Unfair child support laws

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The goverment should seek for other options for parents that can't pay for child support that are unemployed, its not fair to go to jail, for not being able to find a job.
The goverment should employed them and take the child support from the paycheck.
Poorly worded with grammatical erros. The point is valid though; my taxes on wage/salary should not be going to the state/locality along with a monthly payment while including my tax return all year and every year. The mothers asked for equal rights and they were given, now it's time that men get a square deal in all this foolishness with the court systems, the Child Support Enforcement Agency, fair dealings with cusodial and visitation. If the men (in the majority of cases) are told the be financially liable and are forced to make diffixult at times visitation requirements then why don't the men just have custody? It seems as though our pay, insurance, home, vehicle, and taxes are good enough to be asked of or forcefully taken but not good enough for the child to live with the father (again in the majority of cases). I would love for the government to describe that and give reason to why non-custodial parents are not as significant as the custodial. Assuming of course there were no records of abuse, neglect, or otherwise unfit qualities.
And they shouldn't go off the others income. Who gives a crap how much the non custodial parent makes?? Just because he makes more doesn't mean it cost more to keep his child alive. They should have a flat rate based off location and age. And provide support for those who can't support it. both parents have equal rights to their kids, or should. Yet the mother gets all the rights the tax return and has her living paid for. Hmmmm and you wonder why so many "deadbeats" choose a different path. When it's prison or singing rights, pretty much becomes a one option choice. Either way you're officially outta your kids life for the foreseeable future.
Mother of children that are under child support should show recites of how they are spending the child support money, bcuz these women are using on bar tabs, clubs, it should go to the child like it's intended.
In addition to this the custodial parent income should play a part in how much the noncustodial parent should have to pay. and the non custodial parent should be allowed to claim the child every other year on his/her taxes as a duduction. some parents have to pay thousands a month in support. To which they cant write off and the custodial parent doesn't haver to calim as income.
I wanna be in my sons life. I shouldn't have to fight so hard to be in his life. My son will probably end up in jail or so in the future cause family court want my money and no say so. Im a good guy and I thought men and women had equal rights until I had s child. Courts is made to punish men and reward women for having kids.
Men are getting ROBBED by the mother of their children! How is a man suppose to support the family he has living with him if most of his paycheck is going to someone else? Something needs to be done!
Men are getting ROBBED by the mother of their children! How is a man suppose to support the family he has living with him if most of his paycheck is going to someone else? Something needs to be done!
Its only right for the mothers to help support the children the help bring into the world. Women yell for the same rights as men..well make them support their children the same as men have to. I've done it for 13 years without my ex..pretty sure if I can do it so can every other woman. Its not hard to get off your*****and work unless you just dont want to.
When I got my divorce, My wife's brother was her attorney. At that time I worked part time making around 350 take home. I have two children but when my order was given it was based on a one week time span when I sold fireworks and made 700 dollars. I was ordered to pay $260.00 a week PLUS $65.00 a week for child care. I told the judge I didn't even make that much and they said it was figured on your earning potential? As you can guess I racked up a large amount of back support over the years along with interest. My kids are now married with kids of there own and I still owe over 20,000 in arranges after paying over 100,000 in 25 years. In 1990 I earned 16,500 dollars and paid to FOC nearly 12,000. Try living on that left over for one year. Because she had custody she got a big tax refund every year as well, and she was on ADC.
My husband was with gis ex for two weeks and she got pregnant and had a son with him. She filed child support on him and was ordered to pay $625 a month eve though he has 50/50 custody and mad $2700 a month. We are married and have three children together and live in a one bedroom apartment while she lives in a five bedroom house with her boyfriend who pays for everything. Our family struggles every month to make bills on time and are stuck in a 650sq ft apartment with give people so she can collect child support on a child he takes care of half time any way. Our system is out of controll!
For those men who were supporting there families an there wives went out and had an affair and that's the cause of divorce. Is it fair that he have to even pay child support? He was supporting them for as long as they were married! Had she been faithful there may have not been a divorce! These women feel they can do as they please and still come out on top. When do we make them step up and pay for what they've done. If the want to cheat and be unfaithful then they should have to pay the price! But instead they know they can cheat and in the end still receive money, while the man is now struggling just to support himself, many have had to move back in with family. That's not right, women wanted to be treated equal to men, then they should be. A man cheats, yeah he deserves to pay, he should've been faithful. A women cheats, she should find out what it's like to have consequences and not get everything she wants. It's time to show men some rights as far as that goes, if the women can't provide without child support then the men should get full custody and she should have to pay. Make a change, women want to be treated equal, then we should both be treated equal!
I have fought severe PAS for many years
The courts never looked at the serious issue
other then a minor oversight my my x-wife
Now many years later after no communication with my daughters ( I have tried emails , letters to no success
My x-wife now has gotten a judgement for $85,000 for college even though I was never consulted about college
The non-custodial parent has suffered too long . I have decided to run for president and my major platform is making non-custodial equals and abolishing current laws
Every other group has received equality but not the non-custodial parent
MY name is Larry Rock
Please write me in for president
That is the only way we will have rights and be treated as equals
Presently we have less rights then prisoners
Thank you for you support
Why is it so hard to get child support from a woman? My son is 8 and I have won custody in court and suppot 100% of the cost for raising my son. I am not on food stamps or any government assistance so it's no big deal to the states to go after her for child support! I have filed in two different states and one 5 years ago the other three years ago and nothing! Not even a tax lean on the mother. If she had gotten custody I would be facing jail time or child support within 90 day. As most men do. Completely unfair laws!!!!
I have multiple sclerosis I can't work******I can barely walk and because it my ex boyfriend put my 2 kids on his food stamps and Medicaid but the the judge still ordered me to pay what do I do not pay until I get my disability because I have no income
How is this a free country wen they mk u pay ever month to see ur kids u bought into this world wen its not even ur fault no one should have to pay to see their little ones they n limited to the time they get to see them on top of everything else it should be half n half time n no child support I can't help it one parent mks more are wants to better their self n their kids I gota pay for my kids n my ex wife n her deadbeat boyfriend n they still won't leave me alone this is not a free country wen u gota pay to see ur babies n limited to the time u get n then u go to jail if u don't pay but a drug dealer are a murder get out of jail it's not bt the kids its bt the money n trying mk a gd guy struggle cause they know he pay to stay out of jail n he never did a thing wrg in his life my ex was the drug head but the court system did not do a thing bt it not a free country
You should have to provide proof were are money goes! And there should be a 2 year limitation on arrears!
This system is obviously logically completely screwed. I am a human being, as are my beautiful woman and our daughter.

We share our love, we share our home, we share our finances.

I shouldn't have to be harassed to the point of suicide by the state just because we are an unmarried couple with a child.

The Child Support system needs IMMEDIATE reform for the sake of fairness towards all the good fathers out there who live WITH their partner and their child, giving all the support and nurturing Child Support claims they need, but are just unmarried. We are exactly as a married couple, except unmarried. What on earth is so hard to understand about that?

Oh wait, Child Support laws aren't about what is right and moral, it's about using men as cash slaves for the state, government, and pathetic women who take advantage of a corrupt agency.

Good ethics trump bad laws Congress, quit milking us unmarried (but fully supporting) WORKING fathers dry.

US REAL MEN, WHO SUPPORT OUR FAMILIES BUT ARE UNMARRIED, ARE COMPLETELY AWARE OF WHAT THESE LAWS ARE ATTEMPTING TO DO TO US.

KNOCK IT OFF!
Time for a change!
Simply put, it makes sense to have mothers show where funds from child support go. In some cases mothers go clubbing, shopping for self, or nuture drug addictions with funds collected from child support
We need change! Deadbeats aren't held responsible (men and women), poor dads and middle class dads alike lose too much of their income to child support, and most of the time it's an unfair amount.. Child support should not be more than your rent!
The Mother of child is a UC College Graduate. Whom decided to not work, she sits on Welfare and collects Child support. Following true to the culture of welfare recipients unfortunately the 16 is now pregnant! She doesnt allow visitation she tells him the daughter doesn't want to talk to you (but he pays her cell), tells the child he doesnt care about her,(because they dont live together) which has really stranded the father/daughter relationship . So the mother needs to be cut off of both because she has failed as a parent . She allowed the children to sleep together under her roof . She didn't tell him she is pregnant (she said we thought you didn't give a f***) as she called about more money. Telling the child how the Dad ain't Shit. Oh Really neither are you! Frankly I'm tired of my tax dollars going to aid well educated people when I didn't even go to college, I have 3 of my own children that I raise on my single income(Yesz I got up and found a great career). I divorced my husband and took only my movies and my children. I dont want or get any support. Women, you didnt ask the government to have a baby but use them to alter the lifestyle of the man. If you want more for your child YOU have to go get it. It's a choose to not work and nothing is wrong with you. It's very Empowering to know that all I have, I earned myself. My children Respect ME . I am their role model. A Strong Independent Single Woman.
America stop rewarding laziness . P.s. I also know welfare recipients that file taxes and get back thousands. But I make too much and always owe. Reward the middle class that leaves there kids everyday to make a better life for them...
You should have to show for every dime of child support u spend on the child. The mother should not get a raise in child support every time the father gets one, these women have 3 incomes coming in, if they work, there spouses income and the child support check, to the father's one income trying to support his self and his family. If the mother request for more money she should have to show that it is spent on the child and the child only. It should be a 50/50, if u get 400 in child support u need to prove more than 800 a month is used for this child.
When is it enough? We were divorced back in 2013 (New York). So far, I've been taken to Family Court 2 times as she had stated it's not enough. The first 26 Months I've helped out to the best I can. Paid Housing for my son, making sure she can get back on her feet and pay for the 17% as stated on the Judgement of Divorce, plus the Medical Expenses as required. All the support and extra was deposited directly to her bank account. I never wanted to be labled as someone bad, but honestly, how far can this go legally? (retorical question).
Just recently a Summons was issued for yet another request (making it a 3rd time) as she stated "my expenses have gone up". I am not sure what it means, but as far as I know, I've been generous, patient and attentive to the needs of my son. On the 27th Month, I just deposited ONLY Child Support and my medical expense was changed to Family Plan as I got happily married to a great woman. This was a major deduction on my weekly check.

Here's the other thing about my ex-wife. She moved without telling me her current address. Her number was unknown. She never wanted to be harrassed by me. She'd call and the caller ID would come up either "UKNOWN" or "ANONYMOUS". She calls to say "you don't love your son... you don't care about him" or "I need money for....". I am not for childish mind games. I am responsible and know what actions to take within reason. Well, this is an expensive lesson learned. Not towards my Son, but only the ex-wife.

Well, I concluded, this is what happens to Nice Guys. It's better off just being a Good Guy and do things right. For this I can only be mad at myself.
I'm paying child support to a ***** ex wife who is remarried to an ex con and also a white supremacists . I've been paying her about $500/mo. And am supposed to have joint custody. I have seen my daughter in 3;4 years now . took her back to court and all judge had to say is what took me so long. But yet be did nothing to her. And yet I'm still getting screwed the courts in eau Claire wi need to be reformed and judge Novak is a bies judge. A former cs attorney. What a joke. She does work but still I'm paying for a child I don't get to see or talk to. How's that fair
I'm ordered to pay 800 a month for my 2 sons and I only make 2000 a month gross pay. After you factor in taxes I make 1800 or less, how can I survive When rent is 700+ and all I got left is 300 for food,gas,phone bill and power. Things need to change.
Everyone's situation is different. The women my husband pays child support to lives an extravagant life. She has collected from 2 different father's and is still collecting from my husband. She makes over 50k a year and has a live in boyfriend of over 2 years whom makes alot of money. We are a one income family, because unfortumatly we cant afford daycate for 3 chikdten. We hv paid her over 100k and not one dime has been set aside for my stepson. How is this aloud? We have been married for 9yrs and have threechildren. The court says our children are insignificant. How as a parent can I feel good about being a step parent when child support drains my finances and limits what i can do for my own children. Most step parent relationships do not last. In fact about 75% of them fail. It should be whoever the child is with be the parent that provides for that child, being most custody situations are shared. An account for that child should be set up where both parents contribute a set forth amount, until a limit of a set amount is reached and/or the child has reached 18yrs of age. No parent shoud be subject to this fail and ridiculous system of what one parent should contribute while the other is living off the other. Work on this problem. There is no parent that doesn't want to provide for their child, there are only the parents who do not want to feed the account of the primary parent. NH step-mom.
Heres some truth about court & the system.my sons mother lied in court saying I see my son one day a week 14 hours a day.both represented are selfs but I thought I had all proof to win.I have my son 4 days 3 nites plus been to all baseball practices, games, trophy days, buying his equipment, paying his cell phone, clothes, etc........I lost.judge gave her 800 a month.wtf.now Im going back with a lawyer.just goes to show women can lie threw there teeth and get it all when all false.my son cries when he has to leave me.this system is so outdated from the 50's.women are using kids as money nothing more.wakeup congress.u give illegals everything wtf.tired of the system a joke.
My fiance and I are about go get married in December. His ex aka the baby mama whom he never married at all is now demanded he pay $910 in child support. He was paying $105 then got laid off from a job and yet still has to pay child support during the lay off. He has since found a job. She is making sure we do not get married at all. She barely lets him talk to their son on the phone. When he does its like 5 to 20 mins tops that is it she is always on the phone blah blah blahing. He ask how he is doing and she won't answer without her drama b.s coming into it. He hasn't talked to their son in 2 weeks and she keeps lying saying I am not keeping your son from you. She won't work at all her excuse is bosses need to work around my schedule cause of my son. Not all places around in this town will do that. Something needs to be done where is the father rights in this? My soon to be husband loves his son but one day I pray my soon to be stepson sees Daddy was doing all the hard work while mommy took the money to go party.
My ex is on disability, while working cash jobs, I have 50/50, right down the middle and still have to pay 225 a week and be threatened with jail every other month. She is a sponge that does nothing but soak up money to spend partying . She lives in her dad's spare house and only pays electric. It's wrong, she should get nothing, I'm put in hardship because of her laziness and the lawmakers and people in the government. Child support goes unchecked, I get cuffed in front of my kids and lose my job, my apartment and custody? Who does that favor? Why is it that way?
I pay child support on my daughter whom I don't get to see because she is a baby. I get 3 hour visits every other weekend because she is "too young to be out of the care of her mother". I ask when this will change with a simple "when she is older" response. I asked if I should even feel like a father with such a stipulated visitation. This is what the mother pushed for because AFTER we split up I met another woman. Feeling threatened about how "nobody will play mommy with our child" she pushed for those stipulations. Funny thing is I pay my money faithfully to my child's mother that I really don't feel like a father to. I was stripped of that over jealousy and the government putting their two cents where it didn't belong. So basically the woman and the government team up and set up the senario how ever they please. I didn't have a voice of my own in this matter. The only voice I could have had was the voice of a 5,000 dollar attorney that I couldn't afford. Something has to change here!
Unable to work three jobs due to biological nature of this body, I am shorted of the freedom I thought as a child I thought I would have. I wait these days taking the steps I see most advantageous knowing I will still work as a slave until my debt is erased. Oboma care expects me to work to pay for "free insurance" I watched it pass and I lost even more hope of escaping my shackles made by whom I don't even see. I have a child whom I haven't seen in two years! Three months after he was born my "love" fell short of trustworthy and I was kicked to the curb a pregnancy only made due to my sperm and not my actions. My son grows and I fade, When I attempted to be back in his life I bit my lip and grinded my teeth to bare the unrelenting cold, I found myself two jobs and she told me with lure to get an apartment, so I did a month later she filled for child support and my life was drained even more now unable to feed myself but dried beans. One night she refused to let me walk home my hormones from closterphobia set my body out of her car, I skid on the asphalt trying to stop my shoe falls off and I grind my foot into the ground. I managed to stay alive. I bailed on my apartment since I wasn't acceptable to work in the facility with wounds. Every time I get to go visit my son at her loft there was always a beer bottle in his reach, unable to call anyone out of fear of never seeing him again months later I get to babysit for her "needs" which was fun but still to poor to actually let my son see more of our world, those times have passed and I just sit and wait until a change, I go to school because I pays me more just enough for a couple meals a week and to continue, now recently told she will be moving and thus time will pass never knowing my first child. Between all the insurance we are now forced to pay I only have hope to get a job after school and pay for my debts for a handful of years rather than work and work and possibly never seeing a time which a normal person should have. To those that pursue happiness I wish the best of luck to you and to my son and in the end everything turns out okay.
I am bound to the earth in which I stand. I am a slave unable to feed my self, told that I am forced to work to pay for insurance when I can even afford anything I need. Unable to fix my car, fix my life. I sit here watching time pass as my child grows unable to see him. I am shackeled and dulled never able to escape. My life is ending before my very eyes, never to see my sons smiles, share fun times with any friends or acquire a job. I would have to take out a loan to work and that sounds highly sensible when you can't even pay for insurance. America has never been free that is known me we are just the Unofficial slaves of America which I stand here await freedom or forced into further debt, the only freedom is that of those to make a carpet of paper money which they can use to fly where ever they might wish.
First off the woman is raising her( child or children) on her own,,Be it the guy did not want the child from the beginning in the first place or whatever the situation may be the mother is doing all the work of raising a child totally on her own ..Oh ,with the father making an appearance on the weekends..Most times mothers do have a job and do it all on their own..Dads show up on weekends and take their (child or children) to Mcdonald's or Burger King,,Wow! Afterward if they do have the (child or children) for the weekend they get to drop them off to the mother and go on their merry way to their single lifestyle..Never worrying about getting up during the evening if children get sick..Never worrying about doing laundry ,cooking for them or getting anything done for their children at all during the week..Just taking care of themselves..
Child Support should be counted as a deduction for the payee and income for the receiver! You can't tell me 100% is used on the child and even if it was you have to claim your child's income if they work, so what's the difference. Guidelines in Utah are so vague too, that you don't know what you have to pay extra for! Nothing to say what child support pays for!
I agree with Reggie. I have lost my Security Guard License and Drivers License. No matter where I work my wages are garnished and my taxes have been intercepted for years. They truly are creating deadbeats. The real problem is coming from those who make these laws. It needs to STOP so that fathers can have an opportunity to support themselves as well.
In the state of Maryland, the CSS is so easily manipulated that even if you do have proof to show that you are instrumental to your child's life and well being, they don't care. All they want to see is payments. My child s mother sends me threatening text messages, they don't want to see or hear it. She has me on child support but yet, Im unable to find work due to the fact that my daughter is with me 12 hours out the day while she works and does whatever after work. Something has to give, I would at least like some leancy to be given to the defendant in these cases to show and prove that we are more than just supporters. This system is so easily manipulated its a joke. Alot of these cases need to be investigated before they throw deadbeat on anyone.
In California they will take away any vocational license that you may have such as Security Guard License and Driver's License. Why would they take away your ability to pay your debt when they can already garnish your wages and intercept your tax returns? This is way too excessive.

They say they're punishing deadbeats. But in reality they are creating them. By them committing these unjust acts they cost me over $250,000.00 in earnings.
Child support laws in Wyoming are crooked!! Something needs to be done!!.
I think child support is a joke. My husband's ex kept his daughter from him had their daughter thinking another man was her dad all while she was collecting 450 dollars a month. He took her to court got court ordered visit and still she played games taking trips out of state,telling her daughter that she hates us so she should too. The courts took her side and my husband had to pay. Now she's 16 and adopted by the man the mother wanted to be her dad. But she made sure to squeeze the last drops of money from us through the child support office. The same place her mommy works at. I know my hubby was and is a good dad...we have 3 kids of our own. He just wasn't given the chance because the court took what the mom said as gold and most men are just paychecks and a donor....it's like the moms get to decide who's the "dad" and they can do as they please while the men pay
I was recently released from jail on a child support case. And have obtained a job after a month or so. I've been set up payment arrangements which garnished my wages. I've been contacted my prosecuting attorney. From which he informed me if I did not have a full payment paid within the month my probation would be violated for contempt. I just feel helpless in this situation.
Child support is a shameful and embarrassing gig. Women who use and abuse the system, and deadbeat father's who helped urge it along should all be prosecuted in court, just as good father's are each and every day.

The laws are outdated, they represent and incredible bias it's weighted, and a lie. When I DIVORCE my wife, why should she continue to benefit from my post marital successes and at the same time pay NO TSXES hiding under a child support law and provisions that are set up to make father's fail.

At every turn... I fail. My child... wants for nothing. She is very well taken care of, yet my ex wife has nicer things, no debt, and savings because everytime I do better (13 yrs later) I am giving more and more and more. Always more.... and guess what... less and less time with the child.

It's a scam. A well documented and shameful scam.
I think the child support laws are unfair to men and I am a mother. Due to child support laws being so unfair me and my child's father don't go through the state for child support issues. I know some men have to be forced to pay. I have a friend whose wife divorced him for another man. Even though she left him she made his life miserable. She stalked him, stole from his family members, filed a restraining order against him, and moved in with another man. He was left with nothing to his name by the time the divorce was over. He was ordered to pay child support and he did his best. He lost his job and it took a while to get a new one. He was in debt to child support but he would give her cash money and help her out around her house as well as buying the child food. He thought things were going well then he gets a letter from a lawyer stating he is in contempt of court for non payment of child support, of course she never told them he was helping, she was actually pocketing the cash he gave her to pay the lawyer to take him back to court. Fast forward a couple years he takes a job for the oil industry making good money, traveling state to state for work to make a better life for himself and pay off back due support. He eventually starts dating someone 6 years after divorce. She isn't happy even though she left him for another man who she is still with by the way. She doesn't work. She won't give him his visitation bc she doesn't want the new girlfriend around the child even though this girl is a mutual friend of both of them. She has his tax money garnished and his passport revoked, and she threatens him to wire transfer her money by saying things like if u send me money today I'll let u talk to ur daughter on the phone. She threatens to take him back to court for more money bc she feels the amount he pays every week is not enough. She feels jealous that he makes more money. He does make good money and I agree maybe he should pay a little bit more but the state will give her enough that she won't even have to work anymore. I believe it is unfair that a woman divorces a man and then tries to benefit from the new life he has built for himself especially when he pays for all the extras like clothes, school supplies, Christmas, and etc. I think child support should be based on what the child actually needs and the mother should have to pay for the child as well. I don't think she should be awarded $300 a week for one child when she doesn't even have a mortgage or rent, she doesn't even have a car payment. All she pays is utilities and insurance. So child support should be based off what the child needs not so much that the mother doesn't have to work and her and her live-in boyfriend can benefit off of the child's fathers hard earned cash. His daughter doesn't even go to daycare. This system is unfair. They should be taking the mothers bills into account as well as the fathers bills and then the mothers should receive half of what's ac
Stop the license suspension you want father's to work to pay support but you take our transportation to get there when it's no public transportation and when the jobs are lost because father's can't make it u throw us in jail a some of us are honest some of us lost our homes cars and freedom children are supposed to be a blessing not a bill a life changing burden
Main idea has been indicated the letter about petition to congress. Unfair woman deserve responsibility not revenge from breaking the part of a child's father finicial stability. Spending time is definitley more than money can ever be worthto a baby
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