child support payments and have to provide for me and my kids at home.. I as a Father cry and my head hurts when I think about what is going to hapent to my children at home if I end up in jail for not paying her the child support.. she didn't want it to work and left me for someone who end up leaving her and after that guy another guy and another.. my God protect me from this law
I m so scared of mine and my children's future because of the child support I have to pay,, I have three children living with me by court order and I'm so happy to have them with me but I also have two more children with a woman who didn't wanted to stay together and be a family with us. is so hard for me to make child support payments and have to provide for me and my kids at home.. I as a Father cry and my head hurts when I think about what is going to hapent to my children at home if I end up in jail for not paying her the child support.. she didn't want it to work and left me for someone who end up leaving her and after that guy another guy and another.. my God protect me from this law
I am a single mother with full custody of my two children. I receive a very small amount of child support from my ex husband (by choice). I know that I could probably get half his paycheck if I wanted to and probably work less, but when we where married he had to pay support for his oldest child and it was an incredible hardship on us financially. Not to mention he rarely got to see his child. He basically had NO rights. I researched as much as I could to try to get his child support lowered and to get visitation, and that is why after our divorce I decided that I would not "bend him over " for child support. The law is NOT in favor of fathers, dead beat or not. The info I found was disturbing and just goes to show how screwed up the system is. Here are a few things I learned:
The government makes money off of child support that is garnished from wages.
The government saves money because the more child support you get the less welfare you qualify for. If you pay child support you also have to pay taxes on that amount and you don't get a tax break ,however, if you receive support you don't have to pay taxes on it and you don't have to claim it as income at the end of the year. How is this fair? If you start making more money she can ask for a modification to get her child support higher, and if she stops working or gets her hours cut she can ask for another modification to get the support higher. Even if your income hasn't changed ! So a father might decide to buy a car and have a car payment , but if his baby mama quits working she can ask for more support (and get it ) leaving him with less money , not able to make his car payment , lose his car and ruin his credit. What a screwed up system. Women will never be equal to men if we allow systems like child support to continue like this.
Like most of the other commenters, I too agree that it is unfair that men want to be apart of their child's life have to pay an extremely high amount of support to female that has no desire to work while the man goes to work faithfully trying to live the "American dream".
I feel that child support percentages are extremely unfair. Just because someone makes more money, they get extorted for insane amounts of support, that does not go to the child. If one makes a million dollars, and child support extorts 25% for two kids, that's $250,000. No child in the world needs that much to live. This is extortion by the family court, and the vindictive mothers
When I was 18, I had relations with a woman who swore she was on birth control, which turned out to be a lie.(I'm now 35) I've been paying 500-700$ per month every since, I'm a paramedic and they take half of every paycheck, I can hardly afford to live and am one incident away from being homeless. I have no other children, she has 3, she has no job, just sits back and collects support from all these other men, had breast implants, a new car (and I'm taking the bus) a nice home (I'm in a horrid studio). It is insane that the law supports her and penalizes me. Stop this immediately!
Also monthly drug testing should be required, if you want to collect.
There should be a finacial resposibillity on the parent who recieves child support, to get up and strat looking for employment. Every year that goes by, less suport should be deducted if the parent is at home doing nothing. The courts have an awsome tool for spousal support called a JOBS CONTACT ORDER...if your not looking for work you dont get no spousal support....if you want to lie aand cliam your looking for work, then it becomes contempt of a court order...there should be an order for child support as well.
There should be a finacial resposibillity on the parent who recieves child support, to get up and strat looking for employment. Every year that goes by, less suport should be deducted if the parent is at home doing nothing. The courts have an awsome tool for spousal support called a JOBS CONTACT ORDER...if your not looking for work you dont get no spousal support....if you want to lie aand cliam your looking for work, then it becomes contempt of a court order...there should be an order for child support as well.
Women are takin advantage of the men who support there kid/s... And the dead beats r messing it up for us!!
I pay my 700.00 a month for my son out of georgia.. i make my payments on time. I am military and never get to see my son due to financial hardship being that i am out of state. the mother will not help me financially when he is with me. she wants to keep the money even though he would be me. i cant pay 700 a month and pay for daycare along with living expenses for him. Rules need to be changed so that income from both parents are annually reviewed for fair judgement. they are still going on a bias that she is still un-employed and that i need to compensate. THE ORDER WAS DONE IN 2009, and a modification is only good for my income not hers!
Im married and on disability and more than have of my check which is 1800 nine hundred abd eighty five goes to my ex for child support and she is married and works at a hospital
I have been denied access to my children and yet have never missed a CS payment, all of my denial of parenting time petition's have been dismissed as irrelevant, I demand that shared parenting be the norm and not the exception!
Something Needs To Be Done About These Women Who Have KiDs And They All Have Different Fathers, This Woman Has A Kid With A Guy Dumps Him Months Or Years Later And Hooks Up With Another Guy Has A Kid And Again Leaves That One , Just So She Doesnt Have To Work Collecting Childsupport And Welfare. She Lives IN Henniker NH. And She Gets Away With It! Something NeeDs To Be Done, Its Not Fair To All Those Dads That Have To Pay The Childsupport And Her FrigN Welfare! Time To Wake Up People!
I' m paying child support now and its not easy, and what makes it worse is i have joint legal and physical custody over my son, why should i pay child support if i have my son as much as the custodial parent who works, why cant my money stay in my pocket to support my means with my child when he is with me, instead of going to someone who uses the funds to get there hair and nails done.
I hope that one day men and women who give birth to a child, whether it be in wedlock or not, have equal rights to the child. I may be young but it effects everyone in some way. Women and men should have to pay child support if one does not have a job to support the child, until the jobless parent finds some means of work to help support the growth of their kid.
This law is being abuse my multiple women and needs to be rewritten to where birh parents are required to take care of the child
I was a loving father of my daughter since she was born. I was there from the beginning all the way until she was 5 years old. I bought clothes fed her took her to fun places, paid for her health care the whole nine. Then one day her mother decides to start a new life with a guy she just met. No problem, I thought. I would simply continue to be in my daughters life as usual. I was wrong. Her mother decided that since I was behind on child support that I could not longer see her. You see at the order was filed in January of 2010 but I didn't have to go to court until October of 2010. Apparently the way it works in Missouri is you are responsible for payment upon the date of the filing. I had no knowledge of this rule. So October 2010 rolls around and not only was I slapped with a $600 a month child support payment, I was also $4200 in arrears. Mind you I have 2 other children which I am current on they each get $583 and $500 respectively. I only make $50,000 per year and my monthly take home pay is right at $2000. You do the math. My Rent is $525, Car Note $445, Insurance $110, Utilities $300, Student Loans $250. And to top it all off I still cannot see my daughter. Haven't seen her since June of 2012. This system is unfair.
NY child support court ordered about 78% of my income be withdrawn from my check for months until got it modified to legal amount which still to high. It put me on the brink of homelessness and Financial hardship that I'm still trying the recover from. Child support is not to help children at all it's to make hard working Father's suffer for no reason, it's a million dollar racket for the Govt., and mothers can sit back get money they didn't earn which maybe 1-10% goes to the kids. The actual deadbeat dads get away scottfree because you can find them, or they're in Jail, or don't work. This is an unfair system
It is sad that a man has to go to jail for child support. It should go down on your taxes like everything else. Just because one women has the man on child support doesn't mean he doesn't have more kids that need him out in the world instead of in jail. Time spent is more than any money. These women getting child support food stamps cheap housing and utility checks driving nice cars ain't working. They ain't doing nothing but using the government and they letting them. Its sad the system acts like they killed someone and had to throw them in jail and the only thing they did was not pay a trifflin baby mama looking for a hand out. I got a child too and if my baby daddy can't help me I'm cool I'll get a job and take care of mines I don't need no man. I laid down ill support mines. I'd say this if a women is gonna receive child support DSS need to make monthly visit to make sure that the child isgetting what they need ain't dirty and got beds to sleep in. Don't make it so easy for this women they using the men and you too.
Yeah one voice will never be heard but 5 billion dollar a year industry called childsupport will not be stopped eighther..... This is not for our kids ; since when have any of us payees ever seen or heard of us fathers and mothers actually being able to be fathers or mothers with parental rights backed up by the welfare system that is the same system that takes our paychecks n ripps our parental rights from us? Sad to say ; but this welfare is big busyness .... Too many disgruntled ex's lined up at the welfare office doors just ready to sign up to ride the gravy train at our expense ... The disgruntled ex's gets to destroy us financially; and we get dragged in n outta court when ever the disgruntled ex releases the welfare blood hounds ..... Good parents made into slaves to the welfare , and made into prisoners doing time and most of all made into DEAD BEAT DADS by the same welfare system that says there there for the best interest of OUR child.... Ha ; welfare is used as a collection agency for civil matters ,we as parents will never get any ware with these petitions:welfare gravy train only has too kinda passengers , the welfare agents and the disgruntled ex..... N tickets for us non custodial parents - this welfare even gets 2 $s more from the tax payers for every dollar they steal from our paychecks ..... The U S tax payers don't know this; n when I share this with tax payers it upsets them to know that welfare gets paid to destroy good hard working class parents: I'm a tax payer too , but I don't count becuase the welfare toke my credibility when they smashed my credit report when I was only 19 years old 23 years later I still have no credibility even tho I've paid almost 250,000.00$ in childsupport when the ending audit showed I was to only have had to pay 97,000.00$ yeah one year in a Fresno California court n I still lost the case...... Ha welfare is bigger then the IRS , a person can get there tax bill knocked down to a percentage .. But not childsupport .... That's for life and with interest ALLLLLL THE WAY THREW!
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Oh yeah..... The welfare gravy train... All aboard ; next stop taking your kids fathers paycheck....... Then taking All his belongings ; then throwing him in jail........ All aboard! Come ride the gravy trail .... Only disgruntled ex's get the ticket , to ride the welfare gravy train ;All aboard
Them taking your license away is shitty because its against your pursuit of happiness. In the daclerration of independent. Think if you gov let's that happen then they don't care and that's the truth. They make alot of money on you in jail.so if you can't work you can't pay they are not stupid at all.i had a friend in ft Lauderdale he is in jail but you can look him scott Rothinstien.lawyer. and he told me alot of stuff about political party s and stuff like that and one is how county jails are owned by private firms and those same private firms back judge s .i was told 75 a day and 25 of that goes to the judge s campaign. Do the math.if you pay say 400 a month for cs they get 30bucks a month now if you do 25 √ó30 They 750.00.a month.that why they build more jails in this country then schools.corruption at it finest. People need to understand this and stand up to it.the president of this country only cares about him.change what change.change this so you America people will look at you like you did something. One court room for this not two.
It's not far when i make 14 hr.and she sit at home her husband collects my taxes. And she dont work.and i dont get to see my kid at all she calls him dad and me strange man.so if someone is married the other partner.should be in child support to there w-2 should be because if they get a loan they do.this is way to one sided i would love to meet the political party how thought this up had to be women in charge or there was sex invalid or money it's just to one sided.
If the court would let suits in to court .like if you pay but they dont let you see you child.sould be a civil suit.but everyone forget if you o back support and they still say you can't see you kid.again.civil suit.because you still pay that now or later ether way there getting money.but time is lost.the main problem with all this is they won't everyone on paper to control you.why is it they look at you the same as a crack dealer. Money to them your the same to the court paper.why is that i plumbed a house and the owner is wealthy and the court get there money rite off the top court costs. Now child support when you o they get money every time so keep that going. When you o the court money they put you in jail.and they make more when you in jail.dont let the lies full you.keep America divided and we will not be stronge.dont let the government s win.we the nation need to come together to fix all the visitation and support in one court that's were the problem is at .but in my 3yrs not seeing my child America s are full of it and afraid to stand.dont think of changing one law because when it goes to one court room they will have to change the law.make the courts work for there money stop making easy for them.stand up America. And if your afraid read the bible so you dont fear.
Child Support Laws are unfair. They should have a fair cap on what the noncustodial parent pays. This will force the custodial parent to get a job that will allow them to contribute to the home. Most noncustodial parents depend on CS and don't get jobs. It's not fair, they're both responsible for the kids!

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