Unfair child support laws

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I agree to an extent. If the women are having babies by different men just to make a living then they are not very good mothers in the first place.
Investigate if a father does take care of his kid first instead of taking the womans word..
Two people brought the child into the world. Then it should be BOTH parent responsibility to raise that child equally. The non custodial parent should only be responsible for basic needs for the child as set forth by the own government welfare department. Putting a man into jail cost taxpayer dollars because he is unable to give the custodial parent a said amount that they not only have the income tax benefit and also determine how to spend that amount is totally INSANE!!
Children aren't paychecks. Lets change the child support laws. Let your thoughts be heard
Something should be done!!!! I'm not even gonna rewrite what has already been said above. These laws are ruining men. Congress needs to do something now!!! So unfair how women can have is put on jail if we simply cannot afford to pay or something happens.
I had a child with a women who refused to work, which caused the split in my our relationship, she continued to threaten me with child support if we split I, now I'm behind in bills and she refuses to let me see our child and soon I will have to pay 600 a month which is something I can not afford right now. I have never committed crime a day of my life and if I'm found guilty for getting behind I will be a crimal this is truly unfair to any taxe paying citizen.
Texas,

Child support laws are unfair regardless of whoís paying. It takes two to make a child, so child support should be based off both incomes. These laws are so out dated and bias, Iím not sure why more men/women havenít come forward to put a stop to the injustice. Those that pay child support has no relief on taxes and our 401k saving is limited or nonexistent.
If your one that no longer have access to your son or daughter due to the wedge your X spouse placed into your life for added difficulty, donít look to the legal system for help. No one cares about the payer and how you live moving forward. Our X spouse can beak and alter the existing orders without fear from the legal system.
These current laws lead to the greed and dishonesty against those that pay. I donít mind paying child support for my son and I truly miss being part of his life. I hope in the near future these laws are reformed and ĎMEN Without a Voiceí will be heard!
All i have to say is that these child support laws are so unfair and i pray one day that they change and become equal for both parents.
The child support laws are unethical and unreasonable in NC. Its unfair as apartied in the 60's but instead of race its genders. It put a burden on father's and mothers who have to deal with this nonsense. I'm not saying get rid of it im saying make it reasonable just like governor did unemployment. Which is also a crock of sh@! But if man would stand together and fight the cocked eye before us and the conspirators behind the overall bs we would be fine
YOUR ALL A FRAUD LIKE YOUR LAWS. WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND
I am on the woman whom has to pay a man who beat me for 14 years never would work and finally had enough and attempted to divorce now stuck paying him since I would work to keep my kids fed during the marriage and he used it against me. Where are the laws not only for men but for woman whom are a victim to the set laws of higher income person if the other just chose to be a dead beat now has the children and his own monies since he would never work on the books. where are the laws for the woman whom had no choice but to have to walk away not for the manner of just a divorce but to save her life. faced in a economy that pays men more and I am expected to be able to attempt to live in fear of this man still as well pay him. been thru every process and the laws are not far for us. corruption all around. Blessing to you all.. may you be safe and healthy those are the true treasures in life.
I lost my job in June of 2013 due to a severe degenerative disability, which now has me in a wheelchair. However, I have never stopped trying to find a job and after over a year and well over 2600 applications/resumes, I finally received a job offer on June 20, 2014. The only challenge was that the training started on June 30th and I had to be in court for child support hearing. I immediately contacted the Buchanan County (MO) circuit clerk and asked what I had to do to get a continuance. Per their direction, I performed my due diligence within 30 minutes of that call. I attempted to call them several times over the next 8 days but always received voicemail, and I never received anything in writing. Due to my disability, I cannot drive, and Buchanan County is 6+ hours away so I had to make arrangements for someone to take me to court on June 30th since I had received no word of being granted a continuance. After we arrived I soon discovered that they had granted the continuance, but did not notify me until that morning. So not only did I lose the job due to THEIR unbelievable incompetence, they also wasted the time and money of my caregiver to get me there. I accepted this injustice best I could and was told the next court date was August 4, 2014. I finally received a written notice of the granted continuance on July 5th, and in the past month have been continually harrased by the child support office and the prosecuting attorney's office for "losing" the job and thus making no payments....????????!!!!!!!! THEY are directly responsible for me losing the job in the first place! I have since found a private entity that is making weekly payments on my behalf, however, it was just shared with me on July 31st that this was still unacceptable. I feel absolutely violated. If someone, ANYONE, reads this and has any idea what steps I could possibly take to rectify this please, please, please let me know! I literally do not have two pennies to rub together and if not for the good graces of one very special individual, I would be homeless or most likely worse. It is frightening that things like this are actually happening in America.
My ex has remarried and both have incomes that are TRIPPLE to mine. This state sucks when it comes to dads.
I struggle to get buy, while she bought a new car, moved to another house, (keeping the old one and renting it out). I do the dropping off and picking up. My children need clothes which I get them all the time. I want to see my children all the time but I cannot afford too. Hey congress make child support a tax deduction to where the payer can at least get money back and the payee include the income and pay taxes on it. Its a tax congress I know you'll love it. This make even make some of the deadbeats consider paying theirs.
What I believe is the best solution for child support is as easy as this, that the person receiving child support can only collect support for the amount of hours they work. In other words if Jane doe only works 15 hours a week she will have support based on 15 hours of work from John doe
This petition probably wont work considering its directed to a congress that has vowed to do nothing..hey john bohner thanks for nothing. Literally. You could have reformed this debtors prison we are in but you wont. You would rather sue someone than help out. Its clear congress is just another babymomma suing cause shes ****ed. Btw. Obama care is basically childsupport 2.0 so no wonder noone likes it. I saw let obamacare happen..then i can say welcome to the boat b
I never whent to court i didi not agree to this but was forced. Into it and never had a dna test done my name is not on the birth certificate. And the kids my not be mine i have not seen them or the mother for 7 yrs now and it hurts. Because they may not be mine. And i want my funds back i slaved for hard work and giled taxes and they just took it all unconstitutional. I know my rights i just. Got feed up with the money stealing. I have a lot of time to fight back now work is slow so am in
Do something about parents, mostly women, who use child support money to support themselves and their latest bed partner and the children get little. My ex, Deborah Dianne Titus, Jonker, whatever name she calls herself these days, uses support money to buy legal pot, they live in Kalkaska, MI where its legal and she buys that, and drives my kids around under the influence, kids say she drinks and drives as well. I last spoke to my kids Jan, 2014. I spoke to one and was told that she was fixing food for the younger ones, while her mother went out at night wearing only a swim suit. The courts in Kalkaska think its just fine that I don't know where my kids are living at this time, I cannot talk to them and don't know where they are. A lawyer in my state has been contacted, is working on this situation.
these laws are from the 50's and should be changed
It's funny the child support laws are supposed to stop people from making babies without the means of paying for them. Problem is people are always going to have sex. Alot of financially strapped people exspecially women use this to extort money from the govt. Not for the needs of the child but to fill up their own pocket. Meanwhile the poor father cant find qork in a jobless economy but is set to pay min wage. If he dont pay they take his license so thenche cant work at all. Doesnt that fall under the "cruel and unusal punishment" law provided in the eigth amendment of the constitution?
I work at least 60 hrs a week to afford child support at 2100.00 a month for two kids plus 400 in insurance after taxes I am left with 400 a month and she has a job making 15 an hour how is this fair !!!!
Why do women get do,icicle what is the parent fitness it should be looked into more because if they need child support they can't take care of the child
The law is in favor of custodial parent only.
I am a mother and grandmother a daughter whom never received any child support a son with $45000 yr ends up with $12000 YR NO TAX DEDUCTION does not qualify for any help he has no life what right do you have to take his life your laws create what you call DEAD BEAT DADS texas laws give no rights to the dads if you can not afford a lawer infact it does not matter in texas. my son has a right to have a life as well again your laws create the so called DEAD BEAT DADS
There are too many people depending on child support to be able to get their hair and nails done. They are not spending it on the children as they should. The laws that are set in place basically force money from a man or else. Mothers who have children by people who they are not married to should not be able to receive child support payments. Some people end up paying child support even if they are taking care of their children. When I had my son, I was a teenager and I was basically forced to put his father (whom is now my husband) on child support or my child would not have been able to receive Medicaid. Do you see how the government forces men on child support just because they are not the person to give birth. I HATE child support. It is just another way to keep our men down. People make mistakes and should not have to pay for it for the rest of their lives even if they have straightened themselves up and got a family. A married man would not be an ideal dad to an outside child simply because they have to TAKE CARE OF THEIR HOUSEHOLD. It is not a sin to neglect a mistake that was made at a previous time that God had already forgiven you for.
I have an 11 year old and I am paying child support that pays for her mother's free living for her boyfriend and their 3 kids they have a house while I have to work 12 hours a day to make ends meet to raise my 3 year old twins and I still can't afford a house
The laws are unfair
The laws are unfair and need to be changed !
It's time to hold all parents accountable. I'm a hardworking mother of two and I watch my husband get squeezed dry from his ex wife who parties and sits on her butt! The kids are with us the majority of the time and he is a great father. She threatened to try and get more out of him recently. What a loser!!
I pay a lot in child support plus a portion of my bonus goes to the lazy Ex. She refuses to work a full time job as a nurse so that i can suffer. The fathers who are there for their children, have careers for their children get shafted because outrageous amounts of child support and Unwillingness for an Ex to work to her full potential. Unfair and this needs to change.
Child support should be base on how much it cost to maintain a child by both parents not just on a percent of income of the non custodial parent makes. How the child support is spent should also be monitored to make sure the money is being spent on the child if the custodial parent can not financially support the child custody should be given to the parent who can. Here in Texas there is alot of prejudice againts fathers seems like Texas is pro-mom they do a flat percentage of income they do not take into consideration of mortages, school loans or other expenses just like they don't care on what the child support is spent on.
I am all for child support but it is one sided the women collect and the men are forced to struggle to help the woman payu bills that she was paying before she had a child, child support is for the child not for her to pay her bills and not have a job, i have been forced into poverty and will lose my house =, but you preach support i cant even do anything with my son and dont have a home to bring him to, but she does
The Child Support System is the civil rights plight of our time, it will continue to murder father's all over the country until it is modified. When a guy goes on NATIONAL TELEVISION to "Discuss the Brutal System of Indentured Servitude" and instead SETS HIMSELF ON FIRE!!! in order to draw attention to the atrocities the support system perpetrates you'd think Congress would take a step back and say, "Hey, is there anything weird about this system that would make these fathers blow their brains out???" They don't and I sit here in tears, terrified of this system. I'm a slave, a slave to my ex-wife, a slave to the State and Federal government, and I will never be free until my children, whom I NEVER see because of the inexplicable lack of enforcement of the ONLY thing that matters, visitation, are out of college. It makes me sick, I feel like a prisoner, at least a prisoner can seek forgiveness for his sins, a father estranged from his children and extorted by the very government sworn to protect him and his rights has nothing to atone for? No crime to learn from... His only crime was to be a father? Yet, the courts, again, WON"T ENFORCE VISITATION! It's so blatant that the only reason for the system is to get more money and to make it so the government doesn't have to support women and their children. That is the ONLY REASON THE SYSTEM IS THE WAY IT IS. It makes me want to kill myself everyday. Instead I quit my job and am starting my own business to attempt to escape the horrendous punishment that has befell me, if I fail I go to jail, as a martyr, I feel we as fathers should all refuse support and simply ask for 50/50 custody. Why not? It makes it so simple! If we split the cost of the children right down the middle, why the heck do they even need support. The only reason is bc the gov't doesn't want to foot bill and men are scared to death to challenge it because they are chastised as bad dads, low life's, dead beat dads, etc. IT's BS! It needs to stop.
The child support guild lines are unrealistic, unfair, and make it to where a man can not afford anything. why does the cost of one child differ from another. I have two children, one I pay child support. The mom of the child that i pay child support for is driving around in a brand new car, when my wife and I share a truck because we cant afford another vechial. I make less than 30,000 a year and I was ordered to pay 15,000 a year. The child support system is a scam. Some women take advantage of the system.
When I was originally divorced I couldn't afford a place of my own so stayed with my 85 year old (at the time) grandmother for almost 2 years after. I then got a small apartment, filed a motion to modify visitation/child support to obtain shared parenting and share 50% of the cost to support my 4 children. I was fought by my ex and the court, and spent over $10k on a GAL and my own attorney. That went on for over 2 years. Once I filed dropped the motion to modify child support my ex agreed (almost immediately) to the shared parenting. So I am still paying 100% of the child support I was prior yet I have more than doubled my overhead costs. I would pay whatever the cost to be with my children as they are the most import part of my life. I have 3 sons and fear they will be thrown down the gauntlet of the child support system themselves someday. Our leaders need to act on this important issue.
whole system is a scam to make $ off the dad, for everyone but the slave himself.
I got involved with a woman that i never should of. I lived in Illinois. She got pregnant, moved to Louisiana to have the baby, and started asking for child support. I understand paying child support and happy to do my part. I would love custody of my daughter and can most certainly give her a better live. But i am a man and the laws favor the wormen. She hasnt worked in years, her mother works from home, and now she is saying she is going to school. She is using state/federal money to go to school. She dropped out of college before and still hasnt paid those past bills. She has a large amount of debt. She is going to take online courses and doesnt want to put our daughter in daycare but wants someone to come to the house while she is there. So i have to pay 100% of child support, 100% of the daycare, 100% of medical insurance and medical bills, and never get to see my child. If she works, its for her father and not taxed so she doesnt have to share any of the financial burden of the legal child support. She gets to claim all the taxes. Whats worse is she doesnt even have anyone come for daycare and she pockets all the money. I have to pay more money to go to court and fight for what little rights a man has in this situation. Its outrageous.
I am also an Army veteran. My wife cheated on me, drained the bank account and left me. I now pay 75% of my children's care at 1500 per month in child support and medical insurance. When they get nice things and go on trips, I pay. I was just ordered to pay my ex 17k from a house that I am struggling to sale because I cant afford to do the necessary repairs to put it on the market. I pay $700 per month for mortgage on that house, in addition to the house I live in ( in another state ) costing me 1500 per month and my girlfriend is paying 500 per month for the loan she took out to pay my ex the 17k. My ex is engaged to another man, just used the 17k and child support to buy a house for her fiance', his kids and my kids. She is living the dream while I am struggling. I can't even take care of myself without help from my girlfriend although my income indicates that I should be doing great. My ex gets a free ride though life while I struggle. To add insult to injury, every year, she claims my kids on her income tax return. Where is the justice in that? Meanwhile, I am taxed at the highest percentage because of my income, as if I have no dependents or responsibilities. There is no way that it's fair for her to receive that money tax free while I pay the highest percent taxes on it.between her and the IRS, I only receive 50% of my income to live off of! I am angry at this system. It does not work for dads who pay child support!

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