Unfair child support laws

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It's absolutely ridiculous the amount of women that live off of child support, when the money is to take care of the child not a lazy women that doesn't feel like having a job. We have so many women having babies by multiple men just to collect money it's disgusting. And everyone else ends up taking care of these low life's because not only do they collect child support they also get help from the state and why wouldn't they they get more money being a low life with no job. The states system is messed up. End of story.
I think it's unfair see a lot of men turn to drugs and have no hope of any when on child support Obama or someone need to give us men some breathing room it's to much
When I was 19 Got someone pregnant, I surrendered my child to his grandparents 3 years a go. My balance is $36,093.00 How in the world can I ever pay this off? Please help....
I also agree both parents should be held responsible the court gives to much le-way to these women my sons mother is allowed to leave the state without no regard to me she can't keep a job and has never had her own place to live I have worked my job for eight years and have my own place she has no responsibility and I'm afraid never will it's sad to see that the courts didn't determine custody due to facts my son would have a better life to lead if he was under my constant care she has done nothing to encourage or educate only is instilled her poor values in his life my new wife and our daughter is highly educated knows how to save money do chors and use her manners.......and she is only four please take a look at these situations because America is failling us now and our children's future
I belive there should be a few changes why is it fair that the father is forced to pay only I do not mind supporting my daughter what really upsets me is I have been paying for her stuff before child support and she try's to get me for back child support how can every thing I bought with recipts be dismissed? I don't belive that is right it is showing some women who abuse this system just to make kids and force them to pay child support when the kid is old enough they can be working part time.
Someone has to take a serious look at this! My husband and I have children from previous relationships, so I know exactly how things work with receiving child support. My daughter's father has paid support from the very beginning. His support obligation is $41/wk and there were times that he fell behind and I never applied for TANF. I worked for the things I needed to provide for my child. With that being said, I think my husband's situation is absolutely ridiculous! He has twins by a woman that he didn't find out about until they were 4 years old, because she didn't know who the father was and he pays support regularly. My husband has to pay back the $900 that she received from TANF and I don't think that's at all fair. Getting on TANF is a choice! There are millions of single mothers that have not gone that route and they get along just fine. I do not feel that it is fair nor should it be legal to force the non-custodial parent to pay back funds the custodial parent chose to receive. She could have and should have went out and found a job. It seems as though the government is giving a free pass to custodial parents that just want to sit around, be lazy, and collect assistance. That's not right! If anything split the cost of the DNA test (because the non-custodial parent has to pay that back as well) and TANF between both parents, 50/50. As a WOMAN WHO RECEIVES CHILD SUPPORT, I feel that you have an obligation to take care of your children whether or not you receive child support. And as a woman who has gone months without receiving child support, I also feel that if you have no mental or physical factors that prevent you from working, then there is no need whatsoever to receive TANF! Men are always told to step up to the plate, well some of these "women" need to step up to the plate as well. Stop waiting for the government and/or support to fulfill the obligations that you as a parent have to your child. If I never receive another child support payment, my daughter will be fine, because I'm not going to wait for others to do for my child what I'm capable of doing.
There is a simple way to establish the share of child support obligations of both parents:
Each parent, each year submit their Federal Tax return, and the support obligation is then determined upon that.
No more retaining an attorney to go back to court and all it's related expense.
I for one have had to pay one year alone, more in child support payments than I made in wages.
Got behind because of a layoff. Had I had the funds to secure an attorney, I wouldn't be up the proverbial creek as I am now.
My son was given his baby daughter. Mom was a stripper and didn't want her. No child support for him! Four years later Mom shows up, gets 50/50 time sharing and $200.00 per month. She doesn't work because she is living with her Bouncer boyfriend from the strip club. What is wrong with this scenario and law?
Child support in this country is broken. When I had custody of my child, they didn't want to get my babies mom for child support. Now that we share custody, they came after me! Talk about racism against men in this country
These laws are ridiculous! Not only are there mothers out there that dont work and wait on cs payments but there are also mothers who work and use cs payments on themselves instead of the child!
Give these people the Opportunity to Abuse the System .......and they Surely will.........ever wonder why our economy is the way it is ?
Give these people the Opportunity to Abuse the System .......and they Surely will.........ever wonder why our economy is the way it is ?
CS has some serious changing they need to do. It's ridiculous .
CS has some serious changing they need to do. It's ridiculous .
Women are trapping men with good paying jobs and abusing the child support system. There needs to be change.
I think they should re-look over cases every 6 months.My husband cant take care of his family now because of child support.we get no help an can not pay the bills an eat, have gas, power...ext BUT the moma's get all the help..food stamps, afdc, living asst, light asst, plus child support an then...all that money at the end of tha year..It should be split..I know it takes 2..but the men cant live with them taking 60% of what they make..
A layoff from a job equals doom for the non custodial parent. Layoffs are am epidemic these days and neither the state nor child support people are willing to do anything to help the do in fact choose to crucify. License suspension prevents us from finding decent paying jobs. I'm apart of my kids lives daily from school to being an actual hands on dad and still treated as though I'm a 3rd rate citizen. I've been taking care if my babies since they arrived in this world and continue to do so but child support laws for dads such as myself who are active in their child's lives are unfair and gender biased. It also violates our rights to life liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
My husband and I have two kids together, plus my husband has a 12 year old daughter with another lady who has 5 kids in total with 3 different men. We pay close to $500 a month for CS for just one kid. We cannot afford to buy our kids and our self many things because of how much CS my husband has to pay. Plus the mother is always asking us to buy her new clothes and shoes . She is working but doesn't report her income only her boyfriend's income and food stamps . I'm going crazy mad not being able to afford anything for our kids.
It's pretty messed up that a person can lose their driver's license over back child support and be sentenced to jail because they may not be financially stable enough to take care of a child. As long as a father puts in the effort to be a part of his child's life and does as much as he possibly can I don't understand what the problem is. Just another way to keep a man behind bars.
It's pretty messed up that a person can lose their driver's license over back child support and be sentenced to jail because they may not be financially stable enough to take care of a child. As long as a father puts in the effort to be a part of his child's life and does as much as he possibly can I don't understand what the problem is. Just another way to keep a man behind bars.
I get child support but I work 40hr weeks i paid for daycare when my son was under 5. I feel if you need child support you need to be fixed if your on welfare you should be fixed Im sick of watching girls pop out all these kids and taking the guy through the dirt and sit on their butts the whole time
Ridiculous that you lose your driver's license when you get a certain amount behind. Then people end up driving without the license, trying to work, getting charged for driving on a suspended license, sentenced to jail and/or probation, violate probation because they can't pay that either, more jail. People who had perfectly clean records now have a criminal record affecting the ability to get a job. Many jobs you can't get without a license. My job can't be done without a passport and driver's license. There are really some stupid child support laws in Tennessee
I just signed a petition on fake domestic crime. Now I will also
ask for this law to be passed. I
personally have had this happen
to my son. This girl who has been diagnosed with a personality disorder. She had my grandson
who she mentally abused for
years after she kicked my son
out,reason she was sick of him
My poor grandson was with us most of the time because he was
to busy for her. I loved having him for days and nights.it became clear what she was about, caught her in so many lies


Then she played him the pawn to
get what she wanted from us. We didn't give she would not let us see him.Well it's a long story,but
I have temp. guardianship for 2 yrs. in plymouth ma. court. waiting for judge to decide if I can have full custody?? Well no child no welfare, child support and lost
her housing..So what she to do,
she finds new prey.matter less then a year, she's pregnant. I don't know if he new he has a baby? They had a fight calls in
a medical and he was medi flighted out due to being stab in the neck by her. The police said
a domestic, he in jail, she prosecuted him. I only know this
from my grandchild court hearing.
Need I say more. My grandson suffers from p.t.s.d. From her.
Now here we have another child
with a mother who is not going to
get a job,and suck off the state.
She is a hoarder,she came from
hoarders. Believe me, I know she
is sitting doing nothing and getting everything she can from the state. I don't know this man that is now sitting in jail. But I'm
sure she is working on his parents, if they believe her sob story,maybe maybe not. Here is another child in the hands of someone that just wants him to
collect what she can and it's given to her from our state of ma.
It's a out right disgrace!!!!!!
IT'S only fair
Child support and custody laws need to be overhauled, responsible fathers shouldn't be subjected to such unfair laws.
The family court system is a crime!!
I agree with all the people post so far. I think child support should only be for parents who are absent and not spending any money to support the children in anyway. I think that the laws for child support are one sided and unfair. The laws are suppose to be equal and they are not and the fathers are the slaves while the woman get the free ride. I also strongly believe that the mother's should be forced to show receipts of the purchases for the children!
I think that the mothers should be forced to show receipts of the purchases for the kids., or it should be taxed.
I think that the mothers should be forced to show receipts of the purchases for the kids., or it should be taxed.
I think that the mothers should be forced to show receipts of the purchases for the kids., or it should be taxed.
I do believe male or female should pay chid support. But you have to be able to live too
I never approved of child support because these ladies that are collecting it say that the father is sorry and don't wont to take care of the child. When really they're the unfit parent who's able to punish the other parent by placing them on child just to be evil, and who don't really care or wont to take care of the child.
The mother of my step child collects child support and doesn't work. She has a degree to be a dental hygienist and she is too lazy to go for it. She is now pregnant with another baby from another man and will be doing the same for the next child. This has to stop. If a woman is physically capable of working then that should be enforced.
There should be more equality in the court rooms. If a man is taking care of his children he shouldn't have to pay support just so the woman can sit at home and do nothing.
There needs to be more equality practiced in the court rooms when it come to handling child support.
I have my children 50-50. Me and the mothers never married, so I have pay when they with me and when they with them. equally rights, "RIGHT"
Lock me up!!! Im not paying shit!!
I also think that the mothers should be forced to show receipts of the purchases for the kids., or it should be taxed.
Sad. Some women have babies, don't take care of them just to collect child support. Then they have some guy living with them who treats them and their kids like crap. Seen it on TV too many times. Life is about second chances. If a guy has a baby and the mother turns out to be she-devil, it's not his fault. But he has to pay most of his money for child support to a mother who only wants to collect. Hello, Kanye Wests Gold digger song, listen to the lyrics.....
equal rights, not really

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