Unfair child support laws

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The system is designed to force indentured servitude without consideration for life or the quality therein.
It's not fair to suspend license when u need your license to get back and forth to work to pay the child support...After that you will get incarcerated that'll take you away from your kids and they're still not getting any support. They're still good father's out here but it's hard to get a job without a license to go look for work. Women should have to pay support too because both of you are parents why should one parent have to pay? Usually the father/man.
I'm pro men's choice. If the father is aware of the pregnancy early enough in the term, and does not want the woman to go through with it, he shouldn't have to pay the full 20%, maybe pay 10%. I think there'll be a lot less complaining, spite babies, and latchkey kids.
It's just not fair. All a woman has to do is have a child and collect. They do not have an intention of finding a job. I know this is not the same for all woman. If there was not child support. In my personal opinion there would no longer be lines at the delivery room to have children.
Our system is failling our children! My husband and his ex have 50 50 custody even though me and my husband have his children way more than she does, the mother maybe gets her kids a month total out of a year and yet he still has to pay child suport to her... When the mother decides she wants to see the children she dont call nothing just goes and takes them from school never answers his calls or nothing .. When the father trys to get help Monroe County Court Systems tell him pucker up your butt because we wont help you unless you dish more money outta your pocket thats going to end up taking from children... All the while his children could be anywhere and we no are crying confused because they are used to being in daddys care and the Courts dont care unless you have money!!!!! The other thing why do fathers have to fight soooo hard to get there children when the female is so unfit realy this needs to get fixed STOP FAILING OUR CHILDREN!
This system is a joke run by woman for women... at least in my state. I pay 950 a month and only make 50000. She is able to work but refuses... and she collects from the state while living at home. It's no wonder so many father's refuse do do anything anymore. They can't afford it. BS...
I have 4 children, 3 in the home, and one is living with a relative that has legal guardianship of my daughter. I've been on child support since I was 16. I am 2500 in arrears. I have a fulltime job. I pay child support. They have a warrant for my arrest. They want to take me to jail for 30 days. When I get out of jail, I will no longer have a home for my children, or a job to pay more child support. More arrears....more jail time. No way to provide for my babies at home. Crying right now....no place to turn.
I have 50/50 custody I buy my child's clothes food and other things needed when she is with me and her mother buys the things she needs over there nothing goes back and forth and I still am required to pay 166 a month, supply insurance that only I must pay for because the mother has no need to get a full time job. Keep in mind I have my child 50% of the time and buy all the things she needs during that 50% of the time so it feels like I pay for 85% my 50% plus insurance that is required to be carried (why does the mother not have to pay 50% of that?) plus another 166 on top of all that. how is this fair? 166 does not sound like much but i gross a little over 2000 a month that's around 1600 take home.
My husband's ex-wife has the luxury of not having to work a full time job in order to support their child and her child with her new husband. Her current husband is a dentist, and according to court documents earns well over $200,000. She is part owner of a knitting store in NJ which she can co-own as a hobby since all her needs are met. My husband's child support payments equal 80% of their child's support. He is a high school teacher. This is terribly unfair and unjust. Something has to be done within our court system to establish a more equal plan to support these children of divorce.
My exwife get $966 for two children...she works a full time job, lives with a cop, received a house for free and and gets free health benefits from the state. HMMM how does this work???
I was ordered to pay $800 a month in child support plus pay for health, vision and dental insurance which add up to $135 for a total of $935. This is for my one child still in school. My support was based on me working a 65 hour week which is never guaranteed. My ex didn't report income from a second job. While I work 10-11 hour days 6 to 7 days a week, my ex uses my money to go to the beach 3 times this year and constantly go out to eat while I'm watching every penny and eating at home. I would like to know what is fair about this scenario. Our law makers that continue to put these laws in place need to understand that half of their constituents are men and we need to get together and vote them out of office if they continue to make laws that hurt us. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for taking care of my child financially but most of us carry this burden while only being allowed time with our children for 4 days a month and there is nothing at all fair about this.
No life money or kids left sold tools want drive and the jail cell awaits.
The battle over child support separated me from my children. There is a better way just talk to those of us that have the experience. Let me provide from my children while maintaining some type of quality of life with them.
My husband pays $1200 a month in child support and health insurance coverage. The courts do not consider the money spent on the children during our appointed visitations. The mother does not work and the excuses run the gamut. So she gets food stamps, kids get free lunches and breakfast, & free after school care. She lives with family and has minimal bills. The poor single mom card is played at every opportunity to get handouts. I was a single mom but one who worked hard to support my child. The custodial parent also gets to claim the children on their taxes. It's not fair to those who happily support their children and can prove accountability to not force the custodial parent to do the same.
There is no incentive for the custodial parent, ie the mother, to get any sort of better job. They make more in child support. This system is unfair and makes the non-custodial parent nothing more than an indentured servant.
these current laws promote modern day slavery and enable the custodial parent to not be financially responsible for their child. why would my ex spouse want to get a job when she will receive more in child support a month then if she were working a better job. stop this modern day slavery. if a parent is unable to support a child financially and both parents are fit then the financially stable parent should be the custodial parent. otherwise one is saying non custodial parent provide everything the child needs to survive but you cant see them.
I pay $966 a month, $562 of which is basic support, but my ex still doesn't think that is enough. She makes $80,000 a year while I make 40,000. She consistently asks for more. For instance, clothes for the boys, money for school lunch, etc. I was under the understanding that is what child support is for. I will support my kids til the day I die, but I will not support her. Child support needs to end and it needs to stop being a source of revenue for the states.
I work fulltime for the airforce and want custody of my kid. I was given joint custody and have my child half of the time yet I am still paying child support. My ex got remarried and has no job which makes my income higher than hers. Their household income is way more than mine, keep in mind I have my daughter half of the time, since my income is more than her unemployeed income I still have to pay her for taking care of my child? Give me full custody then an I will take care of her without needing any money from the mother. This whole system needs to be looked at and revamped for the 21st century. I am all for having to support your child, but don't force dads who are taking care of their children just as much if not more than the mother to pay child support while the mother sits home and gets paid to not get a job. Please fix this system.
I pay $440 for one child, compared to other people that is not alot, but keep in mind, i make 10.75 an hour and work a full time job, my take home Gross is about 1400-1500 a month, honestly after child support and taxes my take home every two weeks is 430, keep this in mind thats 860 every month. thats monthly gas to make it back and forth to work, thats rent, somehow i found a room to rent for 300, I cannot afford dental and i cannot afford health insurance. the very basics and im not even including food. what im getting at is there is no way a person can live off from wages like this and the amount of support there needs to be some type of change, i cant get approved for anytype of assistance i make to much gross income. it is literally making me sick, yet the babymamma has a part time job 10 hours a week making minimum wage and im paying out the*****because of it. i dont know how much longer i can keep doing this. holding strong for 3 years. you dont even want to know how much i am in debt because of loans just to live.
Child Support is geared to destroying the man and the laws are very unfair toward those who are out of work.
Child Support system is in the best interest of the State. It has nothing to do with the child.
Unless you are disabled, you should be working or enrolled in school full-time if your child is at least 5. What are you doing while the child is at school?
child support is taking half my income with no consideration of how am i suppose to support my self and my new family i live in san bernardino,california and the laws are so unfair the say screw the fathers and could care less what a hardship they have child support laws need to be changed im not saying i dont need to pay child support but make it to where im able to still survive
I agree I love my kids always always keep a good job just to work for free .. it take 2 ppl to have a kid but they just making all the guys pay or send us to jail . While women's lay up and keep haven kids after kid not trying to help they self jus wanted to get paid. The government just give them food stamps and money that the man got to pay back. . Then lot of women who got kids and dont work letting other ppl clam they kid on income tax. .. dis have to stop
Child support is not fair to men at all. I'm not on child support but I've witness a man who was on it...and the woman called him and told him as soon as the money came in she was taking her new boyfriend shopping with the money. ...the bad thing is I know the woman and when it came in she took the child support card got the money out and bought him things instead of the child. ...the hat is not right. ..
So I go to court and asked for joint custody. I stated on the forms he was reading that I have a flexible schedule and can take my daughter to school and pick her up no problem. All the judge asked her was if I paid child support... she said no and the judge didn't bother to ask me why I haven't. Even though I was providing for my daughter. Then the judge asked her if she paid day care, she said yes. And I know she leaves my daughter in an after school program till 6pm. So what day care is she taking about? She of course lied about that and the judge said I have to pay half of day care plus child support without even asking her for proof. The judge didn't let me talk. He treated me like trash. I had plans to move to a better place for my daughter so she can be in a better environment. But now that the system forces me to pay outrageous amount of money, I'm stuck in my small apartment and cannot even buy my daughter clothes. And to top it of, her mother doesn't spend the money on my daughter. My daughter told me that her mom bought herself a new iphone. That's where my money is going.
Require the recipients of child support AND welfare, to provide legitimate proof of where this money is being spent! Join this cause! Help us be heard! Let us create and submit a bill to congress! Contact me at ehintca@gmail.com to join this cause! THERE IS STRENGTH IN NUMBERS!!!!! Our children deserve better!!!!
Have been paying for six years and still my ex refuses to let me c my kids and the attorney general does nothing my calls and letters are not cared for. Its all about the money not about the children to the states. Do something it's time!!!
This country is no longer serve justice.
This welfare is terrible, my childsupport case was opened when I was 19 yrs old back in 1993 by a fake wife only out to have kids an jump on the welfare gravy train; and she did - with a green card and not even a high school diploma - she has made easy livin for herself! Welfare stood by her side the entire time and left me with checks that said "VOID" the welfare stole my entire paycheck and that was a 40 hour a week paycheck , so then I worked 3 double shifts per week just to get to take home about 130.00$ for that week and that barely paid to trip to work: I went to modify the welfare order for the two boys that I don't even know in Fresno ca and the judge stuck me with MORE per month since she said her sister babysits them and even though her sister was on welfare too and was surposed to be getting paid to watch them BUT could not come up with a payment receipt , the Judge still stuck me with what ever magical amount that she came up with for me to pay for the so called day care , she was on welfare n wasn't even licensed to be a babysitter by the state of california .... But it held for her favor in court... All her family are on welfare and have kids of all different men and they all live in the same apartment complex ALL 4 of them and even the mother scemes the welfare too.... American men have NO rights when these paracites sick the legal system on us , welfare .... Calling it childsupport and keeping the money ..... Ha it's 2014 and I'm about 250,000.00$ in on this childsupport stuff and still paying..... Almost done but the Fresno welfare has had me over 1/2 my life and ALL OF MY ADULT LIFE .. And meny meny times I wished I was never BORN, or that I wouldn't wake up one day .... Never had to strength to commit suicide but life sucked that bad and even though I had really good jobs , the more I progressed so did the welfare .. I never gave up I lived to fight the next day.... And my kids NEVER seen the amount that welfare took from me.... MY KIDS WILL NEVER KNOW THE FIGHT THERE DAD HAD TO FIGHT JUST TO SURVIVE ,WHILE THE WELFARE KEPT MY AS A SLAVE, I don't know the two now men in Fresno that are called my kids, it is a terrible life for them too.... But who cares ! As long as Fresno makes me pay up ...... 21 years later n still paying Fresno count welfare .... Then that's all that matters....; soon I'll be done I'm almost done with the extra 10,000.00$ the welfare stacked on top of me ... And when it asked the welfare " why are you all putting 10,000.00$ more on top of me "? They said "the state gives us the right to do so"A LONG JOURNEY IT'S BEEN AND THE SUCKIEST PART OF IT ALL IS .....all I've ever done was work all my time work to survive : and I never had a life or a social life .. Always bitter... And negative... And now that I'm almost gonna get my welfare freedom papers , what KINDA life do I live .... Will I finally not wake up..? What now? Welfare you stole not only my paychecks n tax returns, U STOLE MY LIFE...
This welfare is terrible, my childsupport case was opened when I was 19 yrs old back in 1993 by a fake wife only out to have kids an jump on the welfare gravy train; and she did - with a green card and not even a high school diploma - she has made easy livin for herself! Welfare stood by her side the entire time and left me with checks that said "VOID" the welfare stole my entire paycheck and that was a 40 hour a week paycheck , so then I worked 3 double shifts per week just to get to take home about 130.00$ for that week and that barely paid to trip to work: I went to modify the welfare order for the two boys that I don't even know in Fresno ca and the judge stuck me with MORE per month since she said her sister babysits them and even though her sister was on welfare too and was surposed to be getting paid to watch them BUT could not come up with a payment receipt , the Judge still stuck me with what ever magical amount that she came up with for me to pay for the so called day care , she was on welfare n wasn't even licensed to be a babysitter by the state of california .... But it held for her favor in court... All her family are on welfare and have kids of all different men and they all live in the same apartment complex ALL 4 of them and even the mother scemes the welfare too.... American men and woman have NO rights when these paracites sick the legal system on us , welfare .... Calling it childsupport and keeping the money ..... Ha it's 2014 and I'm about 250,000.00$ in on this childsupport stuff and still paying..... Almost done but the Fresno welfare has had me over 1/2 my life and ALL OF MY ADULT LIFE .. And meny meny times I wished I was never BORN, or that I wouldn't wake up one day .... Never had to strength to commit suicide but life sucked that bad and even though I had really good jobs , the more I progressed so did the welfare .. I never gave up I lived to fight the next day.... And my kids NEVER seen the amount that welfare took from me.... MY KIDS WILL NEVER KNOW THE FIGHT THERE DAD HAD TO FIGHT JUST TO SURVIVE ,WHILE THE WELFARE KEPT MY AS A SLAVE, I don't know the two now men in Fresno that are called my kids, it is a terrible life for them too.... But who cares ! As long as Fresno makes me pay up ...... 21 years later n still paying Fresno count welfare .... Then that's all that matters....; soon I'll be done I'm almost done with the extra 10,000.00$ the welfare stacked on top of me ... And when it asked the welfare " why are you all putting 10,000.00$ more on top of me "? They said "the state gives us the right to do so"A LONG JOURNEY IT'S BEEN AND THE SUCKIEST PART OF IT ALL IS .....all I've ever done was work all my time work to survive : and I never had a life or a social life .. Always bitter... And negative... And now that I'm almost gonna get my welfare freedom papers , what KINDA life do I live .... Will I finally not wake up..? What now? Welfare you stole not only my paychecks n All but one of my tax returns my enti
Fathers do not receive fair income guidelines and the calculations for fathers with decent income are not accurate. Though fathers should pay child support the amount should not exceed 50% of their net pay even of there are multiple children involved. Fathers in addition to paying for their child support should also be able to afford badic living expenses such as food, housing and gas to get to work and pay for a vehicle as well as clothing for themselves and a phone to communicate with children. I know several cases where fathers are ordered to pay around $3500 or more for support only leaving $1400 for themselves to live on. Since the state can legally only garnish 50% of wages if 50% of wages is not enough to pay the ordered amount these men can go in the hole $500+ a month and are at risk of jail or loosing their license which can result in job loss and inability to pay any support. These laws are unfair to dads who are trying to support their children because often times they are unable to support themselves when the calculations are made and they can't afford the amount and pay for their own basic needs.
I absolutely agree! This also holds true to the mother sending the children to day care while they sit at home doing nothing!
I can relate to the comments that others have posted my wife was cheating on me filed for TANF and the state of Oregon went after me for arrears in the 14 months that it took for them to establish the name of the Father and not only that I had to pay for the paternity test. now she collects all this money for the past two years and until I go to court and finish the divorce I cannot see my children I haven't seen them in over 2 years but somehow she still needs more money but she has the money to do her candle business smoker marijuana and buy a 30 pack for her new boyfriend she has a child by
everytime I talk to child support they always Stonewall me I can never get anywhere with them and they constantly screw up in her favor always trying to make me pay more even though there is a court order that says I pay 750 a month I am sick of the Oregon Child Support Division the so-called Department of Justice where is the justice the laws need to be reformed she needs to be accountable for every penny spent and what is not spent on the children needs to go to the fund so they can go to college.
I am a divorced Mother of 3, Received the equivalent of 2 years support throughout 13 yrs..I chose to work more to provide for my children. It relieved a lot of my stress But I do feel child support is unconstitutional in the way it treats Fathers and in many instances the children are taught wrong perceptions of their Dad. My children know their Father did not step up financially but they have been taught to love him and care for him.
This country should be ashamed of it's polotics inteferoing in personal matters between people. The law clearly favors mothers and has no system to keep the child support enforcement fair. What's shameful is the lack of a system for fathers to use to fight back against unfair judgments and mothers who use loop-holes to exploited fathers. The financial burden is twice what it cost and the system has no adjustment built-in to truly calculate what is fair.
I am the custodial parent to my daughter and a single mom. I work fulltime and have nothing for myself my daughters dad gets a wage attachment and quits his job. I have been going to court every 3- 6 months for 4 years and I am owed a VERY small amount due to these stupid laws, he goes says he was fired but really quit and what he has to pay gets thrown out because of SSR range, if I dont pay a bill its still due next month right? Something needs fixed
I think the system should at least look into why the parents are not together instead of just taking the Mothers word for everything and pretty much punishing the Father not knowing why the events came to pass...
I am the custodial parent to my daughter and a single mom. I work fulltime and have nothing for myself my daughters dad gets a wage attachment and quits his job. I have been going to court every 3- 6 months for 4 years and I am owed a VERY small amount due to these stupid laws, he goes says he was fired but really quit and what he has to pay gets thrown out because of SSR range, if I dont pay a bill its still due next month right? Something needs fixed
I am the custodial parent to my daughter and a single mom. I work fulltime and have nothing for myself my daughters dad gets a wage attachment and quits his job. I have been going to court every 3- 6 months for 4 years and I am owed a VERY small amount due to these stupid laws, he goes says he was fired but really quit and what he has to pay gets thrown out because of SSR range, if I dont pay a bill its still due next month right? Something needs fixed
I have 4 kids that I pay child support for, A 17 year old son a 6 year old daughter and 5 year old twin boys. My soon to be ex wife had an affair left me and bought a 200,000 home and lives with her boyfriend with my 2 twin boys. I'm paying her 960.00 a month as of last week. This is in addition to the 700.00 I'm paying my first wife for my 2 other children. I just need someone to explain to me why its ok for mw to pay for my cheating soon to be exes new 200,000 home while i live for free in my parents basement. Yes I have a job, but for what, I can't survive like this. Can someone please answer me how I am supposed to live?
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The cs system is outdated and needs a revamp for modern times....
Wow look someone from Fresno signed , welfare is hooking people up over there ... Man I got robbed for going on 250,000.00$ in the past going on 22 years GOOD GOOD WELFARE GRAVY TRAIN IN FRESNO!!!they even gave me 35,000.00$ in arrears too and 10,000.00$ of that is just becuase they could.... They even used my wifes income AND her son from her previouse marrages childsupport - Fresno welfare : ha a bunch a PIGS!

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