Unfair child support laws

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The system is broken obviously. It is based on laws that made sense 50 years ago. My ex and I make the same amount of money and yet I have to pay for all of the kids medical and give up one third of my salary. Being a teacher, that is not much, and it is causing me to file chapter 7. Meanwhile, she is buying a new car, boat, and is living in the house I helped pay for. I guess for now, me and the kids will continue to eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches when they are with me.
My brother had a son with a woman who is fully capabe to work yet has not had a job since she was pregnant with his son. My nephew is 1.5 years of age. She lives in a one bedroom apartment with her mother, her sister, and her sisters two children. NOT TO MENTION the fact that she wasnt even aware that my brother was the father until July 2014! Why the hell are women getting child support for children that they obviously dont have enough compromise or motherly instinct enough to get at least a part time job to take care of? Would'nt you think that being a mother means sacrificing for your children. She expects my brother to take care of her and my brother also has to pay his ex wife for support as well. They are taking some money from the child support of my two neices in order to pay this woman who doesnt have and refuses to get a job. They have to put a stop to this! I live in the state of Maryland by the way!
I want to know why almost 20k In letters and no response from the govt??!
Current Child Support laws are unfair to Non Custodial Parents. The laws should be uniform, across the board. The Custodial Parent should have to live by the exact same laws outlined for the Non Custodial Parents.
We need to starting voting into office those that really want to make a difference. And fix this growing and injustice problem that allow mother to legally extort money from fathers. That most time is not used for the child's needs.
I am ordered to pay 1260 a month for 2 kids by different mothers. Each gets approx 630 a month. I work as a nurse and so does one of my exes. The other mother has barely worked since our divorce 10 years ago. I struggle to make ends meet each month while the ex that is a nurse is engaged to another man and together they make well over 100k a year. I am in a car that barley runs while my ex is in a new Tahoe and just got back from Hawaii. I wish I could go on vacation but that is out of the question with the amount of support ordered. Why doesn't Texas base child support on both parents income. If the dad makes less money why is he obligated to pay so much to the parent making more money. It just doesn't make any sense. Oh, and you can forget about getting a quick hearing for modification. I have been trying for 6 months to get mine modified. In the meantime I get farther and farther behind. Please revamp the child support system Texas!!
Also if the FATHER is buying the child the necessary items of support with proof of receipts, then he should be shown some form of subtraction of the negotiated amount of money coming out of his paycheck! A lot of FATHER'S like myself pay a large amount of child support and still buy their child/children items of support out of love for their kids!
Texas child support is ridiculous based on percentage and meanwhile my ex gets to sit at home and not work. Now I'm down to 40 hours and still paying $800 a month for 1 child. Something needs to be done
I have recently learned just how unfair child support is to the dads who want to do the right thing. In many households, where there are married couples with children, they both work to support their children. Why are single mothers any different? Why can't they work and find other means of income, instead of having the dad, who they don't even want to let the child see, pay an astronomical amount, where he may have to work two jobs and neglect his other responsibilities to take care of the mom, who doesn't even have to show that she is using the money she is getting for the child. This is just so unfair. There has to be a change! She has to be accountable for the money, and if she isn't spending $1000+ on the child every month, then the amount should be lowered automatically. Mayb just have a bill showing what she has spent on the child and then get paid accordingly, or a debit card that only allows the money to be spent on certain items.
I work hard and love my kids. My ex wife decided she want to be with someone else, so the divorce came. Now I am paying $600 a month for child support, working 50-66 hours a week just to barely pay bills. I have never missed a payment, I am not behind, and yet any "extra" money I earn through bonuses, profit sharing is ALL taken by child support. Even my federal tax return is less than half of what it should be because of child support that I don't owe. I guess they take all of my bonuses "just in case" I ever miss a payment. The system is set up to screw fathers who want and love their children. I can't afford to have them as often as I want. I have to work double shifts almost just to get by. This HAS to change!
This is for all fathers out there that want their children. The court laws regarding child custody are COMPLETELY OUTDATED and need to be CHANGED sooner rather than later. The ex wants child support but then absolutely will not communicate with my son. She was granted permission to leave SC with the children and move to AZ. To me child support should not begin until the divorce is final to be fair to both parties. It is not right that you cannot see your children. Please consider aa parties request in court as this was not done in my sons case. This is a very important part of the process that is unfortunately no taken into consideration. PLEASE CHANGE THE l
LAWS FOR THE BETTER.
I never had a first child. I had first children. I was unfortunate enough to impregnate a nasty piece of work. Well she bore triplets. Soon as we broke up child support started up and i am now living with my sister sleeping on the couch. I still havent missed a single payment but this has already lead me to attempt suicide. There are times where she will keep them from me for extended periods of time. My kids love me and often get very upset when they have to leave daddy. They turn 5 this year and i havent been able to do anything for them really. I've never even owned a car. Ive bought their mother 2. I am just so tired of living in poverty unable to improve my situation. Getting another job wont resolve anything because there is no cap on child support. The more you make the more you pay. It wouldn't be so bad if i was able to partially claim them on my taxes or at least have the amount i pay lower my tax liability. This petition will fall on deaf ears but at least i said my piece.
Funny the tyranny o had 2 wife's both run around on me lol one was even living with me when i got a notice i was 5000 behind. Both secretly went and got a divorce told there attorneys they didn't know where i was lol i lived same house 25 years. Then child support kept the cases separate at 595 a month x 2 i was only grossing 2000 a month and paying 1200 a month i never got my day in court to prove them unfaithful he'll i had a town full of witnesses. Bill Clinton see the ******** u wrote into law. Now mothers who don't wanna work can simply find a man get knocked up 9 months later draw 600-1200 month for 18-22 years per child and draw food stamps thanks bill clinton u just disabled every woman in America if they choose to be.
My son is paying so much in support that he himself can not afford to live. While this girl tricked him into getting her pregnant. She has 3 babies 2 to other father's and that is how she makes her living while sitting home doing nothing.
I pay almost 3,000 a month for two kids (different mothers). Both mothers stopped working, and have decided not to work again because if they do their child support will go down. It is a bit unfair that I am paying for the mothers to get a free ride and do spa days while I work. The system is unfair to fathers. This also includes unfair visiting times due to being male.
I have to pay my ex wife almost $1000 a month I have a wife and another child. I bring home $1600 a month. You can't pay a mortgage and insurance and a car or groceries for $600 a month.... Just a note papers say I have my child 8 days a month but every month is has been 50/50 I have calendar records. So I'm not a dead beat and I am getting screwed seriously. Why does our government wanting to screw dads?.
Fighting with The Mother of my husbands first child currently! We have been together 10 yrs he was never married to her the child will be 13 in July. They have always had 50/50 dead even amount of time each and child support was waived in 2003. Now after all this time (7yrs of the child's "mother" not working) she is filing for CS. The court will grant her said support even though we have put him through private school we have cared for him and have been financially responsible on our time All because she doesn't have income!! She doesn't have income because she chooses not to have income! She was awarded $450 a month in a separate CS case with Baby daddy #2 for sitting home on her butt and Daddy #3 will be next I am sure! Unreal how my husband is financially responsible for him for our 182.5 days AND now on her 182.5 days but she is NOT!! How is that fair to us how is it fair to my stepson who is being taught you can sit on your butt have a bunch of kids with different guys not work collect CS foodstamps medical etc?? He now has to live a less fortunate life at BOTH houses since half of what we would normally use to give him the BEST at our house is being taken and given to his mother who we all know will use on hair nails cigs etc for herself maybe an occasionally outfit for him. The GOV pays for his food The gov pays for his cell phone the gov pays her Cash assistance!! We pay his medical we pay his schooling!! Beyond frustrated with the system!
I just paid off welfare my audit amount was 97,000.00$ I got garnished for 250,000.00$ n I'll never get the agonizing years back they " the welfare " over charged me 153,000.00$ I took the case to court n the case got throw out because I didn't live in Fresno California all in all the destruction the welfare cussed on me from there extortion of my finances is in my future ... Welfare you are pigs and my kids never tasted the money you took from me and now they hate me becuase they think I never sent them anything all these 22 years ..... I did but the welfare took it. Welfare you are pigs at the working mans expance and the children you say it's for the children you are liers . PIGS......
This is very true.
I have 50% joint custody. I pay all cell phone bills, medical bills, extra curricular costs. My ex quit her job and had another kid, with a different guy, and filed for assistance. Then the state of MN scheduled a hearing and is now taking $600 from my income and giving it to her. So, instead of being able to make payments so my kids can get braces, mom gets to buy a new coach purse or whatever else her greedy little heart desires. The system is broke, hopefully someone has the courage to address it.
"Stop Bichin"... Start Marching !

No wonder nobody gives a @#$% what we think.

We are INVISIBLE to the powers that be.

Last I checked, some of the mothers getting support don't give a #&+@ you can't pay your bills. In fact she's living better than you are.

We ought to man up and show up and &*%$ these blogs and do something. Yeah... I said it !
If this country believes that families are suffering because of the weak families then maybe laws need to pass to defend good fathers.
Their are gold Fathers! I'm one oof them.
This country needs to call bald Fathers and empower them to have the freedom to care for their child/ dren.
Child support laws are unconstitutional.
There is alot of abuse being done thru this so called child support system. I paid money all the time to my ex to go towards my children even before I went to court to start paying child support I dont make very much money at all and I work hard amd always try to get my boys everything they need amd I go without. After pestering me that I didnt give her enough money even when it was all I had nothing was good enough to her she threatend me of not getting to see my kids and with taking me to court for child support. She gets almost half my check every payday I can hardly buy food or anything I cant afford to fix my car so I walk to work just to pay her. Mothers have all the rights she knows she has the upper hand and its happening to fathers every where. Im dissapointed in the unfairness of this system today it is onesided theres no looking at the situation just hand your money over is what its about.
my child support payments have been set way past what i can afford and my exwife has always worked because of this i have been put in arrears that will take the rest of my life to pay off.
Majority of Non Custodial Parents are men/ fathers with a small percentage being women. Most courts automatically grant full custody to the Woman, which is unfair. Child support has morphed into a Cash Cow where Custodial Parents, or Women use the system as a form revenge against their Jilted Ex Husbands/ Boyfriends etc. In my opinion, Both Parents should pay Child Support. The Custodial Parent should have to live by the exact same set of rules, they should have pay garnished per paycheck if they work, to show that their amount of support has been paid toward the child. Receipts should be certified and proved monthly for all Child Support money received. The Non Custodial Parent should automatically be entitled to Tax Credit for child, in a even/ odd stipulation.
In Ohio, getting by on an hourly paycheck is a miracle. Rent is high, insurance is mandatory, and wages are stagnant. Paying child support on two kids here means half of your weekly pay is taken. 10 dollars an hour after C.S. and taxes equals around 170 a week IF i never miss a day. Let's say I miss a couple days, thats a 100 dollar paycheck with 150 dollars in deductions. And come tax time the IRS says I make around 20,000 a year. In reality I bring home less than 10,000. Well my car has 200000 miles on it and soon I won't be able to fix its problems. If I can't get to work to pay c.s. the result will be license suspension followed by jail time. This is not the american dream I heard about.
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Who has the right when all are created equal to draw anything off of anyone. Just because some think the right thing to do is pay money to a ex wife or husband who has divorced them and split their happy home up. Give support to a parent who refuses the other parent to see the child. In fact Damn anyone who thinks something and those thoughts are used to imprison someone else into your idea of thinking what is right, moral, or just. I ask why should a parent who needs support get the child, does not that show the one asking for support lacking! This is tyranny and nothing more. I choose for my son not no state that approves homosexual marriage and bus seats for blacks when a father is denied the same right as his ex wife! To hell with you!
My ex has lied to the Texas Office of The Attorney Generals office, and did not let them know that she was collecting my benefits that since she first started receiving them in 2012 have increased 5 times, and collected almost 3 times over what she was supposed to get. Laws need changing, the system is broken.
Child support is still being taken out even though my children are grown. It is supposedly still in arrears. And yet I was told before I was caught up, and yet they still take from me. And they will be taking my tax refund as well. My ex husband got the children through a pay off when they were little, and I was made out to be the bad one. And here he was the child abuser and molester. He still got away with everything. I should not be having to dish out money to a lie that has gone on all these years.
Child support is still being taken out even though my children are grown. It is supposedly still in arrears. And yet I was told before I was caught up, and yet they still take from me. And they will be taking my tax refund as well. My ex husband got the children through a pay off when they were little, and I was made out to be the bad one. And here he was the child abuser and molester. He still got away with everything. I should not be having to dish out money to a lie that has gone on all these years.
Child support is still being taken out even though my children are grown. It is supposedly still in arrears. And yet I was told before I was caught up, and yet they still take from me. And they will be taking my tax refund as well. My ex husband got the children through a pay off when they were little, and I was made out to be the bad one. And here he was the child abuser and molester. He still got away with everything. I should not be having to dish out money to a lie that has gone on all these years.
There should not be interest on arrearages owed the government is not loaning us our children. Or should I say our children are not loans to fathers. Courts should take into consideration home expenses as well such as Mortgage whether in fathers name or not and if not with proof of paper trail of payment to mortgage payments as well as expenses for vehicle and children not under child support hat are biological. El Paso, TX
I am married to a wonderful man who's been through the struggle of trying to survive each and every day while child support is being taken out of his check every month. He's tried to make a better life for himself by going back to school and getting a better job but still he's not where he would like to be financially. He works time and a half as much as he's able at his job trying to make a dent in his pay check but it doesn't make much of a difference. He's a good father and trying to be the best provider for his family but is having difficulties doing so. He sees his children often and their relationship is very special. He's tried to claim taxes but is unsuccessful. He has dreams and goals that he would like to accomplish but can't but women could travel, get assistance from the government, get very affordable housing and work extra or not at all and still get child support but the man can barely do these things and really doesn't get the same benefits. Why can't he get help for taking care of the kids when he has them? The law isn't fair to hard working good fathers out there. Women can quit their jobs but if a man loses his job or tries to find something better, he could be thrown in jail if he's not on his feet and that money isn't coming in. These women can scream that she didn't get her check or it's not enough because she's using it for her hair, utilities etc which is what a job is suppose to provide. Who's listening to the men's concerns. The mate of this struggling man is also dealing with this stressful issue because we see what there love one is going through and sometimes, we have to hold down the household alone. I personally am a hard working woman who's very educated and tries to make ends meet every day and these women out here sitting on their thumbs not doing anything to better themselves and becoming a better role model for their children makes good women like me look very bad. The government needs to stop given handouts to any woman just because she has kids. An investigation needs to be looked into when a women goes to the child support office and says, I need him in child support. Ask them why because there are some situation that a woman asks for child support to punish the man because they can even when he's a good father. See how those men are living and put yourself in these good man shoes and ask yourself, could I live on less then $400.00 to $500.00 per check to make ends meet. Think about it and please change the system because all men are not dead beats and we all want to live the American dream. Thank you
There should not be interest on arrearages owed the government is not loaning us our children. Or should I say our children are not loans to fathers. Courts should take into consideration home expenses as well such as Mortgage whether in fathers name or not and if not with proof of paper trail of payment to mortgage payments as well as expenses for vehicle and children not under child support hat are biological. El Paso, TX
There should not be interest on arrearages owed the government is not loaning us our children. Or should I say our children are not loans to fathers. Courts should take into consideration home expenses as well such as Mortgage whether in fathers name or not and if not with proof of paper trail of payment to mortgage payments as well as expenses for vehicle and children not under child support hat are biological. El Paso, TX
I dont think a father my self supports his child buys all of his clothes coats and has him 4 days out of seven should have to b on child support since she claims she only did it so she can keep her housing food stamps and cash assistance pleas help with this if she dont wanna work y cant he b with me
It's sad really after reading All these posts that the flawed system hadn't caught up with the times, I have a decent job bringing in $800 a week gross but after insurance which I'm having to pay and child support I'm left with $294. Who really can live off that???. I'm hoping this will help correct the issues with the system but as usual will not hold my breath.
It is sad that a father can be expected to live on 25% of his gross weekly pay. It is also sad that his new wife should be expected to provide food, shelter, and more ALONE because the child's father is paying so much in support that he cannot provide for himself, a child that he barely sees, AND his new family. What is more, watching the child's mother quit her job, collect child support, and then complain that she is simply not receiving enough is extremely frustrating and honestly downright infuriating. The current system rewards mothers for popping out kids and manipulating the system, but punishes fathers, even if they try to stay involved in their kids' lives. What needs to happen is that mothers should be REQUIRED to keep a job and provide HALF the support, and visitation should be 50/50. Children deserve to have BOTH parents in their lives, not be used as a pawn for the mother to use for more money. CHANGE THE SYSTEM NOW!
I make $9/hr and work roughly 37/hr a week. Child support takes $140/2 weeks which leaves me with like $339 every 2 weeks. That's less then $700 a month. Who can live off less then $700 a month? I can afford to get my own place to live. I will be 35 on February 3rd of this year and I sleep on my fathers couch. I'm not saying I shouldn't payed child support however, the woman I pay support to is engaged and she lives in a new house and there is 2 incomes in her house. And I suffer. Makes no sense. I also believe child support shouldn't be able to take my federal taxes.
“In the best interest of the child”, child support laws are only about the money not about the child’s best interest. Government and enforcement laws and tactic are only designed to collect money. There is no penalty for child support abusers who know how to work loop holes in laws for financial gain.

Child support laws are designed as enablers for the parent receiving the support. Free money used however with no conditions or enforcement of its use.

I have been priced out of being a good father from the current child support system.

Change the laws NOW!!!!!!!
The family court system is the absolute worst one of them all. I have absolutely no faith or trust in it whatsoever. This is definitely a broken system that needs to be fixed immediately. There are way too many great dads out there who are being punished when they shouldn't be. The system causes good dads to become dead beat dads because the system beats the dads into the ground. It's sickening!
Good Dads are being punished while Women are taking advantage of a bias system . Completely Unfair. The system is broken!!
I have 2 support cases in 2 different States.one in piticular,I was served child support papers before the fact of no DNA test on top of that, the mother of the childs girlfriend signed the birth certificate. So i went on to Pay the support while the mother sat back and collected welfare and didnt work and smoked weed and chilled out. The other child support case for my eldest daughter. The mother works for the state and makes twice more than i do. Has 3 cars and 2 other kids.And i still pay out . Hell I can barely eat at times. Child ssupport laws are a ****ed and Bias law.
New york state allow a 18 year old the right to drive
The right to smoke but still consider that young adult that can collect child support.
All these damn lying*****politicians should be fired!
New york state allow a 18 year old the right to drive
The right to smoke but still consider that young adult that can collect child support.
All these damn lying*****politicians should be fired!
Child support laws are unfair and lopsided.
It is wrong for the court's to ignore a man's constitutional rites as a human being a person as the the law says we are
I have several children that I support and 3 are over the age of 18 how do I change that.
Everyone. Please copy and paste this link and follow the directions! Also, forward this to parent and non parent individuals. We need this to happen for a change!! https://nationalparentsorganization.org/about-npo/npo-news/22158-newsletter-january-22nd
This whole child support scam needs to be either be reconfigured or just put to rest and not just for the lazy deadbeats that use the child support system to collect easy money. Then hinder the fathers from seeing there kids.

Then on top of that forced to pay medical payments as well.

Then when you go to your local child support office. You get mean mugged, labeled a monster to society because your name is in the court system. Along with no help whatsoever. Other then just here's a piece of paper. Having you run all over LA trying to get ahead.

Those support offices are worse then car dealerships. They don't wanna be bothered by anyone refuse to answer logical questions.
Just try to find ways how to take everything you got money wise.

While i think there sole purpose is to protect the deadbeats that file for that bs. And the other party gets the whatever treatment. And screwed over for many years until their kid turns 18.

All in all totally unfair to dudes mainly or anyone that has gotten there name in there states system over some childish bs.

Obama. Stop worrying about overseas and other foreign countries. There's alot of help here in America that needs to be done.

And allowing deadbeat mothers to file for this bs. Shouldn't be one of them.

Gotta be a change.
I would add one several things to that are unfair to a man after being in a 7year relationship on cristmas. My girlfriend wich i have to kids with decides to leave out the blue 3weeks later my bday pass nothing n now i gotta get use to seeing my kids 1 2 a week if im lucky working for dem all dis year an just because their mother wakes up on a day like cristamas n decides to go on n leave u dat has has bin working waitin for the income tax to try to do sumthing good for ur kids and now because of the law im never gonna get to claim income tax on my children why is that my biggest mistake was being grumpy dats it now for sum girl dat is not committed my children have too suffer not to see their father theirs alot of pregnant girls with no father alot of young men in gangs i dnt want to b in dat catagorie but if da law just protects womens rights were are da father rights were are da rights of the children to see their father just because mom looks sum were else dads lives can b destroyd for ever if laws make it easier for women to get wat ever dey want have kids give up on relationships put dad father dat has been a good husband not by law but as acommitment. Made by both to take care of the children but if it its easy to ask for watever dey want in court dell just use da system n dey noe it FAIRNESS FOR THE CHILDREN
I wish I knew how bad it could be. I'm not going to feed to any trolls, but for the Veterans' sake, this needs to change.
So frustrated with the entire system. Why does the noncustodial parent that makes more money get penalized for making more money? Why should the non custodial parent have to pay to make up the difference? Who writes these things? This isn't about support of the child this is nothing more than making sure one person doesn't have more than the other, and thats not fair. Each parent should have to provide a home for the child without the assistant of the other parent. it does not cost anyone $1200 a month to raise a 4 year old. Guidelines are not fair and clearly not in favor of the non-custodial parent. They need change the calculations. Its ridiculous.
Its not only men who pay child support, women also pays child support and gets hit hard with the unfair child support laws.
This is my second time here and I'm 100% for getting something done about the injustice that is being done to men and women by politicians,courts and judges by any means and it needs to happen soon we need to get the word out to more people cause there has to be more then around 19000 people going through this crap!
I think its unfair to get locked up we should be able to do community service the economy in Greenville SC is poor with unemployment. Its hard for someone to get a job we need help too
My kids stay at my house roughly 45% of the time, which means I have to provide the same living conditions for my children that my ex does. How is it that I have to pay my ex-wife (who chose to leave me because she was bored and felt she didn't date enough prior to marriage) more than $1800/mo after taxes? I see my kids way more than 50% of the days in the calendar due to my involvement in sports and other activities. Why is there not even a sliding scale? I provide at BOTH houses, but unfortunately I provide a lot more at her house. Who's kidding who? Does it really add $1810/mo more of a burden on her living expenses by having kids? That's a ridiculous, unfair amount, and it doesn't include things like health care costs. I can't get ahead.
I hope this comes to be. I have brothers caught in this outdated and one sided Child Support system. These laws right along with receiving Food Stamps need to be revised. Food stamp spending/charges should be tracked somehow bcz there's no way all these KIDS are receiving the benefits but still going to school hungry. Who is reaping what benefit?¿ ............And Lawrence from Lithonia *I have family there* I'll be praying for you and I will continue to support this "movement" for men like you!
My kids mom has 6 kids 4 not mine , she just collects government assistance , doesnt work. She just had kid after kid and cant take care of them but wants more child support from me. Shes getting tax money back for 6 kids, having other people clain the kids she cant put on her tax return. These laws have to change. I asked for shared custody, she didnt agree so its on her. Always makin excuses that the man doesnt want to be in thier childs life. These bitter ladies are all about money.

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